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[@ProfessorViral]

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[@JhonUx94]

Wait, so we shouldn’t click the links if we have a curiosity for the OF? 👀 jk jk hahaha

[@stopprocrastinating4181]

sex sure is weird and awkward but sharing that emotional connection with someone is great

[@MasonKLutz]

That's what I like to think to. I don't want to have sex with just anyone because obviously it would be awkward if you jump into it like it's skydiving, and personally, I don't think I can emotionally handle something like that. That connection would make it better and more special in some ways.

[@reipolhopolar]

@@MasonKLutz the fact that you used the word sex like a verb made me laugh so hard for a reason i dont understand

[@lihzzahrdspeed6631]

@@reipolhopolarwhat? It’s proper English

[@lilyrosepunkunicorm9871]

@@lihzzahrdspeed6631 sometimes proper English is funne

[@lihzzahrdspeed6631]

@@lilyrosepunkunicorm9871 humor is also subjective I guess

[@padraigmurphy8710]

You know, after finding you from the KoKo video and enjoying the numerous deep discussions on philosophy and the likes, opening with a bunny boy outfit and guitar caused an honest to god spit take and I know this is about to be good.

[@ProfessorViral]

Hopefully it lives up to that! It's wild for sure haha

[@pepperet5216]

I enjoy a mature and open exploration of sex like this one. I feel that it is too romanticized or perverted in the modern psyche, it's not as mythical or as intoxicating. But it is so important to have experienced and letting it be awkward and silly. I think "protecting" everyone about it has just turned it into a mask of what it actually is.

[@ProfessorViral]

For sure, the idea that it's somehow inherently bad and corrupts the youth has done a lot of damage to the human race

[@sterlinsilver]

I've never lost my virginity. you know why? because I don't lose. I'm a winner, baby...

[@ProfessorViral]

the perfect record

[@gobgobcachoo]

Found legoshi's yt account.

[@ChakLok]

Me too

[@shawermus]

Keep up and you'll be able to summon yourself into isekai and be op

[@IshijimaKairo]

Same 'ere

[@Khaoscntrl]

Coming from a female perspective here, this was... very validating. If it makes you feel any better. I'm a 29 year old virgin, I originally thought the reason was because I was ugly. But in becoming the ripe age of 27 and traversing the odd years up to 29 and realizing I have not only been hit on ... I simply was awkwardly expecting this insane reality that was never GOING TO BE; because it was fiction. I was waiting for some guy to sweep me off my feet, throw me on the bed and we would have this stupid cut away moment of hands and legs and have a magical time... instead my first NEAR experience was me fumbling my way through oral with another person who was just as unsure about everything as I was and it ended with me essentially saying '...my parents are coming home maybe another time?' and that was 9 years ago. Hearing your experience of having it...still being awkward, and not enjoying it because of that... as uncomfortable as that must have been... was cathartic..so thank you. I'm more confident now in my body and desires... but just as uncomfortable in the idea of actually sharing any of that with anyone. The idea of being that vulnerable and awkward with someone just sounds ..uncomfy... I want it... but I also don't? Its this hyped up idea that makes me feel no less of a failure to have not conquered at 20 then to have not conquered now; and yet as a female there's also this stupid weird feeling of success at having kept it. Idk, this video makes me feel a lot of feelings and also reveals a lot of things that I didn't know about my thoughts on this. Its interesting to hear it voiced outwardly and not hidden as this amazing always shockingly wonderful experience; and instead letting it be weird and awkward with two people... which is I think kind of what I want. A weird awkward thing I can laugh about with another person, think that would be perfect.

[@sonmorua3871]

Im 34y and "technicaly" didnt sleep with any girl i had feelings for. I can feel alot of what u wrote too. For me, i came to the conclusion that if it will happen and i desire the contact and the act that i will not hesitate (thats what i hope at last🤣😂) i think with being older we can relax a little more and hope that we wont act like 18y kids.

[@BrutallyObscura]

You didn't just give us sex, you gave us the whole goddamn enchilada on human mentality

[@ProfessorViral]

If it's worth doing, its worth overdoing right?

[@BrutallyObscura]

@@ProfessorViral not a bad point

[@sanhinamori9098]

I, AFAB woman, learned the first time I tried to have sex... I couldn't actually "put" anything in there. My then boyfriend and I had a little laugh about it but at the time, but a couple days later when I went back to uni after the break, I had sobbed about it. I had waited SO LONG to have sex and the first time I *really* try, something doesn't work on my end and I'm devastated. At that point I booked myself an appointment with a gynecologist and found out why I was having so much trouble. My hymen was way too thick and if I had tried to push past it, it would have caused me a lot of pain and trauma. (Thankfully when my then bf and I tried I stopped before it really started to hurt) I had to get surgery to get it removed so I could properly have sex. They don't teach you these things, there isn't enough sex education, and it fucking sucks. I am so thankful for my parents being supportive of me getting the surgery (which somehow, our insurance paid for). Sex is awkward and clumsy and mistakes and mishaps can happen to anyone, and it should be talked about more. Thank you for sharing your story :)

[@Sylentmana]

I didn’t have sex until I was 26 and it left me disappointed. I’ve learned over time that if I don’t feel anything for my partner I won’t enjoy sex with them. It’s just an empty meaningless act at that point.

[@MALICEM12]

Sort of, but a lot of that was waiting to have it at 26. It's kinda like candy, seems amazing when you're young, then you shrug your shoulders at it. Then you get old and start wishing you could like it like you once did and try chasing it again, but it's never the same. Not to mention you had like a decade of hyping it up and having expectations that you shouldn't have had.

[@donotreply8979]

Get better at it, how pathetic to give up

[@Sylentmana]

@@donotreply8979 Why would choose to get better at something I don't enjoy?

[@followthewhiterabbit884]

Maybe you are lucky and meet someone in the future and you two can try it until you reach perfection. And year, the first time is always... just meh.

[@malaksafa4074]

or your on the asexual spectrum?

[@charliehenry1175]

I love this. The passion, effort, and vulnerability you present here is really admirable coming from someone who is considering making content covering hard to discuss topics. I came here because I love flcl and just wanted to hear someone talk about it but I'm leaving feeling inspired

[@ProfessorViral]

Thank you, that all really means so much to hear. If I can inspire people to spread thought as well, then all I've done here is worthwhile : )

[@IMMORTICALITY]

Hey man, thanks for making this video, most of the sexual experiences I've had have been absolutely miserable, besides a few memorable moments that have haunted me to the innermost part of my inner soul's core, hearing your own personal experiences seems to have lifted a bit of that weight/burden, a true legend as always

[@ProfessorViral]

No problem, I'm happy the video was able to help a bit in that way!

[@nhlcbj]

My first time was 7 years ago with a friend/former coworker. It was such an awkward experience on my part (technical difficulties) it feels like it shouldn’t count. Nothing came out of the experience and I haven’t had sex since. I don’t want to sleep with just anyone, but finding someone that I can shake off that awkwardness with feels like it’s becoming more unlikely by the day. It’s one thing when you’re in your 30s and your sexual experience is lacking, but when most people you know are married with children you can’t help but feel like that ship has long since sailed.

[@MALICEM12]

Yeeeeahh...you definitely waited to long.

[@YesIHaveManyProblemsThanks]

@@MALICEM12 No such thing as waiting too long, when one is ready they will make it happen. Granted I'm 31 and never even held hands romanticly with another person.

[@nhlcbj]

@@MALICEM12 they don’t call it getting lucky for nothing. And I was never good at gambling in the first place. Don’t hate the player, hate the game

[@W_Sir_Morpheus]

​@@MALICEM12 this comment is just not productive lol

[@stoicbartender]

Sex is a real crazy desire and want untill you actually experience it and realize it isn’t all that special and can feel really fucking soul draining afterwards wether you don’t last that long or for the other reasons you mentioned and talked about in your video and your experiences (FLCL is a honestly a really good representation of this topic lol). What chainsaw man taught me when I had sex for the first time 3 years ago that finding someone you truly care about to do it with because at that point it’ll feel good and more comfortable

[@QuickThekidd]

real i never fully understand the power vs makima “scene” to say the least till i did it with someone i barely knew and it was more power then makima

[@thechosenone8332]

This is prob the best FLCL video essay ever, good job man.

[@ProfessorViral]

Thank you, that's very kind 😁

[@shinmalestat9272]

Dude, as much as I enjoyed your assessment of FLCL I also appreciated the therapy session you used this for. Hope you felt better afterwards.

[@soap9277]

This was really insightful. I graduated high school back in May of this year, and throughout my entire senior year, pretty much everyone in my year was losing their virginity. I went to a small school, so these things weren't exactly a secret. I wasn't a loser or anything, I was actually pretty well liked by my peers, but knowing what they were all experiencing, all while I was still a virgin, made me feel like I was missing out on some once-in-a-lifetime thing. I never went out of my way to try dating or having sex, because I figured that it wasn't really important during high school, but that didn't stop me from feeling like such a loser because I hadn't gotten laid yet. I've since done some thinking, and I realized that there's no need to rush these things, and that I should focus on improving my own happiness before worrying about getting any tail. Occasionally I dip back into the old ways, but I just have to remind myself that I still have my whole life ahead of me, and that there's nothing wrong with giving these things time. I guess this video just helped emphasize that I'm not alone in this, and that there are always gonna be bumps in the road. Thank you. I clicked on this video just to have something on in the background while I played Elden Ring, but I ended up really paying attention and resonating with it.

[@makotoyuki345]

Y’know...we really should talk about sex more. That thing about the “resigning your body” and expectations and first time embarrassment kinda hits me in the feels. I’m somewhat of an overthinker and having never had sex (yet!) I just pushed it to the side and went into auto-pilot mode, like the “well it’s supposed to feel good and I have a general gist of it so I’m good, right?...right?...ri-“ state of mind. Thank you for your knowledge, I will now put that into the recesses of my mind so that I don’t have a bad first time because I’m totally cool and I won’t make the same mistake! Right?...Ri-

[@ProfessorViral]

We'll all make the same mistakes, even with openness like this. The most we can do is recover from them well, and know that they're the path to better times. I'm someone who hates anything new, but all we can do is... well, do it. When everything feels right, of course!

[@makotoyuki345]

@@ProfessorViral a fumble or misstep in the right direction is still a step forward afterall.

[@sboinkthelegday3892]

If it will look like this, please don't... this whole treatment of "we make it into such an elephant in the room" TO EXCUSE making it INTO the elephant in the room. FLCL is not a metaphorical allegory to get to the topic of sex. Sexuality IS one of the normal everyday things FLCL uses to get to the topic of CREATIVITY, your realtionship as a creator in relation to an "audience", in multiple levels, and expectations for it. Naota is not horny for procreation, he's horny for CREATION. Medical mechanica, the unthinking industry that commodifies creation, is evil for trying to take that primordial urge AWAY from creation when that is the only possible thing to fuel it. And ALL ITS FORMS get their origin in puberty, not ONLY sex. This American recontextualizing of anime into a frame of western puritanism, just every damn time insists on making these giggly winks and nods about how it's ALWAYS "about sex", because this Abrahamic legacy censors it so much that it's the one thing you have to constantly preoccupy yourself with. The culture of indoctrinating kids for violence in shonen anime, is no LESS about the puberty and opening yourself up tothis new existence, as not an infant but functionally as the true self you're going to be as an adult. Sure there's some travel time during teenage years, but that's just the thing, how closed American culture has become to even tolerate THAT growth. With padded playgrounds and hellscape suburbia. And it's cute, you finally allow yourself to START your rational approach to puberty, at what, 20 years old? Dude, your DEADLINE was 18. That's what Bar Mitzvah is FOR at 13. Those buttcheeks in that Venn diagram when you HAD to be ready for this stuff, is well and spread so wide that there's NEGATIVe amount of years for you to actually finish that development. And it shows, with this rise of manchild tendencies and "30's is the new 20's". Every American kid IS RAMMED in that vulnerable spot under the pretense of protecting their innocence, while the only thing protected is the puritan egos of their older generation. Some of them with their skin ripped away for good measure at 2 weeks old.

[@makotoyuki345]

@@sboinkthelegday3892 I’m not American and I recently turned 18, I don’t think it’s that wise to assume stuff about me without basis. And we never said the only merit you could get from this reading is just about sex, like you said it’s about puberty and growing. I said we should talk about this more because yes this is actually a problem we have in western culture since that’s the society we’ve grown up in and I don’t think it’s in good faith to shun others dealt a bad hand by an environment that chooses not to tackle these topics out of superficiality, dogma, group think or shame and should still be addressed but this is a companion piece to the discussion around FLCL NOT an invalidation of it. It’s just a piece of the puzzle we’re focusing on, not claiming this as the whole.

[@makotoyuki345]

@@josiahjacinto4156 I watch video essays when I get bored

[@The1stQuilava]

This is the most vulnerable exploration into the topic we never talk about. I found your experience very relatable. Society has romanticized the idea of sex, but nobody talks about the confronting and awkward nature of someone's first experience. Please keep making videos, Professor. Your first-hand dialogue is what I love most from these

[@ProfessorViral]

I'm glad I could help fill that gap in discussion. I'm not strictly a share everything person, but there are many things I think we should share more

[@DoubleTheStrings_tube]

Sometimes I feel so neurotic about the fact that I’m still a virgin at 18, but I’ve come to learn this thought process is not only extremely common but completely fucking stupid. First off, everyone has their own understanding of what virginity is through either cultural or religious upbringings. Secondly, it’s just a shallow social construct as much as popularity or “game”. I love how he sheds light on the fact that most people end up doing the deed out of sheer societal pressure; to remove the “virgin” label that looms over you. I’ve been through times where my celibacy consumed my every thought, and hearing stories from my peers only fueled my jealousy and frustration. This eventually started morphing into a hatred of women because, in my mind, they were the source of this whirlwind of emotion. This is a dangerous path that is unfortunately all to common for guys these days. Looking back I can think of several instances in which my neurodivergent ass locked down when someone was obviously trying to flirt with me. If only sex education was prioritized instead of the constant religious bullshit that was fed to me.

[@trashkingkaktus]

THIS IS THE REASON WHY I FUCKING LOVE FOOLY COOLY SO GODDAMN MUCH 😭😭😭 It talks about so many topics of life, who you are, what others see you and want you to be, expectations, desires, sex, relationship, adulthood, etc. This show brings chaotic into reasoning and gives so many doors to perspectives and understanding, to the point that everyone can relate to. Embarrassment and high expectations is the peak relate to me for social, personal, and sex. I always felt like an oddball in middle school since I was not really into sex like that and as a trans kid I'm super freaked out by ANYONE seeing my body, because *I* couldn't stand it, so no one else could. This lead into insecurities and resentment and feeling "I could never do that." I've had moments with my ex's back in middle school (the only real people I've ever dated besides my current) and I've encountered sexual moments that I honestly didn't know what to do next. A girl kissed me in the bathroom during our 8th grade homecoming dance and we sat there for a solid 10 seconds, her leaning into me holding a kiss and I sat there like a dumbass, afraid and confused on what to do next. I felt so embarrassed and stupid that I didn't do anything, but I was a kid, unaware of the expectations and the flow that comes with this. My second ex I had a moment that we were laying on the bed and one thing led to another with her on top of me but we kinda sat there in the dark, not knowing what to do, again. It was a passionate moment that I couldn't find the rhythm to, once again becoming embarrassed and we both went to sleep listening to music. Fast forward to me being 18, just graduated, and Im with my new partner. We're talking and I brought up the topic of making out and how I always say it as a big thing and I got flustered and stuttering because of it, and they so casually offered it to me. Of course I had my first experience with sex and it was a mixture of great and also confusing. I've learned to let go of my insecurities during these moments but from time its still there and I often end up being depressed or embarrassed because it wasn't as pleasurable as it could've been for them. I love FLCL and how it brings these true feelings out that we all experience. We have such strong depictions of sex from decades ago to be this absolutely amazing thing with such flow, but not everything is like that. It's just reality.

[@deeznutz3390]

I admire your brutal honesty on the topic that no one else has the balls to talk about, but you just saying how weird it is and how it's complicated and never usually goes right.your so cool I appreciate this video

[@ProfessorViral]

Thank you, just doing my part 😁

[@nintendo101ish]

This is one of the best, most open and honest discussions on the topic and helping me realize just how little these topics are ever talked about, if at all. Hell i never even watched Foolie Coolie but now i really fuckin want to, Fantastic video!! Wish there was more shit like this out there, wish there were more people willing to be vulnerable and honest and talk about the awkward and embarrassing parts of sex, as we all very clearly need it.

[@toothfairy9242]

I’m an asexual girl, and throughout the whole video, I was like Wow can't relate I feel like a deaf person using Spotify. I can watch pretty album covers and read the lyrics, but I can’t actually listen to the music. I can hear it a little sometimes, but I can’t enjoy it fully like my friends do. I’m not mad about it tho. I’m very comfortable with my identity, but discovering how different I actually am is kind of weird. I actually have a straight boyfriend, but I don’t think I understand him completely. For example, I had no idea that a person could be cute and sexy at the same time. Like what? You are either sexual or you are not you can be both at the same time??? I still don’t understand much about sexuality, but this video was very informative and kind of opened my eyes to a lot of stuff. Great job Professor!

[@DanT_Riley]

Bro.... this video randomly popped up on my main page and....im glad, this is what i needed. Currently im after a breakup with my fiancé and I had this weird feeling like why do I miss her even tho i fully know that we're unhappy together. This video might not have given me the conclusion to my questions and feeling but I know where my feeling come from. It's just this weird kind of mixture between wanting physical contact and wanting to feel loved. I don't know how to put it in words but Thank You

[@daughterphoenix]

Before today I'd never heard anyone else's story that matched mine, where you have to break up with someone you already broke up with. I had this same experience back in January-I broke up with him in 2019, but come 2020 we both needed someone, and everything about us worked except for what didn't, and it was convenient for both of our needs to just believe in our individual lies together. And to think I'd have never known other people experience this kind of mess if you hadn't been brave enough to put on the bunny suit and talk about it!

[@ProfessorViral]

Believe in our individual lies together is such a perfect way to put it. Glad I was able to read that, and to share a story to let you know you were alone. It makes this all worthwhile : )

[@lillithefangirl2422]

This was a super insightful video! I’ve only just started being a young adult and being on the asexual spextrum, I don’t know if I feel this “physical urge” for myself. I feel it like… through fiction maybe, but never involving my body in particular. I’m not opposed to it, but I feel a lot of that would tie into romantic attraction. I know that’s not the case for everyone though, as you said people are complicated. Unfortunately what makes things even more complicated is how easy it can be to take advantage of another person. Consent is incredibly important in any relationship- especially with sex. But unfortunately, many people don’t really… care about consent. Sometimes we’re coerced into things we aren’t 100% sure we want to do, but the urge is somewhat there so we go with it. Other times, we know for sure it’s not what we want… and yet we’re forced into it anyways, often out of fear for our own safety. But neither way is actually pleasurable- it can incredibly traumatic. It can shift your entire perspective of what relationships are supposed to be like, and even break your trust in others. Both Haruko and Mamimi are… honestly straight up groomers/predators to Naota. You described how they mostly use him to get whatever they want without regarding how he might feel… and I’m like 90% you find this as a harmful thing??? But I don’t think FLCL should like- be canceled or something. It’s actually a really interesting, yet sad story.

[@syreetadukes4428]

I completely agree with you. I'm asexual myself, and I think attraction is confusing as hell. But romance is something I don't have any interest in what's so ever.

[@HoshPak]

It's hard to believe how much this video hits home, having a very personal romance-related problem myself. I have a female friend I once met and I was too immature to realize she wanted to be more than just friends. When I learned about it, fear crawled into my body. I didn't know how to respond. I've never felt comfortable with another person on this level before but with her it was different. But there were so many problems, starting with me having overly concerned parents who didn't their son to have a LTR with a (to them) strange person at age of 17. They would ultimately make me rethink rationally what my body already knew the answer to... So, I declined her, not knowing I would never forget her even 12 years later. And it seems she didn't either, because when we reconnected after this long time she revealed to me that on her way to work there is this one radio tower at the horizon she keeps seeing and can't help herself but think about me. She'd been in a relationship for 7 years while I was coasting life aimlessly, distracting myself with building a career and income stream, thinking this is what will make women attracted to me. What a mistake... Anyway, she was very unhappy in her relationship and low-key tried to poke me into the direction on relationship again, saying that if I had made a move, last Christmas I would have gotten her. However, this went against my morals as I'm taking pride in being a lawful man who wouldn't commit such thing and hurt others for selfish gain. But then again, had I known her true feelings at that moment I might have done it, anyway. We are so inherently bad at communicating our feelings for one a other that things like these keep happening. What I did instead was helping her fix that damaged relationship and cementing myself firmly in the friend zone. Every almost-relationship I've had in the meantime just didn't work for me. It was always me who would end things prematurely because I couldn't find the same level of comfort I had, all these years ago,. even though I kind of didn't to be with that person, anyways. And to this date I keep gravitating towards her. We've already talked this through but it seems she believes she can keep me as a friend while having her now fulfilling relationship which would otherwise had ended hadn't I interfered. I'm 29 as of writing this and feel like a total fool. Letting go would mean I would have to cut her out of my life but then again, not seeing her for 12 years didn't help either. I don't know how to let go of this for good...

[@bersek-]

Did I just watch a guy brag about his sex life for 30mn? Yes, yes I did.

[@ProfessorViral]

I was talking about how it wasn't great though 🤣

[@firewolf9493]

In a bunny suit, that's an important detail XD

[@davidwave4]

Brag is a strong word.

[@revengance4149]

I think "complaining" would fit better but it still were entertaining and informative 30 minutes

[@NexLegacyAccount]

My man, if you think anyone talking about the fact that they had sex at all is "bragging", you might be dealing with some insecurity.

[@katyyulig]

My favorite series ever

[@ProfessorViral]

I've listened to The Pillows endlessly since I watched the series this year. The entire soundtrack is stellar

[@arturpoterski9059]

best analysis of FLCL ive seen in approx 10 years! congratulations!

[@jaydub9587]

Holy shit, the relationships you were describing is literally what I'm going through right now. You given me a lot of insight through this video. Thanks man

[@kdash506]

As a 21 y/o who's literally only had sex once, this video describes feelings I've had recently that I thought were more indescribable than I thought they were.

[@edithkanra1204]

I appreciate this video and mostly you sharing some of your personal experiences, I’m Asexual with no desire for sex, and I’ve never had one as such. I have no experience with that either, but it’s always interesting to hear about. Sometimes I feel like I’m missing out another times I’m happy not to be a participant. Either way even as an asexual with no interest figuring out what sex is was also, a struggle for me. As looking around at your peers, and realizing what you do is different than everyone else, is it self very daunting

[@OxiiTube]

I admire your strength. Thank you for all of your hard work❤

[@ProfessorViral]

Hey, no problem, thanks for the support!

[@FatedCaliber]

This was such a open and honest discussion. I really needed this , and it was a great lens into FLCL , which I watched before I could even wrap my head around the sexual implications that I only felt implicitly :O

[@SkySpiral7_Lets_play]

I'm rather speachless. I felt like I learned a lot. This is what sex ed should include. 6:32 to further complicate the matter, his dad is childish (as you mentioned) so even if he did know his dad felt the same way Naota might not think of those feelings as "adult". 12:02 Thanks for pointing out to not expect 100%. I hadn't thought of that and was getting worried about myself. 16:16 You said that as though it had shock value. It might be above average but I'm a 32 year old virgin and have only dated 1 person ever (for 2 months) and haven't gotten around to dating again. It feels more like something I should do than something I want (but I do want it).

[@RayGainbows]

You're so fascinating dude. I love how open you are with your experiences and use them to emphasize the point. Solid content.

[@ProfessorViral]

Thank you! A lot of my mistakes were/are from doing everything blind, everything being totally new and nervous. If I can break that for others, even a little, then me making mistakes means a lot more haha

[@cjmakescontent]

This video has been in my watch later for a while and I’m finally watching it now. I’m through most of it already but I just wanted to say I have incredible respect for discussing a topic like this one which many people are embarrassed to discuss in an open way as openly as you did.

[@serbianempire6456]

Having sex and being intimate with someone do not have to be two equal things, at least from my point of view. Maybe I'm misunderstanding something, but realising that shifted the whole perspective. I've never wanted sex nearly as much as I am yearning for someone to share intimacy and love with.

[@jazzknh1105]

I'm so glad Vanitas No Carte has so many clips featured in this one, that anime is genuinely sexy, you have good taste!

[@ProfessorViral]

The last blatantly sexual video I made was on that one's first season 🤣

[@davidwave4]

This video reminded me of one of my favorite manga: Umibe no Onna no Ko, or The Girl by the Sea, by Inio Asano. It’s about two teens essentially using each other - for sex, for companionship, and to cope with the trauma of growing up. Their interactions are clockwork, but neither steps forward to try and evolve things. And neither recognizes the deeper emotional needs that exist beneath the sex.

[@NexLegacyAccount]

Thank you so much for making this. I don't see many men being this open and raw about their less-than-ideal experiences, which I think is a disservice. Your perspective humanizes these things. I'm a woman and a lesbian, so a lot of the things you talk about have answered questions I've had about men's experiences for years. I'm sure there are a lot of dudes watching you that appreciate the hell out of you. ^-^

[@loruuu7730]

Thank you very much for this ride. You just filled a topic I was thinking through atm with a beautiful journey, filling in some blind spotd in my inner conversation.

[@ProfessorViral]

That's very kind, thank you 💙

[@thebekgo1624]

8:01 W reference. I love Phantom and I feel it's underappreciated still.

[@mintjulius275]

Excellent video mate. Sex is weird, people are weird. But flcl approaches that subject in a way that's seldom seen, and your video too. Appreciate it

[@ProfessorViral]

No problem, thanks!

[@nourat2095]

I’m really glad that I took the time to watch the series before I watched this video, after being confused through all 6 episodes but understanding that sex was somehow involved/implied this video really helped me understand what is was all about, thanks prof

[@SkySpiral7_Lets_play]

Chapters: 0:00 Intro 6:17 Stuck in the Middle... 12:38 The Top Bunk... 18:22 2nd Time up... 22:31 It's Complicated...

[@bluechills53]

Man this is perfect, everything about this video is great. I love the deep beats of just being and figuring how it works.

[@andrewpatton5114]

I would argue the most mature thing Naota does in the entire series was not having sex with Ninamori when she was practically throwing herself at him. Despite the raging adolescent hormones, he realized that this was a bad idea because neither of them were ready for what sex actually demands of you, and that Ninamori was only doing this because of her issues with her parents. Now, this is not to say that it would be bad if they got married in the future, but that they have a lot of growing up to do before then, and that part of being mature is knowing your limitations and not taking advantage of another person's vulnerability. Unlike Mimi and Haruko, Naota's relationship with Ninamori isn't toxic, but it would become toxic if they tried to do things proper to married couples while still being adolescents.

[@101Linkisawesome]

I appreciate the honesty and you ROCKED the bunny suit ngl. I'm still waiting to swing the bat but now I know no matter what, it's gonna be messy

[@lelouchlisner1691]

I would like to amend his statement that sex is not a magical moment. Sometimes it isn't, but under the right circumstances it can be. I split up with the woman I was with for 3 years to learn somethings about myself. It was stupid and only lasted about 2 months before we got back together. When we did get back together it was magical and passionate and wonderful. We have been together for 10 years now, married for 6 of those. It's about connection and understanding and love.

[@malcolmlane3537]

Wow, I’ve known about FLCL my whole life basically and watched so many analysis videos and never did I put together that its one big allegory about sex. And it makes sense lol

[@NitroVortex]

This is the most intriguing FLCL related video on the internet. Awesome video Prof 😆👍

[@ProfessorViral]

Thank you very much!

[@-wise-5820]

Noticed the Vash the stampede and wolfwood poster in the background, you've got my sub.

[@steelbulwark8094]

I'm glad I found you. I love that you're willing to go so far to do good in the world, because I don't often see people willing to be so genuine. Maybe this is an awkward one to introduce people to you but it's definitely going to be one I reference when I get the chance to. Not only is this very real, very genuine, and very very relatable... It's also something that you're right about- the negative connotation and mythical representation of sex in the Western World has been one of a host of things that has caused anxiety to the point of desperation and depression to the point of hopelessness for almost every adult. Myself included, though I'm about a month away from moving across the country to be with someone whose world view clashes with mine. We have different meanings behind our actions (a source of strife that we will likely be talking about for a while), but the desire to be together meshes, and both of us are comfortable being genuine with each other. There's a lot to be said for having the confidence to be genuine. Keep being awesome, and stay nerdy ;3

[@redacted_vombat5742]

Being a celibate, this was informative and ofcourse fooly cooly message was obvious but real

[@ProfessorViral]

Glad it was something positive!

[@brianrauch2770]

I wish this existed around 1.5 years ago……. Or 7 years ago. My first time was awkward and apparently I wasn’t good but told myself I was. I got cheated on. Then I hated (stuff) but still had a physical desire for that release and decided self stuff was enough because I couldn’t break my own heart….. I WAS wrong I could. I developed a problem with certain entertainment and then I finally start to recover and lean to be ok with stuff again only to then finally deal with the emotional Baggage I stored for 3 years and break past religious conditioning to realize I was bi. I lost 146lbs (I got fat during the time after the first breakup) years and then I had another bad breakup and then began to use stuff as a pain killer….. it became an addiction. Then I realized I was doing that and said that’s ok I can feed this addiction and was direct with people on what I was doing. Surprisingly I found others with a similar problem that just needed their fix. Then finally I fell in love with one of them and they did too. But they were too dependent on constant stuff and we lived 2 hrs apart and had jobs. We made good FWB’s but not a couple so we left it at that because we kinda both knew it would end up that way. Finally I found a wonderful woman who I’ve been with for over a year and I have a good relationship with her, my body (I’m coming to grips with my body dysmorphia), and the act I loved to do that I made into an unhealthy and emotionally damaging thing. It is an incredible “awkward, messy, often disappointing, and a bit magical at times” thing that got better the more I understood it and myself and my partner. Though there are some things I still struggle with. Like how long distance works when We both have high drives and how we can’t always jump back in when she is back because we are catching up and we have awkward moments when we are wanting too but your still anticipating the next separation so we want it to be perfect and we, usually me doesn’t “work” or we ruin the mood and the insecurity (though it’s a lot less then it used to be and I know she isn’t going to leave over it and we can just communicate what’s happening and get a “toy” so she can still get what she need and maybe I’ll be ready for another time) that sometimes comes with that moment. Thanks for taking the time to read this if you did. I wish there was more honest communication about this maybe people would hurt themselves and each other less. Great video. It really spoke to me. I may have more remaining issues to work out that I didn’t know about so thanks. Also I did edit this a few time I keep having new thoughts

[@joshwylie3098]

Brilliant and brutally honest analysis of an amazing work of art. Great job.

[@eviIsister]

ive seen this show at least 4 times, maybe more, and thought that ive had a good understanding of all the ways in which it is a metaphor for growing up and puberty, but this video still managed to point out new things to be that should have been obvious and yet i missed them. great watch thank you for making this!

[@maytalacedo2942]

More people need to talk about this their either "protecting" with "purity" culture or "romantictazized" how awesome it was. I appreciate your sharing this because it shows the reality of the aftermath of it.

[@reaps2661]

Ngl you walking in with a bunny suit saying "so, let's talk about sex" made me act up for a sec

[@legoboy-ox2kx]

I will say my experiences are few and far between, but my early experiences were both amazing and also destroyed me at the same time. I finally got what I wanted, but it disappeared faster than I could ever have imagined and left me completely empty. Developing a connection and being attached for someone for years, to finally sleep with them and then to have them leave you and have a kid with someone else barely over a year after might be one of the most soul crushing experiences I'be ever been through, and yet I hardly ever talk about it because I don't have very many people I can without feeling so incredibly stupid. I did it to myself, going after the one person I really became attached to, even though I knew it would never really work out.

[@claudio_giovanna]

I like to say that humans rationalized something that is irrational, and often times we get lost in our own thoughts and we keep forgetting that ofc the first time will be horrible or not how we imagine we should try to feel good and enjoy what are we doing (especially if we are do it with someone we really love). Is more to be with the flow 😔🙏.

[@ProfessorViral]

It's really easy to get lost in our thoughts like that. Especially when we put so much effort into things, we want it all to be worthwhile, we want our efforts to be positive so we have a push to keep going. That's something we can never change, so all we can do is make us all aware of it!

[@claudio_giovanna]

@@ProfessorViral yea dude especially seeing people who develope sex addictions or are traumatize. I think we should talk more about the psychological implications that sex has

[@Relicnovaa]

Glad I found this video because when it came to sex I always felt pressured to do it but would always turn the opportunities down (I’m 17) I’ve had relationships but they never got to that point or I’ve had friends or friends of friends that wanted to do it with me but I was scared of being vulnerable with someone.

[@Relicnovaa]

And after finishing this video even though i haven’t had it yet I understand my fear of sex and being vulnerable

[@ProfessorViral]

The real obstacle is allowing someone your comfortable with past that vulnerability, and understanding it might not be positive those first few times, but that it can be once you're used to it. But like I said, there's no rush at all! We hear stories of people starting young, but I was 21, and there are people I know now who haven't, and it changes nothing about how I view them. No one would ever know, I only do because they've told me

[@marceldomrose6005]

Even though i never even got close to „the act“, i had the luck to know at least half of the Information, since two of my friend (both m17) talked with me(m 17)open about it, as well as i could talk open to them. This Video was equally important for me and probably even more for Others👍

[@Joshh-uk1ww]

Congrats, in one video you’ve probably taught your audience(who due to this being a anime video with SEX as the title are probably a good percentage adolescence) more about sex then the American education manages to do in over a decades worth of time.

[@geakan9604]

As an asexual, I find this discussion genuinely fascinating.

[@CloppingIsMyThing]

As an aromantic this discussion only dragged up memories I repressed for a reason!

[@Siddif]

I’m demisexual and I relate to to some of the points discussed but not all of them.

[@FeministCatwoman]

I wonder if my being asexual is what put me off this show. I never really cared for its themes or the way that 2 adult women were harassing/grooming an actual child, seeing that Naota was a minor. Presenting the story as a coming of age narrative with all of the creepy elements it had just made me cringe.

[@The-toast]

I'm almost 23 years old, and I've never even been on a date with somebody who was my girlfriend. I've never had sex, despite many close encounters with women that never wanted to do anything with me. And honestly I'm Just kinda sad that I'm probably the only person I know that hasn't even really talked to a girl about anything. I'm really fuckin sad about it, cause I can feel years upon years of intense passion for love Just being wasted, and that I know after all that gets out of my system, I don't know what else I'll give a shit about. It's gotten to the point that I don't even know what I want out of a partner anymore, and my standards or expectations from love are effectively gone. I don't belong to the school of thought persay, but I am by definition an incel, so I go way out of my way to not talk about it to anybody, since I'm also worried if I do then those kinda toxic thoughts might fall out my maw. My mom knows my dad, and recognizes that I have the same disposition as he did. And that crazy motherfucker got a lady knocked up from a different country than where he lived, and was crazy about her till the day he died. I'm already 5 years older than when they met, and I'm really thinking that I'll never be crazy about anybody ever again. And that shit makes me really sad.

[@Frog_Of_Fertility]

I wish I had seen this sooner. That awkward desire and "body fumbling" is exactly what happened with my gf some while ago, but after a few instances and problems we decided to break up, and all of those 2 awkward years of just fumbling around and never really DOING anything really fucks you up in the long run. You're saying things that I could *never* ever be able to put into words, things that seemed "incomprehensible" or things that I "shouldn't express/talk about" so I never really thought about how *I* feel, or how *my* body feels. It sucks how knowledgeable yet ignorant we are at the same time. It sucks.

[@taylorsimmons255]

I think it’s something to be said about these older women openly exploiting Naota and how it informs his melancholy throughout the show. It could be read as an allegory or commentary on child abuse too.

[@ProfessorViral]

For sure, they're much more aware of themselves than him, and it makes it a very predatory situation. That's something I know many people are more suited to speak on than me, so I didn't dig into it here, but it is something which warranted more of a mention at least

[@MALICEM12]

@@ProfessorViral you already wore a fucking bunny suit and talked about sex. Why stop all of a sudden with the gorilla in the room and say "I'll let someone more qualified talk about it." It's KZbin, you don't need a certificate, you were already speaking your mind. Why censor yourself, just speak your mind.

[@nellowz5451]

although I dont know you as a person, from the type of content you make (that I enjoy btw), you wouldve been the last person for me to label as someone who has no idea how humans think and how they work but I suppose the fact that those complicated mechanisms about us fascinate you is why youre making these videos. Idunno if what I said made sense but thank you for making this. thank you for being honest and for not giving a damn about the initial impression you mightve left on some viewers (at least thats how it seems to me)

[@BeyondTheIslands]

I seem to remember a scene from “House of Cards” where after intercourse one party goes to the bathroom, while the other reaches for some napkins to clean up. This made me giddy - such a refreshingly real representation! I am yet to see somebody on screen taking a break in sex to get some water, but I understand that since it happens “in between”, that might be hard to pull off.

[@ProfessorViral]

For real. So many shows end with "haha we have made love, time to lay here perfectly happy" when it is always actually "who gets the bathroom first?"

[@SunkistBK]

I'd argue that FLCL is probably within the top 5 most important anime.

[@ProfessorViral]

I think it deserves a high spot for how much it did in only 6 episodes, if nothing else. It is the medium at its most concentrated, and it worked

[@SerifSansSerif]

I'm just commenting to give the algo boost. Wearing that bunny costume, you deserve it... 🤣

[@ProfessorViral]

I appreciate that too much 🙏

[@YesIHaveManyProblemsThanks]

Interesting, I cant say I gave it that much thought I'm a 31year old virgin who has never even held hands romantically, I never knew what flcl was about. I thought it was just waky and wild for the sack of it. Honestly I remeember the sex jokes but I didnt know it was the point of flcl. I guess the story of flcl didnt resonate with me because I just thought it was about robots fighting.

[@justinmay2295]

I have never had sex, so this was a very educational video. I really did enjoy it and learned so much about these feelings I have inside, I want to love someone but don't want to commit myself to them and that is just impossible.

[@stevehansen4112]

Me, asexual and never understanding FLCL despite it being an absolute tour de force to watch: Oh, thanks professor, i literally didn't get any of that until now.

[@ProfessorViral]

Happy I was able to share that perspective well!

[@CranberryBaby393]

Religious trauma is something that kept me from discovering myself. I am a sapphic, dorky, and somewhat very horny woman. And I have never felt happier to say that aloud. And as I continue to discover myself. I have a feeling I'm not alone in saying that's it's an embarrassing, scary, but rewarding experience. God I can't believe I got that off my chest.

[@DoubleTheStrings_tube]

Religion fucks with your head on so many levels as a kid. They basically invented the concept of virginity or this “mother mary” figure to keep women “pure” for their husbands, while on the contrast boys are told to be fruitful and multiply.

[@xanira6367]

really insightful video, def worth the watch

[@ProfessorViral]

Thank you, glad it was a positive watch!

[@bruhliciousdelicious1058]

I really appreciate you are making this a discussion. When I had my first time, I couldn't help to be disappointed especially since there is so much hype around sex and how good it should feel. I tried multiple times with the same person but there are so many factors that went into why it was terrible each time that I won't get into. After our breakup though I would have trouble letting go of that person due to those experiences. It was so painful as well went they would publicly state how sex wasn't as great as you'd expect it to be. It is true and I feel the same way, but with the pressure of getting this wonderful exciting and pleasureful sex, I couldn't help but to feel embarrassed, used, and betrayed. I wanted something back from them as a form of an apology because I felt entitled to a better experience especially after so many embarrassing moments from my end. I felt used and hurt by this person, but i know that they don't need to apologize to me or some form of compensation. They already have moved on from everything I am still stuck in my own head wanting something back that I will never get. What I expected was nothing like the actual thing and eventually you just become numb to the concept of sex while your body is still giving you urges. It is complicated and confusing. It would be great to have conversations with people in a civil and mature way so that we could sort through and figure out these complicated feelings easier.

[@GhostManCrisis]

Well done, mate, for talking about such difficult things.

[@ProfessorViral]

No problem, thank you for the encouragement 🙏

[@samsung4360]

I knew this day would come. I don't know how or why....., but I knew it would.

[@ProfessorViral]

It was hidden in there all somewhere 🤣

[@chrissu988]

"The person you let use you, because at least it's something" fuck that hit close to home

[@ProfessorViral]

The conception of desire formed in us by this weird thing called society leads to some unfortunate consequences

[@rewvernadski5280]

Cool essay man! This is a nice one point of perspective about FLCL ^^

[@monicav9151]

I really like how you express yourself 🥰 I just found you and I think it’s literally the first time I have subscribed just for watching one video but you should give yourself and your analytical skills more credit because this was really interesting to watch, thanks for doing this video it made me way more comfortable of the topic even though I thought I was already comfortable talking about this stuff.

[@karma4859]

Aight you got me with the intro of this one. My man is looking like the finest of bunny girls.

[@SunriseGirl]

Thank you so much for making this bideo and outting yourself out there, as weird as a topic as it is im glad you stepped up to discuss it, great video

[@AngDevigne]

You are a legend, Professor. Mad respect.

[@ProfessorViral]

Thank you! 🙏

[@BigSpicy555]

You’ve put into words emotions and events that are similar to my own. Phenomenal video

[@PETEYBOY954]

FLCL more like ADHD. God I love that show. My big brother gave me the original box set when I was 10 and I’ve treasured it ever since.

[@ProfessorViral]

Man, I wish my brother gave me anything like that haha. Fitting for a story about a younger brother too

[@CloppingIsMyThing]

Man... just facts about sex taking you on a ride just to leave you at square one, changed. And I can relate a little with your ex story, when I was on my ride no one told me I was Aro before hand. The people I used.... What I am to those people now, do they think about me... talk to therapist about my abuse. Am I still that person? It's the little things that make us drink, the big things to make us smoke and the hard things that make us jump. I need a drink, hopefully not a smoke, if it's just a jump think someone will catch me?

[@ocake2613]

I love how FLCL have two sides - Hmm that is such a cool show about sex and growing up 🧐 Or - OMFG IS THAT A FUCKING ROBOT COMING OUT OF HIS HEAD??? THAT'S SO COOL!!!

[@zentheghoul]

this video changed my life

[@Amamiyacasual]

Very good video friend. This was important for some people to hear I'm sure of it

[@bryan8503]

Thank you lanky white man, I just opened up some trauma I was avoiding because of this video. I now want to swing the bat and face whatever comes with that

[@ProfessorViral]

I hope the realization leads you somewhere positive. Just be safe and have a good grasp on what you need and want!

[@sappo_2960]

Extremely philosophically rich video, definitely going to watch a few times to get some more meaning out of it, since words don't seem to obtain meaning until you've heard them before

[@greendude0420]

I guess they took flcl out of my library once I started asking questions about the main character 😆

[@greendude0420]

But yeah that’s my personal shit show

[@melancholicotaku]

I did not expect to be memorized by the video but yet here I am wanting to gush about how I love the essay but can’t find the words to do so.

[@maggiefix249]

I actually had the luck of finding a partner whom I could talk openly about anything. We have both been in our teens when we got together and we had our first act when I had been 15. I have been so curios. I don't regret anything, it simply clicked. That's why I really can't relate to these problems as much. I am aware that this is a rare occurence and I really don't care when or if people make these experiences. I have plenty of friends in their twenties, most of them had never gotten this far in their relationships and I always try to make them feel that it really does not need to be rushed or achieved or anything.

[@bekann]

Thank you we need more people like this