Q & A WITH DR DOUG LISLE: VEGAN DATING, HOW TO STOP WEIGHING & MEASURING, TURNING DOWN FOOD AND MORE

[@annaal7480]

I did lots of dating through online sites. If anyone is not open to the fact that I am vegan, why would I waste my time and bother with going out with them? I met someone nice who catches fish for fun and he was keen to go out with me but I wasn’t interested. My husband was a meat eater, I loved him dearly, but he died from a heart attack at 54. I was cooking for him so he would be healthier but it didn’t work. He liked meat too much. His way of eating killed him and I am not prepared to go through it again. It also bothered me to have flesh of roasted animals at home and rinsing plates full of animals fat. No more.

[@jgrysiak6566]

If only u could have washed & rinsed his arteries

[@LisaSonora]

❤ LOL when he refers to Freud as « that dude » 😂 I have felt that way ever since I was trained as a therapist - but it’s always been an unpopular opinion and I’m ok with that

[@bonniemullen4990]

DR. LYLE IS SUCH A INTERESTING PERSONALITY, thank you Chef AJ for having him on your show 😀 ❤😊

[@elizabethfletcher1487]

I found Doug's explanation of personality VERY interesting. Thank you Doug. Personality being a genetic crapshoot seems to give me a warm fuzzy feeling. Good lesson for not trying to change my comrades (or my cats). Explains why I could not learn to worry about things I cannot change, in spite of my mother's attempts to do so.

[@vi3472]

Dr Lisle is always interesting. I had to listen to this 3 times before I "got it". The piece about personality being determined at conception is actually a relief to me because when I observe certain behaviors in my children and grandchildren, I understand more about the "why" of these behaviors. It is their personality. The environment affects their quality of life and whether they have more or less anxiety due to their environment (the example of the cat in 2 different environments) . I get it! This was very interesting and I shared it with some family and friends. Thank you!

[@partypants]

I'm still struggling to understand this point as well and don't fully swallow it yet. Some traits seem definitely genetic but others have to be a product of the environment. I've modified a lot few as well so not sure that is as fixed for life as he claims. Still utmost respect and love to Dr Lisle, he just got me spinning here with this one.

[@nelsonv741]

Doug Lisle is always on his "A" game! Great show!

[@michelle_cen]

YES to another Doug-a-thon!!

[@meganmakescakes]

The best part was when Dr Lisle talked about adopted children acting nothing like their adoptive parents. Thats brilliant.

[@mikeb3268]

Yep, that’s me!

[@ummahmedca]

I dont see a problem with weighing/measuring food if it works for the individual. I know of many women who weigh/mmeasure their meals and are super fit and it works for them.

[@debbiekiefer4938]

Thank you, Dr. Lisle and Chef AJ for this awesome interview. Love Dr. Lisle's great answers and debunking some of our myths that have been around for a long time. And his great answers of humility to others, who are not wfpb. Makes sense to me!

[@sylviegionet6514]

I would need your matchmaking powers, Chef AJ 😂 Not many vegans much less WFPB around here. 😉

[@guykenniker9498]

I love my partner but feel resentful sometimes because him not taking care of himself impacts my life

[@mattzilla331]

And there's nothing wrong with feeling that way. If something bad happened to him it would absolutely effect you.

[@guykenniker9498]

@smallfootprint2961 I don't nag and I don't mind taking care of him I just don't like that I feel this way. I was talking about me

[@bonniemullen4990]

👍

[@rebeccar5363]

Yes!! Im in the same boat, and I totally get it. I'm getting better and he's getting worse, and trying to sabotage me in the process, but not necessarily on purpose. I feel your frustration.

[@guykenniker9498]

@@rebeccar5363 thanks

[@barbglez8426]

I love you Dr Lisle thank you for easing my worries, as a mom I’d like my kids to eat perfect but there’s so many ch I can push. Thank you 🙏🏼❤️

[@acwrite32]

Excellent talk. Can’t wait for their book!

[@suicune2001]

Always love seeing Doug!

[@annanzul2862]

This was a really good episode, Chef AJ! I became vegan four months ago because, after looking into it, the vegan diet checked all the boxes: good for me, for the planet, and for the animals. But it's been an adjustment for my family as I've always been the main cook in the house. The good doc is right: keeping humility is key to 'navigating these new waters.'

[@annaal7480]

It is harder to keep humility after not eating animals for 40 years. I was in the same situation as you and accepted that my husband was on unhealthy carnivore diet and loved him a lot despite of it, but am not prepared to go through it again. It is easier for meat eaters to accept a vegan than vice versa. Meat eaters can eat vegan meals and not the other way around. Also, you are the empath which is good, not bad. I find it really strange that the advise given here is to hide the truth to catch the date. As if we were desperado teenagers. At 65 I don’t do it. I don’t preach, but I also am proud to say that I am vegan if asked. May I add that my husband died at 54 from silent ischemia.

[@CHEFAJ]

So sorry for your loss.

[@annanzul2862]

@@annaal7480 So sorry for your loss. 54 is too young to die. As faras vegans dating non-vegans, I too think it's wise to cut to the chase and let the person they're dating know right away. If they don't like that, best to know early on and not waste time.

[@liahk1000]

​@@annaal7480 I don't think the idea is to lie though. But many ppl have preconceived ideas of how vegans are, and could rule you out before they even met you. Whereas if they met you and saw your choices and that you'd not being judgemental about it, who knows, maybe they're even willing to change their diet..

[@yvonneraley3050]

Needed this talk. Hopefully I can put Dr L's tips to work to be a more likable loving wfpb no sos person

[@lulitmelake7534]

I’d love to hear Dr. Lisle talk about epigenetics.

[@sunnyshealthcoaching]

OMG, THIS is me, I'm having a hard time dating where I live. However, if a person is cooking for their family, they can recreate the family's favorite dishes but using plant-based ingredients. What they do outside of the house is something different. It takes a while to change your taste buds but if that's what is served in the house then it will happen rapidly. Healthy food is not the same as forcing somebody to learn to play the piano. Especially when childhood obesity and diabetes is on the rise.

[@jorjabalsz1456]

Chef Aj what is your facial regimen? Your skin is beautiful. I'm 68 .

[@TeresaTaft711]

I have been admiring your beautiful skin and makeup, so I would love to know what your secret is to looking great.

[@CHEFAJ]

Thank you! I use as makeup a backlight primer like Becca. The biggest secret is NO SUN on my face since 2018. If you look at my older videos you can see how bad my skin was. I wear full face sun protection not just a hat. I was with Body Deli blueberry because I like the smell but no other products or secrets. Trentoin is great for a Dewey appearance too!

[@jorjabalsz1456]

Thank you so much 😊

[@firstseedfoods]

Agreed- she has gorgeous skin!

[@kingamaciejewska1050]

What a discussion! He is so passionate about what he preaches! And I never knew if he was right, but i RAN MANY EXPERIMENTS 😂and guess what? He is right 🥰. He is my new religion since 2017💃🏼👍

[@osnatshaibe1534]

Thank you for this 👍🙏

[@robertcarola2943]

I appreciate Dr. Lisle's evolutionary approach, but (not sure if it was this video or another one), I object to his dissing of Dr. Ornish and also Buettner's Blue Zone work as nonsense or mumbo jumbo. A healthy life is more than just "its the food." Loving human connections, community, personal sense of purpose, etc. are at least correlated with stress reduction, which has a huge impact on health.

[@TracyH29]

This was my first time hearing/seeing him. I read all the comments in favor of him, but I didn't get a good first impression. I think he behaved arrogantly and unfriendly. I get some ppl are matter of fact but his personality doesn't help look past it. JMO.

[@liahk1000]

I think his claim is that the stress reducing etc doesn't have anything to do with the reversal of arteriosclerotic plaques in the arteries, not that it can't be useful in other ways.

[@Slastukin67]

I would like to see Dr Lisle debate Dr Gabor Maté on the childhood trauma/personality question.

[@VeganNinja137]

HE IS AMAZING ❤

[@lauramiller9560]

I wish i lived in Austin. I would love to get paid to cook healthy meals for someone!

[@elizabethheiland5632]

All I needed to do was tell my kids the truth that meat is a dead animal that someone had to kill then they don't want to eat it

[@cathycalloway5782]

I always wish I didn't have to weigh and measure my food but I'm insulin dependent and have to know how many carbs I'm consuming so I know how much insulin to inject.

[@TracyH29]

Have you watched "Forks Over Knives" or listened to Dr. Barnard? It's not the carbs or sugar that are the problem. It's the fat. I hope you learn more about him and others, such as Dr. McDougall, who promote a WFPB diet.

[@cathycalloway5782]

@@TracyH29 Yes. When I was first diagnosed with diabetes in 1992 I began following Dr. Ornish. Over the years I've followed Drs. Barnard, McDougall, Esselstyn...I've read all the books by the Campbells and follow Dr. Cyrus and Robby's Mastering Diabetes. The problem is even with a low fat diet you have to know how many carbs are in all the food you eat so you know how much insulin to inject. Just one of the problems of insulin dependence. Thank you for your suggestions.

[@TracyH29]

@cathycalloway5782 I'm sorry. I hope you don't think I was acting like a know- it- all. I just jump right to the thoughts of ppl getting off meds when they follow a WFPB diet. 😊

[@cathycalloway5782]

​@@TracyH29 On no! I'm grateful you took the time to offer help. I used to hope I could get off my meds but my endocrinologist (who is plant based and very supportive) says it's unlikely I'll ever be able to get off them completely. My pancreas doesn't produce enough insulin on it's own after all these years. My A1C is down to 6.1 from 9.8 at one time by eating a vegan diet but I'd still love to get away from the weighing and measuring. Thank you for your help.

[@BethMucci]

Did the name of this talk literally change from yesterday to today? Yesterday it said early trauma or something like that, and today it doesn't

[@pantameowmeow.s.1149]

Robert Plomin, the name he mentions in the last discussion.

[@kathleennorth9014]

Chef AJ....I hope you read Plomin. I would hate to see public policy supported by his beliefs.

[@kardste8114]

🥰😄Chef AJ.. You should “minor” in Vegan Matchmaking!! I bet you’re great at it!! 😄👍🙏

[@LisaSonora]

hahah my ears really perked up on the idea of vegan match making! Yes please.

[@Elisa.Lauren]

Hey Chef AJ ~ love your show, really great topics discussed today. Any chance you would like to play match maker to help me find a partner? Would love to meet someone who is aligned and on the same vegan path i am on. I'm vibing way way high since adapting to this lifestyle and no longer consuming the SAD Diet 😂😂

[@CHEFAJ]

Can you give me a little more information about what you’re like and what you’re looking for?

[@Elisa.Lauren]

I am a 36 yo female, seeking a male counterpart. I am pretty active, workout regularly and being fit & healthy is important to me. I love the sun, heat, travelling overseas and exploring new places. I enjoy music, hanging out with my close friends, and learning about spirituality. I am passionate & driven in life, am currently working on building my little business but I also love to have fun, laugh and enjoy the simple pleasures of life. So, I am seeking a partner who is also ready to share his life with a partner and explore the world together. Someone who has a good foundation, is driven and passionate about life, shares similar values & goals, is a good communicator, caring, dependable, trustworthy, honest, is supportive, patient and loving. Most importantly has a good sense of humor @@CHEFAJ 😃

[@Elisa.Lauren]

@CHEFAJ Hey Chef AJ, thanks for your response. I am a 36-year-old female seeking a male counterpart. I am driven and ambitious. I'm currently working on my small business that I've just launched. Keeping fit, active, and healthy is important to me. I love travelling around the world and exploring new places. I am spiritual, and I believe in treating everyone with kindness. I enjoy music, hanging out with close friends, and the simple pleasures in life, but at the end of the day, i love having fun and good laughs. I am seeking someone who is ready to meet their life partner and share in walking through the life journey together. They will have a good foundation, are driven, and are passionate about life. Share in similar goals and values, love to travel as well, and embrace this high vibe lifestyle. They are able to communicate effectively, caring, supportive, kind, loyal, trustworthy, loving, and be down to earth and easygoing. Most importantly, they have a great sense of humour! 😁

[@Elizerinc]

Dr. Lisle really abhors coupons.

[@CHEFAJ]

LOL

[@magalissantiago2817]

The Vegan Zombie is there for sure. I admire him so much!

[@bonniemartin4232]

I wonder why we see children who are removed from abusive situations not begin to thrive in a happy foster environment like the cat? Citing the author of blueprint is appeal to authority. It's not proof of anything.