PROOF Autistic People Make Great Employees - The Bystander Effect

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Orion Kelly - That Autistic Guy

Orion Kelly - That Autistic Guy

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@laurencewinch-furness9450
@laurencewinch-furness9450 11 ай бұрын
My boss was talking about me recently with a senior nurse I work with (who's also autistic). Apparently my boss said: "If Laurence is autistic, I think we need more autistic people working here"
@nadionmediagroup
@nadionmediagroup 11 ай бұрын
For a little of roles, this is exactly the right match. I’m a hiring manager, and I will look at that for certain things. You do need to have an understanding that pointing out problems will annoy you, as a defensive default. They tend to be right. It’s worth learning how to accept it.
@CheerfulMountainRange-mx6lr
@CheerfulMountainRange-mx6lr 11 ай бұрын
I was actually misdiagnosed when l went for autism screening based on the grounds l had trained as a nurse. Unfortunately my first nursing post didn’t go well, l was experiencing bullying in the work place and found it difficult to speak up, which increased the bullying. I actually like my palliative post, had to resign in the end as l was diagnosed with cancer! They were going to dismiss me anyway, once they finished bullying me. For a drug erra l made. Strangely my honesty realised the mistake and l reported it. Three other nurses had served the same medicine and the seniors turned a blind eye. And my life became a working hell. That was December 2016. My life has never been the same, deep depression, anxiety and burn out. Verbal autistic diagnosis from psychiatrist, misdiagnosed by a private screening autistic practice.
@samanthalang3402
@samanthalang3402 10 ай бұрын
Sounds like you have an amazing boss 🥰
@CheerfulMountainRange-mx6lr
@CheerfulMountainRange-mx6lr 8 ай бұрын
@@YxYzYx Yes l saw a psychiatrist for a year. Came away realising l have mild autism. My life suddenly made sense. I am now 51. My youngest son was late diagnosed two years ago and he is now 19 and l also have another son who also is high functioning. My ex husband has also realised he two meets the criteria and his daughter who is 8 seems to be presenting with autism too! I came out to my family as being on the spectrum they felt it all made sense and l can honestly say my life is improving since l realised my brain thinks differently to the typical person. I realise misdiagnoses happen all the time especially with females. I’m also a woman of colour this too is an added factor. I had cancer growing in my body and an amazing team of oncologists missed it! I had to really fight to be seen and heard. And once they realised the error l had to go through a few operations, chemo and radiation therapy! Just because another human says l don’t have autism doesn’t mean they must be right because they have a degree and took some courses. These days l feel so much better because l know what is going on with me. 😂
@CheerfulMountainRange-mx6lr
@CheerfulMountainRange-mx6lr 8 ай бұрын
The screener said in the feedback, it’s impossible to be a nurse and in the spectrum!
@Skyjamb
@Skyjamb 11 ай бұрын
We are smart, passionate and can stick to a task far better than the typical person. We pick on the small things that others don't. We are efficient.
@Crouteceleste
@Crouteceleste 11 ай бұрын
all tthese qualities are not what most NT people want to work with. They resent us for it, because they usually slack off spending their time chatting and tthey overlook small things that can make the difference, and we make them feel bad for not working as hard as us.
@greenghost2008
@greenghost2008 11 ай бұрын
I wish instead of interviews they let us try working. They seem utterly unrelated to the job. They are weird games they make us play.
@villageflippinidiot
@villageflippinidiot 11 ай бұрын
And a resume they don't read with numbers I have to look up of old places I worked, that they won't call? Yeah I just don't like the whole process of trying to get a job.
@KhaoticDeterminism
@KhaoticDeterminism 11 ай бұрын
this issue is not us being able to do the job it’s how we make everyone else feel just existing they’d rather label us a disorder and say that’s the reason why we don’t feel in socially not because they erase us instead they have to want to change for themselves unfortunately #ADHD has the same issues they can’t help but perceive us as lazy and entitled just asking for our #disability to be taken as seriously as ones that are visible they don’t care the law says they can discriminate all the want until you bring in accommodations and when you bring those in they will assume you’re faking it cause it doesn’t say your disability and rip it up welcome to #Ottawa #Canada cheers #autism #2Spirit #audhd
@BLu3RayDiskRang3
@BLu3RayDiskRang3 11 ай бұрын
I agree, job interviews are stupid and pointless. Neurotypicals in power are the scum of the earth!
@guitarman0365
@guitarman0365 11 ай бұрын
I get it if the job is customer service or lawyers, salesman, doctors, something that logically means you have to interact with people and interact with them well and constantly for the job itself. To see if you are confident in social skills makes sense. But most jobs don't need that. As long as you can communicate nessessary information and perform a task that should be all that matters. But we live in an extroverted world so we have to play by their rules.
@BLu3RayDiskRang3
@BLu3RayDiskRang3 11 ай бұрын
@@guitarman0365 This is why I decided to create my own business and work from home instead.
@travershipkiss
@travershipkiss 11 ай бұрын
As an electrician I have to say, my ASD and OCD really do come in handy. Can’t really just leave dangerous cables hanging about, is a good industry for people like us.
@JJ-qo7th
@JJ-qo7th 11 ай бұрын
Also an electrician. Two jobs ago my foreman would have me inspect everyone's work to get it ready for the city inspector. I once found the two receptacles on the floor out of about four hundred that were malfunctioning, and they were both part of some dumb prefabricated furniture with preinstalled receptacles. Anyone could have checked a receptacle on one of those desks, saw it work, and moved on without catching it. Not me. I checked every single one. Every one, without fail. If I could get my hotstick in it, I was checking it. No, it wasn't some heroic effort. I was just doing my damned job.
@alobowithadhd6191
@alobowithadhd6191 11 ай бұрын
Except for the shy, small ones. I went into this field too, but quickly realized that the workplace culture was not for me. The hours were harsh, I was always seen as “the new guy that does nothing” solely because I was an apprentice that brainstormed ways to fix problems that my co-workers were having on the field. I was also looked at crazy when I asked if I could get a copy of the scope of work for a job site sent to my company email. I need to know what is going on without the issues of people dumbing down information because they believe I’m stupid. I later brought up some questionable pay practices that the team I was in was using, and got a pat on the back by management. The thing that got me “fired” was the fact that I did such a good job at HQ, that there was no more work that fit my scope to be done. Now that they ran out of work to give me, they decided I was going to be let go because I couldn’t operate ladders safely. No shit. I’m short. I have to run when others have to walk. I have to climb up farther than others on ladders. I have a mechanical disadvantage when doing anything with ladders. Don’t worry about the ludicrous amount of money people were stealing from you. Worry about the guy who pointed it out. Funnily enough, shortly after I was let go, the entire building was fired.
@imajenn3006
@imajenn3006 11 ай бұрын
My husband finds the same. I have AuDHD & mt ADHD part makes me fudge things a bit & lose things. I am in awe of how he works.
@knrdvmmlbkkn
@knrdvmmlbkkn 10 ай бұрын
@@alobowithadhd6191"Funnily enough, shortly (...) building was fired." Poor building. I hope it received unemployment benefits.
@raven4090
@raven4090 11 ай бұрын
We pick up on things others miss, and in doing so, can often solve problems before they happen. Preventing mistakes or accidents in that way can also save money, and makes things run more efficiently.
@affsteak3530
@affsteak3530 11 ай бұрын
I raised a stink at work once because I saw the legs on a shelving unit were bent from being hit with a forklift. That shelf was holding live batteries that can literally explode and cause a fire if they're dropped hard enough or crushed. Not to mention, they weigh hundreds of pounds. Literally dozens of people walked by those racks all day. Nobody noticed, or if they noticed, didn't see they safety issue, or if they saw the danger, didn't care.
@FlamingCockatiel
@FlamingCockatiel 11 ай бұрын
I wish more people saw that; usually seeing the problems first or seeing how things can go wrong gets you labeled as a "negative Nelly."
@raven4090
@raven4090 11 ай бұрын
@@FlamingCockatiel Oh, I know. All my life, too. People are too stupid to understand that preventing accidents is a positive thing.
@raven4090
@raven4090 11 ай бұрын
@@affsteak3530 Yeah. Isn't it amazing? I think it's the "bystander theory" or whatever is called. NT's just assume that "someone else will take care of it." We take action.
@XSquidbeatsX
@XSquidbeatsX 11 ай бұрын
With increased productivity I outshined my manager and because of that she tried sabotaging my work which lead me to having to leave thinking it was all me which is dumb. Work gossip is dangerous and I will never understand why people destroy others just to look good. So happy I just try to do quality work.
@neurodivergenthomestead
@neurodivergenthomestead 11 ай бұрын
As a self employed person, I think I'm my best employee.
@Viktorious13
@Viktorious13 11 ай бұрын
We are phenomenal employees and provide incredible insights, accuracy, productivity, and make connections others miss. However, I've suffered from being looked over for promotions because of my social challenges. At my previous job I actually had a write up because I was not social enough. Purely because I didn't small talk enough, didn't hang out after work, or attend voluntary social gatherings. It was so illogical.
@br4tb4by
@br4tb4by 11 ай бұрын
I feel you! I got a written warning for giving feedback to a senior😂
@kellywaller8829
@kellywaller8829 11 ай бұрын
I was recently diagnosed with ADHD. When I listen to you describe individuals who get diagnosed as adults for autism, I feel so explained and exposed and seen. Thanks Orion.
@coffeegonewrong
@coffeegonewrong 11 ай бұрын
Check back in a few months after you have hyper focused on all the autistic creators describing their experiences, doing every online quiz, researching the history and criteria for ASD…. 🙋welcome to the tribe.
@CuriouslyCute
@CuriouslyCute 11 ай бұрын
You might have both!
@cammie49
@cammie49 11 ай бұрын
I was diagnosed ADHD 20 years ago and Ritalin saved me from 3 a day of searching for stuff I misplaced and so many other executive function problems…but I still had trouble getting and keeping jobs due to social communication problems, sensory issues, burnout and getting bullied because I’m weird and I make other employees look bad because I love to work and find stuff to do that help the business when it’s slow…rather than chatting or scrolling on my phone. Yes, Orion, I LOVE the work part of work and NOT the social part!! I just got diagnosed as autistic at age 62 and my life makes so much more sense now! Bet you’re on the spectrum if you can relate to this video! Like the other guy said, welcome to the tribe😃
@michelebriere9569
@michelebriere9569 11 ай бұрын
I've had bosses who would get so impatient with me when I picked apart a task with questions. They couldn't understand that I needed those little questions answered, if I was expected to do the job correctly.
@JJ-qo7th
@JJ-qo7th 11 ай бұрын
I can't remember the last time I've been a victim of the Bystander Effect. I saw someone's car left out of Park start rolling away and there were about seven people standing around, dumbfounded, while this car started to descend a hill. I set my shopping down, briskly walked to catch up, and then leaned against the car. That was it. That seemed to activate *their* brains as I looked at them because a couple others came around to lean with me while the owner got in the car to engage the brake, start the engine, and regain control of the situation. I've pulled over into a nearby parking lot to park my car so I could help some strangers I'd never seen before push their dead car out of the street. I learned to smooth over my objections, but I still raise them. "I don't know if anyone told you, but..." [Your work has problems, this is how you can avoid them. You're about to run into a problem. There's an easier, still correct, way to do what you're doing.] I call people out for unsafe work practices. I try to do so to them personally before escalating. Improper ladder use is the big one. I keep extra ear plugs and glasses on my cart in case people are doing something unsafe or it's painfully loud. I'm the only damned person on the job a few jobs back who raised a stink about some contracted workers using hand-held power tools in such a way that, if they malfunctioned even for a moment, they could lose their damned fingers. But the interview process screws me. "We didn't feel you were a good fit."
@Dr.K.H
@Dr.K.H 11 ай бұрын
Recently unemployed....this resonates very much! 👏🏾
@larrettamullen4023
@larrettamullen4023 11 ай бұрын
I've been making a taxable paycheck since I was 14 [over 30 years] and have had around 10 employers in that time. I only relatively recently figured out that I, along with my youngest [adult] child, am Autistic. Over the years I've often stated that at every job I've ever had, I've been "pulled up the ladder" [mostly] unwillingly. I've never needed to ask for a promotion; they've always just been forced upon me until I caved to avoid conflict. Looking back, I can now see that it's been mostly due to my autistic tendencies to #1. Perform well [above and beyond] at all things (including completing/fixing tasks that were not assigned to me... aka: "problem-solving" and "putting out fires"); #2. To NOT engage in conflict [if at all possible] while also not allowing "wrongs" to go unnoticed; and #3. To act professionally while on the job. They all knew I was a Great Employee but no one [including me] saw/cared that I was "burning out". At this age, I'll still be working for a paycheck for some years to come (yes, in management), but I'm concentrating on NOT doing the work of 3, for the wage of 1. Keep being awesome.
@Low760
@Low760 11 ай бұрын
The avoiding conflicts is personality not autism but yes. Good for you.
@amys0482
@amys0482 11 ай бұрын
I have been denied promotions for these exact same reasons/behaviors so it might vary wildly depending on what you do and where you work.
@timseguine2
@timseguine2 10 ай бұрын
@@Low760 Well I feel like autistic people tend to avoid conflict because conflict results in situations that are difficult to navigate effectively.
@Octopossible
@Octopossible 11 ай бұрын
We "pick up on the things that were missed", I think is a powerful and important observation. Combine that with the fact that we are not approval seeking and we aren't afraid to tell it like it is. I'm sure there are some employers who agree with everything Orion says, but how do I find them?
@affsteak3530
@affsteak3530 11 ай бұрын
There's also the constant battle against NT apathy and inertia. "This person is poorly trained and is making poor quality products!" "You can't say that!"
@FlamingCockatiel
@FlamingCockatiel 11 ай бұрын
1. Loyalty 2. Honesty and openness 3. Productivity due to hyperfocus; enjoy doing job and don't need chit chat 4. Think differently 5. Bystander effect is lessened with autistic people, so they'll speak up sooner with less fear of group. Less likely to look to a group for guidance. Orion, thank you so much; I'd like this video to be played at every DEI conference or mandatory anti-harassment training. People would actually get something out of it.
@megzasaurusrex
@megzasaurusrex 11 ай бұрын
I am a fantastic employee when I have a set schedule and supervisors who give me clear expectations, ask me questions when something is wrong instead of assuming and are a safe place for me to speak to. I pick everything up faster than most my co-workers. I see things people don't see and learn them myself as well. I show my bosses things they didnt even know about whatever systems we use since im curious. I love following rules. I do things the same way every time. I put everything back in its place and clean up after myself. Im great at figuring out what customers want when they dont even know what its called. I also find mistakes or why something didnt work fast or figure out a work around. Im always the one fixing things. Again because im curious. If i dont know something, i have to find it out. I have a wide range of knowledge and it can come in use in random scenarios.
@kaliboo6881
@kaliboo6881 5 ай бұрын
Thank you thank you THANK YOU!!! My bosses do NOT appreciate my autism, at all.... they prefer the non-loyal, unreliable folks in my workplace.. it's absolute madness... but thank you for your video... made me feel amazing! 🤩
@sarahconner726
@sarahconner726 11 ай бұрын
I have to say, in my two decades of my career I kicked butt at client satisfaction and work quality and output. But most management didn't like me. I'd be hired by a person who saw me for my value and was okay with my quirks. Then my boss would be promoted or take a new job. The new boss somehow was always a middle management Karen and they do not like me at all. As soon as a new manager took over, the countdown would start until my last day.
@csebesta84
@csebesta84 11 ай бұрын
Same. I was cursed with a new manager who asked me if I cheated on client satisfaction survey because she HATED ME.
@towzone
@towzone 11 ай бұрын
Campground rules! Leave a place better than you find it. In my early research into people I came across the bystander effect. An terrifying example is if someone is injured and you yell into a crowd to call 911, there is no guarantee that any of the crowd will take the responsibility. In a bad situation you must point out individuals and give them a task, such as calling 911, so that there is no ambiguity about who’s responsibility it is. It is much harder to say someone else will do it when an individual has been singled out. Then they understand who gets the blame if nothing happens.
@seatherny_y
@seatherny_y 10 ай бұрын
As a teenager with ASD and OCD I have been recently exploring job options cause I am of age where I could get a job. I went to a job interview for a local candy shop in my community and the moment I got into the job interview they started to ask me entirely irrelevant questions to the job. I asked them why they were asking me these totally unrelated and frankly invasive questions. When I did this the interviewer lashed out and sent me home, I cried when I was walking home with my friend (who is an amazing friend who was waiting for me outside for emotional support) because I truly didn’t understand. That candy shop always had such a great atmosphere, I will not be shopping there anymore now that I know how employees are treated.
@LaShumbra_Bates_AuDHD
@LaShumbra_Bates_AuDHD 11 ай бұрын
At work, I somehow ended up on a volunteer group that was set up to help facilitate suggestions for improvement coming from co-workers to upper management. In the 2nd year of this group, I had to email the lead to let them know that I had to leave the group because they weren't accomplishing anything. All of the meetings consisted of nothing more than trying to figure out how the group would be officially structured, and how the different employees would summit their suggestions. There was no discussion about the issues that we already knew needed to be addressed, nor any discussion of possible solutions. I just straight up told them that they weren't accomplishing anything, and the group was a waste of time. It didn't last too much longer after that. 🤷🏾‍♀️
@stevendorries
@stevendorries 11 ай бұрын
Yeah, the point of the group was to provide the illusion of responsiveness
@LaShumbra_Bates_AuDHD
@LaShumbra_Bates_AuDHD 11 ай бұрын
@@stevendorries Exactly!
@affsteak3530
@affsteak3530 11 ай бұрын
​@stevendorries also if the group does their job, they might have to move on to actual work. 😒
@ragea1
@ragea1 10 ай бұрын
@@affsteak3530 or *gasp* spend money
@whitneymason406
@whitneymason406 11 ай бұрын
Before becoming a stay at home mom, I was a teacher in a toddler classroom at a Montessori for 6 years. I was very reliable, always on time, and great with the kids. Thanks for highlighting the positives! ❤
@CherrysJubileeJoyfully
@CherrysJubileeJoyfully 11 ай бұрын
Brilliant sir was a perfect employee until I became too ill to work.
@romanace3432
@romanace3432 5 ай бұрын
Same here first vomiting for 5 times a week for two years and now my back is really bad.
@CherrysJubileeJoyfully
@CherrysJubileeJoyfully 5 ай бұрын
@romanace3432 me too 30 Years of undiagnosed celiac and so much more. I would wake up at 5am so I could vomit till 6 smoke weed to settle my stomach and leave at 8 to get to work at 9 and function till 12 when I'd take lunch smoke more to make it to 5 and home.
@EmperorZaph1512
@EmperorZaph1512 11 ай бұрын
Unfortunately even the strengths listed in this video work against us in some ways. Certain workplaces, maybe even most of them, actually have these inefficiencies or unproductive choices/actions ON PURPOSE to maintain control over the workforce or justify a jobs existence (usually some HR rep), and they will get rid of you for pointing them out.
@LilChuunosuke
@LilChuunosuke 11 ай бұрын
Yup, I've personally experienced this. I've watched new managers exchange out old, efficient systems of doing things for new, less efficient ones and when you point this out to them, they ignore you at best or try to get you fired for questioning their authority at worst. I've had to teach myself to say internally that I dont get paid enough to correct these issues. Very frustrating because many of them are small, easy fixes too.
@jasonthomas208
@jasonthomas208 11 ай бұрын
I make a terrible employee, not because I'm not a good worker but because I have so many issues with focusing on what I'm doing and even remembering what I'm doing. Sometimes my memory just goes blank and for a minute I have to work out where the hell i am. Then there is a constant stress and anxiety and the hypersensitivity. By midday I am exhausted just getting up and walking my dog, I've never managed to hold down a job for very long my entire life and everyone accused me of being lazy or irresponsible when in reality it is because I'm autistic and have a bunch of issues which make basic living a struggle, never mind holding down a full time job! I'm 57 and have no idea how to fit into this society!
@scottdrury7404
@scottdrury7404 5 ай бұрын
I’m on desk duty after an injury. My employer asked if I would be able to analyze records for errors and deficiencies. I just said leave them here and I’ll let you know when all done. Completed shortly. Employer amazed. Good use of the capabilities of an AS brain.
@AlwaysAutistic
@AlwaysAutistic 11 ай бұрын
I have recently got a job, being very honest and open from the get go with my boss. I was also recommended to my boss from a friend working with the same company but in a different branch, in a different town. She is a great boss!
@illiteratemochi4150
@illiteratemochi4150 11 ай бұрын
I’m glad you brought up that last point. As a high masking late diagnosed female, I’m very aware of how I appear to other people, and I change my behavior based on that. I’ve had lots of moments where I saw something happening, and I immediately recognized it as wrong and wanted to stop it, but because I was terrified of being singled out or having to face the repercussions of acting, I ended up staying silent. But even when that happened, I was certainly aware of it, and I knew I was holding myself back in order to protect myself.
@cobrajin4016
@cobrajin4016 11 ай бұрын
I dont know how you keep posting videos about exactly what Im struggling with on that day. Im in a union... i am not ok with what we are doing with tax dollars. Everyone else is. At my last job I finally quit for good because the boss and I could just not see eye to eye on things like safety. He wanted to only care about productivity but I wouldnt ignore organization and safety. We had so many fights because I simply wouldnt turn a blind eye to what bothered me. Well... about 3 years after I left he died in a workplace accident. I was litterally trying to save his life. Drove me crazy trying to let go of my concerns. I hit rock bottom when I quit. I loved that job. I worried about a friend and cousin that worked there. Put all the blame on myself being mentally weak. Ive quit so many jobs. Even though I wasnt talking to my old boss when he passed, I still went to his funeral. I even got up and said a few things. No one else was getting up... bystander effect kicked in. I didnt go up at first due to anxiety but when I realized no one else was going up and the lady was moving on, I awkwardly interupted her and asked to speak. Ive never spoken at a wedding or funeral. I knew before I went that I owed it to him. That I had to get up there. Bystander effect kicked in years in advance. I always thought about how Id speak at his funeral. No one ever gets up. Pre meditated bystander effect. Im so glad I did.
@like90
@like90 11 ай бұрын
I'm autistic and I've never once gotten a job through a job interview (I've had lots of interviews). I managed to get a job via someone I knew. Now I'm a proven loyal, hard worker that is super detailed oriented. I just want to do my job forever because it's a very enjoyable job for me.
@MerryMoss
@MerryMoss 11 ай бұрын
12:33 101 for autistic people: _"We are_ *born* _to wake up in the morning, and find things that aren't right."_ I had to laugh so hard at that 😂 and I love how this is finally seen as a strength 💪 After having been jobless (and probably burned out to some extent) for years, I'll soon be trying to get back into work. (with the help of a certain company specialising in helping people like me) Your video came at just the right time. To help me feel more confident in my abilities. So thanks, mate. Have a good day 💚
@hoflandmm
@hoflandmm 11 ай бұрын
I worked so hard for more than a decade in one field but sucked at EVERY area outside of work... bc work was something I know, something I can do for long periods of time, but now I am paralyzed from burnout or what I learned to be burnout bc of amazing channels like your channel and Taylor's!!!
@tracynottage356
@tracynottage356 11 ай бұрын
Hi Orion, I just wanted to point out to you, something that was said to me by a family member, who is usually the good guy and that is : " you have got to stop all this autistic nonsense " , the most hurtful thing that anyone has ever said to me and I am often told : " don't let your autism define you" , to me that is like saying dismiss part of your identity, anyway thankyou Orion for being a voice on my behalf, thankyou Orion 😊❤XXX XXX ❤😊
@JJ-qo7th
@JJ-qo7th 11 ай бұрын
I'd be tempted to deadpan answer, "I will in fact dial UP the autistic nonsense."
@wuzittooya
@wuzittooya 11 ай бұрын
I wouldn’t take it too personally. While it’s not something said to be genuinely supportive, I do think there’s some merit in taking that…sideways advice. What people usually mean to say is don’t let other people define you by your autism alone, but it often comes out incorrect, thus, sounding rude.
@tracynottage356
@tracynottage356 11 ай бұрын
@@wuzittooya my autism does not have an off switch
@chrismaxwell1624
@chrismaxwell1624 11 ай бұрын
In response to that one should say, they should stop the neurotypical nonsense too. It's the same thing and really what is more dysfunctional, a NT brain that has lies and deceives, hide what want and self sabotage things. How about stop that nonsense.
@Green_Roc
@Green_Roc 10 ай бұрын
I strongly approve of your message Orion. All five are true about me (I'm autistic). I'm 46 years old, I've never been able to get past the interview process. I went into so many interviews for a job, I lost count, I felt like my true potential was denied because of the social cues I probably missed.. I even got into an interview for my my dream job, but I never got hired.
@Sugar3Glider
@Sugar3Glider 11 ай бұрын
This checks out with my personal experience. I am in QA/QC, and have been known as the anomaly detection unit. I recently changed positions, and the owner was explaining their process for printing jobs. I winced, and told him that way sounded very silly, that we could adjust the file to print the lines we want differently from the rest. I've since been asked to add more colors to the file as they found more uses for it.
@wuzittooya
@wuzittooya 11 ай бұрын
Yep…I started to realize that a lot of people who were “great” workers because they did everything super fast. But when I’d go over their work, I’d find lots of really simple errors that just ended up being quite sloppy that I’d have to back and fix. Not sure why ppl praise the bare minimum and then shame other workers who need some more time so that they can give the best result possible
@user-eg8ht4im6x
@user-eg8ht4im6x 11 ай бұрын
One time I was ‘let go’ because I didn’t waist time chatting with my coworkers I just got on with job I was paid to do!!!
@slimsonite2111
@slimsonite2111 11 ай бұрын
Yep! The game doesn't end at the interview. You have to do the stupid small talk bs EVERYDAY too
@KAT-dg6el
@KAT-dg6el 11 ай бұрын
Fact - narcissists interview the best because they know how to BS people. And we all know they do not make the best employees. Nothing but trouble. And when the employers are blind to these type of personality disorders it’s a nightmare place to work for the victims of these types.
@Omneyvdwatering
@Omneyvdwatering 11 ай бұрын
omg, the details first, then bigger oversight is one i have experience with in a workplace. I noticed that with implementing a new thing, there was a part of the process which was not described at all but would be unmissable in the end. So I went to my manager and told them about it. I got send back to my desk and got told " to mind my own business and do my phone job" . 3 months later, they had still missed that part of the process and on the day the whole thing went " live" everything went to shit. I went home sick and never returned.
@CamStubbs
@CamStubbs 11 ай бұрын
Baker for well over 10 years and was one of few that could do every aspect of the production side. I excelled till I was put in the position of managing others. The systems of production and bake off that I came up with are still used after I left. I left due to stress of gaslighting to open up about my problems while being told my needs were irrelevant and to be as normal as possible.
@alcatrazvongola
@alcatrazvongola 11 ай бұрын
I know how it feels. I had to left my project manager job as a web developer due to the stress of keeping up with so many sites and calling so many people. I mainly wanted to focus on the creative web development side and not interact so many with others.
@autisticMargo
@autisticMargo 11 ай бұрын
Orion, thank you very mush, I'm leaving it in LOL. I appreciate this video very much. And you shared this just in time for me. Because I live in MST mountain standard time and every Sunday night which is right now. For me, each Sunday night I have to really switch gears and get ready to start my work Week. I have to decompress, make sure I'm regulated, and get ready to go Monday morning. And this video is reminding me how suited my job is for my autism. So I'm actually very excited to go to work tomorrow morning. I manage pharmacy inventory for our local children's hospital. I have to wear ear protection in there and take breaks. But everyone knows I have autism. And there are certain parts and tasks of my job that I am very good at because I have autism. In my workplace at the children's hospital, I know of 2 other autistic employees who disclose their autism. One of them manages the Central processing department where all the surgical tools and items like that are cleaned and sterilized ordered and inventoried and then the other Autist I'm aware of at work manages the grounds keepers. He was a ground keeper and now he manages that team and the 3 of us seem suited to our jobs and I am so grateful for people like you who advocate. I'm so grateful for people in my building who disclose their autism. All of these things are helping my 2 adult autistic children who have started in the workforce. And again I just want to say thank you very mush. 😂 I appreciate you!!
@Xacris
@Xacris 11 ай бұрын
I was a security guard for many years, and I was taught about the bystander effect. I never really felt it myself, and I don't hesitate to step in when I see something wrong, or someone in need of help. It made me a fantastic security guard, and I wrote extremely detailed reports. Just a shame they didn't want to pay me what I'm worth, their loss
@galespressos
@galespressos 11 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for saying all this.❤ People don’t realize the positive sides. (* Distraught here about finding or rather not finding doable work. People don’t value differences, to the community detriment, and my detriment too.)
@klarisakivlin9433
@klarisakivlin9433 11 ай бұрын
Yeah. Just a few nights ago I said to the group of parent council at my son's school "Well, they should read their emails then!" When the board was explaining why they needed to start a Fb group to inform parents of events at the school which are already detailed in the headteacher's emails which the parents don't read.
@Thereisnogreatersword
@Thereisnogreatersword 11 ай бұрын
Turns out being blunt to a detriment is really good for feedback when you've got someone with childlike honesty reviewing a product or a situation
@freyarobinson804
@freyarobinson804 11 ай бұрын
I'm currently struggling with "Work Place Culture" & "Core Values" modules we have to do every year, they have little to do with the actual job and serve as little more than prapaganda to compel me to care more about the company (that is exploiting my labor) than I should and do more work than what I signed on for(at no extra pay). It severely triggers my PDA with it's phrasing like how are you going to tell ME what MY core values are or what I aspire to? Most of the stuff I already do naturally which makes me NOT want to do it when I feel like I'm being manipulated into it and worst of all it ends with a "Quiz" that forces me to regurgitate the company's values as my own which is difficult for me because I can't knowingly tell a lie it feels unpleasant in my stomach and sits with me all day. Ps I'm a great worker and have been praised heavily for my work ethic and wide array of skills, I just don't like being told what my thoughts are.
@AmyF.1977
@AmyF.1977 11 ай бұрын
I love your channel. I’m so happy I found you a few months ago. I believe my entire biological family is on the spectrum, but they just don’t know it yet. My father has been unemployed since I can remember and now my brother is at that age (50) following the same patterns. He has an engineering degree/license, but no job. My sister got sick of the the toxic healthcare business and started her own PT business. Your videos will be the perfect tool to use to educate my parents and siblings. You are an amazing human being. Thank you for doing what you’re doing and being you.
@coffeegonewrong
@coffeegonewrong 11 ай бұрын
Just singing it in your head first. “Something like a phenomenon”
@mariusg8824
@mariusg8824 11 ай бұрын
It's eery to see all the plus points that I regularly get from my employer packed into this video. I always knew I was special. It never occurred to me it might be hereditary.
@igitha..._
@igitha..._ 11 ай бұрын
Orion, dear cosmic autist brother!, I'd love to see your take on autistic business owners and autistic entrepreneurs, it seems there are a few out there that are making headway! Loving the positive spin on things, keep up the wonderful work!
@DryadsBounty
@DryadsBounty 11 ай бұрын
I am soooo sending this to my supervisor in the sincere hope that he will watch, absorb, and achieve some level of understanding of my relationship with my job! Perhaps your use of English will be better understood than mine?! Thanks for this video subject, Orion💚
@AUDIS477
@AUDIS477 11 ай бұрын
Im from America, and glad i found your vids! I feel heard and you’re so much like me! Everything you say resonates with me because its just who i am!
@affsteak3530
@affsteak3530 11 ай бұрын
For the past six years, I've had a fantastic boss who's put me in roles suited to me. I'm in charge of quality inspection on the line, and I love doing root cause analysis. Best of all, I'm left alone to do this! I just have to swallow my frustration with corporate inertia and apathy and deal with the sensory overload of machine fault alarms all day!
@thismissivemisfit
@thismissivemisfit 11 ай бұрын
I've been formally unemployed since the beginning of the pandemic, due to getting a new boss that refused to accommodate how I work. I've always been unorthadox when it comes to processing and connecting info, so I've been able to predict trends before they happen when it pertains the industry I was in. Gone through two other jobs since, but it didn't stick. The suspicion that I have ADHD grew stronger, because I can no longer work in a traditional setting, likely due to the inability to mask anymore. I've lost interest in the path I was pursuing, but I might pick it back up again someday. As for now, I'm working part-time and slowly starting on new creative projects to sate my curiosity. Hopefully it will pay off soon.
@user-wi3yx3gy2o
@user-wi3yx3gy2o 11 ай бұрын
This makes me think of all of those “what you said is true, but that’s not what we’re saying” moments during the decision-making process, and all the “go to the meeting and contribute or else that looks bad but also do not say too much or say anything that makes you look too good because that makes me look bad for not having said it, and don’t say anything, even 100% true if it contradicts the decision we already made and are now having ‘decision-making’ meetings to pretend that we are actually making that decision with all the information and perspectives.”
@br4tb4by
@br4tb4by 11 ай бұрын
I’m thinking about sending this video to my team lead. I am undiagnosed but definitely have Autism and it explains everything. You perfectly described what advantages it has for a company to hire neurodivergent people, yet I always struggle because of these exact traits. Most companies are not open to a lower level employee criticizing procedures even when I bring evidence and report that several other employees feel the same way as me. I also won’t hesitate to arrange a meeting with a higher up if I don’t feel like they listen. I always thought it was a sort of “Karen” behavior but I know now that I have such a strong sense of justice and morals because of my neurodivergence.
@louip3466
@louip3466 11 ай бұрын
Thanks Orion 😊 This is a so good to hear. I was bullied in my last job and had to leave. I see so much of what you are saying here in my past employment. I love the bit where you question “…how to neurotypical people even live and breathe? ….” 😂😂😂
@louip3466
@louip3466 11 ай бұрын
*do
@susyQ564
@susyQ564 11 ай бұрын
I ❤ Orion I masked until I was given permanent position. Now I advocate for us
@Hellenen
@Hellenen 11 ай бұрын
I was a great employee. And then i burnt out. 🎉
@lolieware1955
@lolieware1955 11 ай бұрын
Thank you Thank you Thank you!!! This is amazing. You have just unscrambled my AUDHD brain. I now understand why I have been suffering from imposter syndrome all my life. Your videos make me fall in love with my brain a little bit more everyday day ❤
@indigotaylor-noguera7119
@indigotaylor-noguera7119 2 ай бұрын
This gave me great insight about myself. Needing the granular details before doing a task. No wonder why summarizing snd synthesizing hasn't been my strongest area.
@LilChuunosuke
@LilChuunosuke 11 ай бұрын
I have found over the years of my employment that developing a relationship with management is the hardest part, but once they understand me and how my mind works, they LOVE me. I will struggle to get hired and often recieve attitude from managers who misconstrue my mannerisms as lazy or uncaring. But then every time they try to catch me in the act of slacking off, they will find my peers being lazy and me working away, often doing vitally important tasks without being asked to simply to pass the time after my main job responsibilities were completed. All I ask for in return is fair wages and a respectful work environment.
@noziphokhumalo2963
@noziphokhumalo2963 11 ай бұрын
I couldn’t agree more, I’m in the software development space and I’ve worked with a lot of developers on the spectrum (some totally unaware). I love the authenticity, they are focused and truthful and hard workers. Yes there have been situations where they are bluntness has caused some friction in the teams but one thing I’ve noticed is that they are highly intelligent and very much open to feedback.
@DebraAlexander-md6oj
@DebraAlexander-md6oj 11 ай бұрын
Spot on! Autism rocks the classroom and job scape! They voice things that others are thinking- true honesty. 😂
@alejandro-314
@alejandro-314 11 ай бұрын
This video is spot-on. I recently had my yearly review with my manager and she told me that she was really happy with my work. And as positives she provided all these reason (although paraphrased) 🙂
@reneedevry4361
@reneedevry4361 11 ай бұрын
Thank you Thank you Orion.❤ This has been the first bright ray of sunshine in my recent horror of finding out that I am not mentally ill but incureably Autistic. I am a great employee until burnout. If the job has structure that forces breaks or lunch that abitity to work lasts much longer before burnout. Another similar thing is being asked to be on Boards for organizations. I have been recommended for so many Boards or "working groups" for Charities. I cut through politics (politely, most of the time) and regularly bring up things that nobody else considered. I tend to jump in to summerize when people get lost in long boring speals of gum flapping with nothing new being added and ask questions or redirect where we need to be going. Boards meetings always get more done in less time when I attend. Only problem is that people often become "afraid" of me because I am seen as unpredictable or a loose cannon. I will admit to a full public meltdown when some idiot allowed cars to drive on one of the most perfect (still curing) paving jobs I had ever seen in my life. ☹️ The compaction, angles, flow patterns, and smooth perfection of the job was almost orgasmic. This one idiot likely took 30 years off how long the job would last costing the Church at least $185,000 in the future but everyone else thought I was freaking out over nothing.
@LafeiMcCloud
@LafeiMcCloud 11 ай бұрын
The biggest thing that gets me is that these employers wont even give us a chance!!!!! I love to work with paperwork and data, I was great at my quality tech job but because my body couldnt handle the envoirnment (temp intolerant) and had to be let go but everyone, EVERYONE in that company said I was one of the best QA's that they have ever had because I was autistic.
@xxcrystalxchaosxx
@xxcrystalxchaosxx 11 ай бұрын
That’s fascinating, I will keep this video in my back pocket 😊
@PresidentJamesDChaos
@PresidentJamesDChaos 11 ай бұрын
I will definitely be using this to spice up my (very bare) resume lol
@zsedforty
@zsedforty 11 ай бұрын
8:21 This is a great conversation to have with loved ones.
@frogonwall
@frogonwall 11 ай бұрын
Can confirm we're great employees My bosses love me and I'm really easy to get along with. I'll always offer help to my coworkers if they seem to need it. They seem to like me as well
@TheTrueOSSS
@TheTrueOSSS 11 ай бұрын
I've found that resources like chat gpt can really help to reveal unforeseen social context when trying to phrase resumes and cover letters. Don't copy paste, but break things apart like Legos, then reconstruct the output that describes you best.
@teresat2162
@teresat2162 11 ай бұрын
It’s the employees that come to work sick (snorting of snot and coughing seems constant) that is problematic for me. Immune system is good yet the work environment turns into a hospital and now my lungs sound like soup….GROSS. Thank you, Orion.
@nancyziegler5724
@nancyziegler5724 11 ай бұрын
this is brilliant! i recall things like this going on when i was working. im relieved that this has come out, i believe it will make a difference. i was bullied at my last job, (many yrs ago) for not being able to process instructions. I was fired. what a mess, i was a single Mother & it turned out to be quite a horrible situation.
@spidersylar
@spidersylar 11 ай бұрын
I think the only way I managed to get my job (so far still the only permanent job I've ever had) is that I was literally already doing it so they already knew I was good at it. Basically I was in a temp agency and ended up working at this place, was supposed to be for a few weeks (no chance of extension they said) but they apparently liked me enough they kept me on for 10 months and then the listed the job I was doing as a permanent position, I applied and got it. FYI the job started with basically a lot of data entry but then they also realised I was good at data analysis as well etc. So in short, I would recommend signing up with a temp /recruitment agency if you also struggle with interviews etc.
@monriatitans
@monriatitans 11 ай бұрын
I was in HR's face telling them why their new policies were harmful before I was fired.
@withheldformyprotection5518
@withheldformyprotection5518 11 ай бұрын
All 5 reflect my autism, and are why I’ve been successful in workplaces for more than 30 years (27 years with my current employer, a.k.a. loyalty). One technique that I have found helpful to avoid conflicts with non-autistic people is to address issues (things that are incorrect or inefficient) as a curiosity. Ask leading questions to help them find their way to what you have already found and then praise them when they have the epiphany of the correct answer. Manipulative, I know, but since I have no interest is credit or praise, and just want the correct path/solution, I’m happy to help others find their way and then all benefit from the positive consequences.
@whatsupinspace854
@whatsupinspace854 11 ай бұрын
Wow great concept for the video!
@Dark1986Star
@Dark1986Star 11 ай бұрын
I have ADHD & Autism, and I feel like the odd one out judging by these comments. I struggled in every job. Yes, I worked 3x harder than most and have a keen eye for details, but it was never enough, and eventually, I'd end up having time off due to burnout and struggling to fit in.
@samanthalang3402
@samanthalang3402 11 ай бұрын
I have found that most companies management teams can not and will not accept an employee who is honest. We are punished for being honest. Even in government jobs 😢
@techjunkie68smusicandtech56
@techjunkie68smusicandtech56 11 ай бұрын
I have been in jobs for many years, the longest being 16+ years and I am autistic. My last employer must have regretted her motions of pushing me away with her toxic tactics, her business has now closed down. She had a high turnover of employees, most only staying a year and a half at most. I worked for her for 4 years until my work induced back injury forced me out along with her toxic attitude towards her employees.
@EricMHowardII-yh1rn
@EricMHowardII-yh1rn 11 ай бұрын
Important values to keep: Loyalty Honestly Productively Thinking Differently ByStander affect Mr Kelly Thank you for sharing your thoughts wholeheartedly.
@BananaPantsChannel
@BananaPantsChannel 11 ай бұрын
I’d love to see employers take this to higher, more practical levels. If I’m loyal, are they putting effort into employee retention to keep people happy or are they taking advantage? I think of myself as honest but I’m always masking, I’m not going to be that blunt stereotype. Has there been clear communication that people are open to honest feedback? I’ve raised issues in workflows or about coworkers being mistreated and instead of this being taken as a problem to fix, I’ve ended up In trouble or fired. (This seems really dependent on the manager/company culture) I have realized I DO need more details to see someone else’s bigger picture or what their version of done looks like. If we have a meeting to go over high level ideas, when will we make time to review the small details so I don’t get trapped by uncertainty or make assumptions/mistakes? Some employers or managers may *get* that my AuDHD brain works differently but they might not know how to support that. Then it falls on me to educate them and I don’t have all the answers!
@splabbity
@splabbity 11 ай бұрын
I'm extremely lucky to have this job and I'm hanging on to it for dear life.
@splabbity
@splabbity 11 ай бұрын
Literally
@TMABWTE
@TMABWTE 10 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for this! You have just shown (with research to back you up) the things I have instinctively known and worked out about my own work practices. The problem comes, of course, when employers are aware of the dodgy practices going on and are in fact relying on no-one calling them out. I did and lost my job as a result 😔
@Skyjamb
@Skyjamb 11 ай бұрын
Great word passionate about.
@cblaney3931
@cblaney3931 11 ай бұрын
Great video Orion. And I agree with what you said. A problem arises when you're being bullied, and management doesn't want to know, using the fact you are autistic as an excuse for you not being able to 'handle' being bullied. (Hope that made sense)!
@Robert-uw7tv
@Robert-uw7tv 8 ай бұрын
I am always so scared of making someone mad that I go above and beyond out of fear. This makes me seem to my boss like a hard working employee. Double edged sword.
@frankster1477
@frankster1477 11 ай бұрын
Oh, how this resonates with my history of employment (40 years). Something I have also noticed is that neurotypicals see what they expect to see, not what is actually there/going on. (Think of the folk tale of The Emporor's New Clothes.) It seems they are terrified that being aware of something being different will negatively effect their social standing. What if a higher status person says I'm wrong, is their mantra. As an autistic, I will see the llama standing in a field with sheep, and be aware of all of the sheep as well. The NT's will see the sheep--a mass of sheep, period. Maybe because they identify with sheep? I fail to fit in because I do not prioritize "What will people think?" It doesn't even occur to me. I'm not a first responder or medical person, but I have saved lives because I saw what WAS and acted accordingly. No politics.
@GullibleTarget
@GullibleTarget 11 ай бұрын
I was always the 'troublemaker'.
@DaveTheGM
@DaveTheGM 11 ай бұрын
I just walked out on my job because of the stress of trying to keep up and how nebulous the procedure was. I have no idea if I'll be able to find another or not. I'm just glad I got out before an autistic meltdown happened, my emotional levels were almost there. I was loyal to the company, but more loyal to myself. I feel I hid too much of how I felt by staying silent, so as not to cause a fuss. I've been high masking for years. I'll wait for someone else to speak up, but it makes me quite uncomfortable to do so. I don't know if I'll make it back to just speaking my mind and intervening in matters that need correcting, as I've spent too long being who they want me to be.
@PossumMedic
@PossumMedic 11 ай бұрын
Interesting info. Please link the study so we can give it a read
@ElfAzzid
@ElfAzzid 11 ай бұрын
I'm currently job hunting. Attaching this to my resume/cover letter. Thanks!
@carolinefiorentini3233
@carolinefiorentini3233 8 ай бұрын
I have ADHD but it's this kind of video that make me think i might autistic too because i recognised myself in everything you said
@possumintheblossom
@possumintheblossom 11 ай бұрын
Thanks for the validation. I really needed it.
@borderedge6465
@borderedge6465 10 ай бұрын
Orion, you are such a great speaker! Love listening to you, informative and fun. At my annual reviews I (after years of unwise living) nowadays specifically and deliberately point out most of the factors you present here! And, fortunately my supervisor, a wise young man, has finally become convinced of these particular - yet non-traditional - ways I help the organization.
@Kloops
@Kloops 11 ай бұрын
I was shamed for speaking for others and pointing out where things could be improved. So I was forced to stay quiet. It’s really messed me up big time. I never could understand why my friend was always so worried about losing her job over saying things that were obviously needing to be addressed. And one time I called my dad telling him how I was done with work and it was only three hours in to an 8 hour shift. He told me to be careful or I would work myself out of a job. It was all so weird to me.
@VandyMas
@VandyMas 11 ай бұрын
Great video, Orion. Your advocacy is amazing.
@apennyforyouraspiethoughts23
@apennyforyouraspiethoughts23 11 ай бұрын
What a great video! Thank you for sharing!
@jamesnicoll8415
@jamesnicoll8415 11 ай бұрын
Totally resonates. Thanks Orion. 👍
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