POUR MINDS Episode 233- Them Brothas Starvin

Hey yall, we got no guest today ayeee. Today we're getting back to the usual flow of the show being just us & with our hilarious banter. We discussed outing your sexual partners for attention, anxious attachment vs avoidant attachment, passport bros & much more. So grab your wine and kick it with your girls.
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[@D_Lux]

Why Lex eat that Shakira impersonation 🤣🤣😂

[@TylerMarieWilliams]

Right!! I wanted her to keep goin 🤣🤣🤣

[@a.j.7016]

Right! Lex out here killing it

[@NaeD000]

I came here to say exactly this😂her impersonations be spot on

[@RobandSijay]

Let me get my one weed ready ❤

[@photogelic3135]

ON MMMEEEEEE 😂😂😂 ..😶‍🌫️😤😮‍💨

[@z.shari11]

Lol same! 😅😆

[@videogworl]

HELLO!

[@lecrazy27]

OKAY! SMOKING AS I TYPE THIS!

[@Ayanada305]

Yesss

[@whatsupwithtorii]

Also when drea disagrees she always speaks over Lex instead of letting her talk lol I love hearing both opinions ❤

[@krissilyne702]

It definitely work my nerves but this is how me and one of my best friends talk😂 I'm Lex and my friend is Drea. I'm about to show her this!

[@mischahardy7161]

Lex give yourself time. You lost your mother, that's a huge deal and it makes you a little codependent right now. That's a devastating loss. It is what it is and you need time to heal and might cling to someone right now for safety. The pour crew is here for you like you're here for us. MUCH love... hugging you through the phone 💕💖💖

[@ThugDrina]

A gay vegetable Lex? Lmaoooo love that this is a conversation with two cis women and in such a respectful manner to educate the ppl.

[@alonotis5778]

I love ya'll so much but I want Drea to let Lex finish her sentences lol

[@jayh1944]

I loveee when the ladies have differing opinions, it’s refreshing to see!! This episode felt good🤎

[@DreaAndLex]

Thank you ❤️

[@akwarren9832]

Drea, please try to consider what the professionals have told Lex about the different attachment styles. Personal experience and expertise have their place…so does research.

[@xbutterbeans]

I feel like Drea considers Lex’s opinion a lot. Lex stay overpowering the conversation with her opinion whenever Drea thinks differently.

[@DreaAndLex]

Thank you ❤️

[@TyBalance]

@@DreaAndLex ​ cap, if Drea has her opinion solidified in her mind it's like pulling teeth to hear Lex’s or anyone else’s opinion. Sis be light weight pissed 😂 love them both but facts are facts. I might be the Drea in this relationship. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@DreaAndLex]

@@TyBalance It ain't cap and I don't leave this set holding on to any feelings from topics discussed so I def don't be "pissed".. I do consider her opinions a lot, it was only one attachment style that she discussed with a professional and sometimes her personal experiences don't always resonate with me.. So there's that, love you too bookie ❤

[@elizabethmurrell8115]

I believe Lex can really SANG!!! she be playing with us baybee got them vocals I just know it

[@kasaniworld6951]

i’m glad lex spoke about those attachments styles because lol that explains me to the T when being avoidant and co dependency

[@MrJeromeTrammel]

Faves, this episode was so good. The conversation about the trans woman trying to “out” a straight man for sleeping with her, is what I talk about all the time. She’s perpetuating transphobia & homophobia. She discussed it, knowing people are going to assume he’s gay for sleeping with her.. as I always say, if you’re a woman, then what’s the scandal? The scandal is you want to pick and choose when you identify as a woman, she still sees herself as a man (when it’s convenient) & that’s the problem. I’d love for TS Madison to come on the show one day, I’ll hit her and put it on her radar. I love how y’all were careful and respectful with this conversation.. We love educated, inclusive queens! 💕

[@youbettercalltyrone713]

Baby not the pencil skirt!! We had a time back 2006-2009, a mess. Not in 2023. 😂😂😂

[@filledwithjoy5253]

Lex sounded good singing in the beginning, I hear you girl 😂🎶✨!

[@_Tree]

Happy Friday ladies!! The Pour Crew have come together to see these lovely ladies cut up 🤣🤣🤣🤣💯💯

[@ThugDrina]

The “I’m feelin Puerto Rican”sound clip was TS Madison y’all lol

[@rocketowl1115]

Flame Monroe would be a great guest to have!

[@shewhosucceeds]

I just wanna applaud y’all 👏🏾👏🏾 look at how far you have come! From sipping wine on the living room floor to a studio with custom curated cocktails & a fly ass mixologist‼️🎉 The pour gurls love to see it😍🥰

[@Iamjaybeats]

Can we get Ts Madison on the floor

[@ThugDrina]

Yes!!

[@justrob7129]

Lex can low key sing 😅 she ain’t fooling me 😂

[@EbonieTH]

I think the anxious and avoidant attachment describes me and my boyfriend. This topic has given me a lot to think about.

[@chanelbankz449]

Drea be Tryna be to literal for me when Lex being dramatic or sarcastic 🙄 it’s still love tho 😂❤

[@melissasummer__]

Facts😭😭

[@lenoreosei4498]

Hey y’all love the episode ❤ I actually studied the Mary-Ainsworth attachment style theory heavily during college and it is directly related to your childhood and upbringing as attachment style stems form the relationship you have with your parents primarily your mother. We would watch videos of babies and analyze the attachment styles based off how the responded to their mothers after the left the room and came back. Also you can definitely have a combination to anxious and avoidant attachment. The goal is to have a secure attachment style but that takes time and lots of therapy but it’s hard to break the cycle because you end up having these attachment styles not just with your parents, but with other family members, friends,partners, kids, co-workers etc it’s how you bond with people really. It’s hard to cut off bonds and toes when your use to a dynamic where you love people in disfunction. Your taught to constantly look for the good and ignore the bad. Often we don’t know how to deal with people who do is wrong we just hope they change. Again this is why therapy is extremely important to help give some new emotional tool on how to deal with people really.

[@Prettyvon_4268]

I didn't know butterflies pissed 😂😂😂

[@thigsproductions]

Yo 😂😂😂

[@ScienceSimplifiedx9]

Ok Im def apart of the Pour Mind crew now! I been watching a year !😂❤

[@fancy1632]

I love how Drea don’t let people think for her 😂 I love the podcast both of your ladies are doing a amazing Job.

[@DreaAndLex]

Thank you ❤

[@AlexisRodriguez-lg6ey]

Lex is right with attachment styles, it’s very important TO RECOGNIZE AND HEAL

[@SapphireW123]

Love this whole video but I’m weak Drea said “remember the man with no neck” and it immediately went to an AD. I died lmfaoo

[@Mimi8402]

Yesss Drea, working out, eating clean and limiting alcohol to just once every 4 weeks will have you fine AF. I’m in my late 30s and that’s been my key to keep that puffy/bloated alcohol look at bay.

[@RobandSijay]

16:36 Lobotomy is the word you're looking for

[@JaeKeaton]

It’s crazy I was watchin y’all @ 6k subs ? And now y’all 126k subs… soooooo proud! 😢😢😢😢

[@LeadingLadyTrueReview]

This is hilarious!!! Not me agreeing with the both of them. They both make valid points which is we all have to find our OWN happy medium! Great convo ladies!😅

[@jadealexandria6530]

Lex said a gay vegetable 😂😂😂😂😂 she’s so funny omggg

[@theegiftofgabb]

Loved this episode! Thank y’all for talking about the attachments styles. I recently discovered that i too have the anxious attachment style and whew! Im trying to navigate through it😩. I always appreciate the transparency with y’all though 🤍🫶🏾

[@goodnessgraciousv]

Lmao the voicemail had me weak and the way you both responded. I love the advice you both give to the women who call it’s so real and caring. P.s. y’all can singgg

[@NyiahMikel]

Yall know I’m coming faithfully , love you ladies stay gorgeous !!❤

[@Hajitawon]

Drew face during that call 😂 and lex impersonation of shakira was hilarious

[@IAmNessaFBaby]

I'm a HUGE fan of the Pour Minds ladies and TS Madison. Y'all are such cool individuals. Hoping for a collab with you all soon! ❤

[@chelseafreeman4609]

Definitely need that collab the girls would have a time!!!!!!

[@walterblue1914]

Anxious vs avoidiant attachment style review is dope. I have been big into it for about 2 years now. It opens up a lot of conversations and sheds light on a lot too.

[@BlondeVenus-k4j]

I love y'all, but maybe get an expert on the show or do more research the next time you guys discuss something as complex as attachment styles.

[@pinkblush6531]

Yeah that was cringy

[@nashley2]

Seriously! Cause I feel like Lex took a personal experience and generalized an entire attachment style.

[@DreaAndLex]

@@nashley2i was just going from a convo i had with my therapist 😭i was just tryna educate

[@pinkblush6531]

@@DreaAndLex we know

[@breakingmentalbarriers]

I came to say the exact same thing. Anxious attachment comes from too much love, huh? Actually quite the opposite. If you had lots of love, you would have a much more secure attachment style

[@mischahardy7161]

Lex you know we LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT... DON'T PLAY...YOU LOOK FIRE AF!!! 😂😂😂

[@amirahtatianna]

Thank you for being so vulnerable ladies ❤

[@PrettyQuee2]

Happy belated birthday drea❤❤❤hope you enjoyed your day hun

[@officialqueb2046]

That advice about having confidence is so true. People can feel your energy ! Great episode ladies 💕

[@Gem24k]

Get Flame Monroe on here 💯

[@louisianacookingwithkay]

Lex I hope you been been preparing, because you know how serious Drea is about her birthday. 😂🤣🤞🏾

[@JazzyJsworld]

Attachment styles are definitely on a spectrum. It’s a lot to it. A lot more than the definitions we sometimes find on the internet.

[@iamt_alan]

“What the plus stand for? Get your 🐱 ate” I’m hollering 😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@prycemacon7097]

😂😂😂

[@DreaAndLex]

😭😭😭😭

[@draysanatomy]

Apparently $40 in US dollars is $2,158.39 in Dominican Pesos 😂😂😂

[@taylormarie6995]

So we acting like we ain’t hear butterfly pee is in the drink💀😭

[@renne1267]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@sexxyylexxyy1410]

Ohhh I thought she meant butterfly “pea” 😮 pee is nAsty LOL

[@somixxy5107]

It’s def butterfly pea, y’all 😅 it’s a flower

[@justsaying1776]

So glad someone cleared that up 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@B_y65]

Drea is very combative. You don’t have to disagree with everything Lex says girl. At least let her finish.

[@DreaAndLex]

I don't disagree with everything she says, but if I do disagree that's just what it is.. lol

[@BrownSkinBri91]

Drea Braxton on the 1's & 2's 🤣🤣

[@lyricjohnson1221]

Y’all ate DOWN karaoke!! One of my favs 🤣💞

[@Precious_Thoughts24]

Yes karaoke 😂😂😂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 y’all killed this all notes were hit hun 😂

[@Hrthgor]

That Shakira impression was hilarious 😂

[@thechocolateone6348]

now Lex☺️, we just got here 🤣🤣🤣 i’m rolling already. Heyyyy Lil BIG Drea! 😍

[@Lasha.Harvey]

My day go bad wit out a episode but I try to hit the old ones every now &then

[@AkiyahJibade]

The karaoke 🎤 was EVERYTHING and so unexpected! What mics are you guys using? And what software do yo use for sound recording?

[@BigBankBon00]

This low key felt like a patron episode.

[@BlondeVenus-k4j]

agreed

[@nuteynuu]

nah i agree with lex, you should know your relationship style because you can’t just cut everyone off .. a man, a friend sure but like lex said it’s allll relationship could be a child and their mother, father and son, president and vice president anything

[@robinw.6721]

Okay TS Madison. You made it to the 85 South Platform. First the Trap and now Pour Minds❤️❤️❤️

[@Kim_Monique]

Dre a real taurus. When a taurus start working out we go ham!!

[@Lasha.Harvey]

I HAVE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT FIR THIS SHOW🤣🤣POST MORE CONTENT🙏🏾🙏🏾💞💞

[@Monique670]

The gworls look so good !!!

[@TheWannabmodel]

Not seeing eye to eye with my family I felt the part about compatibility. None of them want to go to therapy or do the work to make our relationship better. Come August I’m moving and focusing on me 😩 y’all pray I save and stay away from temptation this summer

[@mdog494]

This my 2nd favorite podcast only behind 85 south. It’s really more like 1A 1B

[@angelh6345]

I cant wuth lex already with her Shakira Happy early birthday Drea !! My bro birthday 5/4 ♉🎉❤

[@britneyrenee2252]

Y’all be off key but on the same key at the same time and I love it lmao

[@richardjunior4433]

I love the conversation about the LGBTQ+ community! I know the girls love us gays but it was nice to be included in y’all’s dialogue in the pod.

[@louisianacookingwithkay]

0:35 I'm absolutely loving the LEGEND In My City sweatshirt. I know that's right!! I need that there.

[@monique.a.stewarttheauthor]

Also loved Drea’s “And just sit there!”

[@halimaabdi7263]

I haven’t watched for a while and lex lost so much weight. Glowing x

[@SpitFacts_]

Ppl confuse judgement with fact , judgement Is how that particular person feel about sum and feeling is not fact

[@XiomaraThaGoddessMeow]

Oh, damn, im EARLY, early... Heeey, yall ✨🔥💚🔥✨

[@ashleymiller1210]

Please have a therapist on I’d love to hear the avoidant side of the spectrum compared to the co dependent side

[@londonrene237]

I’m thinking about doing a fast as well! 😩 I think this is a sign lol

[@jamyaharris1888]

🔥 episode, y’all killed the karaoke 😂👏🏾

[@anthonymartin507]

I don't have to validate other peoples delusions. I won't infringe on their rights to do whatever with themselves and think whatever about themselves and I expect the same in return.

[@NikkiKNuvo]

My sentiments exactly... but you can't tell ME how to perceive you when my way of thinking is supported by biology.

[@innaellis5479]

I have never been this early before. I’m excited ❤

[@Shogirlstudios]

Drea is describing being dismissive not avoidant. 28:20

[@user-qk7lh4wl6e]

I’ve been doing a detox now for two weeks! No drinks!

[@SicNic99]

Thank god for giving Ty a mic 😂

[@stoniestarks1045]

Please try to get Jesshilarious on the show

[@mymelaninbeauty3810]

Just because the love language isn’t the same doesn’t mean u shouldn’t be with them no matter the relationship u are always going to have issues as far as understanding one another that’s the point of growing the goal is to have understanding

[@DreaAndLex]

Of course you are but I personally feel like there will be less misunderstandings of you share love languages and attachment styles

[@mymelaninbeauty3810]

Which is smart to do rather than saying they aren’t for you

[@photogelic3135]

TS Madison wit that BIDI BIDI BOM BOM 😂

[@Gloop_glump]

Coming to the show just to sing off key with y’all lol ❤

[@frankoshahay]

I usually don’t even comment but this episode was so deep for me I had to…. I’m a 26 yrs old trans women and I must say I agree with TS Madison but also let me say this the trans that was speaking on Kevin Gates was out of line first off she’s white so she gets that pass for that ALONE! If she had been a black trans girl circumstances would have been a little different for her TRUST ME! I’ve dated the best of the them and I never said a peep not because I was scared or afraid but let’s be real I know how the outside world is and these men still have to go out in cooperate America back to whatever their career field is acting rapping basketball or football and they don’t wanna be judge because of what they like it’s a mental thing some people stay screaming live in your truth but be the first to judge I let men live in peace no matter what because when it’s all said and done BLACK TRANS WOMEN AS WELL AS CIS GENDER ( biological women ) SHOULD KNOW HOW IT FEELS to be judge in this everyday world I love how lex and drea broke it down I’m a big fan and I was hoping y’all didn’t say the wrong thing and y’all kept true to what y’all believe in and that’s why I love y’all I know it’s long I had to speak on this 1000%

[@louisianacookingwithkay]

5:21 YASSS the edible glitter. I forgot the name of that drink back in the day, it had glitter in it.

[@ThugDrina]

Forever rollin! Lmao Y’all are killing meeeee

[@ItsTinaB]

To the second question…girl I remember my auntie telling one of my cousins a long time ago that a lot of niggas don’t have high self esteem and aren’t that confident so a lot of times their first picks are the ones they think are easy- not saying that your friends are or look it but a lot of times that is the case. But then also men and feel the energy of a confident woman so if you’re feeling self conscious every time y’all go out, they can feel that energy from you boo

[@bmoney6939]

Who broke there heartd they was singing like they was heary brokern felt it n my spirt tonu braxton could never.

[@tellthetruthoritllbetold111]

I look forward to every episode! 💙💙

[@Muybonitacoco22]

Drea i take Orangetheory too and i love it!!!!!!!!

[@CVL219]

Cousinnnnsssss! Yall the ONLY female show I watch. ( im a REAL woman as well) I love yall but I personally miss the old content from Lex and Drea.. Im happy yall are elevating on a self level but entertainment wise....... Ion know I'm starting to feel Bougie Aunties that only show up to the Barbecue just to show off her new threads😂😂😂 No Shade. I miss the old girl talk. And say WTF yall wanna say....Fuck being politically correct. I'm tired of these platforms controlling my favorite shows.... Lets get into theses Niggas.. Ion come here to get an more opinions of other people business. Social Media does enough of calling people on their bulshit. I come here for the laughs and the truth cause yall be on point. Yall aint never needed a guess before... Come on ladies lets get back to it! Love you Beautiful Avatars... #SignedEverybodyFavoriteCousin

[@LenisBeauti]

Come to Orlando lovessss 😩🫶🏾 if not… see y’all in ATL 💋

[@Lasha.Harvey]

I LOVE THE POUR MINDS SQUAD I HAVE SOME MUCH IN COMMON!! WE MISS YOLL😘😘😘

[@laquinta91]

I just wanna kno where Drea gets her bundles from? 😍

[@louisianacookingwithkay]

1:31-1:46 I was just putting my daughter on to that song 2 days ago. That's crazy you're singing "whenever wherever" by Shakira, because my best friend and I we're going down memory lane two days ago. I was like remember when we used to jam to this. We loved loved us some Shakira back in the day. She still looks absolutely amazing to.

[@youbettercalltyrone713]

Lex did that Shakira! Yes ma’am! 😂

[@thecreativecure]

Lex ate that Toni 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@domelese]

In the beginning lex was referring to ts Madison! Puuuertterrr ricannnnnnnnn!! 😂😂