What prevented me from transitioning?

[@sylviav]

From an older tg-woman almost 20 yrs in, Good luck! Life sucks, but if this is who you are it will get better. This is your decision, no one else's. It is your life to live. No one else will live it for you. People will leave, believe me you didn't need them. Some will come along and will pass the tests and be the strength when you need it. Ultimately don't quit on life no matter the obstacles. It does get better. Luv ya,

[@nicksmallwood8828]

In that dress and with that hair you look gorgeous Paula! You're the only one who knows if transitioning is right for you, so do what you feel, not what people tell you to do.

[@april3039]

You go for it Girl, Life is too short & the older you get the more you will regret not doing it earlier, Love April 💋

[@snardfluk]

@@girltimewithpaola9251 You are most welcome and welcome to womanhood!

[@blackveilwidow902]

@@girltimewithpaola9251 you're still young, you're like 28 - 30 ,no? You have a lot of time to transición 😘

[@louong93]

I don't think she'll regret. For some people crossdressing and she already pass easily as a woman there is no point transition.

[@snardfluk]

@@louong93 I don’t want anyone to have regrets but there are profound differences, which she has addressed.

[@jennashadowz6987]

The only thing that matters is your happiness. I'm trans and I delayed my transition because I was always worried about what others would think. I wasted time because my family disowned me when they learned that I was trans. Like you, none ever really reached out to me anyway. Remember, life i s too short and we are not guaranteed tomorrow. Live your life in the way that makes you happiest. No regrets Girlfriend and remember it's your life. Much love .💓💓

[@ladyjenna9814]

I can't love this comment enough!

[@area51camodudes88]

Yes excellent comment I'm in the process stage of becoming a transgender myself very nicely spoken friend

[@fpancho54]

Whatever you choose to do is your own decision you're the one that has to live with the final decision in the long run. But whatever you do choose, don't stop talking with us as we all love and support you.

[@jimjones7912]

Thanks, I needed your wisdom! I am dealing with what I know it must happen. I enjoy your videos! ❤️

[@mikekaniuk8064]

Well I for one do miss your clarity in speaking, in showing all of us what you know and how easily you give to all of us... truly a generational talent...always unafraid and always willing to be fair and honest....good luck to you, your wife, and your chidren hopefully someday with clarity and wisdom you can teach me and everyone else to be the women we all dream to be

[@tinamartini]

Honey I always knew you needed this and I wasn’t surprised when you reversed your previous decision. Most of all I hope things are OK with your wife and immediate family ❤️

[@mastersaurkon]

Omg, Paola, I'm so proud of you. You just always seemed so happy and so natural as a woman and it always felt like this was going to be right for you. I have been transitioning for several months now but you inspire me so much and I hope I can look like you someday. So proud of you. This is really you!! It's right and true. You are so beautiful and lovely and amazing.

[@jon106]

Appreciate you sharing your assessment of what prevented you from transitioning. As usual, great advice that will be helpful to others in a similar situation. The vast majority of us learn things about a KZbin content creator only through their posted content. We are not entitled to know every detail aside from what they wish to share. You go above and beyond when it comes to sharing information about your life. Of course, this channel’s original name contained the words “My” and “Life”. You continue to live up to those words as you educate and provide wisdom from your own experiences. Please continue to only share what you are comfortable sharing and at the time you feel is appropriate. PS: Glad to see you made up with Santa after the Halloween shopping incident.

[@tredw66]

Your heart and head are in the right place. Hope all the best for your future.

[@RyougiVector]

I had to pause the video for awhile as soon as you walked in gracefully in that dress. I was overwhelmed by how great you looked. Extra? Nah I think it was just right for a holiday-based framing. Excellent style.

[@courtneyndtrans4425]

Paola lovely gown. I’m happy to hear your decision. I’ve been on HRT for 6 months without transitioning full time, and I probably never will but now I’m much more at ease with my body. Good luck on your journey.

[@josiefrancis8197]

Never lose the sight or will to carry out your dreams. Allow yourself to have the fewest regrets as possible. Love yourself Be true to yourself.

[@lauriskervac5509]

As an elderly man (63 years old) particularly sensitive to this kind of feeling and situation, you have my full support for this part of your life and beyond. Courage, strength, original and true feeling are on your side. Throw away toxic people, it doesn't matter, they were already toxic before. Those who remain know what they are, and you probably know who they are, family or friends. I live in a semi-similar situation with a serious chronic illness for 36 years, even my 3 children are gone... I know very well the system of small compartments that society tends to create to separate us. Only one person stays with me even if we are not particularly on the same wavelength ! I'm sure good people exist but they are hard to find because of a special discretion that protects them. You're strong, beautiful and kind, that's the main thing. I wish you the best through this strange thing we all share called "Life"!

[@david-ky7rt]

You look amazing Paola. You have to be careful with this KZbin, and what you put out. I have been playing guitar for over 30 years, studio work, live jazz, never had a KZbin channel,, was thinking about doing a smooth jazz music channel just unsure about doing it. You do a great job with your channel.

[@LtNewbie]

Thanks...Happy Holidays!

[@dagz7669]

I'm happy for you, Paola! Wish you lot's of good fortune & luck on your new journey. 🤍🤍🤍

[@richardsargent1643]

You have always been a beautiful woman and I wish you all the best for your transition.

[@Angie-ww4ub]

WOW that gown looks great and you make it look even better!

[@jessicabaker7399]

Wow, fabulous dress. Stunning. You look like Christmas :) In my case, I kept delaying because of fear. Both safety and also not being able to lead a normal, quiet life where no one notices me. I've always wanted to be invisible, whether I trying to be a boy or being myself. You and other Trans have so much courage. Thank you for sharing, you're an inspiration to all. You are also very kind for helping us deal with being Trans. We don't have a choice about being Trans, many of us can have a choice in how we deal with it. Sadly some are trapped and have no choice.

[@nzroversfan]

Firstly you look great in that gown. Your video is very well thought and mature, considering many aspects of the same issue always helps. Agree only the family that matter need to be considered the others are just relatives. All the very best on your transition.

[@williamwatkins1849]

You are a unique person and at the end of the day you do what you feel comfortable with. Merry Christmas.

[@DJ_Bonebraker]

I'm just glad you were able to eventually discover & come to terms with your true self without feeling pressured into it one way or the other. TBH, that's why it's taken me 8 years to finally take steps with my own non-binary transition, was due to pressure from my ex-wife, then dealing with the fallout of her leaving me (even after I tried to go back into the closet permanently for her sake), the divorce & my mom's cancer finally claiming her while all this was going on.... I didn't even start presenting as female in public until about 4 years ago, and even then it takes a LOT of courage to do it, and lately I've been too busy with dealing with the whole pandemic to even bother...

[@donnanadlesneu4808]

I'm getting my SRS rather soon, I'm so happy. I still think I look like a guy but I need to live my life. Merry Christmas to you and your family!!

[@mariomicallef7142]

You look perfect Paola. Go easy on surgery. Take care.

[@ghostgirl2133]

I am so happy for you. I felt the same way with family and everyone else and I was worried about what everyone else thinks (I have to work through that and I am still am). But I realized that life is too short and after losing my grandmother back in 2016 , I decided to transitioning

[@GodlessRobin]

Happy for you, becoming the woman you are will make you feel much better and happier.

[@short1961]

Happy holiday to you too. I hope you find happiness in your life; you deserve no less.

[@chv4life85]

As long as your family has your back and support, nothing else matters. Congratulations on your decision you deserve happiness in its full form

[@mikey92362]

I wish I had grown up in this day and age instead of when we were seen as unacceptable. I'm eventually most likely going to transition, not from m2f, but from living to not. Just been waiting for my kids to leave home and not be needed anymore. You are such an amazing person! Light a candle once in a while and maybe think about all the sisters in the past who didn't make it because they lived in such a difficult time period or in such difficult circumstances. So glad you made it through!

[@petesmith8362]

You go girl! You will be missing your calling if you don't transition!! You and your wife will rock it together!!

[@chuckg2016]

Maybe the answer to "why now" is because the time is now right for YOU ..... for you to become who you really are. Gorgeous creature, you've done a c great job of very rationally resolving a seemingly endless list of issues. I know your supporters will not waver. I won't ans I wouldn't hesitate a second to be seen with you.

[@everettmason6689]

The only people that should matter is you and your family whether you transition or not it's nobody else's business as for you sharing with others if you could help one person then you've done a great great deed

[@paulhyde1834]

When you walked into shot at the beginning of this video, my first reaction was WOW, what a stunning lass Paola is!!!! The best love is unconditional; even folks who are 'uncomfortable' with the idea still ought treat you with love and kindness and if they feel they have to express an 'opinion' or a 'concern', do it with compassion, kindness and respect. You've got someone here, in the UK, who's here for you; at least as much as is possible with the Atlantic in between us!! Love and best wishes for everything you do. XXXX

[@AlexisDrake]

Absolutely gorgeous! What a stunning outfit!

[@DonnaSwan]

You look sooo glamorous in that dress! Wow! What a stunner!

[@Danielle.0000]

Girl, there are solutions for all of these fears as you realized. HRT, laser/electrolysis (I’m 99% hairless now), surgeries all make it possible. Fat redistributes, hair can be removed and thins out by HRT. I went thru all these challenges and fears. Started in 2014, paused myself due to social constraints from 2016-2019 before finally not caring what others think, restarting HRT in 2019 and accept the losses and gain changes in my life, friends and now I’m happily transitioned full time and I will never go back. Do what is going to make you feel whole.

[@everettmason6689]

The only thing that matters is you and your family what you guys discussing what you do is nobody else's business for you sharing with others if you should help one person through their difficulties then you've done a great deed

[@Late70sRocker]

You're story is similar to mine. Desires to - and first crossdressed at age 14. Now I am 60. Ask myself too many questions. Married. Extremely codependent and wife and I are entering the - need -for-caregiving era in our lives. Too many negative questions, too much fear, too much "what if this and what if that." Religion and church congregation held me back. Was on HRT 4 months, stopped at the end of February. But this summer I would like to resume HRT. A lot of it is finding the right people to be around, the right crowd to be associated with.

[@johnnj3858]

Great explanation Chelsea! Most of us have a large majority of family members that never contact us. They shouldn't matter in one's life's decisions. You have made up your mind go full steam ahead and reach your goal! Try not to be hard on yourself, you are more beautiful than most cis women.As a loyal follower I support you! 🥰

[@nikolasb5111]

You'll do great with your transition. It's a big decision and it's only normal to give it a lot of time to reflect. You do look so much happier now (I know you have heard that a lot but it's true). We love you, follow you, and support you no matter what. Thank you for sharing your journey!❤

[@BR1967FE]

you look absolutely amazing, Thank you for sharing, Yes everything you said I agree with, same for me, been holding off way too long finally starting to make some changes, also nobody contacts me, I only have three people + my business customers, that one's the big one for me right now : ( you take care & do you 🙂

[@karlburns6221]

As I mentioned to you before no matter what you do In your life you will always have my full respect and support. It brings me happiness that you are going forward and not going back just know that I am very very happy for you and very very proud of you. Some may see you as being different but me personally I see you as a human being with feelings and emotions. I thank you for all that you do in your life. You as my nephew would say ‘ you rock.’ You will always have all my full respect and support no matter what. So from my heart to your heart you have all my love hugs and kisses and blessings and respect and support

[@frankcastillojr6575]

Don't stop with your updates as a lot of us look forward to them.

[@jennashadowz6987]

We love you Paola. Remember that you have our support because so many of us can empathize with you. Your true friends and family will always be there for you. Those that abandon you are probably fake anyway and you're better off without them. To quote a very wise man, "Live long and prosper."

[@hpscan]

Congratulations on your upcoming transformation. You do what is best for YOU!!

[@kimnielsenthewordyvikingett159]

Don't hold back sweetheart you know that you will only be happy when you get it over with. I'm 66yrs young started H.R.T December 22 2020 can't wait till I'm finished. At your young age it'll go faster. And you need to take care of the most important thing in your life (YOU) Not family Not lovers Not anyone but (YOU)!!!!!!

[@jfolz134]

Hi Paola, That is a beautiful gown and you were it so well. Would love to have that one in my wardrobe. You should never worry about outside pressures and negative thinking, and I am so proud of you that you have addressed these issues and are moving forward to toward achieving your happiness. I'll always support you if you need a friend. Jewel

[@julieannsimpson2059]

Omg i love that dress!!! Fits you so well. Merry Christmas to and yours. Xoxo

[@BertramhFien]

You do everything with such class.

[@billbyles1238]

I am happy that you have decided to go ahead with this. You are so feminine now and you are going to be absolutely stunning when you are transitioned.

[@analoguekaosmedia7412]

I fully support you regardless. But, I understand you on the extended family reason.

[@thatonegirlazu9847]

You’re an inspiration. I recently came out and still waiting to start HRT. This really helped me with my fears thank you so much

[@cherrylove3656]

and the financial side of affording transitioning can come into questioning? I'm glad you mentioned it thanks this will help others and your absolutely right you don't owe anyone an explanation it's your business and your life

[@geraldoram2453]

In most cases friends are more important than family members. If they are supportive then as you say it’s your own choice to do what you want. Good luck with your life whatever you decide.

[@bk3706]

be true to you, it is your life. whatever decision you make is the right one. life is long and you need to be happy with it. i am actually quite envious of you and based on this a getting to know you, like you.

[@Jodi28]

First of all , you look stunning in that dress . Merry Xmas to you and yours .What you've said makes absolute sense ,100 % . It's your life and you have to make decisions for yourself , one's that make you feel happy within yourself , so in the long run when you look in the mirror you are happy with what you see and that is the ultimate goal and if family or even close friends don't support you then that's their loss and how could they fully understand anyway ? The little things you start with first and then you progress onto the larger things . For example facial hair , I got rid of mine years ago , anyway you get the idea . You will find out soon enough who is true to you and who isn't . Take care and stay safe . x

[@joehadnot4777]

We are responsible for our own happiness and satisfaction. You are beautiful, and you spend a lot of time, and resources to achieve a level of contentment that you can be happy with. The next steps don't surprise me, be careful with yourself! Happy holidays!!

[@lorenakademar5267]

Happy holidays for you too!!!

[@stefanomandolini9044]

Even if your path changes, you are always you. And we care and love only you.

[@basillee6051]

The ifs...the buts...ands.... don't let that stop you. You do what makes you happy!!!!!! Put your mind to it and ignore the negativity. Their is only one Paola and this fan and others will respect you and your decision . You are so great at what you do. Don't ever give up dream or goals !!!!!!! Love all your videos......

[@jimmywhite4322]

I’m with you 100 percent as far as family and friends your already a beautiful woman happy holidays stay safe ur friend from Houston Texas

[@chrisoxford4026]

STUNNING, STUNNING, STUNNING, and STUNNING Again!

[@scarletmoriarty8977]

Good for you for being strong and not listening to someone else thoughts.

[@stud88100]

I believe you have the right attitude to go ahead and do it if it is going to make you happy. Like you said, your mom is there for you, so maybe your other family members will accept you for who you are. You are right, it is your life and life is short. I wish you all the best in your decision and it sounds like you have researched this a lot because with technology now days, they can do amazing things, they can fix any areas that you are not happy with. Good luck, be safe, and happy holidays

[@rons7555]

Yes, I acknowledge your situation and support you in your decision, as you have control over your life and your destiny and what to do in the pursuit of happiness and contentment. Peace ✌️. Merry Christmas and happy new year . Paola. Stay happy.

[@SusanBlanchfield]

I also very proud of you.good luck girl🎉❤

[@plm456plm]

You hit the nail on the head with that video sister. This has what had me questioning my decision to transition. I love you so much girl. Take care

[@tammidee7402]

Thank you for your words about who is there for you. I have been caught up in that for a long time.

[@johnnanni3365]

I’m so glad you made this I’m literally in the same position as you! I’m 24 years old and I’ve always wanted to transition (mtf) and I just set up my first appointment with a therapist because I had the same revelation as you! Love you girl!

[@jamessmurf7937]

So grateful for another great video Paola :) i am always stunned by ur honesty, the facts are on social media everyone has an opinion! As long as you and close loved ones are supportive, your life is yours to live as you choose lots of love xx

[@deangammey374]

Keep your confidence in yourself and your decision. For what its worth, I am very proud of you and admire your courage. You are beautiful inside and out and I wish for you the joy of being yourself.

[@davidcox1508]

I understand the fear that 'coming out' can be, especially with family. As a CD, I've seen well more than a few friends of mine disappear through the years. The worst part of that for myself was 'outing' myself to those 'friends', and having them LIE to me. The first question is always, "So, um... are you gay"? No. I'm a heterosexual cross-dresser. "Oh. Well, you should do what makes you happy", or some version of that. And then they stopped calling so much. They stopped texting so much. They found excuses for not being able to get together. Days turn into months, months into a couple of years, and I realized they just couldn't deal with it, even though I hoped and prayed they'd come around. THAT'S the worst part of it all for me - feeling the people you care about simply fade from my life. I cared about them - to some degree or another I loved them. And I MISS them. I REALLY miss them. Like you said Paola, we just move ON. It's not THEIR life. I think that you're incredibly beautiful, and in THIS video I was watching your eyes, and it became clear to me that you're a beautiful SOUL as well. As pretty on the inside as you are on the outside...! Keep being YOU, darling girl! Thank you sharing some of your life with us!

[@gialicious1091]

For most of us, the person we are at the start of our transition is absolutely nothing like the woman we are 1 year in, 3 years in, 10 years in. I was a bodybuilder with a shaved head and a square body when I started my transition. I was wearing padding and wigs. With time, and hormones, and feeling more comfortable the struggle got less and less. Now I’m a fit girl with long hair, and people rarely clock me as trans. You really can transform, like a butterfly, and it’s a wonderful thing. You go girl!

[@fionaotoole7385]

You have to do what is right for you so I am happy that you have realised that and becoming the real girl that you have always been. That Christmas tree looks very plain when it is beside the gorgeous you in that absolutely beautiful dress. You never disappoint.

[@alanfoster2271]

Hi Paola. If the internet did not exist! What would you really do ? Its your life and nobody else. if you crave for this because it feels right for you then go you for it. I had the chance 40yrs ago to do some thing in my life and never did it because of others and now its to late so you go for it. Lots of love to you xx

[@DennyEssary]

Be what you want to be !t is not the world to tell you what makes you happy !your beautifull

[@ralphs88]

Wow you look stunning in that gown!!! Give me hope in my transition

[@donellefson5882]

Right on Paola :) What a good point like you my family really doesn,t care about keeping in contact with me as well you are right ,who cares . That helps me make my mind up about doing the same. To bad I waited so long .

[@LionsTigersBears]

You need to do it for yourself and nobody else. Do what makes you happy. At the end you wake up everyday looking in the mirror and seeing who you really are and loving that person in the mirror. If your wife is with you all the way. Then she is your true love all along. If not then you will find your soulmate out there.

[@richardgrauman9199]

Your reasons for going ahead are valid you are so pretty i wish i could look half as pretty as you. You cant live your life for someone else i am praying for you. Luv chloe anne

[@City67Girl]

Obviously you are a woman and you deserve to live openly as a woman. Good luck girlfriend. I just wish I had your courage. I treasure my time spent as a woman but I know I will never transition.

[@pastormarshall357]

You are so beautiful and will only become more beautiful. Watching your videos gave me the courage to crossdress the first time. And I started transitioning almost immediately after that. I can not thank you enough. I’m bilingual with a Spanish female name so I felt a connection with your videos immediately, and your voice is very calming. I would like to talk with you some day. Keep doing what you do. There are a lot of us out here that need that extra voice. We love u very much

[@kimnielsenthewordyvikingett159]

Don't listen to any one but the most important person in your life YOU!!!!!!!!!

[@DavidWilliams-hv7so]

Your happiness is the most important thing.

[@heavymetalbarbie]

i started transitioning over 25yrs ago but stopped because what everybopdy said.i hated myself and my life everday after,until 8 months ago when i transitioned and i love my life now!!!think of yourself girl!!

[@Avery1980]

You know that I’m happy for you and I’ll always be here for you gurl after watching this your family life/personal life sounds just like mine nobody really bothers with me either nobody calls me nobody text me nobody comes by to visit me nobody invites me out to do things The only family I associate with is my immediate family my parents my sisters and my nieces and nephews and of course my gf it’s funny the more I get to know you the more similar we seem

[@slashandbones13]

That's awesome to hear. Keep on going.

[@Harry-q2d]

Lady, you can change a lot of things about you but you are already you and that should always be your Northstar.

[@djflakoelmonstruo9908]

Just do whatever makes you happy forget about what people think

[@cointenderrarities933]

We will all have a date on our headstones that read: born date slash death date. That slash is what we've accomplished and how WE chose to live while alive!! Everyone will have a different slash story!!!

[@rogerbertrand8178]

True

[@hatmanndo]

I wish great success and a very happy and satisfying life and BTW both you and your decorated home look lovely. Stay well and safe, always. 😀

[@TruBrahBull]

Well, I hope that you don't leave KZbin! Please continue to stay in touch! Your videos are so wonderful and a joy to watch! You are such a beautiful, fine, and sexy young lady! You can really, "pass" as a woman already! You are so beautiful and gorgeous! I understand that you want to transition for yourself! I hope that it is rewarding for you, and it makes you happy! Not that you're not already happy! I love you so much! Be blessed 🙏🏿

[@kinganowa]

Paula, be yourself ❤️ PS. I like the intro of your films when you go to the camera ❤️

[@peterguindo1576]

You are not only beautiful, you are so smart and adorable woman.

[@richardabbott5601]

Congratulations, you are so brave.

[@rlyd8813]

Wow! You look Confident and Beautiful !

[@chynnadouglas3637]

None of us really know you ... so you do you and we will cheer you on!

[@voguedolll]

I put off transitioning my whole life because of fear if hurting my family. I have no regrets that I didn't go all the way but I do wish I had done it. Now am too old to really transition full-time but I still live a life that I can accept. If you feel 100 %this is right you go girl.