r/AmiTheA**Hole For Forcing A Baby Name My Wife Doesn't Want?

[@paden1865able]

My grandmother made quilts for all of my older siblings and cousins, but her hands became crippled before I was born. I don't begrudge them their quilts, I'm glad they have them, and would never dream of harming a stitch. Grandma showed me her love in other ways. I miss her.

[@bellajaid]

My MIL made my son several things, a library cart, bean bag, baby blanket. He was the first grandbaby and the rest were 3+ years younger. Unfortunately she became unable to do these projects between my son's birth and the next baby. I feel guilty about it all the time.

[@Gregarious3]

Yea, "NO" is a complete sentence. Why can people not understand that there are very good reasons for no?

[@pinkremus961]

My Nan passed away couple years ago she made us blankets along time ago handmade knitting and I completely regret never learning with my Nan how to crochet I’m currently trying to learn on my own I would never ever touch one of my Nan’s things that she made for myself or my sister

[@GrimmestOfReapers]

Your grandma is a absolute legend

[@theholyhorehay]

My granny made me and all my cousins quilts when we were born, when we turned 16 and then for weddings and great grandkids. By the time me and my sister were married, she just couldn’t keep up. We don’t have kids yet and idk if she’s been keeping up with that, but we are ok with that. I’ve started knitting baby blankets for all the babies in my family, so it’s like I’m keeping the tradition alive. She’s still with us, but just can’t keep up with the sheer volume of quilts she would need to make. There are 15 great grand babies (almost) on That side of the family and it’s only getting bigger.

[@GameBearCartridge]

oh my god the story about the guy shredding his fiance's prom picture got my blood boiling so bad, what an absolutely horrible person with absolutely no fucking compassion or caring for his partner??

[@Ann_Wall-Chiasson]

I was the daughter who got bullied, except instead of cussing out my bully, I threw him over a desk. My parents were quite proud. Teacher secretly was too since she knew how long I put up with his ass before going on the attack and the only reason I got written up was because teacher had no choice and she made sure to mention to my folks that she was damn proud of me. He never got in trouble for any of it, but my message was received loud and clear.

[@GOGOSLIFE]

I had a guy who was seated behind me(in high school English class, grade 9/freshman year), who bugged the shit out of me(poking me, pulling my hair, pretending to write on my back, etc). One day I got really pissed and pushed him and his desk over onto the floor. The teacher never said a word to me. I was shocked myself, that I (4'10" 85 lb girl) was able to do that.

[@FM60260]

That story reminded me of the episode of South Park when Eric was bullying Wendy non-stop, but as soon as she tried to retaliate Eric went home crying to his mother.

[@beththedarkmage3359]

When I got bullied I never even thought to fight back, I was so young. I felt guilty over not fighting back for a long time, but now I realise as great as fighting back probably would have felt, knowing how terrible the school was, I'd probably be in massive trouble. The few times I ever fought anyone, because I'm a girl, I got told off. The first was slapping a kid who wouldn't leave me or my belongings alone, and the other was play-fighting with my male friends. None of my friends got reprimanded at all.

[@savannasavenko]

One time this guy who had the locker above me was making fun of me, it was the last day of school and I was crutches so I was like “screw it” and when I was finished with my locker and he went to open his, I just hit him in the back of the knee with a crutch to take out one of his legs 😭😭😭

[@flamelily2086]

The neighbours who refuse to control their children are bang out of order. My mother would have grounded us if we had run around misbehaving like these kids. Children do behave like wild things which is why we have to teach them appropriate behaviour.

[@krismartikris4834]

Years ago, neighbors would stop by, and were usually welcomed. One woman came over with her 'late in life' 3 year old twins. What mom didn't know was the woman had decided to let the children run rampant because she had put in her time raising seven children (who were responsible adults). The girls looked like angels, but were just awful. The tipping point came when they pulled a string of elephant bells off the wall. Mom told the neighbor to leave; that in future she was welcome, but her children were not. T

[@kirstygunn9149]

I have two boys with special needs behavioural and mental health issues and I always ask if it's OK to take my children to some ones house ,because I know that they will some times touch things that they find interesting and could have meltdowns that could also distress others. They Have good manners ( they say please and thank you ) but due to their mental health issues / special needs they can be a bit mutch for others to handle, and if they start to show distress or discomfort while visiting some one we will take them out of the situation before a issue occurs.

[@WilliamSnellIAM]

I love Dr. Phil's take on parenting - Parents are required BY LAW to provide at least this much. They don't have a choice, or they can have their kids taken away from them. Trying to CHARGE your adult for the money parents spent to raise them is narcissistic and entitled on a level I can barely fathom. When my kids were little my ex tried some of this crap, and I told them kids don't OWE their parents anything beyond doing their best and being basically respectful and civil.

[@ResidentMilf]

While I hate Dr Phil, I fully agree with your sentiment. It's not like your kids asked to be born, how can you owe someone for something you never asked for?

[@Beeautymus]

That prom picture story tells me that that woman should run for the hills. He just showed his true colors. He invaded her personal space and proved that he couldn’t care less about her emotions.

[@CatherineMcClain]

I audibly gasped from that story. It made me so angry.

[@dougmarshall1267]

Re: The "planting prickly bushes to keep the neighbor kids off your property" story. Keeping kids off your property is the sole reason holly bushes became popular as landscaping plants. I say OP should turn every square inch of that front yard into a holly thicket. As a bonus benefit, that'll help repel door-to-door solicitors too. You may all now worship my genius.

[@CalamityM]

It's why, here in Australia, bougainvillea is a common and very popular plant in every garden; especially along the edges of the property!

[@jessielockwood7350]

@@CalamityM g ut b

[@korendelaet3029]

I love this so much! I have many farm animals that I need to keep safe from neighbor kids (even in the country) that try to bother them or run around on my property. I have even have people driving by steal produce from my garden... you can bet I'm setting up a deterrent!

[@RhondaB4thesong]

😆🤣😆

[@duanesamuelson2256]

Prickly pear is almost useless for this. Use cholla.

[@blackrex828]

That story about the inappropriate professor showing a student an adult video is mad disgusting. Also to me it doesn't make sense why the school didn't do anything because I know a school fired a department head during a semester and had to wait a while to get a new one

[@alexismyers6053]

Names are meant to be the first bit of uniqueness a child is given, not a memorial. I don't quite like "family names" for reasons like that, though I do like my "family name" middle name. I want to pass it on, but if the child I pass it onto doesn't like it, I will help them find one they do like and change it. I know it's not as easy and saying I want this name and it changes, that there is definitely a process, but my child being happy (but well mannered, mind you) will be part of my JOB when I become a parent. My child isn't an ornament or a memorial for my passed relatives. They are thinking, feeling, LIVING being with their own personality and I will be a parent that respects that (so long as it doesn't hurt my child being a well adjusted member of society or their mental/physical/emotional health) because I didn't have that as a child a s know how it feels.

[@bellajaid]

I've always loved the idea of a family *middle* name. We altered my husband's great grandfather's name and gave it to our son as a middle name. I think when you make it a middle name it doesn't take away from the uniqueness, but giving them the name of your deceased first child though is really uncomfortable.

[@TheShaunNerd]

Family names are a huge thing in my family but always a distant ancestor or for honoring a specific one. My daughter is Eleanore, there are currently 6 different Eleanores alive and countless dead ones all have variations in the spelling and what they all go by. I am intending to name a son after my late brother but as a Middle name instead of a first name. He died a hero in military service. However my son will know of his uncle but I will not make him live up to his memory. I work with families of fallen American soldiers and a soldier who died at 18's parents had another son less then a year after his passing and gave the poor baby his exact name. That child 12 years later hates his name and wants to be called something completely different because his father gave him a complex of "your name sake did this and liked that so you should too" poor kid comes to therapy as a gold star sibling and has more trauma then most of us who were actually alive when our sibling died due to his name.

[@alexismyers6053]

@@bellajaid my middle name, my mom’s middle name, and my grandma’s middle name are the same name, which was my great grandmother’s maiden name. I love the name, so much so that I’m dropping my abusive stepdad’s last name and making my middle name my legal last name. I loved my great grandmother and miss her dearly, so this is my way of keeping her memory alive every time I see my full name. Craps going to hit the fan when it happens, no doubt about that. Mom and her living @$$hole wanted me to have his last name so badly, probably for appearance sake since I know being seen as the perfect family means so much to them and everything about me just ruins that. I didn’t have a say when he adopted me because I was 5 and I associate his name with bad memories, so I don’t want it anymore. If it means he wants nothing to do with me after because I’m “no longer his child” or anything, then that’s a win-win in my book, especially since he never treated me the way a father is SUPPOSED to treat their daughter. I’m excited to get this over with, I feel like it’s going to be a big step in my healing process.

[@alexismyers6053]

@@TheShaunNerd that’s messed up. Must be why I like the names of cartoon characters so much, hard to live up to someone who 1) isn’t real and 2) does unrealistic things. I’m making my middle name my last name and plan to give it to my firstborn, so I’m passing down the family name either way. It was several years after I fell in love with my favorite boy name (Paul) that I remembered that’s the name of my godfather lol oops. But my godfather is a good man and I love him, so I don’t mind people thinking possible-future son is named after him, but I would tell him the truth if asked (I really like this one character from a show I watched as a kid and when I looked up the name’s meaning, I fell in love with it). But even if I names a child after a loved one, especially an passed love one, I would always make it clear that I don’t expect them to be that person, I want them to grow up to be whoever they choose to be and to just be a good person. I’m actually excited for when I’m in a place where I’m ready to have kids because I’m excited to see who they become. I feel that’s how parents should look at their children’s growth. “I’m get to watch the growth of a new and wonderful person who will add something to this world no matter how small and I get to help them learn how stand on their own!” I hate when people say they want their kids to be exactly like them or some relative that died before the kid got to know them. Let the child decide who they want to be themselves!

[@bellajaid]

@@alexismyers6053 Make no mistake, YOU don't ruin the image of a perfect family, you expose the illusion. Good on you love. Cross that bridge and burn it the fuck down if that's what it takes to heal. ❤ Sending you love

[@asherael]

He's entitled not to find her body hair attractive, just as she's entitled to not be what he finds attractive.He doesn't have to find it sexy, he just can't change it, or be shitty to her over it.

[@mellvee]

Exactly. Funny, though, how so many commenters said he was TA though, because his tattoo is permanent. "My body, my rules" should NOT be allowed just for women and should never be to the exclusion of either sex. It really is just sexist to believe she can tell him what to do with his body, but how dare he have an attraction or lack thereof to something she chooses to do with her body? I totally agree with you, and am appalled at the multitudes of hypocrites saying that only she gets to have a physical preference against tattoos but he is not to be afforded the same because...woman? Smh. It's the same people who believe it's bigoted not to be attracted to someone else because they are overweight, underweight, tall, short, etc. We are allowed to have preferences and men should be allowed that just as women should.

[@BurroughsProductions]

Seriously. She told him he couldn't do something yet she could do whatever she wanted? Everyone calling him childish is dumb. Not wanting to have sex is allowed for men too but a lot of women don't seem to like to admit it

[@bellajaid]

If he is being honest about how he reacted, I don't think he reacted inappropriately. My husband and I have had the same conversation. I'm not big on shaving and he doesn't like it that much. Then again, if my husband went to get a tattoo without telling me, my only issue is we have shared finances. It seems like he did poor timing with the tat but had been wanting it.

[@amelianekomimi1936]

@@BurroughsProductions issue is - hes not childish for disliking body hair. He's childish for getting the tattoo just to spite her. The whole tit-for-tat situation. You did this, so I'm gonna do this to get back at you. It really is childish. They should've had a sit down talk about it instead of going ballistic at eachother. Either way, they should break up. Gal leaves with her body hair and man leaves with a sick lion tattoo.

[@BurroughsProductions]

@@amelianekomimi1936 it's not childish to get a tattoo On ur own body is childish to tell another person he can't have one tho. It's not tit for tat when someone has been telling u u aren't allowed to do something

[@laurenmentink7401]

The fart story - If OP is supposed to be "ladylike" then the BIL needs to be a "gentleman". BIL is TA and not OP.

[@dakotasan8719]

Honestly if it were my sister, I’d just fart louder to assert dominance. Being mature is overrated.

[@ladyofthelake93]

There were wild neighbor kids that used to mess up my parents yard at the beginning of the lockdown. They wouldn't stop at my mom's polite requests to stop, but when I stormed out during zoom finals looking deranged, they fled and haven't trespassed since.

[@laurenmentink7401]

The OP who got the tattoo is NTA. His gf decided that she didn't want to shave but he is not allowed to get a tattoo. What is good for one is good for the other. Gf is TA.

[@pollypockets508]

He's only a slight a-hole for being childish. The gf is definitely the a-hole and controlling. Bottom line, they need to break up asap.

[@jgw5491]

The rule for both: your body, your choice, tattooed or hairy.

[@suzumebachi50]

She's allowed to not shave and he's allowed to tell her he doesn't want to have sex. These are both true. He's allowed to get any tattoo he wants. Her not liking it is fine, but they should really break up. They aren't good for each other and the petty olympics gets tired.

[@BurroughsProductions]

@@pollypockets508 getting a tattoo u have wanted isn't childish

[@scribblesea8457]

The first one is nta, I’m named after my moms dead sister and her sisters baby, who both died in a fire before I was born. It made me very uncomfortable around my moms side of the family

[@cre-k8-ive]

About the dog story: OP: I'm severely allergic to your dog and can't be near it on my wedding day. Here are 4 of our friends who offered to guide you or I'll pay a professional of your choice. Friend: You're ableist! You don't care about my disability! My take: Friend is ableist and thinks that OP is not "as disabled" as her. Friend needs to take a step back and understand OPs needs and weigh if missing her friends funeral is worth it.

[@paulinadeboer3604]

This is spot on.

[@fandomfan2800]

no this is dead wrong lol

[@franl155]

How can you be sued for breaking a contract that you never entered into, and indeed knew nothing about? If her family want to treat women as chattels to be bought and sold without their knowledge and consent, how is that her problem? Word of warning: OP should NEVER accept an invitation to "visit family", even ten years down the line.

[@geekfreak2000]

Gia doesn't have any friends because she's 13 and still plays "Mommies". Take the kid to therapy and get her evaluated and don't force your child to hang out with her.

[@shirin9452]

Yeah poor Gia. What on earth is wrong with some parents. Why isn’t she allowed to play video games? Why is she so stunted and baby-like? Reminds me of my own parents who definitely shouldn’t have been allowed to procreate. Therapy is definitely in order.

[@pinkremus961]

Honestly I think she needs to get checked out for any invisible disability’s that could beMaking the situation the way it is and the mother needs to stop engaging and allowing the tantrums to occur and letting it win

[@Rat_king_call]

Story

[@Rat_king_call]

Cookie

[@nyteshayde1197]

And to be fair, she is immature by virtue of being 13 to begin with. But the whole play dynamic is infantile.

[@annabelfazukimi7902]

The cat story...my dad had a senior office cat who absolutely loved kids. He had more patience with them than the adults...he was kind of a Gordon Ramsay of cats

[@ashlynnday9890]

As soon as Picture Shredder said “it seems like hoarding to me” I knew he was unredeemable. What a self centered baby man

[@Lily_of_the_Forest]

Wow! The story about the daughter tearing up the aunt’s dress is so sad and infuriating. As a teen I did impulsive, stupid things because I was a clueless knucklehead. I’m not surprised she tried it on, but the daughter willingly ruined a precious gift because she didn’t get one too. Ouch! Nothing wrong with wishing you had a special gift and being a little bummed. That’s being a human. (Also, she wasn’t given a dress due to uncontrollable circumstances. The grandmother didn’t leave her out purposefully. There was no ill intent.) Willingly destroying something like this is so selfish and mean! OP is NTA. The daughter is TAH.

[@kylelarpenter4724]

I used to work in a psychiatric facility. The fact that he had gloves on tells me this is not a mental episode. I've seen people play with their own feces with no protection on their hands. I'm not saying he didn't have a mental breakdown, but what I am saying is he was fully aware of what he was doing

[@paulmoesman8386]

I had a girl once who got her name after a dead sibling, she hated it and the ones who gave it .. so think again.

[@laurenmentink7401]

As a item to mention about the last story. Yes OP is TA. My mom gave me a present meant for my husband on MY BIRTHDAY!!! I was not amused or impressed. It hurt my feelings and I really didn't say thank you to my mom. My mom later told me that DH had told her that he wanted the gift. I would have preferred to get something for me. I don't think that my mom thought that she had done anything wrong. It was a special type of pan. I hate cooking.

[@krismartikris4834]

I hope you told your mom that you fully expect her to gift you something YOU want on his birthday.

[@asherael]

The children playing unwelcome on her property IS a serious liability issue. I'm sure she'd love to share berries with neighbors (especially SO many berries) if they'd been decent, civil and didn't give them that "boys will be boys" poison. PARENT, reign your kids in.The world will work better for EVERYBODY

[@tubadude2000]

With the "selling your friends painting story" , does that mean that people owe the estate of dead painters(like Picasso or Monet) anytime they sell one of their paintings?

[@oougahersharr]

The adult who's parents dug themselves into a hole by spending 30,000 they didn't have then demand OP pay since they spent money raising OP: That is BS (what the parents did, not the OP's story). I have a friend whose mother tried to sue her for a million dollars for raising her. My friend won the actual court case (yes, it went to court!). The court determined that giving my friend her life then supporting it 18 years did not constitute something that needed paying back, as that is what being a parent literally is. Those parents are leeches and irresponsible. If OP wants to be nice, give them a couple thousand, but if OP does, those parents will harass for more. I say cut them off completely. Go no contact. Drop them and anyone who sides with them. They are irresponsible and toxic.

[@laurensmith20]

It doesn't matter how many times I hear the wedding dress story. I'm angry about. I'd probably disown the kid at that point...

[@OverTheMoon891]

Oof, that dress story. The daughter deserved everything that she got and I'm surprised she didn't have her hide tanned on top of it. Lol

[@lyllas]

If it had been either of my daughters I'd have done the same but also take electronics and all permissions for at least 6 months. At the end of the 6 months reevaluate and to weather she has taken responsibility or not. If not rinse and repeat!

[@melhawl3685]

If it were my kid, I dont know what I would do. C is a horrible a hole who needs to be removed from even going to the wedding.

[@beththedarkmage3359]

Yeah, she's an awful selfish person. And I cannot believe that her Grandma left her nothing to remember her by- I think she was just incredibly jealous of her kind gesture in the form of a lovely dress. A wedding dress at that- it was for a specific purpose!

[@A.n0neeM0usee]

My heart broke. My mother is a seamstress and I know how difficult the job is. I would be terrified what I would do if someone had done that to me. But I have a feeling that it would end with me not in a hospital bed but with me wearing a pair of silver bracelets 😬

[@laurenmentink7401]

The mom abandoned him for her new family. OP was NTA. His siblings had their mom all of their lives. OP did not have that. She may have "tried" to have a relationship after he became an adult, so why didn't she do that when he really needed her. Why was his mother okay with him being poor and her new children not be poor. Just because she died doesn't give her the right to just abandoned him.

[@shadowkissed2370]

One thing we do not know and possibly he doesn't know is if she was being allowed to communicate with him. None of us know if his father or some other reason or person was stopping her from communicating with her son. I know someone whose ex husband took her kids and she tried everything she could to find them private investigators and all. Her husband had been abusing her and she was planning on leaving him and he found out because his family was part of the authorities in their town so he took the kids as a "punishment" and ran (he wanted nothing to do with the kids when they were together). No one could find him because he deleted all internet accounts and started hoping homeless shelters and living with girlfriends. She was finally able to find them when they became adults and she tried to have communications with them but their father and his family had already made them believe she wanted nothing to do with them when they were kids so they want nothing to do with her as adults.

[@salattu]

Like the other kids had the mom alive. And what OP was supposed to peer through diaries and make a relationship with a ghost? What if there were no siblings then OP wouldn't be the AH for burning them? The mom is a huge AH for never explaining herself even in a letter. She just wanted to haunt OP. I'm usually against burning books and written history/accounts, but burning pictures and love letters after a breakup is somewhat a common thing. And gives closure. I personally wouldn't burn the things but why would I ever give what my mother considered compensation for not developing a relationship with me to the siblings she did have no problem developing a relationship with? That's my ghost of a relationship. They had a living thing.

[@beccacapshaw8556]

“You can tell them it’s a friendship ritual”. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@kirtemoon529]

In Gia’s defense, “Mommies” slaps, honestly. And that’s coming from someone who’s 18. I think the bigger issue is OPs kid doesn’t want to hang out with Gia; you can’t force them to hang out, but you shouldn’t let your kid call her weird.

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

A 13 year old who locks herself in the bathroom and cries because she doesn't get her way IS immature and very childish for her age. Kaylee should not be forced to spend alone time with a kid who can't even be fair about how they entertain themselves. What 13 year old even HAS "playdates" in the first place? Let Gia do some growing up first, right now she's behaving like a spoiled toddler.

[@salattu]

It sounded like she's home schooled. I don't know but that's the impression I got from the play where they teach the dolls and cousin being only friend. Sounded sheltered and isolated.

[@ohnaliirony8997]

Hey, that intro made me super happy. Love your videos but this one was AMAZING. Thank you so much.

[@mrobinson5201]

That fart episode had me cryin!! Good on you OP! Give’m hell!!

[@krismartikris4834]

The parents and siblings who want money - that is why you NEVER tell ANYONE that you have money. As far as they are concerned, you are two steps away from having to pitch a tent.

[@ohnaliirony8997]

As an LGBT person, if I had enough money for four houses and multiple vacations abroad every year I wouldnt be upset to lose that money.

[@paulinadeboer3604]

My sisters Kids have house from 1 mil each. But fought over 10k. While there was someone with nothing. Money makes people act weird.

[@mckaidenchristensen2884]

In a split the art work was not paid for first. Since the art was paid for to start with the buyer could resale for whatever.

[@nahbruh2613]

“She’s just keeping old junk around” yeah, you.

[@misfit1395]

If a fart ruins your day, you need to re-evaluate your life....

[@jdd9993]

OP's friend can leave her dog at home and get one of the friends or an aide to help her. OP has an ALLERGY which threatens OP's wedding day.

[@vetaroberts3333]

Op paid for them, she charged what she wanted for them

[@dawnfire5600]

Dante: Fabulous and creative compromise which addressed each persons needs.

[@GIChiyo]

Clearly the person is a Devil May Cry fan in the first story lol jk Edit: I WAS RIGHT!!!! lol

[@kmbaldwin5325]

Not sure why so many people had an issue with OP describing Gia as immature. She’s 13, mainly plays with dolls and pretend games that most kids her age have already outgrown by a few years, and has a tantrum when she doesn’t get her way. What about that isn’t immature behavior for a 13 year old??? She is either incredibly spoiled, or is possibly on the spectrum as a comment suggested.

[@Rose-bi2rg]

The mom abandoned OP for her new family is NTA and the fact that people are calling him an Ahole hurts my soul. He grew up with a father who became useless and he was not treated equally. His mom left him in that environment and started a new family. He was gifted the diaries, not his siblings. I just hope he gets therapy to help him heal.

[@theconspiracytheorists2719]

Yes you do not get to choose which part of parenting you do.

[@billegumenovski831]

I agree with this he done what he thinks is the best for him

[@cass973]

Mom taught the daughter to say "my house my rules" OP and fiance were being respectful they had toned down the PDA. And I'm not sure if it is PDA in your home or in front of mom & dad. And who gets to decide what is to much PDA? This mom thinks looking at each other is to much ("bedroom eyes" LMAO). Mom and dad need to go to a hotel they are uncomfortable. I'm petty and would make lots of noise from the bedroom several times a day just so I could say we did what you asked and took it to the bedroom. Thanks for saying that because we weren't going to have sex with you here but since you recommended it we are going at it like rabbits 😊

[@cynicalminion]

just a side note for the parking lot creepers... i'm really amused when i get parking-lot stalked... i can FEEL the glares when i walk out of a store, past the lines of cars, and onto the sidewalk, where my non-vehicule-having ass proceeds to head on home...

[@Tijggie82]

Story with the artist. Disagree with you there, Markee. She bought those paintings from her friend fair and square. This means she can do with those paintings whatever she wants. It's only two and it showed the friend she could make so much more.

[@pollypockets508]

Swear tax OP, you're my hero!

[@sdaniels160]

OP is not the a hole for burning the diaries. Mom made her selfish choice and so did OP. Yes, it was selfish of him to not consider his siblings AND he is still not the a hole. The siblings never got the diaries, so it's like they never existed. They lost nothing. They feel as if they lost something but they didn't. You can't lose something you never had. The damage was done; it was OP's right to do it and they just need to get over it. "Your father is an adult and made his own decisions." Well, OP is an adult and made his own decisions. It's not simply spite and jealousy to bury the past.

[@tinawrenn8795]

I feel for your daughter Kaylee. My SIL and I were best friends growing up. She married my brother. We had daughters 1 day apart. We thought our daughters would be close friends , buyout, guess what? It didn't happen. My niece would be mean to my daughter, and in front of my brother and SIL. Things I didn't find find out for quite some years and when I found out that they literally let three older boys try to attack my daughter in their house in front of them and they did nothing I was beyond pissed. Luckily my daughter had been taking karate for 7 years and put all three of them in their place, but my daughter said that my niece, SIL, and brother got pissed. She called me to pick me up earlier than expected, and I could tell something was wrong. I kept questioning her tell she told me what happened. I was about to walk out the door, seeing red, when my daughter begged me not to. So I agreed on the condition that she's not going back there again unless she talks to her cousin and she apologized. But she of course said that she had nothing to apologize for. If anything she should apologize to her 3 guy friends. I told her to f×ck that. And tell her that she's not coming around anymore.

[@krystalfloods6197]

I can’t believe how that friend is acting, throwing a fit over wanting to bring her dog to the wedding. It’s literally OP‘s wedding! OP is literally allergic to dogs. It’s ridiculous to expect OP to have to take medication that will make OP extremely tired just so this person can go to the wedding. I think the friend is the one being ablest. Expecting OP to have to take medication just to make her happy. And not listening to the options available. I hate when people try to call out the ablest card

[@Lalan396]

My father was dead set on giving me a specific name from his culture. My mother did not want that name because every girl from that culture had the same name. My father attacked my mother while she was in labor over this. She was in a coma for the first six months of my life. Later on he admitted to me that the name belonged to his ex girlfriend. So i might be biased when i say if the child is carrying the father's last name the mother should have final say on the child's first name. ( In my culture the maternal grandparents give the middle name. )

[@tippytoe1250]

Please tell me your mom divorce your dad. What a horrible man.

[@Lalan396]

Tippytoe, they divorced a long time ago 🤣

[@LunaArtGallery]

The art one is more of a question of friendship and morals. But, the little rabbit hole is incorrect. Artwork isn't the same as physical property because it contains someone intellectual property. As a working entertainment artist (animation, comic books) there is a difference between selling your work for personal use or commercial use. Artists hold the rights to their work unless said otherwise. You can not commission an artist for a design under the idea that it will be for personal use, then slap it on a t-shirt and sell it. This is grounds for a serious lawsuit. Even if you bought the work, you did not buy the rights to use it however you please. Another example is that if a client paid for a comic book to be sold and printed. If they decide to use the images for merchandise without telling the artist, and it goes outside the terms and conditions of the contract, the artist can sue the client. I don't know about gallery work and all that stuff. But contracts are a lifesaver, and if you are selling/commissioning work always have some terms and conditions for it.

[@Sparkitto]

Right? Plus, aren’t prints just that? Prints of the original that the artist still owns? Regardless of ownership rights this isn’t a legal advice subreddit. Even if they had every legal right to do what they did it still makes them TA.

[@mmikael281]

@@Sparkitto "Artists hold the rights to their work unless said otherwise." I'm pretty sure this isn't true. Art is an item as anything. If you sell art and want keep you rights you had to do it in the contract. Otherwise you no longer have any rights. These types of contracts are in every online store I’ve seen sell creative work. This seems like a very dangerous assumption to make if you are an artist and want to sell your work.

[@oougahersharr]

The OP who ate ice cream in the car when someone honked: NTA. As soon as the guy honked, I would have turned off the car, got out, and headed right back into the store, claiming loudly, "Damn! I forgot something!" I would have stood just inside the doorway, watching him until he left. :-)

[@Dimensionalalteration]

A name panel needs to exist that hears people out on name disputes.

[@katieb.1184]

that wedding dress one... my gram bought my dress... so much cheaper than the time and materials (not a knock to my gram. she bought me my literal dream dress) I would have been completely broken if someone took that from me and mine was not one-of-a-kind it could be repurchased... She died four months before my wedding. I'm keeping it mainly to offer my sister to have a vest made for her wedding if she ever gets married so that she can have something from grams, too... that is a dress that is so, SO much more than the simple cost of fabric and time, and I got choked up just thinking about someone destroying a beautiful thing like that.

[@kekumontgomery192]

I think thats a really important distinction in the last one. I would want a fitness gift, but i also have been specifically working on that personally and vocally complaining about not being able to afford a gym membership ect

[@kristinewatson3702]

The swear tax is F-ing GENIUS. 🤣

[@sebastianhopkins7322]

The dress story: If that were my sister and she did that to a dress our g-ma made my mother would have torn that ass up with a belt til my sister could not sit for a month! What that EB did was not called for and their answer if F’ING therapy!?! No that EB was NEVER taught proper home training and she deserve to have her tail whooped something fierce!!!

[@WobblesandBean]

OP 2: Make sure those bushes are stinging nettles! Those wretched little worms need to learn a painful lesson about trespassing and stealing! YOU SHOULD HAVE PRESSED CHARGES!

[@Riv_]

2:10:55 The girl sounds like an absolute sweetheart. The guy sound almost abusive

[@Ricee_e]

The guy 100% sounds abusive. She needs to get the hell out of there. He is controlling beyond reason.

[@imissmygoats298]

This episode went everywhere!!! I love it!!! Bloody good content Marker Yeah You 🤙🤙🤙🤙🤙👍👍

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

Wow, sabatoging your "best friends" entire future so you can do what you want just proves to your parents that they were right not to let you go alone. You didn't even try to find another solution. Why not go to whatever college you can until you are old enough to go to whatever college you want without your parents having any say? They clearly had their reasons for not thinking you could handle yourself alone in another country. Judging by your actions here, I'd say they were right

[@pauldeddens5349]

Man, I just threw this on, since you had a nice voice and an interesting subreddit. _It took me longer than Id like to admit to realize this was _*_TWO AND A HALF HOURS LONG_* Not complaining though.

[@Ashenicky2009]

I have 5 cats, one of them absolutely hates children. I have 3 children, the hateful one avoids them like the plague and I do my best to make the oldest 2 to leave her alone and I think my middle child finally has realized she can't mess with that cat but the other 4 are okay. I have a 10 month old baby, and have had the mean one before she was born. I made sure no cats could get to her, and the mean one doesn't go near her. The soon to be mom in the story is extremely ignorant.

[@jessec7221]

Cactus story: my mom did something similar, she planned dozens of rose bushes, she could hear the unsupervised drunk teens crashing and burning in the middle of the night.

[@annyphoenix2099]

I am getting addicted to your intros 😅 I was listening to you while getting ready for the day when this video came up 😁

[@kenshinhimura2322]

On the second story I would have called cps to report the parents for abandoning their kids.

[@dawnfire5600]

Neighbor Kids: Put up NO TRESPASSING signs to protect you if they get hurt on your property. This type of parents would love to sue you.

[@---zw6oc]

That danielle and taylor naming is very smart and a nice way to remember dante

[@sebastianhopkins7322]

This “You owe me monetary compensation for giving birth to you and raising you” attitude NEEDS TO FUCKING STOP! The child in question did not have a say in being conceived and birthed! They did not have the ability to fend for themselves growing up! They did not have the capabilities to do so either while they were growing up! YOU AS THE PARENT MADE THAT CHOICE AND DECISION! THEY OWE YOU NOTHING! YOU WILL GET NOTHING!

[@martinrusev3502]

The dude who shredded his fiance's prom pic has issues. The update was great too.

[@kaylafuller8948]

The first mom is nta. My son has a unique name. His name is Kyson. His middle name is a family name. The guy saying that schools having a zero tolerance for bullying therefore it doesn't not exist is wrong. The truth is schools have a zero tolerance for being a victim of bullying. While I do not think the OP in the house cleaning story is an ahole I will never understand why it is not ok for a man to want a traditional woman but a woman can demand and want a traditional oh wait never mind if feminist didn't have double standards they wouldn't have any standards at all I forgot sorry my short term memory sucks.

[@synnduncan3711]

I'm naming my child Eivor, I'm going to fight everyone.

[@whateveryoureckon420]

Wow. The name story is sad and I can relate. Ever since I was 8 I wanted to name my daughter Lily (HP for life lol). I lost my daughter at 17ish weeks into my pregnancy. We were already calling her lily at that time. Hubby and I had a son after lily and then a daughter. We would never have used lily as a name again- it felt wrong. We loved lily so much and will forever wonder what she would have been. We named our daughter Summer Lily. Our daughter loves her middle name being the same as the sister she never got to meet. But she loves having her own name too (have talked about this with her haha).

[@caitlinserviss]

It's been 4 years. Markee, you sound so young in these. It's like your voice has roughed out over time. I also like that in recent videos you sounds lounder (less soft and less timid). I miss the giggling while watching these, the extra comments that go a bit longer, and what seems like live chaos edited together. But I appreciate where you've come from! I've watched just about every video on your channel and sometimes I get the older compilations in my suggestions. It's a blast from the not so distant past!

[@emeraldqueen1994]

I am someone on the Autism spectrum and I see a fair bit of myself in Gia... and anxiety disorders often go hand in hand with ASD; one is peanut butter the other jelly... you VERY RARELY see ASD without some kind of anxiety disorder. Maybe have her take the Autism Spectrum Quotient (not a diagnosis, but if it says that she’s got Autistic tendencies, you’ll have something to take to her DR. for a referral to an ASD specialist) and please look up Max Derrat (ASD KZbinr who has ASD himself) and “Autisticly Me” for more information.... if you look at my channel I also have a playlist of around 700 videos on ASD “Disability Awareness : Autism” please feel free to check any of these out to help explain this to Gia and the rest of your family... she’s going to need all the support she can get while learning to cope with her disability(s) EDIT : Psychology Today has therapists available for in person visits / video calls for the OP whose daughter destroyed the dress, look there!! 2:25:25 : people with disabilities are often asked to be “sympathy props” by so called “friends” so to see someone used that way by their feoncè solely because of their sexual orientation makes me sick!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@mommyshaw25]

for the spectrum question, doctors seem to have a harder time diagnosing girls with autism as females generally show more emotion then males or at least that's what I was told at the time of my diagnosis. Now a days it may be easier but when I was a kid I was told I had multiple different disorders that made me act certain ways..... come to find out in my 30s that I actually have been showing signs of autism since I was about 4. I hope the niece can get the help she needs if she is indeed on the spectrum.

[@lilmisskristy5467]

I would feel really freaking bad if someone destroyed something precious and close to someone

[@ArthropodJay]

"yes shes blind and that can be seen as ablist" *Do not laugh, i repeat, do not laugh*

[@gremlininblue2601]

If my fam gave even one more of my cats away, I'd fucking flip

[@sandraskellen3172]

I have been watching you for about two weeks now so I subscribed thank you good videos

[@micearenice8963]

This is so late but hardcore NTA on the one who burnt the diaries. If they were meant to go to the other family members they would have. Period. I lost some photos and heard about it for years from my sister whose own mother encroached on her husband and stole her child and beat the daylights out of her but she was a golden goddess in her memory. How dare I Iose those precious photos?

[@elderwolves]

About the burned diaries thing, I understand why overall he's the AH, but I do understand him. I doubt he even thought of his siblings when he finally made the decision to burn them. They're secondary to the conflict he was facing: his relationship to his mother and finally settling those feelings. I'd guess he doesn't even know them very well, since he was never around her. They were probably just on the very outskirts of his thoughts over the months. And by the time he finally decided, he probably was just relieved to have a way to get rid of the diaries and didn't even think of his siblings again until they started asking again about the diaries. Yes, he should have stopped and thought to make copies for his siblings to have as he burned the originals. He really should have, but I still understand his thought process after. What do they need to 'get to know' her for? It seems like after they were born, they got all of her while for the longest time, he barely got scraps. It's not their fault, of course, but those are also the reasons she left them to OP. I suppose it's fair for him to get that judgement, but I honestly don't think it was done to spite the siblings. As with all things regarding their mother, they were aftermath and unfortunate bystanders. But I also can't really blame OP for doing with them as he did. Sometimes you just have to do what you have to. But therapy should definitely be on the table for OP. That's a lot of baggage to carry that he shouldn't have to.

[@macska5097]

For the art one, I think it was alright for the friend to sell the art so long as they gave artist (I'll call them A) credit for creating it. The "middle man"/ friend (I'll call them MM) paid for the pieces, then sold it to others. MM probably should have suggested to A this plan first and allowed them the chance to get some of the reward. If A then said no and then MM sold it anyway it could be argued mm went behind their back, but still aren't in the wrong since MM never claimed the art as their own creation. I guess it also depends on how the Artist saw this. They might be selling the art for cheaper to attract more customers, and if MM sold their art without giving the customer a way to possibly buy future art from A or to recommend their friends to look at the art, then A might see this as loss since they remain unknown to the seller, like it's a loss of advertising. They might charge low hoping more people would direct their friends to buy the art also, hence the potential loss of future business. To maintain the peace, it could have been nice for MM to treat A to a drink or meal with the money they made. A might have taken the lesson a bit easier that way since at least then they still got their original asking price, and a meal on top, showing just how much they were under-pricing their work. If A is still willing to charge lower for the prints, maybe have a set price for "friends and family discount" at the original price, or a "by one get one free" at the higher price to entice new customers. Take it as a lesson, not as theft (which it wasn't, since they got what they originally asked for, and are only upset now that the friend profited by selling it on). I used to make little projects and sold them with friends. I originally was planning on selling them for maybe $5 at the most, even though it took me a while to make each one. My friends (who were selling them directly due to me being unavailable to do so) sold them for $20 on my behalf after discussing with me that I was under-pricing my work, and when I agreed (we compensated saying if they weren't selling to drop price until they would sell) and they gave me the whole amount it sold for. I in turn gave them a percentage of that back since they did the work selling it for me. They got a bit for selling my work, and I got most for making it. The only difference there is that I didn't sell them the work originally, plus I agreed to selling it at a higher price. If someone who had bought that stuff sold it to someone else for $60, I wouldn't care since I got the agreed upon amount, and I'd be grateful if that person then told me so I knew I could charge even more for the same amount of work. While the poster in the original story could have given the artist /something/ for the lesson, they did insist the artist should charge more and the artist didn't listen. That's the difference between OP's friend and my situation. Overall, MM is NTA.

[@lesleykruijt8580]

Family is important, but loyalty is not blind. It is not BECAUSE it's family, THEREFORE you have to be loyal to them, do whatever they want to do, and forgive them for whatever.

[@BUGt95.]

It's trespassing, so no tell them you will call the cops if they don't stay off your property.

[@minagica]

I feel like I've heard all these stories in this very voice before. Didn't realize I've discovered your channel before but I clearly must have

[@Bijou_BellBell]

The university in another country makes me feel physically ill, that’s extremely selfish and could ruin their friends life. What a horrible “friend”

[@CosticDragon]

Reba McEntire said on her show once when a character said you know the saying, boys will be boys. She told them: yeah I’ve heard it, I’ve just never met somebody stupid enough to repeat it.

[@HodajuciParadoks]

I mean...she did told him that she can not have children, he was delusional to think that she does not know what she is talking about. He should have asked for details if he did not understand, what kind of communication is this? And when people say - We deal with it later, means usually we are not serious yet to think about it. NTA.

[@bellajaid]

The swear tax was fucking brilliant 🤣 God that kid is amazing. Blind date: Holy fuck, I wish I had walked out like that. After months of harassment I agreed to one date because my cousin kept pushing it. It didn't go well. He lightly stalked me and threatened to kill himself if I wasn't with him for the next *15* years! It finally stopped a few years ago after blocking God only knows how many accounts.

[@florenceshuler6383]

NTA. You could call a newspaper or a TV news station.

[@cliffjohnson2273]

mom/dad should ask did they report the child abuse to cps as required by law. Child abuse included emotional abuse, not just physical abuse.

[@arleneroberts8886]

Not going to have that relationship long with that attitude

[@arleneroberts8886]

Yta all the way

[@cloud.explorer]

prickly bushes are actually better for wildlife as they give shelter to smaller animals from natural predators that pretty garden flowers dont, also its their property so they can do anything they like, so double win :)

[@blondie7740]

Reporting a teach over a joke, no absolutely not. What he is doing is called grooming. He is testing your boundaries to see what he could get away with. Good for you for reporting him, I guarantee you that this is not the first time he has done this is textbook behavior for a child molester. And I don't care that you are a teenager, he holds all the power, it is not equal, that makes it wrong.

[@theflyingace611]

The OP who is allergic to dogs is NTA. Is the OP supposed to just die of her allergy? Can she just turn off her allergy?

[@arleneroberts8886]

Yta, that’s her things and memories