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CT - BreenyLee
00:00 - Intro
00:23 - International Women’s Month
13:32 - Princess treatment & setting standards
01:03:14 - Guest Introduction
01:08:04 - Word of the Week
01:17:55 - Win or Bin
- Rekindling old friendships
- Paying rent whilst living with parents
01:24:54 - Dilemmas
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[@rocklynax5580]

I think what a lot of lovely women forget to understand is you do not attract bad men you attract all men and it is up to YOU to decide who you want to entertain and keep around.

[@johannankwanyuo1088]

from my observation and not generalizing I feel like a lot of us young women want romance and not love. To top it off social media has given us this materialistic (high consumption) image of romance that with the cost of living a lot of young men who are actually the preference can't afford. I love how Breeny lays emphasis on the healing and confidence and setting of standards from within because when a perfect couple match with that they rise to the top. Just my two cents.

[@musiclovers3794]

I love how there was a difference in opinion and they still mentained a healthy conversation, great episode!

[@TouMuchMedia]

Joyce really came back with vim! First Annie and now Breeny. Cocktails and Takeaways best podcast of 2023

[@TammyFacey]

yesssss

[@juans4570]

what a mature conversation with conflicting opinions! really good episode xx

[@madamejoyce1]

Love this comment 💜

[@saf1ya]

I understand Breenys perpective on the “city girl” topic because it’s very objective. Unfortunately the reality has made women want guarantee more than love because we’re in a time where doctors are talking to sick women about the high possibility of their husbands leaving them and where cheating on women has gone beyond normalized. Women are allowed to objectify the same society that has objectified them even in sickness and near death situations such as giving birth and pregnancies in general, not even then are they seen as humans.

[@inyxng]

She saying real shit and I’m glad she was on this episode because she just saved my mindset that started to have city girl aspects…

[@yo-a]

I disagree - how you are treated is not a reflection of you, its a reflection of the other person. You can do everything for someone, if they don't want to treat you a certain way, they won't.

[@Irene-ls5wf]

Then the followup to that is, why are you doing everything for someone who is mistreating you? Why not walk away? As the old saying goes, fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.

[@nelledgtl]

@@Irene-ls5wf i dont think they’re saying they’d stay after doing everything, I think it just that you aren’t always responsible for the way people treat you initially

[@yo-a]

@@Irene-ls5wf firstly, its an illustration. Secondly, I am not saying do everything for someone who is mistreating you. I am saying someone could be doing everything, and they could still be mistreated. Therefore, that mistreatment is a reflection of the person doing the mistreating, and not to Breeny's point, the fault of the person who is just being a good person. Breeny's point implies that we can control how people treat us. We can't. We can, however, try and control how we respond, for example and to your point, by walking away.

[@yo-a]

@@nelledgtl exactly Nelle, but I would go further to say, you are not responsible for the way people treat you full stop. Minus the 'always' and 'initially'. You can however be responsible for how you respond and react.

[@LittleMissDeeDee]

It’s a reflection of you having a lack of boundaries. A woman with strong boundaries isn’t allowing a man to run her through the mud.

[@no-one00]

I’m so happy dark skinned black girls in the Uk are having this conversation and not silencing each other omg I’m so happy rn ❤❤❤❤❤ I love you all❤❤❤

[@tofunmi_]

Everytime “don’t forget to subscribe subscribe” comes on, I die of laughter 😭😂💀

[@shineright5818]

Breeny is right! I hate people demanding and feeling so entitled. I mean if you can’t even pay for your Uber on your first date, don’t even go. Stop demanding pls, if you have to ask for it might not be the right one. Stop generalising “my generation men…” Just have standards, and don’t settle for less.

[@princess_katana]

"I was black in a white school" that was my life! But now that being black is okay and we can be considered beautiful they start saying "I liked you"… 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@newid10]

I think the solution ladies is to move in silence. Ladies please stop going online to tell everyone what your standards are and non-negotiables are. You’re spoiling the game for the rest of us

[@maguiedossantos2925]

🎯💯👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@hanhaned5291]

realest comment 😂🎯

[@jadeamah]

This!!!

[@iffysd9864]

Because the reality is these women do not get picked and have to use their followers and money as a defensive mechanism

[@efildernwando]

I think this hit so deep, "Guys like what they're told to like( the go-with-the-trend thing ) but in reality that's not what they're truly attracted to". Ma'am Breeny honestly this quote was a call to wake up. I swear.

[@justanotherviewer00]

I absolutely love Breeny, the DUO we needed 🩷

[@themyraaakn]

watching this felt like a big to little sister sit-down convo and I loved it. Breeny always gives great advice and I loved how they respected each others opinions despite disagreeing 🤍🤍

[@jenniifer_co]

I think people are in different stages and era of their lives she’s very much a grown woman. Also it doesn’t matter how amazing you are, if someone wants to hurt you they will but it’s your job to LEAVE

[@yo-a]

Facts

[@bellefemme6677]

Breeny exudes pure class . See how she so cool and laid back . Madam Joyce is a whole vibe I just love her. ❤ this was such a good episode

[@HotDimez1]

I’m twentyyyyy, full on Gen Z but defo #teambreeny all the way!! 😭

[@jaybandanacabana]

Came across your pod from Tik Tok, and I'm very impressed with your guest Breeny Lee's mindset. It's well-informed, refreshing, and real. Keep it up 👏🏽 (male fan)

[@prettybooreyyy630]

Lovee this, breeny is spittin that classy babe talk

[@Nseyah]

I love breé’s vibe! classy, calm and collected….

[@ozi1578]

Omg I’ve been watching Breeny for years!! And I watched only one Madame Joyce last episode imagine my surprise only a few days later WITH BREENY !! C and T starting to be one of my best

[@KateCameron1]

Breeny is so correct about the princess treatment thing

[@justanotherviewer00]

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S MONTH TO ALL MY QUEENS 🩷🩷🩷

[@anna-rose777]

I agree with Breeny on the city girl thing. They preach about not sleeping or doing anything sexual with men unless they pay or buy them something, which is prostitution.

[@no-one00]

Well it is what it is. Prostitution is a business and so is marriage. It is what it is

[@lalalaal.]

@@no-one00 explain pls - are you saying they’re the same?

[@Alovedhuman]

I struggle with the whole u attract bad men narrative. Because I hold myself well, dress a certain way and just last month I had someone approach me and I was like…. Huh how do we even fit ?😂 it’s not my fault that someone wanted to try their luck with a pretty girl like me… I think it would be on me if I let him in my life and kept him in it but for him to be attracted is not really anything to do with me. (I’ll continue watching to see if the conversation develops 😂)

[@userysl]

You don’t attract what you are, you tolerate what you believe you deserve. So don’t be too hard on yourself. If someone attracted an abusive person into their life, it’s not their fault for example.

[@mazal9895]

Someone just commented something which is a great response to this - you will attract ALL men, but it’s up to you to choose who to entertain 😉

[@jessicamay9157]

The 10% of men are the ones that approachALL women. 90% of men don’t approach women. They wait for the right moment. So hun you didn’t attract the bad men. The bad men just approach all women lol

[@alxayaz]

Love this episode! Some real and genuine conversations were being held, and reading other viewers opinions in the comments are also fun for me as well! Keep up the great work my loves 💕

[@BreenyLee]

Loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeee YOU

[@BreenyLee]

If I sound too quiet it's because I popped my eardrum :))))

[@ozi1578]

You were fine! I think the last guest was far from the mic for me but you were way better

[@chevonneclay1277]

What a beautiful and wholesome episode. Thank you!! ❤❤❤

[@daijobuuuuuuu]

Breeny said no one can keep that “standard” up…. Darling many men can keep that standard….standards come in all sizes pls

[@evelynbrobbey63]

I have to give Breeny a standing ovation here 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 A lot of what she said I 100% agree. A lot of us women get excited with the gifts, the top Michelin star restaurants, that we get so wow’ed by the treatment and later down the line realise we’re dating a guy that personally/relationally we don’t actually like their character. Don’t get tricked ladies. Not saying don’t go for the lavish dates but open your eyes when dating and be AWARE of what you like and actually really get to know the person sitting across the table from you. Been screaming coffee dates since 2016!!! 😂

[@LifeofNuche]

Joyce literally gets my brain going early in the morning , literally love her

[@tahirahjohnson8703]

Breeny is spiting them facts👏🏾👏🏾

[@TechBeautyQueen]

Being a stay at home mom does not mean you have no purpose. Raising a family can be someone desire. And it is not a hand out it is valuable to birth and raise kids

[@JSJ-Z]

I think only someone without children would have the mindset that being a stay at home mum means having no purpose.

[@Destroyandrebuild]

Honestly. Being a stay at home mum is HARD. I’ve done both and prefer working!

[@ngabusiimane6969]

Amazing convo full of truth and accountability

[@adaorao3117]

We need more influencers like Breeny

[@nemoxx96xx58]

Breeny doesn't live according to what she preaches. She is too male identified and a pick me. So much relationship advice, and she still can't get picked by a decent man and can't vet men properly. Her last relationship was emotionally abusive. She is all talk.

[@iffysd9864]

​@@nemoxx96xx58 she's getting old Joyce will be doing up pick me soon aswell. Women forget that they have no leverage in relationships lol

[@a.aimuan]

People need to understand that Breeny is talking from her timeline, she’s outgrown city girlship…

[@sincerelyajg5067]

I like this interview. Breeny made a great point that I live by... Women that ask for everything, get nothing. Women that don't ask for anything, get everything. My husband still opens every door 11 years after opening my door the first time. I'm also a lot older than the majority of watchers so I dated men & married a man within my generation (Millennial). Prior to my husband, I always encountered and dated gentleman who opened doors & paid for dates. I don't understand those who don't do the same.

[@kuila.dj_]

your hair is fire Ms Joyce! Loved the Ep

[@redietfeyisa6047]

Maturity vs Maturing .... love you both!

[@user-gv1fl7hp1i]

Breeny is a wise one - great convo. Question about narcissistic mothers though. If you have one, can you actually start to show traits? I'm just thinking because we have learned behaviours from our parents. Always room to change once identified.....thoughts? I will be watching the Narcissistic Mothers podcast / video from Breeny as it is such an interesting topic. Joyce....you are looking tun up! Beautiful ladies - we celebrate you this month and every month ❤️

[@saf1ya]

Yea growing up with narcissistic parents one child might get victimized by it while the other becomes like the narcissist parent! Watch dr Romani here in KZbin she explains everything within this subject including what roles every child has from the narcissist point of view.

[@matinduna4228]

This was definitely long overdue ❤❤

[@sivuyisiweshongwe1741]

Joyce’s Nigerian accent came through when she started talking about money 😂😂😂😂 “bring the moooney ah ah”😂

[@tashingamusara5378]

Madam Joyce your hairstyle is immaculate 😍

[@SummerTyme2023]

Breenylee dropped 💎 gems💅💅💅

[@opeagboade7377]

breeny lee is very intelligent, she spoke really well

[@tacijo5938]

🔥🔥🔥Most Women are NOT on their own Team!….they are their OWN Opps! I felt that to my soul so I will address it THIS second! Amen!🔥🔥🔥 Nuggets dropped 5 seconds in…I INSIRE ME!💖

[@irenef4185]

Beautiful insights from Breeny. Thanks for sharing

[@fayleenndaout7727]

Joyce and Breeny together… epic 🫶🏾

[@nayatarot777]

i agree with her. we’re not at fault or in control for other people’s actions and the way they treat us but we are responsible and in control of our reactions to other people’s treatment of us. you can’t be complaining about the same behaviours in others, the same red flags that have stressed you that night that you’re venting about in your girl’s gc, but you’re not actually removing yourself from the source of your stresses? that entire situation is clearly not healthy for you to be in and you’re doing a disservice to yourself 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@morolayofashakin5330]

I really enjoyed this video Joyce and your recent videos! They always get me through my WFH days! Please keep them coming! xxX Hi Brennylee ❤❤❤

[@princess_katana]

I’ve been waiting for this 🎉💃🏾

[@Rabuineableify]

Breeny I love how you challenged the host.

[@kojoamoahmensah5994]

First time see joyce struggle to answer some question 😂😂😂 other all the gusts on the show always agrees making it one way show

[@Memomommy]

Breeny is literally perfect, beautiful women I lover her

[@jainejane107]

By far one of the best episodes x

[@preciouswiesner3060]

I loved this!!!!! She is a woman of experience and growth. Not everyone is able to understand 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@chimdichime]

U live and learn, everything has its time

[@tynachama4926]

Loved this episode 🔥 very true and just natural people speaking to the heart ❤️

[@Ovokeroh]

Loving this already 🎉

[@jameelahmartinez1]

😮😮😮I think sahm are strong 😢 they go through it and take care of everyone and their selves last. Please leave them out the city girl mix 😊 and they get time to tap into their creativity more and other avenues they wouldn’t have had time to do if they worked a hard 9-5 plus be a mom, wife and good friend ! So stay at home moms have A LOT of purpose my love.

[@TT-et6ft]

I love what breeny said about the princess treatment ❤ this is completely true and I'm here for more women opening their eyes and stop running with ego...

[@sashanejay]

Loved this, very mature conversation 👏

[@mwihaki__]

Hi, I am curious...why do you do the introduction mid episode? What is the benefit? I find it very interesting and was wondering if there are any benefits to doing so

[@adeo506]

Yeah was wondering that too

[@kylielawson3271]

its her usp, just a different way of doing things

[@mwihaki__]

@@kylielawson3271 that makes sense Though there is another podcast that does the same thing so I just thought it was some kind of hack.

[@Tia__minu]

I feel like she proved the point of not agreeing to cheap coffee dates by confirming that most men are going on dates for sex. So why would I waste my time for a coffee date when most men are going on dates for sex. The least he could do is make an impression if he’s trying to get me to have sex Also a man who makes more of an investment is more likely to commit, if he’s a good man, who makes his money LEGALLY

[@Tia__minu]

@@kandacewalker848 smh I never said sex was involved at all Just that I’m aware that that is his intention Please ✋🏾

[@Tia__minu]

@@kandacewalker848 girl cause I want whatever man is pursuing me to make an impression period That’s what I want Who you to tell me what I want Nobody said it’s a measure of character But it’s a start

[@BG_TOSIN]

Yeah, a lot of mature conversation 💙💯 god bless your golden heart guys more knowledge and understanding 🧡. Forever you are my FAV 😘

[@roycastillo4140]

Took you long enough Joyce!!!! 🫠😩🙏🏽

[@charmaineappiah4070]

Breeny Lee needs to write a book. I am enjoying Madame Joyce's interview. new sub. Bless you ladies.

[@kamiiiiia]

yes queeeen we hereeee😍

[@swiftlydoesit8480]

How comes Breeny wasn’t quizzed with “Are You Smart?” 🤨

[@chimdichime]

this dilemma 1 sounds like a dilemma in to my sisters podcast

[@JustineMfulama]

Breeny is the GOAT!!! We have all been 25 once...

[@cadyg2531]

this was a really good episode

[@Debbysworld_]

This episode is🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥.... Thank you ❤️

[@Ovokeroh]

33:53 I think I understand what Joyce is saying here 🥹

[@lisakhanyalindiwe2409]

i love this channel so much

[@nyalimag]

Different time zone 😭

[@deannalenyce]

Omg Joyce and Breeny 🫶🏽 I can’t take it 😭

[@cleopatraking7092]

I def agree Breeny on how a women should carry herself. And the city girl mentality. We are in a time where marriage is no longer more beneficial to women. And we are finally speaking on it. Your not about to good morning me to death So I’m def agree with Joyce a lot as well

[@sivuyisiweshongwe1741]

Oh man Joyce, I love you. Bree, Bree I’m obsessed with you❤

[@lilmisscarla8]

I like this breenylee woman. I think it’s important to challenge those majority mindset about what women are demanding from med because it’s wild

[@kiki-uc1zc]

I can understand why people would see her as a pick me

[@jwillsies]

I thought Joyce had a little brother?

[@amysylvester-omorodion6816]

Same

[@msdeangelox]

She does, elijah

[@TechBeautyQueen]

In response to the comment about how would women feel if men put a lot of expectation on us. I think a lot of men expect women/ their wives to have their seed/ children. However, I think when a woman has children the 50/50 thing is unfair. A woman brings so much more to the relationship at that point then the man unless you have a man that can cook, and clean but still he can’t give birth. On top of that after a while some of these men be acting a fool within the marriage after kids smh

[@adaywithkeren2482]

This is some Wise-woman talk

[@victoriamonari]

Loved this !!! My add on is you can’t ale accountability and also keep your standards it’s not mutually exclusive ❤

[@Quisha]

Ahhhh Breeny is SMARTTTTTTTT !

[@neehoudou]

Breeny and Tika Sumpter could be twin. As a millennial, I agree with her thoughts. You gotta get into the consciousness of worthiness.

[@magssl2634]

I disagree - this is reflected in non romantic relationships such as the work place. You are not always treated because of how you present yourself. Ask most female professionals, you have to demand respect and that’s why laws were introduced in the workplace to make sure that people treat you with respect. You can’t control other people’s behaviour you can only control yourself. Other people’s treatment of you is not a reflection of who you are and don’t take it personally. In personal relationships you choose who you interact with so choose wisely.

[@LaChaleur]

#TEAMBREENY ❤

[@laricabraganca6083]

Loved this video, some topics really touched me 🤎When Breeny said that growing up she didn’t receive no attention because she was black and dark skin , I really could relate to that. And honestly studying abroad and being in university in Spain, I thought my experience would be different but it’s not. The fact that I am still living my teenage scenarios it’s insane to me (I am 28 now)guys coming to you just so they can talk to your white friend and etc . I get constantly overlooked specially when I am with my white friend. I leave the house feeling pretty and then society just shows me the opposite. Anyone still going through that in their adult life? 🤎

[@SalliePearl]

Ahhhhh! It’s Breeennyyyy!!!!!!💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽

[@LoveHealthBeautyGoddess]

BREEENYYYYY🎉🎉🎉

[@yayajames9875]

I absolutely agree with Joyce I will not be unequal yoke so if I am successful, healed ,spiritual and rich then you too have to be because how can two walk except they agree. A house divided cannot stand trust me if you are building a marriage you are building a home so yes finance is important being the man in a relationship is not something I want to do personally I love being a woman and I want to enjoy good life . Don't bring someone's daughter in your life to make them suffer. That causes divorce and pain. Let's break these generational negatives please.

[@whoopstaukbalfour6295]

I am a female who grew up with five brothers. I am definitely more male minded than I am female minded. My mother is the height of femininity. That always looked to me as too much effort. I have had female friends talk to me about a man's car, wallet, job title etc when I've asked, what do you like about him?

[@JoessyB]

Also people aren’t leaving when they see the initial red flag that’s why they get complacent getting treated below the standards

[@gbeautylifestyle7775]

Where can we find the mailing list?

[@marwatabet3934]

Looooovvee Breeny 💗

[@yayajames9875]

Timothy 5:8, “But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever" Having your man provide for you is not prostituting it Biblical it's scriptural. Even in other Holy books men are to be providers. Let's let me be men and he responsible. We can't just be saying stuff just for content making sake because it has impact on people's real life. Having an influence has to be more than just trending please because relationships are very important. Let's all be wise. God bless 🙏❤️