public break ups suck

[@gdaymates431]

I totally skipped Christmas this year. I've been alone at home. I did the garden, I cooked a meal, I made a cake. No drama. No noise. Just me and my dog. Blissss

[@Torsee]

I’m totally envious. ✌️

[@jeandoessharpfarts8123]

As an autistic person who struggles immensely with every aspect of Christmas, I am extremely jealous.

[@lithia4483]

Honestly this is exactly what I want to do once I move out. It sounds so peaceful. My family is toxic and it's impossible to avoid drama, so I can't wait to cook and watch Christmas movies in peace.

[@louizelimepips3517]

Oooh wait 😂 you must be in Australia. The time had me confused 🤭 you’re hours ahead. Also skipping Xmas this year. 😊

[@gdaymates431]

@louizelimepips3517 haha. Yes I am in Australia. I feel bad for anyone who is forced to attend Christmas events they don't want to attend.

[@ayesha3915]

Shannon as the guest is the best guest🤍

[@karolinas5446]

agree!!

[@InternationalStrategyII]

I know. Right?

[@ss-xn1gf]

the discourse this past week has been awful, sending you both so much love and support ❤️

[@kendall9683]

i think the really harsh people definitely don’t watch these vids all the way through, they hear the worst lines out of context on tiktok and immediately comment their feelings with no restraint

[@madaleeX]

@@kendall9683 or they listen to the whole thing and are just rude people and say mean things

[@Knouk25]

They’re insecure people that choose to take personal offence to things that don’t even affect them.

[@madaleeX]

@Knouk25 right? Exactly

[@DolceSuono9]

At 38, as a late-in-life lesbian, people’s discourse hurt many like us. “Don’t trust baby gays, don’t be with baby gays, question their sexuality.” Screw them. I’ve been in horrible situations where I could have developed extreme biases, but I knew that was wrong and I took the time to process my trauma to avoid viewing people like that. It is necessary work and requires a level of introspection too many people, sadly, lack. Becca is young. Yes, mistakes were made-how things were said and came out as incomplete thoughts-but she can only grow from here and work to become her authentic self; I wish her (and you) well. I, for one, am thankful for the mature, thoughtful, caring side of the social inter-webs, and I wouldn’t be where I am in my own journey without it. Happy holidays. 🩵

[@RainSnow2505]

I admire so much both you and Becca for the maturity and understanding you showed. That's love. All the best to both, and have fun time with your family, Shannon ❤

[@kristendanks2964]

Why IS it we really are so inclusive, but so critical of those in our community? I would bargain a large portion of us have dealt with the same feelings as Becca… I know I have. It truly does feel devastating and so unfair-I don’t think people understand it’s because you love that person THAT much, not because you feel you can’t bond or connect with a child that isn’t both of you. So many comments saying don’t be in a WLW relationship if you feel that way… I did not have those thoughts and have to work through them until my wife and I started looking into IVF and it became real. It was a massive thing to process and come to terms with. That doesn’t make me any less queer, nor does it make me cruel. It makes me human. Sorry you are going through all of this. I hope we all can decide to be a little more kind, and understand we are all at different places in our journeys 🫶

[@LilaBartnik]

I see myself a lot in Becca except she's much braver than I am. This video^ was like a therapy session for me. Your love for Becca, your understanding, and you rooting for her is so healing.

[@Weejo0678]

Shannon, I’m so sorry you’re going through this and people are not being supportive. Just know that you will find forever love and deserve it. Please be patient with yourself and know that you are worthy. Surround yourself with your loved ones at this time and remember how much you are loved. Take care of yourself xx

[@lkelley5708]

Most productive, supportive, and kind comment I’ve found so far on this video. Thank you for being a kind human. We need more of you in this world desperately. ❤

[@1SophieDEF1]

Merry Christmas Shannon, thinking of you and sending so so much love

[@ShadyLeahx]

The truth is: even tho you have public images, everybody should be respectful to you and to the people in your life. Yeah, you choose to share a part of it with your audience but at the same time you deserve to be able to navigate the good and the bad situations that happen to you at your own pace and as you want. Hope you are ok. Big hug

[@cailinh711]

I’m 23 but have known I’m gay for a few years and hated myself for it/was scared to try dating women, but back in October I stumbled across Becca’s podcast, and hearing her experience gave me the confidence to finally go on a date and kiss a girl (which changed my world for the better) and even come out to my family/friends. Becca helped me come to terms with my queerness and accept myself, which goes to show how her experience is just as important and valid and inspiring as anyone else’s !!!

[@WISH2025]

I hope you can tell Becca❤

[@АннаШохина-ы8г]

I can't say that I relate to that feeling you feel about break ups and relationship, cause i haven't experience it. But in my mind, it's so awesome that you explaining your way of thinking. I wish more people could think that way. I admire your general filosophy, your openness, your ability to talk about all of this. It's all about trying to be the better version of yourself, the better human being, more mature, more honest. I wish more people can think like you, no matter gay or straight, that's for sure would make our world a better place. So, big thanks to you, and to Becca. By the way, sorry for my english, I'm just learning it. I live far far away from you, you never guess I think😊

[@alexandermfernandez9283]

You're gonna be fine 'cause you're a great human being . Wishing you the best !

[@elizabeth9451]

i love solo eps, merry Christmas shan!!!! 🎄💖

[@rileyjin707]

Merry Christmas Shannon! Thank you for posting today.

[@chloeduck8480]

merry christmas shannon i hope you’re doing okay

[@ClaireWedgeworth]

*Today is a hard one cause I lost my mum to cancer last year but seeing Shannon post has truly made my day🥹 thank you for posting on Christmas Day🙏🏻 Merry Christmas Shannon🥰*

[@Marigold502]

God bless you Claire. 💜🌻❄

[@LisamarieNHtoTx]

You and Becca show that it’s ok for adults, no matter the situation or age can try a relationship and come out the other end mature if it doesn’t work out. That’s helpful for people to see.

[@luannlouch9524]

Im sorry about your breakup. You have no idea how depressing the holidays are until you lose your Mom.

[@nowthisisliving]

this broke my heart to read.. thinking about you today and sending all my love 🤍

[@angelicakosasih]

Shannon’s podcast is my therapy 😌

[@jellymae7632]

Ily always Shannon since 2016.

[@annejoseph7]

Merry Christmas, Shannon. Thanks for the Pod. ❤

[@jessstep5536]

Merry Christmas Shannon and Deb❤🎄🍻

[@anikarahman193]

I really enjoyed this solo episode and the lighting is pretty good. I get an eye quiver too sometimes if I'm nervous but it's mostly associated with dehydration/exhaustion that day. my fav sapphic films are imagine me & you, the half of it, and carol 🎄

[@thepokemonfreak117]

I have no idea what to say, because I have a similar struggle in my life right now. I just wish you all the best and that you can process this breakup nicely and fast. And that it will stop hurting soon

[@Jordan-jag06]

I feel like I can always see it in your eyes when you’re feeling bogged down- you hold so much stress in those brows haha. Take care of yourself Shan 🖤 @ Deb, give our girl some extra hugs today !! Merry Christmas to the Beveridge squad and safe travels to everyone.

[@biancamarlow8772]

Damn.. this was so beautifully worded. ❤I hope Becca stays strong thru this. I hope YOU stay strong thru this. And ffs- can we stop fucking using labels to hurt or discredit someone? Have we not learned from the 2010’s “thats so gay” comments? Do we think saying, “I knew she was straight” is any different? Imagine how fucked that would feel to hear that after a wonderful year long relationship. Ugh people are so frustrating.

[@OrlaKen]

I’m Only half way through her video but it’s sad to hear her talking about being seen as a character .. I don’t see her as a character. Shannon comes across as very human and very grounded. The way she talks about her vulnerable moments , 😂 even the quivering lip. I just love listening to her ❣️

[@olivialozano8088]

You are always so well spoken. The reactions, specifically on tiktok, to the breakup video have made me so sad and I am so glad that you’re providing clarification. I believe a lot of the negativity that was projected was due to a lot of queer peoples fear surrounding family planning coming true: the person they love leaving them because they can not conceptualize a family. But being so harsh towards people who just wanted to be honest about where they were on their queer journey is incredibly dangerous and hurtful. I am so glad you addressed this and have always and will always look forward to context from both you and Becca🩷

[@whalewhynot]

18:57 Regardless of the unfortunate circumstances of the breakup, the audacity some people have had when discussing your relationship(s) is appalling. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all - it’s not that fucking hard. Sending you all the love, I hope you’re taking the time to take extra care of yourself and your mental health ❤️

[@TheKindnessChronicles247]

Same here. The holidays feel sad now as my mom has passed my grandma has passed some of my most favorite people in life have passed and with that Christmas has changed. My mom always brought such a lively fun spirit to each holiday. I try to replicate it for my daughter but it’s just different as you say. Merry Christmas to you! 🙏🏼🎄♥️❤️‍🩹💯🎉🙏🏼

[@Marigold502]

💜🌻🙏🌷❄⭐

[@TheKindnessChronicles247]

@ 🙏🏼♥️🎄🎉🤗✝️💯🙏🏼 merry Christmas and happy holidays to you and yours! 🥰

[@naomia2708]

I watch your videos because I enjoy watching and listening to this woman named Shannon's perspectives, personality, and stories. You are likeable, entertaining, and I feel like I grow when I watch your content. I see you as a person and not a character. With that, I don't assume to know anything that I don't hear come out of your mouth or theorize about you or your experiences outside of your videos. Here's your reminder that --social media is flooded with people who 1. spend way too much time 2. think they are much more connected to the people they are subscribed to than they should 3. feel like they should voice their opinions about humans they don't know on major platforms. BUT there are also people who are happy to just be a viewer, spread love along the way, and don't step into the lives of people they don't know.

[@naomia2708]

that goes for Becca too

[@naomia2708]

also I COMPLETELY understand the struggles and see you are genuinely good people

[@swiftiekitty420]

Carol is such an amazing movie! Hang in there...I know it's hard but you've got so many great people behind you. And most of us still love Becca too!! 😊 Merry Christmas!

[@soccerstrikerful]

aw shannon i’m sending you sm love rn

[@Knouk25]

The whole non biological kid saga was quite a shocking reason as it is a traumatising way for a WLW relationship to end but there was a list of many other reasons that were given for the breakup, people took that reason and ran with it, its crazy how people took personal offence to what Becca said I don’t agree with people acting like what Becca said was purposely said to offend the community they were just her personal feelings.

[@oiloulou]

I’m also skipping Christmas this year. Just me, my cats, my sketchbook and a bottle of wine in front of the fireplace. 🤗

[@WritingRN2]

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you and your family Shannon. I saw this episode today, and I also LOVE tactile hobbies! Especially anything that involves drawing, scrapbooking, or painting. Journaling is also a favorite of mine. I actually just had this conversation with my sister about the loss of tactile art to the digital age, and how I want to always engage in art using my hands. And I was definitely wondering about the whittling! LOL. On to the episode...I hate that people are so mean and I will NEVER understand (nor do I want to) people who interact with someone's content just to be mean! Like, why? Just...ugh. I can't. And I feel really sad that people make you feel like you're not seen as a real person. I certainly see you as a person and not a character. But it could be a generational thing because I grew up in an age where so much of our interactions with people didn't occur on a screen. My mother taught me that not everything requires my opinion, and I wish more people realized that. And one thing I can't stand as someone who used to deal with them? A BULLY. I am so sorry people are being so disgusting and cruel to you and Becca. As someone who is also newly accepting my bisexuality, I can sympathize with Becca. It is a lot to take in because knowing that about yourself definitely changes everything you thought you knew about who you were "supposed to be." And then having to also figure out how to navigate your life with people who THOUGHT they knew you as a straight individual, to find out that you are in fact not straight, and one day hope to bring a girl home is hard. And by the way, you both have handled this with so much grace, warmth, and respect to one another. This episode broke my heart, because even though I could never know HOW MUCH you're hurting, because that's not my business, I KNOW you're BOTH hurting and I am so sorry that people feel so inclined to add to your pain by being insensitive. Mean people suck, that's it. They just do. But just know that I am one of the people who is rooting for you AND Becca, because both of you have created content that has made an impact in my life, and for that I thank you both. Stay strong Shannon. You will be okay.

[@Jesusa-b7i]

Merry Christmas Shannon

[@Carriehammer718]

Love you ♥️ Merry Christmas. See you in nyc for your podcast show. I'm so happy you are in nyc for Christmas

[@cat_pb]

Merry Christmas Shannon~ 🎄This too shall pass, don't worry!

[@jamilaanderson7505]

Merry Christmas 🎄🎄🎄🎄

[@tacilamarqs]

i hope things get better for you both, you deserve to be happy

[@TheNienkeDJ]

Ly Shannon ❤

[@Cathy15155]

Merry Christmas Shannon! I struggle with fiction and non-fiction too and definitely feel the lip quiver when I have to be ‘on’! As for comments, you comment on the negative, which is valid to set the record straight. But there are also so many comments that support, love you and ‘get it’. I hope you can glean some comfort and solace in knowing that.

[@lassam333]

I'm so sorry that you have to go through such a public break-up. As a pan person I can totally understand Becca's position. This certainly doesn't make her any less Queer. I find it very brave of both of you to let go and give each other space. It's very disappointing that in 2024 there is still so much bi-erasure within the Queer community. This is also one of the reasons it took me such a long time to officially come out. This feeling of having to "choose" being gay or straight wasn't the environment I felt welcome to become a part of the community.

[@shotbyash.mp4]

happy xmas shannon, hope you’re getting rest from social media and everything that happened this week. love you take care xx

[@avaoliveira04]

I remember it as fiction is fake. Non fiction is not fake. I think the f’s of it all make it easy. Hope that helps lol

[@Jordan-jag06]

was about to say this same exact thing haha had a feeling someone else already did!

[@tellicherrypeper]

“Ellen Degeneres… at the time” 😂

[@sydbrown1820]

I totally understand the issue with non-fiction and fiction. The thing that helped me was thinking fiction = fake so non-fake for nonfiction.

[@TheKindnessChronicles247]

What’s really funny is that I’m 99.9% sure we all experience these feelings at various times but we forget that when interacting with someone. We think so much about what we’re doing wrong or what to say etc but the person on the other end is processing and doing the same. We all get awkward even if we’re normally appear confident. We’re all just living and learning and trying to get through this life without too many hiccups. The funny thing is those awkward moments sometimes become the funniest memories … keep on keeping on girl. Be blessed and happy always! Your path and purpose is a beautiful one 🙏🏼♥️💯🎉🙌🏼❤️‍🩹🎄✝️💪🏼🙏🏼

[@olafgutte5381]

Merry Christmas Shannon, have a nice, relaxed time! 🎅🎄🎁 Shan Bam 🎁

[@ShadyLeahx]

Someone once said: if they don’t know you personally, don’t take it personal, but I think it’s easier to say it than to do it

[@suzannapenny357]

Hope you’re doing ok Shannon ❤ Happy Holidays from UK love your pod wish I had this when I was coming out aged 19 many moons ago xx

[@leahstumm9662]

You’ll get through this sweetheart. Happy Holidays 💜🎄🍹🥂💜

[@deanapierson7355]

Just watched this and after spending the day alone this uplifted me. Loved this short film. Not about Christmas, but really good

[@lisacorr]

The TikTok videos about you and Becca this week, are absolutely horrendous. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this, on top of breaking up. Just know, most of us admire you and want the best for the both of you

[@_asantesana_squashbanana_]

The tiktok kids are embarrassing

[@nightshadegiggle]

Merry Christmas🎄

[@WISH2025]

Becca, if you are watching this, I love you. You are not alone.

[@0777sadie]

Just broke up with my fiance myself so my mom and I took it easy this year n didn't even decorate. We got each other an item we needed and had dinner. Didn't go anywhere or do anything extreme. Wishing you the best of all the good vibes to follow you into 2025. May it be your best run around the sun yet.

[@SomnambulistCraze]

the way that I remember fiction vs non fiction is to remember (F)iction is (Fake) so then Non Fiction is Not Fake.I used to get them confused too.

[@CrazyCokee]

wowwww you worded that so well. it does feel conditional

[@zoehummer1934]

merry christmas shannon

[@winec00ler]

I don't really read books, lol but I remember Fiction from Non-Fiction , but switching the word "Fiction" to "Fantasy" and it helps me.

[@WISH2025]

Shannon, could you add "Post more photographs on social media" to the goal list for 2025? 😌

[@WISH2025]

OK, Shannon, I saw that you liked my comment.🤝

[@jamitownsend9125]

I wholeheartedly agree! You have such a great eye, Shannon! I enjoy seeing your work and learning more about the process of photography and photo shoots. Photography has always been a hobby of mine (but back in the stone age of using a manual Pentax and hours in the dark room). I didn't transition well into digital, but I enjoy learning more about it and seeing others' work in different mediums. Merry Christmas! I hope you find the love you're so deserving of 💗

[@nath9773]

Yep...christmas is something else when there is children around.. they keep the magic.. take good care Shannon.. and merry christmas!

[@anikarahman193]

Unfortunately there are a lot of people who choose to exaggerate and use insults that they know are not true. I've seen such a lack of common sense. The internet is full of people who are childish/insane and built to drag others down. I feel for shannon having to see that.❤ Heartbreak is hard enough as is. Shannon is a good human and I hope Christmas with family is healing. 🫂

[@deborahsnyder9398]

Merry Christmas Shannon love you and things will get better. Someone will love you to the moon and back. Love your podcast Shannon 😎

[@WISH2025]

merry Christmas❤

[@ale-lm8hw]

Sending so much love ❤

[@ALIEN3966D]

I'm sorry Shannon you are going through that hopefully 2025 is much better for you sending you a lot of good vibes 👍😁

[@mollywhaley9676]

I hope you had a Great Christmas with your family! You are Amazing!

[@thalitafernanda2404]

Feliz natal Shannon e para os inscritos também muita paz e amor para nós ❤❤❤❤🎄🍾🥂

[@alexisa2301]

ily Shannon

[@catherinechase9517]

Merry Christmas Shannon 🫶🏻🤍

[@MaggsToRiches]

Probably never read this but an easy tip… Fiction = False Non-Fiction = Not False

[@sahorycielo01]

Can you please interview King Princess :)

[@LA-tj1tz]

Yessss

[@user-wj6hr4wm6i]

Love you❤❤❤ Merry Christmas Shannon

[@_asantesana_squashbanana_]

Hey Shannon, just saying, I saw what happened and I apologise for people's immature and nasty (not in the hot way) words and behaviour. I was down in the trenches for you and I know i wasn't alone. Becca too. People just get way too overconfident being unkind.

[@carlijngoudriaan8192]

You should watch 'looking for her' and 'Friends & family christmas'

[@brittanyhardy2401]

Happiest season with Kristen Stewart, it’s one of my favs

[@JellyFries111]

My gf has been leaving to go drink the past week, while I’ve been here struggling w my sobriety. :( our 3 years is literally today, merry Christmas 🤧

[@clv8939]

Word from older and wiser. Go with the break up route If a friend goes drinking without you she’s not even your friend

[@aubreetanner9543]

14:36 I used to have selective mutism caused by my social anxiety. I'm a lot better now but still socially anxious. My voice used to shake so bad when I'd give presentationss that no one could understand anything I was saying, even if it was a presentation I was excited to give. My voice would also quiver a little even in casual conversations with people I wasn't nervous around. Like conversing in itself was what made me nervous. Now it's much more rare, but if I'm scared it will happen. Very useful when dealing with cops though. I've been pulled over like at least 15 times and only been ticketed once >:)

[@PeytonBourree]

I don't love Christmas, after my mom passed and just being away from family and hard to visit its not easy

[@TraceyB-sw7kl]

I love your podcast, much love❤

[@Vicky-e7q7b]

Merry Christmas Shannon ❤

[@AMB765]

The only ones that matter are those real people, physically, in your life. The ones you spoke of earlier in the podcast when your voice was light - your mom, dad, sister, brother in law, friends. We are not real, we are only characters. Our opinions do not matter. Your self worth can not be based on the words of strangers. I wish you all the best on your self-discovery/ self-awareness journey. PS. I work in a public library, trust me you are not alone in struggling with "Is it fiction or non-fictiion??"😊😊

[@avivakaplan8056]

Well said 🫶

[@alisonsterling9654]

Sad for you…but I know that the universe will look after you. All the best.

[@friendly_userr]

Ignore all the haters and have a Merry Christmas🙂

[@Torsee]

Sending ❤ and ☮️

[@kelseyeimanmusic]

I always remember fiction/non fiction by saying “fake/not fake”

[@bhood6661]

Merry Christmas Shannon. Thanks for sharing even though it can be difficult to deal with the negativity. I look forward to this podcast every week ❤

[@mariaeduardacandido9447]

I think u and becca are so brave! I feel like the timing on Becca’s podcast was bad because u guys were still living it and people just didn’t understand or was just being mean… but I hope u guys are okay and happy ❤

[@struggling_to_keep_up]

Love you Shannon and best wishes for 2025 ❤

[@magda_fallingformenow]

merry christmas shan ❤️ love you so much! have the best time with your family in new york

[@Jordan-jag06]

22:33 I once got attacked/slandered online (via Linkedin, insta, and messenger lol) by this crackhead lady who was dating someone at my work. Even tho I had never met her before and none of the shit she was saying was even remotely true, it still really weighed on me that someone could say such disgusting and hateful things about me and seemingly fully believe them. I think part of it is being a ppl pleaser and caring a lot about what ppl think of me. It gave me a lot more empathy for people who have online platforms and probably deal with things like that often. This is slightly different but to have feedback personified the way it is via TikTok would be incredibly difficult, esp considering how brutal the algorithm prolly is. :/

[@Torsee]

28:14 in your transcript. We seem unable to be tribal. People seem to want to plug a person into a tribe. Why can’t we be unconcerned. Live and let live. Mind your business. ❤ you Shannon.

[@emmanagelkerke4153]

i always have to refer to books as fact and fiction instead bc otherwise I get them mixed up aaalllll the time

[@kerryknowles9065]

Very brave of you both to BE so honest & authentic - I think it is easy to kiss a women but to choose the gay lifestyle is a very different scenario - I have run 1st Friday Gay Girl events in South Africa for the past 18 years - most of the girls who were 18 are now in their 30's - some have gone straight and are getting married & have had kids - I find the straight girls that come into the scene are like new talent - it can be overwhelming & all the attention - I suppose anyone NEW coming into the crowd - I think we have fought hard for the labels, however things are more FLUID now - Yet we as a community can be one of the most judgemental - you get to see who are the fair weather friends - The ones who are making their subtle moves through social media - I think people just cannot be HONEST & unfortunately the scene is small - so I find the girls are so desperate to find love, they loose basic morals of respect other people's relationship - micro cheating on social media & dealing with exes (which I am on good terms with all of mine wink wink - Except the one who had an affair with a friend who was in a band that I would use for our parties - Anyway not bitter - just we get better at BEing honest - all I would have appreciated was the truth - yes babe I am confused about my feelings for X friend - The truth is hard but in the long run we can deal with that.. - So being straight & falling in love with a women - happens a lot - Choosing the Gay lifestyle can be challenging - So at my age of version 5.2 - all I can say is life is a journey of self discovery - what is meant for you will never pass you by - BE honest with how you FEEL - You will definitely figure out who your friends are - Congrats for showing more representation in the gay community & that we can actually respect each other in a break up - Very brave of you both