pretty privilege isn't a privilege? | Camryn Elyse

[@xtelfolaj]

I do see being pretty as a privilege because anything that can get you ahead in life, is a privilege. However, I love the point that is brought up that being confident in your beauty gets backlash. It's like we are programmed to think we have to be insecure, complain of our looks, or dull yourself around other people. It's like if people know they are pretty, it is seen as cocky. I used to constantly be hard on myself. But I'm so over that. I'm a beautiful black woman. Full stop.

[@uunnoov]

Same! It’s so liberating accepting your own authentic beauty, people who still struggle with self acceptance, and are propagandized by society believing their own beauty is inadequate hate it when you radiate self love.

[@planet.barbie]

but then if you are actually insecure, people tell you to just suck it up and deal with it. they tell you that youre attention seeking. we just cant win 😭😭😭

[@taquinmcmullen6490]

Facts

[@writteninstars]

@@uunnoov I see this happening so much in "social justice" circles and it's even leaked into academia. it's really sad.

[@0nly.bhadbby40]

But they give black Women a harder time though . If it was an Asian or white women they’ll leave her alone or even cater to her

[@zheahra]

Everybody can't be pretty. But, we all can be good and kind to all.

[@aworte3266]

I try to remember that all the time, no I'm not beautiful but I focus on what I can control

[@zheahra]

@@aworte3266 Remember, there is more than one type of beauty.

[@Miranda-gi9fx]

@Clara The beauty privilege is more of a generalization. It is true that people who are considered more attractive have advantages in general. Many studies have shown this. It is easier for a pretty person to get a promotion for example. They attract more people, and even when there is a tragedy and someone is missing, generally more resources will be deployed if that person is considered attractive. Have you ever heard someone say in these cases: "What a shame, she was so beautiful"? But there are always exceptions. I've known people who have had more difficult relationships than others because they were beautiful and their partners treated them more like trophies than people. And others who were put on a pedestal. And I agree that beauty is subjective most of the time, but there are and always will be standards of beauty. So even if someone is not my type, I can recognize that they meet the beauty standards and will be considered pretty by most people.

[@0nly.bhadbby40]

Anyone can be pretty but no everyone is “attractive “

[@godiswithyou.5358]

Amen ♥️

[@Yawn54]

Pretty privilege is real. Those who disagree probably don’t have it. I’ve seen the way strangers treat those they don’t find attractive. It’s absolutely disgusting, you don’t get treated like a human when you are unattractive.

[@patriciahamilton9772]

That's true, cause I experience it in my childhood when I was treated crucial, horribly being bullied by evil devil's in school not only by how I looked to them which I never saw my appearance ugly & also body shamed me. I definitely relate to it. It is very disgusting and disturbing, that's why to this day I still recent them and I don't feel like I forgave them.

[@starrjohnson1327]

@@patriciahamilton9772 so sorry you went through this😓. I was bullied as a child too. Even got some bullying as an adult. People can be so cruel

[@nileaugustine5882]

@@patriciahamilton9772 Book Called to Forgive by Reverend Anthony B. Thompson.

[@SLa-pb1gg]

Pretty Privilege is 100% a thing. Attractive ppl are treated better, given more respect, more opportunities, a pass on things. How many men do you see offering to help a pretty woman, compared to a woman they don’t find attractive. I’ve experienced it myself. Men offering to pump my gas for me, paying for my meal in a store, being extra nice and attentive, yet they don’t do that for women who they may deem unattractive. They’re less protected and treated differently

[@CamrynElyse]

pretty privilege certainly is real, i’ve said that multiple times😅

[@SLa-pb1gg]

@@CamrynElyse this was specifically for ppl on here saying it’s not really a thing, not you 🙄

[@gensai93]

It's not really helping, they don't do something for free, they just want something out of you. That's not a privilege. It's not "protection" it's predatory.

[@ivybee347]

It's also been used against me to assume I just need to sit somewhere and be "pretty". When I was in the Navy no one originally believed me about my rate because it's filled with white men and it required a higher ASVAB score. It was the same in school. It's not a good feeling to have people assume that you coast by on looks meanwhile I worked my butt off the maintain my 3.75 GPA with 2 kids and a job. And no one wants to just do something for me for free...... they expect something back.... Even if it was just someone holding a door for me..... and saying I'm married still results in someone cursing me out and calling me a stuck up b*tch. I've been followed and harassed and it's not fun at all. And the moment I feel good about myself I'm told to be quiet.

[@kamigriff]

@@gensai93 definitely predatory. It took me a long time to date, because my childhood was literally ripped from me due to being a pretty little girl. I still barely wear makeup. The saying there is no such thing as a free meal is true. No one is offering pretty people anything without expecting something in return. I never accept anything from anyone. I felt like being pretty was a curse. I’d rather walk around invisible instead of as a target.

[@tia2676]

Unwanted attention is not unique to conventionally attractive people. Statistically most people who are sexually assaulted do not fit the beauty standards. Children. Disabled women. Non-white women. Elderly women. Sexual assault is not about attraction. It’s about power. Implying that pretty privilege is no longer a privilege because of a phenomenon that everyone-pretty, non pretty, young, old experience is stupid. None of the other things mentioned in this video are unique to attractive people.

[@CamrynElyse]

i’m just formulating an opinion based on research i’ve done. i would like to clarify that i’m specifically speaking about pretty privilege, which can extend beyond beauty standards depending on culture and background, especially since beauty standards are eurocentric focused and pretty privilege works as a totem pole that considers beauty standards to form the tiers and then each tier has a spectrum. from what i’ve gathered, people who benefit from this phenomenon “pretty privilege” tend to face a certain kind of backlash more than other, so i would consider that a unique experience, but i can see where you’re coming from.

[@chisomo8088]

@@CamrynElyse that's simply untrue. Love the video but the ill treatment you described is extended to everyone, especially conventionally unattractive people. So it's not really a solid argument. The 'cons' of pretty privilege are not unique to it.

[@chickofmusic001]

Exactly assault is always about power in the end.

[@IAmPlaysWithSquirrel]

“Statistically most people who are sexually assaulted do not fit the beauty standards.” Can you provide a reliable source for this statement? And if being a target for male attention isn’t unique to pretty women, then your own argument about pretty privilege falls apart rather quickly.

[@libfuzzy4629]

Tbh as a darkskin black woman I've gotten jealousy from other women within and outside my race but no one has ever tired to "humble' me nor was i told I'm not all that growing up. As a child i thank God for a mom who told me i was beautiful all the time 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@davisholman8149]

So good to hear - I tell my daughters & granddaughters how beautiful they are all the time. Because they are (& yes I am biased, LOL🥰). But I also think virtually ALL children are beautiful - all colors, sizes, and personalities - God only makes His daughters pretty. I also feel like people can work with what they have genetically & make things better. Eat right, wear a nice outfit, get their hair done in a nice style or color. Tbh - being ‘cute’ is best - most men aren’t as intimidated by cute! Just my observation.✌🏽😎💋

[@Njideka]

@@davisholman8149 "God only makes His daughters pretty." Beautifully said. Have a great day and God bless you!

[@bmwjourdandunngoddess6024]

They probably tried to humble, but you didn’t notice

[@tia2676]

If you’re confident and beautiful, they’ll try to humble you. If you’re confident and ugly, they think you’re audacious.

[@luvingme13]

Pretty privilege really just allows you to capitalize off your looks. There is that whole shallow psychological thing where those deemed more attractive are also seen as more trustworthy which honestly makes no sense but whatever humans are simple minded in many ways so I digress…being pretty can make you money, it can grant you societal approval, but it doesn’t guarantee you love or safety. One rlly important part of this conversation that needs to be addressed is that being considered pretty does not prevent women from being cheated on, abused, raped, killed, etc… I mean we know that you can literally be Beyoncé and still get treated like shit, being pretty won’t save you from patriarchy. That being said, in the event that a desirable person is cheated on, abused, murdered, etc they are more likely to be remembered, receive more empathy and investigative attention, I mean come on society loves a “perfect victim”. This is all important to keep in mind

[@lyricxlmxchi8676]

Exactly.

[@SapphicSis]

@@lyricxlmxchi8676 being pretty won’t save you from patriarchy for sure but we have to add in the women who also enforce those standards on other women. when we really should just be uplifting one another

[@NoName-sp5dp]

@@SapphicSis agree

[@SapphicSis]

@@MayMay-el4wg okay, you’re another woman who didn’t have to make anything for herself, just have a man take care of it all for her. we all got different journeys, but i know a lot of conventionally unattractive women who don’t want to live your life and some that do.

[@SapphicSis]

@@MayMay-el4wg you don’t know all 7 billion people on this planet, so no. every woman doesn’t want that

[@Peacebewithu34]

I noticed that the most shallow people is mostly those who don't meet the standards. It's not even just looks.

[@laylor4360]

Exactly!!! When I see pretty or handsome they barely have to try, its the ones who don't have that doing the most.

[@Peacebewithu34]

@@laylor4360 period!!!!

[@vanessawilfrose]

Being pretty in this society is a privilege. Just like everything else in life, there will be cons with the pros.

[@CamrynElyse]

i agree.

[@wtfisthis96]

Pretty privilege is 100% real. I'm a man, and I use to be really fat, with acne and with a "weirdo fashion". But when I was 18, I had a total glow up, I loose 80 pounds in a year, my acne disappear and for some reason the way I use to dress became trending and everyone thought it was cool. And oh my fucking god, the way people's behavior change when I was handsome instead of that ugly fat guy, it's insane, people will gift me things, men and women will just flirt with me non stop, I will get a lot of compliments and people will even do things for me just to impress me.

[@obokengm788]

Being pretty makes people think it's okay to hurt you because 'they've probably had it way better than me'

[@goldenglowable]

Yes, and that is so scary. And then they take it to the next level and want to tear you down and completely destroy you until there's nothing left 🤍

[@Spicegal44]

That’s my experience that’s why I’m either alone or around people I can CLOSELY relate to

[@Marvelous_M]

Bingo

[@florencee3324]

Thank you I feel like people always leave this out. People often talk about pretty people being favoured but don’t address the jealousy,stalking, assaults etc that happen.

[@pammy_land]

How SEVERELY LONELY it is. You have no friends, everyone is so mean and always yelling at you because they think you have no problems.😔

[@lexlex9886]

I am a Black woman and I was once told by 2 non-Black women - “you’re such a strong and confident person that we don’t think that we’ll get along with you”

[@anxiousbaddie444]

@Lexie Jean-Louis you *have* to be joking 💀

[@lexlex9886]

@@anxiousbaddie444 Nope! I wish I were... This was through text message too. Quick background, I graduated undergrad and needed roommates because I was moving to a new state for grad school. They TEXTED me this too. They felt that I was too "strong and confident" so they did not think we would get along as roommates. I kept the messages and it only serves as a reminder that I am doing great in life!

[@anxiousbaddie444]

@@lexlex9886 yep it really does show that you are just slaying, stay unbothered and keep doing what you doing. there's a lot people can learn from you 💫🔥✨

[@IAmPlaysWithSquirrel]

At least they did you the favor of staying away from you and being honest about their reasons for doing so instead of being fake and befriending you just to turn around and hurt you.

[@Whatever-jr6rj]

It’s two sides of the same coin. Being pretty has it’s benefits but also has drawbacks, but the drawbacks aren’t talked about as much because society really romanticizes being pretty. One drawback you didn’t mention (that is actually a very dangerous one) is that being pretty equals being healthy. People will never think an attractive person has a disease/disability and might even doubt them if they say they have one. Even doctors don’t really take attractive people’s complaints seriously, thinking that if they were actually sick they “wouldn’t be looking that good”, and for illnesses in which a later diagnosis means less chances of survival, this is truly a life or death matter.

[@OhitzHurr.x_x]

Omg so true . As I aged I realised that I’m a pretty girl and I got diagnosed with c-ptsd at the age of 15 and I remember when I turned 17 I joined a college and got told that I was lying about my mental illness and that there was nothing wrong with me and I literally burst out into tears . I told a friend and she replied saying it’s because of my looks people think to themselves “ well how bad could it be “ . I never went back to that college again .

[@Spicegal44]

Being pretty is hard work and I say whatever you can get out of just looking good you should take it and run 😂👋🏾

[@CamrynElyse]

i agree😭

[@arionika7979]

Period lmao

[@fluffysox6072]

If you have to work hard to be pretty, then you don’t have it naturally. It’s not hard work if you’ve really got it

[@Spicegal44]

@@fluffysox6072 honey we’re talking about pretty in general and the upkeep. As in everyday women who choose to do all it takes to be socially acceptable looks wise, which I’m not going into because if you don’t get it it’s not meant for you to get🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Posh_and_Rooted]

I agree 😂😂😂

[@nonnieJ94]

It goes to show literally whether you’re pretty average or ugly sometimes life is just a roll of the dice (starting with the family you’re born into) and you can either roll with it and make the most out of it or lie down and complain

[@evangeline8193]

I also want to add something that I'm not seeing being touched on in the comments a lot. Pretty privilege (in terms of talking about pretty women and girls) is just misogyny in a very cheap disguise. I'm considered conventionally attractive (especially for my age). When I was younger (around 11) I used to think that all I wanted was to be pretty, somehow some way in the span of 5 years (I turned 16 two weeks ago) I achieved that, discovered the gym, and have been training for two and a half years now and in general just got a bone structure. I don't know how it happened but the difference between 14 year old me and me today only two years later is night and day. And I have a MAJOR love hate relationship with it. I understand way people feel weird about being called privileged for being attractive, considering the word is often used to describe white or male privilege, privileges that are intrinsically beneficial to the people who possess them. But pretty privileged is sooo complicated. For starters I love easily making friends, and always having boyfriend options as a teen. But... I also get harassed EVERY time I leave the house, its actually astonishing at this point. I get hit on by men twice my age, I have men in their 30s rev their car engines at me on the street. Just last week my YOUNGER sibling had to death stare a man until he felt too uncomfortable to continue lustfuly staring at me (a girl young enough to me his daughter) with HIS WIFE right beside him. Almost every public courting attempt by a male my age or otherwise is incredibly entitled and sexist. Groups of guys think it's fine to degradingly talk sextually about me, any guys I date or even show any attention expect me to understand and accept how their friends can't possibly respect me, boys will be boys. I plan my outfits based on safety not occasion. There's a GORGEOUS backless dress I've been staring at for hours online contemplating buying because I LOVE IT, but I can already feel the stares and hear the catcalls, it's so depressing. And not to mention I get blamed for it more just because of the way I look. Most privileges keep the holder of them safer in society, my apparent privilege does the opposite. I feel like I shouldn't be this desensitized to men's revoluting behavior at such a young age. And don't even get me started on the responses I get looking the way I do telling straight guys I'm bi. I get that it is something that gets you ahead in life, but it's also f'ing exhausting and honestly needs to be talked about with more nuance in the context of how it falls under misogyny. I'm afraid to wear a dress I love because I don't want to become a hashtag, I feel like that says something...

[@j_bubblez279]

Yep. I only wear cute outfits with my boyfriend because I dont feel safe enough otherwise.

[@kamigriff]

Absolutely, my childhood was ripped from me by being a pretty little girl.

[@indescribable3865]

I hope you find a very protective very strong age appropriate boyfriend who can protect both your honor & your heart! But don’t be in any rush! P.S. Get a taser

[@jessbach4795]

@@indescribable3865 or a lovely girlfriend with some bomb pepper spray, she said she's bi 😌

[@nikkiross128b]

You plan your outfits based on safety not occasion, wow. I can relate to somewhat, I think I was an 8 in younger days. I never wear make-up, use no nail polish, no shirts showing any boob parts, and always wear flat shoes. Actually I felt I didn’t need makeup and would maybe wear it when I would be older, but now that I’m older the makeup doesn’t look so good anymore. And I started to wear only flat shoes out of feminist perspective. But dressing down like that also helps in avoiding unwanted attention. Although you get the attention anyway. But if you dress more sexy it’s worse. Like people yelling out of a car versus only staring. The staring is to be preferred obviously. So I always opted for the sporty or the classy (minimalistic) style.

[@BARelement]

Personally I’ve gotten away with things just for being pretty. Yes there is negatives that come with being “pretty” (rather the circumstances of being pretty not beauty itself), and negativity that comes with being dark skin. But it’s still a privilege. It’s sorta like saying white privileged no longer exist because it gets called out these days. Ppl calling it out and attacking white privilege doesn’t make it non existent but that’s my hot take. A lot of what is said in the video can apply to white ppl who get the same sorta negativity (at a different varying levels) over white privilege.

[@Ilovepizza-o7c]

I agree with you

[@Sara-zr6wb]

Pretty Privilege takes you so far and no more. Remember as we age, people will perceive your beauty differently or treat you like you don't exist. Beyonce. Kardashians, Lori Harvey etc.... they will eventually get old like the rest of us. Which is why having your looks be the most important thing to you will eventually crush your soul when it's gone 💀💀💀

[@carolinemazorodze581]

You sound jealous

[@Sara-zr6wb]

@@carolinemazorodze581 You seem delusional about the facts of life. Nobody is jealous. It just sounds like this upsets you. Remember when Angelia Jolie was praised as the most beautiful woman in the world? Why is it we don't really hear about her anymore like that? The same thing with Kim K.: In the 2010's she was big, but now? It's Kylie and Kendall's time. The aforementioned celebrities are still attractive for their age yet people have long stopped giving them the pedestal. The only way to stop that is if you have Beyonce level fame and accomplishment and even then people are now starting to say she is past her prime due to her weight gain and age. I stated the initial comment to say Pretty Privilege is the most bittersweet privilege as it fades with age-something we can't control. People shouldn't be so obsessed with it or upset that it is a thing. It's just life.

[@tfkdandsvkc]

@@Sara-zr6wb but pretty privilege pple still have privilege as they age

[@rayanajennings2689]

Age doesn't defer pretty privilege there are people in this world who's been beautiful their whole life and reap all the benefits from it.

[@hereforit2347]

People who are not generally considered pretty who gripe about pretty privilege really need to find more constructive things to focus on because it’s *never* going away.

[@CamrynElyse]

what’s your point? who’s griping?

[@hereforit2347]

@@CamrynElyse: Quite a few people on KZbin are griping. I wasn’t talking about you. Nevertheless, I think it’s a moot point. 😐

[@SapphicSis]

@@hereforit2347 in my opinion, it’s really hurtful to tell an unattractive person to change their dreams because of the looks they were born into. i am conventionally unattractive and i focus on being healthy, staying active and paying attention on self care.i also strive for financial freedom bc as an unattractive person, i can’t depend on a man to care for me. i think you’re not understanding how easy life is for attractive people. those who dreams are to be moms, wives, actors, influencers but they’re just not attractive enough to get the things they desire. it’s never going away so it’s better to focus on other things but that’s messed up to say to those whose dreams were based off of their appearance.

[@hereforit2347]

@@SapphicSis: Who said anything about changing one’s dreams? I mean, if a person is a terrible singer, they most likely will not be the next Beyoncé. But stranger things have happened. There are people who many would think can’t sing who have brilliant music careers. There are people who are generally considered conventionally “unattractive” who become models, actors, and influencers. I never said a person who is generally not considered to be the most beautiful person in the world or doesn’t always turn heads when they walk into a room couldn’t do or be whatever the hell they want. And looks seldom if ever keep people away from the alter. I just think this focus on pretty privilege is foolish. It’s not going to change. Concerning oneself about great-looking people getting perks is a waste of time. Find your own beauty, inside and out, and others will see it. Get educated, be healthy, take care of yourself, enjoy your loved ones, pursue your dreams, work hard, travel, and enjoy life. Fill your mind and heart with what’s important because how you look really isn’t.

[@hereforit2347]

@@SapphicSis: I *never* said that anyone, regardless of looks, “can’t” or “won’t” get the things, accomplish the goals, or have the relationships they desire. Please don’t put words in my mouth.

[@SleepyPrincess3002]

All women face misogyny. Which is inherently tied to beauty. As women, the only thing you’re truly valued for is your appearance. All women are oppressed but being an “ugly woman” is misogyny plus, so yes being pretty is a privilege.

[@EbzJay1]

Love your videos. Its so true, and add a layer of being fat to the pretty privilege and people lose their minds. I do think the superficial idea of feminity is a problem as well. According to a lot of people (mostly men or internalised misogynists), its lady like to be humble. Dark skinned and fat women are not seen as feminine so people get really confused and annoyed when they are confident. It's frustrating. I think I see it more as desirability politics tho because like you mentioned, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. 💅

[@ventii_kun]

A recent example of Pretty Privilege/Beauty Penalty is from the game show Big Brother Season 24 (currently airing). 🚨 *SPOILER WARNING!* 🚨 During the first several episodes, there is one-sided beef between two women Paloma and Taylor. Taylor is a former crown winning beauty queen and men’s fashion designer. Paloma is an interior designer and former broadcast journalist. Taylor is a dark skinned black woman who appeared to be utilizing her exceptionally good looks & charm to woo the guys in the house. Paloma, who is also attractive, still felt “threatened” by Taylor’s existence. (I’m trying remember the main points I heard her say) She kept emphasizing how “Taylor shouldn’t be flaunting herself around like that”, “She comes across as very cocky even without trying”, “Personally, I would try to be low key instead of showing off”, “She’s only doing this for attention [cue eye roll from Paloma]”, etc. Now keep in mind, while Taylor rarely spent time with the other girls, we as the audience haven’t seen her do anything that could make these claims understandable. Later on, Taylor is seen the bathroom talking to one of the guys over the rumors about the majority of the girls are kinda scared that the boys maybe already plotting against them. Taylor tells him that Paloma was worried about if any of the guys would target her. The guy she was talking to leaves to tell Paloma and incorrect/exaggerated lie version of it which makes Paloma snap. Paloma proceeds to rally the house against Taylor claiming that “Taylor is a fucking liar!”, “Can’t trust that bitch!”, “See! I knew it! I knew it! She was always out to get me!”, etc. During this time, 👏 *NOBODY & ESPECIALLY NOT PALOMA TRIED TO SPEAK TO TAYLOR TO VERIFY IF THIS INFO WAS TRUE!!!!!!!!!* 👏 (and these mfs claim to be super fans but I’m getting off topic) Taylor tried to reach out but *NOBODY* was having it. Paloma really sank into the stereotypical high school mean girl role when she went hysterical (couldn’t stop crying). Taylor attempted to clear things up with Paloma, and her (Paloma) response was to literally tell this woman *”I don’t want to hear about it right now. I don’t wanna talk anymore. Is that rude? ‘Cause I feel like I kinda sounded rude. [cue giggling fit]”* Fast forward to eviction night, Taylor managed to survive another week in the house. Paloma left the show early because she had a severe anxiety attack shortly after the whole ordeal. Many fans (including myself) believe that part of the reason behind her panic attack was because deep down in her conscience she felt extremely guilty about her actions and this boiled over. I hope Paloma is recovery swiftly & smoothly from that but I am still a little hot over her behavior. If you watch, you can clearly see that nothing should’ve provoked her nasty attitude. Paloma wasn’t being strategic, she was just bullying someone over possible dormant insecurities and for some reason the rest of the cast acted like bystanders.

[@truthhurts...6574]

The others acted as bystanders to allow them to ex theirselves out and off the show while they put their efforts elsewhere. That guy knew what he was doing by going to tell Paloma that over exaggerated lie. Men will do that sometimes just to watch everything unfold. They know when there is friction between women and they get a kick out of it. It's like dominos stacked up in a line. They tip one over and watch the rest fall down from a safe distance with pure joy.

[@missprettyschannel]

Pretty privilege is very much still a privilege nevertheless it gets you ahead, in life I mean look at the tik tokers who are earning millions every month all because they are beautiful I know that Addison girl even dropped out of college because she was earnings a lot . Yes being very attractive comes with it's disadvantages but what doesn't?

[@MadArtLang]

There is also something to be said about the hostility and inauthenticity of both genders. A pretty woman will be seen as competition and there are women who are insecure and shun pretty women thinking they will be temptation for their man. There are also men who will superficially chase after pretty women to have a "trophy" but they don't love them. If a pretty woman is intelligent, sexual and talented, those things are usually compartmentalized. If she is queer or celibate there is a hostility towards them denying or showing no interest in sex with men. There is also the false notion that pretty women have always been pretty. Plenty former "ugly ducklings" in middle school had the glow up in adult hood but for 2 decades were hated. Also they are less likely to be approached bc there are guys who are intimdated or guys who insult them to "bring them down a notch." The thought is a pretty woman is already secure but there are insecure pretty women too. Pretty is also culturally relative. The hottest Black girl can be passed over in yt company, or the "average" girl can be considered hot and rare in another country. Also there are Black girls of darker complexion with natural hair with a phenotype that may not be fully appreciated by BM bc of colorism but are appreciated outside of their race by other non BM. It's a very nuanced convo. Era matters too. Big butts & curves, locs & braids, plump lips are hot now, but earlier decades ago that was stigmatized. Also black women are encouraged to be hot by being portrayed in a sexed up oiled male gaze type way, but there are soft, more covered up, all natural no make up black girls who have traditional beauty that gets passed over.

[@CamrynElyse]

🎯🎯🎯

[@ruita3189]

Girl do you have a KZbin channel? Podcast? Somethin?!🥹 you also preachin

[@topnotchtn4538]

Girl, you said everything. Not a lie told.

[@MadArtLang]

@@ruita3189 I do actually, I have a couple. No podcast tho. I have a poetry one, RP Poetry An art one Rising Phoenix Masterpiece A cosplay one: Trilllatrill Cosplay A film one: Aplomb Ninety A natural hair empowerment one: Crowning Hairitage I have a vlog one w no videos up yet, but it's because I'm editing them, that channel is phoenixloveamor Enjoy! Jack of All Trades :3

[@missfefeloves]

I'm the last one sadly

[@tragicallyhoney]

I'm ugly and I'm proud- SpongeBob

[@jadibdraws]

Glad to see somebody talk about this. I've had the absolutely worst assumed about me by ppl who find me attractive. Thinking I'm "ran through", stuck up, mean. Its insane. If a man is attracted to me but I'm not attracted to them. Im immediately shallow and prefer thugs over nice guys like no. I have never dated nor am I attracted to a thug or big pimping type dudes like am I not allowed to say no and not be attracted to you, just cause your attracted to me without being the worst of the worst? And can't tell you how many ppl specifically other women just assumed I was mean without ever even talking to me. Then and if they get to know me they'll be quick to say "Girl I thought you were mean/stuck up when I first saw you." Like why??

[@starrjohnson1327]

Story of my life. I get away from people who say "I thought you were stuck up but you're so nice/cool." I don't do passive aggressive "friends". I plan an exit strategy to get away from them. They will always try to get dirt on you so they can say told you so

[@Anisa-wi5zj]

Cause a lot of times pretty girls got big ego. U can’t deny that. I mean, it’s mostly good looking girls being bullies. But that being said, people should assume that they are a certain way bc of their looks

[@HighAsHeckPriestess]

I get told warned about being arrogant. Cut my hair because my dreadlock mane was "unprofessional". Had dudes try to rein me in. I dont know how to turn the shine off, so... the world is gonna have to suck it I guess. But people need to understand that pretty privilege is literally centered around predatory intent on the other person's part. Sexual harassment, being tormented because your looks earned a promotion, having to dull yourself to accomplish things: it's hard to call it a privilege when you're the kind of person who wants to earn things

[@bhagavad-gitakarma1604]

I was lurking on your channel for you to upload something lol

[@homeschoolhomelife]

I just started the video so I'm not sure if you covered this but being black and pretty definitely opens the doorway to becoming "the token" especially in corporate settings.

[@peltycrikts6990]

Some people just look objectively better then other people. Some people are just objectively. That's it that's life. Some people have better taste and sense of style. Some people don't know how to dress an are tacky. Someone will always be better and it will be noticed. Animals, humans, children and babie. Can tell and just naturally gravitate towards nice looking things, it's life.

[@hereforit2347]

Of course pretty privilege is real. It’s not that being pretty is a privilege in and of itself, but it gives one privilege based on our society and what it values. If pretty privilege isn’t real, neither is white privilege. But unlike white privilege, pretty privilege has existed since the dawn of time. It will exist as long as human nature exists.

[@brownskinbeauty.]

Exactly but she is still young so maybe her viewpoint will change later on in life

[@CamrynElyse]

duh, pretty privilege is real and isn’t going away any time soon, i said that in the video…however, a full perspective will show you that being pretty can be dangerous in some cases as well, especially if you are a woman…and especially if you are a black woman. that’s the point of this video.

[@hereforit2347]

@@CamrynElyse: What’s with the attitude? 😂 I didn’t watch the whole video because it’s long. However . . . your opening statement, which summarized your message, was “Pretty privilege isn’t actually a privilege.” I disagree. The advantages far outweigh the disadvantages. And guess what? It isn’t going anywhere EVER and there’s nothing anyone can do about it. Stay blessed and beautiful. ❤️

[@Peacebewithu34]

@@hereforit2347 maybe watch the whole video and understand more, darling

[@BowdowntoAnnaConda]

@@CamrynElyse heres some constructive criticism; you’re rude as hell lol. almost every single reply you have is automatically defensive and each reply reeks of negativity. drop the meaningless attitude and reply back with someone worthwhile it isn’t cute

[@godivainc4593]

Pretty privilege is a “tool” . There’s plenty of pretty women who have low self esteem who are constantly targets. If you have game and know how to persuade others then prettiness helps if you have boundaries issues then no.

[@obokengm788]

I love your videos, I feel like you voice the things I've been experiencing but unable to articulate for years

[@soufbayshawty]

Under patriarchy, pretty privilege says that being objectified by men is merely a privilege. I think we should think about what that insinuates, and why we think being objectified by men is beneficial.

[@grenalien]

I don't think it is, I KNOW it is. until the patriarchy is abolished women will never have the power we deserve.

[@SapphicSis]

i think being objectified by men is beneficial is because of the male gaze & heterosexual tendencies. women like men (those who do), so women want the approval of men. it’s just that easy. with the approval of men, we feel more like women bc we like them and want them in our lives

[@heyskyebright]

This is the comment right here 👏

[@soufbayshawty]

@@SapphicSis Right, but my point is that, that’s actually evil. Women shouldn’t be pressured into conforming to the harmful male gaze for male benefit. Men are still the ones benefiting from this behavior, not you. Whatever “privileges” you receive are for your compliance, the male is the one benefiting because you’re manipulating yourself to conform to his will. Beauty should not be currency, and the fact that it is, is oppressive. Not a privilege. Males throwing scraps at you isn’t the best you can get love.

[@soufbayshawty]

@@SapphicSis “I think being objectified by men is beneficial.” Isn’t that a horrible sentence? Why should being objectified be beneficial?

[@mikaylahfreedom5448]

I'm a beautiful woman not just inside, outside too, I get pretty privilege a lot and I love it❤ I am not conventionally attractive but I'm attractive to myself and people around me

[@lyricxlmxchi8676]

This is definitely an interesting topic. I feel like this all stems from slavery in a sense where we were basically treated like shit, always getting stereotyped, and when we basically rose above all that and became confident in ourselves, the white people get mad. Completely insane, and even now people are still shitting on black women, but in this day and age, it's mostly women from all races doing this, especially our own people. Concerning pretty privilege in general, I do feel like most people talk the advantages more instead of the disadvantages. And you're right. Like from what I've seen and experienced, guys won't bat an eye to me (average person), but if it were my friends, they would talk to them. The only time I was considered "attractive" was when I wore makeup with a natural look, and I was legit flirted with in May. So there's definitely a spectrum depending on the person. I'm an average person in a sense, so its like thank god I've never experience the amount of craziness and just pure disgust that the pretty girls would go through, but I feel like at the same time, they shouldn't have to go through that just because they're attractive. I think they've been put on the pedestal in society for waaaayyyy too long that now it's like enough is enough and they're sick and tired of trying to be pretty and perfect all the time, which I'm glad. I feel like alot of people that talk about pretty privilege alot don't know what happens behind closed doors in that privilege and kinda just thinks it's all peaches and creams. How I think of pretty privilege is that in one side you get everything handed to you because of your looks and at the same time, you can also be susceptible to unwanted and creepy attention from men more than an average person. It's like one extreme to another with this privilege.

[@DiaryofDeans]

People commenting that pretty privilege is a real thing without listening to the video when she says the same thing within the first 3 minutes 🤡 This video is made to show the other side because "pretty" people have feelings and a pov too.

[@ladyliberation3852]

Correct 💯

[@LivSenghor]

I’m told I’m pretty a lot and despite all the backlash for being confident, I absolutely think that where it matters (financially and in my career) I benefit 100% from pretty privilege. Not to say that how you’re treated doesn’t matter, and the smaller interactions are annoying af, but the fact is it’s easier to navigate a lot of things in the US and move “up” in society if you fit the western beauty standard, even as a Black woman.

[@IshtarNike]

The beauty penalty argument needs more empirical evidence because they're using celebrities and that's not the same thing as just talking about pretty privilege because they're also incredibly rich and incredibly famous and those three things aren't all equal. To clarify while they are obviously rich and famous because they're pretty you can't then use that as a reason why pretty privilege isn't really that great because you could do exactly the same thing with white privilege and say that well because they're white and something bad happened to them that means that white privilege isn't actually that good.

[@ChaselynnFletcher]

Gift and a curse because what happens when u don’t want that type of attention? Or “privilege”? What do u do? How do u turn “pretty”off?

[@andreataylor4503]

A lot of times it's jealousy it's true I've had ppl get mad at me for not trying to fit the "mold" and be myself not trying to be something i am not and comfortable with that I'm quiet im shy that's just the way it is I'm not loud though I can be I don't want to be seen I'm at peace it's who I am I found other like minded ppl as well and seeing thar trait in them that I also have in myself inspires me especially when they embrace it I find it kinda cute and think we'll maybe me being this way isn't so bad after all but ppl hate me for it and it doesn't help that some ppl think im attractive then I'm stuck up I tkink im better than everyone i think im too good and whatever else they can think of when I'm just minding my own business trying to get on with my life ppl are also just flat out miserable let's not forget jealous ppl are always miserable if there nothing else😒 and yes I was extremely bullied alley life by both women and men smh

[@patriciahamilton9772]

I relate to most of what you said cause I've experienced it too, and I was bullied, not only for being quiet but because they believe I was ugly when I wasn't and for being skinny in school. and it gets on my nerve for years to this day people said to me I'm too quiet, or ask me why I'm so quiet, people got at me for that and saying I can't be shy as well as other things, it's a curse that negative people in this world don't accept a person for being themselves. I know & I said it for years Im not and will never change for nobody.

[@miniminott48]

💅Loved this commentary!!! Off topic, your wash and go is gorgeous!!!😍😍😘😘

[@princessm8977]

Pretty privilege is so interesting when you're on both sides of the coin. The difference in the way I'm treated when I have my hair long and glasses off is VASTLY different from when I'm wearing glasses and dressed down.

[@lkofie6670]

I AGREE 100% about the expectations people have towards pretty and confident dark-skinned women particularly in regards to OTHER fellow women. I'm speaking from experience. It's as if I'm suppose to reflect what the stereotype or the perception of how black women are and be humbled by it...like how dare I defy the perception or stereotype? Now honestly it took some time for me to actually build a thick skin and frankly not give a damn about anyone's feelings or perceptions because dear God, I won't feel comfortable or be a shell of myself if I always considered what other people, namely other women thought about me. Besides, no matter what truth you say about YOUR OWN LIFE, people would still draw their own conclusions and perceptions about you. In high school and college the comments from other girls would be "Oh I was thinking you would be stuck up but you're actually so sweet." I became the conquest for men from high school through college, which their age range was primarily anywhere from 5-12 years my senior. One fool told me I am so pretty for a dark-skinned girl and he just loves it because I'm exotic (this is particularly referencing the fact that my family are African immigrants), and yes I've been viewed as "different/exotic" by both men and fellow black women in particular. Men of various races/nationalities have approached me as well and one fellow black woman called herself "cautioning me" that they were seeking me not just for my looks but to gain their green card. Then there's indeed the uncomfortable LOUD cat calls and "compliments", questions about if I'm married or in a relationship which when I answer "yes" the follow up question is "Well are you happy?" Most recently I have been followed to my car. Oh yes at most of the workplaces I've been at (since my first "big girl" job at age 21...I'm now 46) from fellow female coworkers up to ADMINISTRATIVE STAFF, I've been eyed up and down and judged based on how I look and dress...I like to "dress up" for work including wearing heels despite the relaxed dress code in office environments today. I'm of the era where business casual and professional attire still ran supreme and I actually don't mind it. There's comments like "Well I'd dress up more if I were skinny too..." "I use to dress up and put on makeup but now I just don't find it necessary...it can attract unnecessary attention." I don't know if anyone told you but, you don't have to dress up in our office." ...been told that one 3 times by the same woman at one workplace and once by another woman at a different workplace. At the former work place, a male colleague actually said "(Insert my name), you've got people mad around here. The way you dress AND you're attractive, you've got them feeling some kinda way...but I'm not mad at you. You do you. They can do better too." At this same workplace, the office administrator actually inquired with my supervisor why and how am I wearing such high heels in the office everyday...I'm not kidding...she was serious...NOTHING to do with my work. My supervisor at the time talked about this in our team meeting that morning to reflect how ridiculous and petty he felt our team was being watched closely for anything. That very administrator denied my request to take a leave of absence to complete my masters degree program after making me jump through hoops to bring all sorts of requests she had, despite honoring others' request in the past. I've gotten questions on if my hair was my own by other races of women (just a peculiar question to ask someone even if it's apparent), and attempts to downplay my look by fellow black women with comments like "Yeah if she takes out the weave and her makeup, I bet she won't be all that..." in the break room. And dear Lord, don't have a husband AND kids too. The questions and expressions suddenly be one of shock when discovered that I am a mother followed by questions of what my husband does for a living, what he says about me having so many pairs of shoes, how big is my closet, assumptions that I spend all of my paychecks on clothes, shoes, and my upkeep. One former female co-worker was busy saying to those sitting next to her but within my hearing range that "I can dress up too but my kids are MY priority...all my money goes on them. They dress better than I DO. They will always come first..." My husband always told me both in a joking manner and real that based on how I look and dress, I won't ever get a raise. The more it began to not faze me (hell I had to adapt and had enough practice over the years), the more it seems to have been a challenge to get me to break/show some sort of emotional insecurities based on the underhanded comments and sabotage attempts by fellow co-workers and actually gaslighting actions of administrative staff...it PAINS them. I've since realized and had to accept that my presence tend to bring out the insecurities in other women without even saying one word or really even getting to know each other. I don't even have a relationship with my sister-in-laws...yeah I've had experiences with them too and they have their perceptions that are quite similar to female coworkers. Women that I thought were my friends and even stood up in my wedding excluded me and distanced themselves followed by rumors and lies from the first year of my marriage going on 21 years ago. Even most recently my maid of honor and woman I named Godmother to my children eventually showed herself and she came off as being low key jealous and envious the whole time...she had me reflecting on things she would say or do over the years until the day of the very revelation occurred when I suppose she could no longer suppress her true emotions and I was on her turf....on and on. Frankly, if I am pretty, fine. If I am stylish, fine. Overall, I just never bought into the hype of dark-skinned versus light skinned or otherwise, or being physically endowed in one area or areas as the best. I was born as I was and accepted it as I am, not to mention, I workout and because of this, based on MY experiences, women, younger or older than I am just don't like that because I don't hype up any insecurities or downplay myself as I tend to hear them do all the time and in my presence...I tell you even after all these years later.

[@Nekole1]

It sounds like you are an attractive woman and got envied and hated because of it. I prefer to work around women like you tbh. You seem kind and pleasant. I dealt with hate from other women also over the years so I can relate.

[@Goddess_Infinity]

Ooommmg you are literally me !!!! And im from West African 🇸🇱 . Everything you said I’ve experienced and reading I no longer feel alone or misunderstood 😢

[@starrjohnson1327]

I had to leave a job because of this same treatment. I always look nice. My grandfather held me to that standard. I realized my job wanted me to level down and I wasn't going to do that. I changed my name on social media(so they can't watch my life) and my address is unlisted. People can be insane when they are jealous

[@ameliali593]

I know I’m attractive but I never have people just throw themselves at me. I have to work hard to get peoples attention and make them care about me. Ofc people will compliment me here and there but I’ve never had that *pretty girl life* (Being pretty doesn’t give you everything) if anything it doesn’t give you much since so many people want to distance themselves from you because they think you’re rude.

[@kasieokoye9568]

You are very pretty. Have you ever considered people may find you intimidating. I completely agree with you too.

[@nicolesherman8974]

I suggest people read the book Belly of the Beast by Da’Shaun Harrison. They went into detail about pretty privilege and how it affects fat Black people.

[@SapphicSis]

i gotta read this as a fat black person🤣

[@marie-francoiset9402]

i think fat has such a negative connotation is because it's associated with ill health (yes fat ppl can be healthier than thin ppl in some instances) but in general being fat is considered being unhealthy.

[@hfh2946]

u cant be fat and healthy. whats overweight depends on the race. being chubby thats oke being extremely overweight is not. if u get in a situation that u need peoples help if your fat. changes of people helping u is small cause they put there selves in danger to safe u.

[@pomfiyon3955]

I'm aimwonw who grew up ugly and was bullied but then I got attractive and all of a sudden everyone is nice to me. That being said, I don't get anything special for having nicer features. More just folks holding doors open for me and getting compliments. HOWEVER, the amount of times I've been borderline SAed because of my looks is obscene! There is more to it then most know.

[@IshtarNike]

In my STEM courses we studied something called a "synergistic effect". Basically when two individual factors coincide sometimes they have a bigger effect than you'd expect. They don't just add together they multiply. I think black darks skin black women suffer from this multiplier effect when it comes to pretty privilege. BUT, it's negative. So rather than experiencing much privilege, the colourism and expectations that they be ugly don't match their features. This creates a big dissonance and people get even more angry.

[@Sara-zr6wb]

ppl expect DSBW to be ugly so wen you don't fit the stereotype you stand out so much people hate that they don't have a "lowest common denominator" to make them feel good about looking like a 🥔. You get more attention by men and saltiness from women across the board.

[@ElegantPaws01]

Pretty/Handsome Privilege HAS ALWAYS EXISTED AND ALWAYS WILL.

[@CamrynElyse]

i agree.

[@ReadyorNot811]

I remember a BM saying he like to put confident "ugly" women in "their place". I was so turned off.

[@cerinaberry]

I love these videos, but please drop the hair wash & go routine 😩

[@CamrynElyse]

i will soon!!!

[@Khangel]

I don’t think I’m particularly pretty, but because of colourism, some people judge me as pretty because I have a lighter skin colour. Not with favour but more with the assumption that I must be a stuck up bit#h who thinks she is better than other people. So I get penalized for my skin colour.

[@jeness]

Love the wash and go!

[@lalimoreno1]

Culturally I was raised to let other people compliment me and be humble. That doesn't mean not being confident. "Confident and beautiful" doesn't neutralize humility.

[@cocogalore3826]

Im very attractive cocky statement. But I was once told I had the confidence of a 5'5" petite women with light skin and hazel eyes; I'm 5'11" thick and brown skin with dark brown eyes. If that wasn't rude idk what. Plus I been told I would tell you, your pretty but Idnt want you to be to cocky, your very pretty but your nose big. I had a girl deliberately scratch my face. My friend warned me dont get too dressed up because their dress causual;like to still be confident after is extremely easy 😂... because I was smart enough to know they we're intimidated.

[@0nly.bhadbby40]

I’m my opinion . Pretty privileged isn’t useless but it doesn’t hold as much value like it did back in the day . Pretty privileged only gets u ahead if u smart enough and play ur cards right. U have to use the privilege hand to hand with another thing . Bc being pretty is everywhere but what makes u different . U know what I mean ?

[@lilo-y-stitch3460]

I will say, there are highs and lows to everything. I think prty priveledge may have more pros than cons, but there are exceptions to everything. However, that halo affect tho 💅🏾... I've seen myself do that in my first impression of some prty ppl and I have to catch myself 🥲

[@patriciahamilton9772]

sister, what you said in this video does speak about even someone that's pretty get backlash it's like a cursed that it definitely relate to this story my partner told me year's ago that females were jealous of his ex woman for being pretty that one of them wanted to fight her because she was prettier.

[@indescribable3865]

Beautiful women living in poverty are especially in danger because they are tempted to use their looks to survive!

[@coolcontent27]

And what about "Ugly women" who suffer from poverty??

[@indescribable3865]

@@coolcontent27 they’re going to have to be ugly and poor just like the pretty poor girl. Poverty doesn’t discriminate. The only difference is what’s in the mirror! And the objectification that a pretty woman deals with in those environments is unmatched.

[@Kawika.]

"With great power comes great responsibility" - Uncle Ben

[@SaintComeProductions]

I really needed to hear this.

[@Loveheartcorian]

This makes me sad because I have been on both sides of the fence, so I know how it feels to be both unattractive & attractive. There are like so many pretty women who aren't vain with such beautiful personalities and they get treated horribly sometimes. Pretty Privilege comes with tons of cons. A lot of pretty girls are highly insecure too. I even had girls who prettier than me that were jealous of me because I too was pretty. It was so crazy to me because I'm all like, "They are prettier than me, so, why are yall mad?" I remember in the younger years of my life where I wasn't attractive at all growing up and I had tons of friends, these "friends" I was actually happy to have because I thought how amazing it was to have friends that loved me for me, the beautiful person I was inside and didn't care how I looked on the outside back then but then my perception had completely changed, that's when I started to secretly notice that when I grew into my looks and I actually became pretty & attractive, I actually lost a lot of those so called "friends" and I began to realized that looks still did matter. I saw that these "friends" stop inviting me out with them places, we barely hung out anymore. Its like I'd lowkey became unliked by them. They seemed like they really did not care for me anymore. Every time I would come around them, their vibe was off and the energy was negative. I couldn't even understand why I was being treated that by them at the time because I knew for myself that I haven't did anything wrong to them or said anything bad about them to anyone or did anything wrong to them nor have I changed much, I was still the same goofy & beautiful soul, so it bothered me and made me go into depression. Then it became all clear to me that they was treating me different because I gotten attractive. So apparently they were only around me because they benefited from me being the "unattractive friend," then all of a sudden when I became more attractive than they even were themselves and was highly confident in myself, it bothered them badly because I was prettiest one out of all of them with a beautiful personality. I even started getting a lot of attention from guys and other pretty girls. It was like the "The Ugly Duckling Syndrome." It made me start to think back on my younger years and how I was picked on by both girls and guys like all through middle and high school and I was told that I was ugly and wasn't pretty like the other girls around me and my dark brown skin didn't help at all and actually made it worse because it seemed like it was such a huge problem to people back then, so that is why it always felt so amazing to me just be around other people and good friends who didn't care about my looks and just the person that I was inside, so I thought. Who knew that being ugly could make you hated and liked also as well as being attractive. Today I can say that even though I'm still a bit socially awkward and have social anxiety...I'm always confident in myself and I feel more and more beautiful inside & out everyday and I absolutely love grown to love and embrace my dark brown skin. ❤ •••I no longer try to even worry about what people think of me as much because their opinion's don't matter. Even though I'm a very attractive woman today, their opinion's still don't matter. I'm just happy being me.•••

[@starfireluvsu]

I agree 100% with this! It’s honestly terrible. You could be pretty and be treated nicely and sometimes can still be treated badly. Which is super confusing, and leads to false judgements about yourself and those around you if you’re considered “pretty” or not 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@SapphicSis]

i do understand the comment that being pretty really isn’t a privilege. i feel like in the black community, being pretty is sometimes face but majority being skinny with a fat ass. that’s what the men want. but after hanging with a friend who is the “beauty standard” (because beauty doesn’t sit within a fat ass to me) it showed me how preditorish men are. it showed me as an ugly fat woman, how if a man wants something, he’s gonna take it. and i really can’t get with that. i’m starting to be happy to not have pretty privilege. it is sad because i wish i could get relationships and free things as easier as the pretty women, but i don’t want all the stray bullets that fall from men who can’t take being rejected. it’s really a double edged sword. SN: i am pretty. i believe i’m very beautiful and i receive many compliments BUT i am fat. being fat trumps everything in society. so even tho i feel happy about my face, my body is a whole other thing, men hate.

[@CamrynElyse]

men can be very…😒

[@karizmajones1256]

And I can say thinking back I had two different ex-boyfriends (separate times of course)and both of them as I think back were very insecure about themselves one of them as he is dating now he's more of a preference a light skin female I am a wonderful chocolate melanin woman and this one used to tell me that I am too cocky and I just thought of it as confidence and I know my value and my worth! Not knowing he was projecting his insecurities onto me and truly he being a dark-skinned chocolate male having preference in light skin women goes to show his level of acceptance of his own skin tone that he is in! And the other ex-boyfriend and so many ways revealed how insecure he was because of skin tone shape of nose and all around African features that I simply adored but the projection of their insecurities made it impossible I mean impossible!!! This is our reality!

[@acaraj]

💅 Great discussion on something I didn't previously realize was a "thing". I agree that whatever net gain that's achieved by being conventionally pretty is thin overall. A pretty person may get more attention and possibly more opportunities but that slight advantage doesn't really pay out much in the end.

[@flyleelee5351]

I never considered myself to be all that, but I've been told I need to use my looks to get ahead ....I don't even know what they're taking about or how to go about doing that lol

[@Deenaroshell]

Great perspective on pretty privilege 💅🏽

[@kbalove1]

Your hair is gorgeous

[@arianathompson7989]

Been binge watching all your videos and I’ve learned so much and I appreciate the different perspectives you offer but this one ain’t it. Dark Skin women getting hate for being confident in their features or in themselves, yes absolutely that’s real but I feel this “the negatives of being pretty” can easily be turned into “me being biracial comes with these struggles…” “Yeah I’m rich but take in consideration how hard it is to be rich” yeah I’m sure they have their own experiences and they are valid but how much conscience should really be giving to this.

[@CamrynElyse]

i agree. pretty privilege is real and it isn’t fair.

[@te4888]

Good video. GOD BLESS.

[@makaila8860]

I realized as a brown girl with 4c hair, ever since I was younger I got bullied for my features. but those the same skin as me with more acceptable features got treated better... they always got called pretty and had more opportunities

[@moonfire41]

Emilie Autumn sums this up in her Thank God Im Pretty song.

[@jadanicole8750]

When she read out those statics i git so depressed lmfaoo bc damn i knew there were benefits but not that many and those kinds😂😭 honestly the pros of being pretty definitely out weighs the cons / down sides idc wtf anyone say.

[@TRUCKERSBS]

And you're too dammn beautiful, and God took his time with you.

[@jorgeblanco1929]

Pretty privilege is definitely an asset even with its drawbacks. Just knowing you don't need to put much effort in your looks apart from hygene and most people will still find you attractive is really nice. People giving you stuff for free and doing favors for you is even more sweet when you know it isn't really "fair".

[@grenalien]

oof cold take. i'd love to have not been bullied for my appearance my whole life but I DON'T HAVE THAT PRIVILEGE

[@newworldlord643]

💅🥰 dope video!!!

[@Callisto_52Hz]

beauty is a social currency and for that, it will always be a privilege. idk why everyone is always talking about “but it has cons!!“ ok? every privilege has cons. nobody ever denied it. a lot of the bad things about being pretty parallel the bad parts of being rich if you list them out tbh, making it more clear that it is in some ways currency

[@TaylorMiree]

HEY BAEEE

[@CamrynElyse]

HEYYYYYYY🫶🏾

[@ReadyorNot811]

One of the cons of pretty privilege is dating. People see you as a trophy and not someone to desire because of personality or hobbies or ambitions, etc

[@reneetaylor8837]

💅 i love your videos!

[@jorgeblanco1929]

So what about professional athletes or singers? Not saying they didn't put effort to get to where they are, but many of them definitely have a natural advantage. I know beauty standards and all that but how can people control who they find attractive? Having benefits because of that isn't wrong, it's just how humans behave and have behaved for a looong time.

[@caesarc.954]

Well, in the thumbnail I count up to 6 objectively good looking women. By any standards. You're particularly gorgeous btw 👍

[@mpauli12]

I feel like got the beauty penalty in a couple of relationships I’ve been. Men have put me on such a high pedestal and when i was unable to live up to this perfect pedestal they felt betrayed and I was punished for it.

[@starrjohnson1327]

😓

[@g.c.5091]

It's real, and natural.

[@natashasherman4458]

It really sucks that pretty privilege exists when not everyone is equal. It’s another reason for certain people to put other people who they see as less attractive in boxes.

[@QueenBee1118]

Pretty girls also have to be careful that envious people don’t set them up in various and sundry ways.

[@jernica5733]

💅

[@Veeshyyxox]

Literally ❤️‍🔥🥲

[@DoniTalks]

I’d take the drawbacks of pretty privilege versus what I deal with now. I’d love it!!! I’ll trade places with those women in an instant

[@mariamhani-g9j]

Great video 👍🏾☺️

[@00l6-6]

That’s why I look at cleopatra lol. Beautiful video!

[@jadanicole8750]

i still remember that lightskin dude that was in jail with like a huge bond amount his mugshot got posted bc everyone was going on and on and on and on abt how fine and attractive he was. Someone went and payed the bond and gave him a job as a model and hes still a model thats basically rich jail free ALL BC OF HIS LOOKS that day i saw that lol i knew attractive ppl had the advantage in life i still see him popping up on the sites o buy clothes from😂

[@kitten8249]

💅🏽

[@SunshineState-ou7pr]

Pretty privelage is a real privelage, you can't say its not because people are jealous

[@patriciahamilton9772]

The thing is the society is very cruel, their are alot of negative people in this world that would discriminate and stereotype a person not only base on how they look also their weight whether they skinny or big, especially with black women cause this topic definitely speak on race that white people have a privilege because their white.

[@vimana0062]

Pretty people are generally treated better

[@Amarideout]

Psalms 31 ALL DAY.

[@bhagavad-gitakarma1604]

Earliest I've been

[@morgan5923]

Same. 1 min, lol

[@bhagavad-gitakarma1604]

@@morgan5923 I was lurking lol