r/AmITheA**Hole For Screaming At My Best Friend's Boyfriend For What He Did?

[@martinrusev3502]

Funny how the wife can forbid her husband from having contact with his childhood friend and it's considered cute. If a man did, they would've lashed out on him. Absolute clowns.

[@Gloria-ro4vn]

I adopted a half Chihuahua half Jack Russell Terrier mix. She looked like a Chihuahua but took after her Jack Terrier side. After a month I realized she was far to hyper and rambunctious for me to handle, I have physical disabilities and couldn't give her the life she needed. But, I DID NOT take her back to the Animal Shelter fearing she would be put down; I found her a good home with a young family who had a yard and two rambunctious children and a aging dog. I kept contact with the family to ensure they were a good match and they were. The added bonus was the old dog gained a new lease on life. There's nothing wrong with admitting you are not capable of taking care of a dog, but people do need to ensure the dog gets a good home. OP you are not the A- hole, the boyfriend was going to take the dog to the Animal Shelter.

[@gamerkitten69]

Thank you. On top of that, THEY got 2 dogs, not one. Does anyone not remember that part? Lisa couldn't take the dog because she lived with him. Well Lisa still has her dog. They should have gotten 1 to begin with, not 2. I would have done more/worse than OP.

[@katsnboots4709]

And that is a wonderful, loving and responsible thing to do 🧡 In the case of this videos story tho, the bf was an asshat and the OP was in no way a jerk.

[@renoodle2694]

Oh my God I also have a jack terrier/chihuahua! He's my little baby lol

[@Jeremiahbullfr0g]

This! I can’t believe how passive people are being about this dude straight up wanting to abandon his puppy at a shelter….not even attempting to re-home it, just made a split second decision out of anger.He is an irresponsible AH for sure, I would have been FAR more aggressive than OP. Lol.

[@mousiejibby7404]

Research breed characteristics to work out if your personality or lifestyle could match. It works out well

[@rebeccadean9647]

Everyone seems to forget that they adopted two dogs...not one...what happened to the other?

[@HackiePuffs]

I think that’s the one the boyfriend took to the pound...

[@pamelalaub6204]

Each person got a dog. He was taking his dog to the pound. Lisa had gotten attached to both dogs so she was upset by that.

[@mywingsareyours]

The other one was her dog so he didn't have a say in it

[@dorianleakey]

No dog was taken to the pound​@@HackiePuffs

[@aikikaname6508]

Lol I do love how the wife hates his childhood friend and is suspicious of her and yet is still happy to accept constant free babysitting. Funny how that wasn’t a boundary. She sounds controlling and honestly he should choose his childhood friend of many years over placating her jealousy

[@katwitanruna]

I agree. I think she’s cheating.

[@krazycats564]

She's crazy controlling. It's weird how it's "okay" when it's a woman...

[@emeraldqueen1994]

I personally prefer the saying “the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb” as I’m adopted and have NO desire to ever meet my bio family...

[@taylorlibby7642]

Same here! While I'm grateful towards my biologicals for not aborting me, I know exactly who my parents are and who my family is and it ain't them! I might feel differently if there were medical issues, but there aren't.

[@BurroughsProductions]

"It's just a gut feeling and my gut is never wrong" I freaking hate this type of ppl. They make baseless assumptions and use the few times they're right to justify it while ignoring every other time they were wrong.

[@rebecca4480]

Yep. Maybe its best for him to leave her

[@heckinggi6034]

Yeah, that judgment was a really off

[@taylorlibby7642]

That mindset is incredibly similar to degenerate gamblers very deep into their addiction.

[@daniellediller5070]

Lol I get those gut feelings too, but I verify before telling anyone

[@BurroughsProductions]

@@daniellediller5070 right I feel like gut feels are normal but demanding ur always right is crazy

[@owl7072]

Giving best friend money story: I'm getting intense vibes that if roles were reversed, people would be having a field day setting Op on fire for having the nerve to try and tell his wife what she can and can't do with her own money, and who she can and can't be friends with. It came from _his_ personal bank account. Not hers, not their shared one. Funny how she's willing to run the risk of the girl being bankrupt and potentially ending up homeless from it, but is still willing to accept free babysitting from her. This sounds like a damn power play of "He'll always choose me over you 😌 I mean obviously, just look at OUR baby that WE had. OUR baby, not YOURS 😏😊😌 anyway no we won't be paying you for your time how dare you even ask, have fun being broke and possibly homeless in the future while I spend time with MY husband and baby in OUR house 😊"

[@rubymeaddle]

Actually this has happened and reddit took the husband's side

[@oliverspencer2411]

​@Ruby Meaddle im suprrise reddit was actually consistent where almost everything was the same as this situation. Im so used to reddit saying "its your money, spend it how you like". Especially in a relationship where the norm is finances being split after the bills are paid. The final edit where the OP was expected to cave to an ultimatum instantaneously myst have been an interesting situation. It also seems extremely odd to me that OPs wife even became his wife if he was jealous of basically a sibling.

[@mywingsareyours]

​@@rubymeaddleI've seen it go the other way tbh

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

Bruh.. Screw that step-brother and his "prank"! You don't trick someone into believing a loved one is on their death bed!! OP needs to kick him out!

[@agoddamnferret]

This, not only did my jaw drop my blood boiled. I'd have told him never show your face to me again or you'll leave with it smashed in.

[@sweetluvgurl]

I could see rehoming the puppy, but the guy said about taking the puppy to the pound to “get rid of it,” which implied putting the dog down. So, I can see why someone would be angry about that. If it was just rehoming, I’d say differently and agree with Markee. I think Markee accidentally kinda overlooked a couple of the factors.

[@ThatOneSystem]

My Autistic rage flared so bad at the part with people saying the mom meant the opposite of what she meant and just... SAY WHAT YOU MEAN FOR FUCKS SAKE! IT'S NOT THAT HARD! 😢Everyone should be clear no matter what. There's no need to say "oh they mean the opposite of what they said" like NO! That shouldn't be how it works! It makes NO SENSE!

[@shootingcomet082]

He wouldn't let Lisa take the dog because they live together and the dog would still be in the house, which wouldn't really solve any of his problems.

[@katwiltz1134]

Please he was jealous of that dog she was obviously spending more time with the dog than him

[@BurroughsProductions]

Exactly. Which is completely reasonable

[@BurroughsProductions]

@@katwiltz1134 there's literally no proof of that please just stop

[@shootingcomet082]

@@katwiltz1134 He wanted to get rid of his dog, Lisa had her own. If he was going to be jealous of any dog, then it would be hers. But he didn't say anything about getting rid of her dog, just his.

[@azurastar3223]

This, this is exactly the sainest point I've seen anyone make so far.

[@Lunasera]

What gets me thinking on the first story is that they got TWO puppies, one for him and one for her. He didn't ask to give up the second puppy so I think they took each care of his own. Which means selling it to the gf might have been able to help but he didn't want that. Of course, screaming is never a good solution, I would rather have a talk with the gf about the long run of the relationship. If he can't handle a dog, he surely can't handle a baby. For the dog it was the best to get to a home that wants him. Sure, you shouldn't get a dog on a whim but sometimes it just doesn't work out.

[@oliverspencer2411]

For the one where the wife was basically suspicious of someone who's basically a sibling: Unless you're in Alabama, being jealous of a sibling is a red flag IMO. It's also a red flag to say your gut is 100% correct, as if it's impossible to misjudge someone

[@lexycomer]

The dog story surprises me. They mentioned “buying” the puppy and wanting to take it to the pound. Are we really just going to brush over the fact that If the puppy goes to the pound another dog has to be put down for room/ because the puppy was adopted over an older dog? Puppies are hard, everyone knows that. When you adopt a pet you adopt a child and are in charge of their life. Don’t do it unless you know you are ready/willing to work through it. (Volunteer at a shelter/ see a friend or something to see what all puppyhood entails) Your mistake could end a life.

[@pamelalaub6204]

The couple who has separate discretionary funds have each given their own money to others. Did she consult him before giving money every time? He gave money to a lifetime friend he considers to be like a sister. It's too bad Sarah shared your generosity with a friend who shared it. It wasn't her story to tell. Guts can be wrong when unwarranted jealousy is involved. Demanding he cut off ties with Sarah was unreasonable and controlling. Haranguing Sarah was reprehensible!

[@angelicakaufman7183]

Where the moral failing is lies in the idea of taking the dog to a shelter. Great you figured out you can't handle it but it doesn't mean you take it to prison and risk it getting killed. Now it's your job to find it at home

[@jalexoneschanel1356]

The ‘dating psychologist’ story, OPs explanation should be “you’re not allowed to call yourself a psychologist if you don’t have a degree, it’s illegal and it’ll get your business shut down”

[@jasminebean5762]

I find it sad that couples find it so hard to accept their SO having close relationships with friends of the same gender. Seeing this closeness as a threat and taking away from what the couple have really boils down to trust and without trust a relationship is worthless.

[@angelamccreary2203]

Did everyone miss he was taking the puppy to the pound? A death sentence….

[@gabethegay8566]

Everyone is jumping to call the best friend in the first story immature and an asshole but no one is noticing the situation. It sounds like the best friend was in a controlling relationship, especially since he refused to let the best friend have the dog. It sounds like him refusing to let the best friend have to dog is a power move, not just him being stubborn. Honestly I'm surprised no one else picked it up, the ex taking away something the best friend loved very much and refusing to give it to her but not her friend? Idk, I've been in bad relationships and it bothered me that no one noticed

[@gabethegay8566]

As for them living together he could just not have anything to do in the care of the puppy. If your roommate has a kid, does that automatically make you a parent?

[@chrishale7480]

There is the issue of him still living there but it shouldn’t be a unilateral decision on his part.

[@gabethegay8566]

@@chrishale7480 yeah, but even though they live together they still could've figured out a plan for him to drop all involvement in the puppy's care y'know? I definitely agree with you though

[@dragb9284]

Yeah I was surprised at that to along with him just acting like a complete dick treating the dog with such scorn.

[@nadirimyers6643]

I mean in the story op said they live together so technically if the dog is stressing him/ too much for him having his gf take it isn’t a real solution tbh. Now if they were living separately I could deff agree with you. I think they were just not right for eachother. He takes giving away the dog as not a big deal and she does 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@eph2vv89only1way]

I go to a church where most of the members and attendees were born internationally. In fact, until recently I was the only Canadian-born adult there. Most of the people in the church fled their home countries in fear for their lives because they became Christians in countries where it was illegal. In their home countries even their families were out to murder them for their beliefs. Now that they are here in Canada they have no blood family, but they (actually , we)are all close and consider each other family. Holidays are spent at church or at the pastors’ home with church family. Family is who you choose, not who abuses you

[@Babigurlrye]

I was done at Sloppy Sunday Surprise…. 😂😂 I wasn’t ready

[@MayaRaimondo]

IT IS THE WAYYYY THE EX-BOYFRIEND WANTED TO GET RID OF THE DOG. THAT WAS THE WHOLE POINT!!! THERE ARE KINDER WAYS!!! AND EX-BOYFRIEND SAYING, “PLEASE TAKE HER. I’M DONE...“ REHOMED... one of the posters made a good point.

[@Rabbithavenstitchery]

wife story: I've been in this situation. Men call girlfriends their wives in order to make other men think their girlfriends are not available, to keep other men away from her, also, there is a good chance he is saying she is his wife at work to make him seem more acceptable and dependable at work.

[@MomRatt]

My fiance calls me his wife to everyone. I call him my husband. We're planning on getting married but I've been holding off since I have a fear of marriage because of my parents and I don't want to lose my insurance. I found out I won't lose my insurance and I'm working on my fear so we'll be getting married soon

[@amybakerfreudigman6576]

My problem is they got TWO puppies and Lisa still kept one. Everyone keeps talking about responsibility and dog ownership, but had the researched the breed, they'd have known exactly how energetic Belle would be. It was irresponsible from the word go! Granted, OP used his size to his advantage, but maybe Ted and Lisa will think twice before doing something so monumentally stupid the next time. Everyone sucks, including Lisa.

[@brendenprzeklasa]

Listen im gonna say this and I'm not trying to defend the dad giving his daughter the cold shoulder but if ethier of my kids get pregnant at 17 wether its my son or daughter, I'm gonna need time to cool off. I find it completely reasonable to be upset cause now your worried more about their future. Now I wouldn't tell them im not speaking to them till im comfortable I'd just say "i need some time to think" and I would take about a week and a half before I sit them down and calmly talk the situation over. If that makes me a bad guy then so be it but I think its better I come with a calm mind and understanding care then just straight upset emotions.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

When I heard “pull out method” I cringed. 🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

[@Dohyden2]

If someone ever tricked me into thinking my mother was dying or in severe medical need, being kicked out of my house would be the least of their worries. That's just cruel.

[@susansimon8310]

Not speaking to your daughter because she got pregnant? I guess you won't need a relationship with your grandchild. YTA

[@UniCrys1313]

He is a disgusting ahole. Ridiculous

[@jr5557]

@@GreenKnight1982 I do think parents have more a responsibility to have strong relationship with their kid. After listening to the story op is acting like daughter did something to him by accidentally getting pregnant. He is being super cruel to his daughter when he is the adult in the situation.

[@Fireprincess161]

The 'relationship therapist' is so dumb. He won't let someone trained in psychology to read a book but he wants to be called a psychologist? Does he know that most psychologists have their content peer reviewed?

[@Chlober_Official]

person's wife: I THINK YOUR FRIEND IS IN LOVE WITH YOU! I CAN'T ACCEPT HER AS OUR BABY'S GODMOTHER! also this person's wife: yeah I'll accept free babysitting from her tho. She just sound jealous for no good reason.

[@hekatsees9449]

Best Female Friend Story: OP knew he was gonna have a disagreement with his wife and he just wanted to help his friend, Sarah, who is his sister in all but name and biology… I don’t think OP should ruin his friendship with Sarah because his wife has ‘mental problems’ where this woman is concerned. Her crazy jealousy will not keep OP and Sarah apart if the wife’s “gut” is correct… Wife’s “gut is never wrong” is a ridiculously bad fantasy. OP and Sarah would already be a couple if wife was the psycho, oops, I mean psychic, she believes she is… Give me a freakin’ break…

[@helianabanes4875]

Interesting argument OP's sister makes about OP not sharing blood with his husband. I mean, I am hoping OP's sister' husband doesn't share blood with sister, either. We are still frowning on that, right?

[@pamelalaub6204]

Eating when you're hungry is normal. There was nothing he could have done while professionals were doing their job. It really wasn't about OP eating. She was scared and that shifted to anger.

[@discountyam9278]

okay first story: um. pets aren’t toys. he was going to take it to the pound to GET RID OF IT. probably a KILL POUND. i’d scream in his face too.

[@timclute9507]

Story 1 NTA The BF made a shitty comment in a tense situation - could have said nothing or thanks - but decided to be an A which set off OP - reasonable

[@tylercat4746]

Op is the asshole because she has no business getting involved in his puppy

[@MayaRaimondo]

@ Tyler Cat Animal welfare is everyone’s business. I know that’s an unpopular opinion, but I don’t mean that in a nasty way. Just speaking from many experiences and observations. That’s all.

[@MayaRaimondo]

Thank you @ Tim Clute

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

As soon as the boyfriend told me it was rude of me to correct his coworker when he mistakenly called me his wife I would point blank ask him why and make him give me a straight answer as to why he thinks it's good for people to think I'm his wife but I'm not good enough to actually be his wife. Then watch him stutter and stumble over himself as he gets caught up in his stupid argument. If he thinks it makes him look like a dbag, that says more about what he thinks about himself, and he knows that he's being one. She can't make him look like something he just is lol. I love how he tried to look like this great family man in front of his coworkers and just completely exposed himself as a liar. I hope she dumps him. Like for real. I don't know why she even settled for him if marriage was something she wanted and he didn't. He doesn't sound like he has any other redeeming qualities that would make me give up marriage because hes such a wonderful man. Don't make me laugh. A minute later: OHMIGOOOOOODDDD I KNEW IT! I KNEW he was sleeping with someone. That's why he wouldn't marry her. He had one foot out the door waiting for something better to come along just like most dudes now days. What a chode

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

50:28 the way I cackled at his degree vs the title. Also, I bet he refuses to show OP cuz it’s a sleazy pickup book.

[@josevargas4082]

Hey everyone Op NTA. The dog. What happens when the bf has a kid and feels he cantvraise it and quote unquoted gets rid of it..From dog ownership to being a parent the dog owners is the ahole. And they YTA comnenters

[@Chrissy666pyro]

28:00 he should have never said I’m never going to speak to you again but I truly get where he’s coming from yeah everyone makes mistakes but that’s a whole ass baby. He knows how that conversation went “don’t worry I’ll pull out don’t worry “ and she believed it she went with it instead of getting her self up and buying some stuff or not giving in to her pleasures for a day she made a decision in the heat of the moment that derailed her life … Beautiful accident But a baby is a big change in life it’s not a whoops I made a mistake it’s a life-changing event that adults can’t even handle at times. Also the day is not living in the 1600s or whatever he told his daughter the protections in f$&king and I’m pretty sure the stupid mistakes that you make when you want to get some he was OK with his daughter being intimate not OK with the fact that she threw a whole bunch of information out the window because she wanted to get some (nothing wrong with that)

[@chrishale7480]

“Uninvite” sisters gf (not really) and reinvite grandma and make sure to sit sister and her “+1” at toxic grandma’s table to piss toxic grandma off (don’t actually do this without running it by sister and gf)

[@pamelalaub6204]

If Ted had never had a dog maybe he should have fostered a dog first. Then he would have realized dog ownership wasn't for him. Maybe they thought by having 2 dogs they could keep each other company but Ted decided he was wrong.

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

First story: NTA. Dude deserved his verbal dressing-down. He should've thought of these things before getting any puppies, let alone two. It's not a secret what puppies are like, and his irresponsibility and failure to observe and consider this fact BEFORE getting a puppy is nobody's fault but his own. And then once he realized puppies are a lot of work and responsibility, his solution was to try to dump the poor thing at the pound. What's he going to do when he eventually knock someone up and has a kid? If he can't handle a puppy, he absolutely won't be capable of dealing with a screaming, needy baby. He'll absolutely bounce the moment fatherhood becomes stressful (which will probably be the moment the stick turns blue). Perhaps he ought to think over OP's words.

[@driversuz44]

Puppy story: speaking of pent-up rage, look in a mirror, and stop both speculating and projecting.

[@wordforger]

Boyfriend/husband story: So, let me get this straight... He tells everyone you're married when he made it clear he doesn't want to actually get married and he expects you to just go along with it? He was right that he looks like a d-bag, but that's because he IS a d-bag. ETA: That update... Dang. Yeah, screw that guy. Not worth another minute of your time.

[@naturalPaths]

Re: step-dad heart attack. NAHs. OP sounds like a practical person I’d be grateful to have around if I found myself in an emergency. Very recently a dear friend of mine called me to drive her to the hospital (she does not drive) where her husband had been taken by ambulance. It was about 10pm. The first thing I did was make sure I was not hungry - no big meal, just a body check and correct as necessary - I then packed a go-bag for a likely all night vigil with my friend. I packed snack bars, water, and a few other comfort items for Both of us. I’d have done the same for a anyone, with situational adjustments.

[@pamelalaub6204]

The company may have felt married men were more settled and responsible so he lied. His lie that he was married caused the problem, not her honesty. Asking her to lie is a red flag.

[@pamelalaub6204]

The OP who rushed from his engagement party to the hospital could have been so distraught he could have caused a car accident. My drama queen sister once made it sound like our mother was on death's door. Knowing her I called the hospital and Mom answered the phone. She'd had a bad reaction to a medication but they treated her for it immediately and she was fine. She said there was no need for me to leave work and drive 90 miles during a snowstorm. She scolded my sister for unnecessarily spreading panic and possibly putting me at risk to get there. If Mom hadn't answered I would have called the nurses' station. That step brother was cruel and deserved to be thrown out and cut off. It sounds like that "prank" was the last straw for OP.

[@beegee1960]

“ He said he loved me and would never leave me despite my faults.” Did that comment strike anyone else as extremely condescending? It just gave me a chill. Can’t really express why? Just a red flag to me.

[@MiraTheWarlock]

It sounds really back handed

[@agesofshadow8136]

It's because it implies "you're flawed and only I would ever love someone like you". It SOUNDS romantic but in reality it reinforces this idea of never finding someone else. Abusers use those kinds of lines all the time. One reason victims often have such a hard time leaving is the fear that they're too broken to be loved. Lines like this reinforce that thought process, intentional or not. Edit: Just realized this comment is a year old. Oops.

[@maheenahmed6653]

NTA. Possibly. Do your research before you get a pet. She also got that pet. But they never should have gotten that dog in the first place

[@KCanbutwont]

With the doggo; ESH. Pupper wasn't being "re-homed" one of the two puppys had been chosen to go to the pound, that IS a cop out. OP sounds like he lost it and was overdue to do so, and his friend belle or whatever her hands aren't clean either in all this.

[@blondie7740]

During the crotching story, I started laughing in disbelief. I crochet, make dream catchers, complete diamond paintings, and garden. My husband gives me hard time about how much they can cost, but he never tells me to not do these things. They make me happy and keep me busy. And if my husband told me to stop doing these things to take care of the house more, I would tell him where he can stick it. Keep doing you, and maybe post some of the things you make, I bet they are very beautiful. And PS, him cursing at you when you try to talk to him because he is angry is NOT okay. That is really disrespectful and hurtful.

[@katieb.1184]

with the step-dad thing... My grandpa had a stroke. I was... 16/17 (?) and I had made chili for dinner when we got the call. We spent hours at the hospital with the whole family. It was decided he would be taken off life support once the farthest-away uncle was able to come in the following day so everyone could say goodbye. When we got home, the first thing I did was heat the chili back up and we all ate, even knowing that my grandpa was basically already dead, but still alive. Eating is not a bad thing, and that mom was stressed and needed an outlet. If he hadn't cared, would he have done CPR?

[@tracybarber-kier1669]

High blood pressure is a killer! I had a stroke because of crazy-high BP. I was just damned lucky that my husband woke up and realized that something was wrong with me, and got me to the emergency room! Prank my ass! NTA

[@jeanettelasseter6085]

First story, he is not the ah. Dogs are not disposable.

[@kaylafuller8948]

I don't think the OP who ate after his step dad had a heart attack is TA. CPR is tiring and makes you hungry. I know I am trained in it

[@despinasgarden.4100]

ETAH: look, the boyfriend was an AH, but it was better to give the dog up if you're not capable of taking care of it, he was kinda the AH for not letting Lisa keep it, i guess she could handle the 2 dogs by herself. While i undestand OP's anger towards the BF, the yelling and lecturing was unnesesary.

[@firelorder1playz772]

They lived together so letting her keep it wouldn't help.

[@BurroughsProductions]

What would be the point of giving it up if they lived together? Seriously do yall not listen to all the comments and edits?

[@Frazzled_Chameleon]

Lying to someone about the health of a relative or a pet is NOT a prank, nor will it ever BE a prank. People who do that have one goal in mind: HURT. OP wasn't laughing because...DUH...it WASN'T funny. What if OP had had a heart attack or something as a result of the brother's assholery? He's out on his ass and has no one to blame but himself. OP should never ever let him into her house again. He should also not be invited to the wedding. If he gets butthurt, just tell him "but it was JUST a praaaaaaank!"

[@stinkfaerie6552]

Although the not married guy had alternative reasons for telling lies, my partner and I have referred to each other as husband and wife if asked by colleagues and students for years. If anyone is really interested, we explain that we're not actually married but it's just easier than getting into why etc. This started when we lived in Asia, where cohabiting couples who aren't married are socially frowned upon. Rather than the shocked looks, we bought each other rings and just let people assume that we were married. The way we see it, we've been together for over a decade and will probably be together for the rest of our lives, so no difference really.

[@BlackRose-bb7wt]

I hate people who say it's just a dog, or it's just a cat etc. They say human life is more important than any other. Yet if that was so then why is the planet slowly dying with so many of us? Human life is no more important than any other animal life. We do not have more of a right to live than them

[@zashgekido5616]

I mean.. Yea but I think the point was more about how concerning it is when people value animals OVER humans. I dont even think thats a superiority thing, I'd just consider it common sense to value a human first as the default

[@kristinwiebold2433]

The Crotcheting? story, OP NTA bf sounds like a huge ah You work, clean house, do dinner and he complains that you send time crocheting after your done? If he is only a part time worker and at home, he should be doing at least half or all house stuff since you work full time. He shouldnt get to sit at home most of the day playing video games, doing hardly any household chores and get mad at you when you do your hobby that helps you. If you need too rethink your relationship he sounds like a mooch.

[@kismetcaffet9862]

Story 1 - Aussie puppies are incredibly high maintenance and high energy in ways that even experienced dog owners get surprised by. The BF was dealing with negative mental health effects that would not have be relieved by the dog staying in his home, regardless of ownership. When you live with an SO and they have a pet, that pet is in your life and the care will fall to you from time to time, especially with puppies. The BF tried to address the mental health concern, which caused friction in his relationship because this was a dog and not something like a tea kettle. Despite that friction, he was still visibly relieved when the stressor was being removed. He did not need the relationship issues exacerbated nor his mental health concerns belittled like that. The GF having a friend come and "rescue" the dog is one thing and something their relationship likely could have navigated had they been able to settle emotions and speak calmly. The BF likely would have had a better chance of thinking more rationally about the dog without the stressor present. Instead OP swooped in, wanting to play hero. Yelling at someone is not going to settle their emotions nor help than to soften their stance enough to be open to negotiation or problem solving.

[@mojavegreen2072]

Men get perks from being married. My husband got promoted and more opportunities from settling down and marrying me.

[@wplains]

Ah he called the wimpy boyfriend a “Seatlleite” and Markee was offended! Poor wittle baby….😹😹

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

13:00 it makes bf look like a dbag cuz he is. If he doesn’t wanna get married, then why pretend to be married? And then his grand plan? TF was that?!

[@springs9922]

The story where the theres an insecure wife. You should divorce your wife because she seems controlling. No matter what u say your best friend is more important than your wife/husband if your partner tells you to lower contact with ur besty thats instant break up/ divorce who ever said marriage is more important the friend ship ur flat out wrong.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

WTF no. Your SPOUSE comes first. Period. End of story. If you're too immature to do that don't get married. I do agree the wife was being really crazy in that relationship tho she was fine to accept the free babysitting so like wtf? But seriously you give terrible advice. Just don't marry someone if your MARRIAGE will always come second to a friendship. That's why so many marriages end because of your mindset that your spouse doesn't come first. The ONLY people who should come before your spouse is your children. Parents friends coworkers siblings etc all come after your spouse.

[@Dohyden2]

"just uninvite the girlfriend and re-invite the grandma" Hahaaa... no.

[@MadameMushroom]

About the eating, the medics were taking care of it and you were hungry. For me, I get headache's that can turn into nasty murgraines if I don't eat. Even if someone close to me was in an ambulance, I'd still eat if I needed too. Theirs nothing you can do and theirs no point in not eating when you need too. Especially in an emergency like that. You can't think straight when you're hungry tired or stressed. So imo nta.

[@Khaisz.]

People do in fact act differently in stressful situations like the step-dads heart attack story. When i found my Grandma dead, I instead of panic or cry or whatever some people think would be the norm, I went into a hyper focused state, and basically just went through a checklist of stuff to do, no crying, no panic, no stressing, I was extremely calm. Check if alive, call 911, check breathing, heart, call parents, follow 911 operators instructions and answer all questions asked, meet up ambulance as they arrive, meet up the death bag person or whatever they are called(the guy who transfer and takes care of dead people between death and funeral), meet up with parents and at this point I done everything I could, stopped talking with 911 operator, adrenaline rush stopped, I sat down in the kitchen and I have no memory of the next 16 hours from that point because I just broke down from what I was told afterwards, according to parents I talked with one from the ambulance while I was sitting down at the kitchen table, and that he warned my parents that I was about to breakdown. I was also told later after the operator talked with the ambulance and they talked with my parents that she(the operator) was surprised on how calm I sounded over finding a close person dead and how I followed her orders/questions perfectly.

[@krisbane2623]

As a crochet/knit/beader I take offence to that boyfriends issues (btw yes it is a gateway craft ,no haven’t made matching outfits but matching beaded rings lol) my SO supports every craft I decide to learn and pays for my supplies because he actually cares about me and what I like doing. Both cook and everything else, nd he plays games while I craft things. She needs a new man.

[@rubymeaddle]

Boyfriend lying about being married: screw him, he wants the benefits of being married without the commitment

[@kateajurors8640]

Discuss me when people get puppies even when I know that they're responsible owners because of owners like the story. I have seen time and time again people get puppies and then within a few months they're done with it before 6 or 8 months old. Over 3 million dollars are put down each year in the US you're in the US just because there's not enough room.. 1 in 10 puppies find a forever home think only one of them will survive to have forever home. When you have seen dogs on the streets with their nails grown up into their paws when you have seen poodles whose hair is so grown and matted that it is caused skin rashes all over them when you have seen a dog so amazing aided there's no hope for it even though it seems happy enough to have found people that you have to put it down. Taking a dog to a pound isn't the fix for me if you take on a dome it's just like if you take on a child and people need to start realizing the weight of that decision.

[@pamelalaub6204]

It's wonderful that the sister and brother made up. He needs to apologize to the boyfriend/fiance for blowing up the way he did. Truth can be told without blowing up.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Markee sounding really upset about the tall beefy man. Lol no offense but just wow

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

I thought the story was funny as hell. As soon as I saw Navy RDC, I thought oh boy, the bf is going to get BAKED. Though I thought the “skinny Seattle-ite “ comment was a little over the top; kinda snarky in a mean girls way, and not necessary.

[@irenatheginger2491]

I was laughing while crocheting while this was on. He sounds both controlling, lazy and all around awful. My husband has learned that yarn & fabric has been in my life for 20 years, its never going away, he had gotten over it very early into things and loves what I make for our family.

[@anastasiabeaverhausen8652]

Whenever I hear the word 'prank' I automatically think 'Douchebag'... 🙄

[@pamelalaub6204]

The boyfriend who said "I'm sorry but..." made me think of something my psychologist said. "When someone says something then says 'but' ignore everything said before the 'but' as they're going to get to their truth."

[@susanlosey9511]

That was terrible! That was not a prank! He knew better! NTA. You were correct in kicking him out! That was so cruel! Kevin needs to grow up.

[@beegee1960]

Acting like psychologist when you don’t have the qualifications to people with mental health problems is not only inappropriate, it is dangerous. Are you sure he has even written these so called books? Somehow, I doubt it.

[@SiekoValantin]

Story 1, taking a dog to the pound almost certainly means euthanasia. They don't have space and a new puppy is just useless. Edit: Useless to the pound.

[@wasewegdelarosbil2188]

Honestly the dude eating during his stepdad is having a heart attack isn’t an ass hole I’ve been a care taker for my grandma and she had lots of heart attacks and low sugars that came close to putting her in a comatose state. I would fix her over night bag and pack a snacks for the hospital. She would fight the whole time I swear she rather die at home than go to the hospital. It’s best to stay out of the way for medical care!!! I would only stick around if they we’re giving her medicine because I feared it would react bad with her pills. She passed a year ago I miss her a lot!!

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

51:26 the wording was wrong here, and idk if there’s a language barrier. Bf doesn’t need to need more, he needs a whole other degree. And dating coach is actually sketchy af. And then OP _did_ study psychology?! OP totally buried the lede! Sounds like bf is projecting, like he’s insecure by his own background or lack of background in psychology.

[@Jeremiahbullfr0g]

I definitely don’t think the father is TA for being angry with/not wanting to speak to his daughter…what if he is trying to avoid saying something he may regret? Any father would be unhappy if their teenage daughter admitted to being irresponsible, purposely having unsafe sex and getting pregnant. I had boyfriends and was sexually active at 16/17 and still managed NOT to get pregnant…also…Do y’all not realize that a lot of the time, the PARENTS are the ones stuck paying for/caring for their child’s baby bc the teen isn’t prepared or capable of taking care of a newborn themselves? I’d be piiissssseeed too. I don’t think OP is Ta. I would have suggested an abortion.

[@nomnom9384]

been listening to u for a few weeks and i love u and your videos

[@stephjovi]

What did he think what it's like to have an effing puppy? Who gave them puppies without research

[@kristinwiebold2433]

The story at 53:47, I agree with OP that bf should not call himself a psychologist or have it in his title if he doesnt have the schooling or license to do so.in OP's edits she has said he hasn't. But if he does he would be scamming those client and it would be him lying about his professional. Maybe he does have the mind for it but he needs the schooling and licensing before he actually does it. Also think it is weird that he won't let OP read the books he has written. I would love to give him the benefit of doubt, but it still has some red flags for me.

[@kristinwiebold2433]

Why cant you ask one of his buddies what bfs books names are or what pen name he uses? It shouldnt be hard to look it up on internet.

[@heelalisall4130]

I love when people call other people to "handle me." LoL. Love. It.

[@Roedygr]

WIFE : your marital status is public record. Don't lie for BF.

[@Steffi.EchoGraphix]

My husband (70) puts my (56) health before ANYTHING & ANYBODY!!

[@mattiekarwin3667]

Is markee okay? The boyfriend was obviously the asshole in the dog story. It is never okay to mistreat dogs and that asshole deserved to be screamed at. He didn't 'realize he couldn't keep it'. He was deliberately abandoning a puppy and refusing to let the only owner who loved it take them. Absolute heartless asshole and frankly he deserved more than harsh words.

[@amyrissawyse2624]

1:38:30 Markee, he said his mom said "OP blamed his mom and stepdad for the divorce" not that the mom blamed OP

[@Lily_of_the_Forest]

Story #1 NTA. I’m shocked people are saying he is. Whatever.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

I would just tell grandma "I'm sorry you feel that way, and I love you and will be really hurt if you don't come, but it is your decision and I can't make it for you. I want you there and hope you change your mind." Then if she decides not to come, you were still nice and loving and she only has herself to blame, she won't be able to twist it later, saying you uninvited her over someone who's "not family".

[@ashleyn.9166]

As someone who is chronically ill I have lost independence, my career and friendships. My husband is my rock. He bends over backwards to prioritize me even though he works in a very demanding profession. We are lucky his boss has a chronic condition too. No matter how busy he is, my husband WILL get out of work if he has to take me to an appointment (and there have been times I can't drive). If he will be too busy he arranges something else, but this never happens at the last second. Edit: clarified confusing sentence. Brain foggy

[@Chlober_Official]

"I'm waiting to see the relationship with the 10 year age difference where the much older male ISN'T an AH." lmao literally my relationship is amazing and I went after him to begin with. he's 14 year older

[@mgaus]

Story about OP having a pregnant daughter: She's allowed to make a mistake, but dad isn't? One of the comments guilted him for having the correct talk. bUt He DiDn'T dO eNoUgH! Enough for who? You? He's grieving. There are 5* stages. He needs time to process. Is that fair to his daughter? No. But it doesn't make him an a-hole. It makes him a human who makes mistakes just like his daughter. NAH

[@Liam_Phoenix]

You are literally the only sane person I've ever heard, thank you!

[@cheyennetrumbos]

Abusing your daughter for a mistake (yes, the silent treatment is abuse. Psychological/mental abuse) is not an allowable mistake. Fuck you for suggesting abuse should be allowable.

[@mgaus]

@@cheyennetrumbos you can't afford me, hunny

[@cheyennetrumbos]

@@mgaus sorry, I misspoke. I meant go fuck yourself, because no one else would want to

[@mgaus]

@@cheyennetrumbos oh, sweety, I'm so sorry your dad hurt you. But if you want to experience loneliness, keep this attitude up.

[@nightdweller6446]

1st. Sitting over here, and thinking yeah, yelling not cool but couldn't really disagree with the sentiment behind the screamfest. The now former BF is pretty sucky with his dealing with the puppy. But screeching like a bansidhe doesn't resolve anything and scores OP an AH rating. But pretty much ESH.

[@SilverMaychan]

But why get two puppies if you can't stand how lively it is. That is what puppies are. He should have never gotten a dog.

[@nightdweller6446]

@@SilverMaychan totally agree. He'd never even had a dog before but got a high energy intelligent puppy but couldn't be bothered to put effort in to train it. The exBF was dumb.

[@nikki9125]

Is that a cardboard cutout behind him? It’s not moving, & it’s really creepy, just standing there, only seeing from his mouth down, & a weird smile.

[@arrohart8321]

I wish my boyfriends mom would realize that she went way over her head when it came to keeping a stray dog that later became a mother and then keeping one of the puppies. On top of her 2 small dogs she already owned. The 2 small dogs are perfectly fine. But the mom and pup are handfuls to deal with. Its now has restored to her demanding my boyfriend and I help clean up after the dogs. Meanwhile I've never once asked them to deal with my dog while she was a puppy and still haven't asked for them to do anything now that shes an adult

[@cluppip]

Blood may be thicker then water but, you need water to survive.

[@lasmirandadennsiewillja9435]

Too many people love to glorify pet ownership and the phrase "a pet is a commitment." It is a commitment but not in the sense that you have to keep it no matter what or you're a cruel monster and animal abuser. If you are a dog/cat/snake/lizard/bird/etc person, you love your pet like a child. But unlike a human child, you cannot explain to it why it can't have this or that because of your health or financial reason. You cannot tell your pet that mom is having a rough day, please play quietly or watch TV, we'll play together tomorrow, promised. Your pet lives in the Now. "Next weekend, I'll have time for you and money to buy you real food" isn't a concept pets can grasp. It's neglected now, it has insufficient food now, and that's the animal's forever until things change. You cannot romanticise poverty, sickness, or inability to your pet to make it feel better. You cannot console it with white lies like, "Of course daddy loves you, he just has his own way to show it." That's why "commitment" should never mean "Keep the animal no matter what, you signed up for it, now you have to live with the decision for the next 10-15 years." The commitment should be:"By bringing this animal into my home, I commit to doing everything in my ability to make sure its needs are met and it lives the happiest, healthiest life possible." This can mean paying a vet bill instead of buying new, shiny electronics. It can mean that the time of spontaneous overnight trips is over. It can mean to realize that you are not capable of keeping the pet healthy and giving it a happy life and therefore, you have to find someone who can.