r/AmITheA**Hole For Waking Up My Girlfriend Early Every Morning?

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[@KB-tg7pf]

"It looks like the cat's apartment rather than hers." No, it looks like her apartment rather than yours.

[@soup331emd5]

THANK YOU

[@restinwalken]

Right!

[@moodycrab77]

Fur real controling much 😆

[@katphish30]

OP is the kind of person who declaws their cats rather than offer enrichment.

[@willow8186]

YES! 😂 It’s like OP doesn’t understand that we all have different taste when it comes to home decor lol

[@lucydean4028]

Story about custody. The bottom line is that the son is old enough to decide where he wants to be. He should have to apologize, for his words, but nothing more.

[@Doublemonk0506]

And the father should apologize for trying to push the son into a new family when they weren't ready, thus causing the resentment

[@mlapointej]

@@Doublemonk0506 also can't take a game station that was given to the son and say he now has to share it. No better way to create resentment than to tell a teenager that they have to give up their space and or things or else they are selfish. Making it the family console retroactively is theft.

[@msredux]

If it was the other way people would be telling her , he is old enough to decide where he wants to live, respect him!!! Blah blah blah

[@syrusorelio2309]

@@mlapointej i don't understand why no one on the original post seemed to bring this up or the fact he's old enough to decide where he wants to live As for the forced apologyI'm off the oppinion that if the apology has to be forced it's 1 not going to be meant 2 going to further cause resentment

[@heelalisall4130]

The OP never said the cat & her apartment made the daughter less productive. The daughter is thriving in what seems to be her own "controlled chaos."

[@XxdeathbyleoxX]

absolutely correct. "crazy" cat owner here. i share my environment with my cat. cats are not dogs. they are closer to children. you change your lifestyle and space based on what suits your needs and the cats. my cat has a jungle gym, toys, beds, cat trees, etc. it seems chaotic and messy but it really isnt. i do great in my space. happy cat = happy life. my cats enrichment and wellbeing is as important to me as my own health. and if it were a problem, id find a compromise that suits us both. thats what good pet owners do. tidy homes arent nessecarily cozy and comfortable.

[@MadameMushroom]

Agree, I have three rabbits free roamed in my room and they have the walk in closet for their safe space. Toys and rabbit stuff are everywhere. Walk in my room and you'll probably step on some hay. The hay is always out, as is the Litter and the packing paper I use to line the litterbox. My room is clean but just rabbit friendly

[@keyc.1109]

Just change cat to child. My house is just that. There is child stuff everywhere. How did they deal with kids. I have pets too.

[@horserider2018]

"AITA for allowing my son to stop seeing his father" my experience, child of a divorced parents: i wish my mother had listened to me when I said I didn't want to be forced to go over. I hated spending time at my fathers on the weekends. sleeping on an airmatt with holes, no privacy, just a bunch of money thrown at me. when I aged out of custody, and moved out, my relationship went so much better, because i CHOSE to see him. I picked where, and when, and what we'd do. everyone's arguing if the mother is an asshole for listening to her child. she's not.

[@annegrey6447]

I never liked visiting my bio Mom. She always let me know she never wanted me there & her roommate was creepy when I hit puberty. Thank God my visits were nearly always supervised. I don't know what my parents did, I was a toddler during the divorce, but my Dad wasn't allowed near me & I only got day visits once a month with my Mom. When I lived with my Grandparents as a teen I had to see her more & hated it. But I was forced to play happy family until she decided to move states away when I was nearly adult. Why do adults never listen to what the kids want in divorce / after divorce situations?

[@lizabethhampton4537]

Lots of adults see children as property and that's a bias that clearly, desperately needs examining.

[@purpleocelot27]

I don't often, or ever really, dislike videos but this one is just like why? Every time I was waiting for the next update it just cut off and none of them were resolved or gave any updates in their situations where they had yet to resolve. Do appreciate your efforts and think you narrate impressively well, which is probably why i got so disappointed-frustrated when each sudden long pause would happen again

[@TheOneAndOnlyFen]

Parents should listen to their children in this case, especially if they're teenagers. If they are getting distressed at the other parents house and they don't want to go over, listen to them. The only thing I would do is talk to my child to get an understanding of what was going on, talk to the other parent about it and see if we can reach a solution that the teenager agrees with, try that out while still maintaining the custody order. Try it out for a month or two and if the problem persists, request to change the custody order so my child can choose to see their other parent when they want and under their conditions. I believe this would create a better environment for my child to grow a relationship with their impending step mother and sibling. Forcing it won't help a single bit, actually the extreme opposite. The ages between 11 and 19 are particularly sensitive. Other ages seem to take it in stride and are generally more accepting of new additions that are not biological to the family.

[@emilybarclay8831]

Exactly. She’s not forcing the child to do anything, she’s giving them autonomy. Too many parents violate their kid’s autonomy for their own convenience and it’s a sign of an unfit parent if you can’t see your child as a person separate from yourself

[@alanstuff]

Oh wow, that mother who is blaming her daughter for her economic situation after leaving what was clearly a bad marriage. That guy is clearly an AH if he is as wealthy as she said but is vindictive enough to drag her through the courts and force his own child to grow up in poverty. And instead of helping her daughter and granddaughter, she is EMBARRASSED when her daughter gets a job at a coffee shop? What a disgusting excuse as a mother before we get to her demanding the family ring back.

[@jgw5491]

First story: GF should wake him up multiple times during HIS sleep hours. And she can tell him up front that this is now her routine to be petty to him, just so he'd know. It's not passive aggression; it's just plain old aggression. If he would like to negotiate a truce like adults at this point she'd be open for discussion.

[@lynnw7155]

If she's up later than him, she needs to make a LOT of noise going to bed at night. Make sure she wakes him up EVERY NIGHT,

[@donpac7196]

Naw. Both of those responses are immature. They should either break up or sleep in different rooms, but starting a passive aggressive fight with a moron is her punishing herself

[@Gloria-ro4vn]

Most courts recognize a 15 year old has the right to decide which parent they live with; go to court.

[@BurroughsProductions]

Going to court should never be the first option. The fact that op went right to that rather than actually trying to sort the issues speaks volumes. The kid needs therapy. U don't talk to ppl the way he did

[@julieeverett7442]

where I live 12/13 years olds veiws are taken into consideration but their safety is also . But yes, 15

[@bunnysaurusrexx1664]

@@BurroughsProductions yeah he probably could benefit from therapy as could most people can but that's frankly irrelevant to the question. He's a teenager and he got mad that a gift of his was being taken without consulting him and he sees this as a manifestation of his father's lack of care for how his own child feels, therapy may help him learn to address those feelings in a healthier way but it wouldn't change those emotions directly or make them invalid. He shouldn't be forced to live in a home he doesn't feel comfortable in. His mother isn't threatening to take the son away she's simply making it so the son has a choice when and if he sees his father and is not forced to.

[@Slithery]

Second story, at what point did OP say she yelled at her cousin? She only wrote that she told her to leave, and as Markee later admitted the tone wasn’t clear. It may have been a simple and calm “I need you to leave.” OP is NTA surely her cousin would know about the disability and should have been more considerate about the straws

[@Ms_Pumppkin]

She didn't know. Op should have explained

[@tonemaster4608]

Op is still an ah for the straw thing

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

Pretty ironic for someone's mommy to overstep boundaries in their grown up apartment and tell them that they need to start living like a grown up lol

[@personman8734]

Story 2- OP doesn’t owe her a explanation when she insists on berating them. It’s not OP’s job to fix this. She is the one who went through her things and found it in a cabinet. How the hell is it on OP to explain to their cousin while SHE IS REPEATEDLY INSULTING THEM

[@mariethedicedragon5977]

If the conversation starts with someone berating you, there is no point trying to educate them. It's not my responsibility to explain my disability and why a life without single use items is not just slightly more inconvenient for me, but literally prevents me from being able to function on my own.

[@Suelorie]

Also does this cousin have no knowledge of OP's condition? People are saying OP should have explained- but unless this cousin has never been around OP before I would expect cousin knew of OP's condition and from OP's description her condition at least some level of there being a condition would be obvious even if not entirely.

[@geekfreak315]

I was saying!! If she's so passionate about this topic, she should be informed on how this affects certain groups. People need to stop berating disabled folk for not babying others. They are not your teachers, it is not their job to educate you, so do people a favor and go do some proper research.

[@Sodabubbless]

30:57 the comments on that make me so mad. Clearly none of those people have never ever been the son in that. My mum never forced me to go to my dad’s after I turned 13. My relationship with my dad was bad and his gf at the time was awful. Sure the son sucks for going off on the step mom and son if they didn’t do anything and the mum sucks for not saying anything but I can promise ya’ll, forcing the son to go to his dad’s when he doesn’t want to is gonna make the relationship worse and the son’s mental health absolutely terrible

[@ReneGrays]

I have been in that situation and btw my dads gf still sucked years later, we never really got on, but I don't regret sticking it out with my dad. So soon after the divorce, feelings were still high and as a teen you don't want anyone new in your parents life. It takes time for everyone to adjust and there is only 24hours in the day. Between work, a new partner and their child plus his own son, the dad sounds like he's in the middle of a Tug of war. My vote would be ESH - the mom for immediately wanting full custody which will lead to the sons enstrangement from his dad. Lets be real here, the son would try to dictate how time was spent from now on, holding the visits hostage unless his conditions would be met. - the son for just blowing up and not even making an effort to adjust, also not talking to his dad about what he needs, aka more alone time // but he's just 15, at that age boys have the communication skills of toast, so soft AH - the dad for not sitting his son down and instead presenting him with the new situation of sharing his console from now on, also AH for not making more time alone. Like go to a park nearby, just talking for like 2 hours?! My dad did that with me, we walked his dog in a nearby forest and even though I dragged my feet most times ( hello rainy north) I wouldn't trade a single minute. Sry for the long post, the topic triggered a lot of old memories. The whole situation could have been plugged right from my memory.

[@kmon1324]

I thought it was just me but what OP's son said was harsh and let's keep in mind what he said could be on the mark. OP's Ex-husband could only be using the son as a dating prop to get dates with single mothers like that widow and it doesn't take long for a child to see he's being used especially in this age when OP's son can call out his so-called dad for thinking with his smaller head especially when he's being forced to play nice with someone because he could be his new stepfamily. This is something the commentators giving the ESH and YTA vote aren't seeing much less endured it which breeds resentment of the highest caliber and if anything goes wrong like the system getting broken or going missing the father will just say "Oops sorry champ my GF stole/broke the system and games in anger but on the bright side I found a new girlfriend." and ignore the fact it was his fault in the first place. From the way I see it the OP isn't an A-hole, the Son isn't an A-hole, but It's safe to say the father is a major A-hole along with those who wish to force the YTA and ESH narrative without actually reading the post because I know what it was like from the son's POV and trust me the hatred toward father by his son will grow especially when the GF's kid breaks his System or a game controller on the hopes it will get him brownie points with the mother. By the way, here's something else people forget when it comes to single/divorced parents dating other single/divorced parents they listen to the most unethical and foolish of suggestions. So who is to say that the GF didn't make the suggestion about moving the system into the living room on the promise of the father cashing in said brownie points?

[@Thatspookychick]

I stopped seeing my dad when he started a new family like almost immediately after my mom and him split. I didn't have my own space anymore, and he tried to make everything about his new wife and babies. I'm glad my mom listened and let me decide.

[@kaitlyndismuke9966]

To the parent shaming their daughter for her Kitty apt (story 3 I think): YTA. Sorry, I must’ve missed the part where ANY of OP’s complaints were in any way their business...

[@lucydean4028]

Exactly !!!

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

The cat lives there, not OP. I agree with this. I'm also biased because I have a cat, too.

[@ruthmeow4262]

And let's be honest, no one takes attack on fur babies well.

[@KingQueerRoman]

Yes! Plus if that was a human child the mom wouldn’t have said shit!

[@WobblesandBean]

23:02 Every time I see a man marrying a woman that much younger, I get extremely nervous. For good reason.

[@Daydream_N]

Story 1: having several alarms and having your dad blow up your phone just to get you up is not a routine. It's a bad habit he needs to work on. Like he's a grown adult, why does he need his daddy to wake him up

[@KpopZuko]

Not defending him, but this is my routine. It's set in stone. But I need this because my entire day is structured down to the minute. It's one of my nerosis caused by bipolar. But I also had a conversation with my partner about it and laid out exactly why it's necessary for me, and he was fine with it no matter my reason, despite being a light sleeper. He honestly needed to look at WHY he needs that, and to fix it if he's doing it selfishly, which he is.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Cat lady apartment story: I wouldn't be able to live in an apartment like this, but each to their own, and mom needs to leave her tf alone. Her daughter is pushing 30, she doesn't need unwanted suggestions and advice, that time is way way past

[@chrissy6693]

I feel this. I have cats and would never let them sleep on the table but I realize other people feel differently. Plus I have a huge cat tower and multiple beds for them so it evens it out. OP needs to stay out of their child's life before she's kicked out permanently.

[@Roedygr]

RING : When you gave the ring to your daughter, what conditions did you put on it? Did you stipulate she had to give it back if her marriage ended? If not, you have no claim on the ring.

[@chriserwin7823]

Doesn't matter if she put any stipulations on it or not, it's no longer hers.

[@tiggerpooh2715]

OP doesn’t need a new routine, she needs a new boyfriend

[@msredux]

Not gonna lie, if someone bought me a car I would be super grateful, don't care if it's a yellow monster

[@charmie3008]

Personally - I'd say thanks, but no thanks. I'd rather use the money I've been saving up and find a car I like than accept a car I don't like. Perhaps they themselves can drive in it?

[@agingophelia9812]

A car you're not comfortable driving is unsafe for you.

[@BurroughsProductions]

I mean u probably would if u were already planning on certain kind of cars

[@OutsideGalaxy]

I mean, it sounds like he bought the car more because he liked it than considering her thoughts. If he really wanted to buy her a car, he would have gone out car shopping with her. Like, told her he was willing to buy her something and asked her what she wanted. A Honda Fit and a Jeep are miles apart. I actually quite like the fits, my preference is for minivans but my partner has a fit and it's a nice little car that super reliable and has a ton more storage space than you would expect.

[@katieb.1184]

I feel like people focus on the color thing rather than the rest. the color felt like it was a last straw ontop of the rest of the issues... (including the fact that the two vehicles he mentions have a very large difference in mpg. I looked up mpg for both cars in that year and the Fit is one mpg shy of getting twice the gas milage. It doesn't matter what your commute is at that point, you're spending almost twice the amount on gas.) When I was pregnant, I was gifted a car by my parents. (They knew I couldn't keep my truck and also knew that the surprise of needing twice the stuff meant that our finances were a bit tighter than expected.) I had been looking for a safe small SUV with decent-ish gas milage. They found a nice, safe station wagon with okay mpg that was ugly as all sin. and that's the thing. MOST of what I was looking for was there. so it was a GOOD gift. He didn't care about ANY of her criteria, and the color was just that last "omg do you even know me" and in general it was a BAD gift.

[@feraldragon850]

story 1.. My only question is from both of OP"s. AITA, does he have a sleep disorder? Getting my daughter out of bed was a family event lasting over 2 hrs every damn morning. Finally got a doc who would listen, then a night and daytime sleep study later, we found out she had narcolepsy. It's not like the movies. She could sleep 18hrs and it would still take over 2hrs to get her up. They literally don't have the neurons in their brains that trigger the circadian rhythm hormonal cascade. aka going to bed earlier doesn't help them wake up, the multiple alarms is them clawing their way awake. Many with sleep disorders are functioning like a normal person who hasn't slept in 2-3 days. Think about how well you can plan a birthday party, or do anything out of forcing yourself to do whatever is mandated before they can rest. Yes it can seem like they are self centered lazy, but they aren't. They know they are trying, they know whatever they are doing to function isn't working. They do all the things ppl suggest and nothing helps.

[@melissajarvis4829]

"The multiple alarms is their clawing their way awake." Describes it perfectly! While I think the op is amazingly self centered, I was hugely disappointed in all those who couldn't understand him needing so many things to help wake up. I was also thinking he needed to talk to a doctor about this. And, continue make changes to _HIS_ routine, (such as going to bed earlier) not just expecting girlfriend to adapt. I've had my own struggles with this too, and so I'm not unsympathetic. In my case, there were/ are quite a few factors involved. One that took me over a year to realize, after of not having a job for that time period, was that since I was perpetually sleep deprived, I automatically fought falling asleep until I was literally ready to drop. Even when there was no need. Genetics and other things add to it. And yeah, I probably need a sleep study/c-pap.

[@coolcatino]

I feel this so much... i have slept for 18 hours before and was still exausted after and barely able to wake up. Ended up falling asleep again 4 hours later. Ive tried the multiple alarms, have someone phone me, someone physically shake me, i tried setting heavy metal as my wakeup alarm, nothing can wake me up easily. And even after im out of bed i have tried energy drinks, coffee, vold showers and im still struggling to wake up. I can sympathise with story 1's op but at the same time its no fair to the girlfriend. Maby he should sleep in another room? Or use those sleep headband things that have headphones so his alarms are only in his ears instead of hers as well?

[@destinybryner7267]

So glad to read that there are others with this same issue. I'm in my 30s and have this same problem. Had no idea it could be a medical issue.

[@feraldragon850]

@@melissajarvis4829 Oh he's showing all the signs of being a dumb 21yr old whose brain hasn't finished forming, and that which has formed, formed under some catering dumb ass parents. His parents KNEW he was a train wreck waking up, that's why his dad calls. That dude is either gonna smarten up when he finally gets his sleep crap straight, or be the most pompous ass on the earth. So yeah I'm holding out hope for him to not be a long term entitled ass. Hopefully the swift kick in the ass he received from Reddit justice was strong enough to pierce that bad parenting sleep disorder fog he's been in

[@ashleyn.9166]

I used to drive my husband nuts. I have fibromyalgia and I can't easily get out of bed. I've fallen over, walked into walls and have fallen in the shower. Now my I have learned to get out of bed slowly and use walls to move around the house until my stiffness fades. Sometimes after I help our daughter to the toilet I crawl back into bed and stretch under my warm sheets.

[@medchan5810]

I know I'm going to be in the minority here but I completely disagree in regards to the blended family situation. I'm clearly biased by my own experiences but I'll explain why. Everyone talks about how great it would be if the kids get along and that's nice. I get along great with my stepbrother! I also never see him because MY STEPMOTHER horribly physically and mentally abused me. Blended families ONLY work if EVERYBODY is WILLING to put in an effort. They can't be FORCED. He's 15, a teenager, and teenagers tend to be very stubborn. You can't force this teen to get along with this new ~family~ and by disrespecting his things, taking them away from him... There's likely other things going on. That's how the abuse started for me. It started with stealing my things while I was at school or not present in the house, only to wait until I returned and noticed them missing or things have changed and being told I needed to ~deal with it~ because I ~deserved~ it. He was given a PRESENT for his BIRTHDAY and when it was TAKEN AWAY FROM HIM and he got upset, lashed out, everyone treated him like an unruly child except his mom. What is wrong with all of you? I'm sorry but that IS stealing and then forcing relationships on top of that, when he's feeling abandoned by his father? You're all wrong. He shouldn't have said those things but it's understandable why he did. Just because you got a divorce and moved on with your life, doesn't mean you get to dictate how that effects the kid you fucked up with your life choices.

[@geekfreak315]

As someone who is in a blended family, I agree whole heartedly. Im so glad my mum never tried to force me into accepting a new family member off the bat. Its also funny how nobody mentioned that he is a teenager so he's old enough to have an idea of what he wants. Its like people forget how teens are and the fact that they can think for themselves. Also pushing all this responsibility on a single mother is still bugging me since something similar had happened to my mum before she remarried and trust me that shit is stressful for her. They did not talk about the father enough for my liking and we all know if it was her instead itd be a whole different story.

[@Doublemonk0506]

Story 1: Can't OP also use vibration alarms? I mean those alarms you slap onto the wrist and it vibrates to wake you up. OP's a jerk

[@samuraiemperor9388]

True

[@arageorge4568]

Partner did the same thing with his alarms, I told him either you wake up with your alarm or you go sleep on the couch. It stopped.

[@Doublemonk0506]

@@arageorge4568, if you have reddit, post that on the Story

[@Nope148]

My mainstream smart watch vibrates for my alarms. Keep your damn phone and watch on vibrate and let the watch haptics do the waking.

[@BA-qn7xj]

Bruh that sounds like such a smart idea. Where are they sold? Amazon?

[@antithoughtpolice7497]

Story 1: He says she's not a morning person then is a person that hits snooze...

[@shammydammy2610]

She needs to learn to live with your routine? Nah, she needs to learn how to find another place to live.

[@chinamonkee1478]

because she´s the problem,and is to stupid to know that already?I don´t get your way of thinking.

[@420Witchling]

@@chinamonkee1478 ever hear of Stockholm Syndrome? It’s incredibly common in abusive relationships.

[@shammydammy2610]

@@chinamonkee1478 My way of thinking is very simple... if you can't stand living with someone, then stop living with them.

[@mariadaniele1104]

@@shammydammy2610 and it shows how incredibly stupid you are relationships are not that simple he seems to be very controlling and has issues

[@firerosenight6937]

@@shammydammy2610 actually, something about the brain is getting used to stimuli. If someone lived with always hearing cars, their brain will *want* to hear the cars. Unfortunately, the same applies for living in crappy situations. Its literary the brain being a stubborn piece of meat that keeps people in suffering because it doesn't like change.

[@Queenofthatank]

That mom saying she doesn't want even a midwife there is absolutely bonkers

[@paulinadeboer3604]

Right, iam dutch. Dutch people prefer to give home births. But it always include a midwife, just in case of.

[@lynnw7155]

Yup; I had 2 problem-free pregnancies and gave birth with midwives present. The first was easy, no issues at all. The second, my daughter, was born with the umbilical cord wrapped around her neck. The midwife knew what to do, so no problem. If she hadn't been there, it could have been a big problem. Stuff happens, and I'm glad I had someone who knew how to deal with it.

[@raz7573]

Telling someone to mind their own affairs before judging your relationship (which is working for OP) is not going from 0 to 100.

[@Doublemonk0506]

Story 5: Look, The son doesn't need to be with father. Father has done nothing to treat son like as if he isn't just playing family. Divorces are tough, and children suffer the most. How long has this gone on where son has been put into this new family and forced to do so. Dad needs to step up before they lose one of their children. Blended families are tough as children don't immediately connect with their new families. Most of these redditors are lucky that their parents had a happy marriage. I'm lucky that my parents have stuck together.

[@Doublemonk0506]

Why does everyone act like OP hates Ex's family? They want to protect their son, although he has said some harsh things. My final judgement is no judgement

[@jaggirl]

Great comment.

[@jaggirl]

@@Doublemonk0506 No judgement? You have made a judgement. 🙈🤣

[@Doublemonk0506]

@@jaggirl, like NTA, ESH, NAH, or YTA. I do judge the dad on failing to actually work the son into the relationship, but that is my only judgement.

[@owl7072]

Story 3: I literally have a blanket that goes in almost every room I'm in because guess what, ✨my cat likes it✨. She likes to be near me, so she tends to follow me to wherever I am so sometimes I'll bring the blanket with me so she can lay on it. I have it out and laying on a couch right now as I type this because we're currently not in our own home and I wanted her to have something familiar so she's less anxious. It smells like her, and when I wash it, it smells like me cause I use a specific detergent that's different from the rest of my family (I'm apparently allergic to regular detergent 🚶🏻‍♂️) so she's often very content when laying on it, and I'm not about to take it away from her just because someone thinks it's "too messy and unprofessional". In short, it's not Op's cat, it's not Op's apartment, therefore they don't get a say in what the daughter does and doesn't do.

[@naruto456431]

My dog has separation anxiety so anything of mine ends up in the living room lol cause it smells like me. I have dog toys strewn around my house and my dogs water bowl is on the tiles due to his beard gets wet and drags water on the floor lol pets love to be made to feel like their home is loving and happy and comfy for them

[@soup331emd5]

Having an adult apartment is decorating it to you and your residents comfort and keeping hostile influences out.

[@tonyrock1983]

First story, YTA. There's many things OP can do to fix the solution. Set the alarm a little later to where you don't hit snooze and leave phone on vibrate or answer the phone the first time.

[@itsjustmaddisen]

And if there’s a medical reason he needs to see a doctor not make it everyone else’s problem. I have medical issues that cause me pain throughout the day and night (even when I’m sleeping), an iron deficiency and medication that make my already bad anxiety even worse to the point where I won’t be able to sleep for days without sleeping tablets some days and when I do sleep, I sleep a lot. Then I remembered I’m an adult and told my local GP about it for which they helped me with. There’s absolutely no excuse he can use to just have things as they are.

[@alsinakiria]

I'm a snooze sleeper. I have shut the thing off in my sleep before. There's a reason I can't share a room with anyone. I know what I'm like, but nobody else deserves to be inconvenienced because of my inability to stop sleepwalking.

[@DaZebraffe]

9:00 What the actual hell are you talking about? There's literally nothing to suggest a screaming match. The cousin went on a little rant about her dislike of plastic straws, which there's nothing to suggest she was screaming about it...then OP told her to get out of their house, which the cousin immediately did without argument. And OP said they TOLD their cousin to get out, not that they YELLED AT their cousin to get out. WHAT screaming match?

[@silverfox1492]

Yeah, the cousin came in to OPs house and snooped then started berating the disabled op then went to tattle to "mommy dearest" who said op asking the aggressor to leave was rude but not the cousin snooping then verbally attacking someone

[@kaiclyre9227]

This ^^ However I wonder if OP has tried those bendy rubber straws! They wouldn’t get too hot/cold, and they’re more bendy than plastic. But if that doesn’t work either or they’d rather stick to plastic I wouldn’t blame them

[@itsjustmaddisen]

I was going to say this. I re-read the story because I thought I missed something and got confused. The commenters (and Markee) made a whole heap of assumptions which they can’t even prove and need to stop it.

[@Joe___R]

Story 2 NTA, since she just went off on you as soon as she saw your straw collection instead of asking you about them OP is under no obligation at that time to explain the reason for the straws & has the right to kick the cousin out. I also need straws to drink especially at restaurants since I can't safely lift the glass. Paper straws are completely terrible & are in no way an acceptable replacement for plastic straws. OP should explain the reason for having plastic straws to her cousin & ask her for an apology.

[@Doublemonk0506]

Story 3: YTA. Define adult Op. Define child OP. OP is super upright that I fear that OP may pop from the pressure. Professional this, be an adult that. This OP has a boomer mindset.

[@Doublemonk0506]

You know what would be funny? If OP's daughter was studying is veterinary/zoology and they are taking those lessons and applying it to the house. That would prove that OP's daughter is a professional and OP is pompous.

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

OP is on some "keeping up with the Joneses" bullshit, so definitely a boomer mindset.

[@ChinchillaQueen]

This woman would hate my apartment then. We have one wall dedicated to all things Marvel, to include a painting of Deadpool, one dedicated to Star Wars, including a painting of the Millenium Falcon, and we have half our bedroom dedicated to gaming computers and VR. And yes. We have children. I have a college degree in legal studies and we are both military veterans. Everyone deserves a way to relax and unwind. And yes. My very religious mother and my mother-in-law hate the wall decoration but are just glad it's in the living room and not the kids' room

[@wplains]

Lol there no accounting for (bad) taste.

[@ChinchillaQueen]

@@wplains DC and Star Trek fan?

[@rhaeasoul8531]

And I just have toy robots all over the place. Bedroom, living, and dining. My other room is the most normal just having a couple of larger figures On tables

[@terramarini6880]

Hahahaha!

[@wplains]

@@ChinchillaQueen No I’m a grownup. I leave children’s movies to children.

[@cre6881]

Story 2: NTA. OP’s family member should have been asked to leave as she probably already knew about the disability. Cousin should have educated or explained instead of going off and allowing healthy communication. Why does OP have to be the bigger person when she is being attacked about her needs. She should not have to explain anything. Cousin is the AH as she is the one who should be apologizing.

[@msredux]

Nope, NTA he was in his house, the cousin had no right to scolded him. And the she had to know about his condition, he doesn't owe her anything

[@krism8335]

Exactly their cousin isn't owed their emotional labor and let's be real that cousin likely wouldn't believe them and say they were lying

[@itsjustmaddisen]

I’m also struggling to find where people are saying OP yelled at the cousin. I would have kicked out someone for being rude to me in my own house like that too.

[@nyxx5357]

For the story about OP's son wanting OP to change the custody agreement, NTA. It was absolutely an ahole move for the dad to force their son to share a gift he'd been given before the new family showed up. This isn't really about the console, though. The poor boy already felt like his dad was pushing him out to make room for the new family. The console was just the last straw. As someone who has been in almost the same situation as the son, OP should definitely change the custody agreement. Maybe it will be a wakeup call for the dad to quit trying to force the son to "bond" with the new family.

[@nyxx5357]

Also, sure the boy was rude when lashing out at the step mom and step brother, but was he wrong? It is really infuriating as a kid that just because your parent is screwing a stranger, that stranger now has "authority" over you, and they and their child now "outrank" you in your own home. The son probably should apologize to the step mom and step son anyway, though, since they do seem innocent in this.

[@dawnsharp8524]

Kid divorcing dad story: from the time my dad got a girlfriend after the divorce from Mom, we 3 kids didn't get much Dad time. We were expected to play nice with the 2 steps during visitation...no shared custody back in the 70's. It didn't work. It definitely drove a wedge between us. My folks divorced when I was 12. I was around 50 before I had significant one-on-one time with Dad. I was stuck in a hospital where Dad lived and needed a ride back to my home 40 miles away. He came rushing to my room in the ER to be sure I was ok and then we ran errands and enjoyed our drive time around and between towns. You shouldn't have to wait 40 years for a little one-on-one time with your re-married parent.

[@frankhooper7871]

Virtually no 15yo boy is going to be interested in having a new 8yo brother; full, half or step. And at 15, he's certainly old enough to have a say in how much time he spends with each parent. Obligate a 15yo to spend time in a household he doesn't want to be in may lead to him running away from his Dad's house every time he gets forced there. (My parents divorced when I was 8, but I got on fine with my step-mother and half-siblings when they came along)

[@Heartana]

I feel like the jeep story could’ve gone either way on the one hand it’s a sweet gesture but on the other why not just take her to a dealership and tell her to go ham if the OP was with her for 3 years and she never once said anything about what kind of vehicle she likes or doesn’t like then they really need to up the communication level

[@BurroughsProductions]

Nah I'm sorry the bf made decisions for the girlfriend and then belittled her and insulted her for not liking the gift. It def couldn't go either way.

[@Heartana]

@@BurroughsProductions possibly but hypothetically if the gf liked Jeep’s but it was out of her price range and was just settling then it could’ve been good; but still it could’ve been solved if he just talked to her

[@BurroughsProductions]

@@Heartana yea but u don't get credit for a possible good outcome. That's like cheating and being like oh I hoped ud wanna join just cause ur girls bi

[@Heartana]

@@BurroughsProductions huh never thought about it that way…I try to be as optimistic as possible and look at things from a different perspective

[@BurroughsProductions]

@@Heartana that's a great way to look at things. Def something to be admired but I just cant give that dude any credit. I have a hard time even thinking he was trying to do something good. It feels like he just did it to look good and so he'd be the hero bf who bought her a car and she'd fawn all over him

[@bluejaywoman3421]

Cats do what cats want to do, at least OP's daughter at least know the truth of that. And people at work likely will not know how many places the cat has to sleep. My co-workers never knew.

[@dawnliddle2046]

I having a disability myself can see things from a different perspective. If the one who has to use the straws is "angry " with themselves because of the disability and doesn't want to hear the crap from someone else about what they have to do versus what they want to do. The person has not excepted who they are with the disability. I went through that with mine till last year. Always an arguement .

[@skyler3785]

I have disabilities too. I’m not as unlucky as OP were I need to used straws and I am being treated for my disabilities. I am a part time wheelchair user as I have lupus and sometimes I’m in so much pain I can’t walk. Luckily I haven’t needed to used it for a while. I am also the type of person that is very open with telling people my disabilities if they come up and ask politely. I would have probably reacted the same way in OP’s situation I don’t stand for people disrespecting and being rude because something I need for my disability and tbh they don’t deserve an explanation if they are going to act like that. Like I said I’m more then welcome to explain to you about what my disabilities are and why I need the things I need if you aren’t accusatory or basically what the cousin was like in the story.

[@Doublemonk0506]

Story 2: NTA, The cousin is a major a**hole no matter what. If they were close to OP, then they would have somewhat known OP's condition, and thus are ableist with their accusation. If the cousin wasn't close to OP, then accusing them of hurting the environment is a jerk move as well because they don't know OP well. My belief is that cousin wanted to earn spirit brownie points by attacking others for "hurting the environment" without taking into consideration the situations of those people

[@sitnspin1819]

That's exactly what the cousin wanted. The cousin went into OP's house and made a snap decision. OP doesn't have to justify what they purchased that allows them to live.

[@iamhungey12345]

This.

[@LA-mz1dd]

I like how people think that it's so easy to "just wake up". I set several alarms because I sometimes sleep through them or actually turn them off IN MY SLEEP. and NO going to bed early doesn't help, it actually makes me feel sleepy ALL day the next day.

[@angeleyesgreen1586]

If I gave birth at home, I would only have 2 of my 3 children. My 2 youngest were both born in distress. My labor needed to be sped up to get them out sooner. They need immediate medical intervention. Childbirth is dangerous. Period

[@annegrey6447]

The 3rd story I think, mom who's daughter had a cat-friendly apt., doesn't know what messy is. When I was taken to my bio Mom's house for visitation there was no place to sit, the floor had walking paths, & the place smelled like pet urine. Edit: All the mess that had to be walked around was her & her roomate's stuff; not their pets.

[@katwelch3042]

First story- OP needs to learn the basics about sleep hygiene. Hitting the snooze button gives you poor quality sleep. He would be better served by getting up at the very first alarm. Snooze buttons are evil.

[@lenax9798]

i fall asleep easily. id sleep the whole day if its wasnt for snoozebuttons. so shut up

[@restinwalken]

@@lenax9798 there's a difference in hitting snooze and setting an alarm with the intention of ignoring it to sleep more which is how the OP is using it. If you are also using your the snooze of your alarm like OP is. It is giving you worst sleep. Studies prove getting up to the first alarm that wakes you up no snoozing at all, this is better for your brain. Weather that involves getting out of bed or not, just wake up and don't fall back asleep. Get on your phone something. Basically if you need to be physically up and out of bed by 6am to get ready. Then for 5:55am snooing only once is not great but understandable. Setting an alarm for 5:20 knowing full well you will and fully intend to go back to sleep until the clock says 6am. You are hurting your quality of sleep drastically. Truly try and break this habit. I was guilt of this very habit. When I finally did only allowing myself 1 5min snooze I felt more awake upon waking up. An also stop feeling the need to even use the 5min more to "sleep". It took months. I understand I do still have redundant alarms set just because I don't trust myself to just get the f up somedays. So I do understand.

[@AllenTax]

My my. There is THAT alarm clock that can move around you & your home. Some could use such a thing,for their lazyness & get the hell up & get of bed,litterally.

[@terramarini6880]

@@AllenTax I've seen a couple of those. One literally jumps off the table and buggers off in random directions screaming the whole time, another that has a handful of puzzle pieces that pop up forcefully and will not shut up until you find the pieces and reassemble the puzzle... so evil.

[@TheOneAndOnlyFen]

I have multiple alarms going off in the morning. I wake up on the first one, drag my ass out of bed on the second. The third and fourth one are just to make sure I am awake and didn't sleep through my first two alarms.

[@anastasiabeaverhausen8652]

The straws are already made - they might as well use them.

[@naruto456431]

Agreed plus my mate has adhd and doesn’t like cardboard straws due to texture and they are crappy as hell

[@naruto456431]

I do think plastic straws can be reused too if you clean them properly

[@silverfox1492]

@@naruto456431 they can be reused alot, my family has done so for years as long as you clean them thoroughly they are just as easily reused as the expensive branded reusable ones that are trending now

[@naruto456431]

@@silverfox1492 ok I just didn’t think they could be cleaned easily but I don’t like to cardboard straws because they dissolve in your drink

[@silverfox1492]

@@naruto456431 with most drinks you can get away with just rinsing the straws with hot water right after use, if the liquid dries/sets in the straw for a long period of time then it has to be scrubbed clean with straw brushes to completely clean them

[@chrisPbacon114]

Sometimes I feel Markee is trolling us with "hot takes" he doesnt even believe in.... sometimes I feel like reads the comments and goes off that to form an opinion. I am not surprised if he had a hot take and just cherry picked the comments that support that but it doesn't look like he has done that yet.... give it time. I should add, I love markee. I prefer him to rslash. I think hes quite a character. His hot takes are just sometimes a little infuriating.

[@BurroughsProductions]

I've def felt like he's cherry picked comments to support his opinions too

[@veezopolis]

Markee never has a real opinion

[@iamhungey12345]

Especially the second story so far when he assumed that the OP yelled at the cousin, I mean where he get that from?

[@geekfreak315]

I def felt that way about the blended family one and the one where the cousin yelled at op.

[@HighLordBaron]

I really don't understand why people set multiple alarms just to snooze all of them. Like, set the alarm when you want to get up and 1 or 2 backups in case you actually manage to sleep through the first..... If you live alone, whatever. But if you wake others with your alarms you need to stop!

[@Lauria2875]

Shouldn't the cousin already KNOW op has a health issue?

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

Exactly. And the issue surrounding the ableism of outright banning single-use plastic straws, especially bendy ones, is NOT exactly something that the disabled community hasn't discussed ad nauseam. And also? We don't OWE able-bodied people that emotional labour, any more than a gay person should have to explain why you're being homophobic or a Black person should have to explain why you're being a racist. But this is what happens when people sit in echo chambers or just parrot the talking points without actually researching the issues completely. Straws have been demonised but in reality, there are FAR bigger issues around the environment, plastics and ocean pollution - like discarded fishing nets, overfishing, and industrial level pollution which are FAR worse than anything individuals are doing.

[@Lauria2875]

@@JustAnotherBuckyLover I have a fibromyalgia trigger point on the back of my neck. If I tilt my head back I either get vertigo or throw up. Straws help avoid that.

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

@@Lauria2875 I'm bedbound and can't even sit upright because of my health issues (without not only severe pain but more importantly, passing out or throwing up after a minute or two because of a screwed up nervous system). I've tried all kinds of reusable straws and while the silicone ones I have that open up for easy cleaning are nice and all, they don't bend, and that makes it impossible for me to drink while lying down because of the angle. And anyone with any kind of mobility issue, especially in their neck, is going to find that out, sadly. But instead, we get jumped on by people who don't grasp that sometimes plastic straws are the only workable option.

[@-Suie-]

story 1: get one alarm with siren, no snooze AND GET THE DUCK UP WHEN IT SOUNDS or live ALONE

[@someonesomewhere9115]

What mature adult needs daddy as part of their wake up routine? Go to bed earlier if you’re having that much trouble waking up.

[@amandarowlinson7446]

If it works for them and doesn't bother their dad how for that make them immature. They solved a problem and it works for them.

[@DaniReadsFantasy]

Story 2: NTA for multiple reasons 1) OP never said they yelled so we shouldn't assume that and kicking out someone harrassing you is justifiable but even if OP had yelled they are still NTA for the following reasons 2) the cousin, if she has ever spent any time with her cousin she would know that her cousin needs a straw and lid with every drink (at minimum at max she would literally know about the disability) if the cousin doesn't know at all she is either unobservent, self absorbed, or she doesn't believe in OP's disability 3) plastic straws stop being "convient" like the cousin claims they are as soon as places stop carrying any, even more so if you have to stock pile them and even the existence of this stock pile shows how inconvenient only being able to use those straws are cause now OP has to stockpile and start carrying several straws with them wherever they go if they need a drink at all 4) minorities have to deal with a lot of shit and when you have a disability especially it gets tiring to have to explain it especially to people who likely already know this shit, this is not OP not communicating this is not them wanting to educate someone who should already know and who might cause more arguments, this is not a discussion that needs to be had or disrespect from OP to say so is being ablist even if unintentionally, there is obviously something going on if someone is stockpiling something, this would potentially be a different discussion if this was a stranger and OP was asking for a plastic straw at a restaurant (still disrespectful but at least they would obviously have no context compared to a family member in your home who can see you stockpiling straws)

[@purpleluva77]

NTA it amazes me how people think that her family member can be an ahole and is owed an explanation. Why is it the person being disrespected is expected to deescalate but the person demanding crap isnt expected to be accountable for their own ignorant actions. Everyone is missing the point this is a family member who is out of the loop about what is going on in op's daily life and now cus of passion she is expected to share with someone who wasnt valued enough to be in the loop about medical condition is now entitled to information she doesnt need to have cus of her lack of self control miss me with this bs.

[@itsjustmaddisen]

Also I’d like these people to point out where the fuck it said OP and the cousin had a screaming match because I certainly couldn’t find it.

[@msredux]

Yikes, what a wonderful mother, give me my ring back, my DIL is my favorite now.

[@cindykaysermersheim4999]

Mother with the golden DIL should NOT get the ring back. Daughter should go no contact as it is obvious her mother doesn't care about her.

[@hekatsees9449]

The ring must mean something to the daughter as she still wears it. She didn’t sell it even though she clearly needs money. And it was OP’s idea to take the ring back from her daughter… Yikes!

[@moodycrab77]

Custody story; I'm going to hazard a guess that the father put the PlayStation in the central area of the house without giving the "stepchild " a separate account so they were using the Op's son's account, every gamer knows is not okay. Communication people. Edit I always have marbles in my mouth

[@mini-mei]

There is one thing that bothers me about the straw story: why did the cousin seemingly not know about OP's disability? OP told internet strangers, so it is not an overly sensitive topic for them. Or did the cousin know and was obnoxious despite knowing? Then I would get the OP immediately kicking the cousin out.

[@HonorWillow]

Story 1 Waking Girlfriend Up: I really hate that OP blames the girlfriend having to stay up "late" (in quotes because maybe if he didn't wake her up early in the morning it might still give her enough sleep) to do homework (something she has to do). Dude even IF she didn't have a good sleep routine outwith him he's making it SO much worse by waking her up and he's still to blame for her being tired because she would at least get more sleep if not still not enough! It's so ridiculous that OP has decided to give up trying to fix this and is instead relying on not one but TWO other people who shouldn't have to baby him. The dad also shouldn't have to constantly text and call when he's also trying to wake himself up and get ready. Also yeah the selfishness of not only snoozing multiple alarms, having loud text and phone calls, but also setting the alarm EARLIER so that he CAN snooze them. I hate him. I know it's not such a big issue but the lack of disrespect feels bigger than just struggling to get up in the morning. At least if he was trying to change it, but he's clearly perfectly happy with this arrangement, plus the deleted birthday post

[@anastasiabeaverhausen8652]

Story 1: This must be fake - nobody is this ridiculously selfish?!!

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

Apparently, there were multiple posts from that same OP and they all point to him being exactly that selfish.

[@anastasiabeaverhausen8652]

@@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables Oy. Hard to believe that anyone could be so deliberately clueless!!! 🤔🙄😖 The first time my spouse was such a ridiculous nuisance would have been the last. For the majority of our 25 years of marriage I have been either Military or an Executive / Pastry Chef; it was an unspoken rule in our household that if you steal *even a minute* of my sleeping time? There would be Hell to pay. On the other hand, if I knew that I'd have to leave the bed at 2:45am to make it to work by 4am? I was completely in Ninja Mommy Stealth Mode! Able to leave the big comfy bed with our toddler AND my husband both still passed out.

[@firerosenight6937]

@@anastasiabeaverhausen8652 ohhh- believe me, people like this exist. Its horrid. I live with two of them.

[@SpookyBur]

On the straw story. As someone who is disabled it gets exhausting to explain to everyone who judges you why you do what you do and why you need what you need. Every doctors visit becomes a chance for you to be called a liar. Every time you go out and park in disabled parking you may not be seen as disabled enough to meet passing individuals criteria to park there. Its maddening it makes me easily triggered and a bit impatient because what comes next is generally a debate about how I need to live my life “better” than I am when most days I’m in so much pain it’s hard to just get my basic needs met with the solutions I’ve come up with. So if someone doesn’t even start out understanding I have zero patience for them I’ll just leave or ask them to leave. I’m sure that through explanation seems like a logical choice to deescalate every situation but when you are judged every day and unable to function “normally” it just becomes exhausting and unmanageable. With all due respect Markee on this one you have no idea what you’re talking about. I just want to be left alone. I don’t want to interact with you I don’t want to be the subject of your social justice crap if I’m not hurting anyone just leave me alone. You are not entitled to my life my disability or my explanations. If you have nothing nice to say just leave me alone.

[@peachganja6953]

I have 6 cats and I can thoroughly say that I am living in THEIR house. This woman sounds like an amazing cat owner. Cats will sleep anywhere and everywhere they can fit whether you put comfy shit there or not.

[@thotimusprimeofficial273]

in the 1st story i was literally thinking “just get up from the first alarm??? and don’t have ur dad text???” but nooo this guy’s making his gf do all the compromising 😀

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

I disagree with Markee on story 2. OP is NTA. It's the ableist bullshit behind the plastic straw bans that seals the deal for me.

[@katie8732]

But why not explain it?

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

@@katie8732 The info is already out there. A disabled person having to educate folks to not be ableist is just as ridiculous as a BIPOC person having to educate folks to not be racist.

[@claritey]

@@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables Racism doesn't go away by itself and neither does ableism, the best way to overcome them both is with education. Change happens because you do something about it.

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

@@claritey But people with prejudices can only change if they do the work themselves and are willing to learn.

[@claritey]

@@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables Not necessarily. They can be shamed into changing if everyone around them doesn't tolerate their nonsense. Look at how up until a few years ago it was acceptable to call yourself or someone else "retarded" for doing something dumb but now that's considered an ableist slur because people started speaking up about it and shamed those who used it. While I agree that someone who has a strong bias isn't going to change out of the blue and has to want to change, someone can help them get to the point where they are open to change in the first place if they take the time to educate them.

[@TheAzynder]

I would say it's an AH move to just say she needs to learn to live with the morning routine. But after years or setting that routine it's not just a simple matter of getting up, and it's not just about getting 10 minutes of extra sleep, I quite enjoy snoozing. Difference being though that my snoozing does not bother anyone.

[@Basketcase12]

Exactly what does a 15 year old have in common with an 8 year old? If the kid doesn't want to live with his step-family, then he shouldn't have to. He's old enough to have an opinion. I'm not saying NAH, even if that seems morally right, because it WAS the father's actions that caused the kid to be upset. So OP is NTA.

[@TakuKitee]

I litteraly jump our if my bed within 10 seconds of my alarm going off and I haven't even started college.

[@shawnhopper7340]

She doesn’t have to explain. The cousin should already known.

[@raz7573]

Snooze Boy. If OP was my boyfriend, I would develop of a new habit of “needing” the TV on to fall asleep.

[@ilyrana]

"i tell her to leave, and she drove off upset" markee, why in your vote, did you talk about a "screaming match" and "yelling to get out" when that never happened. telling someone to leave can be done calmly, and someone can be upset by simply being told.

[@PCLHH]

That first guy who gets up 3 hours before work... DAMN no.

[@amandarowlinson7446]

As a person that struggles to wake up, Needs multiple alarms or calls to wake up, I sympathethize with the one guy. But if it was bothering my partner so much, I would sleep elsewhere. Did get a little annoyed at those just wake up the first time, silence your phone comments. Telling him to grow up? He found a way to make sure he gets up and go to work. Just because it is not your way doesn't mean it is the wrong way. Not everyone can make that transition so easily and needs the extra annoyances to actually get up!

[@dawnsharp8524]

Divorcing parents: Parents are both AHs. Both of the kids need counseling to get through that family dynamic. When a parent starts taking things away from their own kids to "share" with the steps, always tells the kid having things taken that they are no longer as important as they used to be. Treating the kids like that will only make them resent each other and both the dad and his new partner. Those are all feelings that will last forever and will affect the family dynamic forever. My dad was married to his 2nd wife for 40 years...much longer than the 13 he was married to my mom. We absolutely felt a wedge driven in between him and us, his bio kids, when she entered the picture with her 2 girls. We were expected to like each other. Why? One of those girls could have been a friend in school. The other I wouldn't have touched with a 10-ft pole. His 2nd wife? As far as I am concerned, she is the devil incarnate and it only got worse after dad died. That's when she showed us her true colors.

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

Dude still needs his father to text him to get him up? Grow up!

[@ridatakahari]

“AITA for allowing my son to stop seeing his father?” Really resonated with me. I had to see my dad on weekends and when he got a wife and eventually they had my brother I no longer got one on one time with my dad. I asked for that time with him and his response was “We do things as a family here and if you don’t like it, tough sh*t.” Things that were specifically given to me magically became my brothers bc I’d be gone for 5 days. One of these instances included a pet snake. My snake and it’s cage was magically moved into my brothers room. When I expresses I’d like it in my room my dad talked to my step mom and my step mom said she remembered it was a gift for my BABY brother. My dad didn’t argue with her and I no longer owned my first pet. There are plenty of instances but those were the basic defining moments I remember. When I family just moves in on you and does actually take a parent away it is the parents fault. I wanted to only stay with my mom but my mom wouldn’t allow it. My dad should have made room for me as a separate and also included party. He has his family separately 5 days a week and it would have been nice if he took one Saturday or Sunday a month to give me what I needed. The dad in the story is going about blending the family wrong. It’s extremely hurtful to take something that belongs to you and be told now it’s for everyone. If the dad wanted a shared console he should have bought a new one for the living room. Imagine if you were a painter and your dads house had a paint set and easel in your room. One day you come over and it’s in the living room. It’s for everyone. Any expensive brushes or paints you brought or were gifted are now for everyone. The stepson painted over one of your paintings. That would break anyone’s heart as is shows a clear disregard towards your feelings, boundaries, and your own items are no longer yours BUT you can’t go in and just start using your step brothers or step mothers stuff. The only one who gets their boundaries and feelings trampled are you and their excuse is something like “well you’re not here all week, soooo..” the son now gets to feel like any time he comes over he never know what he will be losing next and nobody will care when he expresses himself.

[@roxasspeedpaint6683]

The son not visiting his father is a what if roles were reversed situation

[@kyriacarica5862]

Some of these OPs were meant to be dragged on the internet, I swear.

[@smallblueangel]

Just one thing. Plastic straws can be reused too. Just wash them out

[@CherieButler]

That is thee most disrespectful “morning routine” I’ve ever heard!

[@HonorWillow]

Story 2 plastic straw one: NTA. People who aren't discriminated against don't realise how tiring and dehumanising it is to HAVE to educate EVERYONE. The aunt made a baseless accusation and was ignorant. That's not OP's fault and if OP didn't want to or didn't have the spoons to argue/educate they have every right to just kick the aunt out

[@jemase7931]

No, it's not just the PS5. Dad has been making a lot more mistakes than that. If dad wants a relationship, he needs to figure it out. Mom has no obligation to facilitate it

[@mbyerly9680]

All in favor of stuffing those dang alarms down OP's throat, raise your hand.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Here’s a FREE car “Ops the bad guy cause he’s selfish and stupid”. A POWER trip? Wtaf ? Am I losing my mind. He’s not abusing her not the Ahole at all

[@valeriegiunca6018]

The car was what HE wanted! Period! She would have picked something that suited her personality and financial means! That was PURE control!

[@lenax9798]

Freya isn't ever HER name. Its the name of a Norse goddess of fertility. OP isnt the a-hole,

[@lillytaylor5752]

Story 1: I'm the same as OP, literally, I always snooze and my dad actually calls me to wake me up. BUT, when I was in relationship and had to wake up before my boyfriend, I would get up at the first alarm, so that he could sleep. I admit, sometimes I would snooze once, but he also did that. More than that would be just... rude.

[@lianabaddley8217]

Growing up trying to get up for school could be hard. My room was in the basement and didn't have the wall to wall carpet just rugs on the cold floor. I would put my alarm all the way on the other side of the room so I would have to get out of bed on the cold floor to turn it off. Until recently I worked nights. Depending on both hubby's and my schedule, my alarm is loud. With The vibrate on. And I leave my phone on a wooden nightstand. My kids realized if I snoozed they needed to come in and bug me. See if I knew I missed it. There should be a way to be responsible for your own alarms. You just have to want to find it.

[@GaiasDotter]

Second story: ah the peak of adulting; animal abuse! It’s just so, so childish to take care of your pet and provide them with things they need like food and water and their own space and toys. Her moms stupid. Just because she’s had pets before doesn’t mean that she knows shit about animals.

[@donnapemberton952]

The ex needs to learn that because he has a new woman and stepson does not mean his son doesn't require father/son time anymore.

[@lianabaddley8217]

Yes! No one heard that there was no more one on one time! It wasn't just because of the PS5. That was just the last straw.

[@CannibalChxrry]

I HOPE if I ever get reincarnated as a cat, that I end up with her as an owner. That HAS GOT to be a very happy cat. Op is the AH. The apartment lady is AWESOME! Jackson Galaxy would be proud.

[@Ecclectic_citcelccE]

Mister Jeep: take it back and get her your favorite saw, LOL

[@CellarSinger]

With the anti-cat mom, the only thing I agree with her about is the cat bed on the kitchen table. Put a shelf at the windowsill and put the bed there.

[@Allenluvable]

Title story. My younger sister and I (both 20s) share a bedroom, and she would set multiple alarms to go off during the night. I am a light sleeper, and wake up multiple times throughout the night even without alarms going off randomly, so I woke up everytime. It was more or less an anxiety thing, where it made her feel better to realize she still hours before work. I lived woth it for a whole because I also suffer from mental disorders and know the weird stuff it makes you do. But eventually, I couldn't take it anymore, and told it her so. Know what happened? She apologized and stopped doing it. Happy ending.

[@Frazzled_Chameleon]

About the daughter blaming dad for inheriting his looks, and then mention of jaw shaving. And I was like Rumer Willis, is that you?

[@jodycotton9454]

My only issue with the daughters cat is having a cat bed on the kitchen table! GROSS!! I'd never want to eat or drink anything at her house or that she brought over. The mom just needs to stay at her own home if she doesn't like the daughter's set up.

[@hekatsees9449]

Daughter who blames father for her appearance story: Maybe this daughter needs to study genetics. She needs to learn that humans during normal reproduction do not have the ability to intentionally pass on specific genes, i.e., physical features… Does the daughter also become angry at gravity on earth if she feels heavier? Does she scream at the sun if she becomes sunburned? Is she annoyed by oceans being excessively salty? Does the daughter always lay blame on that which cannot be controlled by one human? So, why does she blame her father for his inherited genetics, like he concocted some evil nefarious plan? The daughter is full of it…

[@LadyLeomon]

Title Story - YTA, you *know* you are, so why are you even asking? I freely admit to being someone who hits the snooze button several times ... but I sleep in my own room, no one else is disturbed by my alarms! Either fix your problem or don’t dare come crying to Reddit when the poor girl wises up and decides her education _and health_ are more important than a short-lived relationship 😤😤😤

[@krazycats564]

Pro tip, you can wash single use straws a few times. This makes them reusable

[@V.Hansen.]

The Jeep… he didn’t buy it, he acquired debt. A marital liability. Don’t ever spend this kind of money without consulting your partner

[@kathleenmayhorne3183]

Have you never heard, "Happy wife=Happy life?" This also applies to girlfriends. Do you know what the word inconsiderate means, because you embody that? How long do you want to be alone? The straw... when will people stop making uninformed decisions for other people to lump? Then escalate to screeching when they reasonably try to object, or inform. Adults have the god-given right to free will, get to decide for themselves. Will you pay compensation, if your dictates cause disaster for others? Never at all good.

[@snooganslestat2030]

When you know the $3k + is a GIFT and they had to THINK about it.......wow

[@liliannaburdett2479]

I choose violence lmao 🤣 a swift sleepy kick to his leg or shins every morning once she hears his first message an alarm will soon change his attitude lol 😂