Punch-Drunk Love and Love as a Superpower

[@TwoLeftThumbs]

I’m autistic and ADHD and I tell everyone that this is the only neurodivergent romantic comedy. Barry’s meltdowns are an incredible portrayal of how that can feel, and his reaction to Clair is very relatable. Just adding a perspective to this movie that most people would miss.

[@thelastdictator482]

Not as much a "comedy" but I highly suggest the BBC Pride & Prejudice with Colin Firth as Mr Darcy. If you go in with the reading that Mr Darcy is on the spectrum and suffers anxiety a LOT of his action make too much sense -especially how Firth portrays him. As someone with anxiety issues, I tend to retreat into "the rules" of any given situation, be they social or otherwise, as it sort of gives me the confidence to keep going -surely as long as I'm doing what I'm "supposed to" then I can't be wrong and can ignore this feeling twisting my chest. With this as a reading, our Mr Darcy's actions come across as he's doing what he's supposed to as a member of higher society and not picking up on the very clear signals that Elizabeth is not playing that game.

[@TwoLeftThumbs]

@@thelastdictator482 Thank you. It’s never appealed to me before, but I’d be fascinated to watch it with this perspective.

[@thelastdictator482]

@@TwoLeftThumbs I've never been much into the Austen and period drama type either. My wife is a big fan of that sort and another youtuber had recommended that specific series and I thought, why not to try bridge my wife's and my interests (I just love film and shows) and it was an amazing experience. I feel like I picked up on with Firth was doing right away because that's how I react to things. I've no interest in exploring more of the same content (British period drama/romances) however because I feel like this nailed it so hard every other attempt will be tedious. Good luck out there.

[@PauLtus_B]

@@thelastdictator482 I am very fond of Jane Austen-based movies. I always said that they I like them mostly because of all the things that are unsaid because of having to perform socially, but I never really considered how that might be more relatable for me specifically as I have ADHD.

[@LikeAFoxStudios]

PDL is definitely my favorite PTA film, it feels like a lot of his work is a bit cynical and yet this incredibly dark movie just feels so ready to get swept up into that feeling of love.

[@Travis_Munn]

I saw this in the theater and **minor spoiler** near the beginning I remember the crash was so loud and unexpected that it jolted me so much that I was on edge throughout the rest of the movie. I've always wondered if the purpose of that crash was to put the viewer into a state of distress, similar to how the main character might constantly feel. Also, I couldn't stop laughing at the line, "It really looks like Hawaii here".

[@fridaypietech]

i love how mister Anderson explain/portray emotion, just a overfilled glass of energy

[@medievalmondays8252]

Love most definitely is a superpower. Thank you, Joel, for all you do to make good things for this world.

[@Sludge_Inc]

It’s easily pta best movie

[@student702]

And even better than Romantic Love; Altruistic Love makes you fearless and invincible! I think about coming down from a good acid trip.

[@futurefox635]

I saw it in theaters and was my favorite movie for a while

[@aaaddddaaaammmm]

Hell yeah man, Punch Drunk Love is very dear to me. I revisited a lot of PTA movies earlier this year cause they were some of my favourites growing up. I feel like this one gets better and better as I mature. It's such an endearing story and I liked hearing your takeaway about the power of love in our lives. I agree that movies like this one that can speak to your soul are also going to be the ones that make a lasting impression on you. But I also love some escapism too - I also just revisited The Wedding Singer and I feel like that's a funny comparison to Punch Drunk Love. It's more like comfort food. Take some time to watch more movies Joel!

[@estebanlacrosse7847]

Watched the movie it’s such a great movie it’s so weird and hectic, but i really enjoyed it all the way through and the song 'He Needs Me' is such a strong emotion

[@taraz02]

This is my all time favourite movie, so glad you’re taking about it

[@battleforcheese]

I paused this video after the first minute or so and waited to finish until I watched the movie. Thanks for talking about it, what a great movie

[@michaelkramer1821]

I also really enjoy Phantom Thread from PTA. It similarly has a very tight focus on these two people and the strange messiness of a relationship. They’re such beautiful films that really make you feel something. I’d watch a movie with you any day, Joel. Keep on keeping on. ❤

[@thelastdictator482]

Great pick. Punch-Drunk Love is my favorite movie with Adam Sandler and one of my favorite love stories. Another thing to think about, when this came out Adam hadn't really done anything that wasn't his silly, crass comedies. He was known for SNL, Billy Madison, Happy Gilmore, Waterboy, etc (movies which I adored at the time, and still have a soft spot for) so this movie came out of nowhere. Yes it's weird and idiosyncratic and something of a darker comedic take of the previous goofballs he had portrayed, but it also had a level of seriousness and realism we never knew Sandler was capable of. I think this movie also relates to how much I am not a fan of Adam these days because he's capable of such great roles with proper direction and a good script, but he rides the lowest common denominator bus to the bank instead of looking for any artistry -yeah, my personal hangup, I know. Anyway, keep up the great videos on this and other channels. You bring art and joy into the world. Thank you.

[@KJmusic97]

It really is crazy how movíes can be uncanny. In we have to leave here together, some of the conversations you created were so incredibly realistic they felt like a memory. You're able to convey a realism in you work that is deeply personal, to the point that it feels like deja vu. Very happy that you have the massive recognition you deserve Joel.

[@generalsaurkraut3227]

Punch Drunk Love is one of the most underrated movies out there. Sandler crushed the role

[@owensaundersfilm]

I think my most cathartic movie moment was when he confronted PSH at the mattress store. It’s not my favorite PTA movie, but probably close second.

[@MonsterCC]

This video is making me think about Raymond Carver's story "What we talk about when we talk about love"

[@Muddy8892]

I had this movie on VHS as a little kid. Back then I used to hate romantic movies but I remember being fond of this one. I'm definitely going to give it another watch as an adult. Thank you for making this channel and these videos, they're very special.

[@harrysmith5340]

As always, lovely talk Joe - hope you are doing ok

[@danieldalton]

Holy shit man this one was amazing. So beautiful the way you put all of this. Thank you for this series x

[@hermanturnip3984]

My wife and I watched this a couple of months ago for the first time. I wasn't expecting much but quite liked it. After watching your video I'm now reminded just how funny Adam Sandler is, and how important it is that I show my young son Happy Gilmore asap. Side note: tried to reply to your DM in KZbin comments, but KZbin kept rejecting my reply. No need for a prize. It's prize enough that I get to view your genius online. Keep on doing you, my friend!

[@thelastdictator482]

Those replies are a scam. Don't trust those comments. As sweet a dude as Joel is, he would make a video announcement and not just stealth give prizes in the comments.

[@jenniferbauman]

You and Dan talk about this movie a lot. I watched it once when I was very young and didn't like it. I might give it another try. Thanks Joel. ❤️

[@George_Nakhle]

Despite this having probably the smallest scope of any PTA film, it's easily my favourite as well. Great themes and so many hilarious moments

[@carlosfrostygreen6855]

This is a good example of how film doesn't have to tell any story alike from all the rest in any genre. Good comedy dark emotional. Good choice

[@cajholt4016]

Just watched this movie for the first time and I couldn’t help but think Barry is such a Joel Haver character. The awkwardness, the honesty, I can definitely see the influence PDL has had on your own films

[@in_space.]

Love ya', Joel.

[@Kirbywonder2468]

fun fact i learned about in my psychology class: we don’t really know why we love. like evolutionarily, there is no benefit to the feeling of love. there are many theories on like different types of love, but psychologists and sociologists don’t actually know why. and i think it’s a beautiful, very human thing to make cinematic masterpieces trying to explore different aspects of love because i think subconsciously, the feeling of love is like an enigma whether you’ve experienced it or not

[@lurchman4092]

Love PDL and absolutely love the Flight of the Conchords shirt!

[@bottombarrelbudgetfilms1854]

Love is very underrated in this era of hatred and division and cancellation

[@littlemadster]

I tend to prefer animated movies, but when i feel like watching a movie i'll occasionally go to this channel and pick from films you talk about. Even if i don't love these movies as much as you do, trying to understand what makes them unique and lovable to others helps me appreciate things more. it expands my world a little. so thank you for making these videos

[@marceloaguirree]

Is just so funny or curious, idk how to say it, but like how everything connects. Like those are one of my all time favorite movies about love, and to see one of my favorite youtubers who i felt a deep connection when watching his videos talk about them just makes sense. Also joel if you see this watch a video on youtube called Bo Burnham V.S. Joel Haver | The "Me Generations" i found it interesting

[@cameronr9513]

I’m thankful we have movies too (:

[@cuppa-ambition]

Hurls a hundred hugs at Joel ❤️

[@tommymarco]

dude you are so genuine on a platform of fake personas.

[@spacetortoiseentertainment9090]

my all time favorite movie. it’s so beautiful and powerful and holds such a special place in my heart. you put it very well.

[@BrandonCourt]

If there was no movies it would've been wall paintings. That's the next step down from movies right?

[@markrodeo420]

I feel like this movie has the same basic premise that Uncut Gems had of taking Sandler’s comedy character and dramatizing it. It felt weird to me when the UG writers described it that way but didn’t mention that this movie also did that.

[@ryanrockers]

Punch-Drunk Love is pretty good. Boogey Nights too.

[@NathanTRousseau]

Sleepy Joel bringing that ASMR voice.

[@localhjay]

I watched it as a teen and didn't quite get it, but watched it again today and loved it. Thanks Joel!

[@hereforvidess]

Such a great movie.

[@kobusjnrduplessis466]

My favourite film of all time ❤️

[@tracy_chapman6900]

just found this channel and i really love what youre doing. i share a lot of your sentiments about film and im glad youre making these more personal videos about it

[@zacnewford]

this made me like it thanks

[@sophie7780]

i'm sure you have more series planned already but i'd love a series on movies about grief, there's some that have helped me through such difficult times

[@JohnDoe-vc5qb]

You should definitely watch Reign over me. I think the performance is even more subtle and beautiful.

[@iAN-hf6gj]

I'd watch a movie with you.

[@cakerbaby69]

Punch Drunk Love is definitely underrated

[@Mrkoolkat17]

Lonely nights are best spent watching cheesy love movies

[@RPanda3S]

I remember watching Punch-Drunk Love as a teenager, being surprised it wasn't a comedy, not understanding the film at all and all I remember from the film itself is it being a nightmarish film where Adam Sandler gets kidnapped by gangsters, or something. Everyone online nowadays has high praise for it but I remember it being a very depressing movie that I didn't like at all, lol.

[@thelastdictator482]

Highly recommend you give it a re-watch. You may have just not been ready for it at the time.

[@ChuckOriley]

SAY THATS THAT!

[@user-dr5lj1jt5s]

Yum yum more PTA videos please please!!!!!!!!!!!

[@alonzalmon1062]

Great video Joel! Was wondering if you're aware that in one of the earlier scenes in the movie, while Adam Sandler is strolling through the grocery store, Emily Watson can be seen in the background stalking his every movement. Brings some interesting context to her character and adds a somewhat twisted aspect to the film imo

[@mightymistermike]

Hey Joel! Have you seen La La Land? If so, what do you think about it?

[@Weird_but_neat]

Adam Sandler is an amazing actor tbh

[@micronarchival8147]

Not much of an Adam Sandler fan anymore but I'll give 'er a try

[@csabaszoke6149]

hey joel

[@heronoverdose]

It's funny to me how much you say between your words Joel, and you almost leave a silence where you would otherwise say what perhaps you don't think is appropriate perhaps or can be said in time. And that's fine but just want you to know that I and probably others can make it out. Movies are the best shared, and it's a while it's a mighty shame we can't choose who we watch with much of the time, it's worth it for the surprises of who we spend the time with in the future and their memories: in front of a screen or not.

[@potato2387]

GREAT FILM!!