Polish has GENDERED LAST NAMES? (Help needed - trans FTM)

[@severiansky]

When i saw preview of this video, i thought that the main problem would be Polish laws, but it's so horrible to hear that you have problems to change your last name even with Dutch citizenship т-т

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

The main problem still is Polish laws. I decided to apply for Dutch citizenship because it made me able to change my first name without having to go to court (in Poland it's nearly impossible to change name & gender) sp yeah 😭 but at least it's possible!

[@TheGreatWind]

Russian last names are the same way. Before I transitioned, my ex partner added a feminine marker to our last name. It needs to be free for us in my opinion, it’s a part of mental health and should be included with gender affirming care. At least for the first change.

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

I agree, it should be free, especially since it can have a huge impact on mental health. If I was still living in Poland it would be cheaper, but a more difficult process because trans individuals are not as accepted in society yet. I can imagine it's the same, if not worse, in Russia...

[@MM-km1vl]

As a German that concept of the gendered last names is very wild to me! I cannot immagine the distress this is causing you! I only had little to give, and if everyone watching this video does it, you'll soon have your -ski name!! Good luck Dawid :D

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

I know right, it's wild that last names need to have a gender (fun fact, it can be worse, in some countries the woman gets the feminine version of both the first and last name of her husband in a heterosexual marriage 💀💀) Thank you so much for your support, every tiny bit counts ❤️❤️

[@okamiangles7121]

Wow, that sounds so strange to me! I'm Canadian, and I have never heard of gendered last names or having to take a female version of your husband's first name.

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

@okamiangles7121 In a way it's like "mr and mrs Smith" but instead of the feminine title mrs you add it to the end of the word! It's weird and unnecessary, but still an interesting concept. Many different cultures do it in many different ways! My situation is kinda like the Icelandic -son and -dottir, you can have women with the -son suffix but not men with the -dottir one...

[@okamiangles7121]

@@TheQueerVikingBro oh, ok. That's very interesting. Now I'm kinda interested in looking into how other countries gender names.

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

@okamiangles7121 I am not educated enough on how it works outside of Europe, but most of the time the feminine version of a last name, if it exists, refers to a relationship (wife of, daughter of) or, as in Polish, is gendered because adjectives are gendered. Perhaps other languages that use gendered adjectives also use gendered last names!

[@thenotverybrightone]

happy belated birthday. it looks like you're about halfway to goal :)

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

Thank you! I'm honestly positively surprised by the amount out support!!

[@callum.timothy]

Comment for the algorithm. Good luck with your fundraising!

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

Thank you thank you ❤️

[@crazinventorirl]

Commenting for the algorithm. I hope the best for you!

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

Thank you so much!!

[@ejirokirishima4604]

I didnt know polish last names were gendered, hope you manage to change it.

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

Weird right? Thanks for the support!

[@FokaJoanna]

Powodzenia!!!!

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

Dzięki ❤️❤️

[@sarahallegra6239]

Wow, that’s so interesting! I didn’t realize this was a thing in other last names. I’ve had to change my last name three times and it was an enormous pain in the ass, but I don’t think it cost much any time. I wish you all the best with getting it changed, that sounds like it will be a good help for you living authentically!

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

Thank you! It shouldn't have to cost this much, right? I had an ancestor who switched last name 3 times too and he didn't have any issues thanks to the registry system back then 😅

[@sarahallegra6239]

@@TheQueerVikingBro Yeah, that’s crazy to me! I sincerely hope you’re able to get it switched soon!

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

@sarahallegra6239 thank you! Unfortunately even if I get the money soon, the decision from the king & Dutch registry of last names can take up to 10 months to be approved 😭 I honestly don't get what's so difficult and why it needs to be this long and expensive. But at least I'm already in the process of getting there ❤️

[@sarahallegra6239]

@@TheQueerVikingBro oh man, that sucks! That’s a long time, even after you have the money.

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

yupp... but my first name change went way quicker than estimated so I´m hoping this time it will be faster too!

[@pegaz_416]

good luck with changing your name!! i'm also a trans guy in poland (teen & pre-t, waiting for my binder to arrive) i'm so lucky that my last name isn't gendered (ends in -a in both genders) much support to you!!!

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

@@pegaz_416 thank you! I have gotten very far into the process since this video! I hope everything goes well for you on your transition journey 💕

[@CybernerdShua]

I apologize, my friend. I'm also a student and can only give about €3. I understand the struggle, given my legal name change costs about €650 and the government where I live keeps contemplating if you can legally change your gender marker. Hang in there. Slowly, but surely, you can get to where you need to be.

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

Thank you so much for your support. It really should not be that expensive to be legally recognized as who you are, right?

[@DaisyGhostVinn]

Bro I feel bad for you, but I'm also really worried as to what kinds of problems I might have as a trans guy living IN POLAND 😅 *The thing's that I'm Belarusian immigrant, and being in Poland allows me to live a lot more freely than before, but still wtf is wrong with this country😂🥲?

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

Oh yeah, I am very happy I had the opportunity to transition outside of Poland, as that country is a mess in a lot of aspects... although it seems like things are going the right way in Poland, with the new, less conservative government. I really hope they will bring actual positive changes, for everyone. But I can imagine that it's even worse in Belarus, not just for trans people but well... people in general, so I hope you'll be able to have a slightly better life in Poland ❤️

[@DaisyGhostVinn]

​@@TheQueerVikingBro Dzięki, miło mi❤

[@professionalboycottservice7872]

You can change your sex but won't change your name and nationality? That's bonkers! Name and nationality can be changed. Stop being Poolish then!

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

@@professionalboycottservice7872 lol what? That's literally what I did? Change my name and nationality.... It was not possible to change my gender in Poland since I was not living there at the moment and it takes 6 months. I do not understand your point.

[@inlovewithcentipedes]

i feel so sorry for you, hope you will fund the money soon!! its so shit that they take this much fuckin money for just a name change?? and when people get divorced they dont charge money for them but they do for us!! thank Gods i have a name that isnt gendered because it comes from Greece.. if ill ever get the chance to donate i definetely will!!! i only have Blik and cant use it for gofundme :I

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

Yeah it's wild to me why it has to be expensive, especially because it's literally one letter... fortunately I've been able to raise quite a lot of money, enough to be able to pay for it. I'll probably make an update video soon :) Thank you for your support!

[@_sshh_]

My surname is a femine Polish name, same as my brothers it doesnt bother them. I understand that it can be very important to someone else. Im sorry i cant donate atm and I hope you manage to change your name asap if its bothering you so much ❤

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

Just a question because I'm curious, how did your brothers end up with the feminine version of the last name? Are they trans? In Poland it wouldn't even be possible so I'm guessing you live abroad too? Never heard about it before, interesting! And thanks for the support ❤️

[@_sshh_]

@@TheQueerVikingBro Hi, me and my family are all in the UK we have been now for 4 generations, I've only recently learned this is even a thing literally yesterday and then randomly come across your video so maybe it's just not important out of Poland hmm, none of us are trans , wish you all the best hope it works out for you soon 🤗

[@_sshh_]

@@TheQueerVikingBro but weird I wonder why the men took the femine version all those generations ago, as far as I know it was a couple brothers that first came over to the uk with the surname (it's very unusual)

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

@_sshh_ yeah it is very unusual for Polish men to have a feminine last name, or get their mother's last name or something, interesting! But maybe if it was generations ago it does not matter as much for your siblings anymore. I'm still partially living within polish society and around people who know my last name is "wrong", that's why it bothers me. If I lived away from Poland entirely I would probably care less too 😅

[@_sshh_]

@@TheQueerVikingBro I can understand that it will be important to you I had just never heard of the male/female surname thing till very recently, I wasnt sure if it was still the same in Poland but next time I will watch ALL of your video before commenting! My bad sorry. I would so donate if i could 🤗 love your channel especially when you talk about the Vikings

[@akimbofresh8109]

What you need is therapy and real friends.

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

Therapy is not going to fix my last name and neither are my friends, unless they donate to the cause ❤️ I had to go through a lot of therapy to be where I'm at right now. This is what's going to prevent me from needing MORE therapy 😅

[@CybernerdShua]

Trans people go through lots of therapy. Therapy alone does not help. Transitioning (whether medical or social) and having a therapist to guide you through that transition does help.

[@HLBear]

@queerpagan 💙🩵💙 Done. Go, be yourself. Gods bless.

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

@HLBear Wow. I cannot thank you enough for this! I will be able to go send all my documents over and start the process today! You will be forever in my heart, thank you so so much ❤️❤️

[@MareaRayneOleander]

I was never aware of the "gendered last names" in any country! Now i'm wondering about my last name of ukrainian origin💛🤍💜🖤

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

Ukrainian last names follow similar rules! For some of them the reason is Poland (I'm sorry we colonized you oops 😭) but instead of -ski it's -sky/skiy. As far as I know there is also the -ov vs -ova suffix, also gendered. But there are some Ukrainian last names that aren't gendered, like -chuk :)

[@ellielutterman]

Just found your channel and watched a bunch of videos, you seem like such a wonderful person and I want to thank you for sharing your experiences and passions 🫶 best of luck on your journey Dawid

[@TheQueerVikingBro]

Thank you so much for your support! I'm glad you enjoyed my other videos too ❤️