BIPOLAR DISORDER: Mother & Son Interview

[@tandembike2253]

Your mom’s perspective on allowing you to be a separate person, and not casting judgment, is a big reminder to me to do the same when it comes to my husband who suffers from bipolar. This is a huge take away. Thank you

[@dianethomas5835]

This was my big take away from this video too!! I’m so grateful to have heard this advice!

[@elscollignon3428]

❤

[@forest1butterfly]

Agree!

[@joleneterkla2262]

I NEEDED THIS VIDEO SO BADLY. Thank you Rob. For everything you selflessly do.

[@puppetproblems2935]

Me, too! You two have saved my heart today.

[@josmith8946]

Thank you both so much for making this video. It is helping me through the most recent, painful, interaction I am having with my 39 year old son. In the past year or so, we have entered into some new territory in our relationship and in the bipolar journey. The past few days have been especially difficult because he has decided that all of his issues are because of how I raised him. He is convinced that his life is a mess solely due to his upbringing and, for the second time in the past 13 months, he has decided he no longer wants to have any communication with me and has instructed me not to contact him ever again. Your mom’s advice about letting ago is the most important reminder that there is nothing I can do to help him- he is the only person who can figure out how to ease his suffering, his pain and his isolation. After watching your video I sent him one last text that said I respect his decision and trust his judgement. He will never be far from the center of my being. I will always be just a text message or a phone call or an email away, if he should want to ever get in touch with me again. Thank you so much for creating this channel. Your mom has said how proud she is of what you have accomplished and I want to add my admiration and gratitude as well.

[@PolarWarriors]

Hi Jo! Thank you so much for sharing your story, it is very touching. I also wanted to share this lecture with you from a gentleman who felt helpless watching his daughter dying of anorexia. There is a part two that would be linked. Take gentle care Jo. kzbin.info/www/bejne/aILGq2V5jZyHd9E Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member Rob: I really need your help to keep a good thing going here... PLEASE consider supporting Polar Warriors work on Patreon. Even just $1 a month makes a huge difference. Thank you so much

[@karennichol7455]

Hang in there Jo, I’m sure that in time your son will come back to you. I truly think that once your son educates himself more on bipolar, he can then accept and own his bipolar. When my son was first diagnosed at 26 years old, He is now 30 years old. I felt horrible, all I could think was why? Did I do something to cause this when he away growing up, was it my fault? I was waiting for my son in the waiting room of our family doctor’s office. I asked the receptionist if I could speak to our doctor afterwards. I said to him, did I do anything to cause this, AND, he basically stopped me in my tracts and said, don’t go there! you did nothing wrong, it’s a chemical imbalance. Well that made me feel so much better and I did take heed. After listening to this video Mum and Son, I know to let him be but I just send texts to check in with him and when he is ready, he phones me or I phone him when it feels right. Education is the best thing. The Polar Warriors is so very helpful and I know you feel the same. I wish you every success in your’s and your sons journey.😊

[@elizabethyoung4207]

Hang in there, sweetheart

[@BadmamajamaC]

You ARE NOT ALONE!! I can totally relate!! Without saying more, your son must love you very much. Your son knows you love him too!!

[@tashacook2451]

I feel so sorry for the drama and craziness I put my Mom through. I can never repay her for her unconditional love... My Daddy too.

[@rmorph33]

No shit, it's so gnarly stepping back and observing the past....I could have never made it though this shif without my Mom. I gotta long way to, send good energy my way, I'm sounding to you!!!!

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

This comes to my 2nd wife, who recently divorced me because i feel it was my fault, 72 and lonely, i got my faith holding me together. This video is a God send.

[@miriammatosmatos1778]

I love how your mother states the facts and tells things without letting her emotions (that surely are attached to her answers) take over. It's refreshing and reassuring to hear her talk about all the things she has gone thru with such calm and control. The concept of letting go...uff! How did she achieve that? Time? Education? Experiences? My son is in his early twenties and this journey of bipolar disorder has been extenuating and difficult. I hear your story and realize we are more or less in the same stage you were then. But, he has not been able to study or work after high school, can't live on his own ($$), and like you, Rob, has reacted to all medications. I see him going down hill fast and want to do something, but can't because he is an adult and I respect his decisions. Still, it is a struggle and any suggestion about what to do is greatly appreciated. I can't finish with out thanking your mother for coming in front of the camera. I rarely hear or see the mother's (or any family member, for that matter) perspective in the process and I think it is badly needed. This disease affects the whole family and hearing them helps us too. Will your siblings be willing to do a video? It is another component that needs to be address and there there is so little information. Again, thank you for all that you do!

[@MzFinnchik]

Sending you my prayers and BIG virtual hug...still there myself Stay Safe and God Bless

[@junebug5922]

Similar story here. It is soooo hard and heartbreaking.

[@OLGALAZINDr]

Lovely listening to you both. I actually did set up my own channel, and I advocate mental health. You are amazingly straightforward. I author books, 12 to date, and use writing as a Therapeutix for IT. Love you much, Rob!

[@charlenereece4231]

❤

[@NurturingFlowers]

Yes I was thinking about the siblings as well, thank you so much to both of you! My bestest friend seems to be in the period of those 20's as well. Her mom and I try to support eachother through it but we are struggling. This is really healing because like you mentioned in another video, this disease tends to impact those closest to them. And I know I'm not her mom or her blood family but she is my best friend and is so worth fighting for. But in these states we can only make educated guesses so thank you for selflessly committing to educating

[@ConoceUnAngel]

Wow this is a masterpiece, I love this interview so much ❤️ love you both

[@cassandraschmitz9627]

Masterpiece is word

[@danamichelle6633]

I am the mother of a 19 yr old son with bi polar who has really messed up his life. Its been a very very difficult road.

[@brokebishboutique79]

Omg.. I'm so happy to see this me and my son are currently going through this. It's so rough. Thank you for putting this out there you have no idea how much you are helping those who are on the front lines. ❤

[@brokebishboutique79]

@@annfrost3323 oh no your opinion means so much to me whatever will I do? 🙄

[@momcquinn]

I'm about 20 minutes into it so far and I just had to stop and say thank you to you and your mom for sharing all of your experiences with Bipolar 1. I was diagnosed with Bipolar 1 (rapid cycle and mixed state) when I was 27, even though I had been dealing with it for at least 8 years prior. My mom and I are close but I don't discuss a lot of it. My son is now 13 and exhibiting some of the symptoms I've gone through in the beginning. I think now, between reading, therapy/medication, researching other people's experiences and your channel, I'm in a much better place to help my son deal with everything when he's ready. Whether or not he is diagnosed bipolar or something else, I'm ready. Thank you ❤️🙏

[@margrietbrandsma000]

Beautiful. Thank you !

[@cookielove9310]

Praying for the very best for your whole family😘 bipolar mixed here🙏

[@momcquinn]

@@cookielove9310 sending love and prayers your way 💙

[@robertgarrett9503]

I'm Bipolar 1 with rapid cycle. this video was like watching me and my Mom. This Channel is Therapeutic for me and I want to thank you for your effort in producing this content. Yer Awesome!

[@danamichelle6633]

I am a mother of a 20 yr old son who was diagnosed last summer when he was 19 and completely out of control. I too had to get help to get him into the hospital and stood before a judge to get that order. I could identify with almost every single thing your mom went through. I too felt like a failure as a mother. Got blamed for divorcing his dad. Blamed for everything. The estrangement periods. The episodes, name calling. I have been spit at. Then he got into scary drugs and went completely out of control. Posting crazy rants on social media. Very quick to anger. The reckless lifestyle. Then trouble with the law. Even with that diagnosis almost a year ago, it was only until recently that it really registered that all this crazy behaviour is the illness. I have never been more stressed in all my life. And I have never given up on him. Thanks for this video!

[@tracyjohnson3496]

MY 40 YR OLD DAUGHTER TOO!!! SHE'S AN ABSOLUTE NIGHTMARE!!! I'VE HAD TO CALL THE POLICE ON HER SEVERAL TIMES! SHE'S IN COMPLETE DENIAL OF HER CONDITION! I She's INCREDIBLY aggressive. Violently explosive. I don't feel safe around her! I'm TIRED of the abusive behavior. t's come to the point that I want nothing to do with her anymore.

[@sandraagonoy8993]

My son started his bipolar episodes 1.5 yrs ago. My ex, his dad is bipolar. So many parallels and so comforting to hear your journey as my son and I are going through it now. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this channel and for this Q&A. It is really helpful. I promise to one day help others as you are doing today, but for now I want to get through this journey with my son. Hugs!

[@harrismanitsoudis8931]

Amazing video,amazing mother with patience and endless love for her son.Rob's been really lucky to have such a lovable mother.This is actually helpful video for other families who deal with the same mental problems.God bless both of you.

[@tracybarry3871]

Your mom’s journey parallels my journey. My son has not been diagnosed. I have suspected for quite sometime. Thank you so much for sharing. The serenity prayer definitely is helpful.

[@kgill8485]

Your mom seems like an incredible person. I still struggle even though my kids are grown. I tend to give them room to grow without interfering but I still worry so much at times. Thanks to you both for sharing part of your story.

[@oanaconstanta]

Yes, it’s complicated.. but when I see people like you who keeps their optimism and help so many of us I’m less afraid. Thank you! Sending lots of love and light your way✨💖✨ from Romania

[@davemclelland9292]

So many parallels..... Such a long and continuing journey......we were lucky to find the right phyciatrist. And my son wanted to understand what was happening to him .....Unconditional love is needed......When he got his diagnosis I remember the Dr. saying..."This is only the beginning, .....this is not something that will just go away.....there will be many challenges...." Like your Mom explained so well..... So many are on the streets....with no support that is a reality that happens so often... So good You and Her (and others) didn't give up.......We didn't either......

[@lesterlasa3367]

Have to finish watching this beauty later but so far I can relate 100 percent thank you so much I do take meds but my doctor thank god does therapy not just meds very important I think

[@TheHoodo]

Thank you and your mom soo much for sharing this 💗 I am kind of struggling with my mom, i have bp2 rapid cycling and my mom has bp1. The problem is that she dont understand why am hiding my self and dont answer phone or sms when am down and even when i am up because i dont have time to listen to her problems... I was diagnose in early 30 and i was grareful that my mom had the same diagnose because i know we understand eachother, that was wrong in many times.. Okay enough of me 😄 Thank's again and keep up the good work 💗💪 Greetings from Norway

[@grandmasshow3528]

My son is in his early forties. And I can relate so much with your story with your mom. Still a struggle and not sure what to do.

[@lambd01d]

Your mother seems so level-headed and understanding. My mum is similar(although she found it really hard to cope with me when i first became psychotic), but my dad can be hard work trying to get him to understand me.

[@vezinam58]

Rob, and Sandie, it truly warms my heart to see how together through the love, and commitment of a Mother you both made it through some very difficult times. GOD BLESS you both, and may you continue to find much peace, and balance in your lives. Also may you continue to help others in their journey through life with Bipolar. 🙏❤️

[@PolarWarriors]

Mark Vezina Wow! Thank you for such a wonderful comment my friend! ❤️🙏☀️☀️

[@cynthiaharris5524]

@@PolarWarriors 01/26/2024 I love you both for this honest time you shared with us. Just listening to the two of you was very helpful. Thank you for suggesting I view this helpful film. Letting Go is so important for both. The love is still there even with the "Blame". I try not worry however... I am so grateful when my Bipolar Son takes control of his medicine, his life. i have been able to NOT be the medicine police.

[@nancypolli]

Thank you both. As a mother of a bi-polar son in denial, this was so hopeful for me.

[@PolarWarriors]

Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. For the month of July he is offering free phone calls to patrons. Another Patreon exclusive is Rob hosting and moderating weekly support groups on discord! Take gentle care! 🙏 Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

[@kindachill]

God she’s incredible and intelligent... I need my parents to be like this

[@monicaj3023]

As a mother of a child (23) with sz bipolar this was so nice to meet your mom. I related to her. Thank you for sharing her and please, thank her for sharing her story. Caregivers need more of a voice.

[@shantelwoods9064]

My father was bi-polar and I was diagnosed, it is heriditary.

[@tomcleverley18]

It may have a much higher incidence among families that have it, or chemical imbalances. That said, it will not help you to blame yourself and or your relatives for your illness. Those of us who suffer from BP or chemical imbalances, take the best care of ourselves as we can. Eat healthy, exercise, get proper rest, try to be the best person we can be, especially when we are healthy, so we might have a circle of friends to help us when we are unwell.

[@christyler373]

yes i think so my mum had it all her life from england

[@av201]

Thank you so much for this video!

[@rroman2752]

This is so serious, but I had to laugh on the "BOOK BURNING PARTY"

[@lulalive5331]

My husband is Bipolar and I know it’s haven’t been easy for his mom or him. Both of you are warriors!! I love my husband, it is NOT easy... never. But I’m in love with his heart and trust me I know what your mom says about unconditional love and not judging.... Ilove him and celebrate each day he’s with me and alive. ☺️😍 Hugs and my respect for your mom. She is a beautiful person. Omg Rob she really loves you!! You should be proud of her.

[@miriamc3836]

Hi lula. How old are you? How long have you been married to your husband? I am in a relationship with a bipolar too...

[@cookielove9310]

My Mom, God Rest her Soul, was a great listener. I would hold all my feels until I got home and I would talk her ear off til I was tired. Mom didn't know that I was different, just me.

[@bedskinstruckbedcovers3846]

I love your mama. Like her I have children, wonderful, brilliant children who are sick. It's been a terribly wonderful life. So we keep learning and becoming. That's what God's name means; causes to become. Jehovah. Iam grateful.

[@terriwhipple4561]

Thank you for using God’s name!!!! So important!! If you want help, ask him..Most people don’t how

[@oosmama]

Your mom is awesome! I think showing her answering these questions is brilliant on both your parts! Her development of mindfulness, her ability to let go of judgments about you, of learning to let go and respecting your autonomy. Amazing journey.

[@PolarWarriors]

I totally agree! Thank you so much!

[@joanncoopertroupe3506]

Hi Rob. I watch your Channel.. Your Moms Great!! Mental Illness Runs Deep in my Family!! I am 2023 age 65.. I am oldest of Moms 6 Kids..we had. Our Brother Bobby Kill himself in New Your City,In 1993..I now see Bobby was Bi polar..i have. Got so many titles in my life..with mental Disorders. THANK YOU ROB FOR what you do . I do wonder what's the difference of Bi -polar then Bi polar 1 and Bi -Polar 2?.Ty Rob. I have Failed Badly with Depression meds through the years..Thank God i. Do Pray , i have a strong believe in God.. i had a Time. Of my own. My Mom was not fun. I could never gold a Job. At all.i havremany lost years of bo Ss Credits. I raised 2 Kids a daughter and a Son. I stayed in Two abusive marriages to raise my 2 kids.. My own daughters 47 she Struggles with Mental Health. Things..I see things with my Son Who is age 43..2 different marriages. My sons Dad i was married 20 years too. I was married to my Daughters Daddy 3 years i was age 16-19.I bow this time in my life been married 24 years.. i still Struggle. To a degree. God bless you Rob and God Bless you Rob!! i do help my husband 3 days a week do Commercial Janitorial.. i do okay as long as i. Do this work with my Husband.. i hope in a year or So i can give up the far dealership on weds and Saturdays.. we clean a small cement plant on Fridays. I enjoy that job.we had that one 6 years car dealership a few years..we do evening Cleaning in the Places we Clean.I have been through a lots in my Life time.. i had horrible Sexual Trauma at age 6 then sexual Trauma by my Grandfather from 9-11.. i was overly protective as a Parent after what i had been Through..😊😊😊😊😊😊❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@libraric7212]

Me and my little sister might both be Bipolar, we are currently unsure. But I'm glad I've found your channel to show my family. My mom is Bipolar and my grandma worked herself tirelessly trying to help my mom before having resources like this. Even if I'm not Bipolar (I'm talking to my therapist and psychiatrist about it and consulting my mom about my behavior), I want to help my little sister and understand my mom as best as I can. My mom had a good portion of her life screwed over because she wasn't diagnosed until I was a toddler/ my little sister was born. I don't want to be like her (I love her but I don't want to live like that) and I don't want my little sister having to deal with all of that. Thank you for making this content.

[@margrietbrandsma000]

You both are true warriors and hero's. Thank you for doing what you are doing and sharing it with so many who need this !!! Yes, boundaries build from the understanding of true unconditional love for everyone involved. Thank you Sandie !!! Big hug dear mum !!!

[@jeanettet7123]

I absolutely adore your mother! My parents did not know how to be supportive when it came to my bipolar. They come from a background where mental illness was either lack of spirituality or a weak mindedness (what the heck is that anyway). I somehow made it through high school , college, and I am now married to a wonderful, caring man. I’m so glad that you had a mother that loved you unconditionally, but also gave you space and a chance to grow into accountability. It’s made you who you are. You both are amazing!

[@lyetaherb4703]

Jewel Darling your parents raised u with what they knew. As you now know there is no hand book for parenting. Every Child is different each born with their own energy and soul. Forgiveness is the key to Love and Happiness. Are you truly happy? Because surely feel a very strong shakiness about love for your parents. As if they didn't Love you. I get a real strong feeling of distrust from reading your comment.. Sis Raising a Bi polar cold AIN'T NO PICNIC. So do try and see the other side. My child was highly depressed, destructive and truly mean in her thinking and actions. Along with never wanting to take responsibility for her actions. Everybody comes from different up beginnings and upbringings. So I think u may need to consider forgiveness especially if your family has not been educated on bipolar disorder. This education on bipolar disorder opens closed doors in families. I know that you love your parents. Try to search your heart to forgive them. You would not be here to speak or breath or look at your husband or children if they did not give you passage into this lifetime. Be Thankful. Also to BREAK DOWN BARRIERS is to BUILD UP LOVE!!! FORWARD FOREVER!!! BACKWARDS NEVER!!!✌🏾💚💨☀️💦💚🌹🌿🌈🔥🙏🏾PURIFICATION TIME SIS🙌🏾 There is light on the end of the rainbow. Keep Yah Head Up!!

[@jeanettet7123]

@@lyetaherb4703 My sweetest Lyeta. You make too many assumptions and you have no idea of the family dynamics I grew up in. My Bipolar presented itself in my late 20s. As a child, I was constantly trying to be invisible so that my mother wouldn’t target me with her anger. I was not disrespectful nor was I insidious towards her. I’ve been through therapy and have had to create boundaries in my adulthood when it comes to my parents and that’s okay. I am in a much better place. And yes, I am HAPPY because I’ve done the work. My parents are still closed-minded. It makes me wonder how that is still the case with all the wonderful resources that we have now. That’s not my responsibility. I’ve chosen to find peace and joy in life as it is now. I’m thankful for every day, truly a gift. You do you, my lady. Wish you the best.

[@happyzombiikitti]

@@jeanettet7123 my partner has type 1 rapid cycling bipolar and I have bipolar 2 with mostly depressive episodes. Some may look at our relationship and say it’s too dangerous, risky, or exhausting, but I’ve been through the ringer of the mental health care system (over 6 hospitalizations in my youth-young adult life) now approaching my early 30’s, I am finally stabilized and implemented medication/spirituality/therapy/recreational sports into my lifestyle for my mental wellness. My partner is aware of his bipolar, but is very isolated with getting treatment/asking for help. Unfortunately, I have had to make those police phone calls for involuntary psychiatric hold. I’ve had to hold him tightly as he screamed into my chest, telling me he’s scared. I’ve had to dash things thrown around the house. I want to iterate that it’s not that not everyone has support from loved ones, but to those that decided to care for our bipolar loved ones, we have to take care of ourselves while also watching over them..please take time for self care and finding your own healing as well.

[@visionvixxen]

@@jeanettet7123agreed… the comments above , no offense to them, but was kind of more of the same that is something you needed to get away from and slowly affirm yourself… you stood strong and graceful in this. Just reading it made me feel confused and suffering from punitive guilt instead of acknowledging my truth. Starting from acknowledging your truth is a safe and healthy place that eventually heals all. The opposite is kind of enabling. 🙏

[@visionvixxen]

How much lamotrigine for depressive type 2 or rapid cycling? I have add pretty sure asd and diagnosed dysphoria which later became bipolar 2. I was on lamotrigine 200 for a while and Wellbutrin 150…. Then switched to vyvanse 20 instead of Wellbutrin1 and lamptrigine same… a lot has changed since COVID- and I’ve never gotten a groove back. Wondering if I’m just burnt out on stimulants or if I need to up my lamotrigine . Really confusing

[@markshelton5321]

Great themes here: not taking things personally, not making assumptions, persistence... amazing life skills developed from learning how to cope with your disease process.

[@jean6061]

Oh, I love this - I think more "Mom and Rob" videos would be greatly appreciated! Rob, thank you for mentioning the problems you had with medication side effects. I have adverse side effects to 6 medications (not all psych meds) and I'm waiting to hear from my psychiatrist's office about one of the meds I'm on now. It's a new one for me, and I believe it'll be the seventh to cause adverse side effects in me.

[@lyetaherb4703]

Sorry u have to go through having meds tried out on you. Tyne structures not being sure is a roller coaster bumpy ass ride. Sounds dreadful just trying to figure out the right medication for an individual's symptoms.

[@Unicorn-if4kx]

Hey, I throughly enjoyed this interaction between you and your mum. I wondered any chance do you have Q&A between you and your partner please?

[@rroman2752]

I would give this mom a medal or a trophy. She is unmoved after going through so much stuff!

[@thehighpriestess8431]

Rob is pretty awesome too. He is smart AF

[@saramcnamara9693]

@@thehighpriestess8431 mother and son are very articulate and self aware ❤️

[@borges1016]

This is amazing! Your Mom is so lovely and loves you so much, you are so blessed to have her support and unconditional love in your life. ❤🙏

[@PolarWarriors]

I totally agree! Thank you Eddie!

[@PolarWarriors]

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[@christyler373]

thanks team warriors 2020

[@barbramarshall5366]

Awesome I need this one

[@dorcasking5196]

Great 👍answers 👏 mon

[@meganlovesdisneyandcrafts4780]

😳...... this mirrors my relationship with my mom. Only 8 minutes in and may have to finish later, but It’s lovely meeting “mum” and Rob proud of you for accepting things and hearing things that happened. 👏💪

[@trasigtbanan]

I was recently diagnosed with bipolar type 2. It has been a hell of a journey with different doctors who diagnosed me with various depressions and anxiety over the years! I thought I was healthy until I crashed every time. I recently separated from my husband and then hypomania started worse than ever. I worked full time and accepted all extra jobs. I slept for 1-2 hours a night but still felt so motivated to press on! In the end, I agreed to meet the doctor even though I did not want to. Then the doctor noticed my hypomania and sent me to a specialist. I crashed hard after the episode of hypomania. I lay in bed all day and could not do anything for a month. Now that I have regular contact with my doctor I have started working part time again but it is really hard some days. I have a hard time taking my medicine because I don't always feel sick and I haven't really grasped it yet. I'm glad I found this channel, hopefully it can help me understand my symptoms better! Sending love to all Polar warriors out there!

[@millstreetteut7835]

Hi , I hope you dont mind writing you. I have also bipo 2 and i mainly suffer from depression. I took Venlafaxin for 15 years and have a hard time coming off of Effexor . Now im terrified of meds after the experience with Effexor. Did you find a med combination that works? All the best ❤

[@trasigtbanan]

@@millstreetteut7835 Hey! I do not mind at all! I am also terrified of medications, there is a jungle of different medications on the market. The one that has worked best for me is Lamotrigine. It helps with depression and stabilizes mood swings. The downside is that it does not help with hypomania but I have more depressive episodes than hypomanic episodes. We must not forget that all medicines work differently for everyone. Lamotrigine is positive for me because it does not have many side effects on me. Hope you find something that works for you, take care of yourself!

[@cookielove9310]

@@millstreetteut7835 Hi you are amazing. I've found for me looking back on all the different meds. We are different. Wishing the very best.☺

[@jaysunsandnorcal5555]

Hey bud. I'm glad to see your doing so great now. I work with foster kids with severe MH issues and was looking up bi polar psychosis and found these. Thanks so much for being a peer support.

[@doloresdallas6633]

Thank you for sharing this video. Very helpful.

[@jmcfarlane9626]

thankyou so much for doing what you do clicking on this channel has changed my life !

[@HP-hz5ns]

I had to involuntary admit my nephew aged 26 into hospital as he was psychotic recently. I only have phone contact with him currently & he shouts abuse cursing me for putting him there, he can't see he needs care & support and denies there's anything wrong with him. I'm frightened for him, that he'll be released & relapse. I'm finding it difficult getting the right support for him as well, the stigma associated with mental health is so damaging to the people suffering from it, this needs to change. From my experience thus far mental health in Australia is so badly managed. As a carer that has so far been in contact with 5 different health professionals I've not received one ounze of support! I've had to navigate getting help for him totally on my own, seeing him self distruct with alcohol & drugs, & the trail of distruction left behind that needs to be amended & worrying if he'll self harm has been exhausting, & soul crushing! I don't how to reach out to him so thst he can start to care for himself and get better, pray for him 🙏

[@kimrogers9903]

I totally relate to you. I will pray for you both.

[@carris3ringcircus390]

Me as a Mom with BiPolar 2.. I'm Terrified that one of my kids will end up like this. 😥

[@nanadoodlez4209]

Wow! I sure needed to hear this video right now. I too have a son in his 40’s. He only calls when he is sad & lonely. I’m glad your mom assured me that just listening is all I can do & letting him know I love him. He lives 1000 miles away and doesn’t embrace his diagnosis. So I don’t even know whether he takes any medication. My oldest son committed suicide 8 years ago when he was 37. I know he suffered with depression and self-medicated with alcohol and drugs. He was experiencing withdrawal when he shot himself. I’ve had a lot of counseling to get through and my marriage has survived. It’s very hard to maintain a level of peace & serenity when your children are suffering and you are absolutely helpless.

[@visionvixxen]

Praying for you all🙏🙏🙏

[@tomcleverley18]

Again Robert, thank you for your time and the helpful information. To your mum, thanks to you as well.

[@kayspitzner3229]

I am relating as a mom to everything you are saying. My son is 42...20+ years ago there were few resources...and, even the pros weren't as helpful...the research has started to catch up and access to pros, like you two, are out here and helping families. Thank you. I can't begin to tell you what a gift this is...

[@sonyamalinkapersson9433]

this, i found to be a very interesting episode. what i found most interesting of absolutely everything, is the way your mother has looked out for you - in what seems to be the same way my dad's looked out for me, my entire life. it's not particularily flattering for the parent, because at least in my experience, it means that what they're telling you is "you're nothing but a small child, you haven't grown up, you can't make any life decisions for yourself so i have to do it for you" - it's very patronizing, and quite rude. i'm glad to see that your mother realized what needed to be done instead. in my case, my dad realized the same (i think, at least he pointed in that direction) about a year or so before he died. i don't want him dead, but with him being gone, i have no choice but to be responsible, make (hopefully) good life choices etc. it was very interesting to see/hear. thank you for letting us in, to one part of your life. :)

[@anneugartechea7650]

Thank you both. This has to be the best of your videos. Getting a dx late in life and not being able to communicate with one or both parents is hell. Listening to family x is an excellent way to see if there were possible hints of bipolar. Considering my parents, grandfather on my mother’s side etc., the “aha” moments have popped up. I hope this video gets mainstreamed into psychiatry programs. It is rare for the communication you and your Mom have. Well done to you both.

[@ottoerickson4736]

Extremely moving........and very educational

[@cassiecampbell2017]

"I couldn't take any responsibility" ---> me, thinking about last week when I backed up into my mom's car and tried to blame it on her

[@bethhall8924]

This has been incredible. My family has bipolar in it..son,, 53 and daughter..must be my fault..

[@bethhall8924]

Thank you for going through 27 questions. As mom, I am glad your mum could be here with you. Unconditional love ..tough love is tough right now.

[@annalenaclausen]

Keep up the good work! :)

[@dananeville9165]

I am so glad for this channel. I finally feel like I am not alone. Thank you.

[@PolarWarriors]

You ARE not alone! I'm glad you found us Dana!

[@helenacernadas9339]

So moving and totally from the rhe heart. I think, Rob, your channel is changing my perception of bipolar and understand so much that's happened throughout my life. Your mother is so much like mine thankfully. And you, please, thank you, for being you.

[@Smashley18]

Thank you! These videos have helped me understand my illness and has brought on greater understanding what kind of coping mechanisms to substitute the unhealthy coping mechanisms ❤️

[@staceyd2382]

Your mum is also a warrior! You 2 absolutely inspire me to keep going. I need help, dying for it, and this has helped. Thank you both xo

[@adamquinn4677]

Thanks mans for your story i still dont talk to my mother its sad i just started depakote 2 weeks not even so not feeling it yet i need to stick to it thanks for the courage you have to speak out your life

[@jrmhrpr]

I can't thank you enough for this video and all the others. My brother has been diagnosed with bipolar 2 but we are not sure it is the end of all answers at this point. We are in the depths of it right now with him in jail. I so wish I could get him to watch this channel but just like your symptoms, he doesn't want to accept help if he doesn't find it himself.

[@ashleyrose2531]

Me and my mom arent talking at the moment i wish i could get myself together enough so we could be like u and ur mom are now.

[@jerilyndenson9492]

You could do that, you just have to make the first step, and say hello to your mom, and then your mom will do likewise, and she will love you for it!

[@carmennunez2400]

Please fix that as soon as you can. Life is so short. Good luck

[@Bilove863]

Aww this is such a good and sweet video! Congrats for making it!!!

[@mysterygirl5291]

I so enjoyed this video! It was very nice to hear your mother’s perspective. I am dealing with bipolar in my life and can so relate to your mother. Thank you for having her answer questions so that we may learn some things. Your doing such an awesome job with you channel! I look forward to much more...

[@omkarasatori]

Wow this is such a good interview and sharing session! Well done Rob! It’s been fascinating to take in all that you have shared so openly. Helps me understand a few of my friends better. Congratulations! You are so inspiring! ✨

[@shannongoad4964]

Thank you so much for this video,your mom is a beautiful person

[@PolarWarriors]

You are so kind

[@shannongoad4964]

@@PolarWarriors Thank you :)

[@beatrizfallis1694]

Thank you so so much for this channel and all the information you are sharing with all of us. It is so helpful and also inspiring.

[@PolarWarriors]

Thank you so much!

[@Laststopny2741]

I just discovered this channel recently and it has been educational and inspiring. i am also the mom of a son with Bipolar disorder, type 1 and can relate to a lot of what you and your mom talked about. My son is 25 and was diagnosed at 20 when the Lexapro he was prescribed for depression sent him into his first full blown manic episode and hospitalization. I remember being terrified that the person he became during that episode would take the place of who I knew my son to be. Thank God that was not the case. It has been a very difficult process of acceptance and finding the right treatment. He has come a long way but there is still much work to be done (for both of us). I am working on letting go, as difficult as that is. Watching this video with you and your mom has given me a lot of hope! Thank you!

[@carmennunez2400]

Mom and son beautiful inside and out. God bless your hearts💕

[@angelabarrera24]

You're so lucky to have a mom who cares about you. My 1st bipolar episode was triggered when I was 12. I knew something was wrong with me and tried to ask for help. My mom told me to get over what I was feeling and never got me help. I turned 40 yesterday, and to this day, my mom still lives in denial that I have a mental illness. She has actually tried to keep me from taking my meds and getting any kind of help. I had to cut her out of my life and I haven't spoken to her in 10 yrs.

[@mmacdonald10261]

I am echoing this message. I feel the same degree of pain.

[@angelabarrera24]

@@mmacdonald10261 I'm sorry you have to feel it too. 😢

[@Lindasromperroom]

Angel I feel for you. My mom doesn’t try to understand. She just points out all my flaws. I have had to remove her from my life.

[@shawnd7669]

My mom denies there is any mental illness in our family. It is very difficult. Your mom is such a great person for wanting to learn and make things better between you.

[@PolarWarriors]

My family is in denial as well, I hear you! Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member Rob: I really need your help to keep a good thing going here... PLEASE consider supporting Polar Warriors work on Patreon. Even just $1 a month makes a huge difference. Thank you so much

[@laurawilliams4507]

Only recently have I come to acknowledge my daughter's bipolar diagnosis, and only because of a recent manic episode. I see it now, but it's taken literally years. Have faith & try your best to keep open, non-judgmental communication.

[@carolannechebarria6629]

Unconditional love, thank you Sandie, had it not been for your devotion for your son we wouldn't have him here helping all of us who have loved one to either deal with it or are dealing with it thank you so much Rob has helped out more than he will ever know

[@sherrirobbins8375]

I think it’s great that you and your mom are close, I’ve loss my mom i need her and she’s not here anymore. Thank you for sharing your experience,feeling, and what you’ve gone through it only makes me stronger when I watch your videos.

[@guylainebouchard9989]

Very interesting and helpful. I can hear you’re both say the truth and it makes all the difference. This is not medical theories or clinical answers, which are good tough , but you speak with your heart. It makes it simple

[@brenainnmacthomais]

I hide a lot! I went crazy in my 20’s. I’ve really been struggling in the last 2 years!

[@PolarWarriors]

Brandon Hi Brandon! A very warm welcome to the channel. I hope you will continue to stop by 😊😊☀️☀️ -Rob

[@esmeraldasilver8763]

Did you ever get aggressive towards others and refused to take medications.

[@karenburch1397]

I thank both of you so much. My son is 26 and leaving the hospital today that I petitioned him into. He became so angry with me. I now know that I need to step back and let him work out what works for him, not me. I was scared, I still am. I will now go back into counseling to deal with this situation and just be there when he wants me to be. Again, thank you so much.

[@krystilryan2367]

Thank you so much for this video. I have been desperately searching for answers on how to manage my relationship with my daughter who is currently going through her second manic episode. She is 32 years old and has lived with me for pretty much that whole time except for a few months when she had her first manic episode 8 years ago and now since she moved out about a month ago. It has been so hard trying to understand how our beautiful relationship could become so ugly as she totally rejects me and tells me I am the cause of all her problems. The whole family are suffering terribly so it would be great if there was more information on how to navigate relationships between family members. She has created a lot of division and I am torn between balancing empathy for her condition and not allowing her to walk all over me and be her punching bag. Thanks so much again!

[@Katienin23]

Very helpful, very insightful. Thank you.

[@PolarWarriors]

Thanks for watching! I'm here to help, so feel free to reach out if you have any questions. -Rob www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

[@mrz1703]

Thank you again Rob. I've been having some really tough times lately and again you help me to ground myself 👍. Just had a pet pass away and its really hit me hard 😞

[@jmac7133]

What a great help to parents!!! Thank you both for being vulnerable and sharing. Each hour/day/minute is a real struggle until you can look week to week. Keep learning!

[@michaelharned8741]

Karate is a great way to deal with excess energy I rode my bike all over town during my second manic episode

[@sandralva1]

I absolutely love your mother. She has taught me a lot about how to handle a person with BP disorder. Thank you very much. She even made me cry. It`s very hard when your child doesn't get properly diagnosed until he/she is nearly 30 years old. I have been watching the Polar Warriors videos for a week now, and I thing they have helped me to understand my daugther much better now. Many thanks.

[@PolarWarriors]

I will make sure to copy your message and send it to my mom. Thank you so much for the kind words Sandra! -Rob

[@jerilyndenson9492]

Your mom must be a great mom, and one extraordinary person

[@connieguenter2661]

I feel as though I’m looking in a mirror and hearing my life story. Every word you say is my story. I could hug you both for the pain and pride you speak of so eloquently.

[@whispercadence4066]

Rob and mom: you are both courageous and so open. You opened so many windows to your journeys. Thank you!

[@mirellaardizzi8860]

I am a mother who has been dealing with a son who has bipolar. He is now 25 years old. I have come to the conclusion that I have to let go and let him sort out his life on his own. I am so tired of always trying to protect him and rescue him...it doesn't work. He is sooo abusive to me and does not take accountability for anything. I have tried since he was 17 years old. He started smoking marijuana from a young age and still does. It is so difficult for a parent to watch their child be self destructive....but until they hit rock bottom they will never take their live into their own hands. I have to remain strong and pray that he figures it out. God knows I have tried sooo hard..but if a person doesn't want to help themselves, I am helpless. This video has helped me tremendously and thank you so much for having this available for those who are going through this!

[@ErinMars621]

I have recently found your channel as a way to learn about bipolar disorder as my dad and brother both have it. My brother is near death, using alcohol and gambling as coping mechanisms. My Mom and I are so distraught and don't know where to begin to get him a proper diagnosis and treatment. This is exhausting and so scary. I'm learning so much about this terrible disease.

[@Unicorn-if4kx]

Your mum is beautiful and strong woman inside and outside

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

Rob, thank you, getting a females point of view, beautiful tool.

[@MrPaddlepower]

Thank you Rob & Robs mum , it was very informative and will let my wife watch this great video , thanks again

[@michelembarros]

I love this. I would love my mother to have that same acceptance, she just invalidates /:

[@susanjohnson7679]

Who would possibly give this a thumbs down?!? This is a phenomenal, compassionate and informative channel!

[@michelleangers342]

What a wonderful and helpful video! I can't thank you and your Mom enough for putting this together. I'm going to show this video to my Mom because I know she has a difficult time understanding what I live with. I'm 58 years old and my Mom is 78 and it's never to late to learn. Many thanks again!

[@PolarWarriors]

You are so welcome!

[@1chelib]

Thank you for that question about me feeling so guilty like it was my fault he is struggling. Yeah his struggles started after high school. He is 30 now.

[@winterkrash]

This was a very useful and it was interesting to hear a family member talk in person how she struggled with your condition. My mom and I are close but the problem is we’re both dealing with our own illnesses. She has major depression and she can’t be that supportive since she also has her own thing to deal with. I cannot support her as well since I have my own thing to deal with. When I was hospitalized, it was hard for her and she felt very uncomfortable about it. Good thing is there was no blaming going on. We are just dealing with our own problems, though we don’t openly talk about it. She clams up and won’t talk to anyone, while I isolate myself and make others think I am ok, even if I’m not. The only person who bridges us is my aunt, who happened to be a doctor, so she has a really good understanding of what’s going on.

[@smoosmoo22]

Wow-do I love Rob’s mom. She’s a sensitive, committed person and has good boundaries and self care.

[@PolarWarriors]

I love her too, she's awesome! I have watched this video more than once and just really enjoyed listening to her talk and hearing what she had to say. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us. Totally agree with everything you said!!

[@IAmJustFlux]

From a polar warrior, this was a great video - great idea!

[@PolarWarriors]

Hey there, thanks for the positive feedback! Keep being awesome, polar warrior! -Rob www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

[@meaowsandwhistles]

Sorry to comment twice but this video describes my relationship with y son right now , I see a lot of mistakes I’ve made so this is helpful , I hope to have Jordan (my son ) where you are , well done to your mum and you

[@IMadeThis123]

You have been sent to us by God. You are saving lives. ♥️