Pros & Cons of Being Trans (ft. Pierbi!!)

[@storyspren]

Pros: self Cons: society

[@prueidki]

Right off the rip lmao

[@Oneonni]

real

[@kirillbelikov9109]

Cons: lots of crazy people watns you dead:(

[@taxinvasion260]

Sociemtidy.

[@skyeline9228]

Damn, yes

[@SomeGalNamedEve]

Testosterone did a lot of horrible things to my body, but honestly, being able to speak in both a feminine and masculine voice whenever I want is actually pretty sick

[@Sir_Bucket]

Gaslight people in phone call into thinking they're talking to two persons.

[@dudgnl0227]

​@Sir_Bucket this is the trans agenda 😂

[@laezie]

what did it do to you?

[@TomiThemself]

@@laezie Wdym? Don't you know what puberty does?

[@laezie]

@@TomiThemself well obviously lmao, i didn't know if they were AFAB and took test to transition, which is why i was asking

[@TheNeilBreen]

PEEPS I'M FINALLY STARTING HRT TOMORROW!!!!!!

[@kekmitkeks9328]

Congrats!

[@DaBaSoftware]

Welcome, we've been waiting for you~

[@ReyCereal]

congratulations!

[@druurae]

WOOOOO

[@samanthalouise641]

Congratulations

[@DpodShuffle]

Lol they swapped hair colors 😂

[@askhatabdirazakh3577]

Hair color transaction

[@R_AM02]

Oh! Thank you

[@andromidius]

Pro: I get more positive attention from interesting women. Con: I get more negative attention from uninteresting men. Pro: I have a goal for the future that I previously lacked. Con: I'm a naturally lazy person and goals are stressful.

[@duncangreywater]

This is pretty much the number one thing I hear about when talking to anyone about their transition; the MtF crowd go, "wow, women finally feel more comfortable around me and will actually talk to me like I'm a human being, but men tend to be more crass and rude to me", and then the FtM crowd go, "Now very few people talk to me at all unless I talk to them and people seem to care significantly less about me if I didn't already establish a long-lasting friendship with them". Which both facts are extremely sad and makes me too nervous to take the next step in transitioning.

[@3wok0nacid17]

TRUUUUUEEE

[@conlon4332]

@@duncangreywater That really highlights the flaws in our society. But I think trans people notice it more because it's a change rather than it happening to them more than to cis people. It just sucks all around. Although I've heard that women who don't wear makeup tend to be ignored by men, so I guess that's good there can be some agency, not that it should be something that limits your decisions in how you express yourself. I don't wear makeup, and although I don't go out much, when I do I'm not really approached by men other than to tell me about God. But I don't know if that's more to do with not wearing makeup or more to do with being in a wheelchair and out with my mum. But either way, I wouldn't let it stop you from being yourself. Especially as this is only mostly about how strangers treat you, not your friends.

[@Faroshkas]

​@@duncangreywaterthe second one is just being a man I feel like

[@lav-kitty]

​@@Faroshkas yeah? that's the point dude

[@sam_evans44]

Trans guy here, I live in a place where it's very scary to be a trans person. Very worried about all the social stuff and the potential for violence (especially at work) But despite all of that, ive made an appointment to talk about starting hormones next month!!!! It's time to live my life, ive done way too much sitting and dreaming about it. Thank you so much icky, your videos have helped me a lot in a place where I feel so alone in all of this. Im sure they've helped so many others as well

[@TheCyanAngel]

Holy shit I didnt know you were friends with Pierbi, she was one of the first trans creators I found on YT! I was worried she just disappeared, glad to see her thriving!

[@druurae]

She streams on twitch frequently

[@CybernerdShua]

She has been around on other places. Some less SFW than others.

[@druurae]

@@CybernerdShua she’s been there for yrss honestly these two cracked my egg over the course of 3-4yrs 🥲

[@candyh4284]

@@CybernerdShua I didn't know this and you cannot prove otherwise in a court of law

[@kiloliters]

she's pretty active...elsewhere...

[@calliavtvmn06]

Hi icky and pierbi, finally the 2 queens together!! ❤👸👸

[@planeswalking]

love the collabs from the united queerdom. i am 40+ now. started mid 30s with a lotta diy and resistance on all fronts - took me forever to learn i can never be as cute as you all. but that is also part of the process. now i am okay. i would not change it for the world - for i found my peace within. and when people have an issue with my existence, i just try to walk away - and if they chase, i bust a kneecap. and walk away. recently people called me milf online. at first i was shocked, now i just lean into it. someone's gotta do all that dommy mommy stuff eh?

[@numbum9394]

If I knew what was possible at 20 and society would be at least that accepting, I would probably transition. At 40 it seems I'm too late for that train.

[@ChaoticEnigma92]

I'm early 30's and scared out of my damn mind. Don't know if I should start transitioning or not with the global climate the way it is.

[@jhosioja]

37, in the slow process of trying to get HRT. I had that line of thinking of, I'm too old and it's too late, but I was just miserable all the time, and even just starting the process, I started feeling better. I'm realistic about what it can do, but even the worst case is better than status quo.

[@Misshonkster]

25; starting HRT on 1st november. Took me a small year; from 21`st feb since i ''came out'' (my bday basically) .... 10 years agony; already feel better before even starting it. It's not too late to just... become more fem.

[@RoweSandberg]

​@@numbum9394I transitioned two years ago at age 57. It's never too late. Then again I got to a point where it was transition or suicide and by now, I know I made the right choice.

[@muddymudkip15]

Yay Pierbi! Can’t wait to find out who else we’ll see in future collabs

[@_Ruggsy_]

Your comment about being locked out of places for your identity really hits home as a trans person in Arkansas

[@eco2geek.]

Song that still seems to apply, even all these years later: _Arkansas_ by Neil Young, off the album _Harvest Moon_

[@love_life_leafeon5955]

I hope you can escape or the political climate gets better. Just having family in the south scares me, I can't imagine living there.

[@lars1588]

Same here in Indiana. Solidarity.

[@glenlapwing8468]

Need to get yourself to a northern big city, usually plenty of jobs & you can be yourself & be accepted-mostly because the absence of republicans & their screwloose religion

[@justout75]

I'm in the mo mo Ozarks..I understand. .. especially when you're completely by yourself.

[@KensaiProductions]

Florida baby trans here (Ugh I need to change my profile photo!) I just yesterday got approved for HRT. Everyone I've told so far has been super supportive and kind. I think you're confusing the Fascist Government of Florida with the people, who are generally pretty laid back. If you do come for a visit let me know!

[@littlebigphil]

It depends a lot where you are in Florida.

[@tylerbeaumont]

Tbf most of us on the outside only really see what’s on the news, which is usually just the crazy school board members and fascist government. I don’t doubt at all that there are countless perfectly lovely people there, but from the outside looking in it’s really hard to see them among all the crazies running the place.

[@Asathegoopy]

@@tylerbeaumontin fairness, every day interactions rarely make any kind of records

[@wiktorszymczak4760]

Go change this profile picture

[@Julia_and_the_City]

Trans Floridians rule, I'm very sorry for your shitbag government and I hope you can find your own way alongside the Floridians you love

[@C0mfyest]

Not me pausing and going frame-by-frame to read the letter... Editing ON POINT! Give that editor a medal!

[@EdenAdema]

I'm so happy icky is having new guests on the show this is so much fun

[@codylox41]

Asher, yes I paused, yes, I'm glad I did! That note was amazing!!

[@Eleon_Alosty]

As a trans fem living in Oklahoma I can say that this place is not trans friendly in most cases and I've had to hide my transition from work and general social places. I was finally able to come out to friends and family after starting estrogen but it's hard to still have to hide my self over all and I feel like it's stumping my transition which I started later in life in general and that has made it a bit more difficult to deal with but despite that the pros still outweighs I can wake up in the morning and get out of bed without struggling to want to continue on and I can just be happy and relax around friends and family without feeling like I have this big secret from them and I can still explore the beauty that is me in my own space without judgment from the world and that is enough. Always judge the pros and cons before starting transitioning but if you are sure of it and can do so then it is worth it!

[@yumenozen]

Remember, if enough people get to be themselves, society gets better eventually. But being safe when coming out is the most important thing, and having to wait a little bit may suck, but things can still turn out great.

[@Lilylawookie]

That crossover!! =O Legend! Hope to see more collab with you two!

[@phesterful]

pro: seriously improved my goth makeup and apparel skills. con: additional expenses.

[@tubaterry]

1:17 Oooh yeah 10000000% - scratch that - IMMESURABLY happier now that I’ve started transitioning. It’s worth every negative on the list. I look back at old pictures where like I KNOW I was having a good time that day and it’s always a scowl. Since starting my journey, and it even shows up in my selfies - even my bad days I’m more alive than I ever was before.

[@_allegra]

I tell people life is 'harder', but it's much more worth living.

[@jussimattsen4583]

Pros: Self acceptance Cons: Lack of human rights

[@hhhhhhhhhhhhhnhhhhhhh]

Screw it I'm getting HRT. My gp isn't going to change their mind and DIY is far from my favourite option. Oh well, wish me luck.

[@idkstudios3768]

Sameeeeee

[@GranblueEnjoyer]

If you wanna DIY look at hrt cafe

[@hhhhhhhhhhhhhnhhhhhhh]

@@GranblueEnjoyer youtube deleted me responding to this because I mentioned the use of syringes. I'm on it. I'm on a damn mission and have been for the last few weeks, icky just gave me some more confidence.

[@warmonger876]

😂

[@tarane409]

If you are going to please make sure you can get your bloods done some way so you can be safe 🤞

[@satan15107291]

Me subscribing to Icky is like my transition. I spend forever thinking I don't need to, but then realizing I'd be happier if I did.

[@Oneonni]

Ashley with iconic haircut + hearing her classic/infectious laugh❤️ Im so fucking happy rn😌😭😭

[@Undeadwishlist]

Y’all are so pretty omg 😭💛

[@CoreIdeas]

03:51: The change from baby Trans me to who I am now three years later is insane. You basically speedrun through your awkward teen phase for a year, maybe two, and then it clicks.

[@LockBits-ts6eo]

I hear that the launch was a great success, may you go on to be a superstar in the trade.

[@numgun]

The editor is amazingly skilled!

[@mubblr]

As a cis man, I love watching these videos. Being so transparent about your trans experiences helps me to be less worried about social norms. If I want to experiment with dressing a certain way or god forbid paint my nails, I don't have to be a cissy bitch about it. I can semi-confidently stand my ground to transphobic comments my friends make and can at least give them facts/information they don't know without them getting too defensive. Lastly, it helps tackle my own prejudice and learn things I never knew a few years ago. Love queenzzzzz yup the gays !

[@crush3095]

two CUTE ASS smiles it's crazy

[@mayamayhemmusic]

YOOOOOOOOOOOOOO TWO OF MY FAV PRODUCERS OF GENDER ENVY IN THE SAME VID LESGOOOOOOOOOOO CC': Now only Alice is missing cc':

[@ElliePixyPixy]

Thank you Pierbi! ❤

[@elliebean368]

Fellow Ellie spotted

[@ElliePixyPixy]

@@elliebean368Hiii!

[@rachelgamble9142]

You girls are beautiful. Start HRT at 30 and will be 40 next month. Live the best life you can. Yolo. As we old people say.

[@GruulAnarch]

Honestly the hobbies one is fair, I have so many hobbies that I probably wouldn't have picked up had I been raised as a girl. Doing fun shit shouldn't be a gendered thing

[@tylerkennedy6747]

I'm terrified to start transitioning as a Texan. The democratic senator candidate just put out an explicitly anti trans ad and the governor recently requested a list of everyone who has attempted to change their sex markers. A law was passed last year that prevents minors from any gender affirming care and it looks like things are going to get worse.

[@smuwug]

THAT CAT IS ADORABLE

[@vanimal2]

Nice vod. More pets and guests! ❤ Ooooh Guests with Pets! Ashley will make Millions! Nice Editing too. Peirbi as a red head is my favorite! ❤

[@mfrsr]

....if I get one more cis person telling me I'm "living my best life", I swear I'm gonna scream 😤 Suffice to say, if it really were my best life, I sure wouldn't have chosen to be trans 😂

[@g1expert102]

About 4 months ago my parents found out im trans because i almost died and they looked through my Pc while i was in hospital (it was a suicide attempt) I wish they never found out. They forcefully cut my hair, they told me they won't support me and i cant even get a job to move out All i want is for them to support me

[@AdolfHitler-lk4vo]

good parents, you will thank them in 5-10 years

[@kalebyoung4141]

Things may seem tough now but you will get through this and one day you’ll be able to look back and be proud of how strong you were. We all love and support you ❤🏳‍⚧

[@SamanthaSerrano-p9n]

We're here for you try to find community in other trans people don't feel obligated to forgive your parents after all this is done what they've done to you is literally unforgivable imo much love to you and I'm so sorry you felt so alone in the world that you felt the need to take your own life i know it's so difficult beyond difficult it feels impossible but please try to hold on i know friends who've been to hell and back some vets others survivors of extreme abuse and they came out of it and can to this day still find happiness even past their trauma I love you please fight to stay alive i promise it's worth it.

[@SamanthaSerrano-p9n]

​@AdolfHitler-lk4vo i don't even have to say anything. Look at your username obviously anything I say won't change your mind but I will say this why do you wanna hurt people so badly for being what they are? If you'd stop to answer that question you wouldn't feel like you're sinking in a black hot oil of hatred, sadness, and loneliness but hey just remember you chose to be like this by looking outward instead of inward to place the blame of the problems you have thats consequences 101 babe😘

[@tehlaser]

egad, those are some F-tier parents. Sorry you have to deal with that nonsense.

[@lunaandrine8567]

Pros: being myself Feeling happier Feeling prettier Cons: being targeted for being trans Being targeted for being female Good days being ruined by misgendering

[@AdolfHitler-lk4vo]

"being targeted for being female" youre a dude in a dress lol

[@eveisunavailable]

​@@AdolfHitler-lk4vo why is it always "dude in a _dress_ " specifically, with you guys? And you say we are the ones pushing stereotypes

[@daved2352]

Oh cool, Pierbi is here. Yay Pierbi, I hope she makes more appearances.

[@KayKeel]

I have not understood me wanting to be a woman for the longest time. I relate to you both. Thank you for being you. Both of you. ❤

[@Jana-se4kv]

As also AMAB trans woman here's my hot take Con: You get all of the cons of interacting with men that women have with less support and even more increased difficulty. For example: Get catcalled and sexually hassled or harassed on the street PLUS have to fear for your life that they are a raging transphobe who might react very poorly to clocking you. Pro: You understand things about yourself and society at large that most people will never get because you've been through the experiences of two entire genders which is not something that most people ever experience. You already took more charge of your own life by transitioning than many people ever have in an entire lifetime.

[@EmoMFr2]

The pierbi collab is insane 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Just wanna say thanks for ur channel so much… had my first appointment today, labs in a week 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹 Also I’m a Floridian it defo sucks out here but for the *most* part you can be relatively safe (or at least free from most harassment) the further south you go. It does suck tho no cap

[@zarkymusic]

one of the only channels with the bell on

[@Kaileigh_Broko]

The Dynamic Duo💖💖

[@Chxxma]

finally a vid with pierbii

[@GenericName0042]

Love seeing you two doing shit together, you're seriously both major inspirations💕 ya girl is 6 weeks on HRT and I've never been happier~

[@EwokFuica]

💕Yeah!!! Being yourself is beautiful! I thank the Universe every day! 🥰

[@TerraSwallows]

I wish I could start a KZbin channel like yours! Being able to chat with people about things like this would be the coolest thing ever!

[@splonkerz]

love y’all!!

[@DaniSinXO]

I'm trans in Florida, and its pretty bad, but not as bad as some people think

[@Eric_Seay]

Definitely stay off of HWY 98. I made the mistake of going that way once on a trip to see family. Nothing like seeing the confederate flag flying proudly in front of office buildings.

[@garrydotson1744]

Was gonna say exactly this. It's not the most pro trans place to be but I personally have had no major problems.

[@GundalfForHire]

Did they not just recently make all forms of gender affirming care illegal?

[@ambulance-tanger]

i'm from morocco

[@EmillyAtrans]

Hey! I'm first comment! Yay! (Love your videos!) ❤

[@BrunaHera]

I wanted this crossover for soooooo long and I’m happy we have it

[@n0oBb0S.]

I am playing celeste as I watch this.

[@f0ren51c5candy]

Hehehe :3

[@SamanthaSerrano-p9n]

HILARIOUS

[@tyranitararmaldo]

I am so used to Icky with black hair, I instinctively looked left and was like "What has Icky done with her makeup to look so different!?". And the answer was me being dumb :P

[@druurae]

aww i love you two

[@Thegreatsupposer]

I was so confused when I saw new and old Ashley in the thumbnail.

[@unstillborn]

Awww love Pierbi! ❤

[@Captain_Maeve]

Love pierbi, her OF made me comfortable with having a "hotdog" as a trans woman

[@chrisbfreelance]

Revolting.

[@Captain_Maeve]

@@chrisbfreelance i can show you if you want?

[@ameliashandcraftedmemes7888]

I feel less alone knowing I have these 2 queens in my country

[@Alyx.p90]

Love this collab 😍 pierbi rocks!

[@toast1612]

i'm transfem pre-medical transition (very unfortunately), and the biggest pro for me personally has been a difference in my perspective on life as a whole. there's something so significant yet so minute about looking at a fundamental part of my existence and saying "no this isn't right. i don't want this." something so few people seemingly worship without question, i have grown out of-- escaped. in one motion i've found myself at the top of a mountain of bone and flesh and skin, but i've also stepped over one infinitesimally small bump in the dirt. i'm still the same person with one detail out of place, and that one ant on my fingernail reframes reality itself. idk man shits crazy

[@scottlogsdon5607]

I love the red hair. Haven't seen podcasts in 6 months

[@DirtbagLexi]

Some parts of the US are quite trans friendly, I can personally say that New England/New York are quite nice. Connecticut, Massachusetts, and Vermont in particular.

[@cas556]

Pro, I can live with myself now. PS love the hair Icky

[@SamanthaSerrano-p9n]

Omg you are literally so cute wtf i literally wanna be a cute old lady rn.

[@kevinnosx9]

One big advantage they have is that they get subtitles when they speak.

[@samuelterry6354]

They're both so fine.

[@Bkoded]

Pierbi collab no way Also the thing about safety is so real, im way too scared to commit to anything trans fully because the world is scary

[@wetlanderrr]

(for me) pros: "character development" cons: monstrous existence.

[@Charles-r9l5q]

Picky you are such a special human being

[@jakenovack2117]

Collab of the decade

[@Mozts1]

Pro: you're happy Con: People wanna stop that.

[@HeadlampStoplight]

Oh my god, Pierbi! I didn't know you were on KZbin 🙂💖

[@bobw5241]

Icky: I didn’t think I’d like your hair that color but it really looks great! Especially with the black top.

[@MXL2107]

"Hot Topic Minority" resonates. The old you is leaving the world one way or another. Whether or not the new you makes it out isn't really up to you, currently, sadly.

[@jokroast6912]

I love that you two both have the same hair!

[@justout75]

Pros: i can live with myself. Cons: im living by myself.

[@MaxWattage]

For me, transitioning feels like the Terminator. It's terrifying, but actually it is there to save you, and it makes you the offer: "Come with me if you want to live"

[@TomiThemself]

Pros: *Having the ability to double jump* Cons:

[@avapidgurl]

Yayyyy my two fave British girlies

[@GlitchedPenguin]

5:45 I travel for work and go to all different amount of sites and cities, When I was sent to Tampa, that was an experience. easily rated the most ted nd uncomfortable place I've ever been and I've been to Arkansas and Texas which they keep things to themselves most of the time. People aren't afraid to throw hate out in public there because it's more socially accepted. I can't tell you the amounts of times I go stared down, or insulted/harassed. My hetero male friend I was spending the day with, (amazing by the way, even he doesn't agree he has heard my story and has a understanding and just wishes for me to be happy.) He comforted me by saying, "people have issues here, look maxing is a popular trend and will do everything to tear you down." He suggested we people watch at the end off the day, and hearing what he had today about some peoples appears made me feel better.

[@Hardymovies]

The first of many collabs hopefully!!!

[@Lady-Eight]

LOL at Asher's letter great bit!

[@QueenBee-dj4wv]

You got to spend a day with Pierbi? I'm jealous. She is so beautiful. 😊😊😊

[@pugsrkewl]

Literally hit the bell because Pierbi said so :))))

[@Lucinda666]

🏳️‍⚧️⚧🏳️‍⚧️ We Are Proud Trans 🏳️‍⚧️⚧🏳️‍⚧️. HRT is Amazing and Fantasy journey ✨.

[@polarwaterprincess]

The greatest ❤❤❤

[@magnetmannenbannanen]

awesome ending.

[@AetheriusComics]

I'm not sure why some people hate trans women. You're both adorable. And I'm a hetero guy. Anyways, cheers.

[@SashaEstradiol]

obvious pro: watching icky and pierbi

[@mairaineplayzgames2205]

such a beautiful kitty!!!

[@HorrorTactico]

The part about interests & hobbies 🥲 That's why I'm starting to stop dating cis women where I have to constantly lie and only mention my hobbies that wont scare them away. With Trans girls I'm like "I like Warhammer 40k and reading about war history" and they're like "Awesome me too!" *(shows me their own collection)* Like what even is the point anymore of trying to find cis chicks...

[@CamInTheHat]

I feel this, I think that was also her point about an unfair advantage lol. She feels free to enjoy "feminine" stuff and "masculine" stuff without the judgment and that helps when relating to potential partners or friends. I remember when I was like 12, my little sister loved to draw and color, so I made her a coloring book of all her favorite stuff with me drawling them, man my dad called me gay, said that art shit is for girls and almost beat my ass over it, it was baseball and nothing else lol. Glad I'm not like him and feel free now to like what I like even though i'm a cis male. Hope we both find someone special one day

[@huntakilla1234]

I came for Gorby. Was not dissapointed. Also, Pibi rules

[@zooropa9]

WHAT A COLLAB

[@Caitlin_TheGreat]

Yeah, as hard as it's been, I am so very, very, very glad I figured out I was trans and started the transition. Even with threats of potential political danger on the horizon, I'm still glad.

[@liamwatts8597]

Pierbi and Icky rule!

[@PrincessKushana]

Pro: becoming the chaotic goblin I was always meant to be.

[@Ziya_S_87]

Hey, I love the video. It's amazing ❤

[@DrWarbird]

Nice editing.