Thank you, Vince, for being a voice for those who need it most.
@jujurocker3 ай бұрын
Vince's personal story adds so much weight to his message. Truly impactful.
@TracieJLee10 күн бұрын
You are a good man Vince, we feel you...
@mintylava41235 ай бұрын
Dude, your story hit me hard. Life can be a rollercoaster, but sharing your struggles is like throwing a lifeline to others. Keep spreading the positive vibes!
@mateomardenson302229 күн бұрын
The vulnerability is super inspiring, we love to see it 💪🏼
@thereallyfatcat3 ай бұрын
Education and conversation are key to changing the narrative. Important talk.
@farahjuniper9214Ай бұрын
Wow this had me from the get go, being reminded that we often forget the human element in construction... I'm so guilty of this I don't think I've ever really thought about how taxing being in this industry would be
@remigradilenga412121 күн бұрын
The raw honesty in this talk is truly commendable. It's a reminder that mental health should be treated with the same urgency as physical health and I appreciate that
@vincehafeli969119 күн бұрын
Thank you for watching.
@undeadmerlinisalivenow27 күн бұрын
I appreciate his emphasis on compassion and empathy when addressing mental health issues. We all have a role to play in supporting each other
@julestempest26 күн бұрын
I think so too, and the more we can support one another maybe the better it gets on an overall societal level
@izayahmayson2 ай бұрын
Man I had tears in my eyes for so much of this talk. Mental health matters in _every_ industry, and construction is no exception.
@themostofall4250Ай бұрын
arguably it should have the most focus considering it's mostly men who work in it
@janiceglanders3 ай бұрын
Thank you Vince, this is such a valuable contribution towards breaking the stigma 💜
@cyruslandon2 ай бұрын
I just want to thank him for his courage in doing this, believe me for a bloke this is not easy to do.
@ZigWagon3 ай бұрын
Vince's message is powerful: being a good listener can save lives. It's a simple yet profound takeaway. We often underestimate the power of just being there for someone. Kudos to him for bringing this to light.
@themostofall4250Ай бұрын
definitely, such good advice for anyone.
@ThePackHunter20 күн бұрын
This has made me rethink how we handle mental health in the workplace. It's time to support our colleagues better and create a more understanding environment.
@vincehafeli969119 күн бұрын
Thank you.
@nataschaweiss11 күн бұрын
This talk brought up so many important points about the stigma around mental health. Let's work towards a culture where expressing vulnerability is seen as a strength and an opportunity to strengthen bonds
@StarfireStarleena15 күн бұрын
It's really crazy to hear how pervasive mental health issues are in the construction industry. Hopefully more discourse like this will make a difference.
@vincehafeli969112 күн бұрын
Thank you for watching and learning.
@aylamorris5 ай бұрын
Life is a tough game, and you've proven to be a real MVP by overcoming those challenges. Your strength is commendable.
@annmerrychristmas15 күн бұрын
I'm not even in construction and this talk makes me want to support my teams mental health in better ways. A wake-up call for all industries I think.
@riverjaspartile2 ай бұрын
silence can be so loud when it comes to mental health. glad Vince is speaking up...
@josievannorman12 күн бұрын
Same, if everyone just spoke on what they were actually feeling the world would be such a different place
@wuyattakeita38832 ай бұрын
Everyone needs a support system, even the toughest of us all.
@josievannorman12 күн бұрын
Sometimes even especially the toughest of us 💙
@oo_eddie_oo42045 ай бұрын
Your honesty about the societal pressure in construction is refreshing. It's time we talk about the mental health challenges in tough industries, it seems like there's so much more than what we know of
@mintylava41235 ай бұрын
I agree, I think unless you're in that particular industry it can be really hard to understand the struggles that go with it
@sandralewandowski5 ай бұрын
Acknowledging that you don't have to 'fix' everything but just be there is a crucial insight. Thanks for sharing.
@kenfletcher13065 ай бұрын
The emphasis on the importance of difficult conversations is spot-on. It's not about solving everything in one talk, but about opening up those channels of communication so that everything _can_ be talked about freely.
@bonniehavel3 ай бұрын
Thank you for shedding light on the silent struggles many face. Let's create environments where people feel safe to share their burdens and seek support.
@ameliasands3 ай бұрын
Mental health needs to be a safety priority too. Glad Vince highlighted this.
@josievannorman12 күн бұрын
I don't know how they would manage it as a safety priority the way they do physical health but there are so many things that could be put in place to just offer some mental health support
@harperleigh17093 ай бұрын
Mate, your story's like a blockbuster script. Life threw you some plot twists, but you're the hero pulling through. Big respect for sharing the real deal.
@luisasanchez55322 ай бұрын
More leaders need to open up like this and be honest about mental health. It can't be just this guy whose had an experience like that.
@conradthelegendwhite4 ай бұрын
This is a great step in the right direction, well done
@miatta62994 ай бұрын
I appreciate the honesty in this talk. Mental health is such a big topic and honestly I don't know how men cope, especially in industries like construction where the pressure to be tough and strong at all times is so much more amplified than normal spaces.
@iamsamfemia26 күн бұрын
This has really challenged my perception of what a workplace is responsible for. Like it makes sense that the physical safety is such a priority on construction sites but I never thought that companies could be held accountable for the mental health aspect as well
@josievannorman12 күн бұрын
I'm not sure they can be "held accountable" in terms of people suing them or anything along those lines but they definitely could be providing a lot more support
@deepfocus1540Ай бұрын
Agreed! Construction workers are the backbone of our society, and their well-being matters. Time for the industry to step up and echo this sentiment.
@vincehafeli9691Ай бұрын
Thank you for your support.
@deepfocus154029 күн бұрын
@@vincehafeli9691 great message man, keep going... its important
@keithpotter73666 ай бұрын
heavy stuff, but spot on. good to know someone is doing the right thing.
@JValence2 ай бұрын
heartbreaking to hear Vince's story but it's so important for him to have shared. It opens up the conversation.
@themostofall4250Ай бұрын
💯💯💯💯
@jeanetteward22 күн бұрын
It's heartbreaking to hear about the personal losses the speaker endured. We need to ensure that no one feels like they have to suffer in silence.
@vincehafeli969119 күн бұрын
Thank you.
@SixtySecondsOrLess3 ай бұрын
I think something that's understated is a lot of the time our work dynamic/relationships are making up so much of our social interactions.
@giovanni-is-here3 ай бұрын
This is something that's happening everywhere, so there are conversations we need to have more often
@katyabradova4 ай бұрын
Okay I was choked up from the moment he talked about reading those goodbye letters to his most valuable employees. That is so emotionally intense and I can't imagine having those just sitting in your desk drawer in preparation.
@rangatvespaldy4 ай бұрын
Your closing words on the power of listening hit home. Sometimes, just being there and listening can make a huge difference.
@themarybasse5 ай бұрын
The call for education and awareness in leadership is spot on, sharing!!
@mintylava41235 ай бұрын
Absolutely, imaging how much better it would be coming in to an environment where those in charge prioritized this
@fredbrodersen2734Ай бұрын
Sharing this for sure
@ehsaankumer3 ай бұрын
As someone who's lost loved ones to suicide, this resonated deeply with me. It's time to break the stigma and prioritize mental well-being - for everyone
@arianaasherton4 күн бұрын
Ending the stigma around mental health starts with conversations like these. Let's commit to being more compassionate and understanding in our daily interactions, because you never know whose in need of some compassion
@chesterwatson23873 ай бұрын
I never realized the extent of mental health issues in the construction industry. It's time for companies to step up and support their workers beyond just safety protocols.
@erikdangorАй бұрын
Breaking the silence on a topic like this, by a guy directly involved/impacted is pretty impressive. Hopefully by initiating these conversations we could help to save lives.
@themostofall4250Ай бұрын
yeah, it's huge. here's hoping the industry pays attention
@julestempest26 күн бұрын
I think so too, if we can just keep the discussion going and normalize things a bit more there's no telling how much or who it could help
@yannicarliso3 ай бұрын
Vince's bravery in sharing his personal journey is remarkable. It really puts into perspective the silent battles many in the construction industry face. It's a wake-up call for leadership at all levels to foster open dialogues around mental health.
@RantrumDiva2 ай бұрын
Absolutely. It's amazing for him to have spoken out like that
@ElegantEye8 күн бұрын
Yup this rings pretty true for me, it's incredibly rare to hear about mental health in male-dominated industries.
@IHaveDenverSoul4 ай бұрын
The analogy about showing up with physical pain versus emotional pain is striking. We need to treat mental health with the same urgency. Great point!
@justanormalboyreallynormal2 ай бұрын
It's inspiring to see someone from the industry step up and address the mental health stigma, I think conversations like these can truly save lives.
@vincehafeli96912 ай бұрын
We begin with one conversation at a time. Thank you.
@sadfacesforall5 ай бұрын
Sending you lots of love and strength! Your vulnerability is a beautiful thing. We need more people like you breaking the stigma around mental health 💖
@simonoshlor5 ай бұрын
I agree, it's really refreshing to hear this kind of chat from a man
@jasminelovell5 ай бұрын
Yessss we have to normalize in order to move forward and imrpove
@shannonpscofield3 ай бұрын
It’s crucial we start these tough conversations at work. Great talk!
@RantrumDiva2 ай бұрын
Yeah at work and also outside of it. Like if you socialize with the people you work with you should make more of an effort to be aware of what's going on in their lives
@melrobertsrealАй бұрын
I think we all have a role to play in creating supportive and compassionate work environments, for a lot of us that can be done by just being supportive and compassionate at work.
@alanpotsypotts26 күн бұрын
This talk made me realize the importance of being there for others, even when it's uncomfortable
@vincehafeli969119 күн бұрын
Thank you for taking something away.
@BlingHive2 ай бұрын
really moved by Vince's story. It's high time we prioritize mental health in every industry.
@vincehafeli96912 ай бұрын
Thank you.
@omarputal3 ай бұрын
This talk made me realize how much we need to change the culture around discussing mental health. It's not a sign of weakness; it's a sign of strength to ask for help because resilience isn't about just copping it over and over, it's about knowing your limits and protecting yourself.
@julestempest26 күн бұрын
I love that take and yes knowing your limits is crucial and also setting the boundaries accordingly
@rinanoshinikov4 ай бұрын
I can't believe the social pressure in construction is so intense. Your call to educate leaders and change the narrative is a game-changer. Way to break those stereotypes!
@skyec8562Ай бұрын
His words are a beacon of light for anyone who may be battling their own inner demons. Amen and God Bless
@vincehafeli9691Ай бұрын
Thank you.
@caligsimpson5 ай бұрын
The part about asking directly if someone is suicidal is bold but necessary. It's time we break free from outdated stigmas. Kudos for pushing it.
@gerdefrederick2 ай бұрын
Addressing mental health in the construction industry is long overdue
@agcocoaАй бұрын
What he went through is a testament to the human spirit. He has endured so much but pushed through the dark night of the soul and is now using his experience and pain to create a better world for those in his same position. Incredible.
@vincehafeli9691Ай бұрын
Thank you for the kind words.
@kiarakillian5 ай бұрын
Gosh I hope we see change across sectors moving forward, there are way too many lives lost already.
@rubylcharlotte4 ай бұрын
The part about not being allowed to express feelings at work is sadly relatable. I work in disabilities and healthcare and it can be a lot but there's this pressure to just stay positive that's honestly kind of toxic and definitely leads to burnout
@glennhamilton3rd3 ай бұрын
I've been saying for _years_ that mental health should be included with OH&S and I only have experience in hospitality. It would be incredible to see the construction industry take a lead on the issue and from the sounds of things it's also where it's most needed
@bobbywie6 ай бұрын
Geez this talk packs an emotional punch. He's absolutely right though, about asking the hard questions and then helping them to find the right help.
@simonoshlor5 ай бұрын
Yeah I think it's important when someone opens up to you you don't just coddle them, you actually help
@KozomoBlur5 ай бұрын
I can't believe the suicide rates in the construction industry are so high! This is such a vital call for change. We need more leaders to get on board with addressing these issues.
@imanitruez6 ай бұрын
Yeahh this is pretty heavy stuff... Thanks for keeping it real. Mental health's a tough game, and it's about time we start talking about it without the judgment.
@simonoshlor5 ай бұрын
💯💯💯💯💯💯
@haileypattern76662 ай бұрын
Learning about the proper way to ask someone if they're svicidal and how to offer support was really helpful, thank you
@vincehafeli96912 ай бұрын
Thank you for watching and sharing the video.
@thephilosopher592 ай бұрын
Your doing great work here! The mental health stats are recently climbing dramatically year on year, and in male dominated industries, or even in families, being able to express emotion in a heartfelt and respectful way requires a huge shift in communication leadership. Its not so much about being strong, as accepting the vulnerability within us and knowing when its time to speak, stand up, create change or leave. I read that anger is the expression released when your soulfulness is violated, the hurt is deep inside and misunderstood. That's very hard to release when the doors are closed.
@vincehafeli96912 ай бұрын
Thank you for your support and kind words.
@the-coffee-lover2 ай бұрын
The most important things are rarely discussed, like how we feel.....
@therealbellasantarosa5 ай бұрын
The loss of your family members in '89 hit hard. Your strength to keep going and face the world is commendable. Thanks for the real talk on dealing with pain.
@mintylava41235 ай бұрын
Yeah it was a pretty brutaI part of the story...
@kenfletcher13065 ай бұрын
I don't mean any offence here but I think calling how he dealt with the situation "strength" perpetuates a lot of stereotypes around how men need to act. He's even said that the way he mishandled all that grief contributed to the suicidal thoughts.
@vincehafeli969110 күн бұрын
@@kenfletcher1306 I absolutely did deal with it wrong. I should have talked with someone. Anyone. I didn't need to be a "man", I should have acknowledged that I needed support.
@felipeecoelho3 ай бұрын
Wow I had no idea things were this bad in construction. Some of those stats are downright scary.
@peoplepower1006 ай бұрын
I think there's something really powerful about acknowledging that you don't know how to help someone whose feeling suicidal, but that you're still _there_ and willing/wanting to listen to them. It's not always about having the answers for someone but just that willingness can do wonders to make a person feel seen.
@jasminelovell5 ай бұрын
💯💯 the rare times I've opened up to someone and they've been like "I know exactly how you feel you need to do xyz..." It just has the opposite effect where I actually am just mad at them? Like, no, you don't know exactly how I feel and that won't work for me... even if it's solid advice lol I don't know what's wrong with me
@dino14163 ай бұрын
This is a powerful reminder that behind every tough exterior, there might be someone silently struggling. Let's normalize conversations about mental health in the workplace
@my-own-boss2 ай бұрын
I had a guy I worked with that was always sorta down and really quick to bite your head off... I still thought of him as a mentor though, he was a really great guy and then he was just really happy one day and brought in all these old silversmithing tools he had because he knew I wanted to get into it. That weekend he committed svicide and I can't believe I didn't put two and two together or just realize what was happening to him and try to be there for him more
@AzimuthMindspace5 ай бұрын
I was watching another talk about depression and this woman was a therapist talking about how suicide ideation is so common pretty much everyone thinks about it and I was kind of blown away to be honest. I personally hadn't realized it was such a common thought pattern and now hearing about this?? Geez it's time for a change
@kenfletcher13065 ай бұрын
Wow that is a bit concerning isn't it?
@Cheyenne19893 ай бұрын
If we are the combination of the 5 people we spend the most time with, and we spend the most time at work.... well it makes sense for us to try and make those relationships as positive, joyous and supportive as possible.
@phillipnorris3rd7 ай бұрын
My dad took his own life, it took me years to deal with it, and maybe I still am. I'm not sure I would get my mom to watch, though I think it might help her. She never got over losing him.
@janetsplace19537 ай бұрын
Thanks for sending this, yes I'll never forget Tim.
@jodikennedy88867 ай бұрын
This is really sad but good on you for taking steps to deal with it. A lot of men just steep in their pain and that doesn't help anyone
@DashiellAskin7 ай бұрын
I think it's important that you don't put pressure on yourself to "deal with it" - grief is not linear.
@frasernicholson85096 ай бұрын
You can move past the grief without moving on from the person.
@umitkrca6 ай бұрын
The statistics on suicide in the construction industry are staggering. Had no idea. Wow.
@rapid-transit5 ай бұрын
His childhood sounds like a dream with all the camping, boats and horses... very different to how I grew up in the inner city but then the challenges faced later in life are so intense. Life definitely is so full of twists and turns you can never take anything for granted or think that someone has it "easier" than you do
@sadfacesforall5 ай бұрын
Yess! It's easy to get into a mindset of thinking you have it worse than everyone else and then slowly your empathy wears off... not a good look!!
@AzimuthMindspace5 ай бұрын
Yeah absolutely not, you never know what's happening behind the scenes for someone
@sofiatclaraАй бұрын
Feeling incredibly moved by Vince's message. Suicide prevention shouldn't be a niche topic.
@vincehafeli969112 күн бұрын
Thank you for watching and learning.
@makiweshter5 ай бұрын
I think it takes a lot of strength to open up like this. Personally I couldn't imagine being so candid about my mental health even with close friends let alone a room full of strangers.
@rapid-transit5 ай бұрын
That's not a good sign dude. You should find someone you can be honest with - even if it's just a therapist
@jasminelovell5 ай бұрын
I get what you mean but part of me feels like doing it in a room full of strangers would somehow be easier? The room full of strangers is far less likely to ask questions and judge you lol
@jasminelovell5 ай бұрын
@@rapid-transit Nahhh I get where he's coming from and I agree it takes a lot of strength
@theclassicraphaelsanchez4 ай бұрын
I used to really live by that quote from Rocky that goes like, "it's not about how hard you can hit, it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much you can take and keep moving forward." I always thought it was not only cool but really summed up what strength means but what happens when you reach that point where you can't take anymore? If you've also been taught that you can't talk about your feelings or ask for help then yeah.. doesn't leave you with many options when that time comes
@_mama_tea_65902 ай бұрын
My husband worked with a man who was the loveliest, funniest, most charming, God loving person I'd ever known. He would come for dinner on Friday nights. We had him over one night and he left with a smile, hugged me and said he'd see me next week. We never saw him again and I still just can't understand it
@julestempest26 күн бұрын
that's really sad. I think the never knowing why part is the hardest
@LocomateMachine4 ай бұрын
I hope that enough people start realizing this is an issue, maybe it could help change some peoples perspectives and attitudes around what men actually go through
@janetsplace19537 ай бұрын
I never realised there was a specific study on this, and you know what? it's right that there is. Thank you, Vince!
@jodikennedy88867 ай бұрын
I agree, the more information we have about this stuff the more it helps us to understand what's really going on
@bobbywie6 ай бұрын
I think if anything we need more studies like this, so we can understand what's going on
@simonoshlor5 ай бұрын
there are literally studies about shrimps walking on treadmills
@jasminelovell5 ай бұрын
@@simonoshlor lol wtf?? what do you even mean
@geraldemery14176 ай бұрын
I love the idea of mental health being included in safety conversations. With stats like the one around the 5:40 mark it is indeed an occupational hazard.
@frasernicholson85096 ай бұрын
It could really help change the stigma if it was normalized in that way.
@newcenturyboy6 ай бұрын
absolutely. we need to stop separating mental and physical health so much
@peoplepower1006 ай бұрын
Same, putting a spotlight on it like that also helps shifts the conversation into mainstream
@brunodstone2 ай бұрын
This is a moving story for sure, now if you think about the dudes who aren't even high up the ladder and are doing all the physical labor on top of things, all the literal pain their in as a result. Makes sense why those stats are so high
@chantalbrovic6 ай бұрын
Powerful reminder, that even the strongest in society can be taken down by mental health issues.
@WormholeHaven6 ай бұрын
The way you've worded that, it comes across pretty harshly
@jasminelovell5 ай бұрын
@@WormholeHaven does it? I think it sounds pretty standard
@aaronsswank3 ай бұрын
I left construction for these very reasons about 15 years ago, just zero support or understanding for when life hits you hard
@pagetderosier526724 күн бұрын
I've never really though about the societal expectation on men to behave certain ways in terms of hiding their pain and emotions... didn't realize how tough it must be until he started talking about having to act macho at his fathers funeral.
@Usyard5 ай бұрын
Mental health is overlooked in a lot of workplaces and this just goes to show how detrimental that can be for the workers well-being.
@mintylava41235 ай бұрын
Yeah I think mental health is overlooked everywhere, if it was prioritized maybe it wouldn't be up to a workplace to have to manage it.
@AzimuthMindspace5 ай бұрын
@@mintylava4123 This is such a great point.... I think it speaks volumes about the work-life balance most people have if the workplaces have that much responsibility
@-joanna-wang6 ай бұрын
Communities need to step up. We can't just rely on workplaces. Churches, community centers, and local organizations should be involved in creating a supportive network for those in need.
@ListHeistАй бұрын
Yup, this happens. Had a friend working on a site where their crew leader hung himself - no warning or any hint that something was wrong
@jodikennedy88867 ай бұрын
Ahhh I was not ready for him to go into it. When he said, "life can change" I knew it was about to get heavy but I was literally in tears by the time he got to the twin sons... so much pain for one family to endure.
@DashiellAskin7 ай бұрын
Yeah, I wasn't expecting that much loss.
@tyronecaojr3 ай бұрын
Sobering statistics. We need more awareness and action on this issue.
@RantrumDiva2 ай бұрын
I feel like those statistics don't even really reflect just how bad it is. Like it's a big number but when you've actually seen it in real time it's just... there are no words for it
@WormholeHaven6 ай бұрын
The most important steps forward for mental health IMO are awareness and compassion. The more honest and pervasive about breaking the silence people become the more we'll come to realize just how much _everyone_ is struggling right now.
@rapid-transit5 ай бұрын
I think you're right. I said it before but it's so easy to think other people don't have it tough - even more so when people aren't talking honest and openly about it
@sadfacesforall5 ай бұрын
💯💯💯💯
@simonoshlor5 ай бұрын
This is both refreshing and scary to think about. The thought that everyone is struggling right now... that's a bit confronting. Why is everyone having such a hard time?
@AzimuthMindspace5 ай бұрын
Yeah this is what I'm starting to realize too, from these comments and some other talks I've seen it seems like pretty much everyone is struggling atm
@jessiesangster6 ай бұрын
Oh man the call from his wife at the start... it's heartbreaking to think that she knew, so much so that she even knew where he was going to do it
@meganfreed19896 ай бұрын
It had me in tears literally from the get go
@vasttrouble53685 ай бұрын
How can we work towards changing societal expectations, especially in male-dominated industries? His experience definitely putting a spotlight on our need to perceive vulnerability as a strength.
@AzimuthMindspace5 ай бұрын
I agree! No idea how to go about changing that kind of stigma for industries though. I guess it would have to be brought in with the induction procedures? That's after pinpointing _why_ it's happening in the first place too
@kenfletcher13065 ай бұрын
I think just through talking about it, bringing awareness to it. I also think it's not just about the industries but about being a man in general. Lots of unhealthy opinions and behaviors around what it is to be a man
@shastahasta45637 ай бұрын
Powerful reminder for leaders. Safety talks shouldn't just be about physical well-being; mental health is equally vital.
@geraldemery14176 ай бұрын
Unfortunately not many people who set the rules think that way.
@bobbywie6 ай бұрын
I think so too, just because you can't the detrimental impact a job is having doesn't mean it isn't there
@TooChatForYou3 ай бұрын
My husband has worked in retail for as long as I've known him and the other day he said something really interesting about how as a manager he needs to be so many things all at once, and one of the things he listed was counsellor. I was so struck by it because yea he's a compassionate person but he's not qualified for that!! It just made me think how many people are struggling in workplaces and turning to the wrong people for help and support. From the sounds of things this is an industry where those in management might not even be willing to lend an empathetic ear.
@ElisendaPliego3 ай бұрын
This makes me think of Ron, thanks for sending
@DeriviaGraham3 ай бұрын
I know why you found this and shared it, bless you.
@MelahHolland3 ай бұрын
Corporations don't spend the money needed to keep their employees safe
@RaquelFontirroig3 ай бұрын
I know so many people in HR that arent able to do the job because they have enough training.
@CynthisDorsey3 ай бұрын
Love you shared this on our group.
@AngelInfinity6 ай бұрын
This is really interesting... I did an object design course and half of it was in a proper workshop, there was soooo much OHS we had to go through before using _anything_ - wouldn't it be amazing if there was something like that for mental health?
@sadfacesforall5 ай бұрын
Ohhh that would be amazing! I wonder why this isn't a thing already??