r/AmITheA**hole For Calling My White Girlfriend "Mayo Momma?"

[@rSlash]

Is it wrong to call your white girlfriend "mayo momma" ? Is it wrong to call you black boyfriend "chocolate daddy" ? Is it wrong to call your bf/gf either of these things in front of their parents?

[@James-dp3el]

yes

[@zoeohara6930]

yes?

[@featherfire022]

Yep

[@Jb-lv5pf]

Very much so

[@marsbars3982]

Wth is that title

[@SeraliaAerials]

The whole “respect your elders no matter what” is a load of bunk. You give everyone the same basic respect until they lose it, then after that if they earn better respect, you give them more respect. If you lose my respect, you have to work pretty hard to earn it back.

[@johnellis7338]

That part

[@masterjan1029]

I respect that, it's kind of how I view it, I respect my elders for the most part, however if you treat me with zero respect you get none in return.

[@bulletmog]

My man spitting fax lol

[@Twinklethefox9022]

I agree 100% I've had times where my elders where rude to me and then when I "talked back to them" I was told the same thing. I don't think respect should just be a one way thing. It should be from both sides

[@thedarkdragon1437]

I treat everyone the same. Doesn't matter their age. My mom says "you can't do that" like wtf?

[@readjordan2257]

The first guy was in fact, the gold digger. But he only digs on poor women and complains that they cant keep up..

[@thomasjones6216]

Sounds like Gaslighting to me

[@tkkreed4415]

The fun part is that in all likelihood, the only women who would put up with that shit are gold diggers who are determined to get the money

[@Waltbe09]

@@thomasjones6216 it’s pretty much that. He’s being toxic to, what I imagine, to say: “I worked my ass off for this money so I am better”. What he is looking for a girl to agree and respect it so he can flex. Honestly, if anyone does this in a relationship, leave the toxic git

[@thomasjones6216]

@@tkkreed4415 ironic is a better term but yeah you're right

[@thomasjones6216]

@@Waltbe09 yep

[@thetableoflegend9814]

“She’s just a kid” “She’s stressed because of virtual schooling” I’m 17 (a senior) and currently in virtual schooling. When I don’t get a car for my birthday I’m not going to go destroy someone else car and expect to get away with it!

[@Art_museum28]

Yea...Being a late teen dealing with Covid is a toTaL excuse for vandalism... NOT! NTA! Press them charges!

[@fairyscout4255]

I cant even drive :")

[@RCDROMERO]

For the last story was anyone else hoping for the husband to respond with "I'm already her chocolate daddy"

[@ginihall1234]

It would of smooth things over

[@planetsidewinderofficial2954]

I was so thinking that listening to it that would have been the perfect comeback

[@Cheshiregrinn91]

I totally expected the story to go that way to be honest.

[@CerealExperimentsMizuki]

@@planetsidewinderofficial2954 X Zucc

[@imaspecialgirllalala]

“She already calls me that” I’d be dead

[@doggolovescheese1310]

Sounds like the teen needs to move in with his dad, because his mom is rascist for not having his back over his OWN NAME

[@samuelwolch1302]

Makes me wonder what the dad even saw in his ex if she came from such a racist background and didn’t even condemn her relatives for it

[@locusxe1411]

Yeah she needs to live with him. The mothers side of the family sucks

[@thedarkdragon1437]

at this point courts would give full custody to teens dad

[@Prix-cp5qc]

@@locusxe1411 it’s a dude...

[@Tues48]

@@samuelwolch1302 that point gives me the opposite thought. If you and your family is so racist why married another culture

[@BeeBread-]

The existence of "mayo momma" and "chocolate daddy" implies that "milk father" and "cookie mom" are indeed a thing. (don't forget gender-neutral terms like "food parent" or "sustenance guardian".)

[@Nightfurygirl]

I never knew how much I needed to see "sustenance guardian" in my life before this comment

[@1OOXSN]

Oh my god Sustenance Guardian is the best thing ever

[@foremanhaste5464]

And now I can't stop thinking "What is the consistency of Sustenance Guardian."

[@coffeeboi420]

caloric caretaker

[@Sinnk_]

Condiment caretaker

[@EternalLostsEternalHell]

Names have power, calling someone by the incorrect name when they correct you is disrespectful and rude. This applies to everyone.

[@GothMermaidGamer]

I have to deal with the same shit with my aunt(whom I unfortunately live with atm) Refuses to call me by my preferred name

[@qzoid3060]

i thought you were telling off the emiliano guy for a bit then i read it again lol

[@feykro4152]

*Kamaboko Gonpachiro intensifies*

[@kysfggt]

What if I don't identify you with the name?

[@kysfggt]

@@feykro4152 TONTATOOO

[@MHS-us1qv]

For the last story, definitely NTA. OP knew full well that calling his girlfriend that around her parents was potentially tricky territory, and it slipped out on accident. He's not throwing it around in front of them just to spite them, or even weighing in on the situation himself-- his girlfriend was the only one (according to the post) to object to her parents reaction, and rightfully so, because this matter is and would've been something just between them as a couple. Her parents, even now knowing what they weren't supposed to, do not have the right to interfere with their relationship or what their daughter allows in hers. Also, the nickname isn't even a historically loaded term or widely accepted slur. It's a silly nickname that really only has significance to OP and his girlfriend. Definitely NTA for being considerate of his girlfriend's autonomy/feelings and accidentally letting that slip.

[@sterninator]

@@opfreak I understand rslash but in this story he gets 2 out of 5 buttholes

[@sterninator]

@@opfreak I understand rslash but in this story he gets 2 out of 5 buttholes

[@alicedickinson5356]

Rslash definitely read too much into a joke

[@troywilson8796]

If you don’t like it then don’t listen.

[@Jay_jay2023]

Yeah rslash seemed a little off with this. This nickname is not the same as saying a slur. Don’t understand why he would compare the two. He legit sounded like those Lady’s that get called Karen’s and then get offended and make up nonsense of how being called “a Karen”is an offensive term and a slur, when in actuality it’s not 🙄

[@elnico5623]

"how would you feel if she called you her chocolate daddy?" I'd prolly add that to my official documents as a legally valid way to address me in any way ever

[@ImJustShayeB]

That's the only reasonable reaction. Lolz

[@shitneyb5562]

Mister Daddy, nice to see you.

[@timbitslunatic6319]

I’m sorry but I laughed so hard at the title “mayo mama” that has me rolling

[@dumasss1239]

Sammmeeeeeee

[@adirajanrajavel]

Same

[@bladerbeast3396]

Same

[@weirdkidatyourschool4370]

Chocolate Daddy XD

[@Swnsasy]

Charlamain the god calls RACIST white people mayonnaise 😂😂 That's where it's from.

[@thatonequietkid2453]

To quote John Mulaney about the last story “if you’re gonna compare the badness of two words and you’re not even gonna say one of them, that’s the worst word”. Calling a white person “mayo” doesn’t have the same implications as calling someone of color the “n-word” because one has malicious history behind it the other is more for teasing in recent history

[@womanofseakea8715]

YESSS THANK YOU! came here to say just this

[@Bethbethisme]

Exactly!

[@sabersky1134]

Thank you! R/‘s reasoning is really off base and waaay off the mark.

[@relaxolotl_ltoloxaler]

Ding ding ding! 🛎

[@beckyhartley9502]

Well aren't you lot a shining beacon of equality.

[@bradenallen1241]

For that car story: It's almost like your actions have consequences.

[@MLWJ1993]

Yeah, it's weird (jk 😆)

[@in_99]

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes 😂

[@MiraTheWarlock]

Why do I get the feeling he throws the 'Oh so you're with me for the money?' thing out every time she wants him to contribute to the relationship?

[@neilprice513]

Yeah I thought that too. Plus there are dating sites and services SPECIFICALLY tailored for rich people, so they can weed out the gold diggers and it sets clients up with people who have the same income. So OP's brother can go to one of those if he's so paranoid about women only being with him for his money.

[@ReigoVassal]

He wants to avoid the gold diggers, but ends up becoming one. How Ironic

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

@@madisonh.2992 yea but he set up those "tests" in a way where she was designed to fail & in a way that anyone would be pissed about being on the receiving end of so how is it his fault? /s

[@Frostfern94]

@@tazhienunurbusinezz1703 You mean her fault?

[@Intacfil]

@@tazhienunurbusinezz1703 He was being a complete douche? She wanted to see what a document was doing on the bed and what it was but no ShEs A gOlDiGgEr for trying to see what something was. He left his wallet at home so she would have to pay for the bill and test if she would get upset, A 500$ BILL! And he hasn't even bought her a present or something she needed or wanted. But she payed for a gaming console and new rims for his car.

[@legallyapumpkin3189]

I don’t agree with the last one He didnt mean to say it in front of her parents it just slipped out She is okay with him calling her mayo mamma

[@xamazingxcatx]

Yeah and her parents went too far by harassing their daughter with messages imo, op is nta

[@everlasting9292]

The fact that the ex gf in the first story wants to keep up a friendship with OP proves she was all about the relationships she built, NOT the money.

[@gerrard1144]

Gma: "calls OP the wrong name" OP: "uno reverse card"

[@blacbamboo284]

Because of the spanish I read it as " 1 reverse card"

[@rambofan334]

"Parry this, you fucking casual."

[@kudukilla]

I loved the idea of calling her Abuela

[@UrielElOsO]

rSlash, I have to disagree with you on the whole "Mayo Mama" story. The thing is, he by mistake blurted out the name. It wasn't supposed to be said around anyone. It was supposed to be between his wife and himself. Now, since her parents know about it, they should have kept their mouth shut. Why? They might give them ideas for other names like "Chocolate Daddy" or whatever. The OP's wife should be careful not to call him that in front of her parents or they will regret that.

[@songohan3321]

I agree. The parents probably have been listing the Breakfast Club a bit too much.

[@sterninator]

I think the assholeary between the couple and the in laws balance out so no one is the asshole

[@AmazingAutist]

@@sterninator No, there is definitely some assholes and they are the parents. They have no say over what their daughter does in her relationship with her boyfriend. It was an accident, and they should move on. They're trying to dictate her relationship.

[@justinedoner8576]

Right, also the n word comparison is so out of left field. They are not remotely similar

[@c0ally0ns]

@@justinedoner8576 I came to the comments to say the exact same thing, glad others thought it too, that really made me go 'huh???'

[@ExElliexE]

For the last story: Saying “mayo mama” or “chocolate daddy” is not even kind of the same as using the n-word (even in a friendly/casual way), and I hope that’s clear but yeah don’t say it around their parents, it’s a bit tmi if you know what I mean :/ Edit: yes it’s still uncomfortable to use any of these things, my point is the weird race-referencing terms are not on the same level as literal slurs

[@thunderflare59]

"Are you a house mayo mama?"

[@maddisonjohnson4308]

Both make me very uncomfortable with though.

[@brooke6123]

They're both disrespectful weather you like it or not. Its not okay to say anything negative to a colored person and its STILL not okay to say anything to a white person Disrespect is disrespect Racism is still racism Doesn't matter who it's directed towards

[@ch1knug377]

@@brooke6123 1: its whether and 2 its not out of malice like the original poster said. Its very clear he loves his SO and because he said he at first regretted saying "mayo mama" but after she communicated that she actually liked it and told him it was ok then there is no harm. The OP also said that him saying it front of her family was on accident and they both explained that she was perfectly fine with being called it. So please listen to all the facts, get your head out of your ass, and learn to spell. Thanks

[@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072]

How the f is it not the same?

[@Travelbyailsa]

Don’t agree with the last story giving them a butthole at all, he wasn’t directing it at the in-laws and it was an accident. He was also directing it at someone who was okay with it. If he’d then said something about them being Mayo something afterwards I would understand them being annoyed but otherwise I don’t see the problem so long as she is okay with it

[@Nekulturny]

Yeah, I don't know what rSlash is thinking, thats probably the crappiest of craptakes I've ever heard from him.

[@sterninator]

We shouldn't cancel Rslash though we should show him our side of the argument and wait for him to decide

[@Nekulturny]

@@sterninator ​ Who said anything about "cancelling him"? Seems like the only people who ever talk about "cancel culture" are the people who are complaining about a thing that doesn't exist in any way, shape or form like they think it does.

[@zamblot3324]

Yeah and to be fair, the in-laws overreacted incredibly and just can't take a midly offensive joke. Most humor has midly offensive undertones

[@squishy2368]

I'd only be concerned bc mayo is disgusting and seen as bland 😂 tbh tho I see why they were annoyed or upset, its uncomfy to hear shit like that when it's your kid esp. But it wasnt a racist term and it was if anything like calling your bf or gf daddy infront of their parents

[@maxsupernova]

Grandma story: You disrespect elders when they disrespect you. Grandma wants to you to extend the treatment to her that she can't be bothered to extend to you. The mother is enabling toxic behavior here, and should be ashamed of herself.

[@pickingwilddaisies945]

Respect is earned but so is disrespect. You reap what you sow

[@AlisonCasilli]

I have often said that everyone I meet gets the same level of respect as anyone else up to the point that they show they do not deserve it. Sorry, but that applies to family members as well.

[@dennyzhang2840]

The story makes me a lot more happier that my grandma is not a bad person. Too bad that she is not in my country.

[@StaitlyNatters]

This is what my cousin did to his grandma, his name is William, but prefers the nickname of Bill, his grandma would never use it. His grandma never liked being called grandma, as she said it made her feel old, and preferred the name of Nana Estha. So Bill, would always call her grandma Easy, when she called him William. She would harshly correct Bill every time, he would nonchalantly respond, if you don’t like call me Bill. His parents would just smile, and say to him you need to show some respect, then proceed to applaud his decision out of hearing from everyone. It took several years (not really close, they lived at the other end of the country, only visited a couple of times a year) but whenever she called him Bill, he would call her Nana Estha. She still occasionally has those moments due to ill health, but then she’s in her late 90s, and Bill is in his early 40s. And understands/forgives the occasional slips.

[@asmith8692]

For me auto-respect for a familial elder ends at age 21. After that respect is earned. As my older sister put it "if I'm acting the brat, I don't deserve others respect." If abusive behavior is going on that is an instant loss of respect no matter what age the elder is. And deliberately misnaming someone is abusive.

[@netherdominater9960]

'I sleep in very late on Saturday, about 1 pm' Me who wakes up at 4:30 pm on weekends: "Those are rookie numbers"

[@rdcdragonar4726]

In the last post he said it slipped out by accident he didn't mean to say it and he knew to keep it private but he accidentally said it so I don't think he's an a--hole for that

[@nonbinarymess]

the last story, Mayo mama : funny, alliteration, not malicious in fact endearing, no historical context The N word : So much pain in it’s history, derogatory context, been reclaimed so saying it is in fact invalidating said reclamation. YOU CANT COMPARE THE TWO.

[@justicedreams]

Tbh Chocolate daddy and Mayo momma are hilarious nicknames. The n word... No. I didn't lose respect for Rslash over a silly take, though his comparison is questionable...

[@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072]

Lol yes you can. To be REclaimed it has to BE claimed 1ST (“can’t compare”, I swear)

[@Merlilein_]

To be fair some people over do it with the n word hating. Once had a black girl should at me because I mentioned monte negro. Aparently some people just search for it to get offended by it. The same person got offended during biology class when aspergillus niger was mentioned. Ah yes. The funny school times.

[@grimlockgreg3063]

It should have named it vanilla momma tbh but yeah

[@ninvic0]

no one did tho

[@gemma641]

You did NOT just compare mayo mama to the N-word LMAO Jesus christ on a bike 🤣🤣🤣

[@TunukaMedia]

In the first story, the only person that will endure all the tests and not break up with him is an ACTUAL gold digger.

[@lightschen1644]

You’re right. The woman that he meets in the future will likely just trap him with a baby or something.

[@muffinszss]

You’re actually so right. You know, incur a little cost and then you’ll be able to reap the benefits...

[@TunukaMedia]

@@lightschen1644 yep, the long con.

[@irenerandazzo4206]

I was literally thinking what the commenter for the second story wrote "Why doesn't he call her a spanish version of her name, like abuela or if her name is Susan, Susana?". Because her problem is his mexiacan heritage it would make a lot more sense. Also he can apologize and then start being absolutely obnoxious whenever he is around her like "you know I learned this new Mexican proverb and i find it very true?" And cooking dulce de leches for her or tamale and other mexican dishes, ask his father to buy him some traditional clothing from mexico and wear it at family reunions, sing only spanish songs at karaoke night... Even start speaking with a light spanish accent in front of her and then excuse it with "I have been so busy learning Spanish that sometimes my accent gets weird". It would be so so so funny if he did those things! If I were the racist grandma... oh, sorry, the racist abuela, i would just be so pissed 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Prix-cp5qc]

😂👌

[@TheRaven_200]

Do all of that minus the apology. In fact, the only way the OP should say sorry is, “I’m sorry YOU were offended, and can’t handle the taste of your own medicine. You’re a freaking elder, grow up.”

[@SilverVolo]

@@TheRaven_200 i agree

[@Prix-cp5qc]

@@TheRaven_200 Exactly

[@irenerandazzo4206]

@@TheRaven_200 I meant he should fake apologize to get ungrounded and be able to go to grandma's house so he can bother her again with his revenge plan,not a sincere apology 😉😉

[@Aria-dl7ec]

"mayo is just as bad as the n-word" rslash, 2020

[@Ermwhothefart]

My respect for slash 👋🏃‍♀️💨

[@crystaliskandar1]

My respect for Rslash 📉📉📉

[@canadacaden3266]

First off... no. No it's not. Do you know how I know it's not? We're saying the word 'mayo' and we're not even saying what the 'n-word' is. If you're comparing the badness of two words, and you won't even say one of them... THAT'S THE WORSE WORD.

[@Aria-dl7ec]

@@canadacaden3266 exactly

[@helloworldimyourwildgirl2062]

Wait, when does he say thar?

[@GMWILD87]

Dude that last story you definitely missed the mark you can't compare it to any of the derogatory words for black people mayo mama verse the litany of vile words to disparage an entire race is not the same I get her parents are I guess sensitive but not their call as she has owned it.

[@christhomas472]

Honestly, the whole Mayo momma thing. I think there may be other underlying issues with the parents in this case. Like they don't like the relationship and just tolerate it for their daughter and are using this as an excuse to get it ended. More about their racist tendency than what was actually said. If it wasn't this it would eventually be something else down the road.

[@waynemelton2143]

I had a “candy tax” as a kid too but it was typically my dad stealing a couple kit-Kats or an almond joy as i went through the bag at the end of the night but taking half is wayyy too much

[@kadenlemon495]

So let me get this straight OP’s ADULT 18 year old cousin vandalizes OP’s car and her parents crack the “She’s just a kid” excuse? Maybe if they would’ve disciplined her as a kid she would probably know better

[@Yumichan62]

I mean, you still behave like a child with 18 often times and do stupid shit but I agree that beeing 18 years old is definetly not the same as beein 8 or 12. Like yeah, you probably arent extremely mature at that age yet but you also know whats right and whats wrong. Like, that was so dumb of the parents to say.

[@kanakukgirls06h]

Mayo Mama is a fine pet name. Honestly, it sounds like OP slipped up in front of the In-laws and they should just let it go

[@gambit-6181]

a slip-up is a mistake. For a mistake you aplogise. If I called my partner something inappropriate that I only say in private in front of her parents I would apologise (and would probably feel really embarrassed) if other people were made uncomfortable by it. I don't think that guy in the last story is the butthole in that story, but he became one when he flat out refused to properly apologise. Apologise to the in-laws then continue calling her that name in private. Simple.

[@blazeplatinum1014]

They did it said in the story he slipped up

[@gambit-6181]

@@blazeplatinum1014 Yes, but nowhere did it say he apologised.

[@blazeplatinum1014]

@@gambit-6181 he didn't have a chance

[@liemeaid]

@@gambit-6181 you apologize for the slip up. If OP said “sorry, it’s a pet name. She’s fine with it” , he apologized for the slip up; however, the in laws want an apology for the nickname itself. I’m biracial (my dads black and my moms white) and if I said I didn’t make race centered jokes around myself, I’d be lying. It’s all in good favor and is a joke poking at racism (especially mayo momma), from what I see.

[@TheHorrorDevotee]

In that last story, it sounds like those two have the most wholesome relationship.

[@sabrinaschultzkisby]

Lol when I first heard "Mayo Mamma" my first thought was NOT about race.....

[@halokit9000]

Omg same

[@jayc7171]

@@halokit9000 I thought of the game cooking mamma reading it lol

[@quinncook3898]

I thought it was because she liked mayyonaise

[@RainyDays2790]

made me think of patty mayonnaise from douge

[@beatlejuice3times859]

Omg i didnt thought about that 😶 i just thought that's a cute nickname for the wife from the husband lol

[@duck5843]

For the cake story, I would honestly say OP would be the butthole if they didn’t let their son pick his flavor. Just letting the sister bully their family is unfair

[@Galeboy]

Yeah, like 1.5/5 buttholes for OP and hist family for letting it happen. 4/5 buttholes for the sister for doing it, and 3.5/5 buttholes to OPs parents for letting his sister do that shit with no discipline to the point of adulthood.

[@liemeaid]

Word of the wise: don’t compare “mayo momma,” a term used lightheartedly between partners (or any term similar to “mayo momma” that plays on race), to a slur. I’m biracial (black&white) and I laughed my oreo butt off. I poke fun at my own races with my friends all the time (and have can/aren’t wrong for doing so because I’m making fun of MY races and experiences as those races, it’s hard to explain). While, yes, *racism can be towards anyone, this isn’t racist.* It’s all about intent. The black friend and the n word example falls flat because the majority of the black community will NOT take that lightly. Non black people have gotten jumped in my area because they said the n word on social media. With all slurs, don’t say them if you aren’t a part of the group the slur was intended to hurt. If you’re not black, *don’t say the n word.* And n word passes don’t exist lmao. OP should apologize for the slip up and explain how he didn’t mean any malice in that nickname. Other than that, OP hasn’t done anything wrong.

[@GinkoAlstroe]

omg im glad im not the only mixed race person who laughed too much XD

[@gotragfol]

I have never heard the term "Oreo butt" before. but now i can't stop giggling

[@RSN2277]

I think OP could apologize for the slip of the tongue and try to be more discrete. However, what they say to each other is not anyone else's concern.

[@bashfulbreloom9294]

Now I'm gonna have to disagree with one part of this comment. The part where you can't use a word created to harm one race if you aren't that race. In my humble opinion either nobody should be able to say it or everyone can say it (in a non derogatory meaning). Nobody can reclaim word because words don't belong to groups. You can change a word's meaning and connotation but you can't keep a word to yourself. Now I'm not campaigning for us changing a word's meaning and just slinging it around casually. I think we should just stop using these words altogether. Words have this funny quality where if you just fucking stop using them that tend to disappear from public consciousness. If we stop putting these words in the dictionary, stop saying them, stop putting them into songs, and just ignore them in general they're gonna fucking die. Word are kinda like memories. If you stop using them and recalling them, they tend to just go away.

[@hannahphoenix3299]

This reminds me of what me and a co worker have a teasing thing going on. He is black and I am white and one time my grandma asked me to give my fellow workers ( including him) some chocolate. I told the co worker in question that it is actually dark chocolate. He told me " how did you know my nickname" my 90 year old grandma took it further and told him via me " if your dark chocolate, I am milk chocolate!" And than I added " well that makes me white chocolate!" Everyone laughed when they found out and I have been calling him dark chocolate ever since

[@Edmund._.Dantes]

Why are people still inviting this 26 year old child to parties? Buying a second and inviting her is just enabling her

[@velvety2006]

My parents would have told her to bring her own darn cake or not show up at all. and op is probably pressured by the parents because she is the golden child and family.

[@pelmel1990]

Rslash. The n-word and "mayo momma" are on two totally separate levels of offensive! Lol

[@kkhoshekh]

yeah that was really... off

[@HarrowKrodarius]

I think Rslash in this case was right. To be honest. I wouldn't get offended by it if it is all well and good. but it should be in private. And to be honest, in this situation, the parents were kinda right. This time I am speaking from experience. I mean would a white person like to be called a cracker because it's the N-word equivalent depending on the context. But I people with light skin tones are always the racist if we call them out on it or call them something equillevant. I mean people are too sensitive now a days

[@joeystablein]

@@HarrowKrodarius the n word was used by white people as basically saying that they are the lower class. now, black people can use that word as empowerment because they lived through that tough time. “mayo mamma” is a nickname. it’s not something that was ever used to bring someone down, historically, and is NOT the same as a racial slur. a white dude calling a black dude the n word would be so disrespectful.

[@equiyazahhak2704]

@@joeystablein & somehow reducing a white people to their skin color isnt insulting? Would it still be okay if it was in a more insulting context?

[@joeystablein]

@@equiyazahhak2704 well we are talking about this context of the story where the person isn’t being insulted by the pet name mayo mamma. in different more insulting scenarios, yes it would be terrible to say that, but not as terrible as a white man calling a black man the n word because of the history behind that racial slur. mayo mamma has nothing historically that can lead people to feeling lesser than others or a lower class. the n word, however, does

[@freemaju1]

Rslash really stretched with that reach about the Mayo mama comment. He didn’t call her a slur he used a nickname. The parents took it too far.

[@Evil409]

It's like they said, the pet name slipped out. They didn't mean to say it. The fact that the girlfriend actually likes the nickname makes it perfectly fine in my book since she was also defending it to her parents. They don't have to like it but they also don't need to keep going on about something they typically do in private. You're not often in the wrong rSlash, but you are here

[@swatmajor1]

Agreed.

[@mattlocktv]

This comment 98%. OP even acknowledges he knew it would be odd outside of context if said in public. OP never said he expected the parents to be okay with it. The name does not concern the parents at all. The parents are the ones persisting and interfering in the kid's relationship. OP never once implied saying it outside of the home was going to be the norm and the girlfriend finds the pet name endearing. The fact that they called it a double standard and went as far as coming up with a name they thought would insult him shows that they are trying to make a non-issue political. If OP made a spectacle and was clearly pushing the nickname to be said in public, then the parents can protest. Far too often do people make inconsequential accidents a big deal. (The other 2% - slash is often wrong but it is, again, a non-issue. You know because his videos are his opinions.)

[@bradenallen1241]

@@mattlocktv While I see where your coming from, I do somewhat disagree. Say I had a friend who was overweight, and I had a nickname for him that was somewhat offensive but he was perfectly fine with me calling him it. If I call him that nickname in front of other people who are overweight, and they have an issue with it because it's kind of offensive, I should apologize, even if I only said it by accident. I agree the parents have no right to decide what they call each other in private, but OP definitely should still apologize to them, and from what they say in the story it doesn't sound like they ever did.

[@mattlocktv]

@@bradenallen1241 Well we are only hearing OP's side of the story but from our given insight it doesn't seem like they gave him a chance to apologize. At least not before they went off calling him racist and "chocolate daddy." That said, no one knows the full extent to anyone's story. If something isn't directed toward you then you shouldn't be offended on a personal level. You can be turned off what was said and make sure the person is okay with it. If they aren't then, yeah, demand an apolgy. Otherwise, getting offended on a personal level just injects your own issues into someone else's life and makes the situation about you.

[@bradenallen1241]

@@mattlocktv I don't think you understand, I'm not saying that the parents were in the right, but they do still have a right to be offended, just because it isn't directed specifically at them doesn't mean it isn't offensive.

[@theALMIGHTYchrischan]

You're kidding about the last one, right? He even says in the story that it accidentally slipped out. It's not a racist name, and her parents were trying to be 'offended' on his gf's behalf. Their feelings don't really come into consideration when a) it was NOT racist, sexual, or otherwise inappropriate (personally I think it's stupid sounding, but that's my opinion and doesn't get any weight in their relationship either), and b) they want him to stop calling their grown adult daughter a nickname THEY DON'T LIKE and are HARRASSING THEIR DAUGHTER over it. Edit: I'm not even touching the fact that you compared a silly, stupid in-joke nickname to THE N WORD or other racial slurs. Like. Dude. *really*

[@Masenken]

Thank you! Like what the actual fuck

[@TechHug]

Did he edit the video after the fact?

[@black61518junior]

@@TechHug Yea, that is also my question. Like I kinda remember him mentioning how OP felt if they used that word, but I might only be imagining things.

[@nikkikei4984]

@@black61518junior To me it seems like he was kinda avoiding responsibility, and not just saying that he was in the wrong. But instead he just has it cut out.

[@LucyAdroit]

@@TechHug Yes, he did

[@abelle5859]

You could apologize for stating that calling someone “mayo” is equivalent to the N word but instead you edit out your part when you know you’re in the wrong.

[@alexandermccalla5098]

Oh. He said something that dumb? I was wondering why the post commentary was so short.

[@someguythatblinks]

@@alexandermccalla5098 He does that on occasion when he says something really dumb.

[@bleuberri04]

ive been binging his aita vids and i think he said a slur against lesbians too, just bleeped it out :/// it was about a year ago

[@kookiecream7259]

So that's what happened.... I was so confused. That's really not a good way of handling something

[@r0ckmom]

@@bleuberri04 Which video?

[@flynn9666]

I don’t think calling her “Mayo Mama” is racist at all I just think it’s funny, and for clarification I am white

[@ZLT_90]

Yeah but if you were ever called that as an insult from non white people, it may make you see it in a different way. Not saying op was wrong or right just that everyone sees things in a different way. That being said, I think white people kinda deserve to be the butt of some off color jokes since well they have been known to make them about poc and way worse.

[@flynn9666]

@@ZLT_90 I completely agree with that, and you’re right I probably would be upset

[@SpectreBagels]

@@ZLT_90 Yea NO, thats a really gross thing to say. You were ok with the first part of your reply but saying that any group of people DESERVE to have potentially rude comments made to them because SOME who happen to share a skin color with them do that is disgusting. If they have a certain relationship with someone and saying those things is ok just between them then that fine but no one is entitled to say things about a person just because of their skin color. THAT is racist. Honestly using your logic black people deserves to have off color stuff said to them because, like anyone else, there are some of them that that make them to other people of color and non people of color. Just because some people of a group do bad things doesnt mean everyone of that group DESERVE something to happen to them

[@StarDust-th6fm]

@@SpectreBagels its one thing to actually degrade someone for their race but to jokingly call someone mayo? It’s more funny against white people because they’ve never actually faced oppression for their race in modern society, hence why it’s more socially acceptable to make fun of white people. I’m mixed but white passing I literally cannot imagine getting offended over getting called mayo 💀

[@AAAAAA-613]

@@StarDust-th6fm It shouldn't be socially acceptable to make fun of any entire group of people though (except for like Flatearthers and stuff, because that's different)

[@BunchyPanther42]

Bruh Rslash did not just compare Op calling his girlfriend Mayo momma to a white dude calling his friend the n word 😂😂

[@memorysdancer]

He did... and its kind of sad and laughable that he doesn't understand how idiotic he sounds.

[@MLWJ1993]

I call my friend Nerd all the time! 🙃

[@memorysdancer]

@@MLWJ1993 good for you

[@friedrichbrockmann8141]

I agree it was a bad example and not really comparable, but I understood the point he was trying to get across.

[@memorysdancer]

@@friedrichbrockmann8141 There are loads of other ways and examples he could have used to explain his viewpoint. But comparing a word that was used as a slur and a term of degradation against LITERAL slaves to a food item that was used as a term of endearment (much like sweetie pie, pumpkin, honeybun, honey etc) is in no way an equal measure of comparison. There is nothing to defend that. Major major asaholery and entitlement right there.

[@DarthNih1lus57]

*says mayo mama accidentally* Rslash: “YoU’rE tHe BuTtHoLe Me: you just blow in from stupid town?

[@Ermwhothefart]

Fax

[@pvnkvampr7691]

the guy in the last story is definitely NTA. he has a nickname for his gf and his gf finds it hilarious so it's literally no one else's business at that point. and also comparing a jokey nickname with a literal slur,,, yeah 😬😬

[@Frankiebug21]

I'm I cringed soooo hard when Rslash said that. Like one is a good nickname with no malicious background or intent and is not and has never been inherently racist... The other is literally a slur you cannot say on your channel because of its notoriety as a violent and oppressive word. Not even a little the same thing, and kinda gross to compare the two tbh.

[@jAfr0Thunder86]

Re mayo mama: not the buthole. It was an accident, he doesn’t make a habit of it. So long as he’s not flaunting it in front of other people, and it’s not a habit he gets into, it’s indeed no ones business. Same with your examples. If you’re okay with it in private, then just keep those pet names private and pay attention to your surroundings and potential audience.

[@Daionor]

rSlash I usually agree with you wholeheartedly but in the case of the "mayo mama" thing, I have to fully disagree. He accidentally let it slip, it wasn't intentional, he was chatting with them, fully relaxed, and didn't fully think before he spoke, but the parent's reaction is indisputably assholish. The daughter is fine with it, it was directed at the daughter, so they have no business trying to reprimand him. If both parties agree to the pet name then there isn't a problem with it no matter what others say, and yeah it should be kept behind closed doors but again, it wasn't intentional.

[@sirin8122]

I just *love* how Rslash doesn't consider the possibility of the pet name thing being an accident... smh

[@devil_spice]

Ikr op literally said it was an accident

[@lotuslady9821]

Agreed. The parents need to get over it. That is such a ridiculous thing to be upset about.

[@dungeonsanddragonshomebrew3165]

@@lotuslady9821 I both disagree and agree with that statement as rslash has a pretty valid point and only gave the lowest points

[@churchy9863]

@@dungeonsanddragonshomebrew3165 he didn’t have a valid point, he compared a pet name that was originally a joke, to something that was discriminatory and brings racism into the argument, he does not have a valid point, please don’t say he does

[@Koluke]

@@churchy9863 Lol true. he literally said "mayo momma" is like saying the n word.

[@JadeAnnabelArt]

OP: *Accidently lets pet name slip in front of parents, key word, accidently* Parents: *Get offended* Girlfriend, the person who it affects: Guys it's fine I find it funny and enjoy it. Parents: *Don't let it drop despite the person it affects sayings it's fine and it having nothing to do with them.* RSlash: Must be an asshole then.

[@sterninator]

Here is how i like to say it get offended with someone not for someone.

[@jjohnston94]

How does simply repeating what the video says earn 44 likes? Are there 44 people with bad speakers?

[@Dovaah]

@@jjohnston94 It's because apparently, some people (including Rslash!) see this guy, who literally just slipped up, as an asshole- and then go on to compare this guy calling his girlfriend "mayo mama" accidentally to a white person intentionally calling a black person the n-word. Which is wildly fucked and makes zero sense.

[@lwolfstar7618]

Then RSlash compares it to a racial slur he knows not to say 🤦‍♀️

[@vanni5993]

@@Dovaah right i don't remember slave owners screaming "CHOCOLATE DADDY"

[@carlasoto5489]

DID YOU REALLY JUST COMPARE "MAYO MOMMA" TO THE N WORD AND THINK OH YEAH THIS VIDEO IS GOOD TO GO????

[@augustt.646]

Whew, Rslash... you really missed with the “Mayo Mama” story. Please don’t ever compare a playful pet name to a word that was used to dehumanize black people for hundreds of years.

[@Boss_etc853]

Exactly like that didn’t sit well for me whatsoever its a fucking racial slur, my grandmother had to hear constantly growing up , the fact he compared it to mayo made me sick to my stomach

[@dee-jh3bl]

I was listening to this without watching I had to stop everything I was doing and come to the comments How could he compare a something like mayo mama or whatever to a racial slur that was used to literally dehumanize black ppl

[@elliejohnson2786]

There was literally a comparison made to "chocolate daddy", a directly comparable thing, IN THE REDDIT POST, and he STILL chose a strawman example to prove his point. Sometimes RSlash just misses the mark entirely, and that sizeable dislike ratio compared to normal shows it.

[@vladimirvendeyes6325]

Cuz one form of dehumanization is alright because time

[@powerpuff_avenger]

Just out of pure curiosity though (like I'm an Indo(Asian) European genuinely trying to understand this): Why do African Americans call each other that word still? Why would you want to call each other something that comes from so much hurt and injustice and malice?

[@dracko158]

Cousin: *Ruins OP's car* OP: *Press charges against her* Cousin and her parents: *Surprised Pikachu Faces* Honestly, I am sick of hearing the "just a kid" excuse. I don't care if their a teen, adult, or an elder, I WILL press charges if someone ruins my car.

[@sanc6284]

It would have been different if they had sincerely apologized and offered to make things right, but they didn't think there was a problem so throw the book at them.

[@dracko158]

@@sanc6284 People always think being entitled solves all problems. It doesn't.

[@ReigoVassal]

I see a Kid slaughter his neighbor family just for TikTok clout. And he still free until the court date that set 9 month in the future. He still can do anything without consequence. Yup, kids will be kids. He just a kid so let's forgive him and move on. It okay for him to slaughter people because he's a kid. /S

[@ReigoVassal]

@@anjafrohlich1170 even kids need to learn that action have consequences.

[@Destructer]

this man comments on every rslash video

[@bricolleen7956]

A dislike for your over-ruling on that last one.

[@michaelperryjr.7182]

Gotta love it when a white guy goes all "um, actually" on a POC when it comes to issues of race. Especially when homeboy prefaced that it came out as ACCIDENTALLY.

[@feralbaby5193]

yeah that was Not the move

[@nancyb2003]

Exactly. White folks 'schooling' Persons of Color on racism. RSlash, white people in the USA are NOT a marginalized group. By definition, they cannot experience racism. Prejudice perhaps, racism? Nope.

[@Uusarushirley]

Exactly, and having a chinese wife does not give you the right to whitesplain :/

[@feralbaby5193]

@@nancyb2003 by definition they can experience racism but that racism does not hold power over them nor does it make them oppressed. “prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against a person or people on the basis of their membership in a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized.” its only typically that its a marginalized group. what rslash said is absolutely ridiculous and wrong but using incorrect definitions also isnt good :(

[@iank472]

@@nancyb2003 I'm sorry so a white person murdered in Johannesburg for being white wasn't a racial crime? Or a white farmer run off the land they legally purchased isn't a racist crime? White people aren't universally a majority. The whole world isn't North America and Europe.

[@ZippoIII]

Lool, what's Rslash smoking with that last one? He said it accidentally.

[@yuume3gacha882]

Did he just compare the N word to mayo-mama💀

[@BloodRosen64]

Really? Your gonna be butt hurt that someone was joking with their gf over calling them a mayo mama? Thats not racist at all! God forbid anyone make funny jokes now days 🙄

[@chasethespongeking395]

I think he’s gotten the Instagram 14 year old white girl into his head which is he’s acting like he is

[@ricardopassarin6294]

Rslash is a white guy and got offended because another white people got offended. Rslash should just stfu on this one.

[@quinnw919]

The “Mayo momma” situation is ridiculous, but I say OP is not the a-hole. Why? Because the comment is made towards one person, who thinks it’s funny. You don’t need to consider the in-laws your Mayo in-laws either, because the title does not apply to them. Quick edit for people arguing what is racism: Racism is many things. It’s definition is “prejudice towards others who vary by skin color/race”. At least, that’s how I view it. There’s also extreme racism (extreme events involving violence, destruction, and even death), systematic racism (closure of jobs and business for minorities [depends on area]), and casual racism (yelling a slur at someone). Any race can practice any of these. Ex. Let’s say there’s a city whose main population is black, while a small portion is white. The black people are now fully capable of executing racism towards the white people. You can change the races, the results while usually be similar. Racism is racism, no matter who it’s being levied at.

[@danni1650]

Yeah I just cba getting offended on behalf of everyone else, but I can see why her parents might not want their daughter referred to in that way...

[@neptunnae]

Mayo in-laws made me laugh harder than it should have

[@edwennlhybride3616]

Also, let's not forget OP said it by accident in front of his in-laws. If their daughter says it's fine, they should have just let it go, simple as that. You don't tell someone else what they should be offended about 🙄

[@Twinklethefox9022]

I laughed at the "chocolate daddy" part and I'm black. Like that name sounds inappropriate and not in the racists way. Let's just say.. you'd probably only say that to your boyfriend in a closed room.

[@potatospeedwagon3994]

@@Twinklethefox9022 Yeah, it sounds so dirty lmao

[@geo4322]

When people say "repsect yout elders" I immediately think less of them.

[@devil_spice]

Maybe it's just me but comparing mayo mamma to the n word is a little much

[@halokit9000]

Not just you.

[@augustt.646]

definitely not just you. that was a major swing and a miss on his part

[@primarilyblu6686]

I honestly couldn't even believe that was coming from him

[@memorysdancer]

Major major major stupid on rslash's part.

[@vladimirvendeyes6325]

So if a new racial insult for each group of people was created then everything would be alright

[@Nannernade]

Wait... did Rslash just compare Mayo Mama to the n word as if they are on the same level? ._.

[@TallLady123]

Yeah, pretty much.

[@vladimirvendeyes6325]

What's the difference besides time?

[@Nannernade]

@@vladimirvendeyes6325 Mayo Mama was never used in a way to hurt an entire race of people? It was never used to intimidate and make them feel less than human.

[@vladimirvendeyes6325]

@@Nannernade so you have to appeal to history, the totality of a race and victimhood? Do you ever live in reality? So how long does a slur have to exist before a group can speak on it? Lemme guess cuz it's White's they never can. People like you can't live in diverse societies because you do not factor others at the level you expect of yours

[@Nannernade]

@@vladimirvendeyes6325 in reality every word is just that, a word. They have no real meaning until you put the right or wrong execution behind it. However, the n word isn't like other words, it only has one execution behind it, the difference between most slurs lost to time is people stopped saying them. Yet you have people like the KKK and other racists still using the term to this day.

[@thatfatginger]

Rslash honey you did not just compare a black person jokingly calling his white gf mayo mama to a white person calling a black person the n word🤦🤦🤦

[@yunogasai3350]

Plus he said it slipped out, mistakes happen, it was clear that his girlfriend was USED to the pet name and LIKED it even! His comparison is way off as well! Something like that slipping out can happen because he was feeling safe since he was with his Mayo Mamma and her parents, that's in some cases not a bad situation. And she even said in front of her parents that it was FINE

[@taylorfrench6722]

It's like comparing boomer or karen to the n word. None of those words have a long history of abuse towards a group like the n word or f@ggot, so it doesn't make sense to say that boomer, karen, or mayo momma are like the n word.

[@zombiechicken7114]

Mayo momma sounds racist to me so I would think its comparable as they are both racist names. Not convinced she would really be ok with it. It sounds offensive.

[@thatfatginger]

@@zombiechicken7114 not comparable. white people can't experience racism. is "mayo mamma" awkward and uncomfortable? yeah sure, is it racist? absolutely not.

[@samalvarez8776]

@@zombiechicken7114 I'll say this. If you are comparing 2 words and can't even SAY one of the words, that one is the racist one.

[@phelanmartin6118]

Nope you’re wrong on the last story, your analogy. It’s not even remotely the same. Get bent.

[@scratchjohnson4636]

Uhhh, did Rslash just compare “mayo mama” to calling a black person the n-word...?

[@WinterBoots15]

Yeah people got killed over being called mayo mama just like the n word so it makes sense cause its racist lmao (that was a joke)

[@NicoUnken]

Lmao I guess he was just exaggerating immensely to make a point.

[@Mz.Divagirl]

The last story was actually hilarious. I was hoping he would've said "I am" when her dad asked what if they called him chocolate daddy, but I'm sure he didnt want to be disrespectful to them. He probably felt embarrassed as it was when he slipped up and called her that in front of her parents; something you seemed to look past or had forgotten in your mini rant. One thing I CAN'T get behind is you trying to compare a derogatory term with hundreds of years of disrespect, belittlment and pain behind it to a pet name made out of shits and giggles between a guy and his girlfriend. They're nowhere near the same level and its ignorant to even say that they are.

[@beliciapinkrah3919]

I personally think NTA for the last one. Because It's a nickname that she is not offended by plus It's not meant in a malicious way. So I don't see anything wrong

[@neffyg35]

I agree but I look at it like it was said in front of the parents that were not privy to the inside joke. They do have the right to be upset

[@beliciapinkrah3919]

@@neffyg35 I agree with that but I don't think they should stop calling them that nickname but just give an apology

[@arjproductions1975]

In my opinion, calling someone a “Mayo momma” and the n word or other racist slangs like that are two veeeery different levels, and it’s a very different situation when OP even said it slipped out. It’s not like he was only calling her that around her parents

[@bostonrailfan2427]

of course, because racism against whites is allowed and laughed at 🙄

[@fatassium4304]

Honestly, not to take any sides, this topic does not have a very clear solution, and I believe that either side could be argued with reason and evidence. Yes, to many, it could be seen as an offensive name used to dehumanize OP's wife, but on the other hand, it could be a couple's way of acknowledging their differences through humor. Either way, everyone will have their own perspective on the matter, and that's were I have to agree with you. "Mayo momma" can be applied with a platoon of different meanings, each of them having greater or less offense on the person being titled. I have to say, RSlash should apply his own ideals to this situation; a joke is only a joke when everyone is laughing. Of course, OP's parents in law take this as an offense, but the person being offended doesn't while seeing it in the same perspective as OP. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[@DopeioThePhoneBoi]

@@bostonrailfan2427 If you are comparing the similarities between insults and you can't even say one of them with out getting cancelled...that's the worse word.

[@clickbaitcrill3394]

@@DopeioThePhoneBoi You can get canceled for saying anything. Something be "cancelable" means nothing.

[@DopeioThePhoneBoi]

@@clickbaitcrill3394 Okay, rephrase. One will get you beaten up in the hood, the other will get you a few awkward coughs and side glances. Clearly one is worse.

[@rileybishop3597]

Let’s not forget rSlash cut out his mistake instead of apologizing. I’m not saying mutiny, just accept your mistakes and accept the blame. We’ll see you as much more reliable if you do.

[@bleuberri04]

ive been binging his aita vids and i think he said a slur against lesbians too, just bleeped it out :/// it was about a year ago

[@cam_p13]

@@bleuberri04 wait really? that’s disgusting. it shows he knows what he’s doing is wrong but doesn’t want to think of himself as a bad person so he ignores and hides the problems.

[@orangetangyvideos]

​@@bleuberri04 he also said a slur towards brown people in a aita cause he "wasn't sure if it would get him demonized or not", not cause it was a slur.

[@tacticalcupcake5104]

@@orangetangyvideos that’s such an exaggeration it was a slur in a different language that no one even knew what it meant. Everyone in the comments weren’t offended by it. What your saying here lacks context and your acting like he said the n word

[@Squidscottjeans]

why does rSlash overreact to the smallest things? mayo momma was not directed at the parents and shouldn't be help up to the standards or the N word.

[@swatmajor1]

Cause he needs at least 1 controversial statement in these vids to get the comments, thus engagement, flowing.

[@not4you305]

Did he cut that part out of the video? I just watched it and I didn’t find that comment anywhere d:

[@eep_]

@@not4you305 yeah he did lmao.

[@ifoundhisjams4075]

@@swatmajor1 no cuz he always ends up cutting those parts out after back lash

[@bostonrailfan2427]

it’s racist no matter how you try to justify it.

[@izzy8719]

I’m sorry but “Mayo mama” isn’t the same as the n-word so that comparison doesn’t make any sense but everyone is entitled to their opinions

[@lnisme0295]

you can tell by the way we are saying mayo mama but we arent saying the n-word

Racism is racism. Either its all wrong or its not. No exceptions

[@durps8815]

I don't think he compared mayo mamma and the n-word in a scale of racial slur severity. I think he compared how they could both offend people.

[@justinedoner8576]

@ reverse racism doesn’t exist. It’s called racial prejudice. The n-word is a lasting slur from systemic racism and Mayo mama is a dumb pet name some couple made up. C’mon dude.

[@Twinklethefox9022]

And chocolate daddy isn't the same as the "n" word

[@geltric4779]

NGL the second i heard that the dude calling his girl "Mayo Mama" was black, I just immediately sided with him. My man's is being affectionate as hell with the name. He's worshipping her like the queen she is, thats all. Her parents need to stop being so uppity and definitely don't be accusing a black man for racism where it ain't. Trust me, when he wants to be racist, y'all will know.

[@Mammalian_Wolverine]

To be honest, Rslash overreacted at the mayo mama thing. He's not directing it at the parents, it's obviously a joke. Edit: glad to see so many of you share the same sentiment :)

[@mikuyay484]

Yeah i think the same

[@Defi_Jones]

not the first time he would tho 😅

[@Mammalian_Wolverine]

@@Defi_Jones true lmao

[@mikuyay484]

@@Defi_Jones sounds about right.

[@Edmund._.Dantes]

Yea and OP said it in front of the parents by accident

[@darkangel076]

"Mayo Momma" is clearly a joke, and is not even close to casually using the 'N' word. R/, YTA for even attempting that comparison - in your quest to virtue signal, you are belittling those who are offended by a genuinely, historically racist word. You really need to rethink your stance.

[@kittyneng1]

@Pedro Nogueira I'm sorry for your friend, but "mayo mama" was a nickname, not a form of bullying. And it's not like your friend was dehumanized for being white. I'm not saying his situation is acceptable, but it's not exactly comparable to racism.

[@OnyveUntitled]

PREACH

[@sw4mpy]

Did you seriously just try to compare the name of a condiment to a word that has literally been used to subjugate and murder an entire race of people? 😬 That analogy was extremely tone-deaf, my dude.

[@Januaryblue_Zzz]

Mayo and the n word are two different things that cannot be compared

[@planetsidewinderofficial2954]

Yeah I mean I like mayo on my sandwiches... But I wouldn't put a human being on my sandwiches don't worry I only play like I'm this dumb lol. 100% rslash wrong whether it's mayo or chocolate or in my case caramel I've heard that one many times it was blown so far out of proportion that it's not even in the same universe as the n word.

[@ZaraSummer]

It's like the argument that Dwarf and the n-word are on the same level

[@HokageSama]

If in a comparison between two words one of those words you won’t even say? That’s the worse one lol

[@HowToPnP]

Dude, calling someone "mayo Momma" has no implication on the inlaws! Someone with a "sugar daddy/mommy" does not also get "sugar inlaws" or "sugar children" Also, am I the only one who expected "mayo momma" do have way different implications?

[@9timepokechamp]

Patrick: is Mayo Momma a racial slur Squidward: no Patrick Mayo Momma is not a racial slur

[@TheGoombaFromNowhere]

Patrick: *raises hand* Squidward: No Patrick, chocolate daddy is not a racial slur either.

[@9timepokechamp]

@@TheGoombaFromNowhere 😆🤣😆

[@wkkowrld]

Really rslash? 'Mayo mamma' has no racist implications to it, unlike the n-word. You're comparing racial slurs to funny pet names😐

[@mikuyay484]

Yeah he is

[@SCxChubby]

Thumbs down. No excuses

[@wkkowrld]

@@SCxChubby It's KZbin. Cope.

[@TallLady123]

@@wkkowrld I thought he was saying no excuses to Rslash's bad comparison, not your comment.

[@ArianaRaven]

Depends. Like he said, it might not be offensive to you. But might to someone else. No, its not racist, but the parents thought it was without hearing why.

[@Tantejay]

I have to disagree with r/slash about the "mayo momma" story. For a pretty valid reason (for the record, I'm lilywhite). It is absolutely stunning how FAST the tables get turned in a mixed relationship. I experienced that myself. It was all fine and dandy - until the VERY FIRST opportunity to turn on my boyfriend came they ALL turned on him and the friendly stuff was absolutely blown out of proportions. Pet names are none of the parents business. Every other pet name would be ignored, no matter what. I had a boyfriend called me a (rough translation from german) "goasheep" (Schazi) - because he couldn't decide if he wants to call me a sheep or a goat ("Schaf" (sheep) and Ziege (goat) are common insults here. A sheep being dumb and a goat being..bitchy). "Schatzi" is the equivalent of "preciously", a childlike abbreviation of "precious". My family heard that and found it hilarious. Another pet name by my black boyfriend back then absolutely let them turn to him and it wasn't even bad. It is a deep ingrained racism - cumulated with "OUR women", the possessive pronoun is important here - which leads to this outburst and the messaging. Even with "mayo mamma" there is absolutely NO reason to make a fuss like this. Asides from the fact that, yes, minorities in the US can be discriminatory to other races but by no means "racist" - the element of power is missing here.

[@veronicadrysdale8066]

I'm sorry but you have that the wrong way round discrimination is the one that requires power as it is essence an action whereas racism is a belief based on hideous small minded idiot sheepel that someone can be inferior because of race

[@comet9864]

@@veronicadrysdale8066 but you can still discriminate against someone even if you're living paycheck to paycheck. Whoever said you needed to be in a position of power for any of this was high as hell, brother

[@veronicadrysdale8066]

@@comet9864 yes you can, but power comes in many forms, your boss, co-worker who's workerd there longer, siblings, parents anyone who can 'treat' you differently because of some predjudous, bigotry or sick sense of superiority, whereas racism doesn't take actions to be racist, basically in my opinion discrimination takes a physical form whereas racism doesn't have to

[@AmazingAutist]

As a woman of color, I agree with everything you said except for the part about minorities not allowed to be racist. Racism exist anybody if you discriminate against someone's race. What's your confusion is institutionalized racism versus typical race is on. But institutionalized racism would not exist without the overarching umbrella of racism. Saying that minorities cannot be racist is a very very dangerous ideology that really butchers that you meant narrative. Institutionalized racism can only exist because racism in itself exists. You can be a racist without having institutionalized racism being in your favor

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

​@@veronicadrysdale8066 While I understand that is your use of the words, and that's fine if everyone understands what you mean, it does differ from the definition in the current sociological discourse - racism is systemically ingrained discrimination into the culture of the group in power in that social system - so in the USA or the UK, or Australia, for example, that would be white people having privilege over minority groups. I think perhaps there's some confusion between the power of the individual in a given situation versus the power of the social group within that society? So while a white guy who is working for a black guy may not have the power in that job, white people overall still have more social power than the black people do in that society, as a whole. I believe Jayla was talking about.

[@spiritjones1495]

The second story reminded me of something my mom told me. I’m Native American and my first name is Spirit, my middle name is Rose. My aunt didn’t like my first name and wanted people to call me “Sprosie” or something weird like that when I was a baby🤦🏽‍♀️

[@brazcause929]

I like how upset you got at that last story😂😂😂😂😂 if they’re both fine with those nicknames, then how is he at all the asshole? The parents just created something out of nothing and I find it so weird that you would take the parents side. Is this some kind of “look how woke I am guys” kind of thing?

[@RaspberryHugs]

Rich guy: gets a girlfriend and starts acting like a gold digging financial leech to test she isn't a gold digging financial leech Girlfriend: leaves because of being treated badly Rich guy: *surprised pikachu face*

[@profwaldone]

Thats the worst part, he isnt supriced, he thinks he proved his point.

[@peacefulinvasion684]

I mean after being screamed for most likely making sure a document isn't important before throwing it away, getting stuck with expensive bills, and having to buy expensive gifts I would have left him. if you truly want to test someone get them a cheap but meaningful gift and see their reaction. If they keep and treasure it then theyre genuine.

[@seefzi]

If someone I knew asked if they could borrow my car after a DUI, that's an instant "hell no"

[@saharaowl9712]

As vegetarian, you know anyone who serious about this checks every single label on every single food item before eating! How can a so called vegan not know that gummy sweets contain gelatine! Gelatine is made from boiling animal bones etc,. This is why I can no longer eat Haribo etc

[@ReigoVassal]

You don't steal candy in the first place. If she ask OP probably would warn her.

[@natterjack478]

Imagine being offended by "Mayo Momma."

[@miceltusav88]

Yeah, imagine not wanting to be called something that can be seen as racist

[@ZippoIII]

@@miceltusav88 Imagine that, luckily that isn't the case here

[@sterninator]

@@miceltusav88 yeah but the thing is she isn't offended by it also she explained that she isn't offended by it too her parents also as a black person I don't get offended by chocolate daddy but ill ask some of my white female friends if they get offended.

[@Koluke]

@@sterninator i honestly don't see how people can get offended by " mayo momma" or " chocolate daddy".

[@lwolfstar7618]

Imagine comparing it to the n word like R/ did.... 😬

[@MyTACproductions]

About the last story; I think what rSlash forgot was that OP said "mayo momma" by accident and not intentionally, thus in my eyes invalidating one of his last statements.

[@aceofsharks9837]

Strong disagree on the last verdict. There's nothing offensive or explicit about him jokingly calling his GF "Mayo Mama". The equivalent, "Chocolate Daddy" is equally acceptable. After all, people have used words like chocolate, coco, and mocha as complementary/lovey dovey descriptors for decades. It's just dumb fun, really.

[@hlaw2830]

Are "shit-brown" and "vanilla-white" equivalent terms? "Mayo" as a term for white people is virtually always used in a derogatory way, "chocolate" as a term for black people is not. This sort of nuance isn't restricted to people either, if a car is a peach it's good, if a car is a lemon it's bad, even though they're both fruit. But you probably already knew that, you're just making excuses, like a bitch.

[@knightzilver4696]

Did he edit out what he had said before?

[@aceofsharks9837]

​@@knightzilver4696 Yup. In the original, he compared calling her Mayo Mama in front of her parents is like a black person allowing their white friend to say the N-word in the company of other black people who never agreed to that.

[@bushdidharambe4219]

If I got called somebody’s Mayo mama I’d just start laughing hysterically

[@MadameSomnambule]

That last one sounds less like an AITA story and more like a TIFU one. That one's hilarious!

[@cherryb.2342]

mayo momma is not equal to a slur or equivalent to the n-word, lets fix that narrative real quick -_-

[@PhoneHalHome]

r slash, trying to compare "mayo momma", a pet name among two partners to the n-word, a word with 400+ years of ugly history isn't it.

[@virusbustermack]

This isn't the first time Rslash has said something incredibly stupid while trying to sound like he's on some moral high ground, so its to be expected

[@morgan5562]

yea i'm really dissapointed in rslash. wtf was going on in his brain?? thinking he made a great point like,,, sir.. shut up

[@ginihall1234]

Yeah that’s why I’m on the fence

[@altros]

Yea I was like the N-word and Mayo mama are not on even on the same level, you cannot compare the two.

[@ezramatan5233]

@@altros wait, when was this in the video?

[@theonlyxbox360]

I'm not gonna lie, Comparing "Mayo mommy" in the last scenario to the one Rslash gave at the end felt like comparing "Silly goose" and "fucking cunt" as insults. they're not even remotely similar in offensiveness or weighted evenly at all xD OP on last story is 100% NTA, he actually gets -1 on a 1-5 asshole scale because he ACCIDENTALLY said it outside of privacy, and it was his GF that went to bat for him using it. He stayed out of it out of respect, and only laughed when the situation went from awkward to actually funny.

[@madambutterfly1997]

There's a more appropriate way to test if your significant other is a gold-digger ways that are more subtle and less likely to get you caught.

[@shaylelistoe4992]

If you need to "test" someone, whether it's for being a gold digger, a cheater, or anything else that you may be worried about in a relationship you probably shouldn't be with that person, or maybe you shouldn't even be in a relationship at all

[@madambutterfly1997]

@@shaylelistoe4992 Amen preach

[@greivoud7113]

“Mayo Momma” has the same energy as “Hey Mammas”

[@gchap3538]

For the cake one: "Eat it, don't yeet it."

[@amedievalbeggaronthestreet7296]

The mayo-mama story is wayyyy off the mark, rSlash. First of all, OP said it *ON ACCIDENT.* You read "it slipped out" and it seems like you chose to ignore it. He didn't mean to call his gf that in front of anyone. For example: I call my sister Ham and she calls me Cheese, and we try not to use the nicknames in public because it's a little silly and in some cases embarrassing, but they do slip out every once in a while. *Because if you get used to saying something so often in private it's bound to come out in public conversation sooner or later.* Second, I don't think the girlfriend's parents had a right in trying to interfere. If they had a problem with it, they should've talked to their daughter in private. They shouldn't have blown up like that. Especially since their own daughter wasn't offended by it. Third, this isn't on par with the n word. I'm sorry, but comparing a horrible racial slur with a funny nickname is, for a lack of a better word, strange. If I heard a black person call a white person "Mayo-mama/daddy" I wouldn't turn and glare at them like I would if a white person said the n word. But to each his own I guess.

[@iPLAYtheSTATION]

Gee, I wonder why their cousin already had a previous felony on their record. Maybe it's because the parents are so entitled and never actually taught their daughter how to be a good person?

[@jackthetieluwu3572]

Ok, for the last one, he accidentally said it, that’s like saying the f word around your mom when you stub your toe.... you’re moms gonna get mad, but you’ve already been swearing in private for years, it’s a habit.