Pot Smoking Alcoholic interview-Kandee

Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Kandee, a marijuana smoking alcoholic in Los Angeles.
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[@Thomas5792]

Pot and alcohol my favorite combi for a long time, about 15 years... but now 2 weeks sober. Not much but feeling much better already. Love to you all!

[@ChelseaMiddlebrook]

Rick, good for you buddy! Keep it up! 💯

[@Thomas5792]

@@ChelseaMiddlebrook thnx!

[@jackqualingurley1106]

Keep it up man

[@PandaA-cv3mm]

This is incredible Rick! Congrats. Keep up the amazing work. You’re worth it. ☺️🙏🕊

[@MuMu-fu7qe]

Eyyyy you got this! Surrender 💕

[@Earthdogbonzo3]

When she said "fourteen", my mouth fell open. She had her first at thirteen, left school at fourth grade, had fourteen children by 5 or 6 different men, has Lupus and regulates the pain with alcohol and Marijuana. Kandee's way of speaking and the tone of her voice are that of a young child not yet ten years old, i.e. very direct and unguarded like an innocent child. I can only wonder that people like her do exist and live in our country. Her body and skin tone do not seem to show the wear and tear of such a hard life/existence. And she appears to have all, if not most of her teeth. When asked "have you ever been in love?", her answer and tone were that of a very old soul. I think she will outlive most of us here in spite of her Lupus and alcohol/Marijuana abuses. The power of being a mother is a most special power. Much love, prayer and admiration for your strength Kandee.

[@abbiesonntag3855]

I love this comment.

[@shreddykrueger3776]

She left out the part where she was an astronaut who went to the moon

[@writingpad7142]

& no stretch marks or big belly... her figure is amazing considering

[@jaynewilcox9527]

When she said she went to school until 4th grade so young 🥺

[@kimgarcia8012]

She's lying, period!

[@olumidekolajo4133]

I have been a chronic alcoholic with liver damage for over thirty years . Don’t give up you are beautiful woman

[@marylougeorge9890]

Please don't give up on yourself.❤️❤️❤️

[@southpawlibranine3511]

Beautiful😂

[@TwoTrakMind]

As a dad who dearly loves and cares for his children, it breaks my heart to hear her story. I just want to hug her and let her cry on my shoulder. I wish I could take this away for her and give her a fresh start on life, but all I can do is wish her well and pray. May you find peace and hope, Kandee.

[@kylabella05]

Your babies are lucky to have not only a dad that is in their lives but loves them unconditionally. I relate in the fact as a mother I just want to embrace this women and tell her how worthy and loved she truly is

[@adthornton4552]

It all starts at home doesn't it pal. I worry for my girl's in this world. Hope il be here for them long as possible

[@six1nina560]

U r so rt

[@ShoeBooty860]

@Jesus is the Way, the Truth and the Life But only words. Suppose a brother or sister is without clothes and daily food. 16If one of you tells him, “Go in peace; stay warm and well fed,” but does not provide for his physical needs, what good is that? 17So too, faith by itself, if it does not result in action, is dead.…James 2:15,16

[@ShoeBooty860]

@Jesus is the Way, the Truth and the Life You got it brother/sister. So too, faith by itself, if it does not result in action, is dead. But someone will say, “You have faith and I have deeds.” Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by my deeds. James 2:17,18

[@MAT6864027]

This was really sad to watch. Her parents damaged her and I am sure that unfortunately her siblings are in the same boat. I wish her and her 14 children the best moving forward 🙏🏾

[@MAT6864027]

@Jaclyn Ann VLOGS!💚 yeah girl!

[@niaprice3267]

MY HEART IS WITH YOU KANDEE! I feel your pain and send YOU love, positivity and healing on your journey.

[@donnadonato527]

My heart breaks for her. She's not proud of much in her life but she's proud of her stoic way of dealing with this combined pain and heartbreak. Blessings and prayers for you and your children 🙏🙏🙏

[@juliettezea9507]

How is she not proud of much. She has 14 kids. Most can’t have 1 and struggle with infertility

[@tdog1983-v6c]

She shouldn’t of had any. She’s a drug addict and an alcoholic. And has had every one them taken away from her. If she had 4 kids, that would be a catastrophe, but 14?????? She should’ve been sterilized.

[@Natharsus]

@@juliettezea9507 Is your brain malfunctioning? Why would anybody be proud of having 14 kids? You’re a delusional idiot. Having that many children is incredibly irresponsible and downright disgusting. Most (if not all) of her children will grow up with emotional and psychological issues and confusion due to the choices of their pathetic, careless, prostituting, drug addicted, alcoholic mother.

[@Natharsus]

@@tdog1983-v6c It’s nice to know that somebody’s brain is functioning correctly in this comment section.

[@tdog1983-v6c]

Brandon Marcus thanks my brotha

[@statusdisarray9598]

The older we get, the more insight we have, the more our demons can haunt us .

[@NancyGarcia-rr9nm]

Very true

[@Elhastezy888]

I share so so many things in common with this lady based purely off information she gave. Went a couple years "doing the best I could" until I figured out that I wasn't doing the best that I could & started going to meetings. Then getting therapy for the reasons I was self medicating. Turned out to not only be *ALOT* less expensive than weed & booze but it also saved my brain (wet brain) my liver (cirrhosis) & my sanity (personality disorders) Maladapted brain patterns formed in childhood from abuse/neglect/abandonment, etc are wretched roadblocks once an adult. It's very difficult to rewire them, it takes concerted effort. Need resources & knowledge. Alcohol is cheap, society accepted, oftentimes you don't realize what's happening until it's too late. Wishing you the best Kandee, good luck & many blessings on your path💕

[@NissyMtz18]

Wow! I know the feeling 🙏♥️‼️💪🏽

[@bashmeesh]

Fuckkkkk I hear that!!! Good for you taking care of yourself 🤍

[@jenniferblue1387]

Great reply! I love that!!

[@lucadia7554]

You are extremely strong,,what you did for yourself was tremendous. Bless you a hundred times over. Thank you for writing and sharing. I hope Kandee can write a memoir someday... she said she liked writing.

[@MikeCCO]

Excellent insights

[@mariaportas5401]

The more I watch these interviews I realize human suffering is everywhere and thanks to Mark he's allowing us to see this for ourselves. If these videos can create more compassion and understanding for our fellow man/woman then this is the best thing on KZbin.

[@marylougeorge9890]

👍👏👏👏

[@inaj27]

That part !!

[@enochlovecraft569]

Take a look outside of your box, experience life, not KZbin, and not people that make money off others misfortunes!

[@mariaportas5401]

@@enochlovecraft569 I don't know who you are referring to enoch but I've seen a lot of pain and suffering in real time. However, a lot of people have not witnessed the misey of this reality . Some people live very good lives and may have never seen upfront and in depth the pain that homeless people experience. This channel gives people the chance to work on their empathy levels which a lot of society lacks. I hope you are one of the lucky ones Mr Lovecraft.

[@enochlovecraft569]

@@mariaportas5401 to me it sounds like you have a case of Schadenfreude! You get your kick and he gets his views! If you want to help, go hand out sandwiches to the homeless, fight for them to get rehabilitation, education and skills that they are lacking which have brought them to this lower echelon, this just exacerbates an already messed up situation

[@stormisavagee]

When she said “I just wanna smoke weed and be happy” I felt that 😂🥹

[@dertythegrower]

Yeah.. everyone should because it is literal medicine, undeniable in science for years.

[@southpawlibranine3511]

Not if you abuse it it aint medicine​@dertythegrower stip spreading stoner lies

[@DetroitFettyghost]

I relate to so much of what she said, especially the part when she said "there's always something" reference to triggering PTSD, anxiety and depression. There truly is and I cant seem to evade it for more than minutes at a time.

[@ericalagrasta7657]

Hey I watch you! Even just via KZbin it’s vibrantly obvious you’re a kind, loving & very genuine person. ❤️✊🏼 love and power from the good old toxic waste dump of central NJ :)

[@DetroitFettyghost]

@@ericalagrasta7657 What's good Brother!! I appreciate you so much! Sending love from my equally treacherous wasteland lol, have a great day my friend 🙏🏼

[@deanmorgan9034]

Kandee checks off all of my PTSD boxes. My heart breaks for those kids...

[@Jackie-nt4es]

Yess I’d love an update from her. I can relate to and have so much empathy for this woman

[@marylougeorge9890]

❤️❤️❤️

[@Zipwasheredinos]

❤️

[@Sheisimmaculate]

This one was inspiring Mark, because she is still finding the will to live 💕 as best she can but she hasn’t gave up completely on life. “You never stop learning”

[@brentonvelasquez4875]

“…because I can’t go back and change it. It’s done already, so why regret it, learn from it, do it different.” That got me.

[@waitwhat564]

Yes. That was brilliant! Regret only causes shame , guilt and sometimes depression. See things to learn from. Spoke to me too.

[@tontobb8956]

So much pain in her face She can’t run or hide from it. Poor woman No kid deserve this shit. She’s a good person inside. But badly damaged by her parents I hope she finds peace at some stage

[@annaxefta587]

Ur soooooo gullible.

[@annaxefta587]

How do u know?

[@tontobb8956]

@@annaxefta587 it’s called reading body language my dear. Unless she’s a very good actress. Which she’s not

[@paolacordova5335]

13:33 "I can turn You into a junkie, but I can't help You." Proof that it's ALWAYS profit over people.😔

[@pyromaniac354]

Yep Take your 4th booster comes to mind....

[@pyromaniac354]

@@EchoBravo370 or that they can cure a lot of stuff but more money to be made not curing but keep people dependant

[@a.wanderer5006]

Yep that's why Purdue Pharma, the maker of the highly addictive painkiller OxyContin, was dissolved recently, but unlike when your corner drug dealer is arrested, no one goes to jail.

[@pyromaniac354]

@@a.wanderer5006 bingo. look at them like big "legal" drug dealers

[@Mark-gn5rw]

Profound 💯

[@betsybabf748]

If cancer cells are found in the ovaries, the ovaries have to be taken immediately. They can't find cancer cells 3 times in the ovaries. They can find pre-cancerous cells in the cervix and remove them, which many women have and is common, but if they find any sign of cancer in ovaries, both ovaries are taken immediately.

[@sharoncochran8508]

A lot of her story doesn't add up.

[@mellyo7262]

Yeah she’s a liar… like many addicts. There’s truth there, but it’s padded out with lies…and why time and time again do they have to bring children into the equation…

[@mercmichigan]

@@sharoncochran8508 correct. So much exaggeration and embellishment with almost no pushback on her claims. She is just hustling Mark for a check.

[@Hi-bl8rm]

Hopefully they take them out soon so she doesn’t have anymore children.

[@betsybabf748]

@@Leviathan-mj8gi I had both ovaries removed a few years ago due to tumors, and had 3 opinions including Dana Farber Cancer Center and Mass General (best hospital on East coast). They have to take them to even biopsy. They can't just open you and see cancer, and they can't test just a piece, leaving rest in, with them continuing to work. If she didn't have them removed, she wouldn't even know if there were cancer cells, nevermind magically had them found 3 times. She is either outright lying, not understanding how it works, or she is confusing with precancerous cells on cervix, which almost every woman has at least once in her life.

[@lDarkhorsel]

This was outstanding. Kandee is a survivor. And through her struggles she's found perspective: Never give up. Life is about The Path, not what's at the end of it. 💛💙

[@danyellg3079]

Something not adding up here. I don't think she's being honest. 💔

[@asmrturbowhistlecalm8224]

This whole channel is full of lying ass bums

[@Gram820]

Not at all!!

[@hazela931]

What's so fantasical?

[@aremnant3937]

I often realize that even though I have seriously battled addiction amongst many other vices, my life has overall been very good. Thank you Mark for giving these people a safe place to be heard.

[@marylougeorge9890]

❤️

[@hayleyfay4779]

🧡 same here

[@RabidDisposition]

14 children?? She must be a powerhouse of genetic potential if they all came out without any serious complications. If she was nurtured, loved, and guided, she probably could have done anything she wanted.

[@1976mcfarlane]

Most of the symptoms she says She's suffering from today is due to extreme mineral deficiency so she definitely has paid the price with her body

[@crawdaddy6969]

@@1976mcfarlane I bet most of her kids are messed up. Any guy that sleeps with her is off to begin with. the fact that she has 14 kids shows how stupid she is. I mean damn, have a tubal litigation after the first six kids you can't support. The Doctor should have stepped up. The people who should have children have none and this lady has 14!

[@kimgarcia8012]

I would bet money she doesn't have 14 kid's and she definitely doesn't have custody of 4 of them

[@bohemia9956]

I understand her pain but i cannot understand why bringing 14 kids into that life with this kind of trauma and that kind of lifestyle. If you are aware that your mother NEVER EVER EVER should have had children than you get an idea how fit as a mother you will be. You cannot pour from an empty pot...nor a pot pot.

[@nina-ls4wc]

For some women having children is a way of getting that unconditional love they didn't get and they can give their kids the childhoods they deserved. Why should someone decide they can't have kids because they lived through something traumatic? Just because you were bent doesn't mean you are broken.

[@bohemia9956]

@@nina-ls4wc she clearly is broken. You can be an addict or a good mum.

[@eyespliced]

@@bohemia9956 sure, and you can be completely sober and be a monstrously terribly parent. It isn't entirely binary.

[@a.wanderer5006]

@@EchoBravo370 need them to work the fields...🤔

[@bohemia9956]

@@eyespliced Sure. Of course. But I didnt say that all sober people are good parents but addiction is definetely standing in the way of good parenting.

[@MrJagnuts]

I'm raising all my kids. But they are not with me. Wow

[@Pedroforpresident2024]

i agree typical america

[@DougieRay]

@@Pedroforpresident2024 your from the same rock just like your truly

[@LeslieThomp]

The more and more I watch these videos, I'm learning not to be so quick to judge people...

[@Princess_Slayah]

She said she’s really proud of her ability to write. I can already tell by this interview she is a fantastic writer. “Beating the odds instead of becoming a statistic.”

[@jaredduncan9720]

If you ever want to interview a Soldier with 15 years in and plenty to talk about with life and THE life, I’m here.

[@miapdx503]

Respect! Good morning soldier. 🌹

[@annececile5555]

I think he just did.

[@dominicturner77]

14 kids is outrageous. I understand that pregnancy can happen a few times unplanned but bringing 14 into the world in her situation is very irresponsible. 14 is irresponsible even for the most affluent families. That's just maths.

[@karisrussell7808]

I feel the same way she needed to get her tubes tied 13 kids ago. I feel bad for her children

[@brysoncain708]

As my mother left me when I was 2 this one really hit me hard... I've made many mistakes in my life and to judge my mother for her choices would go against my beliefs.. no one is perfect and we all have fallen short and failed miserably at times... God came for people like me and her ..

[@waitwhat564]

Came for the broken hearted and to set the captives free. 👍

[@Alexela03]

I’m a lupus warrior, please keep fighting, there’s hope, I’ve been in remission for 5 years…praying for her ♥️🙏🏼

[@jennontheblock2707]

She's all over the place. When she rocks back and forth more while looking down or away, I'm pretty sure she's not being truthful. 1st she's raising all her kids... Oh, but only 4 are with her- the other 10 are with family. 2nd there were only 5 fathers.... Oh, but then there turned it to be 6. 3rd she lives for her kids... Oh, but after the 6th father/her husband got murdered, she had no reason to live until the girlfriend came back. Right. Sincerely hope she gets help- her Lupus would be 10 times better without the alcoholism. Smoke all the pot you want, but stop drinking FFS.

[@danyellg3079]

That's my point! We can't just believe everything this person is saying. People aren't honest about things!

[@fromthegecko9488]

I think she is truthful, I also shift and present as uncomfortable when recalling my dysfunctional past to a huge audience.

[@danyellg3079]

@From The Gecko This woman isn't being honest about things. Too many questionable things she's said.

[@fromthegecko9488]

@@danyellg3079 Like what

[@antoniobranch]

@@danyellg3079. She’s got tight abs for fourteen kids?

[@alessiogallo6515]

She's so sweet...i feel for her and her struggles and i give her my best hugs

[@ariannaclearday]

This poor baby. 😢 She knows exactly what's up. My heart goes out to you, sister. ❤️

[@keineahnung6124]

This must be the most heartbreaking and inspirational video I have seen in all your series.

[@onomonopoeia]

Kandee. Your strength... I was honestly typing that right before you said it was what you were most proud of. It shows. ✨

[@pameladean4875]

I'm having a hard time believing this woman. Her story is fantastical to me. In the event I'm wrong - my bad. But her story.. it makes me wonder 🤔

[@dotsonms]

Same

[@AJ-qi4yn]

I agree. I think some of these people exaggerate to make their story seem extra horrible in order to get more money from Mark.

[@pamelapalmer2832]

I felt the same way listening to her

[@jasminemania2984]

@@AJ-qi4yn damn ... def true for some ppl i just try to have faith that ppl wouldn't lie like that for some money cus that's shitty smh

[@loosescrews8106]

I feel the same way. Some of it is a little out in left field but at the same time seem like it could be true. If she is 39 years old with 14 children and living a hustler's life, she looks pretty good.

[@moniquemenke7387]

💜 I think it is very brave to share your story. How many people do actually this, in every day life? With warmth&affection. Alcohol use is very much looked down upon, when you have a problem with it and people start to notice it. Thank you for honestly sharing your story.

[@lyricalmichau963]

This woman reminds me of not only myself but my mother. my prayers go out to her and her children

[@bobo5150]

40 no 39, 6 dads no 5, 6th grade no 4th. LOL

[@ddade2099]

Kandee I really wish the best for you, it would be cool to see a part 2, bring her back. Very painful story, you’re in my thoughts, keep going and stay positive in this evil world. Stay safe K

[@havadatequila]

I know a million middle class people who had shitty parents who couldn't remotely be as honest as Kandee. They hide from it 10x harder.

[@havadatequila]

@@fu9793 You're a hero.

[@john1gold503]

Soft white underbelly you mentioned you needed to peel back layers to get at the root of why people are homeless. At the root of it is a spiritual component, a battle between good and evil.

[@miapdx503]

We live on a battlefield 🌹

[@MineChanclas]

Kandee- your strength is the thing I’m most proud of you for, also. ❤️ You’re incredibly resilient, and I know you will fight to the very end to make sure you are there for your kids, and that they will never have to go through the things you did. God bless you and your family; you’re in my prayers, Girl. 🙏🏼

[@NikoHL]

God bless you Kandee, I hope you get the support you need..

[@hippiemom8481]

There’s simply no logical reason for ANYONE to have 14 kids. It’s incredibly selfish and irresponsible. The six daddies are just as much at fault.

[@ReadyFreddy1011]

Exactly

[@blydnhvghn]

Man shut up about what you think other people should do with their life. For all you know her fourteen kids could change the world. Shut. Up.

[@benthomas5891]

I feel more sorry for all them kids than this woman.. now all those kids have her problems..

[@JAv-ti8uq]

When she turned down Mark’s offer of that tissue, that literally said 1000 words, without hardly saying two or three. Out of all of the SWU interviews I’ve watched, I can’t remember one single person, turning down a tissue, if offered by Mark.

[@lenasolheim3321]

Yeah. I ssaw myself clear as day in that action. She truly genuinely doesn't believe she deserves such "simple joys", she's living for the sake of those she loves. It's painful, but its so much better than having nothing to live for. Prayers to you and this wonderful woman.

[@nickwhitestar7646]

I felt rightly, or wrongly, that she did want, to show weakness ........

[@lenasolheim3321]

@@nickwhitestar7646 why?

[@nickwhitestar7646]

@@lenasolheim3321 perhaps, maybe, because she can't afford too, you just can't show, any kind of weakness, you drop your guard once, next time you may do it, without thinking, then people take advantage of you, but what do I know, at the end of the day, the only person that really knows, is this Lady ....... 🙂

[@JAv-ti8uq]

@@nickwhitestar7646, you hit the nail on the head. Your assessment was exactly what I was referring to. She didn’t want to show even 1 ounce of weakness.

[@viralbuthow000]

"Tears are good. They clean you."

[@Pedroforpresident2024]

no they give you a stuffy nose

[@Nessa_97]

Her story doesn’t add up. She’s sketchy. Don’t like the vibe of her.

[@inaj27]

Not to sound messed up but can’t blame her cuz her own life doesn’t add up either . It’s clear her issues are deep and needs help overall but of course she can’t really find it within or externally .

[@liliristagno7061]

14 kids....your tax dollars at work.

[@heatherrussell7190]

Wishing this woman some heartfelt joy today. And faith to get her and her children through this lifetime.

[@indiegogogirl2662]

She seemed so proud of her writing. Missed opportunity you didn't ask more about it. I would have loved to hear her read something she wrote. Good writers are born. She probably one of them...

[@JamieSuzanne69]

Yes! Same here.

[@wombmenempowerment]

Sending her healing energy 💛

[@melizzia7901]

Mark : Do you raise all of your children ? YES I RAISE ALL 14 OF THEM…. Mark : Wow all of them ? YES ALL OF THEM WELL FOUR OF THEM I HAVE FOUR OF THEM WITH ME ….. Mark : how old are you ? IM 40 WELL IM 39 ILL BE 39 SOON ( later he asks about her goals in life and she says all she wants to do is raise raise her Son …….. ) WHAT ABOUT THE OTHER 13 KIDS .???I’m sorry that her childhood sucked . But she needs to stop blaming everyone else for her current situation . She clearly lies to deflect from what’s real . I hope she watches herself and has an epiphany. She brought FOURTEEN kids into this world that will suffer in similar ways as she did as a child. If her childhood was so bad like she claims . She would be doing better for her kids . Street Hustling will never raise 14 kids !!!! She is simply Perpetuating the cycle ….. She isn’t breaking the cycle so I don’t pity her when all she is doing is insuring that the cycle lives on . I love these videos I usually feel for everyone in them . But her ….. I don’t believe not a SINGLE thing she says . She couldn’t even get her own age right . THE PITY PARTY NEEDS TO END . Life isnt about us when we become parents it’s about our children. . She’s so mad and hurt about her childhood that she is repeating the same thing for her own children ??? Make it make sense !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Peoole need to STOP enabling this behavior. All of the sad, pity party comments are ridiculous. I feel sad for her KIDS not her .She needs to start being HONEST with HERSELF about reality . Both of her parents sucked ?All SIX of her children’s Dads sucked ?? So everyone else sucks but her right …. I see ONE common denominator……AND MA’AM ITS YOU

[@melizzia7901]

@@tjtimmy1110 Right I can’t understand how she can say she has 14 kids she raises then in her next breath proceeds to say she has 4 kids with her … then in her next breath says she wants to focus on raising her Son like what in the entire hell 🤬🤯🤯🤯

[@johnsiran2810]

I feel your anger and your conviction in your opinion! So one day Mark maybe able to interview the children or at least one of them! Hi I,m Sugar and I,m one of fourteen kids by hmm 5 or 6 men so on and so on! It’s not that I don’t have some sadness for her but to bring in fourteen children into this world and think that isn’t going to fuck them up is very selfish! No matter how shitty your past was at what point do you stop saying oh fuck me! Just with her health issues take better care of yourself, I know easier said than done but show yourself the respect and the remaining children who are still with you! WTF this is a endless story. Mark thanks again for showing respect even if some find it hard to swallow!

[@melizzia7901]

@@johnsiran2810 I totally agree with you ONE HUNDRED PERCENT my Dad committed suicide . I was due on my 17th birthday with my Son I had two kids by the time I graduated High School and graduating was my first goal . I DID IT with callouses on my hands from carrying the baby seat . Once you become a Mom there are ZERO EXCUSES . If you can’t feed yourself and have to “hustle “ to make ends meet you don’t need to be having more and more children and just like you said ITS SELFISH AS HELL TO DO SO ! My kids are Adults now 27,23 and 20 and I’m so happy to say I DID THAT AS A SINGLE MOM AT 17 YEARS OLD ! I NEVER GAVE THEM TO SOMEONE ELSE TO CARE FOR NOR DID I EVER LOSE THEM AND NO MATTER WHAT I MADE IT HAPPEN FOR MY KIDS . I’ feel sadness for her that she did this to her life . That she didn’t think of how this would damage her children . ITS ALL sad but she needs to get real

[@angelajarrell2225]

The pain on her face comes through so vividly and I feel everything she’s going through 😭

[@monicdavis6150]

Why do you have to think about every answer? Why so vague? I feel bad for all her kids. Hope she gets her life together.

[@heyyou228]

Why do I feel like she’s lying lol I’m sure she doesn’t have 14 kids or lupus and she’s just trying to get the most money from Mark and the subscribers. Like I have 3 cysts on my ovaries and I’m not dying….anyways

[@BeeKay4444]

I have respect for her living through all this pain without resorting to the wicked pain meds they give.

[@makanjuolasuccess5949]

“ I’m still beating Odds instead of becoming a Statistics “ that hits deep ... I love you Kandee , I love your Strength... you are A gem 💎🥰🥰🥰

[@molsonrulz]

Mark - not sure if you read the comments but if you do - your calab with Peter Santenello was fantastic- I can say that I have been watching both of your channels for years - and in viewing them has been very eye opening - I have learned a lot - especially not to be to quick to judge people no matter where they are from or what culture they come from - I love the different in depth perspective you both bring to your interviews- you both have very unique interview styles - thank you for the education I have received while watching your videos - I have a great deal more empathy for people then I used to

[@lilaworley8935]

Interesting to see how angry and resentful you are due to your own parents choices and neglect.... But can't seem to grasp that you are literally doing the same thing to your own children. Lupus isn't a death sentence. It can be if you choose to drink though. Pain management isn't turning you into a legal addict. It helps to manage the chronic condition so you don't need to drink the pain away and cause more inflammation in the body. If you CHOOSE to have 14 children.... Then you have an obligation and responsibility to take care of the children's mother. You are not. I wonder if a few of the 14 children you've chose to neglect... feel just as neglected and angry as you are at your own parents. This interview is proof positive that generational trauma is passed down from generation to generation and that education is key to preventing the cycle. I can only hope a few of the 14 children are capable of fighting flames. You're right. Some people should never ever ever have children. "Family dysfunction rolls down from generation to generation, like a fire in the woods, taking down everything in its path until one person in one generation has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to their ancestors and spares the children that follow.” -T Real

[@terywetherlow7970]

Generational trauma is a relatively new discovery/diagnosis. As are most M.H. conditions. Considering what she spoke of......imagine what she kept inside.

[@lilaworley8935]

@@terywetherlow7970 so there's a major difference between generational trauma and mental health conditions. You can have a mental health condition without having been through major trauma. Just as you can be affected by a pattern of dysfunctional family systems without having a mental health disorder. Generational trauma is definitely not a new theory. Look up the attachment theory or the family systems theories. There are long standing multi generational traumas that shape the entire society and then there are interpersonal family systems trauma that not only shape the individuals within the family system....but also have negative effects on the entire society.... As can be seen in this interview. Because when a citizen chooses to bring 14 children into our society...but refuses to take responsibility of the children....it's not just her children that suffer.... We all pay the price.

[@cicitran5695]

SHE'S A PERFECT EXAMPLE OF "WE'RE ALL HAVE STORIES TO TELL..." I WAS RUNNING AROUND AND PLAY HOUSE WITH MY FRIENDS AT 13...SHE HAS A KID AT THE AGE OF 13. SOMETHING MUST HAVE BADLY HAPPENED....WE LIVE IN DARK DEPRESSING WORLD....OMG 😬😢🙌🙌

[@j.h.6081]

I hear a lot of people who've experienced physical abuse who say that they took that abuse to protect their siblings or a parent. I have a friend who went through that too (protecting her younger sister from her mom). I think it's brave but also just a sad situation. I hope Kandee heals as much as she can.

[@MrSeattleguy3098]

Keep heart young lady keep heart my mom has severe lupus as well and some of the same symptoms you have she found out when we were teenagers I'm 53 now and she's still going super strong

[@Linda-in9ns]

It’s very sad what happens to some people. Very sad. Rough life there. This stuff should never happen. 😔 At 13 she should of been enjoying her child hood. Unreal.

[@TuriyanGold]

14 kids? Paused the video, closed youtube, loaded my game.

[@kyleparrish532]

Forced sterilization should be a thing...

[@paulhowell4316]

No it should not. Education and access, the rest is up to people having autonomy over there bodies.

[@terywetherlow7970]

Talk to the pope, kyle

[@NeonRogue3]

Yup, for men as well then if that's the case, Kyle.

[@joanfreeman7561]

This video already has 90 comments, and it was only released 30 minutes ago, way to go, Mark ‼️

[@Pedroforpresident2024]

he's still not taking you to dinner

[@berryposh7978]

Should have asked her about her writing to help put a positive spin on the experience for her. And ladies, please stop having kids with your black pimp boyfriends, there's enough fatherless kids in this world.

[@patcastaneda0823]

🤭

[@anaisvoci4716]

Mark, I want to thank you. Thanks to your precious work, I've discovered my path. I want to hear, I want to help, I want to see beyond traumas, drugs and everything negative. I want to hug souls. I'll start a training in a week. One day, I hope to be able to get to California to help these people, but for now, I'll start from Switzerland. If I've found the courage to start... it's only thanks to your work.

[@CraigEmpson]

I wish he asked her about her writing, she was happy about that.

[@StankyPack]

Title legit says “Average 25 year old”

[@purewonka]

People who have a screwed up family life are at such a disadvantage in this world. I'm so lucky to be from a happy home with a mother and father and siblings where everyone has goals and there is a real team mood in the house where we all help one another. People who don't have that experience have a much tougher time building a healthy and happy adult life. Moving through the world knowing you are on a team where you have a group of people cheering for you and ready to lend a helping hand or offer sound advice when needed is like winning the lottery.

[@ZoeMC369]

Sending you love and healing wishes, Kandee 💜 life is hard

[@fotini19881]

In the whole video she is blaming her parents but she is a mother addicted in pot and alcohol. She should not be a mother either. When you can't take care of yourself for sure you cannot take care of a child.

[@MEL2theJ]

Excellent interview! Thank you Kandee and SWU

[@fin393]

Something about her not accepting the tissue told be something about her, but I'm not sure what it is.

[@onomonopoeia]

She's learned not to need shit from anyone.

[@knowwe]

That was a great answer she gave to the "whats the most important thing you learned" question

[@longdong3889]

Don't give up the fight! I've had cancer for twelve years, it's a rollercoaster but you have your reasons to fight every day. We are stronger than we think, never yield!

[@susanh8685]

She said she believes her parents should never have had children. But she has had 14 but isn't raising them and she not even sure how many she is raising. They are probably all in the foster care system!

[@raelenelabby6407]

I have alot of sympathy for her. Her life has been so hard from the start. I admire her getting her GED after only going to the fourth grade

[@chrissparks3254]

I do to. I dropped out in the 9th grade and still haven’t gotten my GED. It’s inspiring for sure.

[@terywetherlow7970]

I would guess the amount of will it takes her to not shatter into a million shards is her biggest handicap now. I want her to give herself a pat on the back for what she has survived thus far. This is on a shitty society that never sees the pain it puts women thru. Mark have any ideas to help her? I pray he does. She lit up speaking of her writing.....maybe that's a place to begin. Excellent interview. Bravo for you dear.....keep swinging. And i'll be praying for you. Tee

[@Staycie313]

Hey Josh here from new Zealand I love you you got this

[@ItsFreshItsAnne]

So, because Kandee didn't spill her guts of every detail of abuse or trauma she's lived, every CHAV in the comments wants to take a turn with stones? I believe the trauma has never stopped...Kandee, you have worth. You are gorgeous for 14 kids and Lupus! I know what it's like to have experienced atrocities and have people doubt you, laugh at you and anything in-between...Karma is a funny thing, watch what things you say to others!

[@nickwhitestar7646]

Couldn't agree more 👉💥👈

[@newfierunner]

It's also not super cool to qualify her beauty...

[@ItsFreshItsAnne]

@@newfierunner Ooof. Wasn't my intention at all. So thank you for the vocabulary check. I have 2 children and some of us get worn, man! Why twist my whole message like that though? Sigh, this world is sinking.

[@tigerrrrrrrr6586]

It just makes u thank god for the Lil we do have as we see some can have it worse.... Ur amazing a warrior that has chosen to fight and suffer to keep ur baby happy it's a sad reality...ur mindset is amazing

[@cklaurence6414]

Wow. I can’t. This self pity is hard to watch. Not sure if I believe her..at all.

[@lhdnp1980]

Kandee, I'm sorry you had such a hard life at a young age. You were so innocent. You're also so strong. The strongest woman I know. Please don't ever give up. I don't know you personally but you've inspired me to keep going in life. If you can go through all of what you went through, then my life is a cake walk. 🙏🏽🤗🙏🏽

[@boogiemontana9972]

Yup, that's me, a pot smoking alcoholic, but I love my parents, my child hood was good, with a lot of violence.

[@kattihatt]

Mom of the year.

[@stillwaters7730]

I was born with cysts on my fallopian tubes. Had a life saving surgery at age 16 BC I WAS DYING. IT GOT SIZE OF A FOOTBALL. TOOK IT OUT AND I STILL HAD MY KIDS! GOD IS WITH YOU. THERE IS HOPE. THERE REALLY IS.

[@badcassandra2915]

I would like to read some of her writings. Would she share them? She is so articulate and clearly intelligent, and I am sure that what she has to tell would interest, and probably help, many

[@waitwhat564]

Yes!!!!!!

[@codedresilience5239]

Her body language says she’s lying through her teeth on a lot of these questions, but she’s been damaged and I am not surprised. I wish her the best in finding healing and peace in her life.

[@kianakeivani6143]

I could feel the pain in her voice, got so sad about her physical condition.....

[@Pedroforpresident2024]

she felt it too when she pumped out 14 kids for others to raise.

[@kianakeivani6143]

@@Pedroforpresident2024 when you are a prostitute and also addict, it's hard to do birth control. That's why we see many of them having babies.

[@inaj27]

That hit hard when she said she had lupus both types , after all that she’s been through . May God rest her soul when her time comes . I feel her , we all have to die someday and somehow . Hopefully when she passes it’s as painless and peaceful as possible . Hopefully 🙏she comes to terms to with her inner wounds. I know it’s not easy and may not heal . I pray her legacy lives through her kids 🤞🏻

[@BhangHead]

Pot smoking alcoholic. All I read was alcoholic , you don't have to bring weed in to it 😆. But prayers to the 14 children and her . 🤯🙁

[@glitterinmyeyes333]

Exactly... cannabis didn't hurt no one.

[@Pedroforpresident2024]

Well said, and on that note time for a blunt

[@monicacharming3123]

@@Pedroforpresident2024 wake up bake up!

[@willem9688]

Pot isn't innocent. Believe me, I'm a 41 yr old recovering alcoholic and pot addict. If you want to make your problems/childhood trauma/yourself disappear, drinking 2 sixpacks and smoking a couple of joints every day is scary effective.

[@vladtepes9614]

Weed isn't physically addictive, but it's damn sure psychologically addictive. And smoking anything can mess up your lungs. So yeah, it's not harmless.

[@stillwaters7730]

MY answer is Jesus. PUT DOWN THE BOOZE. I HAD TO. THE GREEN STAYS BUT THE BOOZE GOES AWAY. LIFE BEGINS AGAIN. THIS WOMAN IS WORTH SAVING!!!! COME ON SISTER YOU CAN DO THIS! YOU ARE STRONG AND HAVE A BEAUTIFUL SPIRIT. PUT DOWN the BOOZE. PLEASE.

[@couchprincess698]

Yes. She is a writer. I feel that. Wow. Her words touched me.

[@joyrn7663]

Kandee, please consider getting a second opinion regarding your lupus management. There are other options besides pain medications--immunosupressants, antimalarials, steroids, even chemotherapy drugs. Also, consider sobriety--it can improve things. Good luck to you.

[@espyxelz2847]

She full of chit!

[@Cntonioaruz]

Smell alot of bulllllshhh in her story. I imagine she's had a hard life, but too many inconsistencies. Imo

[@haileywilson9661]

Her story is so hard to hear. She isn't proud, but you can tell shes proud of her children going to school and being somthing she wasn't. She knows what's right from wrong. She is still here even if she has health problems. She's been through a lot. And i under stand most of what shes saying. She's just glad she has a home yk? She's proud of how she's never stopped running. How she relised why regret if you can't change it. Im proud shes not like her parents :,) her storys strong. :) best of luck kandee.