r/AITA for Refusing to Give My Sisters $37,000?

[@toddhanzlik1516]

To the girl with the blind boyfriend: this is the definition of weaponizing his disability to attempt to control you. Run for the door quickly because this will never get better without him receiving a LOT of therapy.

[@Onyrooliver]

She should divorce him, he'll never see it coming.

[@jamesdietz29]

I'd give him some "therapy" by jabbing his hand with my fork every time it approached my food!

[@toddhanzlik1516]

@@Onyrooliver 🤣

[@toddhanzlik1516]

@jamesdietz29 I think I can agree with that, it should be effective.

[@littlepip4014]

He won’t even let her eat what she wants, it has to be what he’s eating. And he’s so paranoid that he feels her food to make sure she didn’t order something else. 😭 baby girl run

[@Ironraven001]

Last story reminds me of a guy I knew in college. He was partially deaf from birth but had about 20% hearing without his hearing aids and about 75% hearing with them. He would turn off his hearing aids or "forget" them and then berate his girlfriend for being ableist when she didn't yell to him or talk looking at him so he could read her lips in public settings. She would say "Are your hearing aids on? Did you remember to put them in?" and he'd get even angrier. Using your disability as a way to hurt others, or justify toxic behavior is simply unacceptable.

[@lizxu322]

Yikes. I'm sorry, im going to sound ableist and I probably am, but a lot of people will NOT sign up to date a person with disabilities (I will, but I'm talking about people as a whole) so when you find a rare individual willing to see past your disability and you burn them, BRUH, THATS DOUBLE THE REASON NOT TO DATE YOU

[@leviathan8215]

Agreed, as someone with an invisible disability, I am very mindful not to abuse it, and only ask for things when I need them, and not at the expense of other people

[@ZombieSazza]

@@leviathan8215same here re invisible disability, I’m extremely mindful of how my disabilities affect others (legally blind/mobility issues/mostly bedridden). I’m no contact with my bio mother and brother now, but they weaponised my disabilities all the time to harm me, and I’m constantly worried people will think I’m trying to take advantage of my disabilities when I just wanna try and live life without hassle. For someone to use them as a weapon to harm someone they apparently love? That’s actually disgusting and horrendous to me, I hope OP RUNS from him because WTF

[@SammyLammy1D]

Okay, here's the thing. Most people I know who use hearing aids think they are uncomfortable and prefer to not use them. However! If in a public setting or in a group hang-out, they put them in. They also make it clear by saying "Is it okay if I skip the hearing aids today?" And then we all know about it. The girl I am closest to is the sister of my friend, and she doesn't like us yelling. She prefer to read our lips. I even tried learing some sign language, but I am not very good at it. She had a few laughs... point is, I can understand not wanting to use hearing aids, but it should be made clear for everyone. Also, maybe compromise, every other date or smth?

[@Ironraven001]

@@SammyLammy1D I haven't worn them so I dunno. About 50% of the time he'd be wearing them but they'd be switched off though, so I feel confident it wasn't a comfort issue as much as he was an asshole.

[@FederalBurroOfInvestigation]

I love how the one guy gets mad at his girlfriend because she shouldn't think his hand in her food is gross, but then can't eat the food his own hand was in

[@sweetkairamell6304]

He is toxic hypocryt

[@dracko158]

Gaslighting and controlling is like that, basically

[@fartface192]

How the fuck did he leave in his own and text her

[@ThatOddChickenHippie]

​@fartface192 Uber/had someone come get him after walking off (probably has a cane to feel around). Also, speech to textp is a thing. I have a blind friend, and that's what she uses

[@VicGeorge2K6]

He should know, "you touch it, you own it"

[@flavorgamer2926]

Story 1: Everyone’s gotta learn these lessons at some point. Better she learn it in a *nice* way rather than killing somebody else with her stupidity and learning the hard way in prison

[@adamchavez7782]

Ikr

[@Kyubinooni]

I bet since she's putting the blame on him that she has not learned her lesson.

[@dracko158]

The fact that she put the blame on OP shows that she wasn't sorry about what happened, and wouldn't learn her lesson.

[@lorilancaster5917]

@@Kyubinooniunfortunately it will likely take her being alone in her own vehicles for her to understand the ramifications. She’s too focused on OPs “betrayal” to see the meaning behind his actions. The only thing I think OP and family should’ve done differently (yes I know it’s easy to say from my perspective) is tell OPs sister that they will hold on to her phone while she drives with them in the car. It also sounds like sister doesn’t have her own vehicle yet.

[@MyRandom2Cents-wl9wq]

I was just thinking the same thing. Car damage sucks, yes, but you can replace a bumper but not a person's life.

[@RollingStar04]

Last story: I guess even with disabilities you can still be toxic. That fiance makes me want to blow my brain out with his irrationality

[@lorilancaster5917]

Couldn’t he hear the OP tell her order to the server? I keep hoping for an update which OP leaves this toxic guy

[@RollingStar04]

@@lorilancaster5917 There was comment on reddit pointing that out as well adding more fuel to his toxicity

[@chaudx]

not only they can be toxic AF, some weaponize their disability to use it as a way to get their way without anyone complaining...

[@dracko158]

The guy's friend even has the gall to side with him and and call OP controlling even after telling him what happened, and the parents try to downplay the situation about this guy. Like, wtf is wrong with everyone here?

[@VicGeorge2K6]

@@dracko158 Probably because if they know that he was blind, they can feel pity for him which he doesn't deserve for being a controlling jerk.

[@BeatlesPlotagonShow]

In the last story, OP clarified that the fiancé has controlling issues from former relationships, so I think it’s a way of controlling that OP should get out of

[@abiean222]

the fiancé admitted to being controlling and then spent their whole relationship showing that he never got over that and OP still agreed to marry him? christ, OP is either an idiot, oblivious, or brainwashed.

[@your_local_questerian]

The exit is open right for you, OP. Get out, now! This guy is a marinara red flag!

[@sassyghost_8]

@@your_local_questerianI’ve never heard a red flag described as “marinara” and it nearly killed me 🤣

[@WinterBoots15]

Oh thats dumb she should leave before it rubs off to her

[@BeatlesPlotagonShow]

@@sassyghost_8 it’s from another AITA story 😂

[@StupidCatLady]

The last story: She needs to gtfo of that relationship asap. If her fiancé is that controlling now, just imagine how bad it'll be after you're officially married. And he's disabled (blind) so he can always use that as an excuse. "How could you do that to a blind guy?" Is a line I can very easily see being said to OP. OP, get out now!

[@ElkiaStellar]

The last story reminds me of that one post where a guy tried to murder his girlfriend over mustard. She has to run while she can because you can't expect a normal human logic from a man THAT paranoid.

[@NEPAAlchey]

At least it won't be hard for her to hide.

[@brittanyno5941]

@@NEPAAlchey The movie "Don't Breathe" would disagree with you

[@mavis4801]

Mustard man 2.0 lol

[@eroraf8637]

Do you know the mustard man? The mustard man? The mustard man. Do you know the mustard man? He lives on Murder Lane!

[@threecheeseburrito]

​@@eroraf8637Nahh, that's so mean lmao 😂 you're not wrong, though!

[@ryancamara5689]

Story one: STOP LETTING HER DRIVE!! She doesn’t wanna learn she’s gonna have to suffer the consequences 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@Josh_the_jester]

A qoate from dds TV "it's one thing to do something stupid, it's another to do that stupid thing as slowly as possible

[@brawlinharry6461]

worse: someone else is gonna have to suffer the consequences.

[@Nekulturny]

Yeah, I'm not giving OP a "bad guy" score, but man, I wouldn't let someone who acts that way get behind the wheel of my car and mess with my insurance. I don't let my own mother drive my car because she tries to juggle her phone and french fries and stuff, she can do that with her own car.

[@SkyEcho751]

If the cops in the neighborhood are friendly, talk to them about setting up a sting to scare her straight before she got into an accident(though it's a little late). She'll be real quirk to change her actions if the first fine is $200 bucks, but the next one is like $500, she'll stop or she'll be broke. Or alternatively, force her to sit down and watch videos about car accidents, like literally force her to see why distracted driving is such a dangerous thing.(There was a study about distracted driving that OP could use, it showed how terrible a supposed "Multitasker" was at driving and talking on the phone)

[@annika5893]

I'd probably snatch her phone and throw it out the window of a moving car.

[@weareallbronies9031]

Sadly, the fact that the sister in the first story is blaming OP shows that she hasn't actually learned anything.

[@uselessinformation1988]

Wouldn't you be mad if someone almost killed you to teach you a lesson? OP was enabling his sister by allowing her to drive while distracted. This feels like one of those ESH situations. Edit: Nevermind. I was wrong. I didn't realize that they were in a parking lot. I somehow missed that part of the story. Someone brought it to my attention that it was in a parking lot. I apologize for my foolishness.

[@Parrapette]

​@uselessinformation1988 he knew that all she was gonna hit was a light post, that's why he didn't warn her. That wasn't going to almost kill her as all she was doing was pulling into a parking spot. Wouldn't be fast. Pretty good scenario for a lesson, at least there was no car or person she was gonna hit, and at least she wasn't at high speed. He was in the car too, he wasn't gonna not say anything if it was seriously incredibly unsafe

[@Richard_Nickerson]

​@@uselessinformation1988 1. "Almost killed"? Your hyperbole doesn't merit a response. 2. When you're driving, you're supposed to be paying 100% attention. End of story.

[@themadmanescaped1]

​@@uselessinformation1988 she is the one driving. It's not the passenger's responsibility to be a second set of eyes for the driver.

[@soniatello4556]

@@uselessinformation1988almost killed her? are you stupid, blind, or deaf? she couldn’t have killed herself by lightly hitting a lamppost, jesus christ.

[@TheDarwinProject1]

Story 2: let me guess, "Alexis" started triggering Rslash's Alexa devices? Changing it to "Alice" was such a kind gesture for all the viewers with Alexa devices instead of just turning his devices "ears" off for the recording. Can't wait to see how other Reddit story VAs/narrators handle this story, too!

[@goofyrat2938]

I was wondering why he was changing it! Thanks stranger :D

[@yandereskitty]

Oh ohhhhhh I get it now. I'm going to remove my prior comments!!! I was so confused lol

[@JamesDavy2009]

_♪ Alice? Who the f&^k is Alice ♪_

[@bladerunner3314]

I don't have such a thing, but IF, would change it's name.

[@dinlupus3196]

last story : i hope we get an update of this , op is with a controlling person and it's not going to ended up well for her (this guy is upset because of food, not even HIS food, how it's going to be once married? ), hope she stay strong because so far everyone that she mention in the story is clearly expecting her to stay in that relationship

[@luke_at_my_art]

Considering her parents are like "yeah, it's just a typical Tuesday" makes me believe that OP thinks this is normal (might be a stretch)

[@RockyGems]

Last story: I don't know how they made it past the first date or two, let alone long enough to get engaged!

[@literallyjase]

Maybe he started showing this behaviour after being engaged

[@skorpiongod]

​@jasoncardoz5134 The way she talked about it, it sounds like the behavior started early. Assuming that, I'm not sure why anyone would continue to be with someone who consistently forces you to eat what they want you to eat. But if the controlling started after the engagement then it's still intolerable. She's been way to patient to allow this to happen more than once. Dude needs some therapy.

[@somebody4952]

"She added that she would've learned her lesson otherwise too " Yeah, maybe after hitting a car or a person

[@BoomyShakes]

Or in jail

[@DarkEinherjar]

The only baffling thing about story 1 was why did OP even let her anywhere near the car in the first place... if it were my sister, I would: 1. NEVER be in a car with her on the driver's seat; 2. Never let her anywhere near my car. She can wreck her own car if she feels like it. Judging by the sister's reaction, it doesn't seem she learned the lesson... instead, she keeps trying to shift the blame.

[@Art_museum28]

She probably kept using little sister tactics to make him give her a chance. Also, if you were the sister, this probably wouldn’t have been a problem to begin with

[@NEPAAlchey]

That mom has a self control issue not an anxiety issue. I know people with extreme anxiety and OCD. Both make you WANT to act a certain way. Its up to you do control yourself. Do I want to call my wife every hour to make sure she didn't get ax murdered? Yes. Do I? No.

[@dinlupus3196]

agreed, there is many mental illness that can provoke anxiety and anxiety itself can be an ill, but she seems to be more in the controlling part of the equation, she may get diagnosed but mistakes can be committed , she probably needs a different treatment, and op have to make sure that she doesn't get to be with their child at all times, it's not going to help

[@KattoTang]

That's the funny thing, isn't it? She wants to control everyone and everything else, while not really attempting to control herself. I get how anxiety can make a person feel the need to have control (I have issues with that sort of anxiety as well), but she needs to direct her efforts inwards, instead of making it everyone else's problem.

[@Parrapette]

I thought I had crippling anxiety and paranoia, talked to a psych about it because I literally thought I was losing my mind, and she tells me "you have OCD" like, I didn't know that was an option but I mean I guess. Of course she was right, but I just thought I was a nutcase up until that point. Interesting the mom is going to therapy, maybe she needs to see a legit psychologist to diagnose the underlying problem, cuz she can't live life like that forever...

[@iononcantomascrivo]

That could be the case, but I find it quite laughable how people's utter lack of respect for boundaries, failure to accept or understand the word no and complete non presence of accountability for their actions is all somehow chalked up to a designer disorder that may or may not exist. If someone is willfully doing, at bare minimum the things I've already listed, to me that's not a disorder. That's just willingly choosing to be an asshole. I knew someone like this. She swore up and down for years that she was bipolar but she never was on any medication. I later found out from one of her sisters as well as her neighbor that she used this phony claim as an umbrella to protect herself from people holding her accountable for how she trampled all over their boundaries. In other words this lady was a total Karen, to the point, that her kids grew up, cut contact with her and refused to let her see any of her grandchildren. Am I demeaning anyone who might have a genuine disorder that causes them to behave irrationally? No. Am I acknowledging that these disorders exist. Yes. It takes a very brave person to admit they need help and continually work towards being a better person. Unlike that lady I alluded to, she never accepted responsibility for how her poor choices and decision-making affected her life as well as the lives of those around her. Her go-to response when she wasn't making excuses was to blame everyone and everything for the dumpster fire that her life had become. To me, people who are unable to see the role they played in their own misfortune, are beyond help.

[@iononcantomascrivo]

​@@ParrapetteFor real. If she's going to therapy and she seems to only be getting worse, I think she needs to be evaluated for whatever condition might be causing her behavior. It would be interesting to find out that her gross lack of respect for boundaries, failure to accept the consequences to her actions and pre-recorded response of blaming everyone for her troubles, might simply just be that she's a toxic individual and can't see that she is playing the main role in why her life is slowly unraveling. You went to therapy because you knew you needed help. I applaud you. Something tells me the lady in this story is never going to admit that she is the problem. That's why many of these people end up ruining all of their interpersonal relationships and end up living very isolated, miserable lives. Why? Because they're selfish assholes who always have to be right and get the last word.

[@mando9364]

Last story: What's with all the food based nutcase husband stories this year? First we have the mustard story, then the pizza guy, then the milk guy, now this bout of insanity.

[@abiean222]

what was the milk guy?

[@tamsel814]

What about snail guy, or was that longer then a year ago?

[@maddydavidsdottir9862]

Dont forget the guy with the jar of his.......secretions 🤢 when he was putting it in his partner's food

[@user-lr7dk7mt2w]

​@@abiean222the milk guy was drinking and eating the food the lactose intolerant girlfriend got for herself and getting mad when she asked him to stop and he got mad at her for not eating food with regular dairy in it She broke up with him and tried to break into her apartment but she had a door man who called the police and when his car was searched they found what I've heard called a murder kit like rope tape shovel stuff like that

[@lostzero416]

It's all a power play and control. The mustard man is the worst

[@danielllleX]

Story 1 - if that wife raises that kid at home, that kid could be insufferably entitled, and nobody will be able to deal with it, except the mother for the rest of its life

[@audreym3908]

Story 2. Story 1 was the 18 yr old distracted driver.

[@emiliaholmberg3320]

I really hope that this child gets to attend that daycare and learn how to be a propper human being, and a functioning member of society.

[@d.phantomfan1216]

Story 2: Like it or not there's only so many times someone can be understanding before reality and responsibility needs to take the front seat. She is going to get your daughter kicked out and you shouldn't have to be the one to quit when it's your wife's fault.

[@lorilancaster5917]

The only alternative I can think of, and it may not be plausible, is to only have OP as the contact parent. However if the bridge hasn’t been burned yet with this place, the matches are at least out

[@traciwoods-dennis6181]

For real. I have an anxiety disorder. Like I have been put in ICU due to complications and pumped full of Ativan and Xanax. She needs medication on top of that therapy. The first incident, she was learning. The second one, she knew. OP is gonna need to shut down attempt number three or it's going to be a tight budget with a stay-at-home helicopter parent.

[@that_pan_chick8650]

@@lorilancaster5917the issue is that if the wife knows where the kid is, she’s gonna harass them. And if she doesn’t know where the kid is, she can’t help with drop off or pick up ever.

[@lorilancaster5917]

@@that_pan_chick8650if it’s possible then maybe the drop offs and pick ups should be left solely on OP and perhaps a grandparent if he can’t. The wife is the common denominator with the issues and either a bigger boundary is created or she stays home with the kid. Also if someone who isn’t on the contact list tries to ask about or take a kid, they don’t have any obligation to tell them anything and police can be notified if she goes into the place and harass her or try to take Alexis

[@Nekulturny]

OP really is blinded by love. He acknowledges in the comment that his wife is diagnosed with Post Partum Anxiety, but refuses to take medication for it, yet he insists shes "working on it". Shes not working on anything, but concealing her toxic behavior from him, hence why he got blindsided with that text conversation. This is just going to get worse and worse and worse if he doesn't put down a major ultimatum.

[@artoria3046]

That last guy can join the mustard, milk, and pizza guys from previous episodes

[@d.phantomfan1216]

Story 1: One of the first things they teach you is to not be on your phone while driving because of this exact thing, she was already told something like this could happen, and usually people that are always on their phone have to find out this way, sometimes in worse ways. She can be mad about missing that trip all she wants, but that's what she gets for being stupid.

[@JamesDavy2009]

Better to take a consequence from being stupid than to die a stupid death.

[@a.s.208]

The story about the blind guy is infuriating! It’s also one I feel like I have some authority on. I am totally blind, I’ve been that way all my life. I have never once been upset if someone orders a different type of food than me, and I would never purposefully touch other peoples plates to see what they’re eating. For one, there’s other ways to tell like smelling the food, or you know… Asking them. For another, why would I care of people of different tastes? It sounds like this dude had to eat different foods from the rest of his family as a kid or some thing because his parents didn’t feel like normal. Food was safe. That’s just my guess though, but he sounds like he has some serious problems he needs to deal with. This is not a normal thing in the blind community, so please please if you’re dating a blind person and they do this run.

[@Positivekitten]

Yes! I would add that I hope people reading/listening to this don’t get the idea that all blind people act this way. This guy is toxic and does NOT represent how most blind people behave.

[@a.s.208]

@@Positivekitten are you a fellow blind person? I always like to see you other blind folks in the wild 😂 also yes, I completely agree with you. No one has the right to be weird like that, and the fact that this girls cited family are making excuses for him is toxic as well.

[@Parrapette]

I love your explanation for why he might be behaving this way! He needs some therapy if that's the case. Can't take that out on your partner, it isn't their fault if you had past trauma.

[@a.s.208]

@@Parrapette yeah, it’s no excuse for his behavior. But it may explain why it’s going on.

[@esorenilegnave]

Story 3 UPDATE: (5 days later) I officially submitted the paperwork to John to get payment for the debt. However I decided that would forgive 1/4th of the debt. So instead of claiming $37K, I am claiming $27,750.00. I told my siblings that I would forgive a fourth - and if keeping the house for Sara is important to them then they each need to come up with the same. So far they are saying they will not contribute. John and I spoke with the lawyer and we were wrong about how any cash from the sale of the house would be dispersed. First - any liquid assets have to be used to cover debts. Then if assets need to be liquidated, then whoever was supposed to get that asset gets whatever proceeds are left after paying debts. So no matter what my siblings do - Sara will get the rest of the money if the house is sold. The lawyer also pointed out the same thing many people here did - that giving Sara the money could affect her benefits. Instead he suggested she turn down the inheritance in favor of placing the money into a special needs trust for her son. Sara will be talking to the lawyer on her options and exactly what that means. Sara is attempting to get a loan using the house as collateral. Not all the paperwork is in order yet (exactly how much will be left in the estate after all debts are paid) - and we are probably looking at needing to get a professional appraisal of the home first. One person at the bank talked to her and said that with her credit score and income she doubts she would be approved - but that she would process the application once Sara got all the data.

[@esorenilegnave]

Shocking. All the siblings telling OP to forgive the money but when asked to help contribute for the same sister, it’s now too much and they don’t want to. Color me not shocked.

[@AdaireKrickets]

This whole situation is weird. The whole point of mom taking out that much money was to make the house more Handicap accessible for sarah and nephew. I don't understand how OP thought an elderly mother was going to pay off such a big loan? And now they are going to try to force the sale of a house that was specifically upgraded with handicap accessibility? Now that I think about it. OP could force the sale if the house, get 37k from it. Then (as he put it) the estate would give him 1/4 whatever is left in the estate. If we pretend the house is 300,000 then subtract 37,000 that's 263,000 left. Each sibling gets 65k~ out of the deal which is way, way more than the fat zero. Idk if OP did that intentionally but yikes. This is why you don't loan out money though everyone. If an insured bank with resources to reclaim the money won't do it, you shouldn't either. I find giving money as gifts when asked is far better, as it's easier to say no and I'm not depending or expecting that money to come back.

[@Army-cs9dz]

​@@esorenilegnavethe whole situation is fucked, 37k is a lot but I would've forgiven it and the other siblings refusing to contribute are pieces of shit for laying on op but not actually helping the sister

[@RiveroftheWither]

​@@AdaireKricketsWhile it's true $37k is A LOT of money and I don't fault him for wanting it back I can't shake the feeling that op is a very cruel and cold person at heart. That update almost made him sound disappointed that the law wouldn't let him entirely ruin her life. He sounds resentful and has made it clear with details that he didn't actually loan the sister the money, he loaned to the mother who used it for the sisters benefit which he seems bitter about.

[@AdaireKrickets]

​​@@RiveroftheWitherThis is exactly the icky feeling I was getting too. I 100% understand wanting 37 k back. I can't even fault him, but it's hard to not question why he would even loan the money out when he was going to force the house to sell anyways? It's very confusing! I'm glad he is trying to work it out with the sister, but I have a feeling this isn't going to end well. This seems like the sister lacks financial literacy (as did the mother) and OP is 100% taking advantage of that.

[@zacharysieg2305]

You know a story is good when RSlash slowly loses his sanity as he reads it.

[@Night_Owl2023]

Story 1, NTA, dude you are a great big brother and did a valuable service to all road users and pedestrians that distracted drivers are the worst danger on the roads.

[@d.phantomfan1216]

Last story: dumped his sorry ass, it's bad enough he's so, I don't even know what to call this. Forcing you to eat food only he likes, but sticking his dirty ass hand in your meal because he does not trust you is a big hell no. And screw it I'll say it, everyone's against you because he's blind, plenty of people would see this as the obvious disturbing red flags this is and tell you to get away from him as fast as you can, but because of pity for the blind person, you're abusing him. This isn't a lover's spat, it's abuse and you need to get out.

[@VicGeorge2K6]

It isn't a "lover spat" at all, it's a blind person trying to get away with being a complete butthole towards people he wants to date

[@ashleytheblindvisionary907]

I totally agree with you. Just because he's blind doesn't excuse him from learning basic human decency.

[@wowieitssam9457]

As someone who has dated a disabled person, their disability doesn't excuse bad behavior. Learned that one the hard way 🙃 (For the record, you know they messed up when nobody is on the side of the disabled guy lmao)

[@xKCAZxLEADER]

First Story, NTA: OP's sister needed to learn this lesson before she ends up killing someone with her distracted driving. The fact she got upset because OP didn't tell her she was about to hit something is a red flag and makes me think she isn't ready to be driving yet. What if OP wasn't there? What if it was a way worst accident than her hitting a lantern? This behavior while on the road needs to be stopped fast before she causes a serious accident and end up killing someone or herself. Christy is mad because she had to pay for damages SHE caused while being a distracted driver? Wow; and she claims she would've learned her lesson another time...when? When she causes a serious accident will she learn her lesson then? Second Story, NTA: I wonder why Rslash kept saying Alice instead of Alexis? That said, I get being worried about ur kid bur OP's wife is taking that worry way too far. I agree, if she is that nervous with her child being in these daycares then she should quit her job and take care of her daughter full time. If she is refusing to do that then she has to stop basically harassing these daycare employees and let them do their job. Better yet, she needs to stop being a helicopter parent before their daughter grows up resenting her mother Comment: Exactly Third Story, YTA: OP sounds like a loan shark. Like come on, OP's mom used that money to help with Jeremy and Sara before she passed away. If OP is very wealthy, has a high paying job, and can live comfortably then he is being greedy right now. Like I get getting the money back but going for the most insane route to get the money back is insane, he has options Fourth Story, NTA: I will finish this story but I have to say OP's fiancé is a red flag. He thinks OP sees him as less because she is eating a different food than him, makes her eat the same thing as him, and touches her food to make sure OP is eating the same this as him? That is all kinds of disgusting, especially him using his disability as a weapon to do what he wants. Bro what??? What is this story??? So OP is "abusing" this guy for refusing to eat the food he is touching with his bare hands? OP needs to leave this man ASAP because this guy is the abusive and controlling one. How is OP pathetic and childish when HE is the one throwing tantrums over OP not eating the same food as him and touching the food to confirm it's the exact same food he has. Nothing about this is typical and why should OP have to give this man an apology? Yo I hope OP leave this man because this guy is a walking red flag

[@fantasygurl101]

I'm willing to bet he changed Alexis to Alice in his reading so he didn't accidentally set of any Amazon Alexas that any of his listeners may have, since over recording, Alexa and Alexis can sound very similar.

[@Liamhvet]

i swear, you're always in rslash comments

[@VicGeorge2K6]

@@fantasygurl101 LOL, especially if people are using the Fire TV Cube.

[@xKCAZxLEADER]

@@Liamhvetbecause I’m a fan of his content? Like everyone else in the comment section? Bro whats ur issue?

[@xKCAZxLEADER]

@@fantasygurl101yeah that makes sense

[@LunetteFox]

Last story: WTF? Why would ANYONE feel self conscious or upset about someone ordering different food? How in the hell does that treat him as less than a person when people have different tastes...? That is super controlling behavior, and OP should just leave. Blind or not, that's no excuse to act like that.

[@MasteringMason]

3rd story had an update: OP did apologize to the sister and husband for being an a-hole, and if I remember correctly, they're gonna set up a payment plan.

[@sourcandy6469]

Thank you!

[@dawnstone4424]

Yup I’ve heard the update and that’s exactly what happened!

[@spongebobsjellyfish]

Do you know the Reddit user name?

[@wolftitanreading5308]

Good that kid needs a home

[@mamatadesite]

Having crappy relatives, I can understand not trusting a payment plan. I wouldn't call OP an AH for going nuclear, if there's a high chance of losing 37K. I've gotten screwed over smaller amounts, paperwork and written agreements be damned.

[@wouldntyouliketoknowwesath7789]

the third story is tricky and sad, and I feel bad for both OP and his sister. On one hand, Sarah wasn't the one who took out the lone, it was her mom, but on the other hand, 37k is a LOT of money. Its unfair for BOTH of them. You can't expect someone who's struggling to pay 37k, but you also can't expect the other person to FORGIVE a 37k debt

[@ntlespino]

It feels like both ESH and NAH which sounds paradoxical

[@smilinmadman]

​@ntlespino How about Mom is the asshole here. She basically put them all in this situation, and upon her death made her son who paid 37000 to promise that the house will go to the one who owes the 37000. Insureing that there will be a fight after her death.

[@GiordanDiodato]

@@smilinmadman how was it her fault when she died?

[@smilinmadman]

@@GiordanDiodato She set it up before she died. She forced one child to loan a significant amount to another child. Knowing that the only She worth anything was her house, which she willed to Sara. Knowing Op would want their money, why would she allow such a debt with the only payment being the house she gifting to the other child

[@KarmaTube5]

​@@smilinmadmanyeah don't know why the mother let her daughter take the house knowing she doesn't pay anyone back. That sucks for both parties, but she has to pay him until she's done or he's satisfied with a certain amount

[@sameagain4968]

Story 1, when the sister said “Why didn’t you tell meeee?” Op should’ve said “I didn’t see it, I was on my phone too” 😂

[@dracko158]

Sister: **Not watching the road and using her phone** **Hits lamp post** Also sister: **Surprised Pikachu Face** *"whY diDn'T yOu tELL mE?!?!"*

[@viatheanimator]

story 1: i would absolutely remind her, while she’s still shaken up, that kids or dogs or even just people in general can be a lot less predictable than a lamppost, and that next time she focuses her attention elsewhere, she might not be so lucky and to just hit an inanimate object

[@asmith8692]

Another set of youtubers did a series of videos using a closed course on drunk, high, distracted, and exhausted driving. I would have her watch the whole series, since there's not much difference between a phone and alcohol. And they were hands free with the phone mounted on the dashboard.

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 nta some people need to learn the hard way. She's lucky she didn't get hurt.

[@box0choco593]

She still didn't learn its infuriating how dense she is

[@KadeStringer2.0]

Nah she learned after that incident and decided to blame her brother for not saying nothing.

[@VicGeorge2K6]

She's lucky no one else got hurt. But that luck is going to run out on her when she least expects it.

[@yadfud363]

'I have never in my life heard of someone getting mad that someone else didn't order the same thing as them.' The story at the Italian restaurant with the bread basket, veal and aunt who drives on the wrong side of the road: am I a joke to you?

[@abiean222]

dude which video was that story from?

[@yadfud363]

@@abiean222 ah shit, I can't remember

[@lisacarpenter3787]

It's older. Bet he forgot.

[@SakuWasHereFirst]

God I remember that story!!

[@abiean222]

@@SakuWasHereFirst do you remember which video that story is from?

[@gilded_lady]

Story 1: NTA. I don't know how many more ways they could have told her to put the phone down. I doubt that she'd learned it either.

[@TheAntiburglar]

Having been a distracted driver in my youth, I WISH someone would have taught me that kind of lesson when I was younger. Definitely NTA

[@DefiantHeart]

The loan story, and answering your question of why he doesn't just give the new loan and then go after her: she's judgment proof. Depending on the state she's in, if he doesn't force them to sell the house now, once that home is established as her homestead, he can't take it, and she certainly doesn't have anything else that can be taken to pay it off, let alone wages that could be garnished, etc. Basically, if he doesn't act now, he loses any real chance to. That doesn't speak to the issue of whether he ought to let it go or not, simply the practical question of why this is really his only chance to act.

[@spongebobsjellyfish]

Ahhh. Makes sense.

[@lizabee7791]

Story 2: as someone who works at a preschool, thank you for standing up to us underpaid, overworked childcare providers who have to deal with parents like this almost everyday

[@djkb125]

My baby just turned one and mentioning that 2 year olds cry because “the airplane won’t turn around to fly over their home” or “you won’t let them poop in the road” is hilarious. What am I in for?!?!

[@neurotic7779]

Dude, I am blind autistic and that last story had me asking what was wrong with that guy. If I tried to touch my wife's food, I would fully expect to be stabbed with a fork. That dude is controlling and mental.

[@erinclark5681]

First story: Not only is OP NOT the butthole, but he could be a hero. If sister learns her lesson, it could literally save lives, she's otherwise destined to kill someone doing that!

[@Art_museum28]

Even if the sister really didn’t alone, at least he can get his parents to probably help in getting her away from as much cars as possible

[@faith-kj4pg]

Blind or not, anyone who reaches to put their gross hands in my food is getting a fork to hand on their 2nd try. It's not about the food; it's about trust. If you can't even trust me to order food, then what the hell are we even together for. How people resolve minor fights or "love spats" is indicative of how they'll resolve larger issues. And in what way is touching someone's food "rational"? I hate men who play the "you're being emotional and I'm being logical" card.

[@Nekulturny]

My mother does stuff like that with her phone too... She waits to the last second to throw on the brakes coming up to a redlight. And thats why I pay less insurance than she does even though shes been driving twice as long as me.

[@mynamesSpartacus]

I remember reading the last story. Since he's blind I feel like this is some deep seeded trauma response. I bet in the past someone he trusted would always mess with his food or make him feel inferior somehow because he couldn't actually see what he was eating. Now his insecurity has gone to the extreme and he's lashing out at OP.

[@aleahlrb]

Story 1: Sounds like sister prefers to learn "otherwise" by being sent to prison for manslaughter.

[@joshuadavis9216]

Op is in fact not the bad parent if his wife wants to micromanage what happens with the child then she needs to quit her job and be a stay-at-home parent

[@royalbluegaming7763]

Last Story: Now that is wholehearted, wholesale, absolute, definite abuse

[@NEPAAlchey]

OP didn't even touch his food they just swapped plates of the same dish. Dude is just super controlling. Break up ASAP before he fully braineashes you.

[@brittanyno5941]

Distracted drivers are as bad as drunk drivers, if not worse, you can't change my mind

[@abiean222]

a drunk driver is paying attention to the road. they are aware of whats going on, the problem is that their perception and reaction time is muddled. they'll see the lamppost in front of them, but they'll either think that the post was further away or their brain can't send the signal to stop fast enough, so they'll hit the post. but they saw it and were reacting to it. a distracted driver isn't even aware of the road or things around them; they wouldn't even be aware of the lamppost.

[@brittanyno5941]

@@abiean222 To drive drunk or distracted is a selfish choice and puts people at risk, and both have killed people.

[@TheEDFLegacy]

​@brittanyno5941 I think your view on it is a bit too simplified; my argument is that drunk/drugged driving is worse because they also involve a poor choice (just like distracted driving), but unlike distracted driving, you can't "snap out of it" and be sober on a whim. There's also different levels of distractions; changing a song on a music app is a lot less distracting than a text message. On top of that, you can literally choose to put the phone down at any time and be fine to drive. I worry more about the drivers who think they can distracted drive without getting into an accident, then the ones you have a momentary distraction from, for example, a phone call. To be clear, I absolutely agree that distracted driving is a scourge on the roads these days, and we need to do more to combat it. I'm just saying that I would rather have a distracted driver over an impaired driver because an impaired driver can't "wake up" and pay attention. While I'm saying all this, I may as well bring up my concerns of drowsy driving as well. Once I saw a transport all over the road because they were too tired to drive, and didn't even get charged because he was within his allotted hours. 🙃

[@brittanyno5941]

@@TheEDFLegacy I think my main reason for disliking distracted drivers (the ones who can't get off their phones) is *because* they aren't impaired, they can think logically and more easily make a choice to not be on their phone and yet still make the poor choice. They can snap out of it, and certainly kill less people a year than drunk drivers (about 3,000 vs. over 17,000) but just... something about having all your wits about you and still putting yourself and others at risk? Idk, I just can't get over that. Edit: Don't get me wrong I hate drunk drivers very nearly as much, it's like a hair width of a difference in my hatred, but I'll have more judgment for the one making a bad choice and harming someone while completely sober vs someone making a bad choice and harming someone while drunk

[@abiean222]

@@brittanyno5941 neither is good, both are horrible i agree. i'm just contextualizing on how they are different.

[@seasons4631]

Last story: run fast. Run far. Long before I existed my mom was in a toxic, abusive relationship and according to her, this isn't far off from how he'd control her. A few examples include: -had to drink milk with dinner -could only listen to 1 radio station (this was the early to mid 90s where portable pocket radios were still popular. If he found she was listening to something else, even without him around, he'd get mad) -could only watch shows he liked/approved of Based on the stories she's told me, this was only the tip of the iceberg. Of course she got away (thank god) but some of it still affects her to this day. I really hope OP takes this seriously and leaves. Cause if he's doing this now, who knows what he'll try when they're married

[@hanakikoi]

One of my favorite baby meltdown stories was the one about the kid having a tantrum because his gloves matched his coat.

[@PaladinGear15]

Why are some people insanely controlling about food? "no you HAVE to eat mustard!" "no you HAVE to eat the same food as me!" "no, you HAVE to eat pizza!". It literally doesn't make any difference to your life, why is this so common?

[@rikschaaf]

For that last story, the fiancé is showing behavior with the whole food situation like a jealous boyfriend would who suspects OP is cheating all the time. And it's just food. Imagine how the fiancé would act if they were actually afraid that OP was cheating and started snooping on OP's phone and PC to check her posts and PMs.

[@ataleofcoffee842]

That last story weirds me out so much. Because this feels like the *strangest* kind of control, like almost *too* strange. I feel gaslit reading it. But it's just so *weird*! Like I hope that story gets an update, because it is so specifically odd.

[@fdm2155]

For the $37K, if OP doesn't claim against the estate and allows her sister to sign a note, OP would have to take Sarah to court to enforce the debt when Sarah defaults. Given that OP already knows Sarah doesn't/won't have the money, I can see why OP doesn't want the hassle and stress of chasing Sarah. And let's be honest, the situation would be the same, just more expensive and complicated for OP 1 to 2 years from now when Sarah defaults.

[@kp2223]

My thoughts exactly period even if OP forgives the loan. That doesn't forgive all that,The house costs will incur in future. what happens when she doesn't pay the property taxes for 2 years, and the city takes the house?

[@absolutelynot6546]

If possible, I'd be selling the house if appraised at $180K or higher and give Sarah her half minus the most current balance of the debt. If it is only OP and her sister, then that would leave about $53K for Sara to find a suitable apartment for her son and herself. It'd have to be appropriate as far as accessibility and accommodations go, but that seems like a good amount of money to spend on necessities and save the rest. Or OP could just let her sister sign a new contract for the loan and not risk them being homeless. If Sara is worried about the government restrictions on income related benefits, she and OP could have an agreement that allows a legal "loophole" to make sure Sara is taken care of, but not have huge amounts of money in her possession... Idk. The loan shouldn't be excused at all, but that is definitely a difficult situation.

[@sourcandy6469]

I don’t understand how people can be so heartless. If it was me I would just gift my sister the money. My brother is mentally disabled and I thrive to have enough money to support him and my parents when they’re old. I just can’t understand why people don’t want to help someone if they can afford to. This is so sad to me..

[@SweetLala25]

@@sourcandy6469 It's not about being heartless. You don't know what everyone's relationship is like with their families or how much that money could affect their bottom line. So many people keep calling OP heartless or willing to destroy their sister's life but I don't see you tracking down OP and offering a couple thousand. Clearly the sister would still be okay if the house is sold, debts paid and the rest either going into a trust for her son or a smaller home/reasonable accommodation apartment for her and her kid. I don't have a good relationship with my brother, couldn't care less what happens to him. People can call me heartless but until you understand my life, live it or walk in my shoes, keep it moving and mind ya business.

[@legojenn]

I'd say the cruel person, albeit unintentionally, in the situation was the mom. She left a house to someone who could not afford it while she had an estate in debt. It brought the siblings to the point they're in now. The sister can't repay the debt. From OP's comments, it's even doubtful that she can manage utilities, maintenance and taxes. So, his siblings are basically asking him to write off the money, but based on the follow up, won't put any skin in the game. If the sister defaults on a bank loan, the consequences would be far worse. The mother could have ordered the estate to be settled, the allocate proceeds disproportionally. Forcing the sale of the house allows for all siblings to have clean slate. How many of us can afford to write off $37K?

[@jezzofprezz5207]

That daycare story. Parents need to learn their children must have experiences, even those that may upset her.

[@briangarrow448]

First story- My daughter’s best friend was the reason my state made distracted driving while looking at a phone a punishable offense. Her friend hit an elementary school student while she was driving home from school one day. She WAS one of those teens that had to look at her phone obsessively at all times, even while driving. This sounds like I am a horrible person but I’m so glad it wasn’t my daughter that hit the child. She also was a distracted driver. BTW- nobody was seriously injured in that accident. But because of the circumstances the local news media made a huge splash on the story.

[@dudeorduuude5211]

The last story is creepy. Reminds me of this chimp experiment I saw, where one chimp would get a piece of nice food, and the neighbouring cage chimp would get an even tastier sweet treat. The first chimp turned psychopathic because of the injustice and would no longer eat it's regular food. Maybe the blind guy is just exerting dominance so his fiance never gets anything better than him. Seems pretty primitive, and I would not blame her for dumping him. It is unacceptable.

[@tschichpich]

I can't believe rslash isn't allowing his baby to poop on the street

[@tjmonkey5795]

I know straight facts when I was a baby I was allowed to just poop on the streets like my mom would like throw me onto the streets and let me poop everywhere this is obviously a joke

[@Rideps1]

For story 3, the reason that it pushes me over is something that was pointed out by another channel that read that story. The whole reason for that loan was to make that house accessible for OP's disabled nephew. The debt wouldn't even have happened if the house wasn't going to the sister. That means, while the house wouldn't have been in as good shape, OP going through on this would make their mom getting a loan from them just... A worse option than if she'd done nothing. There had to be another way to go about this.

[@tully6648]

Last story: The only thing I can think of is that OP's (hopefully) ex-fiancé has unprocessed trauma coming from one or more people messing with his food because he's blind. Given how many stories I've heard or read about people messing with other people's food for any reason, I would not doubt that someone would mess around with a blind person's food to the point that they became obsessed with and paranoid about it. HOWEVER... Because OP didn't say that, then if this IS the problem, it seems she's unaware of it. And that by itself is a deal breaking problem. If I were her, I'd be gone.

[@javelinjoe7034]

The last story, sounds like possibly undiagnosed OCD to me. He was visibly uncomfortable, then tried to satisfy the compulsion quickly, but still knew what he did annoyed OP. Then got mad at OP when they took his food because he has OCD, and that is HIS food.

[@PizzaMineKing]

Story 1: over here, we call money lost that way "lehrgeld" (learning fee) - and she will continue paying these learning fees one way or another till she lost enough and learned the lesson.

[@exvangelica4271]

For the last story, the only possible explanation I can think of is that the fiancé has OCD and the thought of the two of them having the same thing to eat just consumes his everything thought. He needs therapy.

[@extremepsykosis]

Sounds like your sister needs to have her license suspended.

[@JamesDavy2009]

Demerit points are a thing where I'm from and if you accrue enough, your licence gets suspended and you're on a driving moratorium for a long time. Last I heard, public transport in the States is borderline abysmal.

[@shebakoby]

dude in the last story is a control freak, legit and straight up. Maybe even a cluster of Bees. Being blind is not a free pass to being an ahole, and dude's friend sounds like a cluster of bees too.

[@Tustin2121]

That last story, the comment from the parents calling this a “love spat”, I just know this is now just a socially-forced marriage. One of those marriages that comes about from “you need to find a husband/wife” pressure, and one of those ones where people make jokes about how they hate their spouse. Ugh.

[@eisenklad]

last story is like those shorts/skits people make about the husband/wife giving them the first piece of the same food. then make noise about why give them that piece, whole thing ensues. thing is we have seen it IRL, and people question why so many people nope'd out of the relationship game. it could be a controlling behavior or just finding excuse to crack a relationship.

[@thetruth1816]

Story 1 : NTA.. The little sister got lucky to learn this lesson of "DONT FREAKING LOOK AT YOUR PHONE WHILE BEHIND A DEADLY MACHINE" with no one being hurt.. 18 year olds need to learn early "your not indestructible "... Story 2 : NTA .. op wife is a karen that has to learn " Your kid is not super special and you cant be a karen to people who have no patience for anyone "..The wife is an obvious control freak who cant let go.. Story 3 : NTA.. if the roles were reversed would she forgive a 37K loan that you had ?? Nahhh .. Story 4 : NTA.. op are you marrying a 5 year old in a 32 year old mans body ?? Time to break up with him op hes a controlling Dbag..

[@lorilancaster5917]

Story two: I’m worried that unless drastic actions are taken, divorce with full custody for OP or wife gets her act together, Alexis will likely be home schooled by her mom and have limited to no social interactions. She will be her moms little doll for the rest of her life.

[@thetruth1816]

​​@@lorilancaster5917yup just had the same thought.. yikes..

[@Musicalsfangirl]

If I was OP, I would ban Christy from using a car, EVER. Or at least make leave her phone at home before driving anywhere. That helicopter mother NEEDED therapy like yesterday. Also my fiancé is visually impaired, and he is the sweetest, and has NEVER EVER used his disability as leverage for controlling me. You need to leave honey, it’s like weaponising incompetence but with a disability as the incompetence rather than lack of skills. The trust lacking in this relationship speaks volumes!!

[@sayadiva123]

Story 1: seriously?? That girl is so obtuse. How the heck did she get her license?? Heck I still don’t have mine and even I know phone goes into DO NOT DISTURB once behind the wheel. OP is NTA. His sister needed the wake up call

[@jamesbramer1286]

"I am both flabber and gasted..." Lol, that needs to go on a shirt 😂

[@Sanodi21]

Second story, obviously OP is NTA but I'm really wondering if the wife is actually going to therapy. He didn't say anything about taking her so I assume it's going herself, which is making it uncertain. Especially with how *bad* she's being about everything. But, along with what Rslash said, a lot of comments are bringing up that if she raises their child? Yeah that kid's life is ruined. I think right now, the best thing OP can do is sit down his wife and ask if she's actually been going to see her therapist, been taking any medications she might've been prescribed and in general following her therapist's orders. If not, then as much as it sucks? OP should be getting an exit strategy ready and to get custody of their child because if his wife continues this behavior, then the kids needs to be kept away.

[@billy9144]

Dabney, you really out-did yourself today. Every single story was top notch, especially the last one. That one had me in disbelief. Could it be a troll story? I don't know, people are legitimately that entitled, and being blind could be one of the reasons that guy tries to control others, but controlling is controlling, whether you are blind or not.

[@catfish513]

Last one is 100% just run of the mill control. Sis, he literally hates you 😭 that man doesn’t love you at ALL he loves controlling you and parading you around. I feel awful it even got that far, she’s probably ignoring a LOT of red flags (especially because the people around her are telling her she’s wrong for seeing all those flags)

[@Phoenix-hj7ry]

Story 1: She is hella lucky it was that minor. When I was 19, I'd been driving for about a year and a half. I looked down for a split second to switch pandora stations and rear ended a immobile car. They had been stopped cuz there was a lot of traffic (including foot traffic) and were turning into a parking lot. The car I hit had 4 adults and 2 newborn babies. MY car was totalled whereas theirs looked scratched. I was in shock and then broke down sobbing the entire time. I felt awful. The cop even told me I was lucky it was a car cuz it could have been a pedestrian at the cross walk a couple hundred feet in front of me. NEVER touch your phone while driving. If something comes up, I always pull into a parking lot or over to the side of the road. ALWAYS. A message can wait.

[@MizTameRumors]

'it's not her fault she's anxious' true, it is her fault that she's constantly harassing daycare workers though..

[@agentmaryland1239]

Story 1) It's not up to the passengers to make sure the driver is being safe and paying attention. If you're behind the wheel, you're responsible for the car and those riding with you. I also can bet you she hasn't learned her lesson one bit and is going to do it again as soon as she's behind the wheel. Distracted drivers take lives, she deserves to lose her license until she can learn to pay attention to the road and not her phone. NTA. Story 2) Your wife is not getting very much out of those therapy sessions other than learning how to weaponize her anxiety. Anxiety is a reason, not an excuse and she needs to learn that now rather than later. How does this woman work a full time job if her anxiety is *this* bad? I think something doesn't seem right here. NTA. Story 3) Why does this fall on Sara and John's shoulders? It's not THEIR debt, it's your late mothers. You sister is not responsible for paying you back, but she's offering to try and your answer is to rip the *only* thing she got from her mother away from her because you're a selfish twat? That's not even YOUR house to sell, it's Sara and John's. YTA, also, how is it you loaned your mother $37k, she's been paying it back month by month...but you still are somehow owed $37k? I think you're intentionally misleading us, fuck off. Story 4) I'm not even going to finish this one, cut and dry your partner is a controlling asshole who has some weird self esteem issues. You need to either work it out or get out of that situation. NTA.

[@rooktallon3141]

Last story: I'm totally blind and would never do this to a person. I can't think of a reason why anyone would do this but somehow this guy is insecure or something and wants to control his future wife's, let's be honest the marriage ain't happening, stuff that she eats. Seems a bit strange and like I said I'm totally blind and would never think of doing this to a person.

[@Skvalpenotta]

Story 2: People who shelter their kids and go above and beyond to protect them from ever getting upset usually end up creating dysfunctional, entitled menaces to society...

[@plussizedbeauty1256]

Story 3: I think because he's lost control of one of his senses, he had this need to be able to control what he can't see or at least something in his life, in this case, his girlfriend, which is toxic, to begin with. I hope OP finds someone better or at least gets him to do therapy.

[@ZombieSazza]

I can’t get past the irony that the original loan was, in part, to adapt the house for her nephew and that now those same adaptations have put his ability to live there at risk. OP, whilst 37K is a lot of money, your mother wanted her house specifically adapted to be disabled friendly for her grandson, your nephew, yet you’re completely happy to make him homeless and throw him out on the street?!

[@sheikhali1908]

Your being very manipulative with the happy to throw him on the street. Also if your so worried about her then why don't you give her 37k? Not many people can just afford to give away 37k. That's life changing money.

[@mavis4801]

Christy in the first story would have "learned her lesson otherwise" when she struck and killed someone else or herself. Honestly, she still might. I could still see her playing on her phone when there's nobody else around.

[@JamesDavy2009]

That kind of attitude will lead to her dying a stupid death.

[@HackModNerd]

First story: She is going to kill someone or get killed if she keeps driving distracted! Last story: WTF?! Why does he care if she orders something different than him, especially if she is paying for it?

[@kiraragner6049]

I have a similar but kinda different story for #1. I watched a woman go speeding down a road and hit a seagull while on her phone, didn’t look up, slow down or anything, just careened down that road at way over the speed limit. I was like 12 and so traumatised lol but like this woman didn’t give two shits. I can’t imagine what would have happened if it was a toddler in the middle of that road instead of a seagull. Some guy took the seagull to get euthed cause it was very clearly hurt and still alive and it scared the shit outta me for months and I stayed very far away from roads. My brothers almost got hit on that same road a little further down at a roundabout cause of someone with their face buried in a phone too. It’s just not a good idea at all

[@neftaliherrera3160]

For story 1 I've heard it before and it infuriated me still. My mother saw me touch and look at my phone ONCE when I was driving and she yelled at me until her voice was sore. Growing up all she ever taught me was vehicle and driving safety and was pissed I seemed to have just thrown all that away. I can't say I don't look at my phone when I drive cuz it's common place now, everyone has hands free stuff but I'll never let it distract me. Somewhere, OPs parents went wrong in teacher OPs sister that distracted driving is unacceptable

[@sourisvoleur4854]

Nobody ever thinks it's distracting them. Just as someone who is drunk doesn't think they're impaired.

[@alphaslayer9309]

The amount of repairs I have to do for people that hit massive pot holes and other cars all because they can’t put the phone down for two seconds

[@NEPAAlchey]

The city should cover all pothole damages just as if you hit something one of their trucks dropped. We pay taxes for roads they should be drivable.

[@alphaslayer9309]

@@NEPAAlchey yes they should cover the damage if they purposely never filled it in but that will never happen

[@kristypickett4227]

The blind guy is crazy. That would be like a deaf guy forcing his girlfriend to mute movies and only watch the subtitles with him, except worse, because dude is expecting his girlfriend to only eat the kinds of food HE likes, for no reason that relates to his disability whatsoever. Ridiculous and totally unreasonable. A red flag🚩 if I ever saw one!

[@catrianna4375]

That last story was one of the weirdest things I’ve ever heard 😂

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

As a person with disabilities, we don't claim the boyfriend in the last story. I agree with Rslash 100%!! This was absolutely ridiculous and it's even worse that people are on his side "because he's blind". It doesn't give him a free pass to be a controlling jerk, among many other things.

[@Hawaiiwong]

Story 3. Agreed. He should have his sister sign a new loan for the current balance with his brother cosigning. Edit: After reading some comments and updates on the story, I think he may deserve a lighter .5 butts. He mentions needing the money in 18-24 months. He also mentions when he filed the claim against the estate, he forgave 1/4 telling his siblings if they want Sara to keep the house to put up their 1/4 each, but so far all have refused. I still think he should've had all his siblings cosign on a loan from him for Sara so it at least gives them 18-24 months to repay the money. But I think its likely they wouldve refused anyway. But not doing the right thing by giving someone an option you can easily take even if you're pretty sure they'll refuse is still a tiny bit of a butthole move, so 0.5

[@Riot_Bird]

As a mom with anxiety I understand where she she is coming from but OP is also right in for saying if they get kicked out again she needs to be the one to stay home with the kid because her anxiety and hellocopter parenting is what got them in this position to begin with

[@diamondwhitetiger9882]

Story 2… Alice? It Said Alexis

[@TheWolfie234]

He probably changed it to help protect the identity of the child

[@mysterylovescompany2657]

*Story 1:* As someone who is put in a wheelchair & the rest of my life thus changed courtesy of a distracted driver, I'm personally fixing to make OP a straight-up folk hero.

[@danni1650]

That’s so weird 😂 I’d actually prefer if everyone ordered something else (not gonna be upset if you ordered the same thing) because then we could try both foods or get a good idea of what’s made really well on the menu 😅

[@pezicus]

Last story: I am absolutely stealing “I am both flabber and ghasted” 😂

[@LordBoZman]

Title Post, Everyone Sucks here, cause OP has stated that his sister does not pay back loans and hasn't paid them back in the past. So it feels like they might be "forced" to take that route but not happily.

[@SaturnRingBlues]

I'm 27 and just got my license last year and I definitely don't see myself as a great driver. If I was that sister, I'd be very understanding for that lesson. I actually get annoyed when my phone goes off on my Bluetooth. I hang up every call and ignore every message til I park. She really needs to learn that a text can wait, it's not worth it to answer a text if you're going to ruin yours and other people's lives.