POV: You’re hanging out with your friend and her new bf (who is a walking red flag)

[@acidjumps]

You're the first person I know to use the POV as a tool for psychological horror and using it effectively in less than 3 minutes.

[@DeathnoteBB]

Also as an educational tool to know the signs of am abuser

[@Theophiloz]

Lou Ratchett is also another good channel/character. Impersonates some of the worst in society.

[@alexandrapirvu7945]

You've put in words my thoughts about his channel. He's doing a great work at showing red flags and inappropriate talks. I'd bet he's a great human in reality, psychologically savy. But on KZbin, he impersonates such annoying characters

[@kitten-whisperer]

It's not that serious lol

[@heartcatchprecure]

@@kitten-whisperersomeone clearly hasnt known someone like this

[@guyinagame4793]

This is one of the few guys on this app that is just genuinely a good actor. That stare at the end was Lowkey scary 💀

[@lek0mania]

The stare at the end was super uncomfortable. This creator has true talent

[@guyinagame4793]

@@lek0mania dude and the heavy breathing had me thinking he was gonna jump scare me 💀

[@Sercer25]

what app? this is a website what does Loki being scary have to do with anything?

[@vmsbruh]

@@Sercer25 shut up

[@samma676]

Low key?? I'm shook

[@dannymatos9556]

Some of these comments made me realize how important these videos actually are. I always just saw this as entertainment, but the amount of people recognizing their own/their past partners behavior in these is surprising! Low key helping to educate abused people to recognize this behavior going forward.

[@fancypants3372]

The man-child shorts have 100% allowed me to see how one-sided my last relationship was, and the "walking red flag" ones have allowed me to see how much he manipulated me. This guy's out here doing a community service -- helping some people laugh, and helping some people move on.

[@anyagee9467]

Same! I didn't realize this is common behaviour

[@christiantaylor1495]

​@@fancypants3372maybe don't base your life opinions on some guys comedy sketches

[@MrBarakados]

@@christiantaylor1495 They never said that. People can identify the labeled behaviors for what they are by their own definitions and reflect on it for their own betterment.

[@360shadowmoon]

NGL - these "friend with walking red flag bf" videos are also making me realize that, at one point, I was getting caught up in a friend's abusive relationship with her partner. I think something that doesn't get talked about enough is that abusive partners sometimes try to manipulate their partner's friends, too, to sell them on the relationship and make them stop questioning red flags.

[@SlimPotatoCube]

“I’m super thirsty” “yeah set the glass down I’ll drink it later” ☠️

[@akpokemon]

"you grew up in a working class area; it's different" lmfaooo The "subtle" classism dig. eesh

[@DumplingDoodle]

right? it's just subtle enough that it's scarily accurate lmao

[@groyperfuhr4871]

but statistics don't lie, hence why they're called statistics. I grew up working class and my friends that did too have a helluva lot more tattoos than my high class used to be friends. I will agree though it's classist to bring up a person's class when generalizing a type of behavior

[@hsjshdhsjshsh958]

​@@groyperfuhr4871 Nobody asked you "groyper fuhr"

[@groyperfuhr4871]

@@hsjshdhsjshsh958 then petition for comments to be turned off, or report my comment

[@harrytowers1076]

@@hsjshdhsjshsh958 he literally agreed, cope more

[@chariot5660]

This is possibly the most uncomfortable I've ever felt from a youtube video, well done

[@vulpesinculta9578]

☕

[@YashiFradkin]

Does anyone have any sympathy for people like this?

[@gnj1]

Especially the end frame

[@boooster101]

@@YashiFradkin Others who are the same

[@YashiFradkin]

@@boooster101 no just pos

[@psychedelicpegasus7587]

My friend was in a similar situation with her best friend's husband. He had been emotionally abusing and controlling his wife for so long that when he tried to do the same with her friend and it didn't work he had no idea what to do. He tried to intimidate her physically but she didn't back down so he was at a complete loss (she told me if he hit her he would get a smack of her hiking stick and then she'd report him to the police). He was divorced not long after. Abusers are bullies who never grew up. Glad to see people in the comments have gained some perspective if they see themselves in this character.

[@christiantaylor1495]

​@harrysatchelNo I think the people taking it seriously are extremely delusional 😭

[@christiantaylor1495]

​@harrysatchelAsk yourself why do women keep choosing these guys? Obviously they like them. I bet that guy used to be really nice but kept getting friendzoned

[@christiantaylor1495]

Everything you don't like is abuse

[@ozzy.8413]

@@christiantaylor1495You have mental illness and should seek professional guidance my friend.

[@bibblehouse]

​@@christiantaylor1495bro go outside

[@mat-tilde]

The anxiety I felt when he asked her to get water was genuine. Like don't leave me alone with this guy! This is obviously a ploy! 😢 the stare at the end and the barely contained rage when Stephanie didn't play along too - seriously incredible acting!

[@indiepindie8516]

The “there you go” and “you grew up in a working class area” had me FUMING!!

[@curious1053]

But why?

[@dustyrose192]

@@curious1053 it suggest that working class people are more trashy and the "there you go" is just super patronising

[@garethkalum8297]

​​@@dustyrose192 they are. That's just objectively fact. Since when is trashy the equivalent to morally bad?

[@rebelfriend1818]

@@garethkalum8297 "trashy" is subjective, so no it's not an objective fact

[@HyperfixationStation]

@@garethkalum8297 trashy is still an insult and condescending assumption though? Of course people would get upset if you talked down on them bc of where you grew up

[@_Tozzie_]

2:21 The “Kubrick Stare" is one of Stanley Kubrick's most recognizable directorial techniques, a method of shot composition where a character stares at the camera with a forward tilt, to convey to the audience that the character in question is at the peak of their derangement.

[@groyperfuhr4871]

where's the forward tilt tho?

[@m.i.c.h.o]

@@groyperfuhr4871 it's a generalization. Deviation from a specific style is ok. Also stfu you're in the replies of every comment.

[@brettzforeman]

​@@groyperfuhr4871This isn't a Kubrick stare. A Kubrick stare would have way more forehead.

[@mrhappy8997]

Ain't that the shit they do in Naruto

[@Who_765]

​@@mrhappy8997😂😂😂😂

[@OzCroc]

When he was like "girls supporting girls... Love it" I audibly said "cringe" on public transport.

[@curious1053]

Oh no

[@zerpente3]

​@@curious1053I read your comment in Knuckles the Echidna's voice

[@curious1053]

@@zerpente3 I just subbed to you for that.

[@Onatic99]

You sound like on of this guys characters yourself

[@garethkalum8297]

Whats exactly cringe about it though? Please go ahead, explain.

[@mks-h]

He don't have to go and kill me, the stare alone does that

[@cocaineenthusiast9905]

oh hi lain

[@mks-h]

@@cocaineenthusiast9905 hi

[@capnbingbong7833]

Fr

[@YashiFradkin]

Good

[@justgettingby7725]

Oh god! I've been this guy, and it took me a divorce and years of therapy to recognize how toxic I was.

[@capnbingbong7833]

Glad you're on the other side of this type of behavior!!

[@poyo1290]

Good for you for changing, I’m happy and proud for you :)

[@justgettingby7725]

I don't deserve praise or anything, but thank you for the kind words.

[@ProdYafa]

Men are the protectors over women. You we'rent toxic just doing your job. Don't let the poison of feminism consume your brain just yet.

[@Danny-jl2sd]

It takes a lot of courage and introspection to recognize and change yourself like that.

[@SanchitC]

“She’s so innocent” Yeah dude, probably because she was born when you were learning to drive. The age difference on some of these couples is wild

[@nocontender6409]

It's not always an age thing. What the boyfriend is saying here with "she's so innocent" is basically "she's so easy to manipulate and gaslight, and if I call it innocence and praise her for it then she'll stay that way". He doesn't realize that's what he's doing/saying though. It's an internal feeling of rage and shame that drives him without him ever getting tactical about it.

[@christiantaylor1495]

So you're admitting young women are nicer. Why blame him for the age difference? Does she not have agency? Is she an adult and intelligent? Or juvenile and unable to make her own decisions?

[@christiantaylor1495]

​@@nocontender6409Easy to manipulate? Men change their entire lives to please women. Is that them being manipulated? Nobody is being manipulated based on what you're saying. The character in the video is. But what you are talking about doesn't entail deception.

[@Givrix]

@@christiantaylor1495 You should find help

[@nocontender6409]

@@christiantaylor1495 I wish you clear sight and good rest, seperately

[@vampirebunny2180]

“Can you please just tell her you’re going alone?” “Sure 😊” *Bestie comes back and sits down* “Hey I think Steph had something to tell you!” “Yeah, so I was thinking maybe you shouldn’t come for support when I go get the tattoo, instead you should come and get a matching one with me and we’ll be each other’s support!”

[@testing6271]

And then as you're bleeding out before your last breath you'll be thinking to yourself: "why was I an idiot, why did I try being a hero".

[@djlunawolf5228]

@@testing6271 bro you escalated that so fast lmao what

[@peacefulchaos333]

​@@testing6271it's just a tattoo bro 💀

[@curious1053]

@@peacefulchaos333it’s just MRSA bro.

[@Delicate_Disaster]

​@peacefulchaos333 I think they meant it as red flag boyfriend snapped.

[@icu3869]

(Crying) " No, Steph! He TOLD me what you said when I left to get him water! I'm never speaking to you Again!"Hangs up, sobbing in his arms, as he smiles with satisfaction...😈

[@justsomeguywholikeswater3566]

the accuracy of this scares me

[@Cyphlix]

Delightfully devilish, Seymore.

[@GamingComic123]

stop i’m scared

[@DeathnoteBB]

The scary thing is that is exactly what they do. Isolate their SO from everyone else and convince the SO that everyone else is the problem.

[@AtlisDe]

A friend's ex tried this tactic. She came to me about it luckily and I told what actually was said. But they continued to date as though the guy wasn't a shit stirrer.

[@ItMeBob]

Manipulation is one of the #1 biggest red flags. Your videos never fail to make me nauseous. I hope I don't end up with a guy like that, ugh.

[@nocontender6409]

🪬💜I hope you don't either💜🪬

[@sonicwithglasses131]

Everyone uses manipulation lol

[@ItMeBob]

@sonicwithglasses131 some more, some less. People like this asshole who attempt to isolate their victim show the bad kind of manipulation. Others who try to help people think about their thought process and grow out of their comfort zone are the good kind. There's tact or Charisma or whatever you want to call it, and there's *this guy*

[@NotAStanAccount]

I hope you don't, either.

[@garethkalum8297]

Good luck in life. If your partner having preferences is manipulation and abuse. Your future involves loneliness.

[@alanbareiro6806]

That stare you did at the end. Made my blood boil. Amazing acting.

[@Hmm_Ace_Attorney_Channel]

This is like the dramatization at the start of one of those true crime shows. How many parts until he's getting interrogated in a homicide investigation?

[@4LLT0G3TH3R]

Ay man unfortunately those shows are based on real life :(

[@Hmm_Ace_Attorney_Channel]

@@4LLT0G3TH3R I never said they weren't...

[@harrypottah8889]

@@Hmm_Ace_Attorney_Channelhe never said you didn’t say they weren’t lol

[@B1gDuck]

my gf talked me through this shit when we first started dating , i wasn’t to this extreme but i’m glad she helped me be more self aware

[@ntrg3248]

You're really blessed to have found someone who was patient with you and was able to lead you down the better path, nice 👍

[@Rigby350]

Was she the only one who called out your "red flags?"

[@ammaranuar2544]

This is not extreme at all. You would be protective of your partner too if you love and care for him/her.

[@MrNaesme]

​@@ammaranuar2544Dude, this isn't protective. It's a tattoo, not going to war. This is manipulation.

[@christiantaylor1495]

​@@MrNaesmeA tattoo is a big deal. Going to war is honourable. Getting a tattoo is selfish hedonistic lack of foresight and basic intelligence. Imagine selfishly ruining your own body pointlessly. If a teenager cuts her wrist, we acknowledge it as mental illness. But pay somebody else to make you bleed to scar your skin with a potentially regrettable imprint, and we are told to accept it as normal.

[@hyramabyth2977]

I can feel the searing anger in his stare, looks like he's planning a murder 😭😭😭😭😭

[@bruhmoment-yc5zg]

You're like a modern version of Jack Nicholson in The Shining. Terrifyingly good!

[@AT-yj8gl]

yessss that's it

[@BG-mh6pc]

This is my best friend’s husband. He’s horribly manipulative, verbally (and sometimes physically) abusive, controlling, condescending, you name it. I absolutely despise him. I know I’m just watching a skit but it feels so real.

[@aydenwright9782]

Holy fuckin shit this dude is such s good actor. Like this guy isn't Hollywood believable, this man could play any kind of human and I'd believe it.

[@livenandlove1980]

That was so good! I got shivers at the end.

[@chickennoodlesoup3301]

He's the type of guy to cheat on his gf when she gets breast cancer then gaslight her into thinking it's her fault. Idk why y'all are saying this is specific it happens literally all the time LMAO Why are y'all getting triggered that I pointed out an actual fact? People are quite literally going to get cheated on more when they're sick. It's almost...like...you guys...are cheating on your sick wives?

[@theslappablejerk]

John Edwards core

[@Hampappi]

It is her fault. How dare she gets boobie cancer and damage the goods

[@mks-h]

oddly specific

[@boyller8964]

@@theslappablejerk dr seuss core

[@Unknown_Ooh]

​@@Hampappi You can pay for implants then 😂

[@chuksk8592]

"Guys are really judgemental towards girls" *insert the "i wonder who that's for" image*

[@nicoledoubleyou]

I literally chuckled and thought "you mean guys like you"

[@artisth0785]

Man, the immediate urge to throw hands at this guy was impressive. Well done acting! xD

[@BlaecOleander]

This dude is too good of an actor because I felt actual rage in my soul 😂🤣😂💪

[@YashiFradkin]

Please have sympathy.

[@BlaecOleander]

@@YashiFradkin sympathy is what the rage is made of, my dear 😌

[@YashiFradkin]

@@BlaecOleander so you don’t understand why he’s setting boundaries? Or does he not have a right to do that?

[@BlaecOleander]

@@YashiFradkin I had to rewatch the video to even know what you were talking about. Boy, this ain't boundaries, this is being toxic and controlling wtf 😂🤣😂 NO he doesn't have the right to dictate what she does with HER body, and if he has a problem with her getting a tattoo, he should talk to HER about it. He probably didn't talk to her about it because he wants her to do what HE wants, and he knew she'd be pissed off and rightfully so, so he resorts to subterfuge instead of just accepting her as she is, or finding someone else with similar views to his. Not sure what you think deserves sympathy on his part 😂

[@YashiFradkin]

@@BlaecOleander maybe tattoos are bad in his culture? What if he thinks it’s a sign of weakness? You have no idea, you’re just like all the other losers on this platform and the world.

[@caesarstrings]

That face at the end 😂 “You have made an enemy for life.”

[@zealousepileptic2690]

that subtle face change at the end is horrifying

[@YetiVT970]

Please more red flag videos they're so good

[@sorcererCermet]

and are basically PSAs

[@spadinnerxylaphone2622]

I hate when people are manipulative like this.

[@bartsanders1553]

Control is just how we express how much we love controling you.

[@J.5.M.]

*And where does it stem from -- his insecurities!!

[@SirTorcharite]

Sometimes my brain promises dopamine if I can manipulate people into doing stuff I like with me like okay basketball or go running up hill in the woods. Does that make me a bad person? I just make it seem like the greatest shit even though I know I'm the only person who ever enjoys it. I'm just really good at selling shit, it's like people don't know how to say no or something. I usually don't even feel bad until I see 'em like doubled over heaving. What makes it worse is they'll be having fun a little while from the start and as it's ending so it misleads me every time. Why is everyone around me not able to breath after extended light strenuous activity? Why are they so terrible at saying no? Why can I convince people who already know it's terrible to do it anyway? I feel like some kind of really pointless puppet master.

[@YashiFradkin]

People do this as a defense mechanism… because people are evil and do bad things, and it’s a coping mechanism for people who’ve been through abuse.

[@tymondabrowski12]

@@YashiFradkin it's also abusive. You can't do this shit and think you'll be excused just because you've been hurt before too. Go to therapy. There are plenty defensive strategies that don't hurt others.

[@queenbeeremedy6993]

Had an ex just like this and a friend just like this, its amazing how accurate this is.

[@churro3588]

it's just a character it's just a character it's just a character it's just a character it's just a character it's just a character it's just a character it's just a character it's just a character it's just a character it's just a character it's just a character

[@Dimitar_Tsanev]

'The ugly truth is that we live in a world where guys are very judgmental towards girls and I just don't want her to experience that' as an argument supporting this guy's request is absolustely genius...

[@NerdistRay]

This guy is getting too good at this! That ending state was genuinely horrifying

[@elpmia945]

the stare at the end was TOO ACCURATE i’ve seen the light dRAIN from men’s eyes in rage

[@cupcaketv5673]

The part with "The ugly truth is that we live in a world where guys are really judgemental towards girls and I just don't want her to experience that" reminds me of my mother, who always defended hurting me with, "You're gonna get hurt by the world, I just want to prepare you!" 💀

[@stephanieschoonmaker]

As someone with many friends throughout my life who’ve had toxic boyfriends AND someone who goes by Steph (and hates being called Stephanie) this was top tier discomfort. The talent

[@mystiquevening]

Dude… my heart dropped. Great acting!

[@kvh1928]

Very very VERY relatable to this pov. I can't NOT remember 😭

[@vianarosenguyen2670]

"oh yeah you're right! I did want to tell her something, but I don't think you really want to be here for it, we can always talk another time. Oh are you sure? No, I really don't think- Really, I really think you'd probably prefer- If you're sure.." Side eyes him "So... Steve here was just asking me to keep you from coming to the tattoo shop with me to preserve your innocence because he thought if you came you'd get a tattoo and he didn't want you regretting any bad decisions, funny story isn't it? hahaha"

[@kandaeshr5249]

I laughed way too hard at that ending stare, good job Stephanie

[@Amkenz99]

I fucking hated this one, you’re so good at what you do sir. A very talented actor 😭😭♥️♥️

[@Hendika]

Your acting is terrifyingly good, well done mister

[@icu3869]

Crying:" Don't deny it Steph- he TOLD me how you came on to him when I left to get water!"(pause)"yeah, you ACT like you hate him so I won't suspect - but Now I Know the TRUTH! he’s MINE!

[@shairafaiza7261]

No!!! Not the cursed sequel.

[@christiantaylor1495]

Yes

[@LOwens-xf8yo]

“Guys can be really judgmental towards girls, I don’t want her to experience that.” If she’s over 12, she has already experienced that.

[@toastwell6488]

You just know that right after his gf get's home he's going to try to get her to stop talking to Steph.

[@OhNoNoNoNoNo]

I want to take a second to commend Slappable Jerk. There is plenty of content about how to recognize an abuser or a toxic person, but he brings them right to us through his amazing acting. I think this allows him to reach and impact a wider audience and I hope it makes some people more self aware.

[@Nickomanite]

This character gives me homelander vibes

[@Peaslepuff]

Funny, annnnd a little bit scary at the end 😅

[@abrahamvalera125]

I laughed hard at the "boys can be judgmental of girls."

[@damongirl66]

I know that stare so well because I saw it every time I did or said anything that didn't include 'Main Character Boyfriend'.

[@serenadoux8738]

I actually said "NOO!" out loud during this

[@IBooDoopI]

I feel bad for laughing at the stare, but the near top comment talking about it made me know it was coming and I couldnt help but LOSE MY SHIT

[@SapphoForAphrodite]

The stare was legitimately terrifying, my body was kinda expecting a jumpscare because it was so triggered

[@janikut_]

That face at the end, *you are done* 💀

[@patrickhooper1172]

You absolutely need your own show. Haven't seen that talent in some time

[@Jukelikesgames]

The stare at the enddddd😩😂😭

[@marisadaniela6]

The acting was too good. I'm scared of this guy

[@seronimo__7735]

I've watched a lot of this channel's videos, but this is the first one that's made me want to scream at my computer.

[@XHeartCriztalx]

how are you so good at this. literally terrifying

[@Cosmefulanito2812]

That emotionless Walter White face is golden

[@Hunt_o_kar]

I have never hung out with a friends toxic boyfriend but this is still incredibly accurate

[@cypher2498]

I'll be honest, he's actually gaslighting me. I need to grow up.

[@amer6706]

I love watching these pov ones as a woman because I get to roleplay the visceral uncomfortableness.

[@Jacev_]

Jfc dude if I didn't know you were playing a character I would have slapped you myself. You're so good at this role, I hope people don't get that urge when seeing you in real life 😂😂😂

[@johnwalker1058]

Ngl, the stare at the end legit terrified me a little bit.

[@carlosmanueI]

Give this man an Emmy

[@jordan101096]

"I don't want her to make a decision she's going to regret 1:33 "...I mean she's already dating you so..

[@pedromagalhaes6866]

Bro you are way too good at this. It's insane

[@hdbordercollie]

flinched away from my phone screen! hats off to you, good sir

[@waffler-yz3gw]

that stare at the end was actually unsettling wtf

[@marchingham]

Omg soooooo spot on. The immediate "I'm going to punch you" energy as soon as things don't go his way. Shivers!!

[@jayleevt]

that final look activated my fight or flight response holy shit

[@Javier_esc]

That "love it" reminded me of homelander saying yummers

[@davidvargas1798]

There's normal people who question tattoos and confirm whether or not their spouse want to fully commit then support them and help them decide or just reaffirm that it's ok then there's this... Just pure controlling and wanting to make choices for someone else's body, like regardless of if you say it's ok or not... They are an adult who can make choices.

[@awfulroffle]

It's just acting, it's just acting, he's acting-- *internal screaming*

[@Jo-ew7lw]

that death stare is bone chilling, i felt DANGER

[@victoriap1649]

My friend’s boyfriend literally pretended to be suddenly dead asleep and caused a whole scene by refusing to “wake up” when everyone was asking if he was okay. After what felt like at least 5 minutes of that nonsense, he “woke up” and then they both went home. It was like 10pm and he’d been complaining the whole time. So weird idk why he even came with her in the first place

[@IjeomaThePlantMama]

Thay look at the end was actually quite scary. Well done😳

[@360shadowmoon]

The end of this video made me want to run away in the opposite direction from my laptop.

[@JonathanTheTrombonist]

Someone please duet this man as Stephanie

[@catwhisperer2358]

I have seen that look at the end in person. Bone chilling.

[@jonathanforrester4809]

The striped shirt combo with the plaid shorts. That was your first red flag

[@sweetblackangel]

Why are you so good at this!?

[@aija6440]

It'd be funny as hell if the friend told that the boyfriend wanted her to go alone

[@axolotlmaniac45]

bro is homelander

[@ictogon]

laser tattoo removal time

[@krazykarl2413]

That stare at the end😮‍💨😂😂😂

[@LB-rj7tk]

omg i hate it when they talk to you behind their backs like this!! it's so inappropriate!!

[@sourdrop]

Since he's her new boyfriend he's trying to hide how controlling/angry he can be. Trying to get her friends to do his bidding, and then the real him comes out at the end when Stephanie doesn't comply. Absolutely chilling.

[@kryndolyn]

you do dead fish eyes SO WELL its EERIE

[@dominicg2456]

it's making me feel bad for thinking tattoos are ugly even though ik that's not the message 😭

[@user36able]

Fortunately my friendship love language consists of having a moving van on call at all times and being real handy at digging graves.

[@Zachary_Walker]

This guy got a little of this in him 🤣

[@samorsamantha4346]

It's getting to the point that the sight of a striped sweater is triggering.

[@clarkcrichton]

some of that couldve been worded differently and it would be okay. that is until the death stare and the "didnt you have something to say?"

[@RavenSutcliffe]

Jesus that Kubrick Stare at the end 💀💀💀 Also here's what Stephanie has to say to her friend: PUT THE WHOLE MAN IN THE TRASH

[@joedavis9842]

I know a guy just like this and it's SO frustrating

[@jessicaboyd9148]

This one is kinda scary