Programming Burnout Is Real - But You CAN Heal

[@HealthyDev]

Are you concerned about burning out from programming, or already suffering? Share what you're going through, and what you're learning. I hope this episode helps you see how burnout is often a combination of job stresses, personal things we need to work on, and circumstances outside our control. ►► Know your options! Access my FREE data hub for the top 25 software industry roles, TechRolepedia → jaymeedwards.com/access-techrolepedia/ CHAPTER MARKERS 0:00 Introduction 0:59 1 SELF-INFLICTED BURNOUT CAUSES 1:05 1.1 People Pleasing 1:41 1.2 Overextending at Work 2:03 1.3 Side Gigs 2:15 1.4 High Expenses 2:51 1.5 Drug Addiction 3:18 1.6 Guilt and Shame 3:59 2 OTHER-INFLICTED BURNOUT CAUSES 4:16 2.1 Political Lies and Manipulation at Work 5:31 2.2 Recurring Project Firefighting 6:42 2.3 Betrayed by a Coworker 8:04 3 CIRCUMSTANTIAL BURNOUT CAUSES 8:34 3.1 My Child Struggled With Dangerous Addiction 10:07 3.2 My Father Died At a Young Age 10:45 3.3 9/11 Work Culture Changes 12:04 3.4 My Wife's Abuse 13:36 4 BURNOUT TRIGGERS 13:42 4.1 Startup Partner Exited 14:27 4.2 Marriage Became Distant 15:13 4.3 Recurring Relapse of My Child 15:54 4.4 Company Bought Out 17:04 5 MY BURNOUT SYMPTOMS 17:12 5.1 Chronic Insomnia 19:03 5.2 Uncontrollable Anger 19:47 5.3 Forced to Resign 20:25 5.4 Spent Emergency Savings 21:29 5.5 Spent Remaining Cash 21:49 5.6 Sold All My Stocks 22:09 5.7 Fell Behind on Mortgage 22:54 6 STRUGGLING THROUGH RECOVERY 23:05 6.1 Tried Quitting Development 23:33 6.2 My Wife and I Found God 26:11 6.3 My Addicted Child Moved Out 27:03 6.4 I Started on KZbin 28:32 6.5 I Started Career Coaching 30:43 6.6 My Sleep Improved 32:01 7 HOW BURNOUT CHANGED ME 32:11 7.1 Recovery is Daily 32:31 7.2 Confronted My Addiction 33:09 7.3 Became Aware of My Limits 34:01 7.4 Embraced My Suffering 34:24 7.5 Motivated By Change 36:50 7.6 I Began Tithing 39:03 7.7 Learning To Live Sober 40:13 7.7 Focus on The Positive 41:09 7.8 Reject Being Defined By Work 43:56 Episode Groove

[@b152349]

Please go into more detail on the coping strategies you had to learn when you stopped using weed and booze. I'm reading a book on CBT called cognitive behavioral therapy in 7 weeks. And have a lot of hope that it will be helpful

[@Олексій-г1в]

Hello @HealthyDev this message may or may not change your life so be carefull. Please check yourself for ADHD. I'm telling you so, as from what I heard, lot of your personal issues are common symptoms and behaviour of peoples with ADHD. Online test will take 3 min, but to be sure its beter check brain in clinic. I'm Senior Lead SDET, and I can much relate and really feel you man. I have mostly same issues with humans, MW addiction, trust and work isues, impostor syndrome, anger control issues, hyperefectivness on work, often changing of projects, isomnia, overall frustrations and MASIVE burnouts like for half of year or so. Most of them are most common ADHD and neurodivergency related symptoms. And if you have any - from experience it's better for you and family to know about it, because in this case if you know, you are prepared, and you know how to react and coup symptoms. Thank you for your blog, and take care about yourself.

[@HealthyDev]

@@Олексій-г1вwe have someone else in the extended family who has ADHD but I’ve yet to test for it. I may at some point, but I’m doing pretty well these days. Thanks for the suggestion.

[@Олексій-г1в]

​@@HealthyDev glad to hear that and hope i did not scare you, It's not as bad as it sounds. ADHD is more responsive and complex brain circuitry =) So it is basically like you have a very fast brain without proper breaks, like GTX4090 but PC with 2GB RAM, and when your brain starts working on a problem it goes WRRRRRRRRR and you have trouble calming it down, because you do not have enough RAM to open task manager and close ongoing tasks, and when it overheats you start burning-out untill hard reset(depression and rehabilitation). It may have some negative effects on personal life but it also makes people perform better in creative work with a lot of variables, like... programming, product management, or mentoring... People with it think in more detail but have a hard time concentrating on one thing for too long. Such people are often good team leaders and high personal contributors. At least that is my experience of it.

[@HealthyDev]

@@Олексій-г1вall good I can tell your intentions are to be helpful. 👍

[@leversofpower]

Dude thanks for sharing. Means a lot in world where everyone is trying to appear so damn smart and heroic.

[@HealthyDev]

Thanks I just don’t see any other option than to at least try and be more transparent. I’m tired of empty promises and I think more people are seeing through them now too - which is a good thing. I don’t love that some of this crap went down in my life, but it seems kind of pointless to hide it if I’m going to help anyone. I’d rather work with people that accept that I’ve made some stupid mistakes. 🤦🏻‍♂️

[@AllyTloubatla]

This is a very timeless piece of advice and this is what is missing sometimes in development content, as much as we work in technology but we are human beings too and we go through a lot of struggles outside the compiler.

[@chaoscarl8414]

This one hit pretty hard. I've been unemployed for nearly a year now, struggling with a deep depression and slowly trying to put my life back together again. The lies... The insomnia... The rage... I've been dealing with that for years. Wish I'd done something about it sooner, but it wasn't until I found myself standing by the highway looking for an oncoming truck that I realized just how bad things were and went looking for help. But it's a slow and painful process. And honestly, I just can't see myself returning to IT again. I still like programming, I just don't like the industry. I think it's way past the time where we - programmers and managers alike - should take a step back and have a hard look at the work environment we create. I've seen way too many colleagues burning out over the last decade. Some recovered and came back. Some I never heard from again. I've heard some claim that it's a personal failing. That people just aren't tough enough for the job. I call BS on that. This isn't just a few persons we're talking about, this is a systemic problem within the industry.

[@Gumitto]

Same, a year break and now looking for a job, but now I'm really scared of entering into another scrum-toxic workplace. IT is a violent workplace, so we need to be extremely selective of projects we decide to get into.

[@adrianpad]

Everything will be fine bro. We just have to keep at it, doing good, doing better for ourselves

[@deathbombs]

What's your yoe? I would say keep fighting

[@l3lackoutsMedia]

Try to look at a past version of yourself, that did things that made you feel happy and move bit by bit some of that past self to your current self

[@ThunderhorseGuitar]

Brother you had a tough life so far. But you are making gold from your past experience. Thank you for helping others. God bless you!

[@HealthyDev]

Thanks for the encouragement, it really is appreciated. We all need each other.

[@fieryprophet]

Rare to find such a long-form video that's still jam-packed with insight and words of wisdom!

[@michaeldeane4807]

I appreciate this video. I feel I'm on the tail end of a really bad burnout and I can relate to what you're saying. Emotionally and financially. One thing that's helped me is seeing how common this is in our industry and to take more ownership over my life and career. As a long time pot head myself, it's been a negative, comfortable coping mechanism which really prevented me from making positive changes in my life and career.

[@michaelmemory6938]

One of the most sincere videos on this topic I've ever seen. That alone deserves massive respect. Keep up the good work, brother.

[@HealthyDev]

Thanks for your support! 🙏

[@BReelz28]

I appreciate the level of candor you put into this video. For me this comes at a perfect time where I'm doing a deep-dive into my soul. I feel I've been in the middle of a burnout for the past few years (a burnout I feel can get worse still if I let it), and this made me call into question everything in my life (not just what's going on with work and my career). I'm 30 right now, and I'm trying to decide what I want from my career, if I want this career at all, and even dipping into spirituality myself. I feel like a baby on this journey, and so I thank you for being able to share your anecdotes. To me this is SO much more important (especially now coming out of this pandemic) than the latest frameworks and what to watch out for. Thank you!

[@HealthyDev]

I didn’t really start sorting out my life until my 40s, it’s awesomely to think you’re on your journey at 30! I hope you find what you need soon. 🙏

[@andrewfbrown]

The algo pops your vids up from time to time. WOW I needed this one. Thank you for your candor and willingness to help others.

[@hkm674]

Thank you for blessing me with your story/testimony. I have a son who is a recent software engineering grad who had a job but was laid off in July. He is so discouraged. This is the first video of yours that I have watched! I believe the Lord led me to your channel. It was an answer to prayer and I will be praying for you and your family.

[@HealthyDev]

Thank you so much! It's great to hear this was helpful. We can always use prayer, appreciate it.

[@dliedke]

Really appreciate all the courage and honesty to expose all the good and bad in your life. It will help a lot of people that might be too addicted to work, money, endless career growth and can't really priority health, relationships and love that are more important in life.

[@HealthyDev]

Thanks so much for the kind encouragement. I hope so too!

[@danielharder7511]

Been putting myself through school for software development while also building an IT career at the same time. That along with other life problems that have come up has been taxing to say the least. I want to sincerely thank you for this video and your story. I haven't even really entered the field and was already feeling burnt out. Seeing a mature man who has been through the thick of it is very helpful.

[@HealthyDev]

Hopefully your journey is WAY smoother than mine was. As I said in the video, a significant contributor to my burnout was stupid decisions I'd made!

[@brando8314]

The algorithm did not disappoint. Thank you for sharing and I'll share that, as a Christian, I have some of the same struggles and some of the same benefits. If this is the worst it gets, here on Earth, we have so much to be grateful for and so much to which we look forward. Glad I found this channel, it's been a comfort to listen to something relaxing and inspiring while I work. Also, that guitar riff is solid.

[@brookrichardson1373]

Your videos give me flashbacks to times in my working career that I have found difficult, but I watch them because it gives me comfort that someone else has experienced these things and it makes me trust your content.

[@horstschlumma8501]

Thank you. You're offering valuable advice making this channel so unique.

[@tuffgniuz]

This video really made me feel less alone, especially the fear of not having enough money to provide for my family. It also gives me hope I can get better.

[@w32crazydev]

I was seeking for this content today and i see this fresh video on my feed and i am loving it. Living a similar situation as a principal engineer with 20 years of non stop action Thank you for this man :)

[@LukeAvedon]

This is suchhhhhh a great channel.

[@KemalAhmedIsAwesome]

I think this was a really amazing video. I love that faith was your way to see meaning again in things.

[@HealthyDev]

Thanks, it’s definitely not what I expected to happen. But in hindsight it seems to make sense.

[@MarcinWanago]

Thank you for sharing. When I was in a bad place, I used to say - "If you work hard enough, you will be able to replace the feeling of emptiness with exhaustion". It worked for me for a few years and I still fall back on this from time to time. But we have to take care of ourselves, this is a straight path to burnout.

[@adrianpad]

I have watched your channel since the beginning and I had no idea. I'm dealing with burnout myself. Every single video that you have uploaded have been of absolute help. You are making an impact. And I also have heard that helping others helps with burnout.

[@HealthyDev]

Thanks for you support, sorry to hear you’re struggling with burnout too. I tried to share some of this in earlier videos but I figured it was time to put the few remaining things I wasn’t ready to share out there. My wife says when we tell our stories, they have less power over us. Guess I’ll have to just wait and see!

[@ToastedBagel5G]

The more I watch your videos, the more I can relate to the struggles you experienced, and I'm glad there's a way to heal, I'm glad you're open to sharing, thank you

[@HealthyDev]

I'm so glad you can relate. It helps to know I'm not alone.

[@TriInfinity]

As a dev that just graduated when the Volkswagen Dieselgate affair started and development was freezed and everyone went into support and afterwards having covid, I can feel for your struggle.. Sometimes I think youtube is more real than the real world, where noooobody is talking about those things and struggles.

[@alexm9104]

It differs from culture to culture. In Eastern Europe and Russia people talk about that shit. Not all the time but sometimes. There's even exist some kind of music subgenre, called post-punk or "doomer" music.

[@akashchanda3204]

I really appreciate your sincerity and how genuine you are. I'm glad to hear you recovered from a lot of dark times. Thank you for doing what you do.

[@DiogoMudo]

Thanks for sharing so much and congrats on surviving it and turning the things over. I have seen families completely fall apart when struck with the "child on heavy drugs" problem. I will join in the prayers that your child overcomes this.

[@HealthyDev]

Thank you!

[@ChristmasLights2]

Dude, you give me so much hope.

[@SamPatterson-u5x]

Great channel, truly special. You always keep it real at every level. Bravo! I really liked what you said about focusing on helping people around you. In general, I've found that the most fulfilling projects are ones with a tight feedback loop where you can keep creating and keep seeing the results quickly. My favorite project ever was when I was developing lots of code that other engineers were using and depending on, and we were collaborating multiple times daily to work through things together.

[@arto00-g2n]

Thank you for sharing! Feeling burn out now. Comes and goes but the main sign is lack of motivation in between my next big step in my career and financial steps. Everything is fine, which I know I’m fortune and lucky, but this video really helped so thank you!! You’re a hero in our world and best wishes for your healing!

[@IotaEtaSigma]

Bravo! I really loved this video. I loved your honesty and particularly the fact that you were honest about your faith and, most of all, your care that you don't want to smother your viewers with it. Everything must be done with love. True love is not a feeling. True love is to will the good for the other's sake without expecting anything back. That will make you truly free.

[@KingKong-je4zr]

Wow this is an excellent video. Burnout is really scary, I’ve gone through two phases of it in my life and a lot of this video rings true.

[@dominikdorfi]

It's like you are telling my life story. That hit really deep, thanks for sharing.

[@alexandervasylevskyi1332]

I haven't watched it to the end yet, and I'm 10 years in software development. And I want to say thank you for sharing all of this and I more importantly I believe you have a lot more to come!

[@zabs1671]

Hi, I’ve watched a few of your videos via YT recommendations, but this is the first one I’ve seen where you discussed your personal life and faith. I had no idea about any of that before today, it was very illuminating, and I can sense how difficult it was to share. As a person of faith myself (Muslim) I relate to the need to please God instead of people. People (myself included) are inherently ungrateful and self-centred, it’s part of the human condition. Having a higher purpose and intention makes all the difference, and is sometimes the only reason I login some days. 😅

[@Chris-ki2dx]

I'll be the next person to say this: this video hits really hard. There's so much to unpack here that I'll have to think and come back to it for days, weeks, if not months. In my comment I would like to just thank you for sharing this. This past year I've found myself lashing out in anger at people over some really unnecessary things, getting into unnecessary arguments etc. And I have other stuff that makes me think I might be on the verge of burning out, and that I really need to take this seriously. So again, thank you for sharing this. I don't think I'm able to emphasize enough how valuable this video is.

[@HealthyDev]

Thanks Chris, glad to hear it helped some. 🙌

[@klashe1977]

Powerful & poignant. Love your teachings and always a must watch. Thank you. Thank you.

[@Daemon_Dev]

Thank you for being so open about this, takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable online. I do see myself in some of your struggles, especially the ones relating to people pleasing and your self-worth being tied to your work performance. As to suggestion to help others, I’m still struggling with my own burnout but your video on the four pillars is really helpful to identify the potential issues with your current role. I didn’t expect Impact to be lacking as much as it is in the AAA game project I’m on, it’s mainly firefighting to fix the poor choices of others with no end in sight.

[@413453425]

7 years into software dev and I’ve had a couple close calls with burnout. No joke, some of your earlier videos fed into decisions that helped avoid reaching a breaking point. Really appreciate your thoughts on the topic!

[@HealthyDev]

You have no idea how happy it makes me to hear that! I do these with the hopes people don’t have to get to these dark places I’ve been.

[@RamiBokhari]

Your sincere feelings have reached my heart, I hope and pray the best for you and your family.. thank you for sharing your story and reminding us that we all go through our own battles no matter how strong we look on the outside 😢❤🙏

[@HealthyDev]

Thanks for your support!

[@Catluvr543]

Thank you so much for being vulnerable with us, this video means a lot to me and is soooo relatable

[@HealthyDev]

You’re very welcome! Thanks for your support. 🙏

[@david2am]

Thanks for sharing that kind of stuff, I know it's not easy but people like me that are wondering what decisions should we take in our careers or how to handle difficult situations in our workplaces, it's a blessing

[@dougsaylor6442]

Thank you, this was really helpful for framing the problem. I've been noticing the signs in myself, and thankfully I have a really supportive partner that is understanding and helping me through it. I feel like I've spent a lot of time and energy on my career because I've had a hard time separating my personal value from my career value. Conflating the two makes it difficult to effectively manage my energy, and it takes a toll. Having realized this, I'm learning more about my other interests and finding ways to reconnect with the other areas of my life I've frankly been neglecting. It's really helpful to see I'm not alone, as it validates my struggle and shows me that it's possible to dig my way out of it. Thank you very much!

[@HealthyDev]

Glad it helped!

[@ricvargas1]

Hey Jayme: Thanks for this!!!

[@friaga]

Thank you so much for sharing. After watching this video I can relate most of the experiences you had, and all these comments tell me that this burnout issue is very common and we are not alone. I have been a software developer for more than 20 years and at this point of life (40s) I have been trying to recover from a burnout by changing habits. This industry create really hard habits to break, and it really takes a toll and some time to change simple habits like spend quality time with family, exercise, praying, eat healthy food, lower caffeine consumption, no alcohol, good sleep time, read, reflect, meditate, learn to say NO, stop doing side hustles, learn to slow down the pace in life, fix financial issues among others. I hope you keep on going with your mission to keep software developers healthy!

[@xEndgameRA]

Thank you for making this video, it's exactly on time as I'm going through difficult times right now. I appreciate you sharing your story and try to help others. Keep up the good work.

[@MehdiBouzidi]

Thanks for sharing all those private things. I'm myself going through some burnout, and watching this video kinda helped me.

[@sergeyshevtsov5125]

This is another side of programming world and life in general that nobody likes to mention. This was really insightful. Thank you Jayme. Wish you all the best. P.S. Nice guitar cuts, I love it :)

[@CashMoneyMoore]

Thanks for being so open!

[@nhattran536]

The part about your child was very emotional. Thanks for sharing. Really liked the guitar riff in between as well. Great content.

[@boot-strapper]

I burned out too. I used all my savings to take about a year off. When I decided it was time to go back to work the market was in the toilet. Now I'm having trouble finding work. I got a job, but they had layoffs on my 5th week and I was included in that. Now I have a new job in the queue but they keep pushing the start date out. Essentially I've gone almost 18 months without an income and im almost out of cash. It's scary. And the thing is, im not sure if my burnout will come back fast or not. I really dont know what to do.

[@HealthyDev]

Man, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I hope you have friends or family who know what’s going on and can encourage you through this hard time. I had to find some new friends when I was in the middle of it because I really only had fairweather friends. Hang in there, hopefully a great opportunity comes your way soon!

[@RodrigoVeccoHaddadJimpa]

This is exactly the right way to turn your own difficulties in pure gold. Thank you so much for sharing this.

[@HealthyDev]

Thanks for the kind feedback. Glad you enjoyed it!

[@b152349]

Thanks for sharing dude

[@leversofpower]

20 some years into development and seesh. It’s hard to keep dealing with all this corp slog. I keep looking to escape the turds but can’t seem to get out of the stall. Where have the all cool devs gone?

[@timamet]

Thank you for sharing this.

[@thornite]

Thank you. Hearing the viewpoints from a point of found logic are refreshing. Personally, it's really nice to hear an external voice saying these things. Life and situations didn't always make it easy to see the negatives as opportunities beyond the challenge. Maybe that too is a forever thing. Cheers.

[@MrSk8dr]

Thank you for sharing!! ❤I will probably rewatch this a few times. We don’t have enough content like this in the dev community.

[@AlexSuperTramp-]

Incredible video that shows how life and career is marathon. I also have a cannabis addiction. I'm over 10 years into it now. It's very inspiring to know you overcame it. Thank you!

[@HealthyDev]

You’re very welcome. It’s unfortunate that so many people think weed isn’t addictive. Everyone I’ve met who said it wasn’t a problem (including me) was just hiding the truth. Hang in there. When you’re ready, it’s definitely possible to move on!

[@Babakanian]

I follow your channel for professional advice, and I found this video to be extremely important and helpful. thank you for sharing your personal life with us the public, it's very brave of you to do this.

[@HealthyDev]

You're very welcome! I feel like if people are going to consider advice from me, they should know my flaws and challenges.

[@Babakanian]

@@HealthyDev flaws and challenges are part of what makes us human, where our tech jobs, require us to be less human and we have to find the balance to lead a good life.

[@HealthyDev]

@@Babakanian couldn’t agree more!

[@workingpersonpundit7921]

Great video. .... Dealing with burnout now. Appreciate this video.

[@stanislavzemlyakov5442]

Thank you for sharing honestly! It was very touching. Made me to think about various things with different angle. From Russia with love.

[@mortezarajabi3737]

These are all life lessons and are amazing. The experiences you had and also sharing it, is priceless. I'm probably experiencing a fraction of these and to be honest there are very very few people that can understand what all of these means and advising how we can survive through it. Please keep doing great work.

[@fatomahmed4298]

You are so courageous 🎉❤❤ Thank you for sharing ❤, we support you and really value and appreciate your opening up❤

[@rolandovazquez576]

Thank you so much for sharing, This video is what I was needed, I am sure this is going to help me a lot

[@View619]

Thanks for sharing, it's appreciated. Putting your life on stage for the benefit of others is never easy, but it's definitely a learning experience for me.

[@errrzarrr]

Wow! Didn't know you have been thru so much. It takes courage to share your pains. Thank you! You've been an eye-opener for a lot of us. You have been a relief👏🏻

[@dunkmaster8470]

Thank you! It's 4:30 am atm of writing this comment, I'm finishing my winter semester in my third year of uni and am feeling super tired and really undone physically because of all the different projects. I really needed to hear someone say some positive and thought-provoking things that gave a deeper appreciation for all of the people I have in my life and their understanding of the volume of work I had to do that in the final weeks is just testing my limits. I do not feel as getting close to it or even thinking about it but I see how unhealthy choices can turn it around for me very quickly. I hope I remember to edit or respond to my comment after ai finally get my bachelor this academic year. I really appreciate you giving a lot of context to what lead you to burning out, it must have taken a lot of bravery to open up like that and you are absolutely crushing it man (I should refer to you as sir given I'm probably more than half your age hahah)! I hope all is well and God bless you!

[@HealthyDev]

Thank you :). Best of luck with your studies!

[@porcusx]

❤ I really needed to hear this. As a software dev working for a consulting company who's experiencing some of the same things you described, I feel i can relate in some small way to the feeling of burnout. I've been passively looking for other work, but i probably need to be more assertive in my current role and/or make a more decisive change about a future job. My faith has also been a significant positive source of consolation and balanced, long-term perspective in my career. By learning to focus on contributing to truly positive outcomes for other individuals (but without aiming specifically to please others), i think I've avoided some pitfalls i might have otherwise stumbled into.

[@matttakamatsu9909]

Somehow ran into this researching how much a PO should get out of a pull request, but feeling really good about my last 45 minutes. Thank you for posting Much learned

[@yeahdudex]

Thank you for this video... I'm 40 now (holy shit... where did the time go?) and have been a software developer for just over a year, after leaving a better paying job where I loved almost everyone that I worked with to take the risk and pursue something I genuinely enjoy doing. Reflecting on my situation after watching this video, I'm realizing that I feel so burnt out all the time (in particular having chronic back pain) partially because my parents are in such bad health (they're both terminally ill) and I don't know how to deal with it, but, surprisingly to me, largely because of my desire to prove to everyone how smart and capable I am, because my narcissistic, abusive parent would always degrade my siblings and I for being stupid... it's an insecurity thing. I'm not really even working hard for the expectation of a better bonus - I'm working too hard to prove to people that I'm not stupid. Honestly, it's kind of pathetic when I think about it... there's so much more to life than your job, especially when you're a cog in some multinational corporation's machine... I think there are two big things at play that I can forgive myself for though, because I wouldn't have had any way to see them coming: 1. writing code professionally is still *super* fucking fun, so even when you're so mentally fried you can barely speak, you still feel tempted to "pop back online for a few minutes" 2. you have to advocate for yourself in the work place because even really good managers are too overwhelmed with their own shit to figure out what's going on with you/how hard you're finding a task/project, or that you're beyond stressed out and need some time off. I guess I naively thought that my manager (who is awesome, thank God) would be able to clearly see or understand how hard I was working/how much effort I was putting into projects (again, first software dev gig) - but that isn't reality. You really do have to advocate for yourself.

[@comp20B]

53yo here. You are saying what needs to be said.

[@yasinyazdanvocal]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts very useful information for how to deal with burnout

[@judahwilson6756]

Wow! Going so strong after going through so much! Thanks for your insight vid after vid!

[@rhiox412]

i watched all your video, i dont usually comment videos, but thanks for sharing, i dont personally have those problems,but it helped me to be more greatfull about my life, so thanks you and hope you get even better.

[@HealthyDev]

Thank you!

[@FishJokes]

Wow this was quite a video to watch, I really appreciate you sharing this. I find myself on the beginning of my programming journey after college working 1 year as a junior and I get terrified looking at the seniors with bags under their eyes and overall giving off a very heavy burdened vibe. It's almost like I feel scared to progress in this field if that's what is going to happen.

[@HealthyDev]

Hang in there. I make this stuff precisely so that doesn't happen to you!

[@kfletcher2005]

Hey my dude. Just found your channel. I can relate to your experience as my background is very similar. I've been through the wringer too, but I'm well on my way to a strong recovery. I don't have a YT channel or anything. But I've been in the business almost 30 years as developer. Maybe we'll have a chance to talk one day where I can share my story and maybe I can help suggest a strategy to help your child who's having issues.

[@Yes-Man]

Although I'm not on board with the believe thing, your videos are a source of help and inspiration. If nothing else, they provide something to think about. Always. Good work!

[@skyz]

Wow. This was amazing. Thanks, brother.

[@rickyisajedi]

Wow dude. This was an amazing story. Thank you for sharing. This helps me. I’ve been thinking long and hard if I even want to be doing software engineering anymore. Thanks for sharing the story.

[@streetchronicles5693]

Thank you for this!

[@jjmalm]

Thanks for sharing this. It's always good to remember a lot of people online have things going on, and that can sometimes cause interactions to become unhealthy. I enjoy your content and thanks for taking the time to share your experiences, professional and other.

[@dameneko]

I knew there was a reason why your voice resonated with me so much. Thank you for sharing. I grew up in a DV/SA household and coming from a chaotic, chronically impoverished family with a drug addict father and a mentally ill mother had a profound impact on my professional life, even after I "escaped". There is so much I had to learn the hard way. I feel like there is not a lot out there for folks who can't talk about their careers with their family. I've got massive survivor guilt to this day, making 4-5 times what my cousins do; yet I am deeply resentful of being financially violated by my mother. Being lied to and repeatedly gaslit at work was deeply triggering for my CPTSD, and I couldn't talk about it with anyone. I've had to take breaks between jobs. On balance, I think my life experiences make me a better manager and coworker, but I've also had to be careful to not fall into rescuer mode (which was my role at home) or fall into codependency.

[@HealthyDev]

Man, I really relate to “rescuer mode”. I’m starting to change but it’s always been my default since growing up.

[@measuredincm]

Thanks for sharing your experience. I appreciate how much you shared about the non-career events going on in your life - it's a pretty big clue that burnout is something larger than just the job. I just left a work situation where I used to love my job, but company changes / downsizing and increased work load made the situation bad and I was no longer enjoying helping my coworkers. My burnout was worse than I thought in a lot of ways, but this video is making me consider that the path I was on had a lot more potential pain ahead, and I need to consider the risks carefully as I'm picking new roles.

[@rensezi3529]

Just want to say that your videos have helped a lot. Thanks for taking the time to make these videos.

[@LrdOfNightmares]

This video really helped me start viewing things a bit differently. Wish you the best to you and your family. Thank you.

[@phamster2008]

I really love your story and I can relate to some parts of your story. I hope to meet more people like you one day. Im also from Austin. Stay strong and well bud.

[@HealthyDev]

Thanks for your support! It's rare I meet people FROM Austin. Seems to be so many migrants from other parts of the country here!

[@hikemalliday6007]

Watching again, and man your burnout story is hardcore. Thanks for sharing

[@HealthyDev]

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[@corndogblue7]

Wow I had a lot of those symptoms too, waking up in a panic in the middle of the night not really insomnia, plus lack of appetite, extreme anger, acute panic attacks, used all my vacation too. Then I quit and slept for like a year before going back out to get work, started seeing a therapist and focusing on mental health, so far I'm better.

[@HealthyDev]

So great to hear you're feeling better!

[@kimborambo]

Thanks for sharing this, it can’t have been easy

[@jinto_reedwine]

Thank you for sharing your experiences in the industry as well as your personal testimony! There are precious few people who are this honest in person let alone on KZbin. I've been right up to the line on burnout twice and God was my path out as well. I really appreciate your emphasis on mentoring coworkers. Until I found your videos I would focus on doing the right thing for the users of our software, but your past videos made me realize I should also invest time into building up my fellow developers.

[@hamedjafarinejad4577]

thanks so much. i am strugling with burning out it was so much helpfull for me ❤

[@ctbwx]

I started working in the software industry when I was 20, I'm 26 now, so still relatively early in my career. I'm at a point where I'm trying to figure out what the next steps for my career are. I've watched about a dozen of your videos now, just to get some perspective on this inquisition, from more experienced people in the industry. All that to say, I find your videos really insightful and helpful Jayme. I think the context and experiences you share about your own career and personal life is really valuable. This video must have been challenging to make. I just want to express my appreciation for you sharing this with the world. Even as someone who doesn't even come close to having nearly as many complexities or challenges as you in personal life, and doesn't share the same beliefs about religion as you... I think having listened to your story has helped me tremendously in considering what really matters when thinking about where to go next in my career. 🙏

[@billions8491]

I'm still in the learning stages of becoming a developer, so I've never held a job in the field or anything, but your videos started popping up due to the good ole algorithm and man... this one really resonated with me. I appreciate so much you being so open about your past and I absolutely love/agree with your main objective being helping people be a healthy programmer. It pretty much made my day to hear of your faith in Jesus as well. God bless you man, and thank you so much for these videos

[@HealthyDev]

You're so very welcome! Glad this might give you some hope going into this industry.

[@jensingels5958]

I can relate with some earlier parts of your video. It's hard to deal with long term circumstances out of your controle. They take a large chunk of your time in a day, grant you little controle over the small amount of time you do have. It takes a toll to be able to generate a time pocket which suppose to give you some breathingroom that instead get emptied again for another uncontrollable circumstance. Until someone develops the right skills, he's a slave to the financial system that determines the spending of your most valuable currency called time.

[@RannyeriRodriguesB]

somehow the way you recorded this video felt a lot like a conversation, and being on the other side of the screen trying to figure out if that's what's going on with me, I felt like I had a friend telling me about his experience with it, and that we're trying to figure this out together. Thank you for the video

[@HealthyDev]

You're so very welcome. This is why I do this! You're not alone.

[@deidran2116]

I commend you for being so real. Best wishes to you and your family.

[@cirezno5960]

It's heart touching... ..you save my life with what i am going through. Didn't know that religion, prayers still protect me from those toxic managers and colleagues. May God bless you 🙏🏾 🇫🇷

[@mikeross137]

I appreciate you sharing and being so vulnerable in this video. I can attest that faith in Christ has provided strength for me as well. I'm glad you are healing and helping others heal with you.

[@yinianlee4966]

Thank you for sharing your experience. I want to let you know this is the second time you’ve helped me

[@PabloCazares9373]

Thank you for making this video. I was not expecting to watch something like this when I clicked on it. I can relate to a lot of it. I'm towards the end part currently, in insomnia, behind on the mortgage, and need to focus on my relationship with god.

[@HealthyDev]

Oh man. Hang in there. It IS possible to get back on your feet. It's a slow process but you can get through it!

[@billmalcolm4291]

Hey, I thought I recognized a bit of a Wisconsin accent! Greetings from Milwaukee! And thank you for this, I have a hard time articulating how I feel sometimes and this definitely helps with naming some of my own demons