Here's a thought: maybe romantic love and monogamy ideals are part of what mires us in unrealistic expectations? Why do women need to change men? Or even need them? Let's not get caught in some misty-eyed Adam and Eve trope. There's much more to sexuality, relationships and desire than nabbing a partner and making sure you've microchipped them as 'yours'. Be full in yourself. Love isn't making someone into a thing. And women and men aren't radically different. Explore different kinds of relationality and being in the world. See Kim TallBear's work.