Poor Grandmother Begs us to Raise Her Little Girl | Now in Lao

[@NowinLao]

This story isn't finished... Please stay tuned as we return to this village on our way home from our upcoming trip to the hilltribes in Phongsali and celebrating Hmong new year in Xiangkuouang. Let's see which way this goes.. Thank you for all the support my friends 🙏

[@Ronald-G]

In the Netherlands we have an organisation that sponsors families around the world with similar kind of problems like this. it's called Plan Nederland. The contributors can sponsor a child, and sometimes the contribution goes to a complete village with a monthly contribution. I myself am a sponsor of 2 children around the world. They give updates on the progress of the child. they help out up to a certain age. I am not sure they also have an office in Laos. I think they have, or had one in Vietnam.

[@puggsincyberspace]

Yeah, if you team up with a charity that can take donations for specific kids, it would be good. I am sure we have a few here that would help out...

[@ZENbulldozer]

Wouldn't it be better to support her and keep her with her relatives? Surely enough people here could help out.

[@ballistic350]

That's fkin awesome .. cant wait keep spreading your generosity everywhere you 2 go ...

[@costasworldofmusicmemories5792]

Harriet and I cried . It's heartbreaking to see this beautiful young girl not given a chance to have a better life. Is it possible to set up a bank account for this child and donate money for her well being and caring. Perhaps a foundation set up in her name that we can all contribute to. We don't want this child to ever lose her smile. Bless this little girl. Todd and Neenee, you are telling a story that needs to be told. Sending you much love for what you do.🙏❤🙏 Jim and Harriet. Richmond, Va.

[@byt290]

Sadly it's very common throughout Asia

[@dav5119]

I feel worried if the girl's family try to give her away to wrong people. Thankfully Todd and Neenee are great people, I really trust them.

[@hdj81Vlimited]

Looks like they had food enough, but the wanted to give her away not for free. its common in asia and africa also. children are a investment for parents. many disapear in china....

[@Macjohn1419]

She’s a beautiful little girl. Wish we could do something for her. As much as it would be easy to adopt that little adorable darling, she should be with her family and siblings. I feel so sad for her. I pray that God looks over her and her family to ease their struggles.

[@NowinLao]

Yes, as hard as it is, we both agree with you John. This story's not over yet mate.. we're currently looking into what we can do so everybody wins 🤞

[@SeeHang]

within the lao and hmong for what seems several hundred years lao and hmong people have been adopting kids that are non related cultures/ languages. in the hmong community / culture clans are a big thing in terms of how people deal with relations, marriages and families.

[@Macjohn1419]

@@SeeHang it is the same in the Philippines. My late wife adopted her cousin, a baby boy, when she was only a student. He was very sick and she nursed him back to health. I am familiar with the culture regarding taking in a child from another family. The good part was both families lived in the same town.

[@ParamotorEngineer]

@@NowinLao Maybe see how the subscribers feel about a crowd funding initiative for the little girl. That way we can all contribute to her well-being, schooling etc. And she can still stay with her grandmother or even move back with her parents.

[@josephbelay7168]

Good day Mate. How much will it cost for the little girl to stay with her grandmother, ??

[@dancalhoun7011]

Just tears at your heart doesn't it

[@paulokleable]

Mate from an Aussie who ended up married to woman who was the young girl in that situation… if it’s within your power and heart do it. There’s NO WAY you would regret your decision. You would be giving her a life she would never know and doing the same to you in return. Either way you’ll never forget that little girl wondering what if. Love the videos safe travels 👍🏼

[@larrywheels762]

So sad for that little girl. Poverty is so cruel to the innocent.

[@davepb5798]

Maybe a sponsorship for the little girl's education and other needs?? And I completely understand Pee Neenee's thoughts about her son's feelings, jai dee lai lai der.

[@georgehristodoulou8661]

Hey Tod And Neenee thanks for the contents this video very emotional.

[@spirittaos]

Very touching, what more can I say. Good work telling the story

[@kenwattanakone8643]

May God bless you, Todd, and Nee Nee for your kindness 😃🇺🇸❤️❤️

[@markbrandon7756]

Ba Nguoi is a wonderful Grandma to this Little Hmong Angel of Laos. Wish I could adopt her and her 3 Chau , since I was #12 of 12 and was adopted with #11. These video of Laos and Vietnam are the ONLY good I see in the world these days because rarely a good day of news anywhere you look or listen. I hope many Donors can boost Ba Nguoi and make her more confident and secure about her Beautiful Grand Daughter and her Siblings. CAM ON for the wonderful Video.

[@stevej6252]

Hi Mark, nice to see your comments here, i also know you make comments on Troy Vietnam channel, , please send me your email at my email on my you tube channel. I have alot of interesting news for you from many of Troys donors with names and emails and yep , not very happy, hope to hear from you ,CAM ON , Steve

[@jimriggs9621]

Maybe your best video ever.. You showed NeNe's good heart and her compassion as a good mother.. Everyday life can be a struggle but moments like this can show God's grace and divinity. You opened your heart as well as good man.. Love the black and white images my friend. Warmest personal regards.

[@NowinLao]

Thank you Jim 🙏

[@STR123able]

Thanks!

[@NowinLao]

Legend 🙏

[@jprest4133]

I feel you and Ne ne would make great parents for that little girl and give her a good life. You guys should adopt her.

[@PM-oe5mk]

Todd mentioned in another comment that the grandmother doesn't actually want to adopt the child out, just wants someone to raise the child (in other words, the grandmother wants someone to take on the financial burden of raising the girl for her). She still wants to keep her granddaughter and be able to see her whenever and wherever. I don't think this type of situation would work for most people. You are essentially financially supporting a child until that child is old enough to care for herself and goes back to her family. Few people can afford to be this generous without the perk of having the child be a permanent part of their life.

[@bryanjohnson7193]

Hello another interesting video ,sad about a little girl ,I wonder how many other families in the same situation 😢

[@ÁzsiábaSzakadtam]

This is heartbreaking. 😢

[@meileevaj]

Sweet girl there! Wished there was more you could to help.

[@razmos1]

Great vid Mate! Those people don't have a lot and it makes you realize how fortunate some of us are.Well done! Love ya work mate!

[@Kunsinee]

Bless Nenee's heart. She is still dealing with the past...

[@shaunellison6325]

Watch your content religiously Todd! With a coffee and oats on cold Melbourne morning. Never have I seen a video that hits the heart and makes me tear like this did. Such a happy little girl that deserves a chance at a decent home and education. I’d take her in if I could!😢 hope her situation improves. Despite what she’s been through, that face still manages a big smile. What a little champion❤️

[@antruok4950]

Todd - I get how you are feeling - thankfully she has a grandmother and a roof over her head - Many Thanks 🙏

[@familytabrizi76]

Okay now I understand hummm, I am so sorry it was so painful to watch this video clips 😢😢😢. God bless you.

[@Bad_Karma1968]

Todd as always a great vlog yet sad 😢 Keep up the good work mate

[@DUDEfreestyle]

I will keep her in my prayers 🙏🏽

[@AutumninAsia]

Kinda one of those Between a Rock and a Hard Spot on the ol heart. Sad, but thank you as always.

[@Split_Wing]

Super CuteSuper Cute

[@johnpaulwebb3440]

Breaks my heart.

[@soldierofgod7564]

The little girl she is so cute and adorable 🥰 God bless you both ❤🙏

[@BrianMax]

That really pulls my heartstrings. I missed out on being dad to a 7 year old Indonesian girl 12 years ago. We connected on social media during the pandemic and she has had a rough time of it, being sent from grandparents to aunt & uncle and back over the years. I've been paying her rent and school fees, but she can't tell her family about me or they'll try to squeeze me for everything they can.

[@mcscootie]

YOU WHAT ?

[@BrianMax]

@@mcscootie I was engaged to her mother 12 years ago, now I'm her godfather and benefactor.

[@marcp108]

There are many other KZbinrs in laos at the moment. None are showing this side. Well done. Great black and white photos

[@innapickle8832]

So glad this popped up. Instantly subscribed! Thanks

[@NowinLao]

Thanks Pickle.. enjoy the ride 👌😁

[@KeithTingle]

there are a million people here in the USA that would adopt that sweet child

[@mikealvarez9655]

How can I support the little girl would like to make monthly donations?

[@linv621]

You should consider doing a KZbin live on your next visit. Based on all the positive comments, I’m sure you will received tons of donations. Keep up with all the great videos! 🙏

[@russellwatkins3170]

Great video and story man.

[@nickhubbard3671]

Looking forward to part 2. Commitment.

[@recperson-n1n]

Hi Todd & Neenee, I started watching your channel a bit before the final adoption. I was watching this morning and this first meeting came up randomly .❤❤❤I'm a mushy guy 😢 OMG that first meeting is priceless. The joy and happiness Mina shows... I have the privilege of having a family take me in. Im now about your age Todd. I loved how you two thought it through. Such a beautiful family.👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

[@NowinLao]

Hi Rec..👋 Thank you. In case you're not aware, most of our travel series videos have their own playlist and I have also created a playlist with the more important videos of how we met Mina and she came to be with us. Here is that playlist here.. You'll find all the others under 'Playlists' on my channel homepage. Hope you're enjoying the channel.. Cheers kzbin.info/www/bejne/iXOmkptqmbdprdU

[@rickwilson478]

Damn, you always have great music to accompany your videos Todd... this guy's cover of "Like a Rolling Stone" is emotionally different in a really good way.

[@NowinLao]

Thanks mate.. yeah, that was a great find 👌 Love it 👍

[@brendanrombouts3718]

In helping that young girl, my aim would be to find ways of helping her grandmother and village look after her, which would enable her to remain with her family. Direct financial assistance will only distort the local economy and can often breed resentments from other villagers. It's a heart-wrenching situation but one which is repeated too often here in Laos and other poorer countries. I'm sure you will both make the right decision. Perhaps some local aid groups could provide some useful advice. Good luck and best wishes.

[@alanrogers7506]

I was touched too

[@ChristineRead60]

Water your video a few days ago and can't get that little Girl out of my mind x

[@NowinLao]

Know how you feel 💚

[@PM-oe5mk]

As sad as the little girl's situation is, there are other little children there in far worse situations. It's not fair that children have to suffer poverty because parents don't make better decisions when it comes to birthing more children than they can afford to raise.

[@juan5991]

Just wow... sad.

[@riffraff8426]

Heart stringer this vlog sure mate, loving your content and you guys will know very very soon if you have connected to the little girl. You probably have already.

[@tomgerryinphilippines8817]

Feel so heartbroken for kids 💔

[@keosay6608]

Sad deal for little girl hope she found good family

[@coreyreardon1837]

Very heart breaking Todd let me know if y’all are going to try to set something up for the little girl as far as donations or whatever. I’m more then happy to join in. Keep up your hard work with the videos. I now see how emotional it can be sometimes. I’m thinking that I’m going to start trying to travel like this in Thailand when my wife retires. Take care

[@NowinLao]

It certainly is Corey.. I wasn't prepared for those type of emotions, she caught me off guard. It really doesn't cost much to help and very rewarding. All the best mate 🙏

[@yanjijay6752]

Great to see you back but sad how they'd give away a kid though I know the people's living there are really poor yet majority of the money goes to war but they can't give it to the poor

[@joelhairgrovejr3574]

I pray for both family

[@saylarvee]

Its is something I have always wanted to do.Give a young child a chance,but have never been able.If Fred Hollows was still around,im sure he could help the grandmother.I know how important eye sight is .Hope it all ends well/Really do.

[@americanronin5223]

Breaks my heart. I was in her shoes 50 years ago in Laos. How can I help? I would love to sponsor her if somehow I knew my financial support would go directly to her and not siphoned off by "relatives." In any case, I am serious about helping her. Is there a church in your area who would and could be good stewards of my financial support?

[@everythinglaos9948]

Mate, such a touching video. I am so lucky to be married to a beautiful Lao lady and it was a package deal, yes I now have a beautiful 10 year old stepdaughter that calls me “dad”. Neenee talking about her own situation brought a tear to my eyes. People unfamiliar with asian culture would not understand how easy it is for a father to remove a child from their mothers care when things go wrong. Love your work mate, you guys are f#cking legends. Cheers Craig

[@NowinLao]

I'm happy for you Craig, and thanks for your understanding 🙏

[@kateg1137]

It's worrying that this little girl is so quiet and we'll behaved. I hope she is being looked after and not abused if she is thought of as a burden. I don't know the full story but this was my immediate thought

[@sherylgergen6672]

That beautiful little girl pulls at your heartstrings. So many children are in the same boat. After some difficulty (scary situations) doing charity work on our own, my husband and I went with sponsorship for children in Guatemala through Childreach and also worked with Ninos Incapacitados in Mexico. Legitimate foundations seem to be a viable solution. Could a program be set up in that area where a trusted person/government official/possibly a monk? would have responsibility of financial distribution to families with accounting for who and where it is going? Thank you and good luck with this!

[@MalMilligan]

Yeah, beautiful little girl and yeah there are many many kids there that couldn't do better than to have nice foster parents like yourselves. But it's a lifelong commitment and you would feel guilty helping her and not her siblings. Plus yeah maybe you can help fix the visitation rights for NeeNee first. I spent 30 years visiting Vietnam... was married in a pagoda in Saigon in 1996. I have 2 children that were born and raised in the New York City area. I got divorced after 10 years of marriage and raised the kids with my dad as a single father. Kids are adults now and on their own after completing College. There are intricacies about these local cultures that I still learn on a daily basis 30 years into this. I like having very little baggage right now as it allows me time to work on projects. I hope to help my family first and then others God willing. I think I know partially how you feel Todd. Good luck buddy !!

[@chiccenhawkc]

💯🔥💙👍

[@Fredroc57]

It's hard to walk away and you wish you could help in so many other ways. @19:25 Out of all the things going on with that truck no windshield/screen, no doors, no engine cover, no dashboard to speak of the thing still manages to have an airbag.😂🙏👍

[@NowinLao]

Yes I too thought the same thing! 😝

[@DrThoj]

Yes when u don't take care of ur own, let alone taking care of someone else. I know the feeling. "ເອົາໄປ" from the lady, sad indeed.

[@sweetheavenearth8573]

I will love to adopt that sweet little angel to come live in the US if I can. I only have one little angel but she's all grown and she no longer need me or even care about me anymore.

[@dubagentselekions8221]

Tearing up ...

[@fazbell]

Heart breaking

[@inert11]

watched quite a bit of your content and thoroughly enjoying. The stills sere great what camera are you using. Keep up the excellent work

[@NowinLao]

Thank you. A lot of my recent stills have been captured with a Fuji X-T4, and the rest were with a Fuji X100T. Thanks for asking 👍

[@byt290]

Tough call when travelling. It does my head in. If you can...then great. Cannot travel & fix the world's problems. So much for a holiday 😎

[@chrisgunlock5959]

I had to come back and watch the beginning of Mina's story. Is it irony or fate that 9 months from this video you would become a father? Good on ya ;)

[@bluebellybrown2361]

You and nene will be complete if you adopted that little girl.

[@robzinthailand1449]

@10:33 I wonder how many screamed into the monitor, "watch out for the coffee!"

[@chrisperkins7331]

Hi Guy's Well this vlog is different, and clearly covers an important and difficult subject, that is to say how to help without causing unexpected negative consequences. I think polecat's idea of a crowd funding is a good one, perhaps with a set annual budget that would help all the kids in the village, as opposed to money just going to one family. Jealousy in Lao villages can be particularly nasty from my experience of the one I live in.

[@garthoberg8853]

Hi from Australia. If you have won’t to have an idea of how hard it is to help people on a large scale just watch A Foreigner in the Philippines with Terence and Beth they had. So much trouble to be set up as a charity so many hates try to bring them down . They build house for people and help lots of kids with school cheers you are doing it right there stay under the radar

[@davidnorton7464]

These masseurs were once everywhere around the globe with locals able to buy and sell their own produce. Now a 7 eleven or Tesco comes to town and the markets and community slowly lose the ability to derive their own incomes from growing and harvesting their own fruit and vegetables

[@llewellynjones8201]

I THINK THAT GRANDMOTHER ASKS RATHER THAN BEGS WOULD BE THE WAY A CANADIAN GENTLEMAN WOULD ADDRESS THINGS . FULL OF THE OLD NICK THAT LITTLE BUNDLE OF ENERGY & GOOD ON YA FOR TAKING HER INTO YOUR HEARTS. LETS HAVE ANOTHER CYCLING AROUND VIENTIANE WITH MINIMAL DIALOGUE AS I THINK THAT WAS ONE OF YOUR BEST ALL TIME &. SEE YOU DOWN THE TRAIL. FROM MOUNTAINS IN MY BACKYARD BRITISH COLUMBIA

[@bennygunawan7211]

This is so common problem in Asia,I wish the government could do something,after all the children are the future of a nation.

[@markbrandon7756]

Always remember there is no such thing as anyone except children, there is no such thing as "step children" , ALL CHILDREN ARE CHILDREN ALL CHAU ARE CHAU.....❤😎 I never was called or referred to or introduced as a step brother and never did to the same myself to my Sister. Always have made it a point to mention to parents when they would call they children step- and differentiate in mixed family. If you go to the store you don't buy food except for ALL YOUR CHILDREN,.... A MOM that Adopts a Child or Fosters a Child is the highest form of Motherhood and a special place in Heaven is made for them so they children can find them there.

[@NowinLao]

How it is! 🧡

[@Ray_K-q4y]

Hey there Todd, my wife has a similar story to the little girl. She was born in 1967 and due to the advancing communists killing the locals in the Xebanghiang area around the end of the Vietnam war, the family was split and she was placed with a family in Thailand. Westerners may think splitting up the families for survival or for a chance of a (much) better life are isolated incidents, but it happens more than you think. I will be remembering this video forever, I think. Thank you

[@scotbownes5627]

🙏😢

[@stevenm7692]

Im on board for some donations, I will keep my eye on future videos for any information leading to a helpfull direction.

[@boxcartwilly]

😎👍

[@billsimpson2392]

💖

[@gordo191]

Wow , if they only new that maybe their children are better where they are , I worry so much about my five grandkids in this world , with all the violence, drugs , wokeness , my grandson is losing friends because he won't join in with what a lot of his mates are getting up to , GOD bless him ,

[@daoheuang3524]

Sad story. Would help girl if could

[@johneverett6751]

..A few Aussie dollars here mate to help out..Can't be that expensive to leave her with a traditional family and get her an education..and a real..Real start in life..Seriously..?

[@NowinLao]

This story isn't over yet John 😉 Thanks mate 👍

[@johneverett6751]

@@NowinLao ....Very happy to contribute..No worries Todd..👍

[@prawnstar502]

i wish it was easy to adopt.. id adopt a kid or two from there.. give em opportunities they wouldnt have

[@CarolBakerRN]

I gather that an education system is nonexistent, from coworkers here in Fort Wayne, IN. How can they improve their lives without education in their own language and English. There needs to be a way to sponsor these kids to go to school. Is there even a school in their village, in each village?

[@jdedad]

😭

[@ozlakota1]

sadly the people smugglers will collect a child like that and transport to the city very sad

[@candyman8055]

I think if you set up a gofundme for that kid she would probably get enough for a college education.

[@NowinLao]

With the generosity of many who watch my videos I have no doubt she would, but the problem that arises there is who manages the money for her? Sadly, handing people cash is not going to work.

[@PM-oe5mk]

Nice sentiment, but more than likely that money will get used up by her family to pay for everyday necessities given that the family is struggling enough to want to give the little girl away.

[@rickwilson478]

I understand your explanation Todd and I appreciate the way you describe the reality. Even in what would seem a more straightforward situation when a farang/foreigner wants to assist the family of their Lao, Thai, Viet partner or spouse it can turn into a difficult situation. The expectations of the immediate and extended family sometimes can put pressure on the spouse to be stuck in the middle and expected to advocate for the legitimate needs of their family. I am not wanting to be cynical but that can often just be how assistance plays out. Hopefully this sweet girl and her family can be offered some help but how exactly is the best way is hard to know.

[@NowinLao]

@@rickwilson478 thanks Rick.. we haven't left and forgotten them. There's many ways to skin a cat.. we just have to find out how 😉

[@candyman8055]

@@NowinLao I've done it in the Philippines. You find someone trustworthy to manage (likely difficult there) or you distribute the money specifically for the child. I never did a lump sum payment. Just paid tuition, books, medical, and food. Always got a receipt for everything but I had a trustworthy foreigner and local I dealt with.

[@colleenrodamer9497]

So sad but this is so open to children trafficking but I totally understand these people way sad 😢😱😭

[@KennoRob]

mina..💋

[@mitchhumlao]

If it didn't bother you about her life , that would be sad. You can't fix everything.

[@vgshwk]

That would break your heart if you did and break your heart if you didn’t.

[@ywjpheejyaj6674]

If my wife and I adopt that Little girl to America, can you help do the paperwork ?

[@commonsenseisntcommon1776]

Kids there are happy with nothing......here in America , kids are spoiled and not happy with EVERYTHING! Sad

[@billrockmaker]

Let’s say that you excepted the old woman’s offer to raise the little girl, is there any kind of paperwork or anything that you would need to do to make it a legal guardianship? How do you prove that you didn’t kidnap her? Imagine how different her life would be if you adopted her. I think you should go back and get her.

[@roadmonkey68]

Can i sponsor the grandma,

[@markbrandon7756]

Wonder if the nice Lady has Cataracts causing her blindness ??? Please Ask Her.

[@sapawarrior9247]

u need to help the littel girl

[@cychael2011]

Is she Vietnamese? She sounds Vietnamese.

[@wegotit2587]

Was she really serious about adopting the little girl? Wanted to have children but husband and I cannot .

[@NowinLao]

I'm sorry no, I don't think she meant all out adopting.. more like raising. She knew if the girl was raised in the capital where there is better education and future job opportunities she would have a better shot at life, all without losing contact with the girl and being able to visit her whenever she could. 🙏

[@bounnabuaseng7920]

😭😭😂😂❣️❣️🙏🙏🙏

[@sweetheavenearth8573]

Todd, you are so funny!!!

[@stever1053]

Neenee is correct, I know it is hard but you cannot take all of the children in that situation and if you did then you would feel compelled to support her grandmother and then relatives, where do you draw the line. Hard one.