questions I’ve always wanted to ask my boyfriend of 13 years

We've been together for ever, and I would say one secret of our long lasting relationship is 1. we are absolutely best friends who can do 'nothing' together and have the best time (meaning it doesn't need to be grande to be great) and 2. we can have tons of fun together (when we don't get lost in the nitty gritty of work, and don't take ourselves too seriously) and also 3. have very honest conversations. I love rawness, and I think it's why we work so well together. I hope you will enjoy this video :)
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CHAPTERS
00:42 what was your very first impression of me?
02:47 what's one thing I do that drives you crazy?
07:37 if you could change one thing about our relationship, what would it be?
16:10 what's one dream or goal you've put on hold and how can I help you achieve it?
19:02 why are we not married?
23:18 if we wrote a book about our relationship what would be the title and why?
23:26 what's our secret for being together for so long?
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[@frederikemuller5656]

This is actually one of the best and most honest videos I’ve seen in a very long time, thanks for that!

[@user-pk2vc1xu5g]

This video is one of the most honest and raw things I've watched for a while. You guys are so brave to discuss these things, I personally could never and really admire your strenght. The part about being your own person, doing your thing and following your dreams was super relatable to me as I also struggle with those things sometimes in my relationship. Jurgen did so well in this conversation, as hearing things like that can make one very defensive, but he seemed open to it and at the end put his boundary very nicely. Honestly, I have no doubt that both of you will accomplish amazing things ❤

[@ciaobella3932]

We need a part 2 ❤

[@Ganplas]

Sounds like Jurgen could benefit from becoming a gamer lmaoooo never thought I’d recommend this to a guy, since in my experience they’re all obsessed with gaming anyway… but for someone like him, who struggles to create his own scene, gaming is very effective. Thanks for sharing

[@diariesofagirlabroad]

such an interesting conversation, was a lot of fun listening!

[@emmahollard485]

You should totally do the atacama trip! Sooo worth it, stay at the explora it’s the best

[@princessangelstar2351]

Wow, that was such an interesting conversation! Thank you very much for sharing that :) I'm also in a very long relationship, and yes, putting in the work is so important! A lot of people are like, You have it so good, you are in such a stable relationship. And I'm always like: Yes, we are now, but you should see all the hard patches and work we had to do... Also, my number one tip is always be each other's biggest fan and really cheering the other person on and to be a lot more fan than critic.

[@ingaziegenhagen4193]

I'm so excited❤

[@smoothielover07]

OMG, Xenia…what a pleasant surprise! I can’t wait to watch this! 🤭

[@ronjarad2536]

Atacama Dessert is absolutely life changing!!! I cried because this universe is so beautiful! Jürgen go for it!!! Best travel idea for 2024 I swear!

[@KarolinaLdn]

I absolutely loved all of your recent videos and cannot wait for me so...please keep them coming :)❤❤

[@manamori6894]

Best couple everrrrr 😊🤍 loved your conversation And happy 2024 !

[@sabrinal6645]

Xenia! I think this is my favorite vlog!!!!! it's so so so deep and relatable and I really like to connect with you on a much deeper level! I like all the questions and the "need to be your own person" topic. It's an absolute truth in relationships or just in life... I found it much easier when finding your ownself first and get into a relationship, and sometimes it's also just a art of balance. Sending love to you guys from China! xoxo

[@ivabozinovska7439]

Omg Xenia you’re my twin!!! I totally agree with you especially about your space ! And you two have a very special bond . Really great and interesting video. Love youuu❤️

[@mariekeb1272]

So happy you (and Jürgen) are back on KZbin. Your conversations honestly move and inspire me. Thank you for being you and sharing on here 💓

[@luciex5066]

I've also been with my boyfriend for more than 7 years (we're 26 and 25) and we already get the marriage question lol, even though he's still finishing his psychology degree and I'm finishing my masters.I’m sure we won't get married before 31/32 because first of all, I’m not ready for the planning stress lol and we prioritize traveling (we're currently saving up for our trip to Australia). We also want to get married alone and have a huuuge garden party on another day to celebrate with our friends. But I truly cannot understand why long-term couples are pressured to get married asap 😭

[@AyH25]

I am also in a really long relationship - no marriage 💙 idk I think it’s nice and chill to not be married lol

[@cristinamac-kay7175]

Love this. Angel one of the most important things aside from love is communication and respect both ways. We’ve been together for over 40 years married 34 since high school. Always maintain that line open. Discuss what may bother you at the time do not let it go . Love you guys ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@Asia.8]

🎉 Happy New Year Xenia and Jürgen 🎉 May your 2024 welcome you with enthusiasm, curiosity, wonder and adventures! ✨ Love this TTT (True Time Talk) ❤ You are both so adorable, young and mature at the same time. I love how you keep it real! Thank you for being you guys, I really appreciate it 😊

[@karina-12232]

Dear Xenia, I'm so glad you keep uploading videos. I think this is the first comment I've ever written. I've been following you since "xeniaoverdose" and have always been able to identify with your way of seeing the world. As a Russian child who grew up in Germany and has the urge to understand the world, I feel very understood by you. Thanks! You are a great inspiration.

[@oh.marisamia6019]

Loved it ❤️❤️❤️

[@livbielke]

I really looooove this

[@yamilethhernandez6449]

Happy new year 🎆 💗💗💗

[@s-anyon]

Xenia, I have to admit when I first stumbled across your Instagram years ago, I thought you‘d be SUCH a different person, arrogant and such, because everything was glamour and perfect pics and seemed rather superficial - with these KZbin videos it‘s just eye opening and so interesting to truly see (a part) of your personality. Also the points you and Jürgen mentioned regarding your relationship (flaws and quirks and such) were scarily relatable to my own relationship with my boyfriend 😅 It‘s super cool that you picked up doing KZbin (again). Your videos are always entertaining and interesting, keep it up :)

[@xeniaadonts]

Ahh I get this comment sometimes and honestly, I get it, sometimes it's not so easy to express our full selves on the gram and that's why I truly love KZbin, it gives me so much space for self-expression :) Thank you for being here and relating, and changing your mind, I heard thats quite healthy hahah

[@biagiottilu2577]

Tolles Video ihr beiden :)

[@sasha731]

Appreciate your long and honest conversation. I think that you guys complement each other so well. Wish you all the best.😊❤

[@leamandolia6224]

Just finished reading "The five love languages" last week and now wondering if you guys "speak" the same one? Great video anyway, makes me think about new perspectives! And should totally come explore Australia if you can spare enough time, Dad came for a whole month and two weeks in he already wants to extend 😅

[@wanderlichter171]

Ihr seid mega sympathisch!

[@user-ge6us2pq3b]

Would love to know more about the connection cycle!! Amazing QA, thank youuuuu :) How do you let (in which ways) each other more time alone when you are always together?

[@Dianadelo]

Love it 🥰 We also married after being together for 14 years 😅 We married out of similar reasons like you guys and we had the best 3 days, celebrating love and loved ones on the most beautiful island Mallorca. It was the best ( wedding) weekend of our lives 🩷✨ you will be obsessed with your event - trust me🧿 Now I wanna marry every year hahaha 😝

[@kthrnpck]

Ich liebe deine Videos, Xenia! Jürgen und du seid einfach traumhaft und richtig unterhaltsam. Kommt eventuell auch mal eine Tour durch eure Wohnung in New York online? ❤

[@p1a1va]

Ihr seit einfach so sympathisch 🥹

[@joliemypsel7744]

Richtig schönes Video😍👏🏼👏🏼

[@susanad]

This was absolutely honest and beautiful! Thank you for sharing this with us. ❤

[@xeniaadonts]

Love u :)

[@judithschwab5599]

Hallo, ich war dieses Jahr in derAtacama Wüste und konnte dort den Sternenhimmel beobachten. Es ist einfach unglaublich, das zu sehen. Vielleicht der beste Ort, um die Milchstrasse in voller Pracht auf sich wirken zu lassen. Bevor ich weiter ins Schwärmen gerate: setzt Euch einfach in den Flieger dorthin - es lohnt sich sowas von und ist ein einmaliges, wunderbares Erlebnis. Beste Grüße

[@jazzyjenkins]

I have also been in a very long-term relationship, no marriage.

[@anja5990]

What microphone do you use? 🤍

[@leejulieloach3877]

Xenia , I’ve just gone round my kitchen leaving all of the doors open 😳.. just to see .. my verdict is it’s not a great look 🤣 xx

[@Gwen98nl]

Could you share your lip product xenia? :)

[@ajohonly3721]

When I first moved to Germany 🇩🇪 it was hard for me to understand why people date for decades. Like get married already 😂😂😂 but! now I see it’s normal .

[@bosiefoobar]

as you mentioned therapy, wow often do you go to therapy?

[@gracelylifestyle6323]

😂

[@iuliialekatorchuk1732]

My god my bf is the same: he never closes doors of cupboards or wardrobes and his used tissues are everywhere as well as empty bottles of water :D

[@fatimazohradamas9490]

13 years of dating !!!! what he's waiting for to propose ! 100 years !

[@sp500-steph7]

jyrgy is the best 🤍 he already won in life he has his dream wife next to him.