Q&A Hospice Nurse Julie LIVE with Cody Hufstedler (Dying to Tell You)

[@Hermetic7]

The very first cardinal rule of hospice volunteership that I learned in no uncertain terms is that the dying person's experience is NOT about me, EVER. Whatever they want, believe, think, experience, etc. is only about them. I can never insert myself into that in any way.

[@tednelson1315]

That is so true. We also can’t become “sterile” to the patient either. YOU are entering into their story. You are not a robot. And thank you so much for giving of yourself to our patients.

[@rhondathomas7952]

Thanks for that reminder.

[@mrs.e3909]

My mother was in care almost two years and I kept telling the administrator and the staff that these residents deserved to be seen and heard. Just because they were there long term did not mean they did not have living to do. Too many care centers have stopped bringing in volunteers for music entertainment, reading to residents , animal therapy., school groups or reading buddies etc. Connection is lacking for these people who most need to know that they are still worthy, important and deserve joy in their days.

[@courtneyrose7677]

My hospice team have become my family. I’m truly blessed

[@pastorpresent1]

I am also clergy. Retired. On my first day of internship in 1980, my supervisor was gone and right after the first service I was asked to come to the hospital where I gave bedside care to a 19-year-old as she was dying. I helped the family to talk kindly andcomfortably with each other and with the young woman. (She was unconscious). First time I ever saw someone die. I saw the last pulse in her neck. A holy moment.

[@hospicenursejulie]

💕💕💕💕💕

[@gailgrieco1781]

I saw my mom’s last pulse in her neck….😢

[@ken.himalayas]

tremendous and stupendous discussion. thanks julie and cody -- from a stage 4 cancer guy. 🥰

[@hospicenursejulie]

Glad you're here 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@johnnix2168]

My wife has Alzheimer’s. Is now at the stage where she’s experiencing agitation, delirium, etc

[@rhondathomas7952]

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@mikewinn1484]

Love Cody! And you of course too! You guys are making a difference in people's lives. ❤️

[@voyaristika5673]

I didn't think I'd watching this for more than a few minutes, but it's SO informative and interesting. If you haven't been through it you know nothing about it, yet we will all be faced with the inevitable end of life. Thank you so much, Julie and Cody for sharing your knowledge and comfort.

[@ashleybergstrom8934]

I have a totally different view now of what a Chaplin is for. I had no idea. I know now if me or a family member is in this end of life stage, for me personally I will call for my Pastor. Thank you for an honest candid discussion.

[@ElizabethCook-q5g]

Yes, the hospice chaplain was a support to my loved one and our family over several months. He really helped what turned out to be the last day!

[@paulohlsson27]

Hi Elizabeth, how's your day going with you?

[@cynthiao.543]

I’m 77, retired psychotherapist/ family counselor….have lived with severe chronic pain for 16 years….no longer have religious faith or even belief in God….the pain has destroyed them….wishing I could find a counselor like you two….youre winderful! Thank you ! ❤️👍🌺

[@voyaristika5673]

I'm 75. I've been dealing with pain for a few years though nothing even close to your experience. I KNOW that whatever chemicals are released by the body to deal with pain have changed who I am (or thought I was.) Things I used to do so matter of factly have become burdens. Normally a social person I've lost the desire to be with people. There's more, not real extreme, but it just feels like I'm on a drug that's not good for me. Cynthia, I sincerely hope things change for you. You deserve to have a counselor like Cody at the very least. I still pray, though it doesn't feel the same, but when I pray for others I still feel it. I'm going to pray for you. God bless you. ❤ 🙏

[@paulohlsson27]

@@voyaristika5673 Hi Voya, how's your day going with you?

[@WellaWally65]

I’m so sorry I missed this. You have been such a blessing to me, to my heartaches. I recently lost my most beloved Aunt. She was 81 and she was doing so well, but due to abuse and neglect she was admitted to a hospital and she just kept getting worse and worse. It’s like they don’t care for the elderly anymore. I wanted to ask you, why do they medicate them with fentanyl a few hours before they pass away? I was (and still am) so depressed because my beautiful aunt just died while sedated. Thank you for your videos!

[@tonybennett638]

How good is this 👍

[@Cosmic-Chaplain]

Thank you for this amazing conversation. I’m a hospice chaplain in the UK. Your videos are really appreciated ❤🙏

[@yvonnetitus2]

I love watching your Live at Fives. I just realized as I listen I am always smiling while being educated.

[@gsilcoful]

Thank you.

[@ddabo4460]

thank you for this .

[@maiacalloway6549]

You both are wonderful. I am so thankful that you are doing this. I have very serious advanced MS and would love to tell you my story ❤

[@RichardRobbins-jt5bt]

I would cherish these two extraordinary people to be with me whether I was near deaths' door or just as remarkable friends and/or confidents.

[@elainebraindrain3174]

Coty you are so like my son demeanor and looks, bless you for fine work u do. Thank you Julie too😊

[@paulohlsson27]

Hi Elaine, how's your day going with you?

[@daveogarf]

HI, JULIEEEEEE! You look Great, despite being "casual". 😁😘 Did I mention, "adorable"? I love the way you reacted to the chaplain; nice to see you in conversation with someone.

[@stephenodriscoll6671]

Thank you so much for this channel. My mother-in-law is in hospice with Cancer and is in a LOT of pain. The hospice nurse said that because of the stage of her cancer, the pain can not be controlled. Does hospice ever give up on controlling pain? Is there pain that cannot be controlled with pain medicine? She is suffering so much.I thought hospice could always make a patient comfortable with opiates. What are your thoughts?

[@rhondathomas7952]

Praying you guys found a solution to her pain. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@deniseblackburn33]

Thank you ❤❤

[@njtracyjean]

Julie as a woman who started seminary at age 58 may I offer you a suggestion? If you are feeling a call to chaplaincy and earning a theology degree start to explore that sooner than later. you are already working the medical side of hospice. Cody is working the Spiritual side of hospice/palliative care. There’s a lot of dovetailing in that work, but it may be that you would be extremely gifted for the Spiritual side. Trust me, as someone who worked in medical research for many years, those two things are not mutually exclusive and if you are truly hearing a call, it is not gonna go away.

[@battybethc8061]

Thanks!

[@hospicenursejulie]

Thank you 💕💕💕💕

[@daveogarf]

(PS - I'm in Colorado, not too far from Denver).

[@maryhildreth754]

Id love to see you have the lady on from Taboo Education. She is a psychologist at a hospice in Australia.

[@pikush66]

Julie, i need also a master. Can you believe me i want to do that also? Any recommendations on what school. The least hard pleaee.

[@pastorpresent1]

Philadelphia here

[@ginahuffman6785]

Just curious does hospice hire nurse practitioners? I have always been interested, currently I am a Trauma ICU nurse in school for my nurse prac. I enjoy your videos thank you.

[@hospicenursejulie]

Yes- they do!

[@ginahuffman6785]

Thank you for responding. I’ll check them out!

[@davejarvis7522]

It's true

[@Deziree-n2v]

I need help lost my uncle, wasn't allowed to say goodbye 😢 😔 😪 💔

[@Deziree-n2v]

Im from cali

[@johnnix2168]

Can you be a chaplain and be agnostic. I have part of my master’s in divinity to eventually be a chaplain. But deconstructed and stopped

[@SheriMaass]

How in the world can a Chaplin Offer spiritual guidance and support, including prayer.... if they have no religious beliefs or foundation? Glad to know this. I would never want to take counseling and prayer from someone who doesn't know jesus....

[@hospicenursejulie]

And this is your choice 🥰- that's the point 💕

[@padhphotography]

Absolutely agree Sherri No thank you I’d be schooling this guy for sure Lol

[@Cosmic-Chaplain]

In a hospice your choice of spiritual care would be honoured and respected 🙏

[@denisemaples6519]

Julie , what is it like to die with granulosa cell tumors ovarian cancer ?

[@paulohlsson27]

Hi Denise, how's your day going with you?

[@paulohlsson27]

Thanks for the thumbs up, how are you spending your spare time?

[@annparks5468]

​@@paulohlsson27 creeper...

[@TishStoner]

I think religious and a spiritual person are very different.

[@relaxandunwind1496]

You didn't put hid info in the description

[@hospicenursejulie]

I will tomorrow

[@annparks5468]

​@@hospicenursejulie??

[@DarkSoul-kb8sf]

I was watching a video on KZbin in Amsterdam I think and They will let a 16-year-old go in a do the death by dignity The Guy said They will look at as young as 12 years old with a bad day in Life and the parents are ok with that. At least here in the States it has to be the end of Life thing not just because you can't cope with Life

[@tyler6320]

I wouldn't mind if he was the last thing I saw before I died 😇

[@DttYpod]

😂😂😂

[@sharonbrewster3986]

A chaplain not piticulally religious? I can't understand that.

[@hospicenursejulie]

I can 💕

[@KavanOBrien]

Having no feed back from you guys is even curiouser .

[@franceducharme4804]

She talks too much. Let him share n talk.

[@Ich00senottogivein]

Making money from the dying

[@KavanOBrien]

I’m curious of do people who have been bad people to other during their lifetime have a bad death , justice in mine says the lord but have you personally seen justice on bad peoples death bed ,

[@albertouribe435]

Thank you Not interested on people that speak on behalf of a GOD. I do have compassion for those that do

[@sarawilliams1271]

Ok, wait...and, why would I want to see a cursing Chaplain??? Not!

[@lorraineamico42]

So true communication thanks @lorraineamicothemakeupartist