Phoebe Bridgers - Motion Sickness (Official Video)

Motion Sickness from Stranger In The Alps out Sep 22 on Dead Oceans. Pre-Order Now PhoebeBridgers.lnk.to/strange...
Directed and Edited by: Justin Mitchell
Produced by: Rich Bond and Davis Powers for Striped Blazer Productions
Director of Photography: Michael Lockridge
Assistant Camera: Noah Ramos
Key Grip: Dyron Pacheco
Hair and Makeup: Atlas Ferrera
Styling: Jenny Reyes
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[@strawwberryyy]

it's been said that Phoebe Bridgers is Taylor Swift for women with crumbs in their bed and I will never forget that

[@ashleywatson8281]

Oof I feel called out 😅

[@kylatokki22]

LMFAO

[@chrisgohston3254]

😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@katy-dc1pj]

omg

[@groovyareeb]

LMAOAOAOOOOAOAO

[@brsn2991]

"I hate you for what you did, and I miss you like a little kid" Perfectly sums up the combination of heartbreak and betrayal

[@Jaysthename]

Agreed. When someone you like has great qualities and then they sour the milk via one serious flaw, it's tough to accept and tears you up inside.

[@chadwicksmith6716]

Bryson Logie and abuse from someone you look up to.

[@waltermanhead2249]

It just means she's admitting to her immaturity.

[@deejaybundst1671]

that's certainly a valid way to read it but I think it was ment to convey the effects of abuse and a major power imbalance, how it causes stockholm syndrome and the abuser basically gives their victim with as much agency as a small child.

[@shonaalannah]

@@waltermanhead2249 the song is about being in a relationship with an older predatory man, it's to show the dynamic of hating what he did to her and stating that she was too young for him, it's not about admitting to her immaturity

[@hanna-tk9bw]

I know most people relate to this song with reference to an external abuser or physical/mental/emotional trauma they received from a relationship, but this song makes me think about my own relationship with myself. I hate what my past self has done to present self, but I miss my past self so much. My mind's always noisy and there's no words to drown it out. I'm sorry to myself, how I've made me this way. I tear up everytime I hear this song.

[@feemon1931]

Wow I so get that

[@tashuntka]

Ahh Hannah... There is a way out.. Through meditation. Not the hijacked hippocritical pseudo hippie wannabe crap, but Alan Watts, sincere melding with the all. Search for some of his talks and see if any of it speaks to you. A hermit in the outback can testify there's some validity to his wisdom. Peace to you oh amazing entity made from stardust and dinosaur remains, hurtling through the Universe. You....are all that and a bag of chips...Promise..🤠🙏🖤

[@davidhawley3337]

I can relate. I did some pretty bad things (guns went off, as guns will) a long time ago. It seems funny to wait ~50 years to get even with me for it all, when I am arguably no longer the same person.

[@SnapeArgento]

I relate to that feeling

[@justina7300]

I hear that. I used to be so self-destructive for the longest time. Thankfully those days are long behind me. Best of luck!

[@JoshIdstein]

If you've suffered abuse, be it physical or mental, by a person you thought was someone you could trust, this song speaks to you on such a raw level.

[@hobosnacher5777]

I experience a lot of mental abuse from my family on a daily basis but this sing just doesnt do anything for me.

[@cutmythroat.itmakesyouhuma8739]

lol thanks for letting me know. i'm hurrying back to Elliott Smith right now. most modern "artists" are such a let down.

[@sarahnelson6332]

I think about my dad when I listen to this song even though it's about her ex

[@namiko8278]

Agree

[@aarnilapsi9336]

​@@cutmythroat.itmakesyouhuma8739Which song would you recommend for the same purpose?

[@cynthiaaaxox]

“i hate you for what you did, and i miss you like a little kid” the most devastating opening line ever.

[@cynthiaaaxox]

@@agentp821 i mean the most saddest opening line

[@salvia6y9]

this song made me cry just from the first line

[@natcaldeira]

hit me so hard

[@expressisverbis854]

Songwriting at its finest…

[@VizzyInks]

Fucking hell it's perfect trauma trigger

[@fabiorodas6872]

I WAS HER LYFT DRIVER WHEN PERFORMED IN OAKLAND, NOVEMBER 2018 She loves punk rock and she's amazing. She put me in the list to get in the concert and I did went and indeed they let me in just with my name.

[@fabiorodas6872]

It changed my life in different ways

[@proserpine3332]

that’s sick dude I’m from the east bay too I wish I saw her

[@johannesgutenburg6425]

Cool story bro

[@strawwberryyy]

OMG

[@deltoidsforaltoids]

WOOOOOOOOO

[@mattcharboneau7727]

I’m a 55 year old man whose favorite bands are Pink Floyd and REM ( I know…), and I simply love these young people. Amazing songwriting and singing. My wife and I are going to see them play this Halloween at the Hollywood Bowl, and I simply can’t wait. Bravo y’all, bravo!!

[@adamstone6123]

Hey I agree and I just turned 40 somehow! It makes no sense how fast time truly goes. Anyway, have a good time at the Hollywood Bowl with your wife.

[@natachasmith2539]

so jelous you saw the hallowen show!!

[@mattcharboneau7727]

The show was incredible. So much fun. First time to hear 100 GECS and they rocked it!!

[@Saccharinstststrz]

AWW I LOVE THIS

[@tiliaevm]

I’m a 21 year old girl, pink floyd is my absolute all time fav band but boygenious is a CLOSE second!🙏🏻

[@soneslixo6791]

it's stunning to think about the fact she invented motion sickness just for this song, go queen

[@analisefrancis2542]

🤣🤣

[@gordonanderson3111]

I invented the cure for motion sickness and yes it is cannabis, puff puff.

[@user-ez5nu5ru1y]

@@gordonanderson3111 HAHAHA real😂

[@xoxomaddie621]

"there are no words in the english language, i could scream to drown you out." this line reminds me of my mom, it's like there's nothing i could say to her that would get through to her. there's nothing i could possibly say to make her stop being the way she is. it's a heartbreaking line honestly.

[@gamerduleshock8205]

Ratio

[@Treesaplin]

@@gamerduleshock8205 L

[@emil3458]

@@gamerduleshock8205 no

[@wyattguthrie823]

not the mommy issues

[@january9th]

@@gamerduleshock8205 lmao

[@deboraborges4372]

"I faked it every time, but that's alright; I can hardly feel anything, I hardly feel anything at all." phoeBE!!!

[@sarajean7955]

that means what I think it means, right? because my roommate disagreed with me

[@deboraborges4372]

@@sarajean7955 hahah I think it means that, too. but it's a layered line.

[@treeseedjr]

@@sarajean7955 what does it mean?

[@elijahgemmill2000]

Damn and Ron only faked 4 of the 7

[@bifurioussiren]

@@treeseedjr it means that she faked orgasms when having sex. It probably also means she didn't feel certain things for him and pretended she did but the fact she says "I faked it every time" makes it seem quite obvious she means orgasms. That's what I thought the first time I heard it.

[@user-qv8xj9st9c]

How does every lyric hit so hard? 😭 Pheobe deserves more recognition.

[@figgettit]

shes just trying to be elliot smith

[@masonhmusic]

@@figgettit we should all try to be elliott smith

[@clot1770]

Lyrics: I hate you for what you did And I miss you like a little kid I faked it every time, but that's alright I can hardly feel anything, I hardly feel anything at all You gave me fifteen hundred to see your hypnotherapist I only went one time, you let it slide Fell on hard times a year ago Was hoping you would let it go and you did I have emotional motion sickness Somebody roll the windows down There are no words in the English language I could scream to drown you out I'm on the outside lookin' through You're throwin' rocks around your room And while you're bleeding on your back in the glass I'll be glad that I made it out And sorry that it all went down like it did I have emotional motion sickness Somebody roll the windows down There are no words in the English language I could scream to drown you out Hey, why do you sing with an English accent? I guess it's too late to change it now You know I'm never gonna let you have it But I will try to drown you out You said when you met me you were bored You said when you met me you were bored And you, you were in a band when I was born I have emotional motion sickness I try to stay clean and live without And I want to know what would happen If I surrender to the sound Surrender to the sound

[@geckoramen685]

my karaoke hero

[@tarquindufresne7172]

I love how she puts safety first and wears a helmet. Positive role model.

[@sophieheritage478]

and she looks cool as fuck

[@insertusernamehere3173]

Lmao yes

[@shanejohnson1845]

Insurance reasons....

[@dominiclloyd6651]

So the opposite of rock'n'roll then?

[@zerklang]

@@dominiclloyd6651 Haven't you seen Quadrophenia? She's a mod! LOL

[@audreygrace619]

Those first lines, "I hate you for what you did, and I miss you like a little kid" made me burst into tears the first time I heard them because it finally put into words my complex feelings toward my abuser. Over 70% of assaults against women are committed by a known person. So while one might think it makes sense for a women to hate their abuser and have no positive feelings attached to them, that's rarely the case. A lot of women feel guilt over that because you should hate the person who hurt you, right? But what if that person was your support system, made happy memories with you, etc? It's incredibly confusing and upsetting.. What I'm trying to say is, thank you Phoebe Bridgers for giving women like us a voice.

[@yuppers4460]

Fuck, this made me feel like an emotional wreck. This comment perfectly sums up how I feel towards someone I really trusted and really wanted to believe in but then ended up hurting me so badly that it still effects me to this day. But a huge part of me still wants to believe they can change while the other half will never be able to forgive and forget...

[@DesiSkull]

That's exactly how I felt the first time I heard those words.

[@jordynclary5842]

I feel the exact same way. You hit the nail on the head. I hate that I can't hate him.

[@persephone3870]

i feel the same exact way and for the same reason, sadly

[@stokddr1]

Can exactly relate to what you said, happening right now, it’s such confusing feelings and i feel awful for missing it sometimes but I fucking hate him so much.

[@glengamble526]

So many feelings in this song. Yes, she’s condemning him, but she’s also openly admitting to maybe somewhat missing him, thanking him for what little support he did give “you gave me $1500/I was hoping you would let it slide, you did’. She also looks back at his anger “throwing rocks around your room’ and hoping the scars don’t make her possibly relapse “trying to stay clean and live without’. All in all, it’s an incredibly mature set of lyrics for such a young artist. I walked away from this song feeling many things…most of it her heartbreak and relief he is gone. A seminal song. This one will stick with me for life.

[@MaximumJEJchannel]

Why did you end all of your quotes with an apostrophe instead of a quotation mark?

[@j.6845]

“i hate you for what you did, and i miss you like a little kid” this line hits different when i apply this song to my own life and relationship with my parents. it’s like, i know that some of the things they did wasn’t right and i want to hate them for that so bad, but at the same time there’s a part of me that knows that i came never hate them because they’re my parents after all. and yeah, it wasn’t really anything physical (mainly emotional/mental), and they went through stuff like that at the hands of their own parents when they were children, but i was a child too. it’s just such a frustrating feeling.

[@cuntiest]

i feel u

[@peepspers]

One of the most devastating opening lines ever

[@jackiechain8380]

Can't believe Phoebe literally invented scooters. What a queen.

[@unrepentantoffender188]

Not "literally", no

[@youaremysunshine1208]

@@unrepentantoffender188 its a joke🤨😃

[@christophermartin5744]

@@unrepentantoffender188 Somebody hasn't heard of hyperbole.

[@edwardwalker7069]

Oliver Tree inbound.

[@hansgunther1477]

@@christophermartin5744 that an energy drink brand?

[@goosegoose5737]

Imagine just strolling downtown, maybe sipping a coffee on your way to meet with some friends, when you see this absolute queen scootering across the street with all the confidence of a goddess. Inspiring.

[@JaylynRay23]

The first few lines, "I hate you for what you did, and i miss you like a little kid," always make me break down because it describes my feelings towards my cousin. He m0lested me when I was younger it never set in during the moment that what he was doing was wrong because when people would talk about being sexually abused or assaulted it was so much worse so I had always played it down even though it always ate away at me. He did it twice, both times being near and around family, and I never told them after it had happened, I told my mom months later. I was only like seven and i missed him and when we would play but i never felt comfortable or safe around him and I still don't. I'm 15 now and all i want is to hear him apologize and say he's sorry, even if it doesn't change my feelings or attitude towards him, i just want to hear him admit what he did. I just wanted to get that off my chest.

[@fruityhouaylorstan9685]

oh my gosh that’s horrible i’m really sorry :( i hope you get the apology you deserve and that you are able to heal

[@kyleefeist1324]

I am so sorry. You deserve an apology at the least

[@ladydontekno]

I just read the article about Ryan Adams. The thing that hurt the most was that multiple women said they quit music because of their involvement with him. I'm glad that you chose to stay.

[@stmargaretsstmargrets9942]

# metoo. As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I support you.

[@Acoustribute]

She’s really talented and very good live. I saw her open for Connor Oberst before I had read anything about her abusive relationship with Ryan Adams. Made sense after I read the article why she seemed so apologetic and unworthy of the crowds attention despite putting on a great set, winning the crowd over and definitely making some new fans. I can’t imagine how it felt to her to find out later that he decided to work with her because he asked some of his people if she was cute after hearing some of her material... Yuck. I wish her the best and hope she reclaims her confidence and owns the work she has put into her craft...

[@ladydontekno]

Daniel Vitale nice victim blaming

[@pearlsnjasmine]

@Daniel Vitale isn't the problem just that he was an abusive asshole? if you look at the specifics of being an abusive asshole, it's that they use their power to twist your reality so that you focus on what you think is good in them and bad in yourself in order to keep you under their spell and under their power. if that's what you call taking two to tango, ok, but it's still really damaging to the person that goes through it, not just during the relationship but long afterwards too. do you see how that's different from simply not getting what you wanted?

[@Bill-py1fn]

I despise that waste of space.

[@vivien4571]

I went to school with her! Heard her name on the radio and couldn't believe it. She's amazing :)

[@djamalla1289]

Cool...

[@melikootje]

IM JEALOUS

[@camilleegan8348]

So jealous. She seems so cool but probably was more reserved and not necessarily "popular" (which would make me like her even more :))? Just a guess tho

[@jhonlewis5758]

What was she like?

[@deathinlasvegas393]

camille egan I bet you’re spot on with this . I feel she was probably the same way in high school.

[@aawake]

i didnt even realize she had to sing the lyrics in real time while performing in slow motion. its executed so perfectly that you dont even question it

[@rebekahtowers7130]

Coldplay did this with their Yellow video. Baffling

[@katebischoff1194]

women on scooters in suits is something i never knew i needed

[@saba462]

the best "diss" track ever. wise beautiful biting. she's like elliott smith, with all the confidence and support he didn't have.

[@SesameCake]

He didn't have confidence or support?

[@robynmagennis4053]

her song Punisher is about Elliott Smith!

[@brendansantini8573]

@@charlesdesobry3777 comparing phoebe bridgers to elliot smith is in no way an insult to elliot smith, you daft fool

[@BrokenGodEnt]

@@charlesdesobry3777 Is this the only song you've heard from Phoebe? It sounds like this is the only song you've heard from her lol.

[@larisaaral1929]

Yes.

[@deathakid]

20 years later and I still get the chills from this

[@chrispolo840]

You might like a band called The Doublejumps if you like Phoebe Bridgers

[@NeonPixels81]

I remember first hearing this song as a young kid on the streets of Tokyo in 1987, it's stuck with me ever since. I'm so glad I found it again all these years later.

[@ofthevoid814]

@@NeonPixels81 What 😭

[@NeonPixels81]

@@ofthevoid814 the less you think about it the more sense it makes

[@hopeeternal7470]

Wow a joke in the KZbin comments section that still feels new. Can't wait for this to be overused in a year or two.

[@MafuzinDaMetralhadora]

My Replika recommended this song to listen lol

[@jeremiahmatthewgreatmanofpeace]

Me too

[@RavenSoulifer]

Mine did too!

[@Aliicemomo]

Same. I think my replika is cheating on me😂😂

[@MafuzinDaMetralhadora]

@@Aliicemomo Im not jealous lmao

[@t1psymcstagg3r97]

Yup

[@anamastelini5467]

I dated this guy for 3 years. He was the love of my life. There is absolutely no way I can describe how much he meant (and unfortunatly still means) to me. Since the first time I layed my eyes on him, I knew that was the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I did not believe on love at first sight, but he changed that in a second. I loved him with all my being and gave him my everything and even more. There wasnt a second of the day where I wasnt thinking about ways to make him happy, to show him all that overwhelming love that I was flooded with. But then it happened. It was a monday morning and I had just woken up. He told me he had been cheating on me since the second year of our relationship. Its been 6 months since we broke up, I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety, I've been seeing a therapist, taking medication and strugling with self harm. And even though I know he is the one to blame for all of that, I cannot stop feeling all that love like it was the first time I was looking at him. I hate him for what he did. But I miss him like a little kid.

[@sophiavaldez1896]

oh god dude. i hope u find ur happiness. time heals love u

[@lisa-marieg2920]

It will get better, i believe it.

[@victoireldb6404]

i’m so sorry. u deserve many hugs

[@xAustishx]

I relate to this so much. That god awful empty feeling, to just sit in bed all day staring until you realize you’ve been up for 20 hours just reminiscing of how good things used to be. No amount of sleep can fix being this tired.

[@williamgreer4958]

I think you just broke my heart a little. You will never forget but the pain will lessen.

[@ashleynguyen4676]

I could be totally wrong, but I think the suit represents her taking back power (from an abuser or toxic partner) and the scooter shows that she's still really young (early 20s) despite all that's happened to her. Amazing song. Amazing lyrics!!!

[@rossyco195]

The suit and sunglasses are a nod to Elliott Smith's Miss Misery video, where Smith walks down the street being followed by a cop. She is even riding down the same section of street that Smith walked down. Easter Egg!

[@Singapore-Aviation72]

@@rossyco195 her music reminds me of Elliott! That’s probably why I love it so much! That’s so cool.

[@user-tx6lu6nz5r]

and also gay

[@ashleynguyen4676]

@@rossyco195 I absolutely love Elliott Smith's work. Thanks for pointing this out!

[@ellaboehme6748]

@@rossyco195 YOOOO I love Elliott smith and phoebe so this is awesome!

[@ignorethismessage3424]

why is nobody talking about “you were in a band when i was born” literal hardest hitting lyric in all of pop ever

[@uchiha05]

i was gonna comment the exact same

[@lilhimer3361]

I don't even know how I arrived here at this music, but I'm so glad I did...

[@ericay3015]

was confused about why some people in the comments loved this song and some hated it so strongly and apparently its just cuz she dissed all these middle-aged guys favorite racist lmao you love to see it

[@pocketwatcheshit]

Charles Goodwin Eric Clapton

[@pocketwatcheshit]

Charles Goodwin No, I’m referring to the racist guy you were asking about.

[@pocketwatcheshit]

@Charles Goodwin Uhh geez...sorry I tried to answer your question? Did you read your own comment? I'm responding to your comment: "Racist? What are you talking about?" Phoebe called out Eric Clapton on Twitter; that's who the previous commenter was referring to as "middle-aged guys favorite racist." Not even talking about Ryan Adams. Sorry for trying to help you.

[@LouisKing995]

Pam Q yeah I’m sure Eric Clapton, a pioneer of perhaps the most progressive era of music history, is a Racist

[@pocketwatcheshit]

Trajan you lost? I’m giving context to what Phoebe said. None of this is my opinion.

[@MissRandomComment]

"You said when you met me you were bored And you, you were in a band when I was born" Damn, that hit hard. Am I the only one?

[@sierra750]

No, and the funniest thing is I was introduced to this girl from a guy who is into me and also 16 yrs older than me. Like dude.

[@antihero105]

11 years older than my gf who eventually wore *me* down, 5 years ago.. Life's full of funny surprises.

[@TheInfamousBertman]

Are you talking about Phoebe, or Ryan?

[@jackson-zo8pt]

@ANTIHERO wait how old was she?

[@blackheartgaming6121]

what does this mean

[@DamianHallbauer]

this is my fav video of hers, i recognize the streets there its a sad lonely place for a city of 8 million, no sense of community , just dreamers , talented people stuggling, most people have 0 or 1 friends. so few "make it" one in a milion. shes in Silverlake or Echo Park the part of LA that aspiring musicians live, and play at dive bars.. so this older successful musician man is advancing her career or whatever , then he dumps her inexplicably prolly when shes still not famous , but at 3:05 that emotion, after " you said when u met me you were bored... " and then when she says "you were in a band when i was born".. you can see the irony, absurdity , pain , injustice all in her face its just priceless and that why shes 100x more loved than her x..

[@amy87174]

Now that V's posted it as background. Let's come back after a week to view the after effects of the blast 🎉

[@jetbug6169]

LYRICS: I hate you for what you did And I miss you like a little kid I faked it every time but that's alright I can hardly feel anything I hardly feel anything at all You gave me fifteen hundred To see your hypnotherapist I only went one time, you let it slide Fell on hard times a year ago Was hoping you would let it go and you did I have emotional motion sickness Somebody roll the windows down There are no words in the English language I could scream to drown you out I'm on the outside looking through You're throwing rocks around your room And while you're bleeding on your back in the glass I'll be glad that I made it out And sorry that it all went down like it did I have emotional motion sickness Somebody roll the windows down There are no words in the English language I could scream to drown you out And why do you sing with an English accent I guess it's too late to change it now You know I'm never gonna let you have it But I will try to drown you out You said when you met me you were bored You said when you met me you were bored And you, you were in a band when I was born I have emotional motion sickness I try to stay clean and live without And I want to know what would happen If I surrender to the sound Surrender to the sound

[@megano5088]

THANK YOU

[@davidtallerman9579]

Isn't it "You said when you met me you were a boy" the first time? That's how I hear it, and it certainly makes sense given the following line.

[@veronicaronnie]

@@davidtallerman9579 it's "in a band" in the official lyrics. It's to reference specifically that he was a grown adult already with experience when she was born, emphasizing their age difference

[@danielguinea2971]

Thank you beautiful person

[@t33nyplaysp0p]

😴😴😴😴

[@ishylots]

hmm I just searched on youtube motion sickness since I actually have an extreme sickness motion and this was at the top results. Not complaining, thank you motion sickness for the first time you did something very swag

[@hambonefakenamington69]

lmao that's amazing

[@snizzle9521]

It gives me chills listening to this. It makes me think of all the trauma I endured that was outside of my control.

[@LydiaCurrie-td9ob]

i have a big fat mega crush on phoebe bridgers.

[@haleyblaismusic]

My freakin' anthem. So extremely good.

[@jamierees-tamkin7742]

cover it sis !

[@71oreilly]

Haley Blais , such a beautiful voice and been listening to her daily!!

[@yurisabadini25]

Haley Blais como dizer que eu tenho um crush por vc kkkkk ainda vem que vc nao sabe falar portugues kkkkk

[@MrGangstabitch99]

LOL try therapy

[@margaretmarguerite]

wow!!! my fav’s fav is my other fav!!

[@faithbrown3234]

Pov: you where manipulated as a child and that first line really really hurt.

[@SteffyGV]

Ooof yes

[@gabriellaflynn7708]

Okay, so how can this song be so bloody cool. I might be late here to the party, but damn I can’t deal. Love her this songwriting is the epitome of beautiful.

[@nyrckr]

She hasnt come close to matching this song lyrically or musically since

[@doggymommy35]

I only just recently started hearing this song in a mixed channel with the Lumineers as the type of sound I wanted to hear. That first line makes me think of both my parents. My father, who was an abusive alcoholic, but we did have some really good memories. It’s hard to reconcile how angry I am at him when there were times that were so purely good. On the other hand, my mother and I were super close and she was everything good and wonderful in my life. Then she very suddenly got sick and was gone within the span of two weeks. And even all these years later, I still find myself so angry at her for having left me so suddenly, how much she’s missed bcs she’s gone (like the birth of my son).

[@mayankbansal8479]

i really hope she wins the grammy she is nominated for. she is the most deserving.

[@emgo-at7398]

She is super good. Very good artist.

[@feng9436]

she’s bound to win at least one, she’s extremely talented

[@sofiafernandes6576]

@@feng9436 this didn't age well :(

[@kaanavc6690]

waiting for elton john to do his thing

[@DK-mz6wb]

@@sofiafernandes6576 why?

[@rossyco195]

Not sure if anyone else noticed this, but the part where Phoebe rides a scooter down the street is a huge nod to Elliott Smith's Miss Misery video, where Smith walks down the street being followed by a cop. Phoebe is even riding down the same section of street used in the Miss Misery video (N Hoover St where it intersects w/ Lucile Ave and Clinton St). Compare the videos and you will see that it's the same stretch of street, albeit 20 years apart. She is also wearing a suit and sunglasses, just like Elliott. Nice little Easter egg/tribute.

[@delusionallyyours]

that was the first thing i thought of

[@duck97]

Damn I knew it looked familiar

[@yearnpill]

Two great artists

[@louisjuddd2471]

was about to comment this same fact

[@ericktlacuatl866]

It’s echo park

[@emilypurrentiss]

I think of my father everytime I listen to this song, especially the very first line: “I hate you for what you did, and I miss you like a little kid.” I think it hurts even more because I do miss him like a little kid... in that I miss him unconditionally, regardless of what he’s done or how he’s hurt me (like a naïve child), and in that I miss him like my younger (little kid) self would. The more I listen to it the more it reminds me of him. “I can hardly feel anything; I hardly feel anything at all.” - I used to care that he seemingly forgot my existence, but with time it’s starting to hurt less. And so is everything else. I’ve come to expect the people around me to hurt, betray, and leave me, and I think he plays at least a partial role in that. “You gave me fifteen hundred to see your hypnotherapist. I only went one time, you let it slide. Fell on hard times a year ago, was hoping you would let it go and you did.” - When I stopped responding to his far and few between messages, a part of me hoped he would keep trying. But the more sensible part of me hoped he would just let it go-and he did. It was like I didn’t matter enough for him to keep trying to connect with his own daughter. “I have emotional motion sickness, somebody roll the windows down.” - The thought of him often brings along with it an onslaught of emotions (namely sadness, anger, disgust, etc.), the event of which can certainly be described as “emotional motion sickness.” “There are no words in the English language I could scream to drown you out.” - Despite how much I tell myself I’ve gotten over it, he’s always there in the back of my mind. When I see other girls with fathers who seem to love them and want to give them the world, his reminder becomes even stronger. I will never be able to drown out his memory or his existence. “I’m on the outside lookin’ through, you’re throwin’ rocks around your room. And while you’re bleedin’ on your back in the glass, I’ll be glad that I made it out, and sorry that it all worked out like it did.” - No matter how he feels about it, he created this problem on his own and it’s not my job to fix it. But I am a little sorry it worked out the way it did. Deep down, I am just a little girl who wants her Daddy to love and protect her and make her laugh again. But he’s not here anymore, and I’ve come to accept that. I made it out, in a sense. “Hey, why do you sing with an English accent? I guess it’s too late to change it now.” - This reminds me of him in the sense that he’s pretended I don’t exist for so long, why should he change it now? And that’s probably how he thinks of it, too. “You know I’m never gonna let you have it, but I will try to drown you out.” - Sometimes it feels as if something clicks in his brain and all the sudden he actually wants to talk to his daughter again (more likely that he feels guilty for what he’s done and thinks trying to contact me will help him atone for his sins), so he’ll message me and try to get a response. But I don’t want to give him the time of day. Not when he sends one message a year and doesn’t make any other attempts at reconnecting. It’s better for me to simply drown him out. “You said when you met me you were bored. And you, you were in a band when I was born.” - Is his daughter boring to him? Am I not entertaining enough to keep around? Sometimes it feels that way, like he sees me as someone not worth his time. Maybe he sees me as someone he could have potentially cared about (when I was born), but I suppose I didn’t live up to his expectations and he found something better to replace me with (his newer, better family). “I try to stay clean and live without. And I want to know what would happen if I surrender to the sound.” - I entertain the thought sometimes-what would happen if I answered one of those messages? Would anything come of it? Would he suddenly change and become the loving father I always wanted? But I know it won’t happen, so I live without. Needless to say, this song in of itself makes me feel a sort of “emotional motion sickness.”

[@gwynnielsen5081]

This is my first view of Phoebe. My friend's daughter is the bassist for Claud, a band that will be opening for Phoebe on her European tour. Cool.

[@simthsfan695]

this song is so bittersweet bc it perfectly describes my relationship with my mom. i wish our relationship could be how it was when i was little, but now all she does is play the victim and reject her anger onto me, and nothing i do is ever good enough. maybe she was always like this but i didn’t see this bc i was a kid?

[@kaileywelch6667]

this.. i’m sorry you understand

[@libertinesis2angel]

I'm so sorry. I feel the same with my Grandma. I love her so much but she hurts me so much emotionally.

[@coloh9928]

some ppl are only okay with u if you are in a smaller/infantilised position relative to them. you'll wonder what's wrong with you when all you did was have the audacity to grow up.

[@sarahm5936]

I thought of my mom immediately when I heard this song. She is a monster though.

[@LaraLinx]

She was probably always that way. My mom was/is. It took years of family systems therapy, drawing healthy boundaries and sometimes going No Contact. That day when I first realized she had always been emotionally & verbally abusive, it was like the bottom dropped out of my world. And I fell into a pit of drugs to make it go away. But I got clean and got help. Now my mother has Dementia. Sometimes I see shades of a Real Mom™️. Sometimes that makes me happy. Other times it pisses me off bc I wonder why I didn't get That Mom™️as a kid. 🖤

[@scottgray493]

63 yo dude, just heard this song, it's an amazing song. We need more of this and less country, "Bro" music, in my opinion. You young adults keep this spirit alive!

[@elinmair1228]

"i hate u for what u did, and i miss u like a little kid" yea... yea felt that

[@LegoAnimace]

the best part of this clip is how the last scenes were shot in sped up song tempo and then put into slow motion .. it almost feels like motion sickness. love the vibe.

[@nilotpalchoudhury3652]

I liked that she used "There are no words in the English language I could scream to drown you out" bcz the English language has more words than any other language in the world..

[@donalm7874]

I'm an old fart of a man in my 60ts but love music and especially on vinyl, and this one I'm getting for myself for Christmas. Heard it playing in tower records and ordered it straight away. What a beautiful voice and way of telling her story. Love her and her music. Thanks and good luck to you .

[@bobatkins9162]

I'm in my 70's,I think this is fantastic!

[@squeakeththewheel]

Dude don't apologize for being in your 60s. You rock.

[@qxob2123]

Donal M what a cutie you are

[@jbsamakis]

Tower Records? Are they still around?

[@kathys254]

ha ha...me too! I just heard this for the first time today - love it!!

[@RunningShovel]

Wow, that's a cutie patootie in a suitie on a scootie.

[@iamevilyss]

RunningShovel why isn’t this top comment?

[@jasomara]

take a shower bro

[@jasomara]

@Abraham Lincoln you eat poop abe

[@psx2rulz2]

A+ on creativity here

[@martinsmartini44]

This comment gave me whiplash

[@saramugisha]

Taehyung(BTS V) thank for introducing me to the best. She’s good👏👏

[@joviturino8405]

Ooh this song is very very good Kim Taehyung/V never misses his music nominations 👏👏 it's already the second song he nominates🌹✌️

[@emmabearcrane3852]

Listening to this on Father’s Day……that’s all.

[@user-dw5xz8er4u]

Same

[@JPH1138]

2:36 that awkward moment when you're going to be immortalized in a gorgeous two-minute single take shot in a classy music video but completely whiff your shot on the pool table.

[@carolinekaleel7589]

I will never be able to unsee this

[@keithpatrick156]

You know how it'd go if this was filmed in a bowling alley.

[@mimiboucher5701]

@gibbdude true but she still biffed maybe

[@jwest28]

Srsly I’ve never seen such bad pool form in my life!

[@PiXie232]

The pressure was just too much.. lol

[@jamedlee1011]

Like a lightning rod of sincerity

[@chrispolo840]

You might like a band called The Doublejumps if you like listening to Phoebe Bridgers

[@jokarpo6723]

I love this girls face idk wtf it is she’s such a pretty girl ❤

[@johnathan.matthew6003]

I love that she’s riding down the same street as Elliott in Miss Misery. The best way we can honor him is to take the good and learn from his mistakes.

[@bwkelley]

Wow, you must know that area, or have a good eye. Nice comment.

[@zimzimzalabim]

@@bwkelley Elliot Smith in MIss Misery? I don't know, but I'm glad someone remembered him. Talented guy, a sad loss.

[@shrekismywaifu4591]

The first lines hit hard “I hate you for what you did, but i miss you like a little kid” it sort of describes my relationship with my dad, he usually took his angry out on me as a kid and pushed me away, and i will admit it did hurt but after the years went by, i think i started to get over it and realized i needed to move on, so that’s what i did. I do miss him at times like i did when i was a little girl, but i realized that i shouldn’t and i should move on from him, that i should hate him, but it’s hard; even as time passes by, i still can’t get rid of this hurt feeling that i have because of my dad. *6-10-21*

[@Gabixtsm]

my situation is literally the same as yours. there isn't a week that i don't cry.

[@w3jd4n]

american date system 😾

[@shrekismywaifu4591]

@@w3jd4n ?

[@grace3853]

The first few lines I thought she was talking abt her dad or mom but then I continued listening and I was way wrong

[@Angela-vm3kc]

@@w3jd4n not only the american its around the world dont be ignorant

[@peanut_butterr]

"I hate you for what you did and miss you like a little kid" Dedicated to my bff:)))

[@user-lc9pb5lm2v]

i keep thinkin about this song because emotional motion sickness is exactly what i have when i have anxiety or depression. i have been so full of anxiety this whole day and its such a horrible feeling i really need someone to rolll the windows down before i throw up

[@libertyerichsen3904]

I listen to this at least 800 times a day

[@mikef1158]

Same. Maybe even 900x a day.

[@anthony_gaytano]

I've been addicted to it for quite sometime now

[@Blueapples514]

Great pfp

[@davidanthony8363]

Literally the only song I’ve been listening to the past week! How did I just find this song 🤯

[@libertyerichsen3904]

@@Blueapples514 oh why thank you

[@ekaterinaaniretake2005]

This song feels like a warm blanket

[@jejejesson]

It's about being emotionally abused by Ryan Adams.

[@johnwrath3612]

@@jejejesson Captain Hindsight, to the rescue!

[@snc237]

jsson doesn’t mean it can’t feel like a warm blanket!

[@AJ-mo6mw]

A warm blanket of PAIN

[@Ursorion]

Nah maybe it's because of a sound of it, the music... not the background of the lyrics and the actual sense.

[@wecoulddiehere]

I like the way she looks at the camera She has mysterious and very attractive eyes 🖤

[@marjankabir2315]

Taehyung, Thank you so much for introducing us to this song 😊

[@chrispolo840]

Hey you might like a band called The Doublejumps if you like Phoebe Bridgers

[@audreyandel4790]

hello LGBTQ community edit: tbh i wrote this comment over a year ago and it’s not even remotely funny but it is the most liked comment on this video so i refuse to delete it. hi phoebe. this is my most played song of 2021 because it reminds me of my ex. yasss.

[@satanicneptune6633]

NO i feel called out

[@SkeletalSystemBones]

How do you do fren?

[@user-ci9xg6hi7m]

no but like actually

[@Jackzay90]

Can someone explain to me why there are people on every Phoebe Bridgers video i've seen saying the song is gay related?

[@audreyandel4790]

@@Jackzay90 because a lot of her fans are members of the lgbtq community

[@Heather-rp1me]

it's the way she managed to encapsulate my nuanced, complicated feelings toward BOTH of my abusers with such beautifully simplistic and specific lyrics. I feel so fucking heard, phoebe.

[@cameryndalton7648]

Used to SOBBB listening to this song after a relationship ended years ago. Now I listen and am so grateful I escaped and am where I am now :) it GETS BETTER!!!

[@snapdragon9300]

Really talented . Love her voice and relatable lyrics.😁

[@Theologyforbreakfast]

My wife of three years left me two Monday's ago. She filed for divorce. Eight years of life and love seemingly vaporized in a day. I am feeling "emotional motion sickness." Your music is helping me through it. Thank you Phoebe!

[@owens7807]

that sucks man

[@elizabethransom6824]

That's so rough :( How are you doing now?

[@whateverbabe]

You'll get better eventually :( Think about all the heart breaks and divorces around the world! We all survived.

[@joshregister1313]

Did you not see it coming or just weren't prepared for it?

[@amorelette]

:c stay strong body

[@erinscott6518]

Here is one person who can say that Ryan Adams lost a fan and Phoebe Bridgers gained one today.

[@matthewwohl951]

Erin Scott one of many!

[@albertoramirez5977]

Ryan Adams is a man. In a world where that is not good. Mandy Moore and every other singer knows who to suck with the hope of a collaboration but they ended up married. She’s not a musician she’s a vocalist. She hit gold with this is us and Ryan Adams was tweeting support for her during the first 3 seasons. Now it’s a issue? Meanwhile Taylor Swift’s makes a song about every guy she fucks and doesn’t try to hide it. But it’s fine for her

[@erinscott6518]

JayBoi Nike Boohoo. Poor men who pursue relationships with 20 year-olds when they're 40 and professionally collaborating with them, then threaten suicide and get nasty when she's not interested anymore. In a traditional workplace, that's sexual harassment, and HR would can you after seeing the texts. Apparently calling out Narcissistic, entitled man children equates to saying all men are bad. OK then. Maybe you should stop projecting your victim complex on women. Also, when I find out Taylor Swift was dangling career opportunities to get into some guy's pants, then withheld them when he wasn't receptive, then I'll have the same opinion of her. Until then, you might want to think of a better example because a woman having equitable relationships with men who weren't dependent on her connections for their success isn't a good comparison. You would know that if you'd use your supposedly superior male logic.

[@albertoramirez5977]

Erin Scott Ryan Adams obviously has issues he is a tortured soul. Elvis wanted to marry priscilla when she was 16. All’s I gotta day when it’s not a traditional employer and it’s drugs sex and rock n roll. Don’t be surprised when it’s drugs sex rock n roll that you get

[@draft1643]

Yep! I'd heard of her but only just now checked her out, and I'm hooked

[@SKINXEL]

Has anyone noticed she is stunning wtf

[@user-fz8he5xm2v]

"I hate you for what you did, and i miss you like a little kid" this touches me to my core. It reminds me of my mom.. shes been mentally abu---s-i-v---e for years but we havent done anything about it but we plan to when we all move out. ive always wanted her to love me and i miss that "love" i had as a little kid.. it ruined me but its also so hard to see my dad in this much pain.. shes putting all of us through pain that shouldnt be there.. i hate seeing the light dim from my dads eyes when she says something awful.. it tore our whole family apart.. its just hard atp cause i want to do something but im also scared cause shes my mom.

[@cas1135]

"i hate you for what you did, and i miss you like a little kid." that explains exactly how my day went.

[@jacksguzman4221]

LYRICS- I hate you for what did And I miss you like a little kid I faked it every time, but that's alright I can hardly feel anything I hardly feel anything at all You gave me fifteen hundred To see your hypnotherapist I only went one time, you let it slide Fell on hard times a year ago Was hoping you would let it go And you did I have emotional motion sickness Somebody roll the windows down There are no words in the English language I can scream to drown you out I'm on the outside looking through You're throwing rocks around your room And while you're bleeding on your back in the glass I'll be glad that I made it out And sorry that it all went down like it did I have emotional motion sickness Somebody roll the windows down There are no words in the English language I can scream to drown you out And why do you sing with an English accent? I guess it's too late to change it now You know I'm never gonna let you have it But I will try to drown you out You said when you met me you were bored You said when you met me you were bored And you, you were in a band when I was born I have emotional motion sickness I try to stay clean and live without And I wanna know what would happen If I surrender to the sound Surrender to the sound

[@martinsmartini44]

I was looking for you

[@TheClever69]

@Mal McKee It's probably partially about him, but not fully. She might have written it about the experience with him as opposed to him directly. It's easier for some songwriters to create a character and write about them as a way of channeling their feelings on an actual person

[@dannybuchanan3661]

@Mal McKee on his early albums, especially Love is Hell he was doing a weird Thom Yorke impression

[@naiaratalita]

thank you!

[@shelbywelch9786]

i had emotional whiplash for so long because my parents spent my WHOLE CHILDHOOD being angry with each other, they separated for two years, and now it's been a year and a half since since they reunited and they haven't had more than a mild disagreement. i still wait for the ball to drop

[@ssnowypug]

playing this while motion sick and emotionally struggling >

[@krystalsrose]

Scooters have never looked cooler than when Phoebe rides one.

[@Cricketcorps]

I was just thinking that this was the first time I ever thought a scooter looked like anything approaching acceptable in public.

[@2nd_snideelf144]

video guys did a really great job as she rides that scooter like there was no camera in front of her

[@davidkariu2330]

Yeah I'll be her scooter.

[@AeolianSonance]

She starts walking the scooter with the handlebars backwards, though. I have two kids with scooters so I notice dumb things like that.

[@kenc2257]

@@AeolianSonance All the really cool kids are expert at backwards handlebars...

[@peanutbuttah_]

This song always makes me cry :( as a survivor of physical and emotional abuse it always hits hard for me especially the beginning. You always run to the person who hurts you the most

[@mellllll9]

"Their are no words in the english language I can scream to drown you out" I feel this. When the person that has hurt you so deepy is stuck to your brain like warm honey was poured all over it. All the failed attemps I've had to get said person out of my head etched on countless journals and dreams of you that keep occupying my mind warn out mind as I sleep. Get out, please.

[@yvonnegoble354]

love her voice

[@kathrynnee7460]

There are no words in the English language to describe just how flawless this song and video is.

[@user-nk5ql6xq5w]

"And I miss you like a little kid." Ouch.

[@user-nb4xd9wg9t]

This is a song that perfectly expresses the feeling of blockage in the heart.

[@Fructosesirup]

He hurt me so bad, i cant help but crying

[@wojciechwisniewski8984]

This song tastes sweet, like good strong coffee after some terrible hangover.

[@rosekennedy8397]

I’m not certain this is what Phoebe meant by this video, but it’s what I took from it. I’ve been in a similar emotionally abusive relationship to the one this song describes, and I feel like this video shows Phoebe feeling isolated from everyone around her because of having been in this relationship and having this experience not a lot of people can relate to (hence being in the room alone, riding her scooter alone, riding in front of a car that doesn’t seem to notice she’s there, and the people ignoring her in the bar at the end). Then at the end of the video, she finally gets the courage to break her silence about the relationship, and still, as far as we can see, only one person is listening.

[@nattaybattay]

"I hate you for what you did, and I miss you like a little kid" perfectly sums up my relationship with my cousin. We were literally best friends till all the secrets I told her she told her mom and got me in trouble, and betrayed all our trust. I hate her so much for doing that. But I miss all the fun times we had together. ☹

[@upscaleavenue]

Love this song, and love the line "you know I'm never gonna let you have it." It's totally up for interpretation, but it does convey a very specific feeling.

[@spacesuitor]

*slaps roof of car* THIS BAD BOY CAN FIT SO MUCH FKKING EMOTION IN IT...

[@bunathan2485]

0:44 safety first

[@princessboogs13]

The first 35 seconds describe my first relationship with my friend's adult brother when I was too young.

[@sirfizz6518]

Sometimes when an artist is highly regarded, i don't dig the first stuff i find, so i get specific recommendations from fans and really take some time to listen closely and eventually end up really loving their work. ...But in this case, I instantly get how she deserves all the hype. ❤

[@dontwasteyourheart]

i know that this song is about abusive relationships, but i always thing about my best friend that commited suicide when i listen "i hate you for what you did, and i miss you like a little kid", because i miss her so much and i understand what is happened to her but at same time it is really hard to live after that, everything hurts

[@dontwasteyourheart]

@Alicia thank you, my dear ❤️

[@marissabranson6515]

I’m so sorry this happened. Sending you love.

[@johnpearson5575]

I just got out of a toxic relationship. This song helps.

[@Teeheehee093]

The final chorus is just so beautiful

[@oliviamckinney7543]

I use “I hate you for what you did and i miss u like a little kid” for every time a favourite character of mine betrays me