Pros and cons: Coming out as crossdresser or transgender

[@Harry-q2d]

That wig looks very natural on you. Maybe the best look I've seen you wear. You are such a lady. Even most cis women can't claim that title.

[@mercy2351]

Your videos are a great source of wisdom and kindness.

[@hpscan]

I totally agree! Paola is such a wise and caring person. I really feel she cares about all of her fans!! The wisdom she imparts on us is incredibly helpful

[@rileyorlando5681]

OH, UR WIGS ALWAYS LOOK REALISTIC AND WAS CURIOUS WHERE U GET THEM. THANKS, RILEY

[@jbhickok7796]

Thank you for being who you are, and for sharing with us. Best always. 🥰

[@haillord666belial]

Hi Paula thanks for the good content. Your tips really did help me out. Both in looking passable and in accepting myself as a crossdresser. You helped me understand gender-identity better. Personally i think the biggest pro about coming out as crossdresser is the self acceptance it brings. Not longer having to hide a big part of your identity. It can be a very hard road. The first person i did come out to, my now ex-fiancé left me because of it. Kinda bounced me right back in the closet. Got the courage back to come out an be open about crossdressing and gained a lot of confidence. Got more in touch with my feminine side which is pretty helpfull when dating woman. It helped me become a more happy carefree person. That,s such a big pro that it makes the haters just look really smallminded and un-important.

[@TerrenceAlvarez15]

Wooooow i love your hair for today. You are always sooo glowing. You're energy is very warm 💖💖💖💖✨

[@tonyaparker8563]

Number 2 was a big one for me the people who supported me and the people who didn't want anything to do with it was very surprising ,,, but I'm not doing it for them ,,, it's who I am and I'm loving it ,,, you have some good advice and info ,,, and you are a very beautiful girl

[@andrewrobinson3030]

Thank you. I’ve just come out to my wife of 43 years and she supports me. She’s very confused and cry’s. I then supported her. Xx

[@jfolz134]

Hi Paola, You make such great points and think the pros outweigh the cons. You look so classic in this, great makeup, wig, and top. Jewel

[@heavymetalbarbie]

when i came out as trans 7 months ago ..most people ,even co workers accpted it very well.when i tried to transition when in the 90s it wasnt taken very well at all ,that is why i stopped..i love my life now!!!

[@jenneljustus9601]

I began my transition in 1988 at the place I worked at, and I had great acceptance

[@pluto9249]

I’m a CD and I know my parents would not approve. They’re very old school and my mom found my clothes once made a nasty comment to me and always reminds me that I’m not a girl 🙃

[@gregluba1476]

People in The LDS CHURCH TREAT ME LIKE CRAP, BECAUSE they do know know how I feel. I love your topics.

[@jeffreynaegelkraemer5499]

Thank you for your content and perspective on this. You’re so pretty and I just love when I get notified of a new video. Much love.

[@Harry-q2d]

You know, it's very wifelike and feminine to give up your transition to save your relationship.

[@chrisoxford4026]

Hello Miss Paola. I'll say it again you're the most beautiful Creature on earth. Oh your hair is PERFECT!😍

[@basillee6051]

Well spoken again....like a professional phycologist. It's easier to listen to you because of your experience and knowledge. From make up tutorial to coming out as a CD or transgender.....you are true inspiration to all !!!!! Thank you soon much for this video.

[@annam5602]

Dearest Paola Being a late developing Crissdresser after years hiding my trueself I Thank u wholeheartedly 4 ur Advice! 2 let u know I have only came out 2 my Brother as if I do it with others and family I think their reaction would b negative! I luv ur various vlogs and from the bottom of my heart I wish u much luv and good health but this is something I have 2 decide 4 myself! Luv and Hugs Anna M ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ xxxx

[@rongriffiths3801]

I watch your channel from New Zealand...thanks for your wise words and encouragement ( P S I love the paranormal like you do )

[@XHeidiTVX]

I agree with pro 2. It definitely reveals who truly cares about you. Thanks for sharing, Paola! You're always sooo gorggg!

[@XHeidiTVX]

@@girltimewithpaola9251 💯💯💯

[@charlenestarr2901]

Love you so much dear!!! Hello from Ontario! :)

[@richardfondriest965]

You look really pretty with that color and length of hair, but you always look beautiful

[@johnnypocknee2842]

Hi Paola well explaind ..yes it can be hard too come out . .im sorry to hear you were not well over Halloween take care stay safe

[@rons7555]

Greetings, Paola !!! Happy Thanksgiving !!!

[@cmkseven7]

Excellent advice, Paola!

[@ellenvik1313]

You're gorgeous, hun!

[@rickkinki4624]

If I had a buddy come out as a crossdresser, and he looked and sounded as amazing as you do, I'd be very tempted to come on to him.

[@richardpasquale5930]

When i came out i fooled my buddy he actually grabbed me and kissed me he was actually was kind of cute

[@miaharrison573]

Awww

[@richardpasquale5930]

@@miaharrison573 Thank you so much for understanding Mia I am babysitting my 3 moth old neice right now and i kind of feel like mommy

[@richardpasquale5930]

@@girltimewithpaola9251 You have helped me so much with becoming a girl thank you Paola

[@priusskipper]

Thanks for sharing these tips Paola. I’ve been wearing clothes labelled as women’s for about two years now. At first it was leggings for running as they have brighter colors for visibility, then I like the waist better. In the last 6 months or so, I’ve come to really liking skirts. I’ll pair it with women’s or men’s tops as I see fit. I don’t know if this makes me a cross dresser, but I know now I have way more clothing options to chose from. Skirts have become my favorite clothing item. I now longer worry about other people’s opinions about the way I dress.

[@rileyorlando5681]

LOVE YOUR VIDEOS. THANKS SO MUCH! RILEY

[@yogibaer2160]

Its a complete personal choice i don't think its always necessary

[@yogibaer2160]

I can be completely fine w never saying anything about it but I can see all your points

[@mikkibaker6907]

You're a great help to our community. Why don't you (and your spouse) come to The Keystone Conference? They're just now calling for speakers. You could talk about your KZbin advice videos.

[@martinshelley2332]

Just two questions---#1 What Happened to All the Costume Modeling?? #2 What Happened to Beautiful Hair you had in previous videos?? You always--always look beautiful no matter what you wear--even today still gorgeous [in my book]

[@joelhoekstra3852]

You look amazing

[@johntowers5767]

WOW AMAZING VOG

[@deangammey374]

Very nice and well said. As usual, your honesty and strength is on full display. Thank you for this video

[@johnnj3858]

Once again such amazing advice to the other girls. This goes both ways. As a masculine guy coming out to family and friends with my attractions is a very similar feeling to what you described. If felt amazing, like 100 lb off my chest. Many were so supportive some couldn't understand and like you said they truly don't matter. Thanks again Paola, another thought-provoking, wonderful video. 🥰

[@rikkir]

Thanks again. You put it into words so well. Wish that I could reveal myself to a few people, but at my age and with other circumstances it's not the best idea. Keep it up, be safe, be frilled. Rikki

[@ChrisCap732]

So I'm going out with a southern country girl that's a christian republican that loves to do manly stuff such as fixing her truck, doing work in the yard, watching football, fishing, hunting which i find attractive about her. On the other hand im a boy that was raised in New Jersey with moderate political views( since i lost faith in both parties), with catholic faith. I love to crossdress in womens clothes, do my make up, get my nails done. I still dress in mens clothes which i love wearing my sweats ,hoodies and sneakers. I still partake in activities that are considered masculine such as watching sports, fishing, fixing cars, and fixing things around the house. She doesn't know that I crossdress and I'm so nervous to tell her. I hope she doesnt mind me wanting to do both which she would be missing out if she decides to call it quits. I'm telling her next month so wish me luck yall. I love this girl so much and I don't want to lose her.

[@princessjulieta]

Great video. I agree there are pro's and con's sadly.

[@kittycat7953]

Your vids are fantastic, i do take your advise. I came out to my family during 1st lockdown, all were great except my mum

[@richardsargent1643]

Paola you are a very beautiful person if you choose to live as a woman then good for you. Don't worry about the critics there opinion doesn't mean anything.

[@richardsargent1643]

@@girltimewithpaola9251 good for you I would be proud to be seen with somebody as beautiful as you.

[@esterparis1190]

Des remarques de bon sens et toujours cette voix agréable! Always that pleasant voice

[@MiaPhoenix]

Thank you yeah I am careful who I come out too. Must say I'd like to be able to work on my voice more though. Yours is amazing.

[@ShaunKellyMusic2012]

I’m very happy for you and support you and honestly look forward to seeing how your journey goes. You are a true inspiration to many.

[@ShaunKellyMusic2012]

@@girltimewithpaola9251 Many of your friends are supporting you 🙂

[@lorenakademar5267]

I think the biggest PRO is that is liberating! because you begin to live who you really are..in the balance of Pros and Cons...I guess this has more weight than the Cons....I don't know..

[@vanlevy2008]

Another great video, great commentary

[@richardgrauman9199]

I have come out to a select few i am very shy. As always you are so wise and so very pretty. Luv chloe anne

[@ericborgen7311]

Do you ever refur anyone to the thareipist you went to I love your videos you help a lot of people who are having trouble with their gender and sexuality or crossdressing

[@karlburns6221]

Paola I thank you for all of this insight. You are spot on about everything that you have said I totally agree with you. Now as for the weather this morning where you are at it is a Texas conspiracy lol. Thank you honey for making this awesome video. I hope you have a good day today and I hope you have a good weekend as well. Please becareful and safe always. You have all my love hugs kisses and blessings and respect and support always and forever

[@fionaotoole7385]

Hi Paola Thanks again for this very honest and measured advice. I adored the wig you wore in the last few videos but your new look is gorgeous as well. You never disappoint.

[@shadowknight7315]

U r so incredibly gorgeous! You're such an inspiration to me

[@LaCokaNostra81]

Omg, you look so beautiful.

[@raylew9937]

Very balanced w/ caveats disclosures. You're putting some sexual therapists out of business! 😉👏

[@frankcastillojr6575]

Your comments are so true and supportive of those of us that are thinking about coming out. Always love to view your videos.

[@kaboloustv6397]

Looking beautiful as always

[@elleBwsr]

Happy to find your channel and looking forward to getting to know your personal journey to becoming you. Overall, it has been positive for me though like you say it really helps you to determine who and who doesn't really care about you

[@brendanlaturnas3094]

Where did you get your wigs from

[@tylermaloney2002]

Love this video ❤

[@alexisdeville3605]

What state are now living in now?

[@misscute580]

@@girltimewithpaola9251 I live in Texas too. I live in San Antonio. I can't wait until I get to move out and socially transition into a Trans Woman since my mom is unfortunately Transphobic.

[@dm9078]

Great video

[@diontillman3132]

Hello you there, you look darling in that color hair, glad for your help and support

[@nigelmulvee994]

So loving the video Paola, and you look stunning as you always do, take care ♥♥♥

[@leebrewer1079]

loved your video, made a lot sense, but you mention coming out? correct me if im wrong, but coming out to me means gay? i only want to wear womens clothes with no make up or underwear, so what does that make me? i know im not gay???

[@leebrewer1079]

@@girltimewithpaola9251 i've told close friends and family, they have seen me in dresses and skirts, tbh they dont really get it, and im sure they think im gay, but im not one to judge as its new to me as well

[@windelbabymadchen8984]

I wish I had seen it earlier after my outing I have more panic and depression.

[@stephanierussell7256]

Thank you for being you

[@charleskesling4477]

When I come out as transgender my mom's has been forcing me to live with her so I can't start my transection she won't even let me get my driver's license I know I will be able to transection one day but I shouldn't have to wait for her to pass away I might be homeless when she does because I have a feeling she going to leave me with nothing and my 17 year old dog has to live outside so I don't get to see her until I go too feed her

[@misscute580]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm a Trans Woman myself, and my mom is unfortunately Transphobic, but luckily she does want me to move out from the house once I find a job.

[@mssharinabrown9958]

I can so relate to u as I have been there done that-luv u sis xx

[@terrynelson4631]

Trying to find your Pataeron site. Love you

[@DaveAHamptonTraining]

Thanks for this video.

[@tedclapham4833]

What puts the thrill in cross dressing for you?

[@samanthaevelyn82]

I know this is an out of place question to have here, but I didn't know where else to ask. Does anyone here have an Xbox One/Series X/S? I'm a trans girl looking for accepting friends that are not toxic. If so, please send me your gamertag 🙂

[@michellejean11]

Great video Paola, the warm weather is up here, where it should be in the 30s or 40s. I'll add a couple of points to Paoa's great presentation. If you look as feminine as Paola, passing in public will be almost unnoticed, if you are not passable consider if you can deal with the negativity, snide comments ect., behind your back. Also develop your girl voice, looking as passable as Paola and sounding like a truck driver will cause confusion and dissonance.

[@patrickrubio9156]

The season , and you are so Cool plus Sweet 💯✌

[@TacitusBlackLung]

You look beautiful, love that hair

[@rachellelaveux3553]

Allo Paola :) you look wonderful, i am franch but, i love you'r video, they are inspire me and encourage me to be more ,,,free and more me,,, with you i feel (??? ok i got it),,,,i feel not along and your word are true ;) ,,,, thank you to be you,,,, and some day ( i know it will appen) i will be more me (a woman),,,, just like you . xxxx🤗

[@BR1967FE]

u look gorgeous, do you have any voice tips

[@donaldbaker6961]

Thank you so much glad you had a great Halloween 🎃 ❤️

[@stedehans3851]

You are so adorable honey. Your vids are improving and you look more amazing each time. Love you . Keep going

[@wyndmclark7235]

Who cares what other people think Life is too short to worry about what other people think if you live your life by what other people think you'll never live your life don't waste your time and worrying about everybody else just focus on yourself people can be cruel who cares they're the ones with the issues not you don't worry about them if they're not paying your bills who gives a shit

[@DJ_Bonebraker]

Yeah, that was my experience when coming out as non-binary. Of course one of the cons you listed, namely finding out who the cruel people are in your life, well, let's just say that after 5 years of therapy & general growth, I'd argue that is a pro: Better to know who the toxic jerks are in your life so you can cut them out of it & not deal with them anymore.

[@paulasmith1396]

Both are great

[@merlinsk1]

Have an awesome weekend ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@chloerogers5419]

I would love to come out as a cross dresser. I would love you to help me with that.

[@FreeTheDonbas]

It's not possible to transition from one gender to the other, so "transgender" is the same as cross-dressing: role-play.

[@tako3925]

Hormones?

[@woman.2063]

Everybody is a Woman.

[@chrismacphee4196]

Looking so pretty😘😘😘😘

[@hpscan]

I was over at a friend's house last night and was THIS close to coming out to her about my dressing up. Had it been just her and I and no kids around I probably would have. But the kids were in and out and all over the place. Next time we get together I am planning on coming out to her. This video was just the perfect timing for that!!

[@hpscan]

@@girltimewithpaola9251 thank you so much!! Better news is I'm going on vacation driving to visit some other friends in another state. While I drive out there at my hotel rooms I will be dressing up in my newest dress that I just got today. Will also be working on my feminine voice as well as makeup.

[@hankmoody2345]

I trust your wife has been supportive of your transition? You're such a strong, confident and beautiful lady. As you mention, your support system is so important.

[@clarencemarsh6077]

Gorgeous wig

[@davidlong2450]

I’m really happy that you are who you are as a wonderful wonderful person and I enjoy hearing your sweet sweet story’s my closest sweet sweet dearest friend Paula? I hope that you and your wife will have a wonderful wonderful thanksgiving day and wonderful wonderful Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, from your closest sweet sweet dearest friend David Long

[@alanpugh8192]

Poala you are a pretty lady you look so good love xx

[@bobbyb1754]

One of my new favorite channels. I'm a straight male but very attracted to trans and CD.

[@PkmnTrainerSophia]

2:20 For me, those are pros.

[@stedehans3851]

Never wanted to come out feel no need

[@Nate-Da-Gr8]

Looking good n miss u

[@rocketimpossible5196]

You always look so beautiful and feminine in long hair

[@johnbishop2949]

Beautiful Paola💗❤️♥️

[@newartist210]

Very Cutie 🥰 Good Job 🙋

[@sharpsvilleBill]

Paola, I'm wondering, as I'm sure many have, when you are in beautiful woman mode (or otherwise) are you or have you ever been physically attracted to men? I hope this isn't insulting to ask but I'm just curious. Thanks and you look stunning!

[@frailannarvaiz8193]

Look so beautiful 💖💖💖

[@bookworm5433]

Ya, it's really different for me now. Everyone who's opinion I cared about is dead now. I just live blended. At work I dress very plain. When I'm not working I think my style is best described as androgynous. I just made a little crossdressing my life as best I could. I'm just trying to be complete, I love all of me. My feelings on coming out, it feels awkward. Other people aren't like, um...I have to tell you something, I'm straight. When things come up naturally I'm just honest about it. Lots of people know that I like feminine people and I don't care what they have between their legs. If they can't figure out I'm femme. Lot's of people live perfectly normal lives with learning disabilities, so that's perfectly alright.