Q&A w/ Mom! Tiger Parenting, Immigrating to America, Dealing with Rejections, Bed Time?? 😯

[@irisfu6929]

I send out a weekly newsletter on actionable insights for you to succeed in high school/college. Try it free: irisfu.com/newsletter » Follow me on Instagram: @_irisfu instagram.com/_irisfu/ » Adore my baby Twitter account: @_irisfu twitter.com/_irisfu » Check out my website: www.irisfu.com Make sure you check the description for timestamps! Skip around as much as you'd like :) as always, leave a comment and I'll get back to you 🤗

[@fairsi1]

I wish my son would grow into a self motivated youth like you in the next a few years. I have been using the same principles like your mom. And he also lived in China with grandparents for a couple of years when I tried to establish a stable life as a first gen immigrant.

[@yuanchen2065]

Love your mom so much. The first generation of immigrating to America must be very hard.Maybe she can talk about her immigration story in her channel.

[@irisfu6929]

Haha she doesn't have a channel (not yet!!) but she talked about it briefly in this video! Check the timestamps :) 🤗

[@cursivevibes330]

I love how your mom has given very educated answers. A truly wise mother would not judge her child’s worth based on her school’s brand name. 这才是一个自信家长的样子！

[@arcee7425]

I wish my mom had the mentality your mom has. Your mom seems really sweet

[@irisfu6929]

Aw yeah she is. I bet your mom is awesome in her own way 💕

[@arcee7425]

@@irisfu6929 yeah she is also awesome but at the same time very conservative

[@irisfu6929]

Haha my mom surprisingly is pretty conservative as well - I think it’s just the nature of coming from a traditional Asian background

[@arcee7425]

@@irisfu6929 Exactly!!!

[@rileychong6853]

Your mom really be giving out free advice! She sounds really smart

[@irisfu6929]

Haha she really is

[@chrstine3482]

your mom is so wise! I see where you get it from

[@irisfu6929]

Hahaha yes

[@chrstine3482]

iris we are literally the same person. omg like being born in the US and then living in china and then coming back and interest in flute and economics and same outlook on life and families and dream college...I’m so glad I discovered your youtube channel. I identify with so much of your story.

[@irisfu6929]

Wow dang we’re like virtual twins!! I’m so glad you found my channel as well! Stay tuned for more videos!! 💕

[@bustdetector1738]

Iris you’re gonna do great in life , I would be my life savings on it. You probably get more out of a day then I do in a week. Kudos to mom for being such a strong influence.

[@irisfu6929]

Yes, props to all moms for being our inspos!

[@heena773]

OMG!?!??? I can’t believe you said my name! ahhhhhhhhh! I’m dying! I love you so much! You are my inspiration! And both of you guys are sooo pretty! You guys are so sweet! Love you!!!!🥺💗✌️💫❤️ (I’m still screaming) . Love, one of your biggest fans🥺💫😅🥰

[@irisfu6929]

Ahahaha I thought flowed pretty well for the intro as well! Thanks for supporting all of these videos, Khadeeja :) Sending a huge virtual hug!! 💕

[@heena773]

Iris Fu thanks beautiful! keep working hard 🥺💗✌️💫 and wish me like for high school and college 😊

[@elly9358]

hey iris!! in the video, you mentioned how you were super shy when you were younger but you grew more confident over time. what tips do you have to become more comfortable being yourself in front of strangers/people you don’t know well and gain self-confidence?

[@irisfu6929]

ooof, hard question! I think just going beyond your comfort zone and being even overconfident sometimes in certain situations. Then, when you realize that nothing bad happens, you will gradually become less shy/more confident. Definitely try to join activities that build self-confidence! For me, that was orchestra/band and tennis. Those were team activities where I felt like I had group support but also was pushed to step outside my shell (e.g. perform a solo, play a match in front of many people). Ultimately, after having these nerve-wracking experiences multiple times, my confidence grew!

[@sunnyhe4231]

Wow Iris, your mother is so supportive!! I wish my mom would be like that :)

[@irisfu6929]

Yeah she really is, and I'm really lucky. Just keep doing your best in your situation ❤️

[@reardelt]

@@irisfu6929 My mom is a narcissist and gets really jealous if I get ahead in life. Consider yourself super lucky.

[@alexb8455]

@@reardelt dayum that's tough

[@aiuchiha111]

@@reardelt How are you doing?

[@malinieswarachandra4126]

You are so awesome! You are guiding so many high schoolers in the right direction.

[@irisfu6929]

Great to hear that! Thank you :)

[@malinieswarachandra4126]

You both made me tear up! Because I am a mom and I resonate with her.

[@irisfu6929]

Oh wow. Thanks for this message, Malini. I’m glad the video resonated 🤗

[@malinieswarachandra4126]

@@irisfu6929 Love you Iris and wish you all the Happyness, Success and Joy!!!! Make sure you love your mom the way you love her always!

[@caterinaliu9817]

Hi Iris, love this video. what kinds of elementary school, middle school, and high school do you suggest? I am a mom with two kids. :)

[@davisjohn-d6h]

Woah did not expect that cuss word at 33:27! Never heard iris curse!

[@irisfu6929]

HAHAH you gotta let it out sometimes

[@lolaandyoyo6513]

omg your mom always looks like shes on the verge of tears

[@irisfu6929]

lolllz

[@hernameplz6506]

Appreciate the time stamp that can navigate me to the question I am curious! Great vid! Keep it up!

[@irisfu6929]

Of course!!

[@madisonhuang4227]

I just started binging your videos Iris, and you are really such a great motivator and all your tips are great! I am confident that in the future you will make so many great changes!! I really aspire to be like you and I hope that I can strive for my best just like you. Thank you for making these great videos. P.S. I absolutely LOVE your mom and as someone who also has immigrant parents, they've really supported and helped me along the way!!

[@anthonyzuo335]

Omg awesome videoooo!! u should def do a video where u talk abt like fake friends vs real friends and just abt friendship in high school

[@irisfu6929]

hahah YES. That might be some tea.

[@dasikakn]

Wow, I have no idea why KZbin suggested this video to me, maybe because I have a child in high school looking at colleges. I’m glad I watched. I love your moms philosophy and wisdom. We agree on so many things. I hope I am coming through to my son the same way.

[@seyalee5447]

29:13 aah so happy to see my question answered in your video! As an Asian-American immigrant, I agree on a lot of topics that you guys discussed, and I really feel like I was able to personally connect with you throughout the entire video! Also thank you so much for being so kind and answering my questions when I slid into your DM, you rock Iris❤️

[@irisfu6929]

Of course!! It's great to connect with other Asian Americans going through the same experiences. Always let me know when you have more questions here on KZbin comments! ❤️

[@dredreidel]

You and your mom are both very inspiring, wise, and like I could listen to her forever.

[@irisfu6929]

Hahaha i wish i can listen to her forever too 😂thx for the nice message :)

[@tylervazquez2239]

Iris! You´re so amazing and such an inspiration! You motivate me to strive to do more. Thank you so much for the Maximizing Summer Planning video; I´ve never felt more productive during the summer and it´s only been a few days! I know you´ll do great things at Stanford and in the world; thank you once again!

[@irisfu6929]

You're so welcome! Good luck this summer!! Cheering for you 🙌🏼

[@sadhikamulagari1147]

Can you please make a video about extracurriculars for the corresponding major you want to pursue. Since I want to go into the medicine field, I am confused on what I have to do to make me stand out. btw ur amazing, thank you so much for all of this.

[@irisfu6929]

Hey Sadhika! I think the simple answer is to pursue the field you want to go into deeply! For medicine, try to get you hands on research, with the goal to publish in a journal or win a big research competition. You can always create an org relevant to medicine (think Red Cross, Bill and Melinda Gates, etc, but on a level/scale/idea that you can feasibly act on). Also think about writing a children’s book in medicine/biology. These are just ideas, but I think the level of impact you make with your EC is the the most important!

[@sadhikamulagari1147]

@@irisfu6929 This has prolly been the most helpful advice someone has given me in less than a paragraph. Thank you very much! and u are very helpful.

[@irisfu6929]

@@sadhikamulagari1147 haha anytime!

[@lydss964]

Love the newsletter and your KZbin videos are all so helpful. Thanks for all the hard work you are putting on these videos. I'm about to watch this vid, I'm sure it will be great!

[@irisfu6929]

Thank you so much! Really appreciate the support :)

[@ellie8782]

Great video, love both of you

[@irisfu6929]

Thanks so much!

[@dthomas7032]

Thank you for this video Iris, your Mom loves and cares for you so much. You are blessed!

[@irisfu6929]

I’m def a lucky gal! Thanks for your comment :)

[@armitahosseini8683]

So motivating and inspirational! I love both you and your mom :) make more videos like this please😊

[@irisfu6929]

heheh it was really fun to make! Planning to make more of these personality vids!

[@armitahosseini8683]

Iris Fu that’s awesome! It was so fun to watch :)

[@girlmeetstech9946]

Congrats at 3k in advance!!

[@irisfu6929]

Omg thank you!!

[@al-mn7hh]

omg do all asian moms share the same mindset...my mom says some of the eXaCt THinGs to me, like even the wording is ExaCtlY the SamE lol

[@mervynwinn1852]

this is definitely the content we need!!!

[@irisfu6929]

Yes we love a good Q&A 👍

[@Iwonder493]

Not much to say. Awesome mom, Iris!

[@anushavasudevan2626]

Love you guys and love this channel!! Keep thriving:)

[@irisfu6929]

Ahahha thanks Anusha!!! 🤩🤩

[@xs-2004]

Enjoyed watching you and your mom together giving advice💕💕

[@anjan4154]

SUPER MUMMMA❤❤❤❤❤

[@irisfu6929]

YES SIRRRRR

[@anjan4154]

@@irisfu6929 hey ! you know by getting motivation from you . I started writing a book and it is about the whole journey of ISRO( INDIAN SPACE RESEARCH ORGANISATION) till now2020 .I want to write a book on this topic bcoz i really love space stuff n all. Do you think my book topic is good?

[@anjan4154]

Basically it not like writing the whole thing on a computer. I drafted my content and started googling on those particular topics and then pasting it . It is a kinda informative book for MIDDLE GRADERS AND HIGH SCHOOLERS. what do you think? please do reply:)

[@anjan4154]

IT IS NOT LIKE PASTING THE WHOLE THING. MANY THINGS I'M WRITING ON MY OWN.

[@irisfu6929]

@@anjan4154 yes, it's a good idea if you write the ENTIRE thing on your own. DO NOT copy and paste ANYTHING

[@tomquach2962]

Such a great vid! See ya in the fall ‘round campus!

[@irisfu6929]

Yes so excited to meet you!!

[@kathleen1083]

Hi! Can you talk about college mentors, if you had one, where you found one, and how that works? Thanks!

[@irisfu6929]

Hey!! Yeah I worked with collegevine (they’re like Bullseye but they’re bankrupt now and just a nonprofit lol), so I’d say I worked with an advisor one on one through a platform similar to Bullseye. I also had my school counselor, some teachers, and my mom, but my advisor through collegevine was the best. We had weekly video calls, she looked over almost all of my essays, and helped with early strats/creating a school list, the extracurricular section, and other miscellaneous questions

[@kathleen1083]

@Iris Fu - thanks!!!! Did you find college one through a general google search or was that something your school mentors suggested? Also - what grade do you suggest getting one? Thanks!

[@irisfu6929]

I found it through a lot of google searching and researching. I’d recommend starting end of 11th throughout 12th grade!! Also I really recommend Bullseye!!

[@lucysvlogs2713]

I love your channel so much!!!!!!!!🥰🥰💗💕💜

[@irisfu6929]

I'm so glad! Always let me know when you have questions or video ideas here in the comments!!!

[@deepeshpatel9220]

So inspiring 🤟

[@irisfu6929]

🤗🤗

[@susie3383]

hey i have a question! im a high schooler who wants to do psychology as a major when i get to college, and I know somr people do psychology as just a non doctoral major or as a pre med major. how do u let them know that u wanna be pre med in ur college application? or do u tell them after u get accepted into these colleges? sorry im just very confused

[@irisfu6929]

Usually, you don’t declare pre med track or your major until a few years into college, so what you list on your application is purely interest-based and won’t have any effects. On the application, it does ask you to indicate your potential majors and potential career, so you can indicate psych and physician accordingly. Nope this helps but lmk if you have follow up questions!

[@kathleen1083]

What grade do you recommend using a college mentor?

[@irisfu6929]

End of 11th grade through 12th grade!

[@santalgamot9985]

my heart stopped when i saw the same pink dolphin on my bed

[@Iwonder493]

Curious, do you guys listen to 樊登读书会？

[@prareme8137]

What major did you apply to?

[@irisfu6929]

Econ!

[@212ntruesdale]

They say we don’t like minorities. On the contrary, we judge by the content of your character, not by race. Hard work, assimilation, positivity is respected, butt hurt only suspected.

[@justinshan9284]

hi Iris，刚刚在油管上发现了你的频道，每段视频都认真看过了一遍。能了解下你高中是在哪所学校么？谢谢！

[@zacharyertengrass892]

I wish in every video you would have a little inset where your mom interrupts you and gives HER opinion on the topic. Like once per video she drops in to give her opposing view.

[@irisfu6929]

Ahaha the mother knows best!! We’ll try

[@sc946]

@@irisfu6929 д

[@IntelligentAtheism]

Hi, Iris.............

[@irisfu6929]

hello!

[@yeekewang6903]

Haha I think she combined Greek Mythology with the book of Genesis in the Bible to come up with your name. It has great meaning no matter where you take it from!

[@irisfu6929]

Wow we should have asked you earlier Yeeke! And haha yes thank you dream team 🤗💕

[@テストステロンプロテイン]

我希望大部分的中国孩子被妈妈像Iris的妈妈养育。这个证明虎妈教育方法不总是完全的。

[@irisfu6929]

嗯 我同意

[@bigwhiteshark7186]

hi,小付同学好呀，不知道你看的懂中文么？你太优秀啦，希望我的儿子未来可以像你一样这么优秀

[@cybergamer2329]

first

[@irisfu6929]

eyyy

[@reardelt]

Wow. your mom is so educated, thoughtful and wise. My mom is just really selfish and arrogant.

[@加拿大亚省中华文化教]

No moms deserve that comments?

[@jasonlou2013S]

I hate tiger parents a lot, I have contradiction with them when i was living in Bay Area. Now I moved to Los Angeles and got acceptance letter from Pepperdine University. Tiger parents I am your nightmare and hope you angry all the time.hahahahahahahahaha

[@irisfu6929]

Hahaha

[@jasonlou2013S]

@@irisfu6929 Actually, my contradiction was not my parents, it was their previous friends. haha.