Popular vs Unpopular Black Girl in Korea : What's the difference between them?

[@erosplanet7331]

People saying “you’re too pretty for a black girl” never fails to amaze me…the AUDACITY

[@STAYing_for_kids]

Fr almost all the black people are insanely majestic like they are RAW DIAMONDS FR 😭✨

[@teezyduu2614]

It's like saying you're too tall to be asian.

[@teezyduu2614]

@@STAYing_for_kids Well... Majestic is not cute.

[@johnpaullaizure7330]

Yeah how dare they! i mean so what if black people have over the 1.5% DNA differential to be considered a homo sapien! Different species are beautiful! Bestiality is beautiful!!!!

[@necheche]

@@teezyduu2614 let's see how you look like

[@tiffanymcdonald7195]

I don’t like that they did not let Yolissa speak in entire sentences for the entire first half of the video, only in short cut responses to Jayla. I would’ve loved to hear deeper topics being discussed.

[@des.mezzzz]

Yeah I noticed that too. Weird…

[@kilobiten]

and also the weird editing clips like 10:33 that has NOTHING to do with what they were really talking about like wtf

[@vikki-333]

the editing was weird on this one

[@nnn-v6w]

@@kilobitenikr did they get a non English speaker to do the editing😂

[@Fringedjewels]

Right, not to mention that I’ve seen the other woman in two other Giggle videos. I wonder if she is crew or a paid speaker.

[@alexiscummins9438]

i don’t think the title is fitting for this video regarding the “popular v unpopular” is more about how two different black women talk about their experiences with appearance in Korea

[@udontevenwannaknowbruv]

Yeah… But it’s more like black girl who fits Korean beauty standards and black girl who fits african american beauty standards… Idk… Honestly I don’t know what alternative title would fit

[@xxvoid4]

I think it’s fitting

[@JaliyahDW]

@@udontevenwannaknowbruvthat black doesn’t fit korean or african american beauty standards.

[@arijj8629]

Its actually very fitting 😂 and you just explained why...

[@TrinityNeesh]

@@udontevenwannaknowbruv I don't think its because of beauty standards. I think the difference is just lifestyle. Because I've seen girls that look like Yolissa say what Jayla said and vice versa. I would bet Yolissa goes to work, goes to cafes/restaurants, and is in bed by 11. And I would bet Jayla does nightlife and is probably is out very late.

[@Uilaalii]

I feel like Jayla has been trapped by the beauty standard put on her. You can tell she enjoys the praise and acceptance, but she's also trapped in the conformity. Doesn't seem to be much wiggle room for her to express herself or she could be deemed less attractive

[@mikhayla6514]

Yea

[@shesslucky]

Wow you’re insight. It’s sad to see, her wings are clipped.

[@luvl333y]

I was thinking the exact same thing

[@cleoajavon6556]

She’s stunning, I hope she enjoys the praise. Unambiguous dark skin black women want to make every women demographic ferm guilty about being considered beautiful.

[@abigailokoiobuli8945]

​@@cleoajavon6556 ??

[@pokorny1969]

The way they edited out what Yolissma was saying in the beginning and put a frame of Jayla had me like💀😭

[@camils.corecreations]

I thought they edited it out because she started talking about where she works and they didn’t want to add any personal information about her sides her experience

[@claudiawoods4382]

I love that Yolissima has such a strong sense of self. Hopefully, one day Jayla will also learn to love herself more from the inside out as well. ❤

[@minkki5656]

She don't love herself. She's changed who she is so she can be accepted. That is so sad.

[@claudiawoods4382]

@minkki5656 - It reinforces how important it is that people grow up from a young age with positive and reaffirming influences in their lives. Jayla appears to be a thoughtful and intelligent person. I hope that she reassesses the practicality of trying to fit a beauty standard that is meant for a different group of people. Ultimately, it is how she thinks about herself that matters most.

[@loading...2535]

@@minkki5656not too much we all do this in some ways

[@eenchantress5113]

I am like her Ik how she feels

[@angi9214]

@@minkki5656ik 😢

[@elkielee]

I’ve only visited Korea a few times but I’ve been living in Asia for the past 7 years. The one thing that helps me to stay comfortable and have an enjoyable experience is knowing that I will never fit in. I will never fit their standards and I’m not obligated to do so. I am a foreigner and I can’t change that. I will assimilate so far and be respectful. They can either take it or leave me alone.

[@lelal2072]

I love this line of thinking 🥲

[@macakombucha4816]

Great mindset ❤❤❤❤

[@riannedaemul]

Exactly lve been living in Korea for the past year too and that’s how l have managed to survive all the states and everything

[@Ytorisv]

I LOVE not fitting in, lol. I am different and unique for many reasons. I have gotten so far in my life by being different. I love ME.

[@jnjrisse]

This is a great mindset! I'll definitely think of this in mind when I travel there someday. ❤

[@ARajantara777]

Black people come in all features and skin tone ❤

[@Joan-jr8qs]

People don't seem to get this, unfortunately!

[@makeupbygloria]

Koreans needs to learn this

[@Chels4hair]

@@makeupbygloria White people who enslaved Black people in the past for years, STILL DON'T KNOW THIS!!! So of course other races wouldn't know that Black people have different phenotypes. Most non-Black people are just ignorant and have racial biases against Black people even now in the 21st century...

[@ivanafloyde2948]

All Asians need to learn this

[@reginakc]

Frr we all not Beyoncé and Nicki Minaj 💀

[@neobongzzz]

Both of them are really pretty

[@thebilliexojean]

They really are! 🥰

[@byekitty5153]

Facts!

[@reeeeeeeeee4364]

no only the skinny one

[@Zilovesmymelo]

​@@reeeeeeeeee4364no both of them

[@ftm2ray]

@@reeeeeeeeee4364just hush🙄

[@hanillust]

Yolissma is so sweet, the way she sees the good in everyone and chooses not to focus on the negative 🫶 I love her personality and am mad at all the rude Koreans

[@misterflamingo]

💯 same! She has an amazing genuine warmth to her. I mean you don't invite her to your party, your party's not going to be as nice 😊

[@sweetdulcesunshinenyc]

She is capping and it's called a sambo a sell out Clarence Thomas kanye Amber Rose etc etc she is not genuine...it's called a grifter she existed in the past too..nothing new unfortunately these types exist

[@sweetdulcesunshinenyc]

​@@misterflamingoshe is in korea so no she lied bc it's a fact that racism exist like 1+1=2..

[@Gift-i539]

I don't want her to be hurt Even Koreans with curly hair usually make it straight it's because korea has a cultural preference that likes long straight hair But her hair is considered special and beautiful.

[@bl00dFairy]

Yess. She is so beautiful inside and out.🫶🏻

[@sp11124]

I think it’s time to leave Korea. It’s not worth losing your identity, compromising your safety and happiness to be around people who are unaccepting of you. Some of my closest friends here in the US are Korean. They are sweet, but the things I’ve heard about their family views are extremely negative. It’s a shame because it’s great to explore new cultures, but at the same time I feel like it’s super exhausting to exist as a black person in this world. It’s too much hatred. We are good people for the most part just like others but people want to constantly comment on our behavior and appearance and act as if we’re the problem. Yolissma you’re extremely beautiful🤍

[@Ytorisv]

Folks love going where they are not wanted nor accepted.

[@amateurisa]

What about the people who are not accepted no matter where they go?​@@Ytorisv

[@yapyappixi]

If someone is strong or oblivious, or just does not care what others think of them - I do not think they need to leave. I've experienced negative treatment from all kinds of races, even my own. To me, it literally does not matter anymore.

[@Sunshine16584]

⁠@@yapyappixi In a place where everyone looks the same and you stand out like a sore thumb specifically as a black person you are likely going to get significantly more negativity than you would around a bunch of people that look like you. Completely disingenuous to say otherwise.

[@yapyappixi]

@@Sunshine16584 Erm, I said nothing about one being worse than the other. I am only simply speaking on my own opinion and that no matter where I am, other people's negativity will no longer affect me. Soooooo I am not sure what your point is :o I said nothing about the amount of negativity one would receive, only about my own perception and perspective of said negativity :)

[@kmckie5025]

Thicc & curly hair black girl here ✋️ went to Korea, didn't give a F*** about their standards, stared BACK on the subways, learned Korean language to Clap BACK 👏 😤 Don't match the standard, match the ENERGY because Koreans are still learning how to respect foreigners!

[@coulorfully]

The afro girl is very optinistic and slow to process other ppls belief about herself. Tnis is a good for her. She is not slow yall..she is juat protected. ❤ also she has high self esteem and healthy boundaries ...her fro helps protext her also bc it sends a message she is not looking for their approval.

[@sweetdulcesunshinenyc]

Nah she slow slow and was capping...racism exist and it's obvious especially outside the usa so that's just her being a grifter a sell out or slow slow

[@Ytorisv]

Small minded folks will never get my approval.

[@bmags4188]

❤

[@HipsterClub1000]

The other thing is a man. That’s not a girl. The Afro girl is a real woman

[@sweetdulcesunshinenyc]

@@HipsterClub1000 omg you demons trolling are out of control, definitely a rightwing trumptard wumao flat earther "conservative". It's 2024 and you your type are toxic cowards a proud racist, I don't get it why can't you connect the dots and understand that you betas need to get help, go see a doctor and go to school already you lack 5th grade level of critical thought..you your type why the world regress. Yuk 🤮

[@danas881]

I totally want Yolissma to stay out of the bubble. So she never feels self conscious. So she’ll continue to think the best of ppl and never question whether someone actually “ cancelled “ the party or not. And definitely don’t want her to be followed around 🙏🏾💕

[@themightyflog]

I don't think that will be a problem. I thnk it has less to do with being in a bubble vs how you see the world. Jayla seems to have been, despite her beauty, very self conscious of it. The other girl seems more confident in herself and has real love for herself. Jayla seems afraid to be seen as anything but beautiful and she has allowed it to put a guard and put herself in a cage.

[@dangerousangel777]

They didn't cancel the party, they uninvited them because of their hair. Asian people are extraordinarily r@c!zt

[@NovaDoll]

Men of all races stalk. Its so scary. Being followed around. In many places the men follow you around trying to get your number. They are completely unaware this is not acceptable and will scare women away... Men don't have to deal with being extra careful...

[@sonyaethaniel]

It happens to me so often, I expect it.

[@saolka]

I think they do know it is unacceptable and will scare women away. But they are not asking for number because they want to start a relationship with the girl. Men who ask for number like this are just looking for ons, and they dont care if they are harassing girls since they dont suffer any repercussion from doing it

[@moonstonemac7095]

Most times they are aware, they know it’s wrong and still do it anyways :/

[@NovaDoll]

@@moonstonemac7095 It’s one thing to ask. It’s freaking creepy following someone around the mall or shopping area. Ugh.

[@michellewatson8477]

Yup!

[@browniesmilk9185]

"I like my hair"...PERIOD❤💯

[@mesachisaaca8968]

That’s my girl yolissma so proud of you!! Happy to see you pushing~

[@anndeecosita3586]

I’m a Black American woman and some of the things the “popular” girl has described has happened to me in the USA. I have had men follow me around stores or walking down streets. It got so bad my mom told me to start going to the security guards. I have had men sit down uninvited at my table in restaurants to where I had to be the person to get up and move. I was driving and a guy in another car waved hello at me. I waved back thinking nothing it until I got home and was parked. I heard a car horn and looked back to see he had followed me home and was pulled up behind me. I was terrified and luckily he left. . I have a very public job but I try to keep my private life private. Also I never understood how anyone likes being fetishized. I find it disgusting when men approach me like that.

[@seniseni483]

I'm so sorry this had happened to you love 😕

[@portiarose6914]

i relate to this experience so much. like when men look at me i have a hard time differentiating between rather it is innocently or some creepy intentions so i unfortunately assume the worse for all of them. i’m sorry to hear that you’ve experienced this as well. i’m sorry to any woman who has to go through this 😔

[@makiyahwiggins4575]

DUDE YES…..and it’s insane when ppl don’t take us seriously when we try to explain that these things do happen its they rather feel jealous instead of trying to empathize and understand.

[@HipsterClub1000]

@@seniseni483but that’s not a real girl it’s a man

[@Molly-iw1rc]

​@@HipsterClub1000what are you talking about lol

[@indigomane]

I love this dialogue. I love the way they’re sharing their experiences. We need to hear from these two ladies bring them back.

[@AngelicVeux]

As black people no matter where we go i feel like we don't fit in. Even in predominantly black countries depending on your skin complexion, facial features, or hair texture you get stares of either admiration or skepticism. We have to embrace who we are as individuals and when traveling keep a mental note to not try to fit in be you and stand out thats more memorable ❤

[@Astral-c6q]

Incorrect if u go to the Caribbean you would fit in 100%. No one would watch you funny

[@AngelicVeux]

@Astral-c6q I am from the Caribbean, and depending on which country you still experience, colorism, classism, and prejudice. This is why my main point is to be happy with yourself.

[@chishh2554]

I am an African (from Zimbabwe) and I've never felt like I don't fit in to the extent you describe. We are all just chill and you stick out depending more on how you dress or your personality but not by being black. If you're black, you'll 95% of the time not stick out in most African countries. But I can see how black Americans might stick out a bit more because of the cultural difference, but if they try to adapt they will fit in with us well :D Here we don't look down on people for their hair texture or complexion, at least it's rare. But people in some social circles can get special treatment if they are lighter in complexion or have longer hair. But you will still fit in regardless. I feel 100% at home, safe, included, and like I fit in. Even though I don't speak my own native language I still find it easy to fit in in most cases.

[@Astral-c6q]

@AngelicVeux idk where in the Caribbean you are from. But Trinidad and Tobago is one of the most diverse Caribbean island. The motto is every creed and race find an equal place. Nobody stands out. Our don't fit in. It's a blessed place to be in..

[@AngelicVeux]

@@Astral-c6q that's great

[@donaldchen225]

I like Yolissa’s mindset. She seems like a cool person to be friends with!

[@alfonsowillock5801]

All I can say to any black woman who lives in any country different from ur home country please love ur self look in the mirror everyday and tell ur self that u are beautiful. God created u and said that u a beautiful and only what God said should be important. The standard that people in Korea put on people is not a form of love. If u take a real close look at it. It is really hateful. Because love is unconditional it base on one look why is it beauty only look one way is this a robot society that everyone must look act and dress same and if u a not you are an outcast God created different colors of people different body types of people he didn’t created all of us to look the same . Stop conforming to what human beings believe. Whoever started this was insecure and put on everyone who believes what was said a follow it which is almost the entire country.

[@nomsam4014]

To top it all, Koreans themselves do not like their own look. The audacity to be prejudiced against certain looks when yours do not make the so called grade either! Lol.

[@chris_manga.5627]

This so true

[@nabigodsway]

Thanks for this encouragement.

[@GraceForCulture]

Amen!! 🙏🏽

[@froyokid]

Every country does this not just Korea. Ive seen people that look like the unpopular girl in this video trash and roast girls that look like the popular girl for being too skinny with no azz. The USA and Korea are both the same with trash standards

[@gothkid1011369]

3:49 I feel so bad for the girl with a straight hair. I feel like because the girl with the Afro did not learn Korean and didn’t know anything about Korean culture before she went to Korea. She still has her spark with the girl with the straight hair because she understood curry I’m assuming she understood Korean because she I also assume that she lives there presently, or some thing like her experience and her understanding of that experience, literally stripped her away from her self and that’s painful to watch. I see me as a teenager in her and that hurts bad.

[@dangerousangel777]

this is regular for us, they stripped us away from ourselves when they enslaved us, there's literally recorded texts of people calling us "savages" and saying we're "uncivilized". There was nothing more uncivilized than the middle passage and the triangular slave trade. I'm not sorry.

[@bhoward]

Interesting conversation. Jayla should consider therapy to help with her poor self-image (based on her statements). The people who like you for who you are (complexion, hair texture, size, etc.), they are your people (friends).

[@jayla1151]

babe i appreciate the sentiment but i promise im not insecure, its just the way the video was edited😭🩷

[@bhoward]

@jayla1151 Well, that's good to know. I hope that you were compensated well for your participation. Letting others control the narrative (editing) sucks.

[@jayla1151]

@@bhoward you’re so sweet, thank you for your concern! the staff is very kind, no need to worry :)

[@SaffariRose]

Nothing gave poor self image from her. If anything, she's quite proud she somewhat fits the standards and the benefits of it (from her own experiences). It only seems that way to you/us because she tried hard to emphasize the 'negatives' of it but it came off hypocritical considering the fact that she's seemingly done nothing to change her image into what wouldn't give her unnecessary pressure. It's the definition of crying wolf. The other girl was right. If they like you, they'll make space for you. If they don't, and you care about that, then you have to change to their standards. She already made her choice.

[@angelofmery21]

​@SaffariRose I agree 100 percent. She was definitely proud to fit the standard and I feel was feeling herself that she had the opposite experience. She seems like a sweetheart but I think she feels perfectly fine about her privilege. When Yolisssa was giving her experience Jayla tried hard to show empathy I guess. Mayne she was uncomfortable being the she was on the better side of the experience. Anyway. Wish them both love and happiness

[@9staylo]

Tbh Jalen is a model, so she's probably hyper vigilant of her looks and how she's perceived. I had a different experience when I went to Korea. Some might say I looked like Gabrielle Union in complexion and features but like a treasure troll at the head 😢. Mainly cause I didn't know how to work with my coily hair at the time, so I kept it flat ironed. But upon arrival, the Korean humidity said, 'no mam', the shrinkage was real, and I had no products. Anyway, I was still treated well, and made some cool friends. One thing that stuck out to me though, was when I went to the shops. They wouldn't let me try on any clothes because the shop keepers said I would stretch them out. They always recommended I buy an XXL everywhere I went. It's was hilarious to me cause I'm only a size 4. So I wasn't used to being called fat. In no uncertain terms though, they told me to unbig my back! I still had a good time and honestly I didn't care cause those are their beauty standards- not mine.

[@brownbeauty7429]

I completely understand where Jayla is coming from. I also live in Korea and have experienced very similar situations. When I first moved to Korea, I wore my hair in braids and or I wore it curly. People were fascinated with my braids, sometimes random older ladies would come up and touch my hair, that was strange for me. I vividly remember I straightened my hair for the first time, after my first year living here, and EVERYONE started treating me differently. People would go out of their way to tell me I was beautiful and that I had a small face. I didn't expect that at all. People will definitely treat you better if your hair is straight and if you're thin.

[@ayabaheera]

I had similar experiences when I was there. When I wore box braids, people wanted to touch my hair. K would say I had "ramyun hair". When I straightened my hair, I'd receive so many compliments. When I had curly hair, it was an absolute no-go. I would get laughs from some women and one guy gave me the stankest face.

[@XMissGX]

@@ayabaheera Buch of jealous bitches.

[@Tannies_Michelle]

This topic is actually deeper than this.. I really love seeing both of them sharing their experience and I must say I'm really proud of Yolissma.

[@016me]

Especially as Black Americans, there is never a beauty standard we fit into. We have to learn to set our own personal standards. We do not look like anyone, that is what makes us unique. However you feel beautiful should be your standard. And oddly, when you feel beautiful, others tend to agree with you!

[@MK-hh1vo]

Speak for yourself. I'm a Black American and I definitely fit the beauty standards that are common these days. Without even trying.

[@slikethefra]

What beauty standard do you have? ​@@MK-hh1vo

[@sosilly.phoenix]

@@MK-hh1vookay gangy wangy

[@REPENTFORTHEKINGDOMISATHAND]

@@MK-hh1voif you're white passing maybe or if your in West Africa those countries sure.

[@froyokid]

@@REPENTFORTHEKINGDOMISATHAND no my friend is dark skinned west african super skinny living in a big US city and she has everyone eating out of the palm of her hands

[@easiersaidwithmeg]

As a black woman i prefer to travel to spanish countries and the carribean over asia

[@PrettyPolyInPink]

Southeast Asian countries will treat you better.

[@easiersaidwithmeg]

@@PrettyPolyInPink ive been and no ones treated me better than Guatemala, Costa Rica, El Savador and Nicaragua

[@easiersaidwithmeg]

@@PrettyPolyInPink i like rice beans and cheese not noodles and pork.

[@rethinks5054]

@@easiersaidwithmeg I get what you are saying, Guatemala 🇬🇹, Costa Rica and such take anything, hence how short and fat they are.

[@sck7503]

Spanish speaking countries*

[@twinningintokyo5487]

This made me feel a bit uncomfortable as it's hard hearing black girls being evaluated with the notion that one is pretty and one is not as they are always (in such cases) both pretty. I've yet to see when someone was outright not good looking ~ it's just that one is more like the European beauty gaze. I hope this didn't dim the other girls light. As she is not lesser than! Overall, it was super interesting.

[@Rhennsammy]

I don't really see myself adjusting to the beauty standards I'm clearly not part of, I'm black so I have certain features that even the asians don't have, I clearly don't understand why women are so hard on themselves

[@lilmamagc]

I'm a black girl and i just came back from korea a month these beauty standards these KZbinrs complain about literally mean nothing over there. the general public literally couldn't care less

[@Minney-Me]

In all honesty, most of them don't even fit their own beauty standards 🤷🏾‍♀️ ...weight gain is becoming a worldwide epidemic bc of ultra processed junk food

[@Nat-mw3bz]

I'm TOTALLY with you on that! I don't care where I'm living in this world, I set my own damn BEAUTY STANDARDS! What is with Jayla? Girl, you need to understand that you'll never be as "pretty" as one of theirs!

[@Ytorisv]

​@@Minney-MeYou aint lyin. Lots of those Asian folks are real plump.

[@foodiet7518]

@@Nat-mw3bzThis write up was going very well,until the last two sentences

[@AuroraRosee03]

This video is a prime example 😢 they even favor jayla more than yolissa

[@MissDelancyDevin]

Racism and standards are some crazy sh*t because we are all humans. Also, Koreans bullying some black girl while they are Asians and are also bullied in America is straightforward insanity. This video is very important, y'all look beautiful.

[@TVwriter23]

Yeah but that will be a different experience for Asians in Asian countries than Americans.

[@Brianna.xo14]

@@TVwriter23 no I’m saying Asians should be supporting black people since they both have had racism so they get it and they should be working together instead of disliking but it’s more so Asians don’t really like black people

[@KateHaehua]

@@Brianna.xo14period

[@lilmamagc]

it's not as bad as they make it.

[@Brianna.xo14]

@@lilmamagc uhm it is as bad as they are making it how are u gonna down grade their experience everyone has different experiences and most black people or people with darker skin or they are considered ugly they get bad kinda treatment

[@rosangeles4754]

It's so stupid and weird to pretend to cancel a party just because of the physical appearance of someone.

[@eimearmcmanus372]

Yup what a boring party it must have been.

[@JWHealing]

Agreed, but it was probably a party that was their attempt at dating women they wanted to date.

[@bri_x_p9553]

Even as someone who has nvr lived abroad, the part that Jayla said about "foreigner vs woman" makes so much sense fr. Growing up in predominantly white neighborhoods, the things ppl say to you or in front of you can be sm wilder when they see you as more like 'one of them' vs a 'regular black person'. They don't say these things in front of ppl who fit their stereotypes of black culture (bc they know what kinda reaction they should expect). They think regarding you as token is some sort of compliment, & it's not novel to Korea so I'm not rly sure why Yolissma acted oblivious to it. I hope Jayla can heal, there's practically nowhere on Earth where fair skin isn't the beauty standard, so ik being in an industry like modeling is probably incredibly rough for bw anywhere

[@astrid1233]

yea that part was interesting to me as-well, I'm not sure why yolissa was reacting that way, this experience is pretty much universal.

[@iamawesomeprods]

I would say Africia obviously not all of Africa because there is colorism there too. But there are places we’re being white or fair isn’t the standard or beauty ideal. I think we need to start considering Africa more when we think about traveling and even moving to another country. Or even the carribeans!

[@BearingMySeoul]

Well maybe Yolissa hangs out with more foreigners wheras the other girl is working with Koreans AND in entertainment, both of which are going to strongly affect your experience. Also, when you look like you're trying to fit in, people are gonna critique how well you fit in. That's pretty much anywhere. I dress how I want (a little different) whether in the US or abroad so people automatically know I'm not the one. lol

[@thebilliexojean]

I sent this to my sister. We’re Black American and SE Asian. This is an important topic, and I appreciate both of these women’s honesty and vulnerability in sharing their experiences 💜

[@johnnyjoestar7143]

their skin tone is very similar, almost the same

[@nyeguono]

Yes, so I think its featurism

[@cheriagata6408]

But one has less rounded features and that makes all the difference in the world sadly

[@lisamaria3875]

I Was Thinking 🤔 The Same Thing 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@niashambreay]

Jayla is trying to assimilate and being a model you have to pay close attention to your image. She also came here at an age that girls are very impressionable. I understood everything that she meant but I think she does has a room for growth. Her experiences definitely played a big part in her thought process. Yolissa would be a great friend to help her boost her confidence. I hope Yolissa light never dims.

[@Mariamomo_]

I really resonate with Jayla. When I moved to Korea and mindlessly decided to wear my natural hair straight one day, I would get so many more compliments, asked on dates, mingled with more people, talked to on the street etc (the ugly side like sexual harassment also comes with that too. I had been stalked, had 3 Korean men try to drag me to a love motel as I waited for a taxi, been groped etc without ever stepping foot in a nightclub). I also had korean 'friends' who would tell me I got 'prettier' and the only thing that changed was my hair. I was always praised for my curly hair in my home country but the contrast in Korea was eye-opening. I felt having straight hair gives you more of a break from 'standing out', of course its impossible to fit in as a 174cm Black foreigner, but the curly hair definitely added to the stares. I started to feel guilty for feeling that way. I loved many aspects of Korea but conforming to the standards is impossible, endless and exhausting. If you don't have a thick skin you can start to question your sense of self big time. I love how Yolissma stays true to herself. I hate how a sense of self can be attached to desirability but it is true, in many places you'll simply be treated better for being closer to their standards - foreigners will never be Korean but treatment will vary based on appearance. I love Korea but I took away that I love being my natural self more.

[@HipsterClub1000]

But Kayla is a man

[@ashtypology]

I recently travelled to Korea and had a similar experience to the popular girl despite us looking so different, I'm mixed, short, my skin is not good and I have box braids. But still, I was also treated like a celebrity, getting free drinks, lots of compliments, old people offering me a seat on the subway, random people coming up to take pictures of me, ajummas talking to me about their single sons, girlfriends getting mad at their boyfriends after walking near them on the street, random men following me around... I knew pretty privilege in korea was a thing but seeing first hand how obviously differently people treated me versus other foreigners it was all so wild, After comparing my experience to other tourists and friends and hearing how different our stories were I realized how lucky I was that I never had any bad remarks, racists comments or any sort of shaming or belittlement. I got mostly compliments, some randos in the street flirting, people trying to teach me korean words or trying to practice their english, sharing their food and culture, etc.. It's so interesting. I wonder what made me "fit" into the korean standard or why did they treat me so distinctly...

[@Maderlololohio]

Maybe matching their facial features and or being considered cute. Their beauty standards differ from ours after all

[@AmeenaMcKenzie]

If your complexion is lighter, that may be why.

[@3ama4life]

Jayla needs a friend like Yolissima. It seems like not fitting the beauty standard is actually a BLESSING! You get to live your life without being stalked/harrassed/used as props at parties. Yolissima ironically is having a much better experience

[@kimmixerxs]

The lady with the straight hair, had some terrible experiences living in Korea. I think the lady with the curly hair is somewhat naive and is in her bubble for safety and protection. Sometimes as Black women we choose not to see things because it just hurts us too much.

[@rossyreyesfajardo3708]

135 pound is heavy?! My fkng goshhhh.

[@nataliewalters2759]

I know right ??😂

[@Lollasa]

Right

[@iamreborn3463]

I would love to be 135. I’m 5’8 and 155. 135 on tall frame is skinny

[@jaelahardy5808]

I’m literally 135 pounds rn LMAO

[@maggidiy]

Taking Korea out of the equation, this seems more like an exotical vs unambiguous black womens experience in general.

[@zohar9583]

I appreciate Jaylas honesty, we all want to be as comfortable as possible in the place we're living in so I understand her adapting to the beauty standards so she can have a better experience in Korea.

[@Dearestshee]

The title rubs me the wrong way

[@Fringedjewels]

The ambiguous looking one fits Korean beauty standards for small face, straight hair and slim figure, but very pale skin is a major standard as well. She is being approached a lot, but I’m curious how many of those who approach do so on a fetish tip. She even hints at it when she briefly mentioned the stereotyped belief of Black women being more open sexually. There are other videos that discuss how a good deal of men won’t see dating BW as a standard/serious relationship. Bottom line, it’s kind of sad that she changed some things to assimilate, yet seems insecure despite the pretty privilege.

[@awildandraginghoshiappeari1199]

“Ambiguous.” Do you know what that word means? She does not look other OTHER than Black… you can clearly tell she’s not mixed

[@Fringedjewels]

@@awildandraginghoshiappeari1199 Wrong. She does not look like the typical standard for a biracial person.

[@KaiKailuv]

@@Fringedjewelsbut it’s not like you can’t tell what race she is. That’s what ambiguous means. You can clearly tell she’s at least part black

[@Fringedjewels]

@@KaiKailuv Part Black is not the same as only Black. She might have other influences in her genealogy. I acknowledge that possibility as opposed to the Jim-Crow-era “one drop” rule. Some prefer to acknowledge the gray area of other and I respect the possibility of that wish. I look unambiguous and I identify as Black. I also am 1/8 Native American and see that influence in my eyes and high cheekbones. I acknowledge the influence of my other but have always chosen to identify as Black American. Definition of Racial Ambiguity (via Google search): “Racial ambiguity occurs when a person's racial background cannot be easily identified based on appearance or other characteristics. Racially ambiguous people may be perceived as bi-racial or multi-racial, but others may not be able to discern their specific racial background.”

[@Fringedjewels]

@@KaiKailuv Being part Black is not the same as being only Black. Racial ambiguity means the origins are not clearly defined. I say ambiguous looking because I respect the possibility that others might prefer to acknowledge the gray area of other influences in their genealogy. She looks like she might have other influences in her genealogy.

[@gabriellero7358]

It’s so interesting because a lot of the experiences Jayla has in Korea I’ve experienced here in the US in NY the spectacle about my hair or just being stared at im pretty for a dark skin girl comments on my weight or being treated better because of pretty privilege or when im curvier but I’ve also experienced yolissas experience here too when she said that man just left her on the ground after she got hurt they do that in ny too it’s so sad that people are like this

[@ivanafloyde2948]

Slipped on a manhole cover and busted my knee and literally all of this was what happened people observed and didn’t say or do a damn thing to help. Told my niece to never ever walk on them when wet or covered with snow it was so embarrassing and hurtful.

[@millsb2214]

This is interesting, I just watched the other video with Jayla and the guy with a fan on a blind date. I didn’t know that stuff was staged 😩. Jayla also presented very shy and giggly. Was that an act? Both beautiful women!

[@KaeMaiden]

She's been there since she was sixteen. Of course she would take on some of their manners.

[@derringtravel]

AYYYYY YOLISSMA! so proud of you. You did a wonderful job in this video.

[@Deontay-n7f]

Looking at their instagrams, I think it's more like different lifestyles than popular versus unpopular lol. Jayla looks like she hangs out at nightclubs, around partiers, etc. Yolissma looks like she has a more adult lifestyle. I see this in general in Korea vlogs. Like Caricakes in Korea has a lowkey hipster, humble life that is completely different than vloggers who just go there clubbing. Her experiences are very chill, lowkey, etc. Similar to Yolissmas.

[@lo2779]

No offensive but why go and stay somewhere if you feel unwelcomed and it affects your self-esteem? I'm not justifying Korean treatment of "others" but it’s not like these ladies were born in Korea, it wouldn't be ok, but you could understand why the person is there, it’s their home. Ladies it sounds like it’s time to leave Korea. Visit for holidays but don't make it your home, the sacrifice seems way too big!

[@Ciaseea]

She can obviously handle it but that doesn't mean she loves are parts of it. There is give and take almost everywhere. Furthermore there are many Black people everywhere who think everywhere hates us. So with this logic should we all just cease to exist? If she's somewhere that makes her happy but there is so strife she should deal with what she can and I suggest everyone else do the same. I am not so fragile I will keep opinions from living my life and she is probably the same.

[@lebohangmonakali2441]

Jayla, you can see how pleased she is with herself to meet the Korean standard. She finds it flattering. Its so sad

[@yamsnmac]

I guess it’s because I’m Black , looking at these two women, there is no popular and unpopular one here. Also, black people are not a monolith. They’re both gorgeous.

[@Magarita810]

I does not matter how straight you straighten your hair unless you are Korean you will always stand out so just be yourself

[@justPisfinethanks]

girl, people treat us differently in the United States based on our hair and weight, too! the bigger (higher weight) , the curlier, the darker-- immediately they treat us like we're less womanly. It's sad

[@BRODAG]

Just be your self and be happy don’t change for anything

[@melaninmonroeeee]

Exactly 🤎

[@aprilmorris5343]

Okay but there both FABULOUS!!!!!

[@Katice634]

I’m American and I have been harassed by men since elementary school. I’m 37 now but get cat calls and honks since 5th grade. I’ve had men follow me into stores, cut me off with their car or bike. These are men problems no matter where I go. It’s interesting to hear their experiences in Korea.

[@deealia2568]

Lies! Girl, bye. You're just trying to get subscribers

[@ramonajennings4692]

Self-esteem comes from inside, no matter where you are in the world. 😢 Only love to my young sisters🧡

[@abena8339]

What a superficial and depthless comment. Self esteem comes from both inside and outside factors (the way the world treats and responds to us).

[@ramonajennings4692]

@@abena8339Like I said, "only love...." 🧡

[@abena8339]

⁠@@ramonajennings4692yeah you added nothing meaningful to the conversation ❤

[@ramonajennings4692]

@@abena8339 I'm not looking for a debate

[@abena8339]

@@ramonajennings4692Don’t make comments on public platforms if you don’t want disagreeing opinions. However, you can choose to ignore.

[@summit9681]

When they say that "you do not look like a regular black person..." at 1:29 basically means that you do not look like what their brainwashed standard and expectation of a female black woman. So when you hear this, you should find a way to tell them that there is no standard look when it comes to black women all over the world. If you are dressed in the street as you are dressed now, know that in South Korean culture, exposing shoulders and collarbones you are considered 'loose' in the promiscuous sense. It is good to know what some of these cultural difference are before you go. Skirts can be extremely short, but showing shoulders is a no no.

[@pinkglitz]

This happens everywhere, including the USA. I am an African, with African features. I have been treated differently by even African Americans. I was treated differently when i had my natural hair and was overweight. Now, that i am skinner and use staright wigs, the treatment has been totally different and more positive. So, it's not just in Korea. This even happens in Africa.

[@alyboo9507]

I REALLY wonder what Yolissma was saying in the interview... Too bad much of her commentary was edited out of this bideo ..which is weird. Based on what was allowed to air, I'm sure Yolissma's commentary was empowering and showing the confidence of a centered Black woman. I feel a bit sad for Jayla, changing her beautiful Black self for a culture that will never accept her. I hope her self-worth increases and she surrounds herself with people that uplift her as she is.

[@chocoraffe5828]

Here I am 3 weeks late to the party... I am a black American woman currently living in South Korea. I have had experiences similar to both of them. However, I am only ever approached and commented on my physical appearance in a positive way when I had straight hair. Comments like "you have such a small face" or "your skin is so beautiful" always amazed me because I never got those when my hair is curly or in braids. My face size, shape, and skin tone don't change depending on what my hair looks like yet those things become instantly more beautiful when I look a certain way. So there are definitely varying degrees of treatment even among the black community.

[@lissendayishimiye1330]

I love yollisima confindence and jayla smile Ps:jayla don't let these Korean beauty standards get you girl you are beautiful big or thin it doesn't matter what's truly matters is your peace of mind accept yourself as you are. Yollisima i really like your confidence and how beautiful inside and outside you are stay just as you are girl. Jayla and yollisima you girls are so beautiful

[@cheriagata6408]

I love the wholesome young lady with the fro! Two beautiful ladies and only one is unfazed

[@hellopumpkin86]

A lot of beautiful women who fit the commercialized “standard” are insecure. I do not think it is a coincidence that many beautiful women, of all races, are extremely insecure and people-pleasers because a lot of them make it their mission to conform, be accepted, and stand out, like Jayla in this video does daily.

[@dokessezeaka5159]

There should definitely be Korean subtitles for Koreans to understand this perspective too

[@NatashaHannahSophia]

"you get treated better if you fit the beauty standard"... Same in the U.S. and many other countries. All of the experiences discussed are a typical Tuesday in Miami

[@kvra.]

I love how they are able to share their experiences in korea in this video but the random stock videos are just disturbing and the editing is just not good😭😭

[@IRDGAF111]

But it's not only in Korea nor for black women cause i felt this too! When i was a young girl i had a huge amount of curly hair (as a white girl in France in the 2000's) and i wasn't popular AT ALL i was laughed cause of my hairs, so i started straightened them and in the 2000's it waa very hard to straightened the hair! But i did it and by magic i suddenly became a very popular girl with very long and straight hairs! Since (i'm 40) i always make my hair straight even if curly hairs are most trendy in this era...

[@udontevenwannaknowbruv]

I’m sad to hear that… I love afro hair I always admired it. I hope some day you will feel completely comfortable wearing natural hair

[@snickerswo1f519]

I feel straight hair ia more curly in this "era" (as a mexican with curly hair, seeing black, white and other races with straight hair)

[@divx1001]

I had the same experience and I'm Asian... My dad had very curly hair but my mom has straight hair. She didn't know how to care for curly hair, so my hair was always either tangled or a huge mess. I was bullied relentlessly for my hair, then when I started straightening it, all of a sudden I had the same girls that used to bully me come up to me and tell me that I was secretly beautiful and they would give me advice on how to dress myself... It's a weird experience for sure.

[@nicoleraheem1195]

Curly hair is beautiful. I've always thought so, especially when Julia Roberts was in pretty woman. I, myself, grew up on perms so I never got to embrace my hair until 2012, and even then, I had no clue what was going on. I shaved my hair bald every 6 months for another 8 years or so. I just stopped shaving my head about 2 years ago, and just cut off hair dye from it spring of this year. I wish natural hair in its natural state was more celebrated in the 90s.

[@nicoleraheem1195]

Curly hair is beautiful. I've always thought so, especially when Julia Roberts was in pretty woman. I, myself, grew up on perms so I never got to embrace my hair until 2012, and even then, I had no clue what was going on. I shaved my hair bald every 6 months for another 8 years or so. I just stopped shaving my head about 2 years ago, and just cut off hair dye from it spring of this year. I wish natural hair in its natural state was more celebrated in the 90s.

[@TheAngelLife1010]

"I'd probably have low self-esteem."----The shade!!!💀

[@Cxs1a3]

fax d0e

[@KaeMaiden]

Caught that too😂

[@rosekt2023]

When?

[@Catdogcatdog1212]

I loved Yolissa in this video, such a sweet and pretty girl

[@DamilolaFavour-hx7qm]

Honestly I'm Nigerian and I think the beauty standards differ in each country so if you're Korean or African either way they're always different things to consider. In Nigeria for example jayla would have been more body shame to that she would have been seen as a maybe small girl like a flat ass something like that cause of the curvy shape. Women would even get a bbl or liposuction So in Nigeria Africa women with more curvy shapes, flat tummy and thin waist are considered more sexy and feminine. In Africa we see black Americans still as black every black every dark skin person we still consider you blood cause you pretty much look like us exactly except for the accent like there's nothing different. But we're not stereotype cause people still come in different sizes and we always love to foreigners especially if they respect our culture. There's a lot say about a topic like this though.

[@book_worm22]

Sorry but as a blk American i disagree that we look like yall. Number one, most if not all blk Americans have at least 20 percent European ancestry. I look blk and asian and used to get called China doll. My skin isnt as dark as many Africans ive seen. The idea that we look like yall is laughable. Sorry but alot of Africans look…less…evolved almost to me.

[@dee-fr3vv]

@@book_worm22 the reason why you feel this way is because your people wear lashes and wigs so you might think you look different but if we take all those things away you all will look like a regular african i promise you lol also search up ayra starr, tyla, tems, tiwa savage, do they look less evolved? no:)

[@dee-fr3vv]

@@book_worm22 also you looking asian does not add any value to his/her comment because there are tons of africans especially west and south africans that have slim almond eyes or what you think makes people look "asian"

[@dee-fr3vv]

@@book_worm22 also most of you blk americans look west african, you saying is not as dark does not make any sense cause there are africans with light skin like the nigerian artiste, qing madi, lightskin africans are common especially in the igbo tribe in nigeria! :)

[@sugarzblossom8168]

​@@book_worm22seems like you aren't proud of being black

[@sabrinacarter6904]

I kinda wish Jayla would let Yolissima talk. She just spoke right over her and I wanted a balanced conversation.

[@facedown36]

A friendship between these two could be great and create healthy vibes. Korea is just opening up to the world.....

[@lonnieyoyo593]

I know somebody else can see what I saw. That laughing attitude whenever the girl with curly hair would tell about her awful experiences. I didn't find anything remotely laughable. Maybe some Koreans don't like the way she looks, but who cares. She has a beauty that the rest of the world thinks is magnificent.

[@ItzyPrin722]

So basically, she is saying that before she felt like a nuisance to Korean society and after conforming, she basically was worthy of attention.

[@abena8339]

What’s your point?

[@ItzyPrin722]

@abena8339 my point was that I was summarizing what she was feeling. Who pissed in your cheerios?

[@nachayla716]

I think Yolissma didn’t have the experiences Jayla has encountered for many reasons. One: she’s not who Koreans desire or consider attractive which is why the stalking or sexual connotations never happened to her. Two: she’s very sheltered. She’s someone who chooses to not see the world for what it is and that’s okay sometimes. Three: she’s very secure in who she is so she doesn’t let things bother her.

[@kaybeauty2134]

I love how confident she is with her curly hair not changing for anyone standards just as beautiful ❤

[@elizabeththomas9485]

I like the young lady with the afro or natural hair bc the problem with this world is to have you conform to the way of their beauty standards. Black people are always expected to conform to anyone who isn't Black. I like the young lady with the natural hair and her style of dress and she looked comfortable and very self confident. Young lady with the straight hair is not being true too herself and appears to be a people pleaser and that can be bc of low self esteem.

[@publicminx]

long story short. you like her for ideologic. reasons - and you see only ppl as 'true to themself' if they dont change anything. the reality is that true self esteem means that you can do what you want and stand to that. means also NOT to fulfill your limited expectation, because also you pressure ppl to a certain expectation.

[@kristageorge5811]

Totally understood Jayla when she said they now see me as a woman

[@Cxs1a3]

they see her as a foreigner first, woman or whatever , 2nd. When they think of woman, they don't think of a wite or bIac woman.

[@LiveyYoe]

That name Yolimissa is so beautiful

[@riannedaemul]

I understand where Jayla is coming from lve been living in Korea for almost two years now and l get the stares,comments,hair touching and all every time sometimes it dies get to me during those hard homesick weeks but most of the time l just take it as people who are curious and amused by meeting a black person so l don’t allow myself to get offended,in terms of beauty standards because lm already a foreigner and African to be exact l already don’t fit into their expectations so l don’t even try even if l did l wouldn’t still because it overrides who l am,lve had times l had to undo my braids for shoots but sometimes l tell them l got braids so that’s fine right and they agree,it’s starting with accepting who you are so people can also accept you ,the rest that ain’t willing to accept you as you are and how your hair or looks are ,are not even worth working or talking with then

[@AmberQueen3]

Personal opinion based off of observation. I believe that the stares and the creepy behavior (NOT EXCUSING it bc wtf? Were all humans stop being weird) comes from the idea of black ppl being perceived based on the mass-produced product of our media representation that is not offering the variety that we are at large. Because of this people are shoockith when they see a version of us or a person from our community that isn't what they see on screen (unfortunately).

[@cyadore]

true

[@Yougotthis1212]

The one girl seems very insecure and is letting others standards shape her view of herself. The girl with the curly hair is so much more well grounded and secure in herself

[@blessingm6926]

having low self-esteem is just sad, especially when it's related to physical appearance

[@ajm.5160]

Bruh she basically said Im pretty and you're not. After she literally said I did it to conform to countries lame ass societal and beauty standards. Do BETTER in life and stop trying project yourself on others.

[@shinellgrant6851]

She needs to have her own show

[@l.b.8448]

I did not need the video to tell me why they treat these two women differently.

[@luvl333y]

Omg they’re both so beautiful 😫

[@feat.hannie]

Fact: a pretty person is considered pretty in any country despite their skin tone.

[@KaiKailuv]

No

[@The-Mediator]

Yes. Even if they’re colorist or racist, they know damn well they both stunning.

[@ivanafloyde2948]

No. You’re incorrect why do you think America has the one drop rule. It’s to keep all black people no matter how light or dark they are less. You can look it up and while you’re at it. Type in the paper bag test. It’s if you’re lighter than a generic. brown paper bag you’re acceptable. If you’re darker than that same bag your socially no matter the country or place unacceptable. Because Asians in majority bleach usually you guys don’t have to deal with any of this because you literally get to wipe the slate clean unless your African/African diaspora/African American and bleaching none of that ever occurs for us but the rest of us aren’t raised bleaching and raised proud of who we are and we still have to deal with the covert racism colonization put in place. Just like another rule you can look up called a the one drop rule. It used to be if you found out you had a black ancestor or were perceived black people would do what they can to act as if the ancestor did not exist even if it was their own parents or use make up and perms to straighten their hair to appear white looking or at least Spanish/Latino/Hispanic because they wanted to be anything but black looking. I wish you all would educate yourselves because just because she pretty doesn’t mean being black is not thrown in our faces. It’s constantly thrown in our faces everyday, every minute, every hour. We just bear with it because unless you have millions of dollars a whole makeover is out of reach and self love and as kissing those who give impossible standards is stupid. I have met skinny people from all walks of life and it kills me they put skinny on a pedestal but ask any of them to ride a bike or go for a jog and they cannot because their super unhealthy. The body dysmorphia kills me.

[@mayanevergaf]

THANK YOU. I don't know why this is a difficult concept for ppl.

[@MK-hh1vo]

Absolutely! Even if they hate you, they acknowledge your beauty.

[@TheAymsa]

Beauty standards are perceived similarly across the world, irrespective of skin colour. Although notions of attractiveness and sex appeal may differ individually, the overall understanding of beauty remains consistent.

[@tmc1373]

Jayla is so beautiful! She fits the standard because of her weight and facial feature! The Asian and European standard are very similar.

[@angelapalmer7558]

Racists

[@tmc1373]

@@angelapalmer7558 They are racists because they like her??

[@publicminx]

@@angelapalmer7558 you are the racist, because you are the one who is racification the context. just in case you didnt know: races do not exist.

[@IcyTii]

I don't think jayla experience is even comparable to Yolissa. Sis got chased by men ( not something very pleasant) to a whole party being canceled ( I know they didn't canceled it ) just so yolissa couldn't attend. So freaking crazy

[@kimpossible6654]

I love Yolissima she reminds me of Chaka Khan ❤ love her outlook. Jayla, It must be hard being a model & black in a foreign country like Korea. Good conversation… the title is misleading.. be great to have two different types of black models in Korea.😊

[@Tiffiany]

Omg, the slip and fall on the ice, story. 😮

[@ajrt_2118]

I've been living in Korea for over a year and a half. My experience has been like that of Yolissma. I've gotten SOME random cat calls from old men, but it was the same in America. Other than that, No one really bothers me. A few stares from ahjummas, but usually because I'm wearing a tank top and showing shoulders.

[@nyasha7721]

Mmmm i would pass on Jayla as a friend. The issue isn't her experiences, the issue is Jayla actually likes that sort of attention.. Sis is actually bragging. If she wasn't getting that sort of attention anymore she would be confused as to what she's doing wrong. Just listen to the way she's talking - HOW she's talking.

[@amalia1_]

you’re so dumb. she’s telling us her experience, you think she enjoys being stalked? She’s not bragging , it sounds like you’re just jealous

[@karineatem8865]

Both of you are really beautiful women. Struggling with societal beauty standards happens to everyone. It's not race biased, it happens everywhere. Everybody copes with it differently (but we all cope). It doesn't matter the face u put up (It's still coping). Thus none of your personalities are bad. Infact "u are just humans". My advise is: wear straight hair when u can but also strive to keep it real when u can (cuz that's the only way to cope but still find someone real). Good luck to both of you😉

[@KatedoesYoutube]

More content from Jayla please! 🙏🏼