On Loneliness | Dharma Talk by Thich Nhat Hanh, 2012.12.13

Winter retreat, 2012 - 2013

[@trudesquires1089]

This was the very first utube video that I ever saw.I didn't know who Thich Nhat Hanh was. I was absolutely captivated by his calm, gentle wisdom, and have been filled with tranquility ever since that day, several years ago. He changed my life, and I'll be forever indebted to him. ❤🙏

[@lordbyron3603]

I’ve felt depressed all day today. No matter what I did , I couldn’t lessen it. Then I remembered this talk on loneliness. I’m lonely! I’ll sit with my loneliness and see what happens.

[@debra832]

I feel lonely too your not alone

[@judithzachs6452]

😊

[@thebluemystic]

Hope yr not lonely or depressed now!

[@roberthamilton-om4pb]

Same here. Nothing helps. I’m 64 and keep working just to be with people but at the end of the working day it’s just me and my thoughts.

[@lordbyron3603]

@@roberthamilton-om4pb It’s What is ! You don’t need anything else.

[@Cocochantelle]

I like the analogy for the cloud formation. There is no birth or death of the cloud. It is always there in different forms, as water vapor, as rain, as water in our lakes, rivers and oceans...This is the same as what we perceive as life and death; it is a continuation.

[@johnrandallhofheins7474]

Because there is no birth or death. There is no form. All that is, is spirit.....one spirit. When we realize this as the only basis, the only Reality....everything makes sense as it really Is. As Reality actually is in essence, Then everything naturally is synchronizing together effortlessly. Otherwise we operate from temporary ignorance. We see the essence of life now when we surrender our human mind perspective about reality. That human mind perspective is the basis of samsara, and ignorance, suffering. What Thay is pointing to is Life that would correlate to what the Bible says in hebrews 11:1-3...faith IS SUBSTANCE , all that is visible ismade of whay is notvisible; to what Jesus said "wind blows where it will, dont know where it comes from nor where it is going, so IS EVERYONE who is born of God " john 3. There are many hidden hints of how things really are, in Bible, but one has to open the eyes of the heart in order to see. Same thing Thay assumes as a basis of understanding of what he is talking about. Peace and love

[@hughslevin7120]

I agree But all his explanations are brilliant

[@danali2453]

Me too

[@Roscoe.P.Coldchain]

🫶🫶🫶

[@bastian6173]

His words are like music in my ears. Everything he says reasonates with me on such a deep level. And somehow I feel deeply connected with him even though I don't even know him personally. It's true. We are all connected.

[@vasilikirompotinos4268]

Lllll I’ll I’ll ll

[@dnbjedi]

Reasonates. That’s a lovely way of putting it.

[@ipeefreely8005]

i suggest buying some of his books, "the Heart of Buddha's Teaching" its a excellent starting place for these ideas

[@zofiawierzbica5270]

F HD je ur do do tu go gl ne le

[@ishworshrestha3559]

Hmm

[@LJComposer]

RIP Thich Nhat Hahn. You will be missed

[@lauralunaazul]

I am no lonly when I hear to you Thay. ❤

[@rosisunny9302]

We all one Consciousness,how can we be lonely???But We not aware we connected 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🙈🙈😳😳😳to Trees to the dog to everything and we boundless,what more can you ask for🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🧐🧐🧐💜💜💜 🙏 🌹🌹🌹🌹

[@danali2453]

Me too

[@darrylschultz9395]

Hear him thay what? Thomething thatisfying I hope.

[@ullalu7227]

Many Times listened, many times thought I understood the message but today I felt sooo lonely, but this time I didn’t had fear to this sad and lonely feeling, this disconnected feeling and Thay send me a another time this message to be able to ambrace my lonelyness and I realy understood the lonelyless of each of us.

[@sl2608]

💗 Much love to you.

[@Safar-v5m]

So wonderful to receive this clear wisdom and become free of falso concepts from which one needs to escape! To listen again and again for innermost change to happen! So many blessings to you dear Thay…🕉️🙏🕉️

[@m49512]

Wow. This really opened my eyes. I’ve always gone through life saying I didn’t need to know what my purpose was…. It was always what I didn’t like about organized western religions. But I viewed the experience of life through the way the world presented itself to me. (Seeking happiness, love, avoid pain, avoid loneliness, etc). And here is is explained. There is no purpose…we just are. And to be fully present, we need to experience everything willingly and with wonder. I have such a long way to go…but today was a huge revelation. Thank you for this. And thank you Zannie.

[@bebobalula]

Embracing ALL our feelings is in a way very simple, but not easy. It is something, we have to learn, and that's why, we have to practice every day 🌻

[@BleakNovemberrain]

What a beautiful talk about limitlessness and the union of death and life. He continues to ease my soul with the teachings of Buddha.

[@Onlinesully]

I agree with you. It’s wonderful words. it’s come too late for me.

[@BleakNovemberrain]

@@Onlinesully Never too late!

[@Onlinesully]

@@BleakNovemberrain sometimes it is, unfortunately

[@maywin4204]

Yes, absolutly everything begins within ourself..then reach out to others to help out... thank you for all the teachings reminders

[@techibabe]

Amazing he can write Chinese, French, Vietnamese..truly a scholar and master. Thank you for your wisdoms so us beings can suffer less and live harmoniously. So blessed to learn everyday.

[@T-id8cs]

and english too

[@gheorghefalcaru]

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH.....! YOU ARE SO GOOD!

[@QABCOM]

Thank you Plum Village…. I needed this and it has transformed me forever. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@popcornnoble437]

Powerful Darhma teaching.

[@franceslawless1946]

Hello Plum Village Community. I ask for your positive intentions for my niece Anila who has just been diagnosed with lymphoma. Pray for her and her family. Thank you so much.

[@plumvillageonline]

Dear friend, sending love 🙏

[@susanmoran5226]

I am sending love too.

[@bronaghbatch7132]

❤

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Compassion and prayers 🙏

[@เนติวิทย์โชติภัทร์ไพศาล-ผ4ฌ]

Sending love ❤

[@gbgs4646]

Thank you first for your lessons of loneliness. Loneliness is a feeling that everyone experience. I feel that the only way to not feel so lonely is to have love in your life, to know Gods love for you to be full of the holy spirit, And of course to have companionship someone that you love and they love you. Yes the real connection is to know yourself first and make peace with yourself and love yourself first. Not everyone one has companionship there are millions of single people in the world. But yes there well be days that one feels loneliness but think positive and count your blessings We are only human and try not to look back , look forward with hope. Every day is anew day. One day at a time please.☺

[@ChrisOakesCO]

I live by myself an I Love it! I like to go be with people during the day but I've always liked to be home by myself at night in peace an quiet!!!!!

[@susanmoran5226]

Me too Chris.

[@conexionhumana8045]

Thank you Great Teacher. It's Wonderful when you say; you can't create energy and you can't destroy energy. That statement is deep and I can apply it in different many ways to improve my life. Lots of hugs. Evangelina Cortes.

[@lordbyron3603]

Thay’s presentation is so simple and clear,, a child can understand it ! 😊😊😊😊 Thank you Venerable Sir ! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@brianlund7862]

Love you TNH. Peaceful passing my friend 🙏🙏🙏 Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu 🙏

[@rosariomontoya1826]

Groundbreaking talk! Thay, I will continue to follow your teachings, now that you have passed…to your transformation! Life saving teachings! 🙏🙏🙏

[@Gjt-j5r]

Thank you- very helpful. What a wonderful teacher and gift to us all.

[@ConexionHumanaOficial]

Thank you so much Dear Thay for sharing your wisdom. Your teachings are amazing. Evangelina Cortes.

[@hughslevin7120]

Wonderful amazing beautiful Thank you Thank you A thousand times thank you

[@conexionhumana8045]

Thank you Venerable Thay. You have helped me a lot with your wisdom. I"m doing my best practicing such a great teachings. Evangelina Cortes.

[@deborahcollard4560]

Its not quite true that we cant connect using computers. If it wasnt for them I wouldnt be able to hear and seeThich Nhat and to watch him delivering words and heart of wisdom! Thank you.

[@XOXO-mb2vh]

I agree.

[@ChiicooSuavee]

I understand your point. But that’s less of a connection and more just access to listen. Truly connection with him would be sitting with and having an understanding connection. Truly connecting with someone over technology is difficult because it is not in the moment. The way we converse over technology is not as intimate or honest as looking someone in the eyes. ❤️

[@auntihooha]

You feel connected, which is good. I first became connected (to myself? to the desire to connect with others?) through the Occupy Movement. But he is not connecting with you at the same time, so it's not actual connection; more of an access to knowledge. I worry that people put a little too much faith in technology, is all. :)

[@markcarson5118]

It is a superficial connection,looking in someones eyes having a in depth discussion about loss,joy.emotion is what makes us higher life forms.

[@rodrigoastorga9465]

he says that once you are connected to yourself, it won't matter if you are not in the same city with the other person. I gess that includes any kind of communication, even computers, phones, letters, anything

[@wendyindonesia]

I am sure that the world is missing him. I ask God to bless his soul every time I remember his teachings. 🙏

[@sockysworld8010]

'go home to yourself' - accept the body, thoughts, feelings - be at one with yourself through: acceptance, non-striving, connecting with the present moment - see how everything changes!

[@kathrynbresser3991]

PLEASE how?

[@sockysworld8010]

@@kathrynbresser3991 It all starts with breathing. When your mind starts to race or if you feel in a state of emotional pain. Stop thinking and bring your awareness to your breath. Breathe in through your stomach. Low breathes. Breathe deep, release slowly. Do this while walking if its easier. Watch Sam Harris' video on connecting with the self, its a very good meditation video that helps one experience oneself differently. Think of others more. Be aware of their suffering. Know that everyone suffers. Search up Buddha's story about the two darts of suffering. 'when you know how to suffer, you suffer much less.' Hope that helps.

[@MichaelIdrisMerchant]

"We are lonely together" - the illness (and opportunity for improvement) of our time

[@susanmoran5226]

Idris. I find being on my own the best opportunity for improvement.

[@peterjohnson155]

Thank you, so beautiful and such a nice change compared to the usual pace of life.

[@maywin4204]

Beautiful indepth Dhama teachings. Thank you very much..

[@soyladormidera]

Wonderfull ...so clear. Thanks beloved Thay❤

[@lilycat1694]

Exactly my experience. The only time I do not feel lonely, is when I am around my cats or other 🐈 cats

[@rosisunny9302]

💜Hi hi hi because the are a part off you 😅😅😅😊😊😊😊

[@kimgregory8945]

⁰⁰⁰⁰⁰⁰0⁰0

[@marklawson2871]

Please tell your cat I said psss psss psss :)

[@zeusjukem9484]

have you considered that perhaps you are a cat?

[@maywin4204]

Main is to have the Right view, very correct to overcome all.

[@claudelebel49]

A fantastic introduction especially what he says about wanting to be connected outwardly and the motivation for it.

[@beki1377]

Thanks to Thay teachings I am able and increasing my awareness every day - Thank you deeply so much for your wise teachings 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🌈🌻🧘🏼‍♀️💜

[@veganworldpeace2649]

Much appreciation & gratitude!

[@Musecollective]

So clarifying. We can’t live in our society continuously grasping. How do we stay strong in knowing our freedom in every moment surrounded by our delusional, “logic”? I know it’s the truth but still so many suffer.

[@simev500]

What I distilled from this presentation is that Fear is the lynchpin underlying all your obstacles throughout living life.

[@gardensofthegods]

Yes the Buddhists actually talked a lot about fear . It is one of the worst things ... and they actually believe that fear or too much of it can cause a person to reincarnate in the animal realm ... this is one of the reasons it's so important to overcome fear . Yet we have so many people around the planet being very fearful right now with everything that's going on and the price of food and petrol and it seems basically the price of everything going up and up . People are worried that we're going to have a nuclear war because of Putin and a few others . Yes many people are fearful

[@gefahrlicheshalbwissen9842]

wholeheartedly I thank this and all the beings involved in for letting this message/teaching getting to me! 🙏🏻

[@maywin4204]

Always be mindful with Action of Mind, Action of Body and Action of Words., otherwise will achieves Sins...Buddhism teaching are so in details...thanks

[@Becomingajackel]

The world will miss you, but through your teachings I understand now. I will see you and will be able to continue to learn by seeing outside the illusion of samsara.

[@nicolecostes4043]

Lumineux, merci saint homme.

[@gabryg1849]

Grazie di nuovo Thay and Sangha as well, 🙏

[@stephaniewilson5284]

Thank you.

[@HughesMath1]

-Our body is a wonder. -The practice of going home. -To heal ourself and help heal the world.

[@annes9954]

what a profound teaching ! helps us to awaken

[@savgharris]

deeply wish the mic wasn’t feeding back because this is brilliant

[@GabrielBolkosky]

Thank you

[@ConexionHumanaOficial]

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you Venerable Thay. This talk is a marvelous fountain of knowledge for me to understand a little bit more about this topic. Evangelina Cortes.

[@rosehurley5186]

Thanks for the inner peace

[@ericpoirier2222]

the light in your eyes✨

[@maywin4204]

Everything is within us, thanks for pointing teaching all of us.

[@justinwalker4475]

i'm just happy i found monks to listen to :)

[@maywin4204]

So true how can you connect with others when you can't connect within yourself first..

[@attractionp.1185]

Wow!!! The KINGDOM OF GOD IS WITH IN , I my father is one !!!!

[@specialguest5119]

The worldly pleasures and pain pull me away from the seeds that are within me😔

[@bernardcernea6792]

you are not different and you do not have to become something. you only have to see

[@specialguest5119]

@@bernardcernea6792 Thankyou for reminding me of this, which I already know but forget this too at times #mindfullnesspractice

[@beautiful20106]

Everything is breathing in and out to calm your mind and connect your body

[@MoonlightNothing]

Find a beautiful home within yourself. God is in You, seek and find. Gift from God, Life.

[@ramthian]

Thanks 🙏

[@jbee5209]

What thich nnat hann doing now,he is a great man this is real mindfulness, I hope I can come to plum village one day if they allow dogs lol 🐕🙏

[@ampornsrisermbhok5573]

Special thanks to your holiness .

[@beastmode8569]

🙌🏻 Profound teaching of ✨enlightenment✨ My faves was TNH sing 🎶 happy birthday 😆

[@SimbaConsulting]

Very Great explanation ! Thank youuuuuu for sharing this with us !!! So Gratful

[@helenasukulele]

Come back to the refuge within ourselves, thank you

[@hurstjames6196]

Hello how're you doing today hope you're safe?

[@nannan2790]

Thanks Thay

[@lwacc]

Loneliness is not just about being all alone physically though that can be the case for some people. A human being is not meant to be alone as we are gregarious creatures, just like a pod of dolphins, a flock of birds, a school of fish or a colony of penguins. How can we ask for a human being to learn to live and be satisfied alone. In another way of looking at loneliness, a person can be surrounded by family and friends but if they do not share the same values, thoughts etc., of that person, he or she may feel loneliness.

[@thetrauth]

love you thich nhat han!

[@maywin4204]

Yes, embrace yourself then you will not loose yourself..

[@ChristineSnowdon]

Calming

[@hurstjames6196]

Hello how're you doing today hope you're safe?

[@Boris_Chang]

I was waiting at the end for him to announce there will be a test on this. I suppose there really is-at the end of this current incarnation.

[@kathrynbresser3991]

I want desperately to go home.

[@bernardcernea6792]

stay still and home will come by itself

[@deckiedeckie]

No hay mal que dure cien anos....ni cuerpo que lo resista....

[@FreshlyWILD]

RIP GURU

[@alisonmilek6892]

i hear a womens voice continually talking in the background does anyone hear that Dear Thay . Thankyou for sharing

[@Canyouguessmynames]

That's probably the simultaneous translation (to French, most likely) going on. She'd be sitting in the front, talking into a microphone, so people wearing headphones can hear the translation in real time when they don't speak English.

[@awolpeace1781]

Reality bending is nothing compared to matter bending

[@sonofamenti3185]

i love you

[@Luke-ofStoke-Factor]

2023

[@HyenaXS]

19:35 I'll be watching you... Wooooooo!

[@kamalagrawal3345]

I got an inkling of what Nirvana means, it's just coming out of ignorance or misconception or misinterpretation of what we perceive. It's a bit similar to getting our concepts cleared how an equation works in algebra

[@rosisunny9302]

🙏💜🙏 we feel like looking for a different Home,not here but some where peacefully!Thats way People move so much and are restless.We feel lonely,because we can’t be our selfs,Natural self how we came in to this 🌍!We told how to be : filled up with Junk and we are watched if we Funktion like everyone ,in Germany the Politischens 🤷‍♀️🙄🙄🙈🙈!Us we finely go 🤔it means the Form gos,we find what we looked for all our Life never ending Counciousness 💜🌹🌹🌹🌹hopefully we find it before we let the body back to Earth!!And we afraid off this 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🙈🙈🙄🙄🙃🙃🙃

[@hurstjames6196]

Hello how're you doing today hope you're safe?

[@kathrynbresser3991]

Please help me to understand this better. I am lost. I suffer daily from loneliness. I have no partner. I struggle daily. Please help me learn this. I try to understand its very hard. Thankyou

[@RaviShankar-es6bk]

I'm also here grappling with loneliness. I guess, the first 20 minutes or so Ven. Thay is establishing the fundamental need to connect with ourselves before we attempt any real connectedness with others. He stresses that unless we're at home within ourselves we can never feel real and lasting connectedness with others. That's the central idea and I think the rest of the talk is 'theory' leading to it.

[@bernardcernea6792]

What striked me when he said you have to come home which is in a mess amd accept it. That is try and be aware even if your mind is full of obstructions to being aware

[@maywin4204]

Desire Craving Attachment causes Gasping sufferings..so letting Go releasing comes practice..

[@sammavaca5714]

When we have found peace inside there is nothing in the world that can attract us away from it. It is better than the best sex.

[@gen-x-zeke8446]

"To quote is to envy"

[@mikezooper]

Any chance of cleaning up the sound? Hard to hear with background noise. Thanks 🙏

[@funktion6926]

🙏🏻

[@Davidtibi4353]

I’m Pelvin Maglo Binvin,…right now I’m standing in my kitchen and I’m not having my usual glass of Glaffleberry Farms, orange juice because there is none

[@covidfan6371]

Cam on.

[@pablobellon4985]

💖💖

[@medicineofnow]

Thank you, but it would be nicer to have the background noise filtered.

[@jswarts2923]

Yes the PA was feeding back from being slightly too loud, a distraction that could have easily been fixed at the time of this presentation.

[@specialguest5119]

Nicer but not necessary 🤔

[@maryannknox7158]

♥️

[@hurstjames6196]

Hello how're you doing today hope you're safe?

[@yanji003]

I’m lonely but never alone

[@colleendeane7888]

Removing life's thorns leads to Nirvana

[@skinnylicious888]

I love his joke at 1:16:07 😅

[@deborahbaker1254]

What do I do when I've been hurt so deeply and badly that surviving the pain seems impossible and I am so terribly alone and terrified?

[@eliblackhawk4945]

Debora Gyllien A lot of self work but you will survive and come out stronger. Meditate, so many good teachers here. 30 year marriage failed 4 years ago, still working on myself in all ways, including physically that helps so much mentally. Down 60 lbs, built muscle and became a runner, I'm going to be 59 in a couple of months, it's never too late to turn your life around.....best wishes!

[@deborahcollard4560]

Realise that people who hurt people are just unhappy. The shock will pass with time. The person who put you in the place youre in now is thankfully out of life so new things and people can come into it.

[@priyankasara8805]

I feel that pain some times too and feel terrified . I choose to breathe in those moments and be with myself as much as possible . Though not easy , but gets easier each time I am doing so. We can do this. Self healing is possible. Love and healing to you and me and everyone who needs it :)

[@WarmMyHeart]

I’m w you as I know many who are. I support you to remember who you truly are, and remember to balance touching your pain and cultivating compassion w touching your joy and cultivating Love. That balance is very important. I focus on remembering who I am, remembering what Life is abt and what the nature of Life is, and focus my intention as much as possible on trusting Life, however it looks and feels when it appears, and bringing as much insight love compassion and acceptance to each moment as I can. Even if I’m bringing that to the part of me that cannot trust life will not trust life and doesn’t understand a thing abt it. Especially then. You’re doing great work for all of Life by learning to dissolve and clear these patterns of consciousness. And it will serve your unfolding, especially as you learn to flow more effortlessly. Much love and a big embrace to you. Good luck!

[@rhmike4283]

In..out..

[@kimtaylor9096]

❤️❤️🙏☮️

[@ourfamily9397]

Repentance All the unwholesome karma created by me, Arising from beginningless greed, hatred and delusion; Expressed through greed, hatred and delusion; I hereby regret and repent them all.

[@rebeccalankford2652]

I did not grasp no self, no being, no birth no death concepts. I understand energy only transforms but never dies. However, that is no the individual idenity or individual consciousness. Narvina is permanent extinction. Buddivista is to come back to help humankind. What makes one think they have a choice? Recap Acceptance Deal with it, rearrange it, change it Transformation Take comfort that energy never dies?

[@johnrandallhofheins7474]

You are coming to increasing clarity. There are still some human mind conditionings keeping next unveiling obscured, but you are close. Then there will be more unveiling to realize further understanding of Reality.

[@johnrandallhofheins7474]

As Energy there is no individual anything. There is only spirit/energy. No separation, not even a border , Glad to see you here! Refreshing to see someone having surrendered their human mind for the Celestial/universal MIND. [e-mail]