r/AmITheA--Hole for Getting My Harasser Fired?

[@Dragongirl764]

Story 2 had an update. They ended up in court and John now only gets supervised visits. Amanda no longer gets to see OP or her daughter. Amanda keeps trying to harass them but OP told her she would file charges if she kept it up. OP’s daughter is now in therapy.

[@leohunter801]

Hell yeah, was wondering if that story updated, I'm so glad for OP and especially glad that her kid is in therapy

[@thunderflare59]

Play evil step-mother games, win evil step-mother prizes.

[@guitarbass22]

I really do wish that OP and Sadie the best. My god, the entitlement on the part of her stepmom, and her dad didn’t say a thing…that’s insane.

[@TheMysterieRPGguy]

It's great that OP put the hammer down on her ex and Amanda but I feel sorry for OPs daughter having to go to therapy. It's good she is getting help now, but if she needs therapy it tells me this wasn't a first time thing and Amanda has been mistreating her for a long time and OP just didn't know. Still it's great that OP protected her daughter like a lioness as she should, there so many story about bad parents on reddit it's good to hear there are still good parents as well.

[@voutsider190]

Thank you

[@AtotehZ]

There's a 3rd option with the sister babysitter story. Call the sister first, if she doesn't answer, then the family. Explain to them what the deal is and then call the authorities if there's no immediate reaction.

[@songohan3321]

This is the best option. There are other stories from this subreddit that did exactly that.

[@Ikajo]

Anything but essentially neglecting and abusing a baby. Poor thing...

[@vanzy01]

👍

[@kevinwestfall7030]

One thing the story doesn't mention is if she knew how to take care of a child or had the materials such as diapers to do so or if she was just expected to have them. Either way she should have called the authorities but that information could make somewhat of a difference

[@Richard_Nickerson]

Yeah, I say call the other family members. Blow them up as necessary. Show up unexpectedly and dump the kid on them, that's apparently acceptable to all of them.

[@DrgnLdyLizzie2001]

He should have thought about his family before harassing his late colleague's widow. I have ZERO sympathy for him.

[@KarmaTube5]

That’s the same as flirting with someone who just lost their boyfriend at a funeral

[@gaxalee7392]

Exactly!! Don’t do things you can get fired over if you can’t afford to get fired. He did this to his kid by being a creep.

[@PowerStruggle555]

I have a feeling he had been attracted to her long before the husband died but "wanted to be a gentleman" and not go after her for husband's sake. Then give OP what she "yearns" after the death because he waited long enough

[@limiv5272]

@@KarmaTube5 It's the same as sexually harassing someone who repeatedly told you NO

[@sourisvoleur4854]

Entitled people never consider that their actions might come back to bite them. They think there's nothing wrong with what they're doing and think everybody else agrees.

[@Kelaiah01]

Update on Story 2: "We've had the hearing and our custody arrangement's been modified. Any and all decisions relating to Sadie are made by me, and me alone. John has supervised visitation once a week, and Sadie will continue in therapy to deal with all the issues Amanda and co. have caused her. They tried to push for 50/50 custody split on grounds of alienation (so me trying to put Sadie against her father), but we made it clear from the start that we wanted to keep Amanda and her children away, and wanted supervision only because we don't feel safe leaving him alone as of yet, but that we were open to modifications. Thanks to that, the proof of stealing, and Sadie's therapist's testimony, their claim was thrown out pretty quickly. Amanda's pissed, and has tried to contact me and Sadie, but I made it clear to her that if she keeps harrassing me or my daughter, I'll have to make this known to the authorities. Sadie and I have blocked her everywhere, and any communication between John and us is made through text messages or emails only. I'd like to thank you all for your support throughout all of this, it really means a lot to us. Sending you loads of love!"

[@jgw5491]

Wow! We folks who follow these stories on KZbin don't usually get to hear directly from the OP from Reddit. I'm glad you took the reins in your hands and protected your daughter. And I hope that your ex figures out where he went wrong and fixes his relationship with his kid. ❤‍🩹

[@Resilient_Sage88]

Dad sounds like a piece of work for basically allowing his banshee of a wife to do that to his daughter in the first place and I'm sorry but punishing her because she rightfully got upset they were presumptuous enough to tell her she's switching schools? Heck no.

[@mrlugh]

@@jgw5491 i'm not sure the updater is OP, as they have different names. I think kelaiah is just sharing the update from reddit.

[@Kelaiah01]

@@jgw5491 Oh, no, I'm not the OP from that story. After I heard rslash's narration, I went over to reddit to see if there was an update, and posted said update on here.

[@Kelaiah01]

@@mrlugh Yes, you are correct. x3

[@leinaluo9763]

OP literally did the opposite of rubbing her success in their faces. She called Amanda qualified and educated enough to have a career as successful as her own!!! Like WHAT?!? If anything, she (indirectly) called her lazy and entitled… which she is….

[@lista2308]

very true. This is a prime example of lazy and entitled people logic

[@ked49]

And side note abusive and a thief

[@thetruth1816]

Exactly what I'm thinking..

[@ReverieNightengale]

In the update, the "friend" who told her that evidently isn't working with OP anymore because someone working with HR or something overheard him calling OP a b*tch after she told him she'd rather keep their conversations work-related from now on, lol.

[@cassandracastro2759]

Personal experience: When someone butts in an abuser's way, the abuser's default response is "this is between me and [victim]". Many kinds of abuse are crimes, so no, it's not only between the two.

[@GreenKnight1982]

If you choose to be a stay-at-home mom even though your kids are in school all day long and you have the qualifications to bring in a good income then you have absolutely no right to complain about money whatsoever

[@analyticalchick3064]

Even if she's working, it's not the responsibility of the stepsister's mom to finance your kids.

[@DarkEinherjar]

Yeah, I would've called police and possibly CPS right away if a parent had dropped a child at my doorstep without my consent.

[@gabopr1365]

I would have taken the kid and raised it to be my kid, if she was that willing to leave the kid at the doorstep she clearly didn’t want it

[@benjie128]

On the last story. I'm a teacher. The amount of pressure teenagers are put under to basically get their entire future decisions in order with tests, graduation and college is no joke. One study put it as enough stress that would send people to an insane asylum decades ago.

[@katwitanruna]

We need to have a gap year like they do in UK.

[@OneEyeShadow]

But they have smartphones, so it's basically a wash /s

[@shortstix7505]

Oh yeah, I've basically been told to my face that I'm getting kicked out if i don't go to college. Plus me being a younger sibling I've been told to figure out college, highschool and career stuff since 5th grade (luckily my older brother has been able to pull me out of just not caring about it anymore because it stressed me out so I'm actually getting somewhere)

[@KellyDVance]

My kiddo is in 1st grade this year. She goes to a extremely academically focused school. But they don't have AP classes because all of their classes are considered AP level. It is very much a sink or swim environment. Even with high school 8 years away, we are already considering if we should move her to a different school for high school so she can rank better. If we, her parents, are already considering this and feel pressured, I can't imagine what the actual students are feeling.

[@mama2pokemon]

My kids are special needs, and had an accommodation for 50% reduced workload. We had some teachers refuse to follow that accommodation (which is a violation of federal law to refuse). With that, one Special Ed teacher was citing the idea that the "homework is to prepare them for college, and both should require 2-3 hours of homework per 1 hour in class, and the college won't give that accommodation." What?!?! No. High school kids are in class 36 hours a week. (That would add 72-108 hours of homework, totaling 108-144 hours per week. There are only 168 hours in a week.) Full time college is 12-16 hours per week. In college, you can get a reduced workload by taking fewer classes. Our high school wouldn't allow that; I tried.

[@sierraj.1459]

For the childfree girl, she should have just called the cops immediately lol I am childfree myself-I'm just baffled by that she thought it'd be better to leave em outside for 4 hours alone.

[@GeorgeVCohea-dw7ou]

It was not her responsibility. Mother Karen abandoned her child, it had nothing to do with her sister. Sister made it clear that the child was unwanted and unwelcome, getting directly involved would have made her somewhat liable for the situation. Leaving it exactly where it was placed was the correct answer and may have taught the immature 23 year old a valuable life lesson. Authorities would not have been so lenient to Mother Karen. Karens rarely learn from their ignorance, however. If it happens again, police should be called as a courtesy. _Someone abandoned a child on my front porch and appear to have left the scene a half hour ago. I need one of you lot to come take it off of my property!_ Yeah, the authorities are most probably not going to simply pick the child up and leave the house just like that. This step blows at least an hour! An inquiry will be made and questions will be asked. I loath to get the authorities involved, unless absolutely necessary, and it seems like sister was doing Mother Karen a favour the first time. Mother Karen made a huge mistake, but anything further should be construed as straight up abuse!

[@maubrey2095]

@@GeorgeVCohea-dw7ou It is true but anything could have happened in those 4 hours. OP may not notice if the child was snatched away within those 4 hours. Also did she just watch the kid soil himself for 4 hours?! What if he's hungry, thirsty, and he's obviously uncomfortable, confused and probably scared. She should have immediately call the sister, if she does not respond, other family members, if not, the authorities. OP has every right to be mad to her sister but she punished the kid while doing so.

[@GeorgeVCohea-dw7ou]

@@maubrey2095 If the child was snatched away, it would have made the situation easier, just assume mother Karen did it. The other stuff was mother Karen's responsibility, it would always be mother Karen's responsibility, until someone else partially and affirmatively accepts, and this didn't happen! Mother Karen abandoned her child all willy-nilly, and there is nothing around this. You cannot put a karen's actions on anyone else. The world doesn't revolve around karen's whims!

[@DopeioThePhoneBoi]

Baffled? I'm furious. I'm ALSO childfree, and dislike children . But what kind of disconnected psychopath leaves a crying, unprotected infant on their stoop for 4 hours? Call social services or the cops! Someone could have abducted and harmed that child. If you see a child being abused, you don't just...not say anything, because you're childfree. Ludicrous. 4/5 BH for her. What a fucking weirdo.

[@AmazingAutist]

@@GeorgeVCohea-dw7ou it has nothing to do with not being a responsibility. If you see a child alone out in the wilderness, you just going to walk away because it's not your responsibility? No, you call the cops or something because that child cannot fend for itself and is out alone in the elements were literally Anything Could Happen resulting in the child's death or severe bodily harm. When a child is left out in dangerous conditions, there is no time or justification to play the responsibility game. Yes the mother was wrong, but the op was even more wrong for literally neglecting, abandoning, and endangering a child. A child that's in diapers no less. I mean seriously. If you know over to child being abused, do you just not do or say anything and completely ignore the situation because it's not your business? You psychopath.

[@eldenlion5850]

There’s a special place in hell for people, man or woman, who see a widow as an opportunity to get laid. NTA I feel for his kid, but his dad should’ve taken it into consideration before he chose to keep trying to get with someone who already declined.

[@animeotaku307]

He should have taken his kid into consideration before trying to hook up with a grieving widow who never met him before.

[@hichigoshirosaki3665]

I mean, had it been awhile and she was comfortable with moving on, I feel like its acceptable. From a devils advocate POV. Because in a way, its no different than dating after divorce. But yea, the asshole move was swooping in like a damn buzzard (I'd say vulture, but he doesn't have enough class) and bothering some poor random widow.

[@animeotaku307]

@@hichigoshirosaki3665 Not when her husband died three weeks ago.

[@hichigoshirosaki3665]

@@animeotaku307 bruh, i literally explicitly stated that the exception to your "special place in hell" comment was *if* it'd been awhile. I also stated that the asshole move here wasn't the fact he tried to shoot his shot, it was the fact that one, he was on the clock, having no business trying to get laid, and two, it was way too soon. We're saying the same thing, I'm just stating a different opinion that widows are just as available as someone divorced, its just a question of do they want to.

[@eldenlion5850]

@@hichigoshirosaki3665 I'd agree had it been an amount of time the op deemed satisfactory to move on and made that call herself.

[@HatsuneTetoLuver21]

For the last story, there are people out there who are so bitter and resentful about their past or upbringing that they never got over it and it somehow twisted their mentality to "I was miserable at that age, so you deserve to feel just as miserable so that I feel better about myself". It's basically an advanced form of misery loves company

[@kevinmencer3782]

It's called the cycle of abuse, and it's one of the most horrifying things about the human experience.

[@Vearru]

I genuinely can’t understand that mentality, I’ve been miserable for most of my life, and all it did was motivate me to help as many people as I can to not have to suffer in their life.

[@Scarlett.Granger]

OP of the second story should definitely document all this crap and go to court over it, no ifs and whens. Also, even if you buy cheap clothes from target, there is literally NO reason to get a child clothes that are deliberately ill-fitting and the wrong size. They are doing everything to make that poor girl miserable, and are going on to turn that bullying into full-blown abuse. Gosh no.

[@Ruchunteur]

Also there is no reason that OP couldn't keep her already bought clothes and that the siblings get the newer target ones.. Those parents are crazy. Not sure if going to court right away is the right thing to do but documenting it in case it escalate is for sure.

[@A_Rose_From_Concrete]

When they said the clothes were a smaller size I immediately thought they were swapping the 12 year old's clothes with the younger children. I don't really think they are deliberately buying ill fitted clothes

[@Scarlett.Granger]

@@Ruchunteur i think she should go to court right away, because minor crimes like small thefts can lapse if you don't report them quick enough and if the mum has main custody, it's her right to choose the daughters school and he broke custodial law. She should definitely report him to have the documents of his wrongdoing if she needs it in a case against him.

[@Scarlett.Granger]

@@A_Rose_From_Concrete that can still cause health issues for children in their growing phases, so absolute no. Doesn't matter why, even if they give her cheap clothes they have to be her size.

[@guitarbass22]

Check the comments. Apparently there is an update to this story, and the families have been to court. I am so glad that the OP is taking this seriously, and her daughter is no longer forced to live in that abusive home for even one more minute.

[@frootsnacc6790]

Final story: She also showed MORE responsibility choosing to tell her father about how the hot water ran out sooner than normal. Most teens would probably just brush it off and wait until their parents are home to tell them, out of fear of being called irresponsible

[@MaryJimenezUniversalProfile]

I think that the father is actually sick. Brain cancer is not the only thing that causes personality changes. I would RUN to the doctors for STD control, those are usually silent and people only learn about them waaaaay too late

[@threegsgaming6959]

Final story: I actually flinched when he said “He’s transforming… into a BOOMER.” DEAR GOD NO!!!! I really hope OP took her daughter and got out of there. This guy needs therapy or he’s only gonna get worse towards Annie.

[@Gue5762Gue]

One of the reasons why I try to stay off social media tbh. :/ its not all bad, but it very much can make small things worse.

[@DarcOne13]

Yeah, get him off the web before he finds Q-Anon and Alex Jones. He's gonna hurt someone.

[@ramenbomberdeluxe4958]

@@DarcOne13 Oh my GOD dont even make me THINK about that horror show! I do think, however, with the fall of Alex Jones happening, only his most blind zealots will continue to support him at this rate, as he IS being charged for the crap he's spewed about Sandy Hook.

[@Ruchunteur]

@@Gue5762Gue No need to stay away. It's not all bad (you are on youtube after all, it's a form of social media. We wouldn't have a discussion here if it wasn't). Blaming the entirety of social media is like blaming the all gen z. It's not a good thing to reduce peoples or thing to the worse they can be. Just stay clear of the hateful part of the social media universe and you should be fine..

[@BonnieHalfElven]

Um, I'm a boomer, and I don't buy into conspiracy theories, and I don't "Kids these days...." Geez. Stop putting everyone in one box.

[@GeekBot404]

adults then:"we want our children to grow up without struggles in their lives" adults now:"kids these don't understand the hardships of being an adult!"

[@Maehock]

There's always been both types of parents in each generation.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

Literally every single generation

[@ReverieNightengale]

This has been a thing since the dawn of civilization. You'll always have the older types whining about how "kids these days are lazy and do everything different and I don't like it!" Never mind the fact that the new generation will suffer longer because of the selfishness of the elders.

[@heythanksforcheckinginimst8323]

You mean “decent parents vs “narcissistic parents”

[@ScooterBond1970]

Agreed, the obvious (you'd think) balance of "we want our kids to have a good life but we need to teach them to be prepared for hardship" is rare.

[@Nerobyrne]

"She's lucky I didn't call the cops" No, actually, that's what you SHOULD do when someone abandons a kid on your property.

[@Ezghiel]

100% agree. You want to stick to your boundaries, punish your sister, and not watch the kid? Call the cops. Call CPS. But leaving a child young enough to be in DIAPERS unattended isn't just punishing your sister, it's punishing the kid. The child is innocent in this, and is NOT old enough to be alone. They could have been hurt, abducted, or killed! By all means, stick to your guns and call the authorities, but don't put an innocent child in danger in the process. That's messed up.

[@yougosquishnow]

Exactly. That's what she should have done. What she did was the asshole move.

[@anderssorenson9998]

Two people abandoned the same kid on the same day, both of these arseholes should be prosecuted.

[@BLACKOUTSSBU]

​@yougosquishnow no, not her kid, not her problem

[@BLACKOUTSSBU]

​@anderssorenson9998 no, she did nothing illegal. She didnt accept the kid because its not hers.

[@kelsieswain7187]

I predict that the last story made RSlash so flustered that he immediately went upstairs to tell his wife like “YOU WOULD NOT BELIEVE PARENTS THESE DAYS”.

[@juliairzyk]

The girl in the second story isn't selfless, she's a victim of abuse. She gave away her clothes because she was conditioned to and not to complain. I'm glad she's in therapy.

[@better.better]

yeah that really depends on how it went down though. for example it sounds like that's the first time that happened, and the point was that when OP wanted to go get the clothes back, she expressed that she didn't mind sharing. in other words stepmoms actions are abuse, but her response was not the result of that, and this is later proven by her comment about stepmom being a thief... she's putting the blame where it belongs, not taking it on her own shoulders the way conditioned abuse victims do. the therapy is probably court-ordered due to the details of the situation rather than something she chose to do on her own.

[@amberandrews6692]

It was stated that she didn't even give away her clothes, that she let them have them because they were taken away.

[@Calmputer]

*First story:* *"You can't ask people to resolve stuff privately when that is literally where the abuse consistently takes place."* - Sam Thorne.

[@animeotaku307]

What’s more, that’s what OP tried to do! She told the guy “I’m not interested, please stop.” And the guy refused. OP just took it to the next level. Guy had his chance and he blew it.

[@ismae-rienne4991]

Hold up. OP DID go to the guy first. She DID tell him to stop. He ignored it and kept going, so, he made his bed and now he HAS to lie in it.

[@Fallenfromgrace1990]

Something is bugging me with it. OP didn't even know who this person was, just that her husband worked with him, suggesting her husband never introduced them. So why would her husband give this colleague his wife's number if they haven't even met? It makes me believe he got the number another way and just blamed it on her husband giving this colleague her number. Dude is 50 shades of red and super creepy.

[@deleteduser6872]

Op is the ah

[@whyamihere1563]

@@deleteduser6872 huh?

[@SoicAngellis]

@@deleteduser6872 This one specifically fucks over your copypasta response, so why do you still think OP is the ah?

[@andredunbar3773]

@@whyamihere1563 The person you replied to is defending that creep.

[@TJDious]

Leaving a child with someone without consent is abandonment, period. Police should have been called.

[@reiyasombaz5056]

Exactly. That was my first thought. You don't leave a child outside alone in your backyard for four hours. Call the police straight away, explain the situation.

[@stuartthornton3027]

​@@reiyasombaz5056exactly, OP is just as guilty of abandonment and neglect as the disgusting parent.

[@luismakeup08]

​@@reiyasombaz5056yeah you need to call the police, if the baby dies you can go to jail sadly

[@BLACKOUTSSBU]

​@luismakeup08 no she cant. If a kid dies on your property when you didnt want them there then its not your fault

[@DaijDjan]

​​@@BLACKOUTSSBU That massively depends on where you live. She knew the child was out there, so in many places, that would make her legally (not morally - no need to try and convince me there^^) at least partly responsible if something would have happened to the baby.

[@jenniferann7212]

First story: OP should have gone to the cops as well as the guy's work. He was harassing her. He thought they should have "talked it out?" Talk what out? She said stop, there was nothing to talk about.

[@mostar1219]

No no that's the thing he didn't want to talk it out naturally he wanted them to talk it out only if her answer was yes

[@crimeneysake6207]

And unsolicited D-pics are modern flashing. Illegal almost everywhere.

[@TheWolfie234]

Just a little note to addd. I feel the second story those parents deserve 5/5 Ahs... you don't steal from a child. especially as her other clothes are the wrong size and stuff. Yes its a mature thing... but its still upsetting and she should get her stuff back. Stealing from kids is child abuse even in this situation.

[@TheRedwater357]

Also of note: they were putting at least two children in clothes that don't fit, given the fact that Sadie's a different size from the other kid goes both ways.

[@kelsmister]

If I had to guess they returned the outfits to exchange for the right size.

[@limiv5272]

@@kelsmister Hmm not sure they could, they had no way to ensure Sadie wore brand new clothes the store would still take back

[@ShiroTheTraveler]

Yeah.. Sometimes I don't understand Dabneys way of butthole rating

[@leandrodlamas8993]

Info and update about story 2: She got them into court. All decissions about Sadie are going to be taken by OP and OP only from now on. Demanding to take back the stolen clothes. Sadie is going to therapy. Husband has 1 day visit. The other mom has no permission to talk to Sadie/OP. Amanda called them actually, enraged. Told them that if she does it again, authorities will be called. It all ended well.

[@thetruth1816]

Amazing to hear.. Amanda is a complete and utter POS who doesn't deserve any happiness at all

[@Scarlett.Granger]

Great update! I was hoping OP would call authorities on them before they bully the poor kid even more.

[@Josh_the_jester]

Is the visitation supervised?

[@TJDious]

Good.

[@Tustin2121]

@@Josh_the_jester yes

[@austinriley8410]

In Texas, what Ted did is illegal. It’s a misdemeanor to send unsolicited sexually explicit messages. It’s a $500 fine for doing so. Something like 40% of women have to deal with that shit at some point, so it’s a good law.

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

Here's hoping that law goes both ways.

[@khailah101]

@@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement Considering that it punishes unsolicited sexually explicit messages, I don't see why not.

[@kalimaxine]

No joke. I've received dick pics that I definitely did not ask for. From random strangers to boot. I just hope my daughter never has to go through this. Although, I highly doubt it. Some men (and women) are just disgusting.

[@calhuh1232]

@@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement Obviously

[@silverflight01]

Story 4: Oof, I hate this behavior. If you have someone that hates the younger generations to this extent, you need to get them off the internet and get them therapy or some treatment, because it can lead to abusive behavior (which more-or-less was happening in the story). Also, isn't the whole point to make life easier for kids? Like, why go the other way?

[@Scarlett.Granger]

Also lol for hating a generation that you yourself raised. Like dude, if the whole generation really was shitty, that's kinda your fault as their parents, no? Really weird.

[@ceciasa3376]

IKR! This is some twisted logic here. I wonder if all this hatred is based off of Misinformation or jealousy. I mean, how can you hate your own flesh and blood just because they were born into a generation that you don't like?? Like, where is the logic in that?!

[@Avrysatos]

That generation is so entitled. Umm. Those are the kids y'all raised so..... I want gen z to have more freedom and success than I had any chance for. I am not a parent even.

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

@@ceciasa3376 There is no logic. Only unreconciled emotional charges brought about by various factors, most of which, are likely idiotic in nature.

[@kalimaxine]

Right! My kids are gen z. And I feel like I have to stick up for their whole generation to a few people. It's disgusting. We are supposed to want a better life for our children. Not a harder one. And sadly, it does seem to be getting harder.

[@em-kie]

Story 3: Should have called the cops over neglecting the child. Never ever take personal issues or arguments out on children.

[@garfeld625]

Victim blaming is so funny. Like they did a crime or something wrong, you, the person who was wronged, tell people I did things wrong and for some reason the consequences of their actions are your fault. If he didn't want to get fired, he shouldn't harrass people

[@Bremend]

Well, that's what happens to rape victims as well. Interestingly enough, when you suggest having the same crime committed against them, they suddenly change their tune

[@agentmaryland1239]

@@Bremend Yeah that's what happens when rapists think they are entitled to someone else's body. A lot of people think it's impossible to deal with rape crimes because 'how can you prove it'. Well, look a little deeper into it, not every case is simple, so stop treating it like it should be. If you can't determine if the victim is in fact a victim, send both to different facilities for rehab. At least try to do SOMETHING. If you let it slide, it's going to happen again.

[@akl2k7]

@@Bremend Yeah, the whole "ruining their future over a few minutes of fun". Like, if you have a kid, wouldn't you want to avoid doing anything that could hurt their livelihood? If you have a promising future, why would you do something that could jeopardize that? Some people don't think about the consequences of their own actions.

[@KHTimeProtecter]

Second story: No. The daughter isn’t showing grace and giving away her clothes. She’s being groomed to think that’s what’s happening while being trained to be a doormat. And because of her good upbringing, she’s all the more susceptible to it.

[@pollypockets508]

She's definitely showing grace because she could have thrown a fit justifiably. It came from her own 12 year old heart. I do agree that the mom can take that, point out the positive and then let her know that she can stand up.for herself.

[@tychul]

I agree

[@Darkloid21]

@@pollypockets508 no it didn’t it came from the parents trying to guilt her

[@KHTimeProtecter]

@@pollypockets508 And that’s what worries me the most. She’s NOT acting like a 12-year-old should and getting justifiably angry. Meaning that this abuse is being normalized for her. Thankfully the OP got her out of that situation.

[@mrlugh]

@@KHTimeProtecter we simply don't know. It is possible that she's aware that she's better off and (initially) didn't mind sharing with those less fortunate, particularly supposed family members. Perhaps OP and daughter does volunteer work, or OP has explained about 3rd world countries, etc. it is possible for 12-year olds to be compassionate. We do hear later in the story the daughter saying the step-family steals, so she's clearly able to self-determine when she was no longer willing to tolerate their escalating behaviour (assuming OP didn't put those words into her mouth).

[@threegsgaming6959]

Second story: NTA. Go OP! How dare John and Amanda try to take Sadie out of a school OP pays for after stealing from them??? Cut them out and don’t look back.

[@d.phantomfan1216]

First story: If what he did wasn't a big deal, and his work had nothing to do with it, then why did he get fired? If you flirt with people outside of the office after work hours then it's not his office business, even if the person comes to their job to complain. But that's not what happened, he was sexually harassing a co-worker's widow, meaning he was harassing and employees family which is something people can and will get fired.

[@mrlugh]

there are some instances in the news where somebody did something unethical but otherwise legal and completely unrelated to their work, and their employer fired them (and was later forced to rehire them). I don't agree with people who try to end others' career over a difference in politics, religion, etc. However, _in this case_, the perp sexually harassed OP via the workplace, and was dealt with appropriately.

[@agentmaryland1239]

Well the thing of it is, when you get hired to work somewhere, your behavior is basically the face of the company. If people can identify you and connect you back to the place of employment, everything you do even outside of the working hours given can and will represent the company at a face value. So if you have an employee harassing people outside work hours and the victims find out, that comes back to smack the company in the face. Because they'll be labeled as harassment enforcers or encouragers for knowingly hiring or keeping hired on those who actively harass people. So even if you're not the FACE of the company, you still represent the company just by working there.

[@KumiChan2004]

She could have went to the police instead of the company since he found it so rude that she did that.

[@steveboone1498]

Ted deserves to get fired for sexual harassment and I don't know how many other women have been harassed by him during his tenure.

[@C.G.Gaster]

@@KumiChan2004 man, i wonder how bad it would have been then. I know that some places you can actually be charged with a misdemeanor for that, and/or pay a fine. I wonder what the company would do when they found that out. Something on your permanent record and being fired from a previous place. I think he was lucky.

[@silverflight01]

Story 2: They're jealous that OP is doing better financially and is expressing that in the worst way possible by stealing and trying to pull Sadie out of private school. Please don't do stuff like this.

[@madambutterfly1997]

The man clearly couldn’t even bother to wait until his colleagues Dead body was cold. Men like this are disgusting. They can’t get dates regularly so they go after grieving widows, because there is this social belief that widows are easy targets and low hanging fruit in the dating scene. The phrase “a shoulder to cry on it becomes a d*k to ride on” gets passed around a lot.

[@tehilagrunebaum-lake6982]

1st story: NTA he got what he deserved, if he was harassing OP he was probably harassing other women as well. Talk about tactless, what a creep. 2nd story: NTA OP has full custody she is the one who decides where her daughter goes to school and how she lives. The ex and the Step mom have no right to punish her and demand that she go to a different school. Also taking clothes from a child!? Are you insane? OP definitely is raising her daughter right because she was super kind giving her clothes to her step siblings but in turn this is the kindness that the ex and Step mom show her. Punishing her for being rightfully upset at their demands? I can see why OP broke up with this asshole what a shitty dad. 3rd story: OP could've handled that better. The sister is wrong for dumping the kid on her but OP should not have just left the baby sitting in the front. Say the baby got hurt like fell over and OP ignored them. Im going to say ESH Story 4: OPs husband is sus as hell, what does he have to be mad about!? Shes a good girl does well in school and even does the chores unprompted. Also why would OPs husband turn the hot water to only use once a day??? Update: uh oh, daddys gone maaaaad. Seriously dude its the internet dont take everything you read so seriously. From now on if the husband acts like this just say "Okay boomer" it would drive him nuts. He may need a serious wake up call

[@justasentientmclarenp1879]

Based

[@Jynxxy13ravedoll]

Story 3 if the baby was in a car seat they literally could have died. If left sleeping in a car seat a baby's head can move into a position that cuts off their airway and they can suffocate. The sister was in the wrong and you don't respond to being put in that situation with neglect which is literally a form of child abuse.

[@tehilagrunebaum-lake6982]

@@Jynxxy13ravedoll i agree with you but OPs sister should never have just assumed that her sister would look after the baby What if OP had an important event to go to? Did the sister just assume OP would stop everything and just babysit? Its very entitled OP is wrong for the neglect but the sister is also wrong for basically just leaving her kid on OPs doorstep thats technically child abandonment OP should have called the police honestly, have Child Protective services come for the kid and investigate her sister

[@Scarlett.Granger]

Imagine you have a TEEN child getting mad about her doing the dishes what the FRICK, never ever heard something this weird lol.

[@Jono997]

I know right? Like, if he was there in the moment, rather than on the phone, I'd be surprised if they didn't have one less plate afterwards because she smashed his face in with it.

[@crimeneysake6207]

And laundry.

[@akl2k7]

Yeah, it was a trap for an excuse to yell at her. There's something seriously wrong with him if he thinks that's okay.

[@chubbyanimalenthusiast70]

For the 3rd story it would’ve been better to call the sister several times if nothing happens call the cops

[@hadeskingoftheunderworld7010]

Nah, don't call the sister at all, that shit is child abandonment. Call the cops

[@BunnyQueen97]

Story 3: not sure how I feel about this one, I'd call the police before I left a helpless baby unattended for four hours.

[@Ryder-the-Creator]

I would’ve called the police immediately if I was OP.

[@hadeskingoftheunderworld7010]

As soon as the sister left I would call the police

[@michaelhammerbach9821]

Just a friendly reminder for everyone: "no" is a complete sentence.

[@Bladewalker1]

In the story of OP's sister telling her one reason why she (the sister) will be over at OP's house, then showing up expecting OP to babysit. When the other family members text/called her saying she should of babysat. OP should of replied with something like... "oh okay, so you are telling me that you'll be happy to look after the baby".

[@mariad.5823]

Both my parents were always like the father in the last story. I was listening to it with "ah, typical parents being parents... Wow, why did the mother disagree with the father?!". It is always good to be reminded that this is not normal

[@emilymanning6011]

Daughter: I did the dishes and laundry Dad: You're grounded.

[@Ryder-the-Creator]

Tbh, I wouldn’t be surprised if that were to happen.

[@Scarlett.Granger]

Kinda worried about the kid in the last story, if he's on social media turning into a weird raging boomer and he's already complaining about her clothing it won't be long until he discovers some nice guy or alpha male forums or some "instagram for females is cheating because they are possessions of the boyfriends" podcast shit. Urgh.

[@graphicginger7870]

On story two, I'm getting REAL tired of hearing about these "friends" who hear this LUDICROUS behavior and then have the GALL to say that you're in the wrong, like, DUDE?! DID WE HEAR THE SAME STORY?! If my friend told me that happened to them I'd be so mad for them! These people need better friends.

[@miguelaguilar7675]

Boomer-like parents often feel attacked if things are "different" and "easier" for younger people/children. As if their life and "struggles" were invalidated.

[@nancyjay790]

Hm. I'm a boomer. Ancient, crusty, bout ready to crumble into dust. And I'm actually happy that things are easier for younger generations. I like it. I want things to be better. It's the kind of stuff we used to try to push for during Our University days. Unfortunately, things are NOT easy for young people. But I want it to happen anyway. Because I haven't lost the ideals of my youth.

[@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement]

@@nancyjay790 Good on ya.

[@leohunter801]

Second story i agree with rslash, even though OP comes off a little braggy, but the third story has me with just one question: why didnt OP call the cops and tell them "hey so my sister left her child with me and just left, I did not agree to watch him so I'm calling to let you know that the mother of this child just left him at my doorstep"

[@jenniferann7212]

I'm with Rslash on story 2. I have nothing but respect for SAHPs...many of them make that choice because they feel it's better for the kids, with more advantages than the extra money would be. But then you have to own that choice, and help their own kids see why it was made.

[@rainingwhenidie]

First story: not the asshole, she already talked it out with Ted and he continued to sexually harass her. If he didn't want to get fired, he should've thought about the consequences before he did that. Op didn't do anything wrong and it's probably for the best because there's a chance that she wasn't the only person Ted was harassing. Story two: op did literally nothing wrong and neither did Sadie. Amanda sounds very entitled. I just hope that this doesn't escalate any further. Story three: dude. I don't like kids and I don't want kids, so I could understand op at the beginning of the story. The sister was being really entitled and should've hired a babysitter. But the moment that kid was on your doorstep, you had a responsibility to deal with them by either calling the police, or taking care of them yourself. You don't just leave a CHILD unable to take care of themself on your doorstep. Of course the sister's an asshole here, but you took it way too far. You punished the kid for something their mom did, it's not their fault that their mom's entitled. I don't care if you're childfree, you don't just neglect a kid. Op is a massive asshole for this and honestly, they deserve the messages they've been getting from family members. It may not have been right for your sister to leave her kid on your doorstep, but it wasn't right to just leave them there and act like they don't exist. What the fuck is wrong with you? I'm disgusted, appalled, and whatever other adjectives apply. It's disappointing and a bit shocking that op can't see how they're the asshole. Yikesssssssss. EDIT: after finding the original story for the third one, it got EVEN WORSE bc apparently, a baby can die of asphyxiation if they're in a carrier for too long. The maximum is 2 hours, and op left them for 4. So not only did they neglect this kid and leave them covered in their own filth, they could've gotten that baby killed. Op is lucky that the kid ended up okay, but this makes the situation ten times worse. If I were in that family, I wouldn't even be on speaking terms with them anymore. Sister gets a 3/5 score, but op gets a 5/5. They literally put this baby's life in danger because it was too much of an inconvenience. Absolutely fucking disgusting. Story four: op's husband is the asshole 100%. This guy has definitely been radicalized by social media. Get him offline and get him to touch some grass, I'd recommend therapy as well, unless you just want him to become one of those Qanon weirdos.

[@CraftHeggie]

Second story had an update: OP got full custody and blocked the ex’s wife. Ex hubby has visitation once a week.

[@neilprice513]

The first story: There are stories about former/current employees of a company getting the personal information of someone else in the company, usually from a HR contact and using them. The company then finds out and fires and/or sues that d0uche employee because they opened up the company to heavy legal and regulatory trouble for breach of privacy. It might not have been the s£xual harassment that solely got the d0uchebag fired, it might have been more about him stealing OP's contact info from her late husband's HR file.

[@maieen2665]

*First OP:* Is OP the AH for filing a report on a guy who’s harassing her? _While OP’s grieving the loss of her husband_ !? That creep is lucky that’s _all_ he got! OP is NTA. *Second OP:* Again, the offending parties got off easily. Amanda _stole_ from OP (I say OP, and not Sadie because OP paid for those clothes), told Sadie that she and OP’s ex are pulling her out of her private school, _then_ they punish Sadie for being understandably upset! I bet Sadie didn’t even “blow up” at John and Amanda as they claimed. She probably expressed her feelings in a reasonable manner. OP is NTA. *Third OP:* This may be a controversial opinion, but I’m gonna say ESH. OP’s sister is TA for dumping her son on OP without asking. OP is TA for leaving a baby outside her house. Since everyone but OP’s dad are hounding OP for her actions, OP could’ve called one of those people and have _them_ look after the baby. Ohh, OP’s husband is on some Boomer 5hit. That explains it. I agree that OP’s husband needs a break from social media. Please keep rSlash’s blood vessels in your thoughts. He very likely popped at least one of them after the fourth story.

[@deleteduser6872]

First op is the ah.

[@blue_lux]

@@deleteduser6872 Unless you're the guy who harassed her,I really can't see how you think she's an AH

[@qazisgone7292]

@@deleteduser6872 how

[@ramenbomberdeluxe4958]

@@deleteduser6872 YIKES Red flag for the women in your life, chief 😬

[@maxsupernova]

@@deleteduser6872 Are you an actual monster, or do you just play one on KZbin?

[@ASHE_ATTACC]

I genuinely don't understand how people can be homophobic or transphobic Like..what's so wrong about people minding their own business? Oh, how DARE these gays try and live a life without harassment and death threats?! They should know better to want basic human rights!! Like??

[@Threadnaught]

Getting your dick sucked is not a basic human right and just because someone does not want to suck your dick does not mean they are acting out of a hatred specifically of you. "If you want your dick sucked so bad, choke on it." in response to sexual harassment, is not a death threat or abuse aimed at LGBT. Your wants do not become basic human rights just because of what you want to do with your body.

[@VicGeorge2K6]

My motto is, "If you want people to mind their own business, maybe don't advertise your private business to the public."

[@Fr0gl_t]

@@VicGeorge2K6 soo you want gay and trans people to hide in the shadows like they used to have to because they feared for their lives??

[@ricochet0928]

Exactly! It's never made sense to me! Like, it's literally just people trying to live their lives, _who cares_ who they're romantically involved with as long as both parties are consenting??? And _why_ do they care so much about a thing that literally doesn't affect them in any way, shape, or form???

[@ThEjOkErIsWiLd00]

Here's the way I put it: If I'm not sexually involved with someone, why should I care who they're having sex with as long as everyone's over 18 and consenting? If I'm not marrying someone, why should I care who they're marrying?

[@jdangel6892]

I'd say the reasons I enjoy your videos more than others who cover the same stuff is your reaction and your thoughts at the end of every story. You don't just say a couple of things and ask other people to say how they feel. You make it a goal to help and give advice on every story.

[@tokyobateman6610]

Ikr it’s hilarious to hear rSlash’s brain short-circuiting after reading the 4th story

[@katie6731]

Am I the butthole for laughing when rslash's brain glitched out at the end from trying to understand why a father would want his daughter to have a more difficult life than he had?

[@DisneyFanatic2364]

Story 3: Yes, the sister shouldn't have left the kid there. Still...you don't just LEAVE THE KID IN THE ENTRYWAY FOR FOUR HOURS THAT IS FREAKING DANGEROUS! True you didn't agree to it, but you still could've found someone else or yeah, called child services. That wasn't fair on the KID! Oh wow. Doesn't matter how you feel about kids you don't just ABANDON THEM!

[@owl7072]

Story 2: "You're rubbing your success in their face" Oh yes, how dare Op _~checks notes~_ have a good career and provide for her child like a parent should.

[@nils920]

Story 1: On what planet is it okay to commit sexual harassment, but reporting it so the offender gets in trouble isn't?! If Ted was so concerned for his livelihood, maybe, just maaaaayyyyybe he shouldn't have done what he did? NTA Story 2: The minute you get a divorce, you are 100% NOT responsible for your (ex) fiancé's finances. Also, there should be a special layer of hell for parents who STEAL FROM THEIR CHILDREN! Whether or not they're their biological children. NTA.

[@pentagrin4157]

Tbh, baby neglect to that degree should get a 5/5 butthole score. An unchanged diaper left for hours can have SERIOUS health consequences for the baby, and at best is very painful.

[@OneEyeShadow]

I'd also argue that the total score of OP in this story is the baseline score of their sister. So if OP gets a 5/5 the sister gets a 6/5.

[@reh3884]

That's STILL not the OP's problem, it's the B*tch that abandoned the child.

[@taylorpnw612]

@@OneEyeShadow agreed, The sister is worse because she's actually the mother who put her child down in an entryway and left to do her own thing without making sure her kid would be taken care of.

[@zerofate9669]

That story pissed me off on both sisters. Yeah it's OK to not like children, everyone is free to choose if they want or don't want kids or like them. But however, op toy took this out on a baby. An innocent infant who can't even walk or talk. Crime is a thing, that child could have been kidnapped or killed on the spot. And who will be blamed for this. Both of yall. Your sister for dumping the kid on you without consent and you for letting this happen on your property. Next time, call your folks, tell them you gonna call the police for child neglect if someone doesn't get the baby, give them a fixed time of 1 hour to get the kid. No one shows up, make the call. And for God sake just bring the baby inside away from danger. Don't be an asshole to a child who did nothing to you.

[@KarmaTube5]

I think both sisters sick in this situation, but the family, I gotta good idea why they were upset

[@coniwiiuwu5578]

Gotta say, OP from the third story really had me in the first half, I was completely on her side about her sister being an entitled butt until SHE LEFT AN INFANT IN HER PORCH WITHOUT LOOKING AT IT FOR 4 HOURS? What in the actual hell, calling the police would have been a hundred times better than what she did. This is borderline sociopathic behavior, how can you hate a human so much, just for the crime of being a kid, that you would rather leave them alone fully knowing that they could die unattended… OP has got issues. I understand being child free and not wanting to look after other people’s children, but this is straight up child abuse, the baby is not to blame for the sister being entitled. OP deserves the full 5/5 imo (obviously the sister too).

[@crimsonshadow1477]

That last story is a perfect example of why social media like Facebook and twitter are absolute blights upon humanity, I've used them for years but lately I've just found myself dropping them from devices and just...switching off, it's done wonders for my mental health as well so I fully recommend a social media shut off

[@ndrayer2670]

In reference to the last story: I remember seeing a post once, I believe in Reddit, on how proud our ancestors would be with the amount of ease we have with life because we "eat like kings" and are able to live "without toiling in fields"

[@bajojohn]

First story: the guy used his work connection to sexually harass someone. He got the phone number from work. He’s a legal liability. Who else has he harassed? Who else is he willing to harass? They need to know. It would be different if OP’s connection to him was different.

[@addicted2mako]

Story 3: ESH Amber shouldn’t have dumped her son onto OP on short notice and just assuming she’ll babysit, and if things hadn’t gone tits up she’d have just kept doing that in the future. But OP…YOU LEFT A CHILD IN YOUR DRIVEWAY!!! You tell your sister she’s lucky you didn’t call the cops on her, but that would’ve been the least assholey thing you could’ve done in that situation and you’re lucky the worst thing that happened to your nephew is an unchanged diaper.

[@drako8343]

She said entryway. So I’m assuming a small area immediately inside of the doorway where you remove your coat and things before proceeding further into the house.

[@elyzabethberends3167]

He was probably in his car seat. When you have a baby you are told to put them in a safe spot and you can walk away. Not for 4 hours but still. He clearly was in the same spot that the mother put him meaning he could get out. It the same as putting him in a pack and play for 4 hours. The most that is going to happen is that he is hungry and now has a diaper rash.

[@indigo2734]

I love your channel. You were the first reddit narrator I really got into and as I found others, I worried they would bleed together and get stale. It's so awesome that each of you bring something different to the table to enjoy. Two years since I binge watched your videos during the pandemic and still a big fan. Good vibes man. Love the time stamps, and love how you cover stories I dont hear covered elsewhere (:

[@the_incredibly_bored_skullman]

The babys story happened to me, i was lucky i was a very quiet toddler, left at my aunt completely alone in the hallway, never had a diaper changed by the aunt i was left at for hours at a time,and checked once every whenever if i was still alive

[@lexalot8337]

damn your family sucks I hope you've met some people that actually do love you

[@shadowmewfred09]

Story 1: the villains always see themselves as heroes in there own mind NTA he made the bed he gets to lie in it and doesn't have the right to complain about what happened. Story 2: a classic example of your poor planning isn't my emergency Amanda straight up stole from your daughter and then act like they're the parents when they're not NTA those two are massively entitled and the TAs. Story 3: ESH ffs your sister expects you to respect her beliefs yet your sister doesn't respect yours is stupid, though op I think you should have at least taken the kid to somewhere it could have been cared for or called the cops not leave them alone that's neglect, I'd say apologise to the family but not to your sister and set clear boundaries, don't let the kid suffer for your sister's mistakes. Story 4: NTA your husband sounds like he's turning into those kinds of fathers that would be willing to slap a kid for changing the thermostat and needs to know that behaviour isn't ok. Also what an idoit he is even if kids are "lazy and entitled" that's the parents fault for raising them like that

[@deniseeulert2503]

That last story makes me think of something my grandmother told me my senior year in high school. Grandma was born in 1904, and told me she prefered living now, and didn't believe in the good old days. She said living is easier, indoor plumbinb, air conditioners, fridges, washing machines, etc. Why would that awful father think hid daughter should have a harder life?

[@thoneycomb5796]

10:00 Story 3 the child was never IN her care. Ever. She never LEFT her IN HER CARE. She left the child in, essentially a parkinglot. The mom should've been charged with child abandonment. Plain and simple. It's like living a toddler on a doorstep ringing the doorbell and running, I know you've seen it. If I go into a walmart and say "thanks for watching him!" and then walk out of the walmart i'm getting charged with child neglect, not the walmart employees.

[@rosieposie1760]

I love how the intro is just about exactly how long it takes my speakers to wake up, so i don't miss any story.

[@DisneyFanatic2364]

Story 2: Okay, my mom was a stay-at-home mom all throughout my childhood, and she found TONS to do. She volunteered for Girl Scouts, bake sales, charities. But she was only able to do that because my dad made enough to provide for us, and she never lets us forget that it was HER choice to be a stay-at-home mom. That said, if they're tight on money, yes, it would be practical for the wife to get a job as well, especially in this economy.

[@topasu9454]

"my dad, who doesn't get involved in the family drama" op, that is NOT a good thing. he's yet another father/husband who doesn't have the balls to pick a side and stick to his principles. he doesn't care enough to.

[@bkjay20]

You’re mad at someone who literally irrelevant to the story? People don’t like drama so they stay away from it. Is that so hard to believe?

[@charleneblack2792]

I usually disagree with jeopardizing ones livelihood, but he got her number from his place of employment, whether it actually was her husband or just in the building, so his job is fair game.

[@butterflybrenda6558]

The last story sounds like my dad. Nothing I did was ever good enough and he'd sabotage me and when I would report something had broken or happened, he'd blame me. "The lawn mower ran out of gas." "Why didn't you fill it?" "There was no gas in the gas can." "Why didn't you go buy gas?" "Because I don't have a license" When I talk to him about the past, he'll always find a way to blame me for how he treated me. "You were acting like a cocky little b so I had to humble you." "I moved 3000 miles away from everyone I knew, and was trying to cope. So you thought the best way to help was to destroy my self confidence?"

[@marksaterapi1389]

Wow, the last story is so funny. Like something from a parody of a medical drama show. “I regret to inform you, OP, but your husband is turning into-“ “Don’t say it, Don’t say it!” “A boomer” *loud cries and wallows of sadness* But yeah, that husband needs to get off social media. Remove that poisonous substance and cleanse his mind and body. There’s still a chance to save him.

[@yllwtoast]

Imagine your friend dying then thinking “omg lemme hit on his newly widowed wife”

[@heathermorton3598]

I mean, I had a friend who’s dad died and then her mom married her dads brother like right away. Unfortunately it’s not super uncommon

[@thunderflare59]

He never was a friend.

[@warriorsorb1111]

@@thunderflare59 exactly.

[@ThingMaBobJimmy]

Story 1 basically boils down to "what do you mean my actions have consequences!?"

[@lt530]

"After telling the story to a friend, he told me I was rubbing my success in their face." Well the good news is now you don't have to be friends with that person anymore. NTA and go to court asap to protect your kid.

[@essiecat]

The end of this video is literally confused dad noises I love it.

[@maxsupernova]

Story 1: Tell the mother off for even suggesting the piece of crap harasser might have a point. Screw the enablers.

[@HITPOSTING]

You're such a good Dad. It gives me hope knowing that there are good parents out there who want their children to thrive and are breaking toxic cycles from former generations.

[@richewilson6394]

I had anybody do that with a child just drop them off at my place I would immediately start calling their family and telling him what she did. Plan B if I couldn't get a hold of anybody I call police and tell them that I need to find this woman because she left her child at my place without any thing to go by as far as contact or medical information.

[@elyzabethberends3167]

That is a false report. If they found that it was your family you could get in trouble for filing a false report.

[@richewilson6394]

@@elyzabethberends3167 it's not false reporting if the woman is refusing to not have her phone on when you are trying to get a hold of them when your babysitting their child I'd say that would be child abandonment right there just on it alone. I would tell the police the situation and her relationship to me is just how she is a negligent Mother by giving children to a person that doesn't even have their schedule or any information as far as contact. And putting your phone on silence like that is just irresponsible

[@RisingLotus]

First OP- going to his work and him getting fired was definitely the right thing to do. When he said that “I got your number from your husband” I immediately thought “No way!” He must have used OPs husbands HR info, and looked up OPs husbands emergency contact after he passed away, in the hopes of scoring a widower. Glad she let work know.

[@rawrzmimez]

hearing that OP in the 3rd story left a friggin baby out is shocking!! what if something happened to the baby, what if someone decided to pass by and napped the baby. i get not wanting to babysit but what the hell 😦

[@bkjay20]

If something happened to the baby it would be THE MOTHERS FAULT. You know the woman who literally abandoned her child on someone else’s doorstep? But yeah op’s wrong for saying she wasn’t going to babysit and not doing it.

[@shantellspeaker6293]

Yes and no it the mother fault. She the one who left the baby there after her sister said no. She tried force her sister to babysit

[@rawrzmimez]

sorry i didnt mention it but yes, the mother is at fault here as well!! she shouldn’t be dumping her baby on people who want nothing to do with the child! i just thought OP had some liability since she’s fully aware of the kid outside her house and if something did happened she could’ve prevented it

[@shantellspeaker6293]

@@rawrzmimez op should call cops and say that someone drop a baby on her drive. Yes it horrible that baby was left outside. I personally won't do it. We also need hold the parent responsible.

[@drako8343]

Why does everyone think an entryway is outside the house?

[@SREarsman1]

With the kid that was left with OP. As someone who only hears from her sisters when they want a babysitter, I totally get the frustration. I don’t have the patience or mental capacity to look after kids, I just can’t deal! But I would never, in a million years just leave on of my nieces or nephew sitting in filth, starving and crying. That’s just cruel.

[@nicholassanabria6493]

The second story is puzzling because I don’t have anything against stay at home moms (my future mother in law is a stay at home mom) but the consequences is money storage but you make due

[@salbahejim]

The baby abandonment story: just call CPS. Don't be a jerk and do it out of hand, but warn sister you'll do it. If she calls your bluff, then call CPS.

[@ydrahkcin]

Story 3: The baby should not be punished for the actions of its mother. Take the baby inside, tell the police you have an abandoned baby and have no idea how to care for it. Tell them to please come and collect it, and that you know who it may belong to. Never leave a baby unattended, because if it dies you may be found at fault. Make sure you give it to the police or child protective services when they come to collect the child. Sister is 4/5 a butthole leaving a baby with someone who has no clue how to take care of one.

[@ellysweet4703]

I love that you always address issues about family using your own family as an example because it goes to show how much you truly care for your child instead wanting them to go through hardship that you've been throu

[@aubreeword9827]

Second OP: she’s taking care of her daughter and that is her first priority. She quite obviously NA but I don’t think we should coddle John and Amanda. They’re grown adults acting like children.

[@batboy0707]

Second story, single mom is not rubbing her wealth on them, they are rubbing their financial struggle on her.

[@gnashsang]

The last story is the typical behavior of a narcissist in rage mode. He’s finally showing his true self, and you know what “they” say, when someone shows you who they truly are, believe them!

[@MintyFarts]

He was a work colleague, it counted as a work violation. Also he likely got her number from her husbands file, ie emergency contact. Wtf would he have given out his wife's number like that? "Hey yeah, he's my wife's number, in case I die I want you to harass her. Thanks bro."

[@AronaBaaallYT]

These episodes are always so enjoyable, i love listening to them on spotify while drawing and playing games lol

[@TarisLuna]

Heck yea. I want my kids to have a fricke-d-frack easy life. If they get out of that whole thing with minimal trauma (let be real, everyone gets some kind of trauma at one time) I'll be fricking stoked.

[@captainfluffypaws7068]

First OP: NTA. You should've called the police as well on this harassment. Her mom is AH because raising a kid is not a few pass to be a creep. It makes the creep look like a shittier person. Second OP: saw the update, and I'm glad OP got full custody. The ex and his wife are in the wrong. Third OP: OP technically had to legally do something with her nephew, because if he was badly injured or died on her property she would be blamed immediately. Fourth OP: Her husband is clearly in the wrong for not telling anyone about the water heater. He needs to get off the internet as well, and has no excuse to be a AH to his daughter. To an extent, I think every generation should go through some sort of hardship to appreciate their hardwork and build their character. Yes, somethings are easier but not everything. Boomers are mad that it's their hardship made easier. But hey I'm sure the later generations will experience the older ones to the same extent of history keeps repeating itself.

[@TetraSky]

Second story : you didn't rub your success in anyone's face. They made their bed, they get to sleep in it. Like rSlash said, if you're upset others make more money, GET A JOB instead of being a SAHM. They are disgusting.

[@fallenmoon4586]

The guy on the first story, should consider himself lucky she didn’t go to the police instead of work.

[@Kakmanmartinez666]

I honestly came close to calling the cops on my harasser when I was assaulted two years ago but my prevented me from doing anything after it happened. I was more worried about what my family would think seeing cops at the house or my sister getting mad I called the cops on her BF. I didn't think about my personal safety and it fucked me up inside even to this day. She's not the butthole. She protected other women he might come into contact with trying to do the same thing to them if not worse. And that's what I should've done...

[@fcontini]

I would say the husband story could be that "empty nest" syndrome (idk the right name for it). Her dad is seeing how much she's grown and is independent from him, so he's unconsciously trying to get back some control over her. I say this mostly because of his behaviour and her age, but it could also be depression, that is causing him to flip out on small things that don't really matter, but he doesn't really think it through before reacting. One way or the other, I agree with RSlash to get this guy to a therapist ASAP!

[@Josh_the_jester]

1:59 why should you feel sorry? He got your phone number, you barely know him, and he starts sending flirty messages, you ask him to stop, and then he escalates it by sending you a d pick along with a sext message, he should should be fired