TEA TALKS: social media was ruining my life

[@obkk]

I stopped wasting time on social media this past week, and I'm already feeling so much better. I'm less negative, and I have time to think about my own life and projects. i didn't realize how bad it was until i stopped..

[@emilypascale]

Yessss, I completely relate! You don’t realize how much time is lost on social media until you stop. It surprising to me how I’ve also lost the temptation to even go on TikTok too

[@oleander4661]

I completely agree with you! I am on the road to digital minimalism. Switching to a flip phone without fancy features was my first step. Screen limiting apps aren't effective for me. I needed to completely eliminate my access to the conveniences of a smartphone and social media. Many of the people in my life think my choice is weird but I feel so refreshed and it's only been two weeks. I have time and energy to spend doing things in the real world instead of focusing on the lives of people thousands of kilometres away. Now I only consume media when I feel like it. Looking forward to more Tea Talk episodes!

[@emilypascale]

Thanks so much for watching and sharing your own experience!! I can only imagine how refreshed you must feel and I seriously applaud you for the decision to switch to a flip phone bc that's not easy! Best of luck to you as you continue with digital minimalism :)

[@mazapandust]

i quit social media in march last year - never looked back and i've made more moves since then than i have in years. best of luck on your journey!

[@emilypascale]

@@mazapandust that’s amazing to hear! Good for you ☺️ best of luck on your continued journey as well

[@mai.berryy]

I really loved your tea talk!! I am in a similar situation I’ve deleted insta and tiktok. I graduated last year and haven’t found a job yet, quite a weird uncomfortable situation I’m in and realised social media really does not help me in the way I thought. What you said about it’s makes you feel “connected” I think that’s why I found it difficult to delete. But yep I hope this decision will bring positive outcomes :)

[@emilypascale]

Thanks for watching! I'm glad to hear this video resonated with you in ways :) Best of luck on your job search, sending positivity your way

[@tettso]

girl!! thought you were some kind of viral motivational influencer, but then found out you only have two videos.. i really love your content and the way you talk about such relatable topics, you should definitely create more!!

[@emilypascale]

Wow thank you so much! This is so kind!! I’m definitely planning on making more videos like this :)

[@bubbletea8717]

I have a very obsessive personality & I’m often insecure as well. so it doesn’t help me since it gives me access to people’s life/past & makes me assume things which feed into my own narrative. I have had so many bad experiences on it that to say I’m REPULSED by sm is an understatement. I feel anxiety when I just see the icon. & I noticed I become so judgemental & judge people heavily regarding their accounts; what they post, what they like/follow. I started feeling extremely embarrassed & grossed out about it. I wanna meet people more organically & stay humble & not in the social media bubble.

[@emilypascale]

I relate to this in a lot of ways! I also felt myself being more judgmental towards people and I hated it. People are so much more than who they portray on social media - also aiming to meet people more organically!

[@bubbletea8717]

@ & I especially struggle w guys on that matter. I don’t know if I’m nitpicking but seeing sb’s following list with random girls they have never met & liking their pictures (who don’t even follow them back) is just downright uncomfortable & embarrassing. esp if you’re involved with them. Ik that it’s just social media & it’s not real & perhaps it’s just a “like” but you can’t really deny the fact that often times it’s used to hit on sb right? Idk, it’s very off-putting to see the very person I worship & love being on everyone’s likes & followings. Ik that it’s their personal habit but I can’t help take it personally. & I start being too judgemental. & realised it sent me in a loop of comparing myself with them & ruins my self esteem. what are your thoughts on it? am i reading too deeply into this? I understand you can still find ppl attractive even when you’re in a relationship but like that doesn’t happen to me (I might find sb attractive but I’m not necessarily attractive to them, & can’t seem to think of anyone other than my partner) but to follow them & like their pictures (of just their face/body) rubs me off the wrong way. I can’t quite place a finger if I’m way too insecure to be in a relationship if even little things like this bothers me or if it’s sth that is not okay being normalised?

[@emilypascale]

⁠@@bubbletea8717I think what you’re feeling is extremely valid and many people have these feelings towards their partner’s social media habits as well. I think if it bothers you enough, it’s worth having a conversation with your partner to discuss boundaries. If it’s something they can’t respect or empathize with you on, then maybe they aren’t the right one. I think the right person will always ensure that you feel secure in the relationship bc it’s not fair to you to be in a constant state of comparison while in a relationship. Hope this made sense!

[@herbalcat]

Thank you so much for discussing this important topic. Social media is addictive and put that together with an addictive personality can cause many problems. I am that addictive person. I’m putting limits on my SM apps tonight!🤷🏻‍♀️😟

[@emilypascale]

@@herbalcat thanks for tuning in! I totally relate, it’s so hard to put down my phone sometimes bc of the addiction but app limits have helped so much. Good for you taking the step towards a healthier relationship with SM!

[@Kajukissmiss-g6w]

I am on the same way, I wish to leave this toxic soacial media completely! I agree with u so much, thank you for this conformational video! I wish u best for future and hope ur chennal thrives.💕

[@emilypascale]

Thanks so much for watching ☺

[@natalieshowsstuff]

Excited to get into the conversation. The tea maker system looks cool.

[@natalieshowsstuff]

Some things I would do is keep the notifications turned off. I did not download TikTok on its rise to fame, my biggest issue was comparison through Instagram. But also visiting friends in real life, was also a source of comparison since I could see it’s not an exaggeration- it allowed me re-evaluate my approach to my goals in life. I’m not striving to impress others and going into debt for a day to look cool - was a very short -lived experience I learned from after a few months. The workout challenges were motivating, seeing the different people and progress, seeing people start their journey was encouraging. I try to have more conversations with people to keep up with them. Yes the iPhone boundaries are very easy to override - will have to try your recommendation. KZbin has been a fuel to find people that are learning and teaching about things I like - it’s another way to follow a journey. It’s important to develop a healthy relationship especially if your work is going to require it. It’s kind of integrated into society, even if you only use it professionally (LinkedIn), and your online presence can make an impact. I find it funny how when younger we were told not to put personal info online then once you’re a teen or job seeker you put everything there.

[@emilypascale]

Thanks for being here! I love to make tea this way with loose leaf tea, high recommend!

[@Lswat717Ent]

Keep up with the great content and keep pushing through the KZbin grind

[@emilypascale]

@@Lswat717Ent thanks for your encouragement and support! ☺️ means so much!

[@lindavillani1157]

thank you for the excellent content. It is appreciated and agreed with …Linda in Texas USA

[@emilypascale]

@@lindavillani1157 Thank you , Linda! Appreciate you being here!

[@nidhi4735]

Thank you for this video ❤

[@emilypascale]

@@nidhi4735 thank you for watching! ☺️

[@ostapei89]

Loved this video. I resonated with a lot of it.

[@emilypascale]

I'm so glad to hear that! Thanks so much for watching :)

[@katchen2626]

Great points on connection, going on tiktok has actually made me feel less lonely. which is so weird.

[@emilypascale]

Totally relate! I follow some really great content creators and seeing their videos on my feed is like seeing friends in a weird way

[@katchen2626]

@@emilypascale yes exactly! it like having random online friends

[@meowmix1111]

only thing i regret is not deleting ig sooner everything feels fake and phony nothing genuine doesnt feel right cant live life on a screen!!!❤

[@emilypascale]

so true! IG is really a highlight reel

[@Realogn]

I only go on there to troll see cool shit and troll simps who idealize women that shouldn’t come out the house during the day 😂

[@mysugaplum]

new subscriber! & I loveee your tea cup in the beginning of video. Where did you get it from ?? 🍵

[@emilypascale]

@@mysugaplum thanks for subscribing ☺️ I got the cup when I was in China! But they sell a bunch of similar ones on Etsy if you look up tea cups with streamer and lid

[@mysugaplum]

@@emilypascale thank you ! 💕

[@PittsLife]

Make more content, you are good! Glad I found your channel!

[@emilypascale]

Thank you! That means a lot ❤ I have some new content on the way :)