r/AmITheA**hole for Not Giving My Mother-in-Law a Free House

[@animeotaku307]

“OP, you ruined R’s career!” R ruined his own career by refusing to accept “no” as an answer and harassing her in retaliation. If I was an employer, I wouldn’t hire him. That’s a potential harassment/assault lawsuit down the line.

[@ramenbomberdeluxe4958]

I also LOVE the fact that this professor and the other cronies against OP are operating on that classic, sexist, anti-SJW logic too. Really classy guys, you totally arent pathetic or anything by victim blaming OP here...

[@GhostGuyExplorations412]

Not only that, but the guy reported OP to the department for the story post, so he ruined his own career.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

Also, wtf is with slut shaming being the response to being denied? Literally the opposite of slutty.

[@franl155]

So what they're saying, basically, is that a girl or a woman has no right to say no, because that might put a *man*'s future in jeopardy.

[@sinbadwilliams7186]

Plus R was trying to get into a government internship which would have made it worse since being a sexist government official with power would have been bad. Government officials have the money, power, and means to silence those who would speak up about the horrible things they do. Glad she stopped that from happening

[@thechristianteen9167]

The fact that everyone is victim blaming and gaslighting that girl into thinking she's the wrong one is so despicable.

[@TKUA11]

Well she should have went to the police and not the court of public opinion and the fake court of college professors

[@thechristianteen9167]

@@TKUA11 she posted on it on her story. The other people took her to court. She didnt. She posted it online

[@vihansubramaniam3593]

@@TKUA11 do you know what a story is? She just put it up on her page to defend herself, the college people just caught hold of it.

[@LIKEAMONSTERRR]

I am pretty despicable

[@shenniere]

Exactly. She shouldn't have to go out with him and just gas him up more into that "no one will say no to me" mentality, to not be harassed at school and online.

[@asterross]

OP should NOT remove their name on her husband's mother's house. Once she does, the mother is no longer going to be held liable to pay back even a single penny of that loan back. This way, if she refuses to, they have leeway since their name is on the deed.

[@QuietChaos1996]

Not just that, but they could also kick her out if she decides to try to get physical with OP once she hears that OP isn't going to take her name off the deed.

[@nicolelawrence7722]

My concern was if OP and her husband divorce, she has no way to get her portion of the money back. If OP gets a divorce then they (husband, MIL and BIL) need to buy her out of the $45k to get her name off that house.

[@treesurgeon5561]

Also another angle, what if Op's husband is in on it and wants Op to give up her rights because he wants to move on from their relationship knowing he would owe her, her half of the loan.

[@Hunglikeagrimsmo]

All op has to do is write up a loan contract and have her mother-in-law sign it in front of a notary. That way if she doesn't pay up op can just take over the house

[@merissadelossantos]

@@treesurgeon5561 this is EXACTLY what I was thinking!!

[@Yossarianthe86]

College student story: she should report the professor as well. It's none of his business and extremely unprofessional.

[@Mithandune]

Depends of the country, I've heard story about girl who was harraset by professor who wanted to sleep with her, when she reported him, all other professors were against her and she had to quit her school.

[@limiv5272]

Exactly. That professor is extremely sexist talking about how 'girls like her ruin careers of men like him', he clearly doesn't care about her career or ability to live her life without constant harassment from creeps like that guy. If I was her I would've started a recording on my phone as soon as the professor approached me

[@TKUA11]

No, she should have just went to the police instead of using the colleges fake justice system

[@limiv5272]

@@TKUA11 Why? This is one of the few times I've heard of an academic institute actually taking serious action in this type of situation

[@EELSGT3]

@@limiv5272 Exactly!! Its guys like him that ruin their own careers and apparently women are supposed to just cop the harassment so those men dont receive exactly what they deserve.

[@Alex-sv7vt]

The last story: it sounds like OP's wife is essentially angry at him for not being alone on his birthday, and that's so sad..

[@thetruth1816]

And not being a simp and waiting on her hand and foot..

[@moosecat]

"How dare you use the reservation we made!!! I stood you up on your birthday, the least you could have done for me is no-showed on the reservation!!!"

[@myopinion69420]

@@moosecat sounds like textbook cheating behaviour to me. seen it quite a few times before with mates who are not allowed to do anything without their GF's but it ends up coming to light that the GF is the one cheating.

[@clarky23]

@@myopinion69420 true...it's the classic "if I will cheat on him, then he will OBVIOUSLY cheat on me, and I have to stop that." it doesn't have anything t do about love or sex, it's about control (in this case of TWO guys)

[@Celediev]

Really I would not have blamed her for prioritising her friend in this case, as those last 2 weeks her friend is still in the country might have been so busy with preparations she would not have had the possibility to spend any quality time together, and a birthday celebration, especially one where only 2 people are actually celebrating, can always be delayed, like they could have celebrated the next weekend or something. The really bad part is how she reacted to hearing about how he spent his birhday. A caring, loving wife who prioritised a friend's sleepover because it was the last chance to see her ... would have been glad her husband found someone to have a good time with on his birthday. Either there are psychological issues at fault or - as My Opinion already stated in a comment above - cheating.

[@ginabell694]

It's really suspicious that the husband so adamantly wants his wife to take her name off the deed.

[@DeathBecomesYou702]

And if he used the phrase "cheat" and it wasn't just her paraphrasing him, then I wonder if that is what is going on. He wants to leave but knows it will be an issue if she is on the title.

[@nia789789789]

"Because of girls like me". For the love of god OP take what your professor said to the department head. This is 100% victim blaming and this is "just" for "regular" harassment. Also tell the department head about this so they can make a note of it (if they can't do anything else, they can at least do this) so that way if you currently or in the future have to take this professor's class(es) then you have it pre-noted that this professor has negative basis towards you in case anything happens.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

Yeah, that guy kinda just dug the same exact hole for himself. Burn the entire department to the ground.

[@CRSB00]

@@Richard_Nickerson "BURN IT!!"

[@LLandS18]

To the ground!🔥 Edit spelling.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

@@LLandS18 Grown?

[@Richard_Nickerson]

@Chris G The fake and exaggerated claims aren't as frequent as you want to believe they are. And no amount of fake or exaggerated claims should ever excuse this behavior or make legitimate instances of it go unpunished or unquestioned. You seem to be a harassment lawsuit waiting to happen yourself.

[@DisneyFanatic2364]

"Am I the butthole after ruining his career after he harassed me and got his friends to harass me." Wasn't the girl's fault the guy was a jerk. And hey, she didn't even bring it to the department head, he just happened to come across it. I'm so tired of harassment victims getting all the blame for "ruining people's lives." Or even just being viewed as heartless for "hurting people's feelings." I say this as a harassment victim myself. Happened WAY too many times, never went to that length of destroying someone's career, but when I talk about it, people STILL say I was in the wrong for saying no.

[@DisneyFanatic2364]

Note the reason I didn't take action was because I didn't think the jerks were worth my time, and I could hold my own alright. And thankfully those instances never got physical. I commend the girl for being brave enough to post it publicly online.

[@healingthroughchrist1988]

He ruined his career himself by harassing OP. Actions have consequences.

[@jayleaf201]

@@DisneyFanatic2364 It's really simple, if someone isn't harshly punished for that behaviour when they're young, then when they're older and have power, they're just going to abuse it for far worse consequences If I was a parent then I'd want them to face harsh consequences when the consequences are still pretty low, let it ruin their life now and help them build it back better with more respect

[@adrianscott4288]

The truely sad thing about this story is that he's not even learnt anything from it. He's surrounded by people telling him that OP ruined his life, not that he ruined it with his own terrible behaviour. So in all likelihood he'll just continue behaving like a misogynistic piece of crap. :/

[@sourisvoleur4854]

@@healingthroughchrist1988 That's exactly it. Actions have consequences. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

[@HuevosAzules]

The wife in the last story is 100% cheating. Literally ignores her husband to have a sleepover with her "friend". Then the husband keeps his plans and hangs with a friend. Then then wife gets mad and accuses the husband for nothing. Guilty af

[@sergiotuberquia8150]

I'M SAYING. That's movie theater levels of projection

[@cierrabradley2839]

I re-listened to this a year later...... really wish there was an update to the last story!

[@crystalcrusader8832]

“This girl rejected me, here’s her number so you can go harass her!” “Damn no wonder she rejected you.”

[@shaunalennon3144]

That's like my FIL saying to a co-worker at a former job, "no, I don't want to see the naked pictures of your ex-wife you have on your phone." He was more offended at the guy showing them around at work than he was about him having them.

[@Fallenfromgrace1990]

Okay, so the harassment story. They guy hasn't even tried to apologize so how can OP "forgive" him. Once the harasser actually apologizes then JUST MAYBE OP can forgive him.

[@thanos8077]

Even if he does apologize he would still deserve the punishment he knew better but he did all that stuff anyway

[@DisneyFanatic2364]

It still wouldn't change the department head's mind, as that is not appropriate behavior anybody would want in the workplace.

[@kenyettaready]

It wouldn't help. This is the kind of guy that knows mommy and daddy's money may get him off of r#pe and murd*r charges.

[@marciaholesovsky3461]

I wish she had recorded that professor

[@TKUA11]

That’s a better argument than most. Most people want to use the power of the state and corporations to play mediator. The guy is obviously dumb but it surprises me how much people don’t want to solve their problems person to person instead of tattling to management all the time

[@Mewse1203]

Birthday story: something almost identical happened to me. My ex wife decided she was going to "visit her mom" and was leaving 2 days before my 30 birthday. I asked her to wait until the day after. No tickets bought or anything yet and she said no. Turns out she spent the week with her high school boyfriend.... I'm getting similar vibes here

[@cheesehead6352]

For the paternity story, she should claim it all and rent out the house to the siblings unless OP needs it. They can still live there but they have to pay.

[@gregoryzn87]

I doubt that the half siblings would afford it.

[@cheesehead6352]

@@gregoryzn87 Very true

[@viperxiiii]

I have a feeling they would be the absolute worst tenants you could possibly have leading to many other problems.

[@AOGood]

@@gregoryzn87 I think that's the point lol

[@limiv5272]

@@viperxiiii I agree. OP should get as far away from these people as possible

[@APlatapus]

"apparently in my college, this kind of behavior is labeled as harassment" No ma'am. This kind of behavior is labeled as harassment everywhere. Or at least it should be.

[@laciereinheart9490]

That's what I was thinking!

[@gaygladigamers7408]

My reaction verbatim 😂

[@NoFlyZone31]

“…Potential careers of men are ruined” Yeah, men who harass women when they don’t get what they want. Honestly, I’m surprised the teacher never suffered the same fate with that kinda thinking Op is NTA.

[@QuayHollywood]

Right. I was disgusted at the comment and thought OP should have reported the teacher for that semester comment.

[@animeotaku307]

My guess? Teacher went to school at a place and/or time that didn’t have the same harassment policy and thus wouldn’t have suffered any consequences. That or, since texting and social media are relatively new, anyone he harassed didn’t have a way to expose him.

[@shinymainespoon]

"The potential careers of violent murders are ruined because you proved that this guy stabbed you"

[@ramenbomberdeluxe4958]

Its that classic logic that far-right and anti-SJW types like to use. Its nothing but a product of our horrible history of sexism in, well, human history, and this is likely being influenced by present-day anti-SJW propaganda this professor likely saw online. Like, sorry buddy, but this isn't a matter of a false claim ruining an innocent person's life, this is a proven, factual crime that this guy ACTUALLY DID, and he deserves to face the consequences of his actions.

[@NoFlyZone31]

@@ramenbomberdeluxe4958 I agree with the second part, but the first part is questionable. I won’t argue, though, since all the sjw’s I’ve seen have blue hair and love Captain Marvel.

[@oliviaksiag6163]

I’m just blown away by the stupidity of OP’s dad. He got a DNA test that said she was his daughter, and then sent her the will so she could so easily take his estate away from her siblings? That’s honestly hilarious.

[@tigernotwoods914]

Maybe it was his way of apologizing for being a jerk. 🤷‍♂️

[@ShyGuy669]

The dad just sounds broken😢

[@Art_museum28]

He convinced himself so much to a T that OP isn’t his kid, that he legitimately thought he was making fun of her for not getting anything because she’s not his bio kid, meanwhile, she was his ONLY bio kid

[@chocodraws5137]

The half siblings are laughing now, honestly if I were the OP, I'd go out of my way to tell them, see their priceless reactions after having completely shattered their world

[@asterross]

This dude dug his own grave harrassing a girl for rejecting him, honestly he deserves to be suspended. She did NOTHING wrong, so shame on those who are bullying her into feeling bad about his bad decisions.

[@skaarphy5797]

If he had just cussed her out privately I think it'd be totally forgivable. Like, that official "forgiveness" that she was asked to do. Rejections hurt. But the way he went about it, getting his friends in on it to harrass her, nope, he clearly crossed the line there. A reputation loss and a bump on his career path seems just the right hint to maybe get his shit together the next time.

[@airallieman]

I went back and forth on it for a while, and ultimately all she did was report a crime, everything else was between the college and the guy. And if anything that professor needs to face some consequences for his statements, he might even be worse then the male student because he's in a position of power.

[@asterross]

@@kanji202 Could she have done that? Sure, she could have. But, she is still the victim here, so we shouldn't be blaming her for a shitty situation he put her in. If he didn't wanna be in trouble, maybe he shouldn't have harrassed her. People like that need to be shamed, or else they never learn. And now other girls will know what he's like, and hopefully avoid that bad situation. Hopefully he learns some humility, he clearly needs it.

[@thanos8077]

@@skaarphy5797 him cussing her out in private isnt any better thats still a form of harrassment because he only cussed her out after she told him no twice so i dont think that would be forgivable

[@TKUA11]

Kind of a contradiction. She did do something, whether that’s right or wrong is up to interpretation. I feel like this issue should have been solved outside of the college. Corporations shouldn’t be allowed to play mediator. Cal the police if you think he did wrong. You don’t get the right to confront your accuser in allegations made by a college that’s only concern is money. You don’t have any constitutional rights in this college process

[@anjelprince]

Story #3: She needs to report the Professor in this story because they diligently went out of their way to gain empathizers for the harasser yet nowhere is it mentioned that the professor contacted OPs parents, family, or any people that would be on her side as he did for the guy who got (rightfully) suspended. Then he continues to shame her like she is to blame for a grown man's behavior especially after she told him "NO" like WTF

[@ne0n564]

Oh my god the classmate story got my blood boiling. How can that teacher blame a person WHO GOT HARRASSED FOR BEEING HARRASSED

[@QuayHollywood]

It happens so often I'm surprised people actually get away with it.

[@ashh4929]

Thank you! I was just coming to say this! And people are still so confused on why people don't report this kind of thing more often. Like how the hell do people keep backing up these jack holes that bring it on themselves through *THEIR OWN ACTIONS*, even with irrefutable proof.

[@animeotaku307]

Because in the teacher’s mind, the punishment was worse than the crime. OP “only” had to endure harassment for a few months or years tops. R, meanwhile, lost a massive opportunity that will effect him for possibly the rest of his life. Never mind that a good employer would want to avoid hiring someone (even as an intern) who thinks retaliating against someone who turned them down is acceptable. That’s a potential lawsuit waiting to happen.

[@dracko158]

When the professor said he's disappointed in her, I would say that I am disappointed in him for defending the classmate and treats OP's harassment as not a big deal. Not just that, I am disappointed in him for being a crappy professor.

[@luna_theraider]

A friend of mine got victim blamed in high school by one of our 3 vice principals and a teacher. I won’t say what happened to her but it was f’ed up. It is so sad it happens like that but the professor in the story can probably be punished for it.

[@kolakayo]

Because of girls like HER we don’t have more men like HIM in a high position where can abuse their power

[@Me-wk3ix]

No means no. Don't be a jerk about it if someone doesn't want to date you. Move on and find someone that does. That goes for men and women. OP didn't ruin the guy's career, he ruined it all on his own.

[@juliaboskamp9666]

the old saying sounds like "what you reap is what you sow"

[@TKUA11]

Well she did write a statement and sign her name on it so she did take offensive action. This is why we have courts, and we shouldn’t be giving professors the right to be unelected judges

[@eighthdoctor]

@@TKUA11 She didn't do anything wrong; the phrasing in your comments sound like you think she did when she didn't. That statement is likely to be for the college's/university records in case that idiot creep gets himself involved in something else in future. Creep is the one in the wrong, not OP.

[@snakehead214]

"...Because of girls like me, potential careers of men are ruined..." This makes me gag. What the f. He did something that wasnt right. He is at fault. Im male too and this is disgusting.

[@Rj-ij6ko]

To the OP who’s considering taking all of the inheritance, when your husband says “don’t stoop to their level” the appropriate responce is: why not? They treated me like absolute shit for years, this is karma at it’s finest, and you know what they say about karma: she’s got a mean right hook. NTA OP and PLEEEEASE update this story when the time comes

[@TKUA11]

Because their family is filled with lies and deceit. They need to cut off the cycle of lies and live by honesty. When karma comes back to her and lies will ruin her life

[@spiderace7994]

I agree she doesn't have to forgive so should take the house and money after the father dies. However after a certain period give the siblings money to support themselves. Not out of her pity but just doing the moral thing but that's only if see them actually struggling to survive. Since with the lack of knowledge I will assume there is a chance for change in everyone. During that period they can reflect on their behavior and how much hypocrites they were. Maybe they will understand how stupid they were to enter their father's drama. Not to mention they lost a bond with a sibling due to their childish mindset.

[@aldranzam3456]

I'm hungry for that prorevenge story!!!

[@IceNixie0102]

I think the "AITA" question was, should I just let it play out at the reading of the will? To which, NO. Let them know ahead of time so they can come to terms with it privately. Then, go ahead, sit at the reading and gloat. Granted, most will are just certified mail to all beneficiaries, so there probably won't be a reading. That's not a thing that usually happens IRL.

[@CidVeldoril]

@@IceNixie0102 Absolutely not. There have been TOO many stories where they then try to change the will somehow.

[@colink2582]

I wonder if that husband is so insistent on OP signing her name off the deed because he plans on leaving her but doesn’t want her to get a portion of the house in the divorce

[@topasu9454]

the college story makes me so fucking mad. professor p who pulled op aside to victim-blame her is disgusting. he's definitely the type to defend rapists who lost their football scholarship.

[@lillyvaughn5398]

Seriously, it’s infuriating!

[@ramenbomberdeluxe4958]

It doesnt help that we're still recovering from the anti-SJW/far-right wing boom of the 2010's, and if this story was recent, that professor was probably also inspired by the stories of "muh wahmenz falze claimzeseses...innocent menz rooeend lievezz" Like, its just toxic, man, OP did nothing wrong and deserves better.

[@sinbadwilliams7186]

I had a friend who had to go through that exact experience. She was raped by the guy and two other team members and they made it seem like she was the one who wanted it. They got away with it by forcing her to chug alchohol so they could claim she was drunk. Unfortunately... she is no longer with us. The trauma got to her and she ended her life since she couldn't handle it.

[@lillyvaughn5398]

@@sinbadwilliams7186 omg that’s awful! 😔 I am so sorry (hugs)

[@sinbadwilliams7186]

@@lillyvaughn5398 thanks for that. The world is cruel and corrupt. Sometimes I wish I could do as the MC does in Manga and get revenge but this is the real world and i cant do that.

[@DrFrankenschtein]

Super sketchy that the husband is pressuring his wife to get her name off the deed. Maybe I'm paranoid, but, wifey might be on the way out.

[@prinegonbevaris1788]

Last story: Let's set the potential cheating aside, since there is no evidence for that. But just imagine, if he'd decided to hang out with his friend on her 30s birthday. How long would he have to sleep on the couch for that.... on the couch of his parents that is, since she'd not letting him into their shared appartment again?

[@HobieInTheBox]

Yeah, I know that it's common but Rslash jumping to cheating accusations is really uncalled for, those are serious allegations, esp adding the "paternity test" idea. Maybe she's just an arssehole

[@spicydiarrhea5662]

@@HobieInTheBox my wife's boyfriend is also very appalled by those irrational accusations. I reported rslash to reddit

[@iris5678]

@@HobieInTheBox Even I had those thoughts that she's cheating. Who the hell goes to their friend's place on their spouse's birthday? It's super sus.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

@@HobieInTheBox No, I actually disagree. 1. "An old friend" calls and she immediately jumps at the opportunity despite her husband's birthday and the friend not leaving for 2 weeks? 2. Disregarding someone's 30th as just another birthday? And she wants us to believe that SHE'D be ok if the scenario was reversed? 3. A "sleepover" mostly only happens at that age when you're drunk or having sex, and the wife shouldn't be doing either. 4. Getting mad that he still went to the reservation even though she made herself unavailable? Wtf is this even? 5. IMMEDIATELY jumping to hostile hypocrisy is ALWAYS a HUGE red flag. It's obviously projection and attempted manipulation. Either she's cheating, or she's just abusive. Both are bad.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

@@iris5678 And has a grown up sleepover too? That really only happens as an adult when there's alcohol or sex involved, and the pregnant wife should be doing neither. And then the immediate jump to hypocritical rage is even more sus

[@citadelofwinds1564]

Story 1: The husband actually brought it up himself: mummy "would never cheat on us". Meaning that very idea of her cheating re the house was on his mind. The bigger red flag is the husband's insistence that OP "agreed" to sign over the money to the woman who hasn't even repaid the loan. The husband is definitely up to something shady and OP needs to protect her assets. Could be he's preparing for a divorce and is trying to sign joint assets to mummy dear. OP needs to consult a lawyer because the husband is trying to help his mother to cheat OP and is gaslighting her. She needs to protect herself against MIL and husband's suspicious shenanigans.

[@Asexual_Individual]

How much do you want to bet that the teacher still would have still argued that OP ruined the guy's career if he'd gone farther than just harassment. Because "You're ruining his life forever for just a short period of misbehaviour" is an argument used for much more serious crimes.

[@thetruth1816]

"He only punched you 10 times in the head and gave you a concussion and a broken nose and broke your eye socket how dare you report him and ruin his career" says the loser professor..

[@ericwilliams1659]

This type of behavior is terrible. Oh well he could be president some day because he is so smart/skilled. So please look the other way of his terrible actions, his possible future good will outweigh his current shit behavior.

[@Helbore]

"Its just boys being boys, stop acting so hysterical," often followed by "I bet you were asking for it, anyway." Her own fault for being too attractive. You can't expect boys to control their penises, after all. That professor should be fired. A complete abuse of his position of power.

[@akl2k7]

@@Helbore Her own fault for... showing her arms and wearing a skirt that ended just above the knee. And talking to him like a normal person. The scary thing is that some people would probably use that defense. For those people, OP would need to be covered head to toe in a burqa and talk to her harasser like a robot.

[@thelordstarfish]

"Apparently in my college this kind of behavior is labeled as harrassment" I mean... good? Because that's literally exactly what that was? EDIT: Okay listening to more of that story and just... *my god,* the victim blaming going on here. OP literally did nothing wrong. She just called out a harrassing creep for being a harrassing creep and somehow a substantial group of people think *she's* the villain here?!

[@akl2k7]

And there's victim blaming in the comments too. She wasn't the one who decided to drop that internship. The most she did was tell him to F off after he wouldn't take no for an answer and then post his texts after he and his friends ganged up on her in a wave of verbal abuse.

[@shinymainespoon]

"He just called me names while texting and I got him suspended" and harassment is just a word. Violent psychopaths are just people. Swords are just sticks. Your phone is just a screen. There's MUCH more to words than only the letters that make them; the dude was a creep, you turned him down politely, and then he went r/niceguys on you

[@ramenbomberdeluxe4958]

Not to mention the sexist anti-SJW garbage that professor and the other idiots tried to use against OP. SHE didnt ruin his career, HE ruined HIS OWN career. Even IF we can actually say OP is responsible, well, its justified! Theres a STRONG difference between false claims ruining men's lives, and PROVEN FACTUAL EVIDENCE!

[@jdzspace33]

@@ramenbomberdeluxe4958 I disagree. It isn't justifiable to have a guy lose career opportunities over a personal situation that never escalated to anything more than text. A bad day, or week should've destroy ANYONE'S career. A single situation doesn't define a person (within ration of course).

[@Richard_Nickerson]

@@jdzspace33 HE'S the one who escalated it, HE'S the one who chose to say and do those things, HE'S the one who got his friends to harass her, HE'S the one who brought the story to the attention of the important people by spitefully reporting a post that was merely telling the truth. OP is NOT actively campaigning against him, she's NOT telling people not to hire him, she's NOT responsible for the actions or decisions of others. He's NOT entitled to jobs, and NO ONE is OBLIGATED to employ him if they don't want to.

[@jdzspace33]

@@ramenbomberdeluxe4958 I have no problem with him being put on blast on social media, but to a lose an internship is a step too far. If it was repeated behavior ever agree made it clear that she wasn't interested and has repeatedly ignored it, that's another story. But losing an opportunity over one incident isn't ok. But you're right, it depends on the actions and a bunch of other things

[@jdzspace33]

@@Richard_Nickerson but she did actively act against him. She could've at any point put a stop to it, but she pressed forward. The punishment doesn't fit the offense. It's like cutting off someone's arm because they slapped you. It's just too much

[@Toaster-draws]

2nd story: R sounds like one of thoses "nice guys." Op shouldn't blame herself for what happened. Like, just because someone doesn't go out with you, doesn't mean you harass them. R made his bed, now he has to lie in it.

[@elisabethvonstern9996]

I laughed out loud soooo hard when OP revealed that she is acc the ONLY biological child😂😂malicious compliance

[@alexdombrowski9483]

I read the title and assumed yeah shes in the wrong until that part and finding out everyone was an ahole to her. That was quite literally she had me in the first half not gonna lie

[@DarkbutNotsinister]

I’m surprised the will didn’t require DNA tests.

[@daniella9787]

@@DarkbutNotsinister maybe it will.😂 i'll see myself out now

[@akl2k7]

Yeah, and when the dad was confronted with solid evidence that she was his daughter... and instead of accepting it just accused the daughter (or her mother) of sleeping with the lab techs. He's getting what he deserves. It's almost laughable.

[@sansa2590]

The last story sounds a lot like my ex-best friend. She was emotionally abusing me for 12 years just like op's wife is. I would sooo get a paternity test and divorce her.

[@maieen2665]

Regarding the third story: eff everyone except the placement mentor and the Department Head. R’s career wouldn’t have been ruined _by his own actions_ if he hadn’t been a Nice Guy™️ to OP. And he got his friends to cuss her out, too? WTF!? Regarding the last story: I didn’t even consider OP’s wife’s “sleepover.” I think you might be on to something. OP should probably hit up Maury

[@Richard_Nickerson]

To people saying it's unreasonable to suspect cheating in the last one, I actually disagree. 1. "An old friend" (a cliché, really) calls and she immediately jumps at the opportunity despite her husband's birthday, and the friend is still available for 2 weeks and DOESN'T only have that 1 day? 2. Disregarding someone's 30th as just another birthday? And she wants us to believe that SHE'D be ok if the scenario was reversed? No way. I'm actually someone who doesn't really care for birthdays, but if my important milestone ones were ignored, then even I'd be upset. 3. A "sleepover" mostly only happens as an adult when you're drunk or having sex (maybe due to weather), and the wife shouldn't be doing either. I know most of this audience is obviously underage, but this just doesn't happen anymore after you're a teenager. After you graduate high school, the only reasons you don't sleep in your own bed are weather, inebriation, and sex. 4. Getting mad that he still went to the reservation even though she made herself unavailable? WTF is this even? 5. IMMEDIATELY jumping to hostile hypocrisy is ALWAYS a HUGE red flag, regardless of the scenario. It's obviously projection and attempted manipulation. Either she's cheating, or she's just abusive. Both are bad.

[@christianforsstrom2222]

not saying you're wrong, but her being a narcissist would also explain that story. 1 she did not want to miss out on the sleep over at her friends, 2 his birthday was about him, not her thus not important. 3 him hanging out with a friend and not being alone without her made him less dependent on her, which is one of the goals of a narcisssist, make their partner depentent on them and distance them from their other friends/family. 4 when things played out the way they did, she immedieately started gaslighting him, one of the narcissists main tools to maintain control over someone.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

@@christianforsstrom2222 And that's all very abusive, and my conclusion included the possibility that she's simply abusive, so I'm still right.

[@jaspr1999]

The internships should always go the most capable. Someone, regardless of gender, proves they're not capable when told "NO!" and not accepting it with grace. Instead, he acted like a five-year-old and threw a tantrum that got out and was publicly seen. Had he acted like a decent human being that someone would love to work with, he resorted to a namecalling hissyfit. If he can't act like an adult then the timeout he earned is well deserved. I hope, in his timeout pouting, he learns that being an adult comes with acting like one. On the professors' end... Man... That POS needs a wake-up call! Gender has nothing to do with anything and for someone whose supposed to be an educator to come up with a sexist statement, in spite of the universitys' rules is unforgivable. He's earned a major strike on his record as well as a suspension as well, so he has the time to consider his dubious reality.

[@TKUA11]

And what if the OP lied about the details? How would anyone know? This is why we handle these kinds of issues inside the court system where you can face your accuser and have constitutional rights. Professors aren’t knowledgeable in the law and shouldn’t be judge jury and executioner

[@jaspr1999]

@@TKUA11 - Fair enough. However, all we, as the reader, have to go with is what information is provided and what that information entails contains a written record of the abuses in text form. That alone is enough to prove university rule violation, and that is what has to be worked with. You're speaking of criminality not university policy. The student/parents may wish to take this up with the courts but that is a completely different scenario. As for the Constitution... We have no idea what country this is.

[@robertscholfield4048]

Actions have consequences. People needs to learn this.

[@jdg-igh2937]

Sounds like a few of these extra “managers” need to roll up their sleeves and grab a mop. So many entitled people believe they deserve it easy.

[@Nebraska60]

For the first story I’d be surprised if the husband isn’t trying to get her name off of the property before he files for divorce.

[@rhianawilk315]

Good morning!! Time for the daily dose of rslash exposing me to the outside world and me remembering why I live in the woods and avoid society!

[@noneofyourconcern3622]

That sounds just like me lol

[@DarkbutNotsinister]

I listen as soon as I wake up. Maybe that’s why I avoid society.

[@isaiahjohnson7601]

Same wake up and at 8:00am r/slash just posted wooooooooo

[@sofiacamara5193]

Can i join you im too close to society

[@DarkbutNotsinister]

I asked my psychiatrist if there was a name for people like me who don’t want to leave the house. Not agoraphobia, I CAN leave the house, but I don’t want to. I WILL go places, but I’m not happy about it. Psychiatrist’s answer: A person with common sense.

[@MrMcMaN]

as far as that last story goes... my wife too had sleepovers with her gay best friend, claiming it was "girl's night" to see his new condo and drink wine.... then I found out she was getting her back blown out at a hotel with a coworker & that's the story of why I have an EX-wife... 🤦🏼‍♂️

[@GTSE2005]

Last story: NTA, why is it ok for the wife to go out with her friend on OP's birthday but not OP to go out with his friend on HIS OWN birthday? OP, your wife is being manipulative and abusive. Massive red flag.

[@QuayHollywood]

This is abusive behavior 101. Isolating the SO from the friends

[@CreativeCreatorCreates]

Huge.

[@JokesInBase13]

Yeah, OP at 6:00 didn't set the punishment, and she made herself very clear when this guy asked the first time that she wasn't interested. Dude got himself into this mess, it's not her responsibility to get him out.

[@whofandb]

OP should report professor P as well. He's letting personal misogyny affect his judgment! It's a patricentric atmosphere at that university like most others. The kid who harassed was raised to be a predator by his entitled enabling mother.

[@daniellecook7988]

Wait, so in the paternity story… OPs dad accused OP and her mother of sleeping with the test guy…when the test was for OPs 13th birthday? Damn

[@IrkenExile]

I can understand the trauma of knowing your wife is a whore and your kid may not be yours, but to claim the kid was party to something like that??

[@SteviiLove]

The OP NEEDS to turn R's favorite professor in for misconduct of some kind because what he did is not okay. This is disgusting.

[@laciereinheart9490]

True. That guy should be suspended, at the very least, if not just canned. It's ridiculous how many college teachers specifically, get away with crappy behavior like this. Never personally experienced it, but I have heard horror stories.

[@Draygarth]

I love the idea of the siblings having no way to support themselves without the father's estate. How could a human being possibly survive with out their family's money, lol.

[@Richard_Nickerson]

19:10 Not only a pregnant 28 year old woman having a sleepover with "an old friend" on her husband's birthday, but one who IMMEDIATELY became hostile, hypocritical, and disingenuous. That sounds like projection.

[@jenaymiller3639]

I literally SCREAMED at the college story! I am literally angry at everyone who victim blamed OP!

[@mindyschocolate]

Harassment story. OP, you are NOT the AH. Stand firm. Dude, mommy, friends, and professor can all do eff themselves. You don’t owe him anything. No is no.

[@thetruth1816]

Only that op needs to report the loser professor..

[@akl2k7]

Exactly. It's ridiculous that there are several people in the comments on her defending the creep for verbally abusing her and sending his friends after her after she said know twice.

[@goonerbear8659]

America: *emphasizes individual freedom, getting yours* Also America: "Why is no one being a team player!?"

[@IrkenExile]

@in desperate need of a scotch What job do you have??? I may need to look into that!

[@ARandomSpace]

@in desperate need of a scotch And this disproves Gooner's point... how, exactly? It doesn't. Not yet, anyway. Many jobs in America are terrible. You may have gotten lucky. Maybe there's information I don't have. Perhaps we both are wrong here.

[@PatrickRsGhost]

For the "True Paternity" story, OP's dad should have left those half-siblings nothing more than A BOOT TO THE HEAD in his will.

[@cg1370]

Shout out to vintage Can con.

[@Masquerade37]

And one more for Jenny and the wimp!

[@LunaP1]

@@Masquerade37 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@PatrickRsGhost]

@@Masquerade37 FINALLY somebody got the reference!

[@LucyAdroit]

@Chris G But OPs dad's will specifically said his bio children, which OP's siblings are NOT.

[@Kruhee]

So OP is TA because she wont accept being a scapegoat for management? Because "they're struggling"? No. No its NOT OP's fault that when doing the job of three people she can't find the time to take on the jobs of a fourth or fith. Being a team player does not mean being the whole goddamn team!!!

[@sockmonkeyjg]

That first story is a huge red flag for both the mother and husband

[@francescaperron2003]

As a girl I have been harassed many times, and stories like the third one make me so sad and angry since that has happened to me as well. People don't realize how awful it feels to be treated like that just because you are a female. NTA AT ALL.

[@albatross9350]

You did something nice LOANING HER ALL YOUR CURRENT SAVINGS and now you're husband wants you to take your name off the house no this seems really weird like this screams SCAM

[@clarky23]

I was thinking what is OPs husband going to ask for next, a divorce?????????

[@virajs2883]

For the paternity post i loved it because as soon as the husband said not to stoop to their level I just knew that if I was in OP's situation I would do the same lmao

[@silverflight01]

Story 2: "There's a really easy way to solve that, just pay more money" Yeah, how would it hurt anyone to just pay at least 3 more bucks per hour? It's not that bad.

[@ramenbomberdeluxe4958]

This is why minimum wage is immoral by design, and unless its raised to be a living wage in today's time, it seems like every big company is disgustingly greedy by refusing to pay any more than that. Companies have a duty to pay their employees with actual survivable wages that dont damn them to either A: Being poor B: Requiring two jobs just to pay rent I hate how companies cant just make SOME MONEY and move on, no, they want to grasp for every tiny little penny in the world, and its possibly one of my most hated sins of all, just because of how annoying and easily preventible it is. All of the sins technically are easily preventible, but even still. Just pay your employees a living wage, and guess what? Especially if you're one of the biggest money makers in the world, like Pokemon, and you also spend EVEN MORE money on making better products, guess what? YOU STILL MAKE A GOOD PROFIT, WOWIE!! It's almost like giving a shit helped you make dough once-upon-a-time!

[@QuayHollywood]

@@ramenbomberdeluxe4958 Yup and some of these companies don't realize that if they pay more their employees will be willing to work more and harder for them which will in turn make them more money because they are treating their employees well and the cycle will continue to benefit them.

[@ramenbomberdeluxe4958]

@@QuayHollywood Yeah, its also poetic because they sometimes MAKE LESS MONEY because of their short-sighted barely-human comprehension in this matter. They are so corrupted to the core by greed that it actively knee-caps them sometimes.

[@shinymainespoon]

The guy said it takes 10,000 to get a new employee and train them. 3 bucks an hour, for 40 hours a week, for 52 weeks... 3 * 40 * 52 = 6,240. You're paying ALMOST HALF the amount to pay an employee 3 bucks extra than it would be to rehire and retrain a new one. People are so stupid.

[@QuayHollywood]

@@ramenbomberdeluxe4958 Mhmm then when they employees quit they wonder why they are doing so. "Why are all my employees quitting?! What are we doing wrong?" The saying goes people don't quit bad jobs they quit bad management.

[@neonoir__]

Birthday story: I have a very strong suspicion that she might have cheated on him on his birthday. Blowing up about it after doesn't really make sense unless you try to justify cheating to yourself. "Sleepover" party much huh. Could also be that she thinks he knows and just took some other girl to the restaurant

[@HaakonTheRayquaza]

Story 3: OP is NTA, that perv was just throwing a tantrum and he got rightfully punished, he has to accept the consequences for his' actions

[@Nekulturny]

The OP in that college story should file an ethics complaint on that professor too.. He should lose his job for that.

[@WhiteFangJiel]

The classmate story is just disgusting, its again a story of how the douchebag turn the harassed victim into the bad guy cause she "dared" to speak up. And that teacher is simply pathetic. No ! Men who ruined their career are doing it on their own cause they can't control their penises and that' all

[@moshy2931]

She should definitely report what that teacher said to her

[@tosutaa]

As a member of the male populace we do not condone his actions and have disowned him, therefore he no longer has the title of "man" if any other group would like him then they are free to have him

[@IrononicIronacy]

In the last story the wife's behavior mixed with her abandoning him for some unknown friend is a pretty good case for cheating in my opinion. No one reacts worse to a partner spending time with someone else than a cheater.

[@Hybrid301]

OP is right. A lot of places talk big shit for people who are practically crawling on their hands and knees to fill positions. Also, anyone else notice that a lot of the stories are petty/pro revenge candidates that had doubts? They need to own that fact that some people got what they deserve.

[@Zxavioure]

Yes they are needing workers but because of a terrible economy they shouldn’t be paying more than what a position pays & also what people are qualified for. It’s a downward spiral.

[@Simon_PieMan]

@@Zxavioure That’s how capitalism works. The higher hourly rate is what it’s worth.

[@Zxavioure]

@@Simon_PieMan so you are willing to have a hypothetical federal minimum wage of $15/hr for a non skilled entry level position? You also realize it does nothing for the worker in the long run? The only thing that benefits from this is the governments, because you now make X$ per year you are in this tax bracket and pay a higher percentage of taxes. Tell me I’m wrong by this people will see more $ on a check or direct deposit but won’t have anymore buying power because everyone else will have to increase the same percentage.

[@Simon_PieMan]

@@Zxavioure Maybe, but I was simply saying that a job is worth what it takes to fill it. If it needs to pay more per hour to recruit into it then that *is* the correct hourly rate. Just supply and demand. Here in UK the minimum wage is equivalent to approx. $11.57.

[@Zxavioure]

@@Simon_PieMan I understand the shortage of skilled workers for jobs available here in the US, however minimum wage varies from state to state.

[@The_Nightsong]

the third story is a perfect example to why MeToo needed to happen. This is disgusting.

[@IrkenExile]

Yeah it was great until people started abusing it to harass men. Now it's just another sham organization like Antifa or BLM

[@kailiogden3202]

"It's girls like you" OOH GIRL fuckin put him on blast too, sis. Goddamn.

[@jazzycakes6294]

I FREAKIN' KNOOOO, SO HECCIN' SEXIST. I bet this guy blames r*pe victims and thinks it's a compliment.

[@persaunna]

This.

[@MsKeroseneLamp]

OP should take the papers and say she'll read them and think it over. Then scan and save them to a flash drive along with several other documents with her real signature on them just in case. She should also send copies of the files to a lawyer that specializes in property disputes for them to read it over as well and save every e-mail exchange with them. Do the same with the title company that handled the sale of the house. Then hand the papers back still not signed back to the husband and say after reading the papers that she's still not comfortable with the idea of signing the house over. Reason for doing all that is to cover her bases just in case OP's husband or the MIL forges OP's signature to sign the house over to MIL. OP will then have more than enough evidence and reason to oust MIL if she so desires.

[@Vi0let_crystal]

I still find it funny how a guy can act like a dog but all of a sudden he is the victim when he faces consequences

[@marinacruzchueco3768]

My dog understands me when I tell her "no" even if I have her favorite food in front of her, so he's acting even worse than a dog

[@KaseiSuzaku]

Oh I could rant for hours about this topic, college girl by a Dumpster comes to mind

[@staceybrougham3758]

The paternity test one with the will sounds like it will make for a good addition to the “malicious compliance” subreddit if OP decides not to warn their siblings... just saying lol

[@KILLERSSG41]

That last story hit me. If mum remembered my birthday at all it was hell, and god forbid I ask for anything or to celebrate because the day of my birth was the worst day of her life. Having the celebration of your existence minimalized in to "how dare you be happy" with a side of "you will be punished" is something I wish on no one.

[@moosecat]

Truly sorry to hear that.

[@mariposa9506]

Imagine if R got in a position of authority. Op is saving the careers of lots of women in the future.Edit: if what R did wasn't wrong, op wouldn't be eligible to file a complaint against him.

[@rozhunter7645]

Surely that professor was also harassing the girl she should have reported that too

[@AgnieszkaPaulina]

For the third one: This is a classic example of victim blaming. OP is absolutely NOT at fault here. After she told him 'no', he disrespected her boundaries and eventually retaliated because she didn't want to date him. That IS sexual harassment. Oh, the professor is mad because girls 'like her' ruin bright men's futures? What about men like him ruining the futures of bright women? What about all the women who are subjected to sexual harassment and live in fear for the rest of their lives? OP's friends and that professor are also part of the problem. These people are creating an extremely unsafe environment for victims to speak up. That guy deserved punishment, that way he will think twice before sexually harassing someone like that again.

[@benjie128]

You know what minimum wage says about the employer? If I could pay you less, I would.

[@andredunbar3773]

Exactly right

[@Brandallita]

Adults can have sleepovers too. We’re usually too busy and can’t but it’s not a bad thing. HOWEVER the rest are red flags so it’s definitely possible her sleepover isn’t with who she says it is.

[@iFeelGlee]

story 2 : that was EMPLOYEE PR0N that feels GOOD. saying she's the asshole because they're struggling? SHE LITERALLY STOPPED THEM IN THEIR TRACKS WHILE MAKING A MISTAKE. the main reason alot of employers dont have employees right now is because people realized they dont HAVE to take garbage. management letting people go for really dumb reasons is the same reason why they're struggling. if anything, she's doing them a favor.

[@DeathProductions200]

I just all employees had the capability of sticking it to management, but sadly they don't

[@mattclose5490]

Bingo. It's not always about the money. People don't have to make a lot of money if they're treated well. Anyone who's a decent boss even for even a short amount of time knows this.

[@Sanodi21]

I'm regards to the third story with the 'nice guy', OP should threaten the nuclear option; get placement involved because I imagine they'd love to hear a student is getting harassed by staff and R's family like that

[@treesurgeon5561]

I find it crazy the mindset that a man's future is worth more than the Dignity/ and safety of a person in every single way. It's shame full I've seen many stories out of the u.s. where guys assault women and people and somehow they're still victims? Brock Turner assault a woman and the judge takes pity on him because he has a bright future , you know what F off

[@animeotaku307]

With how much that story has spread, that bright future might be going down the drain. People don’t hear “Brock Turner” and think of his swimming records. They hear “Brock Turner” and think “isn’t that the guy who raped an unconscious woman behind a dumpster?” Yeah, there will always be people like the judge who will brush that off. But it doesn’t change that that’s what he’ll be known for from now on across the country. I almost pity him.

[@babybunnyberry]

Exactly! What about the girl’s future?

[@unknowngamer37415]

In the paternity story - opie's plan to take the money and use it on her nephews is great. Both punishing the siblings for being a$$ holes and supporting the innocent parties that would otherwise be affected.

[@umbrasunbro2142]

RSlash: I don’t know, a 28 year old woman having a sleepover party? Seems fishy Me, a 31 year old man about to get snacks and alcohol to have a sleepover to rewatch Arcane and play D&D: 😐

[@silverstar1178]

honestly sounds like a great time

[@imjustaguycalledsano]

But would you go on your partners birthday and NOT invite him 🤔

[@umbrasunbro2142]

@@imjustaguycalledsano lol no way. if I had a partner I definitely invite them, birthday or not. Tbh joking aside, it really seems like the wife in that story WANTED for her husband to have a bad time on his birthday which is pretty sad. The fact she gets mad he takes a friend to the restaurant instead of wasting the reservation is kind of telling.

[@pauldavisjr.3284]

That 4th op should allow her siblings to create their own downfall and tell her husband to butt out or beware of the consequences.

[@OscarDelgadilloAntar]

I'm going to need an update on that last one! I wanna know if OP resolved his issues with his wife. I agree with you that she's the manipulative one trying to gaslight op and turn the situation focus on her.

[@thegamingnerd274]

I got an ad right after you said "bro" at 10:06. It literally went like "bro, bespoke post sends you this box filled with just cool things." Like it was timed so perfectly and fit surprisingly well

[@KuroCiel]

I feel bad for the guy in the last story. She’s red flag city and OP can’t even get out of that relationship because she’s pregnant.

[@bryn1063]

He can leave, knowing her she'd probably bad mouth him to the kid. Terrible! ☹

[@amandacorbett4785]

The girl who said no to the guy needs go report the professor who tried to guilt her into taking back her statement! That's NOT OK

[@fallenforgotten7063]

That last story is literally one of those where op didn’t even have to post honestly. Also Rslash has a point, he needs to definitely get a test for the child.

[@raleighdeluca5988]

college harassment story: my absolute FAVORITE line was when the professor told OP that its “women like her that cost men careers.” seriously, it’s baffling to imagine the mental gymnastics involved in deciding that its the girl’s fault for reporting the boy’s bad behavior, not the boy’s fault for behaving badly.

[@hipsterracoon2159]

Right? Bad behaviour should not be rewarded!

[@SWISS-1337]

Whatever you do first OP... DO NOT TAKE YOUR NAME OF THE HOUSE. NEVER. EVEN IF IT COSTS YOUR MARRIAGE. Second OP negative 500 butt holes out of 5. Management spend more time harassing and bullying their staff members than they do working.

[@BleachedBlackSocks]

that third one.. OH NO, HE SUFFERED THE CONSEQUENCES OF HIS OWN ACTIONS..

[@sybreagregory6059]

I'm sick rn and your videos are what keeps me up in the morning. Even at school I listen to these. Thank you, you beautiful being

[@wristyrobingaming6659]

i just got sick

[@doklodeazly]

Get well soon you two

[@maieen2665]

Get well soon to you both

[@wristyrobingaming6659]

@@maieen2665 thanks

[@wristyrobingaming6659]

@@doklodeazly thanks

[@jms855]

That girl who got harassed by a classmate really didn't deserve the flack she got from her classmates, the guys parents and her teachers. How are these people surprised that his actions have consequences? How are any of them excusing his behaviour? Why aren't the parents talking to their son to go and apologize for his behaviour? Do these people think that men like that won't continue doing things like this in the workplace too? I hope that girl doesn't apologize and that the guy suffers the 3 months of suspension.

[@joshuadove4772]

On the last story can we give his friend negative 100 points as it was short notice and they had a great day

[@njmoonfrost6145]

8:44 report the teacher. If he is okay that one his students is harassing one of his classmates because she wouldn’t go out with him, what else is he okay with? And he is trying to guilt her into backing out. If she hadn’t reported that guy what would he and his buddies do to her?

[@silverflight01]

Story 3: Do the crime, pay the price. Simple. As. That

[@eighthdoctor]

Classmate's career story - OP is *NOT* the asshole. I'm so sick of people defending creeps and trying to force their victims to "forgive and forget" in the hopes that the whole thing will go away, which is exactly what creep, creep's mother, creep's friends and the professor who favourites creep are doing. By trying to guilt OP they are essentially telling her that what creep did is no big deal and that she is somehow in the wrong and it sends the message to creep that he can harass more women in the future because he can get away with it. Creep is an entitled loser who needs to learn what 'no' means and that his constant refusal to take no for an answer is his own fault!

[@JerziTBoss]

OP in first story should not remove name out of the documentation not unless they get paid the money back. If the name is removed from documentation then OP can say farewell to the 90k because they never going to see them ever again. It's simple as that. MIL is trying to weasel her way out of paying the money. Second story. If management is under pressure then instead of shooting themselves in the foot they should focus on making the workplace more attractive. Wife in last story is super toxic. She's the controlling one and that's a major red flag.

[@dromaeosuar]

Yikes that hit close, as someone with a mom who also likes to cheat her kids out of money, I 100% would say under NO circumstances take your name off the deed until the MIL pays up

[@Mewse1203]

"Never the less, we did the right thing and gave her the money" Umm how is that "the right thing"? Did they frame it as a moral obligation? If so, that should have been a giant red flag. And based on how it's turned out, it doesn't seem so right anymore, does it?

[@akl2k7]

I can see helping family as something people can be obligated to do, but $90000 is way too much. The most they should have given her is enough for a deposit, if that. Yeah, she'd still have "rent" in the form of mortgage, but at least their own plans wouldn't be delayed as much.

[@HolyCrapSpace]

I hope OP reports all of them too and gets them all suspended too. They are victim blaming, gaslighting her, showing clear misogyny and sexism, and harassment.