Prohibitions of Intimacy | Q&A | Shaykh Dr. Yasir Qadhi

00:00 intro
00:40 Is masturbation permissible in Islam?
17:52 What is not permitted during intimacy between a married couple?
37:48 Is oral sex allowed between a married couple?
51:44 Can a husband force his wife to engage in intercourse?
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[@muhammedjbah5832]

The Ummah needs scholars like you, barakAllahu feekum.

[@jamesbuckwas6575]

I have heard that Yasir Qadhi is not a scholar in the sense of him being knowledgeable enough to give fatwas, he has rather called himself a student of knowledge. In addition, sheikh or imam may be an accurate description as well.

[@gabrielabdul8372]

I love you Sheikh Yasir Qadhi for the sake of Allah.

[@Omar-xg3lm]

Props to Shaykh for doing the whole thing with a straight face.

[@trustinallah8322]

Can anyone please pray for me to pass in the entrance exam I wrote and get admission in government medical collage this year May Allah accept all of your DUAS Ameen❤

[@masjidrats2012]

May Allah give you success

[@abdulelahkhunji6871]

Say the following : اللهم انت ربي لا إله إلا أنت, خلقتنى وأنا عبدك وأنا على عهدك ووعدك ما استطعت, أعوذبك من شر ما صنعت, أبوء لك بنعمتك على وأبوء بذنبى فاغفر لي فإنه لا يغفر الذنوب إلا أنت شاهد أيضا: دعاء جميل و اكثر من رائع Oh Allah!, You are my Lord, there is No deity but You. You Created me and I am Your servant and I am trying my best to keep my Oath (offaith) to You and to seek to live in the hope of Your Promise. I seek Refuge in You from my greatest evil deeds. I acknowledge Your Blessings upon me and my sins. So forgive me, for none but You can forgive sin.. But don't forget to pray for me too... 🌷🌼🌷🌼

[@abdulelahkhunji6871]

@321shack And when My servant question thee concerning Me, then surely I am nigh. I answer the prayer of the suppliant when he crieth unto Me. So let them hear My call and let them trust in Me, in order that they may be led aright .... وَإِذَا سَأَلَكَ عِبَادِي عَنِّي فَإِنِّي قَرِيبٌ ۖ أُجِيبُ دَعْوَةَ الدَّاعِ إِذَا دَعَانِ ۖ فَلْيَسْتَجِيبُوا لِي وَلْيُؤْمِنُوا بِي لَعَلَّهُمْ يَرْشُدُونَ.. 🌼🌷👍🏻والحمدلله

[@afrozaparveen5579]

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[@abulkalam2671]

Insha Allah you will pass we will pray for you

[@YahyaJohnLeigh]

Comments like "western culture and "eastern culture really sets the stage for inherent bias but I'm grateful it was revealed.

[@rifqanmarikar1822]

We really appreciate Dr.Yasir Q, for talking and. clearing our concerns & doubts, which we were carrying for decades. May Allah bless him in abundance

[@fauziyatadamu4701]

MashaAllah Islam is a complete way of life

[@danimoosakhan]

Best lecture I ever had in my entire life. May Allah strengthen the marriages.

[@slackerforever]

Alhamdolillah, you are such a blessing for the community. May Allah give barakah in your life.

[@mouarcraig3846]

First time I hear a very frank talk about intimacy. Thank you so much. Haram and Halal are clear and stated in the Quran. Other than that, it's an opinion.

[@AzimZicar]

mufti muneer also done something like this

[@walidahmed286]

I simply wanna say- May Allah bless you.

[@abdulelahkhunji6871]

Yasser you are the best.. MashaAllah

[@abulkalam2671]

Thank you sensible and straightforward advice

[@saad1983]

Thank you so much addressing some of the very difficult questions that are majorly effected by our societal beliefs. What is shariah and what we believe in terms of our cultural norms are two very different things. This video helped me understand extremely clearly where my religion stands on this subject. May Allah bless you and repay you for educating myself and my muslim brothers and sisters. We need more educated and current connected Muslim scholars such as yourself who help close the gap between speculation and knowing our deen for a certain. Wallah, thank you for helping me understand my mazhab better. shukran.

[@sslilac]

Mashallah, Mashallah may Allah swt bless you. Wonderful lecture and presentation. Our beautiful religion has a solution for everything. We all needed to hear this.

[@fasilatsanusi7431]

MaasahAllah What a great explanation. This is always a grey area in Islamic teachings and yet it is a basic way of life

[@hashtag9877]

very well spoken. jazak allah for sharing. may allah reward you

[@JavedKhan-ve7iy]

ASA. Jazak Allah Khairun Sheikh Yaseer Qadhi. May Allah reward you for the best analysis of a topic, mostly no one discussing publicly or privately. A well prepared answers for each question. May Allah protect you, your family, friends and all Epic volunteers to produce this beautiful program. Ameen.

[@kaderameer3583]

Assalamualikum ustaz allah bless u forever till Jannah aami .....pls doa for muslims India palestine kashmir aamin

[@muzza2743]

@@kaderameer3583 my family comes from India and I was born their and what they are doing is disgusting may Allah help them

[@sapyukha525]

@@muzza2743 And what are they doing brother?? You have not educated us. Please elaborate your comments!

[@nodametakumi4656]

This was so needed and so important, I cannot stress this enough. Thank you so much! JazakAllah Khair.

[@zeeshanhyd]

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[@KamranSher]

جزاكم الله خيرا كثيرأ كثيرا يا اخي يا شيخ

[@b.i.n.a2959]

Thank you brother to clear this very important topic

[@JRChannel0]

This is the problem our Muslim society has had for many decades. Many scholars have avoided these taboo subjects leading people away from Islam and then falling into fornication.

[@warriorsage591]

God bless you. I am a Hindu and I got some knowledge thanks

[@gracious1790]

Jazakumulla Khair

[@kkrmomin7696]

Salaam from India

[@amd5057]

May firdawsh b ur reward, ameen

[@KamranSher]

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 21) - وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought. Ar-Rum

[@mserventsofAllah]

thanks.. Love from Bangladesh

[@21972012145525]

Pornography is such a huge problem. It really needs to be addressed by a psychologist as an addiction. Don’t know how else it is to be resolved

[@21972012145525]

Moo Miller totally agree. Huge problem and has personally effected my marriage along with other issue. Mental therapy and ruqya need to go hand in hand with this issue. Perhaps maybe even marriage counseling after that’s completed

[@memoonaumer2868]

Salah....focus...Allah said....(Inna as salata tanha ...) (No doubt Salah stop from shameful act (fahshaaae' ) and munkarr......

[@21972012145525]

@Moo Miller Jazakallah. Please pray for me. I’ve had such difficulty in having my husband not only admit his problems but then get help for it. His family is useless and placed all the blame on me and led us to a divorce. I am devastated but know I did this for the sake of Allah swt and didn’t know what else to do when he refused to seek help. Self control in all matters can be such a huge issue for people

[@21972012145525]

@@memoonaumer2868 I have no doubt on my husband’s sincerity in practice and prayer. There was some elements of showing off to and for people, but I don’t believe it was all done for show. But despite that, he still had these problems. Please pray for me and my marriage. I definitely wish to reunite but only if he changes.

[@YH-yh8pr]

Thank allah we have repentance if any of these acts are engaged in.

[@abdulelahkhunji6871]

SubhanAllah ,, this religion deals with every aspects of life .. Lo! this Qur'an guideth unto that which is straightest, and giveth tidings unto the believers who do good works that theirs will be a great reward (Quran) إن هذا القرآن يهدي للتي هي أقوم ويبشر المؤمنين الذين يعملون الصالحات أن لهم أجرا كبيرا .. 🌷🌼🌷🌼👍🏻

[@usmanhannan5675]

Good talk. Halal sex is a private experience and choices vary. Leaving aside the two prohibited sex acts, and criminally inclined sex acts, I get a feeling that more sensible scholars tend to label a sex act makrooh when they personally find it disgusting, while the less sensible scholars tend to label haram the sex acts that they personally find disgusting. Both groups of scholars forget that what they find disgusting, a couple may find it very romantic and gratifying, and Allah in his infinite wisdom never pronounced any judgment on these acts through his final messenger. At the end, this lecture demonstrates how smart our beloved prophet was on this issue. Also, East has no shortage of sex libido and fetishes, just like West. East should stop feeling vein glorification of 'noble' sex practice, and so should West.

[@Abdullah34610]

Not referring to anything particular, but I believe the scholars say there's a level dignity that is supposed to be present in a person at all times. So they say acts should not demean or humiliate a person in any way, even if there is mutual agreement/request. I suppose the question becomes who decides what is what? If it wasn't for the Hadiths and Eastern values, would those in the West view oral to be demeaning in any way? Allahualam

[@zafaralvi4407]

Usman Hannan Very well said brother. I too always felt the traditional scholars are not giving the right answer based solely on Islam & not person preferences.

[@shariqahnur9628]

I thought sunnah recommended intermittent fasting to reduce desire before marriage.

[@jacquelinehadid8043]

Exactly, and it's well known that if people start masturbation they become more addicted to it and it leads to zina not prevent zina.

[@xoxohayaati]

Mostly homosexual feelings, I believe. That is explicit in hadith. But with regards to self stimulation, there really isn’t anything said. Hence the various interpretations.

[@musamoya]

Mashallah Musa 4rom uganda

[@alimalikashraf7623]

Btw brothers and sisters. Even tho not all scholars said masterbation is haram, they all still consider watching pornographic content whilst masterbating is clear cut haram.

[@halimanoor4367]

Ma Sha Allah 🤣

[@tasali65]

Always remind people to seek mental health counseling. Sometimes it is not enough to just say don’t do it.

[@walidahmed286]

I just wanna meet you someday . Thats it

[@iftiahmed6777]

With due respect, it can cause harm to your penice, it can cause poor performance during actual intercourse with your wife by pre-ejaculating, it can cause deforming of the penice. If someone can not control his/her sexual desire and temptation then Sheikh you know more than I do what our beloved Prophet Mohammad ﷺ peace and blessings upon him said: You should fast.

[@nocifer]

Does anyone know where I can get the full recitation at the beginning? It sounds like YQ reciting Al Fusilaat and it's so beautiful but I can't seem to find it anywhere...

[@lazershocks4109]

It’s not brother yasir it’s the Qari Sajjad Gul. He has his own channel as well as many Ramadan 2020 videos with yasir Bhai

[@EPICMASJID]

Here is his playlist. kzbin.info/aero/PLYO6Oz7uwCSiKTfh-qS3yLjIAATuiE22u

[@lapejuS]

I always thought it sounded like the Sheikh also. Ma sha Allah

[@KamranSher]

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم (5) - وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِفُرُوجِهِمْ حَافِظُونَ And they who guard their private parts (6) - إِلَّا عَلَىٰ أَزْوَاجِهِمْ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُمْ فَإِنَّهُمْ غَيْرُ مَلُومِينَ Except from their wives or those their right hands possess, for indeed, they will not be blamed - (7) - فَمَنِ ابْتَغَىٰ وَرَاءَ ذَٰلِكَ فَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْعَادُونَ But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors - Al-Mu'minun

[@upf9602]

@ epic masjid should this video be age restricted so you have to sign in with the right age?

[@kingazeemrules]

This needs to go down to 13 year old kids who are in the trap the most

[@jacquelinehadid8043]

Islam doesn't prohibit marriage under the age of 18, actually its encouraged for adolescents to get married in the sunnah, so no problem for them to watch this beneficial video for people who reached the age of puberty

[@rajatahir10]

Imam shafi has a valid point, those who get engages in these kinds of act mostly gets posses by evil shayateen especially in toilets and brother you are dealing with ruqya. I wonder how did you miss this point.

[@mujahidaAlbania2]

can u send me where imam shafi said that? i want to prove it as a point in a debate jazakAllah khair

[@haven-of-bliss]

Jazak Allah khair Shaykh for this and so much more. I have a question regarding the first chapter. I'm assuming that since pleasuring one's self is not haram... then ghussl is not required before performing the next prayer? Say, even if he or she does climax and release fluid?

[@nadeemshaikh7077]

As much as i know, ghusl is definitely required after the release of fluid no matter if its done by one self or together.

[@Nox-02]

Ghusl is needed when you release your fluid and even if its not haram nowadays you shouldn’t do it because you can be addicted to it

[@muratyildiz1868]

Ok encourage and entice but what if the issue is communication and you might just need to talk it out

[@nonesname1979]

What was option c he said option c may have worked in other cultures but in the western culture option c will completely destroy the marriage so skip over option c and go straight to divorce but what was option c the first one was advising her the second one was leaving her bed but what was the third one

[@suhaibbandh6659]

ASALAMUALAIKUM Beautifully answered. I've a question. What is the position of collective Dua after a Faraz prayer?

[@minharijith4228]

yes. please make a detailed lecture on this please al hamdu lillah

[@comb528491]

Please ask all questions to [e-mail]

[@minharijith4228]

@@comb528491 al hamdu lillah. thanks

[@suhaibbandh6659]

Thank you so much.

[@furqankhan7524]

Yes please would also like to know

[@mskorkoss]

Please who is the Qari in the beginning. Please 😭😭😭. I keep asking

[@EPICMASJID]

Sheikh Sajjad Gul

[@mskorkoss]

@@EPICMASJID Jazāk Allāhu Khayran

[@sonyaevans9951]

As Salamu Alaikum !!! some brothers wa sisters pleasure themselves !!!

[@carlsmith3709]

Are male prostate massagers haram

[@cherished4u]

I found this on Islam QA. We’re living in the end times where haram is watered down to fit the society. Masturbation (for both men and women) is haraam (forbidden) in Islam based on the following evidence: First from the Quraan: Imam Shafii stated that masturbation is forbidden based on the following verses from the Quraan (interpretation of the meaning): "And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts). Except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, - for them, they are free from blame. But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors." 23.5-7 Here the verses are clear in forbidding all illegal sexual acts (including masturbation) except for the wives or that their right hand possess. And whoever seeks beyond that is the transgressor. "And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His bounty." 24.33. This verse also clearly orders whoever does not have the financial means to marry to keep himself chaste and be patient in facing temptations (including masturbation) until Allah enriches them of His bounty. Secondly, from the sunnah of the Prophet (peace be upon him): Abdullaah ibn Masood said, "We were with the Prophet while we were young and had no wealth whatsoever. So Allaahs Messenger said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power." Bukhari:5066. The hadeeth orders men who are not able to marry to fast despite the hardship encountered in doing so, and not to masturbate despite the ease with which it can be done. There are additional evidences that can be cited to support this ruling on masturbation, but due to the limited space we will not go through them here. Allaah knows what is best and most correct.

[@b.i.n.a2959]

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[@catladyAR]

Masterbation is one of the reasons for divorce in this day and age. When masterbation is considered okay, it opens the door to addiction and can cause sexual issues between spouses, leading towards marital issues and even divorce!

[@HinaQureshi-ew3ug]

if someone associate a partner with Allah and believe in a wearing a black thread and say this help him/her and cure his/her illness, anxiety stress, tension, and feel pain relief ... does the nikah gets invalidated in islam as he/her committing shirk... please replace with authentic hadith from Al bukhari, hadith sahi Al muslim with reference please.

[@biologyonline99]

I think.. West largely follows ur opinion, May be due to a sexually explicit society or people with more libidinal energy due to a high protein and steroid injected fast foods than what we largely follow in East. The best solution for ones high sexual urge is to marry or fast... As Prophet Muhammad.. SAW has said.

[@usmanhannan5675]

I can tell you East has no shortage of sex libido and fetishes. East should stop fooling about it in vein glorification, and so should West.

[@JahannamHellfire]

Marriage is a responsibility

[@dr.md.shahiduzzaman6079]

I contradict to brother Yasir Qadhi regarding mastarbation as one can do fasting if he cannot control him.

[@saracentiano]

Dear Dr. No one cannot. Have you ever spoken to even one unmarried Muslim youth?

[@BSKX17]

unless you are fasting everyday, the problem will exist until you get married

[@saracentiano]

My dear brothers. You fail to understand human beings. Maybe you judge all of humanity with the standard of yourselves. May Allah subhana ta'ala preserve your standards and taqwaa. But it is not as easy for the majority of unmarried male Muslim youth. Unless you both have talked to tens or hundreds of youth and can confirm that this is easy I believe you cannot make these assumptions. Also no where in the Quran or Sunnah is written that fasting is better than masturbation. It is fasting better than zina. And although I agree that fasting is better than masturbation, I also agree with Dr YQ that when fasting does not work for a person, masturbation is indeed better than zina and in this case becomes mubaah.

[@usmanhannan5675]

Fasting may diminish sex drive due to lack of energy towards Iftar time but not so during earlier part of the day. In fact fasting by definition is abstaining from sex snd food during daytime which is why it is called fasting. So your argument stretches the meaning of the hadith, which basically prescribed fasting to abstain from sex, but never mentions it kills that passionate sex drive, and how about night time?

[@ayodele1047]

You have not contradicted him. He answered question based on Sin or not a sin. He answered as not a sin but very discouraged. You have only recommended a way to avoid it. Which may work or not depending on the persons sex drive.

[@rakibulbhuiyan9461]

As salamu alaikum Dear Shaykh If I could I would ask you these questions personally. You are saying that masturbation and oral Intimacy is discouraged but not sinful. Aren't this going to open the door for sin? Because those who are going to take the path of masturbation they are going to to fantasies about the opposite gender. Isn't that Haram? Also there are health issue related to masturbation. Isn't it Haram to do the things that is harmful for the body? For example taking drags. Drag is not explicitly mentioned in the Quran and Sunnah yet it is sinful. At the same time oral Intimacy has negative health issue that can be tied to the cause of throat cancer. There are unimaginable germs and viruses in our privet part areas so should it be allowed knowingly put people's mouth there? Islam is a religion of fitra isn't it against that fitra? You are saying oral intimacy is a cultural difference so it does not make it Haram if it is not mention explicitly in Quran and Sunnah. However, if the act is born out of vulgarity and sin and goes against the fitra of human what to do then? I have learned from you a lot and still learning however, I think you should've use more Islamic common sense and not the rules of law. True some sahaba approved masturbation but in an extreme situation most of the time they gave the solution of marriage and made it easy. Please focus on making marriage easy. Please do not take my words as disrespectful I am not that proficient and eloquent in English. May Allah guise us and grant us proper understanding. Ameen

[@mustafa1894]

Ma sh Allah barakAllah, we had the same thoughts akhi May Allah give us all more knowledge! I think we should stay away from masturbation Bec it opens so many doors for sin

[@rakibulbhuiyan9461]

@@mustafa1894 Amin

[@asanteakimmuslimstv4750]

I don't know your background but no enough scientific evidence in that regards. Besides even sexual intimacy can lead to diseases. And there is more risk of health in kissing than any other sexual fantacies

[@musthaf9]

The health reasoning can not be that simply applied. There are so many things that can cause cancer yet it is not judged as haraam. For example, till this day, smoking is still NOT considered haraam in my country. The germ reasoning is also not that simple. Our mouth is full of germs, fun fact. Another fun fact, urine is actually free of germs (if you have germs on your urine, you have an infection). The germs in urine are those that it carried as it travels through the urinary tract. But urine is still najis

[@proudmuslim7818]

There are no health issues. How can there be no health issues during sex but with masturbation ?

[@nasrinekhadem2966]

To b very frank enough ... I don like to hear such type of Topic is it clear?

[@anon2916]

no

[@sarebshah9279]

No one forced you to listen.

[@mohammadahmadsiddiqui2342]

Shykh with due respect,my ignorant minds thinks you are being too lenient in this matter

[@athirkhan5511]

Shaykh didn't say what option C was.

[@hshah2757]

Option C is to hit them lightly (i.e., no bruises, no hitting the face, no physical harm). In other words, it would be analogous to parents spanking their little kids on the behind without leaving any marks or causing any damage.

[@athirkhan5511]

@@hshah2757 jazzak Allahu khair. I did my research after and saw that was the option C even though I had a feeling. I just find it strange Shaykh Yasir Qadhi didn't want to mention it like he hiding this ruling that is there. I believe if a woman gets a spanking from her husband she might change her mind.

[@michalptacnik1]

The Jewish Halacha knows why it is the WOMAN who is given the right to sex; the man is given the right to progeny. Sharia and Halacha meeti in about 7 out of 10 cases, too bad this is not one of them.

[@ibrahimbangura7617]

Shukran Sheek please can I have your email address