Jay Shetty: 8 Rules For Perfect Love & Amazing Sex! | E217

Jay Shetty is an English author, life coach and viral content creator, he lived and trained as a monk for 3 years. His ‘On Purpose’ podcast has received over 300 million downloads
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0:00 Intro
02:46 How are you doing?
16:44 What have you struggled with this year?
23:03 Living like a Monk and having a social media presence
26:21 The 7 days that changed my life
38:28 What is your ugly side?
51:04 Ads
52:52 How to deal with a partner not taking care of themselves
01:10:39 Distance in a relationship
01:20:42 What drives us forward in life?
01:30:27 What’s your advice for people struggling to find love
01:44:32 Sex
01:59:07 The last guest question
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[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

If you enjoyed this conversation, please do me a little favour and like the video 👍 it really helps the channel and allows these types of conversations to reach more people. Steven 👊🏾

[@hannaha7304]

Can u interview alfie best junior. Thanks

[@HL-rb1vz]

ىنىةنةً معكه 😢ت مم😢😮'

[@TheAnnegallien]

Merci Steven

[@raqueldobson1]

Keep up the good work ❤ Would love to see Estha Peral as a guest ❤

[@fitting7u]

I'm sorry but I didn't enjoy it. The content did not reflect the title of the video.

[@HowlettHill]

Someone who likes a flower plucks it, someone who loves a flower waters it. That hit me deep. Thank you.

[@tulinbeyduz920]

yeah and this is paraphrased from the original author

[@lorimiller4301]

Behavior is the test of love.

[@SayThatChannel]

#Same

[@harvinderubhi5540]

It's providing the tools to make a home for an enriching and endearing relation, not only with a partner but society......a flower is a pointer that everything is interrelated.

[@davidisrael9412]

how true...and sex is like a flower... ''pleasure is your birthright and we all deserve it.' Wrong on so many levels! Apart from pleasing God "There is pleasure in sin for a season and then comes the judgement=the Bible. Sex is a most beautiful thing, Yet it has its boundaries = knowing the forgiver and best friends will and doing it. Drugs of any form including lust, lies, intoxicants, bragging rights, etc. Each is a feel-good-for-a-moment thing with eternal consequences. Get Amazing Grace, thanks

[@victorial1982]

After being married for 20 years and getting divorced now, I can say I’ve tried it all and nothing seemed to work. What I discovered is there was lack of true love for self and for one another on both sides. I believe that true love will challenge you to be willing to heal and work on yourself for yourself and for your partner. Also past traumas, narcissism and lack of compatibility was a big issue. Both need to have at least the mindset of self growth and improvement.

[@marielaforte6165]

This is my exact situation also married for 22yrs and separated 3yrs. My other issue is I was too young when I married and I knew nothing about myself......I am now truly learning myself and it's so liberating 😁

[@victorial1982]

@@marielaforte6165 yes! I was very young too and knew nothing about myself and what I want for myself.

[@montyniranjan5344]

if one partner is goodlooking or even if not, but is super into vanity and the other isn't , it actually is a huge road block. the one who doesnt care about it then has to add value in some other respect that the vain partner lacks. when this doesnt happen , relationships fail.

[@NightFlight1973]

Similar. By too young, I was in my first real relationship that ended up in marriage. Legally separated for the last 3 years, about to hit 50 and only just now making serious inroads on working on the self. Mostly from guidance with the new woman in a lot of ways. I'm lucky to have her.

[@jp5419]

Exactly. Each person needs to want to evolve. Otherwise, you're just strangers.

[@NoCentss]

Great Interview! Here are some of the key point I gain for this podcast: • Inner Reflection • Where I want to be in 5 years? • Find Clarity • How create value for others? (Service and Abundance) • Impact • Choose to break the cycle • Don't let the format/ content own you • Performance can burn you out • losing the love what you do (within success) • Doing what fascinates YOU! • Trust the your community with follow you in a new direction • Finding excitement in the risk • People putting you in a box (concluding who you are) and not wanting you to win! • Allowing yourself to feel • Rewiring yourself • What is your ugly side? • Relish the Battle • Tend to your seed and pluck the weeds • Ones self worth can be different than others (Partners / Relationships) • "Preach the Gospel at all times. Use words if necessary." • Finding the source of why your partner thinks the way they do. • Don't force your vision on your partner • Values is the core of your being • 6 months apart took 6 months to reconnect • Relationship Rules • Only watching TV in a relationship doesn't strengthen the bond • New experiences in a relationship (Creates a deeper connection) • Experiencing , Learning and Servicing • Dharma (Purpose), Artha (economic development), Kama (Relationships and connections), Moksha (Service and Giving) • Put your purpose first in a relationship • Knowing how you are, your values and goals • Write out a list of what you want in yourself • Delayed Gratification • You attract what you use to impress • Your Vibrations attracts the frequency • Attract the wrong type of values • Story of The Boy & The Stone - (Moral) Letting other rate you based of the way they view you! • Valuing yourself stop you from allowing other to undervalue you. • Self Value and Self Worth comes from hardship and Growth • Sexual chemistry is based on how one feels about their self • Great sex is a buy product of a Healthy Relationship • Lost of intimacy in relationships • Build intimacy through real connections • Having role models show us that certain things truly exist in life (Inspiration) • Openess through deep connection Thank you guys for sharing!

[@fitting7u]

Thank you for the summary. Your summary was much better than the actual interview. I was disappointed by the interview but your summary was very good.

[@NoCentss]

@Mark Fitting No problem! I appreciate you taking the time to read through it. I'm sorry to hear the interview disappointed you.

[@fitting7u]

@@NoCentss I was disappointed because the title of the video was "...Amazing Sex" and during the 2 hour interview they only touched on that subject briefly at the 1 hour and 45 minute mark. The title was deceptive.

[@NoCentss]

@Mark Fitting That's understandable! I noticed it as well. We must remember that these creators have to create ways to catch the viewer's attention. Though they didn't speak on it til later in the interview there were still a lot of great points that were hit leading up to it.

[@SpectrumOfChange]

I'm realizing there needs to be 2 different lists of "success - this way", one for rich people and one for poor people. The risks are completely different and the bottom line is completely different, between the two. Does failing mean disappointing your investors, or losing your house? I think there's totally different criteria across the two, and that part never seems to be addressed. I love this channel, I just dont like this interviewee, and it's outlining a greater issue for me, about the differences of what matters, when you have a big financial buffer, vs paycheck to paycheck.

[@avcrs8612]

To the point of choosing to stay celibate while dating. My boyfriend and I did this for the 1st 6 months of our relationship, and not for religious reasons either. Although we met in our early 20's, we are at a stage where "situationship" just wasn't going to cut it. This has allowed us to form such a deep bond that, 18+ years later, he is still my beautiful flower.

[@maebolinger7190]

Thank you for sharing something beautiful. 🫶

[@DNS0875]

Indeed. My husband is in my eyes the handsomest man alive. But when we met and dated, we kind of forgot about the physical attraction because we had so much fun talking, dancing and enjoying each other’s company. That for me was the sign that he was the person I always dreamed of. After so many years he still is. And yes, we have an exceptionally unique, interesting and fun intimate connection. Love exists.

[@dena383]

I’ve started dating again and we enjoy each others company and haven’t focused on physical but there is physical there but really into each other and it’s not because sex.

[@kristinenoffsinger5138]

I absolutely love this! Amazing😊❤ thank you and so happy for you guys. 🥰💋

[@CiaranEire]

"Stop trying to change anyone because people don't change for anyone, they change for themselves".

[@LanceNRusso]

Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, i wasn't going to let my marriage of 18years crash.

[@LanceNRusso]

@Rose Allen well not the orthodox way but i was referred by a friend to a spiritual adviser and healer

[@LanceNRusso]

@Rose Allen her name is Shelly Renee White, and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as caster

[@LanceNRusso]

@Rose Allen you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.

[@tedupl]

@Rose Allen I would rather choose a mediator or marriage counceling or psychoterapy for marriegas

[@marym3355]

Much easier to run….

[@hazeylulu]

I'm seeing someone for 4 months now. And we haven't had sex with each other. We both talked about our past with others and also having frivolous sex. This is the first person I genuinely and deeply connected with. I enjoy talking to him and am so grateful to have this man who's so transparent in my life.Yes, he's a beautiful man lol but honestly, I love how we're both just wanting something real and long-term ❤

[@stumpali]

So you initially went for his looks.

[@maam-yj8ph]

Thanks for sharing. I hope it goes well for both of you.

[@hazeylulu]

@stumpali no I'm not shallow. I was in a very toxic relationship with someone from my past who was abusive mentally/physically (not so good-looking also). I'm grateful to come across a quality man who loves his family, who's strong and sensitive. He also cares for me, and I deserve to be loved by a man who's emotionally intelligent.

[@hazeylulu]

@maam9243 thank you so much! 🩷

[@toomuchinformation]

​@@hazeylulu Don't feed the troll.

[@lunaopenyourmind7554]

I agree distance does make a difference, my husband worked out of town for years, we talked everyday and when he would come home on weekends, we were like honeymooners. We’ve been married 24 years. I’m so glad that it’s no longer the case, he works local since about 3 years now, I can’t imagine him leaving for work like before. We sacrificed money for quality time, best decision ever.❤

[@Selsmittenxo]

beautiful 🙏 that the tour of relationship I desire and within towards💕

[@Misscollage]

Honeymooners sounds pretty ideal though

[@agape843]

“People do not change for people,they change for themselves” You then get to choose what you will,or will not do in relation to their choices. We cannot not bend or manipulate another into doing or being,we must respect another’s free will,we are responsible only for ourselves and how WE choose to show up. This was the timely talk I needed to hear……thank-you.

[@therealcrissyg]

This is something I learned recently ❤

[@khushiiversee]

my dad brainwashed me into changing for him tho he wasnt ppl he was my dad wtf ppl dotn hnage for other ppl but i as ppl pleaser did

[@soulfireonfire6423]

That may be true to an extent! But… when two people get married and have children it’s a different. ball game. Anyone who is married and one of the spouses is having a “ free will” moment they need to grow up! It’s not about just them any longer! Which was their choice to have children. Unless there is abuse mentally or physically going on in the relationship, playing the me, me, me and my feelings is selfish ! I am not saying being married and having children means you shouldn’t have time to yourself and you and your spouse but if somewhere takes the me, me, me to the extent they leave the marriage and the family, they are immature and they are selfish . Children don’t ask to be brought into this world! They deserve both their parents to do everything in their power to grow up and working out! The people can’t be made to bend etc.. No sometimes people do need to be forced to look at themselves and make them realize this isn’t just about them. and They have certain obligations and responsibilities that they chose to take on. They don’t get to cop out because of their “ free will” and their feelings! It’s called grow up !!!!

[@iamkezb]

Seeing and hearing 2 men in my age bracket having the conversation you just did, really warms my heart. ❤

[@Mister_Bo]

When you discussed your dark side, and lack of connection to it, this reminded me of something a dog trainer once told me. "Bite training isn't about training a dog to attack. A dog instinctively knows how to attack, and will attack when it feels threatened. Bite training is about training a dog to attack, and to stand down on command. Once you've done this you can control when it attacks, or not." Once we understand, and become comfortable with our dark side, we're somewhat more capable of wielding it (or not) with intention. Without that understanding our dark side will express itself instinctively, and uncontrollably when we're provoked, whether intentional or not

[@bm5_5_5]

Wow I love this 🔥🙌🏻

[@suzangrant7656]

@Mister Bo I totally agree about one's dark side. To add to what you have said, We're able to measure what others aim at us, and, what we respond with, instead of angered reaction. I feel far more secure in my knowledge of myself since I have met my dark side, and more importantly, I can recognise it when circumstances trigger it, and I can do something to change the outcome, before it gets too bad.

[@dusk5956]

That’s a good way to put it and it makes me feel a little better that we all have that beast inside of us.

[@linds1571]

@mister Bo perfectly explained.

[@justjanetng]

Haven't seen anyone put Jay on the spot like this, but he still comes out as human and empathic. Such an amazing human, and an amazing conversation. Stephen now I need to see you put on the spot hahaha

[@lysasarah-jaeviolet2072]

Massive THANKS to you Steven! As an intellectually lonely, stay at home mum in my 40s, your podcast satisfys me on many levels. Yes, the guests and the information they share are great but it's also beautiful watching you grow in your knowledge base and in general as a human being. I love your work and I love YOU. Many blessings to you xx

[@sialee5926]

Satisfies..

[@kellywhite9157]

@@sialee5926 don’t be a prat

[@x_270rr_s3]

Ofheo u stay at home at age 40.. ur brat. If u lonely go out work. 8 hours deal with hardship. U wouldn't feel lonely anymore. U will realize how lucky ur are able to stay at home....

[@smidgelette]

@@x_270rr_s3 are you calling her a brat for being a stay at home mum??? She could be a single parent who can’t earn enough to provide for bills, food, rent AND pay for childcare. Really hoping I’ve misunderstood and you haven’t just made such an ignorant comment

[@lita4458]

She said intellectually lonely, not lonely. 🙄 That does not mean one should stop being a stay-at-home Mom, it means she knows she needs more intellectual stimulation. And thanked Steven,'s work for helping in the area. Lord.

[@ericjivraj]

Once again, my 2 favourite people in the world in the same place, Steven Bartlett and Jay Shetty, I wish I was there live to have witnessed this greatness, keep up the good work Steven!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thank you Eric!

[@teriphillips1422]

Thank you I learned and heard so much .

[@oldskool1977]

Who the heck is Jay Shitty??? 🤔

[@royibrahim9905]

For real! these two are my favorite. They're full of wisdom. idols

[@tanyacarlyle1422]

Well said. Amazing interview ❤

[@oceanaleblanc6414]

True intimacy has taken a lifetime and continues to unfold. After over 30 years with someone, we are still revealing the deepest parts of ourselves and making discoveries, learning from each other, and doing the difficult work of vulnerability and compassion with each other.

[@cescacabello5476]

Totally agree with you. My partner and I have been together 26 years. We have 3 children, and the more we connect, talk and make time for each other, the better our relationship is intimately. We're both the happiest we've been all round.

[@oceanaleblanc6414]

@@cescacabello5476 I love that, so beautiful. I think it's so hard in these times for people to slow down and do the hard work of patiently learning how to be in relationship with each other. Over time beautiful things can unfold in relationships with willingness to connect with open hearts and also own our shadow aspects and do our own individual work. Thank you for sharing about your relationship.

[@cescacabello5476]

@@oceanaleblanc6414 ❤️

[@oldskool1977]

*I've been 100% totally voluntarily celebate for 10 years and counting, and feel absolutely amazing in my mid 40s!!! It's so much easier than you think. It's a total distraction that has instead been flipped upside-down & used for moulding myself into a much better, more lovable & more valuable human being!!!*

[@Love-eg2vf]

That combined with sexual transmutation (refraining from masturbation for a long period of time and re-channeling that energy into meditation) is one of the most underrated magic ability that most people will never try. Firstly, they think it’s too hard, or maybe they just don’t know about it. I got introduced to the idea of celibacy for spiritual mastery/growth after reading the legendary “Autobiography of a yogi”… and it’s been life transforming (this from someone who had already been on a spiritual path for years). I achieved more spiritual growth and transformation in two months than I had in the previous 12 years. The biggest lie that almost everyone believes in is that they need a partner, and that they need sex. The latter in my opinion should be like a rare thing you indulge in every once in a while, if at all. There is so much more to this earthly experience than we’ve been led to believe

[@branndymessier5081]

This sounds like chapter 11 of think & grow rich, sexual transmutation. Is that where you got the idea from or was it a surprise that it benefited you that in that way?

[@oldskool1977]

@@branndymessier5081 Nope, never read Think & Grow Rich in my life! I'm an Volcel (voluntary celibacy) by choice, and have never been happier or feel as great as I do in my mid 40s since 8 was in my mid 20s!!!

[@branndymessier5081]

You're a stronger man than me lol

[@oldskool1977]

@@branndymessier5081 @Branndy, you look like a woman, but in this day and age, I could be wrong! (God forbid!!) 😂

[@aimeechas]

I would never expect my partner to do crafts with me but they sure as hell better support my need to take the time to do them. I've always believed when you love someone you love seeing them get joy from doing something they love.

[@abcsofai]

1:21:38 4 Important decision that we get to make in life 1. How I feel about myself 2. What do I do to make Money 3. Who do I decide to love and choose to receive love from 4. How do I choose to served the world

[@EmeboFavour]

Thank you so much

[@larrycombs9446]

Thanks!

[@MrLelo337]

This CD has three separate relaxation/meditation sessions on it kzbin.infoUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq guided by a very pleasant and direct male voice. Unlike so many other products of its type, this CD does not have bad synthesizer music, does not feature a phony or affected style of narration, and does not make any bogus claims to be subliminal or to re-train the brain or any of that balderdash. What you get is 1. a guided meditation for getting into a pleasantly relaxed state of body awareness while taking a stroll (superb for those easing back into a fitness routine slowly after an illness or injury) 2. A nice long breath-awareness relaxation session that if followed diligently can put you into very deep states of full-body relaxation and mental calmness, and 3. a buddhist-inspired meditation session designed to help you develop and maintain feelings of loving kindness toward not just yourself and your friends, but toward people you don't even like. The CD makes no claims to be designed for advanced meditators or for buddhists or hindus/yoga practitioners looking for very deep and esoteric stuff. It is geared more toward the average person who just wants to develop the habit of relaxation and stress relief through natural, healthy means. him, if you happen to be reading this, keep up the good work fella, and I love your accent. I would also like to note that I have never fallen asleep while listening to this product. I would like to kindly suggest to the reviewer who said this CD makes him fall asleep, that he might want to get checked to see if he has a sleep disorder, or if he is simply not setting aside ample time for restful sleep at night. A healthy person getting adequate rest at night should be able to go into deep states of mental relaxation without dozing off, if not all the time, then most of the time.

[@atinukeladipo2164]

I just have to say it’s so nice to have this podcast in my life as I grow in my early adulthood years. These episodes really do put me in the right frame of mind The Diary Of A CEO is such a special thing. No one does it like Steven Bartlett. ❤

[@Iphie2019]

I am having the best relationship I have ever had cos we have true intimacy. We are open about everything and we share everything. Being vulnerable with the right person is everything. I truly enjoy this platform. Jay Shetty is truly awesome.

[@Rambofitness1006]

One of the most insightful podcasts I've ever listened to. Talking about topics that many of us shy away from, yet allows us to connect and observe what's being said. Thank you both!

[@heidiannette76]

This is one of those moments when I fell for the title but I ended up getting SO MUCH more. I am super excited to try a lot of what was spoken in all aspects of my lifestyle. THANK YOU !

[@BlindShepherd]

There is a difference between “doing what you love” and loving what you do. These two…growth…goals. Much love from TN!

[@smrda91]

This is just gold! Thank you so much Steven, for this, and every single other episode! Such connection, deepness and understanding of the crucial things that make life. Thank you for sharing these rich conversations and encounters with us, they really hold unmeasurable value and make a strong impact to the listener (at least for me). For most of your guests I have no clue to who they are (no matter how famous, so far I recognised only Stephen Fry), but I feel honored to get to enjoy their inner worlds and life lessons and experiences. This is as good as a therapy session. Thank you for existing, and for being your true self, hope you keep at it! 💜🍀

[@heidiwastweet3149]

That feeling of other people wanting you to fail is very corrosive. I have had my own experience this past year of having unfair criticism break down my self image and cause me to question my own reality. Thanks to Jay for talking publicly about that.

[@champagnebubbles7095]

I ❤this interview. I love the heart emanating from you both. God has created us unique. I am learning so much from this conversation. Not trying to be like another is beautiful. The world has enough copycats. I love how Jay is letting us know that everything in his life is a part of his journey throughout his life. Seeing things from his perspective, from his monk life hood,has actually made what he say more purer to the hearer. Blessings

[@user-eh9pp1ig1s]

I am blown away by this conversation. I stayed up late listening, because like a good book, I just couldn’t put it down. I love this conversation. Amazing & beautiful, both of you. This is my favorite topic!

[@adriandeleonguimaraes405]

Glad to hear that what me and my girlfriend challenge ourselves in our relationship really is the key to building one. Very comforting, constructive message. Thank you both!!!

[@kristinahalsall9104]

Honestly, I think this is by far my favourite episode. I'm actually going to watch this again at some point soon but I'm bringing a pen and paper because this was filled with absolute gems of knowledge. I would love to hear from more people like Jay, then again, Jay is one of a kind!

[@Insight.Served]

i have no idea how I've lived a life of watching and listening to podcasts without seeing your content. I love the cliffhanger style in the beginning of your videos. Looking forward to learning new things and reminded of teachings through your work.

[@Zeeeeeeeex]

I love your podcast and the consistency. You're apart of my daily regimen. I listen to these while I lift. Can't stand having music while I'm pumping. Thanks DOAC!

[@ceecee8757]

A part of, not apart of. Apart is to be separate.

[@alejandrapoch9338]

Thank you both for this great interview. I love Jay and his view on love and inner peace. I had teary eyes when he told about his seven days and the way he dealt with negative comments and distorted words. I experienced this as well when my dad got wrongfully arrested and everybody having an opinion about it in the media. I had to learn to always be true to myself. It broadened my perspective and I also found compassion for the opinions of others. It took me a while. Stephen, this is the first time I’ve seen you and you have a new subscriber!

[@p_nj]

This is pure gold. Not just Jay`s answers but the questions too! Thank you for this.

[@Nene-we7nb]

Thank you for your consistency. Your podcast has helped me along my self- love and growth journey. ❤️

[@91jagarcia]

WOW!!! The game of life pushes you back to deal with and face whatever it is that your trying to avoid. THIS HIT ME LIKE NOTHING IVE EVER HEARD FROM ANY VIDEO. 💯💯💯

[@itsjpercy]

I'm only 12 minutes into this video and I am stunned by the amount of thoughts Jay was able to put into words. Thoughts that I can relate to and can now share with my partner by knowing how to put them into words. Incredible piece

[@lindastorr1674]

Sometimes i think are education system needs updating to enable people to know thenselves.

[@MrsDunbarWright]

I really appreciate Jay Shetty's authenticity! You're a light in the darkness and a voice of reason. I appreciate you your wisdom helped me through struggles with loved one's and within myself. Keep shining!

[@Reemtawil_]

This conversation is everything we needed and more. Real, authentic, genuine. These are the types of conversations we need to be having with the people in our own worlds. Thank you for this 🙏🏼

[@JSWGREEK2023]

THEY TALK BUT THEY DON'T SAY ANYTHING!!

[@veronicastein7097]

Great interview! You both are fabulous, the timing couldn’t have been more perfect for where I am in my life. I paused the interview to order the audiobook (especially since it is narrated by Jay).

[@faisalahmad.3]

Ahh, the 8 rules of love - a book that's sure to fill my heart with warmth and inspiration. I can't wait to dive into its pages and explore the many facets of love, from its boundless beauty to its powerful ability to transform us from the inside out. With Jay Shetty's guidance, I'm sure I'll discover new insights and perspectives on this timeless topic, and maybe even find a few nuggets of wisdom that I can carry with me on my own journey of love. Here's to opening our hearts and minds to all the joys and wonders that love has to offer!

[@sachin.apureatma4903]

When we open ourselves up to love, we are able to heal the deepest wounds of our inner child. Having the intention to nurture your partners inner child and provide a safe space for them to heal is a truly magical thing.

[@ManosFeliceArt]

There is so much valuable wisdom shared in this episode that it's the first episode that I've saved to my favourites so I can watch it again!! The impact of what I've just listened to is so powerful that I know I'm going to have to watch it several times in order to absorb all that is shared. It's an area of my life (Love) that I've not been very successful with so although I feel I've done the work on myself, I'm confident that I could improve and especially if/when I find someone who is willing to embark on this journey too. Massive thanks to Jay for sharing his wisdom and for Steven & the team for their plight in helping all of us develop ourselves.

[@robertah2353]

Loved this! What Jay said about using things like money and looks to attract people, and then being solely valued for that, blew my mind. I’ll defo be purchasing his new book!

[@EmpathAwaken]

This is so good. I recently had the same experience about receiving words from someone and then going into the same experiences of believing it then questioning where it's coming from. Thank you!!

[@bibi3297]

What a gem of an exchange! Men receive so much hate and pressure (some earned, some not) but men like these 2 restore faith in what a person can become by working on themselves. The calmness and skills of the interviewer and the honesty of it all is refreshing. Our society certainly needs more men like you two. I just subscribed.

[@despinamallios7141]

I 1000% agree with you. Listening to this conversation gave me more hope that by working on my purpose, i will actually be able to attract the right man to love and who will truly love me. ❤

[@janetlsackey]

Wow! What an incredible conversation with the one and only Jay Shetty! This episode got deep and I really appreciated it. Can't wait to buy this book and experience his brilliance live.

[@DeannaCarter10]

Jay Shetty, honestly what a guy and what a great episode! This man is amazing, I love listening to him, he just gives such wonderful advice and inspiring words that you can’t not listen him haha! Hopefully I can get tickets to his tour 😄

[@crestarose]

Steven I’ve been with you since late 2021 and honestly I almost got emotional at your opening clip! You deserve every subscriber! Cheers to another year! ✨✨

[@savithawulff2128]

I absolutely valued the HONESTY, OPENESS and VULNERABILITY in these conversations. Steven you did an excellent job asking all those deep thought provoking questions which are generally spoken when the microphone is not there. @Jay - this is what makes him stand through these times - AUTHENTICITY and VULNERABILITY. I resonated with every little bit that Jay said and it comes from a deep place of wisdom and self knowing

[@cherylwilkinson92]

Thank you for this interview. In this social media, sound bite driven age, it's so refreshing so hear measured, thoughtful conversation of such high quality! Praying for your continued success.

[@mariewalton555]

Just love love love this combo of you two 😍your podcasts have literally been life changing for me in an extremely difficult year for me thank you 🙏🏻

[@kmarshall53]

I’m retired and single, just decided to get back out there and date. This podcast was so helpful! Jay is so insightful and you ask such deep questions - well done! ❤

[@Funplay02186]

Don't think we could get a better duo than these two right now ✨️definitely the two most influential people that have impacted my life these past 2 years in the most positive of ways!

[@JSWGREEK2023]

BULLSHIT, BOT!!

[@brentpeddy4223]

In my opinion, this is probably the best and most important conversation/podcast/video I've seen in the last decade. And I watch a lot of similar content. But this one I can watch over and over and grab deeper meaning. It's almost a meditative conversation that really makes you think about your own life experience and value in the world or even in your little part of the world and how other people perceive you and don't understand you. Jay hit on one universal concept early on which was that people just don't want you to succeed. It's threatening because it makes you evaluate your own successes and failures. Another concept that doesn't get enough attention is that we are living with expired ideas. And those ideas needs to get thrown out. Our thinking processes need an updated OS and to delete apps that are outdated. There's so much here but that's just one thought. Thank you guys for this gem! Cheers!

[@divyaganapathy2650]

Great podcast , thank you ! I feel all the criticism is just so harsh. Jay was a monk but now he is not. He has been kind enough to share his wisdom. People need to focus on learning rather than Jays personal success. Much love and more power to you Jay ! ❤

[@Keepsmilingboo]

I went from I love Jay Shetty to I freakin respect this guy so much! Thank you for sharing such real conversation

[@irinapopescu7328]

I love love the podcast, but I guess this is my favourite episode so far. Full of really good lessons I will keep in mind. I also got emotional at the end, cause I really felt was Jay was saying. Steve - genuine as always! This is what makes the series so successful, in my opinion. Congrats! 🤗

[@lindafinnegan1565]

Greetings from Dublin Ireland. This is my first time in my life ever leaving a comment on line . I must say your a brilliant interviewer and I tell so many people about your podcast. I’m a soul reader and can feel the way you move so softly around deep conversation. Your a soul talker . Much love , Linda ❤

[@ourhealingvoice]

I could listen to you chat together all day long...you just vibe off each other effortlessly ...love it ....active energetic consciousness... adding to all our thinking is where its at...truth truth truth and embracing it more and more openly ...

[@jisoo1571]

His take on celibacy in relationships is so interesting! I have also thought a lot about those kinds of studies, I don’t agree with waiting until marriage, but I do think statistically you’re better to wait as long as you can (plus as a woman you can weed out all the men only interested in ons).

[@bm5_5_5]

Yes I agree

[@spirituallysafe]

God in the Holy Bible states to wait until marriage. There is good reasoning - no promiscuity, no sexual jealously, no diseases, no unwanted pregnancy. God knows best, not us flawed humans.

[@futwi9362]

Amen to putting "watching TV together" to the bottom of the list. Such an insightful conversation! Thank you Jay and Steven!

[@oneloveonelove9983]

Two of my favourite people right now. I listen to both their podcasts and I can't get enough. You both inspire me.

[@desertgirldreamingofabeach]

Great interview. I should have pursued purpose before relationship. I sat sidelined supporting his dreams/aspirations thinking that's what I was supposed to do. While taking time to heal, I found my purpose. In finding purpose my heart is filled with joy. Singleness has given me freedom to find purpose and pursue dreams finding a way to serve others fills my heart with life that was missing me during our marriage. In putting relationship first, my heart was empty, though I loved him as he was. I lost myself and became a shell. I thought the breakup was the worst day. It's the day God stepped in and gave me life.

[@christinaeager4418]

You are overthinking too much

[@authenticstoriesoflife]

Always great and authentic work Steven, thank you for everything! ❤️

[@AmyPeacemaker]

You two are both great podcasters/interviewers/conversationalists/thinkers/speakers so I’m very glad and excited to watch this episode

[@LadyMul]

I thought the video was long but I was left wanting to hear more. My heart is full listening to these young men talk about metal and emotional health ❤🙏🏾

[@marilynvco]

This is one of my favorite podcasts! Thanks for sharing these conversations with the world.

[@juanyfuentes1178]

What a gem of an interview, of a person, of a duo!! I am so happy I came across this. Makes me that more excited to see Jay in Fort Lauderdale in March ❤

[@analeezadubay1531]

WOW. The vulnerability here is a powerful change maker. I honor the strength in the willingness to do so from you both.

[@miradigital2404]

this is the best podcast I've ever heard. I was actually working (and searching for answers and tips) about basically 80% of what you were talking about. Amazing!

[@miriamneuman2545]

Love this video at 52:52 onward! Amazing information from a person wise beyond his years. Worth listening to several times. The title is a bit of click bait especially when the 1st 52 mins doesn't answer what the title promises, perhaps discouraging listeners from watching further. I assure you, if you skip to 52:52,it is worth it.

[@LoveFitsAll]

The stuff on trying to not bring in baggage in your relationship is spot on. I have a lovely family and am trying to do step 2 again

[@DD14396]

Great one. The 2 hours flew by and so many important points! I appreciate the openness, honesty. Great questions and great responses! a perfect combination

[@user-tn9sl9lf7m]

Wow , so amazing to hear your thoughts at this time of your lives ... Jay shetty i love how you managed to get up and even go write a new book after all the negativity you were given, thank you for sharing such a vulnerable stage you went through... It just shows you how difficulties can transform us to become a better version of our selves... as i grow i notice how Im not the same person i was when i was 18 , 20 ,26 or 28... nothing defines me and i dont define nothing ,I grow and learn at each moment... also Steven its amazing to see you reach this stage with your difficulties ....

[@pumidukwe]

I thoroughly enjoyed this show and subscribed after watching this. The connection between the two of you made this episode so much more fun while touching highly serious topics. It was really interesting to find about the hours to spend with someone in order to classify them in a certain friend class. It made me realize why we are so close to our colleagues because we spend more awake time with them more than anyone else. All the best to both of you. Amazing podcast.❤😊

[@chiziyarawoka3413]

I absolutely loved this podcast, it gave me such a good vibe i can't even begin to explain how much. Thank you so much Steven.

[@rm6442]

One of the best interviews you have ever done. Thank you. Jay has infinite wisdom. I could listen to him for hours.

[@adinamalik8957]

You dared to ask very specific questions which made this interview as good as it is. Also being very vigilant to Jays answers and emotions is what makes you great at what you do. Truly enjoyed!

[@rehemaandeku3719]

Relationships is just that relational .. a joint effort to connect, communicate, develop & grow. The values & needs of both involved has to be considered. I have learned in my 17 year union that the most important question to ask self than the other is “what do you want?” … Also the idea of expanding the connection of the relationship in a non sexual way rather through experimenting, learning new exposures, and serving together sounds so powerful. This was a great conversation …

[@mzamoa.n.satsha2454]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@harvinderubhi5540]

What do I want? "contentment"....if it has to be with like minded company or alone does not matter. Albeit, good company is better...lends to good health And longevity !!

[@georgiec8643]

I’ve never heard Jay speak before and this conversation is a gift 💝 . Thank you 🙏

[@Nerdemocat]

Thank you for having the conversations that we all need, whether its learning from someone or feeling we can relate, much needed in the world to feel good within...😁

[@Paty19Rosa]

O-M-G WHAT WAS THAT INTERVIEW?? I Love everything Jay does and I've listened to so many interviews, but this was something else. I already wanted to read this book, now I definetly Will. I Just can't thank you enough Jay, to exist and to live your porpuse like you do. Lots of love from Brazil

[@carolinebitterly8973]

Two of my favorite public figures on a same podcast. Loved it, thankful for it 🙏🙌

[@shayar6486]

This episode was just so brilliant and humbling in so many ways. You two humans are just true to your souls and the authenticity and genuinity that flows through your chat is just amazing. I was hooked to listening to every word you guys spoke and even had to rewind parts of it cos I didn’t pay enough attention. It might be because I’m currently working on myself in many aspects spoken in the video or I want to do better and understand many aspects spoken. But despite all that, huge huge respect to both of you and my heartfelt gratitude for keeping such conversations up and also entertaining in a way for someone like me! Thank you again!❤

[@hellocuteface2584]

I love love LOVE all of these conversations. I’m always drawn in and learn something. Only 20mins in but deffo one of my favs

[@mariarigodanzo7594]

Can't stop listening to Jay., what a soul!!!

[@intaeducate9878]

This was a great conversation, so happy to see Jay back at the table. It has been beautiful to watch both Jay's and Steven's journey over the years. Praying for love and positivity Jay, hope all of those negative people don't bring you down or stress you, I see your heart

[@navmohindra579]

Honestly I don't know what to think of anymore.... still processing... utterly positive mind altering 2 hours well spent!!! 👍👍👍

[@musikkfamilien]

Thank you, you two! 👏👏 What a podcast! You, Steven, as an interviewer, and Jay to be opening up. Telling real life stories from this own life. Over the years I have followed a bit of Jay’s life, I am an admirer. The time spent as a monk. His reflections on life. Things. Other people. His insights. I would like to spend a week, day and night, meditating and listening, asking hundreds of questions. Be a better me. And learn from Jay. I am so sure I would. Both of you, thank you once more. Stay blessed and continue your journeys. You are in the right track. Greetings from Norway.

[@LydiaSmith-yx5jc]

So handsome

[@sALah1550]

1:43:30 “self worth and self value comes from recognising the hardship and challenges you’ve been through and the growth you can show for it”. this is the evidence we can create to give ourselves self worth

[@High-Vibrational-Alignment]

Jay Is such an authentic soul and people get jealous when they see people shine. But once they read your book then maybe they can open their hearts. Keep on spreading the light 💡. Excellent and vulnerable interview. 🎉

[@divinecode369]

I only watch authentic and people who i feel are more spiritually aligned! So thank you for being!

[@agnivaray7476]

The very best of speakers consistently! This is the next huge thing, it’s already big!

[@73PaulaPage]

I love your podcast and your guests are excellent. Your communication, interviewing style and listening skills are exceptional .excellent. Thank you!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thank you! Glad you're enjoying the episodes

[@TheDanpatdoy]

Agreed, yet this guest doesn't seem genuine to me

[@suesaur]

I am Christian, not Hindu, but Jay's commitment to true compassion and love, to self- reflection and humility are hallmarks of Christianity , yet so many of us side step the work those values demand. I love the hierarchy of time spent with your loved one(s). We are encouraging a deeper mission mindset in our church members. The concept of serving (others) together as a way toward deeper vulnerability and relationship with each other is exactly what we are trying to express. I am encouraged.

[@jennifercash1093]

a lot of this conversation really strikes a chord, but the idea of doing the hard work on your self before knowing true self worth really choked me up with how hard it hit.

[@TheBella2u]

Such a lovely open person. I’ve watched video’s of Jay and his wife who is also a lovely person. We need more like him. Hate that people have made him feel bad.

[@dc5372]

Great interview!! ❤❤ I’ve just started watching podcast interviews and Diary of a CEO is my favorite. You ask the questions we all want to know. And even the ones we didn’t realize we wanted to know. Love these 😊

[@LydiaSmith-yx5jc]

So handsome