r/AmITheA**hole I Was Pranked into Missing the Birth of My Child

[@randallhosier1676]

As a father of 2 who missed both of the births of my children (deployed both times.) I would have kicked the ever living shit out of Austin and gone completely no contact with him and my own sister for eternity.

[@DryPaperHammerBro]

You have, not just a valid excuse, but an honourable one for missing your births, but we both know you’d have rather been watching your children be born.

[@thunderflare59]

I'd help you.

[@jhawkins4412]

You got that right!

[@greatwesterngaming7956]

Austin is 20/5 AH. Op's family probably hates him now.

[@excessivelyfangirlingbookw3339]

Right? Serves him well if OP never wants to see him again!

[@softpinkbunny_shop]

Yeah, Austin is a major butthole. No friend of OPs, he ruined a special moment. And put OP in permanent hot water. He missed the birth of his child.

[@gothicgolem2947]

@gobsilear yt austin

[@chriscarpenter3370]

punishable by firing squad via ac130

[@austinh7110]

Aye, what the hell did I do to you?!

[@AmusementLabs]

Austin deserves the full 5/5 or more. He took something away from OP that cannot be rescheduled or will happen again. You know, like birthday... This guy should burn in hell.

[@ActivistVictor]

Wife deserves an elevated score also, op was at her beck and call for weeks and decides to take one short break and she uses it to eject him from the delivery room for something BIL did wrong? Yeah no, if that was me she’d be in the doghouse for months for making me miss that event, if I even wanted to stay. I might just go and get an escort after I make sure the child was alive and well and he was home because the relationship is already over IMO

[@TobValHjerte]

@@ActivistVictor bro the end is really fucking harsh💀 like yeah the wife was also a bit of an asshole... but she was in fucking LABOR. 🤨 thats a very emotional time n shit. Getting a divorce over ONE THING. Yes it's horrible to be unable to see that event but Jesus christ- since it's 7 months later I'd like to see if you've changed your views or not

[@ActivistVictor]

@@TobValHjerte it’s what the thing implies, ‘you’re my husband but you still aren’t important’ and I’m not going to fight to be important in my relationship. Plus it sounds like she was just an ingrate, the husband was your personal slave for weeks and that was how you repay him? So ungrateful and basically says a lot of bad things about her as a person. Plus, I don’t remember the story fully so I could be wrong about this but she didn’t even really apologize for it, showing zero remorse. It’s one thing to do something wrong, it’s a far worse one to show no remorse

[@TobValHjerte]

@@ActivistVictor personal slave? He was helping out not doing every little thing that she wanted 💀

[@ActivistVictor]

@@TobValHjerte willful slavery perhaps but still, it’s like she just said ‘I know you were there for me constantly but screw you you still don’t get to be in the room’, just not acceptable and I wouldn’t want to be with someone so childish, especially when like this wife she doesn’t profusely apologize after, so it’s clear this is how she is, not just her having a bad moment

[@CMage101]

Austin: "Hey, how long have we been friends?" OP: "I'd say right up until the point where you kept me from seeing the BIRTH of my SON and then bragged about it."

[@AJ-ho9pn]

2nd story hit a nerve. Right after I delivered my baby the doctors told me there was something wrong with their heart and rushed off to do lots of testing. Moments later MIL came in asking where the baby was. I was struggling to not cry and told her what happened. She basicaly went "aww! "Oh Well, I have great news! My daughter is pregnant!" and went on and on about how excited she was about another grandchild while I didnt know if my child was going to live or die.

[@flairartstudios605]

I'm sorry to hear that about your MIL. Did your Child survive the birth?

[@heatherashby830]

Yeesh

[@ArcanineEspeon]

​@@flairartstudios605the suspense is agonizing and it will probably never be resolved 😣

[@whofandb]

One additional concern about the man who missed his son's birth. If his wife knew where he went and who he was with[BIL] she could have had OP's sister call the BIL. Makes me think Austin had his phone off too which doubles the BH score 10/5.

[@ItsDan123]

Yeah this. After a dozen missed calls you don’t try another number?

[@HighPhoenix1754]

@@ItsDan123 good point, didn't think of that actually. This wasn't some random friend, this was an in-law, whose wife she had by her side.

[@ItsDan123]

@@HighPhoenix1754 yeah. My issue is by the time you lower the bar enough to give the guy butthole points you’ve lowered it so far everyone is a butthole.

[@BVBGirl-3313]

The parents in law were probably telling their son his sister was in labor the whole time and yet he never told and kept the phone hidden Lets be real this "uncle" didnt want the dad to be there ... I dont blame the dad at all rslash is wrong about this one, he gets 0 out of 5

[@sethe.4210]

@@BVBGirl-3313 yeah he definitely didn’t deserve a score. And rslash got mad at him for searching for his phone for an hour. What was he supposed to do? Just stop and never find his phone?

[@365ral]

Imagine being so entitled that you think your birthday is more important than an actual birth day.

[@-castus-]

Isn't it the same thing-

[@hazelgrunts]

@@-castus- an actual birth is more important than an adult’s birthday

[@SAJK0KAT]

@@-castus- you only born once. And you have a birthday one day every year. Big difference.

[@moony2543]

@@-castus- a birth day is the day you are born and a birthday is the anniversary of the day you are born

[@spongebobsquarepants3056]

@@-castus- no

[@charger8624]

I believe you meant Austin in the first butthole scoring. Chris was the one who told OP of what was done

[@Namato360]

He definitely did.

[@jllol784]

now pretty submissive and breedable

[@greed94]

@@jllol784 Who the fuck starts a conversation like that, I just sat down

[@aceofspades4782]

@@greed94 I understood that reference

[@danielfazylov6960]

@@aceofspades4782 I did as well

[@ZombieSazza]

“I can’t believe he won’t let me see my friends baby! Just because I hid his phone out of spite for missing my birthday, and sabotaged him seeing his child being born, what gives?!”

[@myheartismadeofstars]

One important thing to remember about the first story: they had been panicky WRECKS about the upcoming birth for WEEKS. They mentioned that they weren't sure if every time she was cramping or sore she was going into labour. His friends had been complaining about missing him, not just the asshole brother in law. He decided to relax for a couple of hours with his best friends, something he likely really needed...and then his BIL took advantage of him. Took advantage of the fact that OP was away from his phone for a moment when that text came in. Because he was a selfish little pissbaby who was mad that he missed his birthday...because of the aforementioned panicking over the impending birth. Not only does OP NOT deserve an asshole score, but he is 100000% in the right to forbid his BIL from seeing his son. And honestly, the wife thinks HER HUSBAND is the asshole for his BIL doing this to him??? What the hell happened to "spouses should support each other"?? (honestly I can understand her not letting him in the room during the birth, emotions were high enough, but she should have forgiven him!)

[@nutellacelery8830]

OP didnt get an asshole score for forbidding the BIL from seeing the kid, he got an asshole score for not being more responsible. I get going to see your friends but he should have had his phone on him at all times. Especially when he's had multiple pregnancy scares already. Instead of looking for his phone for an hour, he should have just asked to borrow someone's phone or just driven back home. They're his friends and it was his BIL's farm so he could have just called back at a later date to get his phone back. I get being panicky but he could have been more responsible with his only source of communication. Also the wife didnt think OP was the asshole??? Lastly you clearly don't understand giving birth, how do you expect someone who's literally giving birth to forgive someone?? She was probably in the delivery room, in the process of it first of all so there was no time to explain. And it's not just "emotions are high", most people are complete messes during pregnancy. (There are literally grown women who cry for their mothers during pregnancy.) It's like "I'm mad at you and I dont have time to reason because im literally pushing a a living human out of my body". It's an insane amount of pressure, not to mention the pain. OP even says that she felt sorry for not letting him in the delivery room after he explained what happened with Austin to her.

[@dr.health1688]

@@nutellacelery8830. Op was being responsible, when you’re out with friends you don’t expect your friend to just suddenly steal your phone. When might I add, they all know your wife is pregnant. If he had just misplaced it or whatnot then yeah, I can see him being a little irresponsible. But not in this case. Besides, like you stated. Emotions are high in a time like this.

[@dr.health1688]

R/slash was the one who said that the wife would be justified in being pissed off at the husband. R/ is all for men being men until it’s a man in a relationship.

[@ActivistVictor]

forgiven him? tbh i think she should have apologized for shutting him out, PROFUSELY. if anyone i was with made me miss a very important moment like that and showed no remorse I would be getting a divorce lawyer most likely. that's a dealbreaker in my eyes, misplaced phone or not, and espcially since op here had been at her beck and call for a long time before so she should have not instantly assumed the worst of him

[@louisisson7946]

@@dr.health1688 also to add onto what you said, how do you know he wasn’t charging his phone or doing something that might damage or brake his phone. I can’t tell with absolute certainty how safe or secure the barn place they all hanged out but they could have been in an environment where the phone could have been broken by it falling through the cracks somewhere or gotten wet.

[@tobiasj1630]

I don't think OP in the first story should have gotten any Ahole points. Like yes, he searched for his phone for an hour which seems very ignorant, but you don't know how you're gonna react when in a panic and you don't think straight. Peer pressure is horrible and hard to put up with, especially when it comes from your friends! You trust your friends, you think "they wouldn't do anything bad to me" so when they start guilting you and pressuring you it can be really hard to see that honestly, that's kinda abusive of them to do to you, especially when you have something big coming up! He put faith and trust in his friends and one of them completely ripped that away from him and then all his other friends acted as if it wasn't a big deal!! Thats BS! OP did nothing wrong, his friends destroyed his trust and that's their fault, not his

[@Yaksoup98]

Yeah I'm pretty sure arselash has talked about how people react to panic in different ways before... but only now does he complain. So many bad takes after their child was born

[@butterytomatoes747]

R/slash is starting to have worse and worse takes on his videos, it’s like he doesn’t know that peer pressure isn’t really easy to deal with.

[@marukouga135]

What I want to know is why didn't they call Austin? Correct me if I'm wrong but isn't he OP's brother-in-law? Why did they only call him when they could've called the brother-in-law?

[@hopepope6573]

@@marukouga135 maybe Austin didn't pickup?

[@marukouga135]

@@hopepope6573 Even more reason as to why OP is innocent.

[@sorenthekirin3921]

I feel so sorry for the OP in story 1, he got blamed and shouted at by everyone for his “friend’s” actions

[@goofyrat2938]

Agreed. Austin should burn in hell, what an evil thing to do. I’m also so confused as to how OP got a butthole score?? A birth only happens once, a *BIRTHDAY* happens every year. He has every right to do the things that he did, and imo Austin should’ve gotten 6/5 - and OP shouldn’t have gotten any.

[@teslagod7221]

and no1 seems to blame the BIL for his crap.i guess he is just that kidn of jerk because he is entitled and super duper ultimate spoiled brat.also the wife,not even getting mad or whatever to her brother for ruining the child birth?that wife and in-laws are mega toxic at highest level.they would be the type of family that someone from them stole from you,so u took it back,then berates you from taking it back...

[@AngeliqueSe]

The first one is straight up vile, the birth of your child is supposed to be one of the happiest moment of your entire life

[@HighPhoenix1754]

I feel like people giving OP a butthole score are folks who haven't been blindsided by betrayal before. He thought he could trust these people, people who just want you to relax before the baby comes with a. Few drinks, what's the harm in that? There is none. He couldn't have seen this coming. Nor could he predict that Austin was bitch-made for what he was about to do. NTA.

[@minacd]

@@HighPhoenix1754 why did he leave his wife if she was about to pop? Nope, you stay there with her, virthsa are a matter of time, even if he had his phone with him, he could have missed it because he was not present. When my brother was born (pre cellphone era), my dad almost didn't make it and my mom had to call a cousin to take her from the Psychoprophylactic class to the hospital. My brother was almost born in the back seat of a car, everything happened too fast

[@emmajokinen]

@@minacd I don't think it's reasonable to expect the spouse of a pregnant woman to stay by her side every moment of every day. There's a window of several weeks where she could pop, and people still have to go to work, shop, and even enjoy themselves. He was only supposed to be gone a couple of hours as I see it, so I don't think he did anything wrong. Just like the pregnant wife has the right to go enjoy her hobbies and friends without forcing him to come along, he has the right to do the same, even though she's ready to pop

[@HighPhoenix1754]

@@minacd Because he trusted his friend who said he'd been through it before. Or is the concept of trusting an experienced friend and thinking they had your best interest at heart foreign to you? He had his phone, his wife presumably agreed on the condition that he would be reachable, which was clearly his intention, and she was with family, so when she did go in labor she was immediately taken to the hospital. If Austin was a true bro, he wouldn't have hidden his phone. He, having gone through this before, would've informed op and this whole situation would have been avoided. But, instead of being a bro, he blindsided OP and decided to be a vindictive asshole. Hindsight is 20/20

[@marukouga135]

@@minacd She gave him permission to go. Furthermore, why didn't they call the brother-in-law? She knew he would be with the in law yet they only called OP and didn't bother to contact the in law despite the fact that the sister was there.

[@starwarriorterra8373]

Honestly, rslash still berating OP in the first story for not having a picture-perfect response to a shitty situation reminds me how many times people forget that you don't think entirely perfectly in those situations. Tunnel vision is really common in panicked situations, and sometimes the idea of asking for someone else's phone to call and check completely leaves your mind. I can tangentially agree that maybe he should not have put his phone down, but he was there with friends, not at some big gathering! Who the hell would think that one of their FRIENDS, especially Austin who has apparently already had that moment of witnessing his own children's births, would hide his phone as a joke when THEY ALL KNEW HIS WIFE WAS EXPECTING A BABY?! Sure, I guess shame on him for assuming trust of his closest friends, I suppose. Imo, you can ONLY give OP flak with the power of hindsight. He clearly was doing everything to make sure he was ready to join his wife in the delivery room, but because this absolute awful excuse of a friend did what he did, eyes are still on OP for being there at all when they should all be on the friend who thought it would be funny to intentionally make him miss the birth of his first child.

[@confettiveda2460]

If OP was in driving distance to be at the hospital while the wife was still in labor then he was fine to not be glued to her side at every single moment. The only "mistake" he made was trusting his friends to be adults.

[@chadaroo9261]

RSLASH, I disagree with the first. Not the Austin part but OP's part. He had his phone at the ready at any moment and Austin took it from him. That's not his fault. At all! 4/5 for Austin and 0/5 for OP

[@Neysiriss]

And I would assume, he talked about it with his wife and she was ok with him going.

[@frostbite3318]

Yeah his friends are immature morons

[@jessicamiller831]

I have to agree with you here. Austin literally took OP's phone. As for Rslash, "Why didn't you use your friend's phone?" Stress. It can make you do crazy things. He searched for an hour with the thought of, "I Need to call my wife, I Want to call my wife,"

[@Neysiriss]

@@mrcroob8563 I mean yeah he was stupid but not an asshole, he was probably panicking trying to find his phone.

[@PaveMentman]

--- @@mrcroob8563 "Whataboutism" sure. But maybe maybe the thread-poster does not remember phone-number and doesn't carry around a notebook and sticky-notes with the numbers?.. Like I personally can barely remember my own phone-number without any sort of references let alone any other string of numbers. ---

[@Zach174.]

The story about the brother announcing the pregnancy felt like was saying “Out with the old, in with the new”

[@MeteoraZero]

Ooh! A Spinarak with a good opinion

[@Zach174.]

@@MeteoraZero what’s that mean? Spinarak is the best Pokémon and you can’t change my mind. I have I little story about why if any reason is needed to worship our six legged overlord.

[@MeteoraZero]

@@Zach174. all praise the hairless hairy bug that is Weedle! Weedle has a movepool of poison sting and string shot, of which Spinarak can't match.

[@MeteoraZero]

@@Zach174. also, Beedrill is cooler than Ariados

[@Zach174.]

@@MeteoraZero who said anything stupid Ariados, Spinarak is all you need.

[@NecroFlex]

2nd story OP: "our daughter has cancer" Family: *in shock and tears* Brother: "oh no...anyway, we're expecting a baby, hurray!...why is no one giving me attention?? Why are you angry at me OP? Wow you're such an Ahole ik you're daughter might die, but fucking hell, think of my struggle of trying to get a kid!" What in the fuck was that story??

[@hunnykun101]

Right?! The nerve of him to say 'I'm expecting YOUR apology' damn

[@ethanmacleod1721]

@Fishy Tree your probably either correct or the brother is just that selfish, and even if your right that’s still an awful response

[@justarandomveryintelligent8934]

I think you're being too harsh on the brother. He did understand it was inappropriate but he also understood it wasnt a situation worth causing drama over and he was trying to talk it out like an adult. Don't trivialize the struggle of not being able to have kids when you want them because it really is a fucked up situation. OP lost their temper and made a hurtful accusation that was uncalled for and made the situation worse than it ever needed to be. They are adults they should have solved the situation like adults instead of fighting like a couple of ten year olds. I get that it was an inappropriate moment to announce a pregnancy but i also totally understand where the brother was coming from. This wasnt a grab at attention at all in my opinion.

[@marblesoda3233]

@@justarandomveryintelligent8934 eh nah he could have waited but he thought out of any time to talk about a kid THIS was the time no there is a kid with cancer like c'mon you can't just play with people's emotions like that's like me saying hey I killed our dog but hey look we have a new one coming so all is well it just doesn't work like that...

[@marblesoda3233]

@@justarandomveryintelligent8934 also the brother was in the wrong so badly how can you expect someone to just be fine when he was trying to seek attention It was not the right thing for him to do he really fucked up and then expected a apology like ugh just digging a bigger whole for himself

[@IntegriTee]

I'm really confused about the story with the guy buying his first house. Even if you really truly felt like you needed a moment to bask alone you had the keys beforehand. Why did you wait until you were together to tell her you wanted to be alone? That feels deliberately cruel.

[@NyxyPixie]

That's what I was thinking. Why not stop by alone beforehand if you have the keys and wanted that? It seems like some sort of weird flex and I can see why she would be upset and feel excluded.

[@IntegriTee]

@@NyxyPixie I'm glad someone else felt this. No one in a marriage should want to flex on their spouse that just feels icky

[@CountessJJ]

I felt the same, she wouldn't have even knew. But waiting til she's there, I'd be upset too.

[@punksandpoodles]

Ooo i didnt even think about that. Yeaaah OP is huge AH lmao

[@gregbasore2108]

Yeah, he could have gone over as soon as he closed and got the keys. He could even have mentioned that he already did a walk through and would still see like less of an asshole. Springing that selfish request on her right before she's about to walk in is just cruel, whether by ignorance or intent. Either he wanted to hurt her feelings as much as possible, or cared so little about her feelings that he didn't even think of how the request would come off and I'm not sure which is worse.

[@ryefry]

The one with the dude and his wife at the new house... I understand how he felt and don't have a problem with it. How he went through it though was a major douchey. Didn't he get the keys the day before? Why didn't he just go check it out and not say anything. He could have his moment and his wife never would have felt slighted.

[@donnyshields4450]

Maybe he didn't think about it until later

[@excessivelyfangirlingbookw3339]

Second story: “I’m really sorry your kid might die, but heads up - we’ve got one to replace her!”

[@ameliashostak4764]

OMG, i thought the same exact thing!

[@oldmanfromoc7684]

They could have waited a few days, they been waiting this long already!

[@franl155]

"I had to tell everyone" - No you didn't. What do you think social media is for?

[@pantheggon]

Basically

[@saxmusicmail]

This is just as bad as telling a couple who have just lost a child, "Well, you can still have another child."

[@suzannepottsshorts]

First story: the "friend" could see the child after apologizing publicly to everyone involved and acts like a responsible adult for once.

[@alana.dyer.author]

Op would have to go no contact with his sister then since the friend is married to the sister.

[@johndoe-ek1qs]

I would absolutely go no-contact with BIL for that "prank"!

[@goofyrat2938]

hell no. Keep them away from the kid, you’ve seen just how immature and inhuman that little shit is. I agree with ​@@Bookwormiest , that type of person is not worth ANYTHING! Intentionally making someone miss the birth of their child is unforgivable, especially for such a idiotic reason - they missed ONE birthday, so the first thing that came to Austin was to fuck up OP’s first child’s birth? Absolutely not, that’s something you can never replace. Keep him the fuck away. period.

[@michamocha]

S1: NTA and Op needs better friends. If Austin had experience than he would've known how important this was to Op to be by his wife's side. He's a grown man throwing a fit over his friend not showing up to his birthday because of a legit issue. His actions were deliberate and he lied twice to save his own tail. Just drop him as a friend, you deserve better. 😭How do you get a low score on something you weren't even trained for? Even if it was corporate, it's still a crappy thing to do and I wouldn't have put up with it lmaoooo.

[@takkycat]

At least he has Chris. Chris at least told him the truth.

[@KarmaTube5]

I agree with slash on this one. He knew his wife was pregnant and could have the baby anytime. Decided to travel across town for a party carelessly not keeping tabs on his phone

[@ethanmacleod1721]

@@KarmaTube5 I don’t know about that one

[@theorca3451]

@@KarmaTube5 the guy STOLE his phone, not that he wasn’t keeping tabs on it. Also you can’t expect the spouse of a pregnant person to be staying home 24/7 for like 7 weeks. If Austin hadn’t interfered than the guy would have made it to the hospital in time.

[@remedyfoolish3593]

@@theorca3451 agreed

[@drollfurball2863]

To the guy who pranked the missing birth thing: there are few things you NEVER joke with. The birth of a kid is one of them.

[@utatanepiko7087]

Every time I hear that first story, I always think "wow imagine that the one day you cave in and finally hang out with friends is the day your wife goes into labor"

[@Galeboy]

And then get blamed for your entire family, OP should not have gotten a butthole score

[@assassintwinat8]

As an adopted kid, that last story really cut deep. Yes, I have issues with my parents, and I'm in contact with my biological mother, but my parents are my parents. They raised me and I'm their kid, full stop. Tiffany's behavior is disgusting and her judgement of OP is grossly hypocritical.

[@Tatsuya2014]

Fellow adoptee, and I must say I’m a bit disappointed at the lack of sympathy for Tiffany. Some people really have issues with being adopted, some adopted kids go through crises related to it, and some like Tiffany really appreciate being able to reconnect with their bio family. Some adoptees desperately want the love and attention they feel they missed out on with their bio parents. Tiffany is being a butt generally, but we shouldn’t invalidate how she herself may view her adoption situation. No one is obligated to have positive feelings towaRds being adopted or their adoptive parents

[@carlosmedina-lo6su]

@@Tatsuya2014 but she cutting out the people that raised her , took care of her, and loved her like a daughter the moment she met her biological parents. There is no excuse to treat her adopted parents like this. She practically saying “thanks for taking care of me but I met my real parents so bye” . And your saying that she doesn’t have to have positive feeling towards her adoptive parents it sounds like op aunt and uncle love her and cared for her,she’s just being a selfish brat

[@BlueEyedDevilWovlf]

@@Tatsuya2014 I understand you can't force someone to have feelings for someone like a child doesn't have to like/love their parent(s) new partner like a parent. I just feel like Tiffany is stringing her adopted parents along by not fully talking to them about her feelings. Tiffany should sit down with them to tell them that she appreciates everything they've done for her, but now that she has met her bio parents, she can't help to feel that they aren't her real family. Even with that said and done that she hopes that she could still be friends with them, or that she doesn't want to be in contact with them anymore. It makes me think that the only reason Tiffany hasn't cut contact with her adopted parents is that she wants to have financial support from them. The next thing that could happen is that Tiffany wants her adopted parents to pay for her wedding.

[@OoverHeaven]

@@Tatsuya2014 you’re right theyre not obligated but its just basic human decency to not throw back all the years of unconditional love your adoptive parents shown you back in their face and basically ghost them and act like they stole your time with your biological parents when they could’ve just left you to the system and in spite of all that they still love her. Honestly deserves 4/5 buttholes in my opinion

[@ryukthegodofdeath5906]

@@Tatsuya2014 Lack of sympathy? What are you on? Cause in the story she cuts off contact with her adopted parents who gave her all the love in the world. Blood does not make the family. Im not adapted but my dad is not even my biological dad, but i still call him dad, i know my biological father, but thanks to 16 years of me not being with him i can't call him dad cause it doesn't feel right, i know hes my father and will say that he is, but i never directly call him dad cause my dad as much of a slob he is now a days was there for my childhood, and we had the best binding moments to the point of no matter what he does unless its really really bad, ill love him as a dad forever, and won't openly try and disrespect him cause i know my biological father. Thats the same with a lot of people in my family my step-dad and mom weren't even married, people told me to stop calling him dad, but they were wrong, cause some of those people are also my step family and i consider them full family cause they were there as nice as family could be. I know im not an adopted kid but the ONE RULE that everyone should follow, is don't disrespect the ones who raised you, showed you love, and helped you through your life. Family is family, blood or not. Edit: ok maybe not cut off fully but might as well since she spends all of her time with her bio parents and none at all with her real parents

[@madamplatypus313]

I feel like if someone told a pregnant woman she couldn’t go out with friends or do anything just because she was pregnant, she’d tear them a new one, so I’m not sure why the one not making a person has to be under even tighter restrictions. I also can’t shake the thought of anyone who blames OP for literally getting his phone stolen having a neighbor who runs out of their house screaming, “Help! We were robbed!” and those people are like, “Well, it’s your fault because reasons.”

[@icemarle]

Don't forget the circumstances of the story. She was close to the delivery date and could give birth any moment. He had to be on his toes. It's not like he had been restricted for the entire duration of her pregnancy.

[@Blackdragon99omfg]

I took it as HE chose to limit himself. That he was hovering due to a lot of false labors.

[@mrfirestar9604]

This is Sod’s law moment, if he didn’t go she would of probably not given birth, she did but that the thing about Sod’s law he had been by her side missing out on everything to be with her ready to help for so long and nothing but then the one night he does go out she goes into labour sod law in a nutshell and now the family is going to hang it over his head his whole life even worst they could manipulate the kid into thinking there dad doesn’t care about them coz he missed there birth they feel like the kind to do that

[@lydiaalexian1435]

Yeah, but the mother can't miss her own birth.

[@McSnezzly]

But like, he can go with friends and still not be missing his phone for an hour without checking in… his brother in law was with him

[@blitsriderfield4099]

Story 1: speaking from first hand experience, if you loose something incredibly important, your mind doesn't go to alternatives, your mind goes into emergency search and rescue mode.

[@blitsriderfield4099]

@lols I'm not saying he's right...but, granted, I posted this so long ago that I can't remember the story

[@bostonrailfan2427]

considering why he needed to find it and why it turned out to be so important he’s more than justified in searching for it

[@bostonrailfan2427]

@lols that was the fastest way.

[@KellyDVance]

I and my husband struggled with infertility for years, nearly a decade. That struggle coming to an end is nothing compared to the pain of finding out your child has a deviating diagnosis. I don't think I could even deal with a person that use my painful announcement to announce their joyful one. Like, read a lollipopping room!

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

Either way Austin knew OP's wife was near time to pop, so even if the phone hadn't gone off before he hid it, he should have had it someplace he could keep checking on it himself if his prank wasn't meant to be malicious. AND...more importantly if he actually felt bad Austin would have started apologizing to him before OP had left Austin's for the hospital. A true friend would have gone with, firstly so they can apologize on the ride over, 2ndly so they can make sure OP gets there safely in his extreme panic, and possibly a 3rd reason being to experience this event with him (and possibly defend him since he is only late due to the prank) That is why I think Austin is so bad.....a true friend would have done at least one of those 3 things if the prank wasn't purely malicious in nature.

[@melodyharpole8272]

Nope, Austin needs to be no contact forever. Having such a selfish person in your life will always end in tragedy

[@Juju2927]

1st Story : Not correcting the names 'cause I know everyone else did. However, giving A-hole points to OP ? No, he was ready to receive a call and run the moment he received one. He's not at fault. 2nd Story : No butthole for OP, full Butthole for the Bro. If they had just waited for a time when the moral was better, nothing would have happened. 3rd Story : Yeah, kinda rude, dude clearly wanted to not share his joy with the one he shares his life with. 4th Story : Receiving a bad rate because they didn't taught OP how to get a good one is a major redflag, they clearly want to control OP's behavior with guilt-tripping. 5th Story : One thing I don't understand with Tiffany's behavior is that : She realized her parents abandonned her, right ? I mean, don't get me wrong, if they got better and things were cut out, ok, but unless the adoptive parents were bad parents (which it seems they weren't), they should have as much, if not more, rights to be considered family.

[@LylaDagger]

I think the only thing I'd fault first OP for was not calling sooner. Dude took an hour before using a friend's phone. No butthole points for him though. The family though. They knew where he'd be. Call BIL. Call one of the friends. C'mon they didn't get a single other phone number of the group? Then they were mad at OP because THEY didn't try other numbers?? 1/5

[@chriscarpenter3370]

couldn't agree more.

[@chromesthesia]

Adoption is a complex issue. They didn't abandon her. They made the decision to place her in another family and maybe it's thrilling to her to be with her biological family and perhaps she has a feeling of belonging for the first time. She shouldn't turn her back completely on her adoptive family but it's way more complex than people like to admit

[@Starfloofle]

I think we're missing too many details on Tiffany's story here. Very little got mentioned about WHAT her home life with her adoptive parents was like, it could very well be that something went wrong during her childhood with them and resentment kept building up; it could be their attitude, their beliefs, or maybe her own, maybe any of them may have an diagnosed disorder that affected something, anything that'd affect how they treated her, really. The dialogue I'm hearing sounds a lot like what I know from a friend of mine with Asperger's Syndrome whose adoptive family, well, tries, but is completely incapable of seeing eye-to-eye and supporting where it matters beyond essentials. That sort of difficulty should really be resolved with counseling and therapy when it manifests (usually in teen years) or else it will leave scars on a person's impression of their caretakers forever. Like they only supported you until started being an inconvenience. It sounds like she finally found the kinship and acceptance she felt she was denied by her adoptive family with her birthparents, and, while it'd be bittersweet for them, a parent who cared truly about their child's happiness would be happy they found a place to belong and be safe and happy. But I'd still give her 2/5 for stealing money though and being a general needless showboat with an attitude. If you're gonna burn the bridge just burn the damn bridge, don't lead people on like that, it's not good for them and it's not good for you. As far as the money goes, it'd be, like, only slightly different if it was like, gift or inheritance money and then she fucked off, in that, well, as much as yeah that'd be pretty dickish to do, if it was gifted/left to you (and you don't invalidate the will), it *is* your money now... But something like that, um, no, you're not entitled to that, that wasn't a gift, that was an exchange with a stipulation it'd be used for something specific... Someone petty enough could probably sue you over that in small claims or something. I don't think we have the information to pass any sort of judgement on her relation towards her adoptive family, except for that. That's worth a score, that's a crime and isn't subjective lol. But she 200% has a completely and entirely valid point about adoption. Earth's got way too many humans on it and the foster care system is an utter disaster, (At least in America, where I assume this story came from) the fact of the matter is that by choosing to save an existing life rather than make a new one, you reduce the world's total amount of suffering by an entire person's lifetime's worth. The decision to bring new life into the world should never, ever be taken lightly, and especially never done out of spite...

[@terrivel11]

You should prooooooobably be present as your spouse’s support person if they’re going through labor. Of course, being there all the time, 24/7 isn’t realistic. It’s not entirely clear but it does seem like there was already family, not necessarily there, but at least at the ready to respond as well. I was still working toward the end of my wife’s pregnancies, but we had my position doubled up so I could bail if I needed to. Maybe just like, half a buthole.

[@xjustskye]

First story: You can’t be serious giving op a bh score, he’s been with his wife constantly, friends complaining he’s not with them these days. Austin purposely did that knowing op would of left if he saw the text. Op doesn’t deserve the score.

[@terra_the_nightingale135]

While I think OP shouldn’t have gotten a bh score, I do see where Rslash is coming from.

[@sibanipanigrahy5509]

Well it was his duty to be working th his wife when she was about to give birth to his baby. He gave in to peer pressure at the worst moment possible

[@terra_the_nightingale135]

@@sibanipanigrahy5509 exactly. Now again, I don’t blame OP for that in all honesty because I don’t expect him to be with his wife 24/7 and he was already doing so much to make sure he was, but with how careful he was it made no sense for him to look for his phone for an hour when he knows his wife would pop soon. So that’s why I completely understand why people would give him at least a little bit of a butthole score even though I myself wouldn’t.

[@bryn1063]

I kinda think he does, he put his friends over his wife. Then his friends took advantage of that aka Austin. OP should of known to leave those friends as soon as Austin was acting like that. OP knew his wife would have the baby any day now, he should of easily stayed and left his friends as soon as they started pressuring him. They're all adults now and if they can't deal with him having a baby. It's to the curb you going. I agree with rslash op gets 1 bh. I don't agree with the score but I know the reason why he put 1/5.

[@your_favorite_jackalope_ba1325]

If op gave in to peer pressure a little sooner, I think it would be fine, but giving in to peer pressure right before ur wife's gonna give birth deserves an a-hole score, cuz like.... op should have known atleast the month shes gonna give birth and during that month, opshouldnt have left her at all

[@Shocker2416]

I agree with you about the last story, Tiffany was basically acting as “Now that I met my biological parents; I hate the ones that raised me”. What kind of person would betray a family that raised her? Family isn’t about being connected by blood, family is about being contented by how much they love each other.

[@Toaster-draws]

1st story: i think Op needs better friends. Austin is pissed off because Op needs to help his pregnant wife. Austin is gonna be really upset when Op has to take care of his kid lmao. I don't think Op deserves a butthole scale. Op was probably panicking and couldn't think straight.

[@Galeboy]

Also i feel like the wife deserves a butthole score, he made it to the hospital in time it sounded like but his wife blocked him out and forbid him from seeing is son after he supported her the entire time through her pregnancy, and it sounds like she never apologized or anything afterwards, so it wasn't an emotional/in the moment thing.

[@teslagod7221]

this would be difficult,since that prick austin is his wife's brother and he has no mention of his wife getting mad at her brother and even asking OP to have her brother see the child whos birth was ruined,by not having her father around and getting berated by the in-laws.i'm not sure about others,but if i'm that child,i will forever hate that uncle,and if i could get a chance,i will ruin his life forever.and if needed,i will keep doing it.it's only once you will be born and even you have no memory of that time,but knowing you own father could not be at your own birth simply because he got pranked by a total garbage manchild uncle,it's a personal mission for me to make sure he will nver ever have any happy life,forever...

[@malicia7321]

The story you told about your wife celebrating your 1 million subscribers with you made me straight up cry. That is so cute and sweet and pure and awesome, yall are literally goals, I hope I have a relationship like you guys one day. Thank you so much for sharing that story with us.

[@SAJK0KAT]

Right! I paused after that and told my husband that this was sooo romantic. 😂

[@McSnezzly]

Honestly, it put my relationship in perspective cause my partner would’ve done what the OP in the story would’ve done

[@TheUltima_Werewolf]

Same here :)

[@FC-th9ld]

I think the fact he'd only been married a short time figures in. He still sees 'him and her', not 'them'. I don't think he was intentionally disrespectful, just unintentionally thoughtless. He needs to apologize profusely, and work on seeing themselves as a couple, not two individuals...

[@MachallaNaNaNa]

@@FC-th9ld personally I think you should already be saying "us" before you get married. Why would you get married to someone if you don't want to be a team?

[@TetraSky]

Fifth story : Your adopted cousin is toxic and doesn't appreciate the people who took the time to raise her, instead she's lost in a fantasy that "my birth parent are there now so I should love them" even though they literally gave her up for adoption. Disgusting behavior. NTA. She jumped right into that one herself with her own actions.

[@nicolevolcy3511]

Exactly! This is why when people causally throw out the “ just adopt!” It pisses me off! Potential Adoptive parents are very vulnerable and often used by people! I have been in a delivery room where this mom had sworn up and down how she was giving up her baby and accepted gifts from the couple. The prospective parents even booked a private room and had things ready to go for the baby and guess what? As soon as the baby was born she kicked the people out and stated “ my lawyer says I didn’t have to give the baby if I didn’t feel like it!” Mind you she had arranged a bunch of crap with the hospital staff before delivery! Everyone was so confused! I was so upset because me being charge that night, I had spoken to the birth mother and the prospective parents in the same room at the same time! It was absolutely awful to send them away! TLDR people scam adoptive parents all the time.

[@anthonywolfe594]

Adopted child here. I'm not trying to say you're wrong but people assume that since we're adopted we should be extra extra grateful because we were chosen to be in a family, but realistically a lot of adopted children suffer from abuse too and ontop of that the longing feeling of meeting their parents and experiencing what it's like to know them like all your friends know their birth parents. Also just because you parents gave you up for adoption doesn't mean they don't care about you, my birth mother gave me up for adoption because she was a single mother of 2 already who had just left an abusive marriage and didn't have the money to take care of three toddlers. She's not a bad person. Just keep that in mind please

[@bryn1063]

Also she kept pressuring her to tell her, and when she tells her she gets angry? "Yeah tiffany. You did sour adopting children for me look how you turned out."

[@nicolevolcy3511]

@@anthonywolfe594 of course we can’t fault a person for wanting to know the birth parents. This is why I say people should just foster because very few kids actually attach to the new family. I fully realize that there is trauma. A foster placement with therapy would be the most neutral option for everyone. No one would have bonding expectations. Disappearing at 18 would be more understandable and expected. Not as many broken hearts.

[@anthonywolfe594]

@@nicolevolcy3511 dude, that is a horrible generalization. I love my parents but I still want to meet my birth parents. People like you seem to think we can only have one or the other but you're wrong. Adopted children are just broken kids who need a home until we're 18. We're people. Where ever you got the idea that we just want to leave out families to meet our birth parents is wrong. Some people only foster yes, but not adopting a kid simply Because you're scared that they won't accept you is cruel. You just mess with their brains making them think that you don't want them. Disgusting

[@benjie128]

That sounds like the sibling who announced a pregnancy at a kid's funeral.

[@imjustverable3860]

R/'s voice breaking a little when he talked about his wife supporting him had me reeling, like damn these relationship goals are unreal

[@sethurott9927]

R is a simp and hates men

[@BeeWhistler]

About that guy who wanted to walk into “his” house alone... you called it right. He even made a point of saying how little his wife had contributed financially. When my husband and I had kids, we agreed I’d be a stay-st-home mom as long as we could afford it. He had a good paying job he enjoyed and was only moving higher every year in skills and in paycheck, so what with that and the fact that our 3 kids ended up just circumstantially born around 4 years apart, and the fact that every single one struggled in school due to either ADHD and Autism (which run in my family, me included) and the youngest has severe anxiety we’re still struggling to address, well, here I am 24 years later. The youngest ended up homeschooled because of panic attacks so I never really had the chance to work outside the home... I have too much work inside it! Add to that the fact that my own neurodivergence will probably be a huge struggle when I am able to consider working and my years of not being in a professional environment and, well... sometimes I feel like a terrible parasite. I feel like I’m spending someone else’s money, because I am. But my husband doesn’t see it that way. He says it’s our money. They’re our kids, it’s our apartment. We’ve been married for 28 years but he felt the same at 6 months, though we had a much harder time communicating back then. Early marriage has a lot of growing pains. And while I still struggle with feeling like a burden, it would be much worse if he hadn’t stated that he feels otherwise. So if OP can pull his head out of his rear and do some thinking with it (his head, not his rear), it’s not a lost cause. She hasn’t contributed much because they just got married. Unless they were dating for years and had agreed to save up for a house, how would she have been preparing for the same things as he was? Not everyone has the kind of career that produces a lot of money... my degree is in fine art, for example. If I work in that, probably I won’t be adding much to the bank account. So she’s the same way. Suddenly she’s less deserving because of it? These two need to sit down and talk, preferably with a counselor. They need to get on the same page about a lot of things. I think the failure to do that is part of what cracks a lot of promising marriages into pieces before they have a chance of lasting.

[@alansartrignot]

You know, I think one of the reasons you got big was because people prefer people actually reading the content, not some bot… I appreciate your Channel for this reason too

[@ProxiProtogen]

He was around *before* the bots

[@nicocchi]

There was a bunch of KZbinrs reading reddit posts at the time rSlash popped up (Cuestar, GioFilms, Ailurus, illuminaughtii, fresh, etc.) but the rest didn't get as popular or just stopped for whatever reason and then effortless copypaste tts channels impossible to tell apart from eachother had the whole playground for themselves. In that regard, rSlash is not unique nor the first but he just kept the grind and made it work. I remember he also got into some drama with one of the KZbinrs I listed (if you know who, you know) who acussed him of sub-botting because of his explosive growth compared to other redditubers who also read the posts and were there from earlier. The accusations ended up being baseless so I guess rSlash has always been a god of the aglorithm and his clickbait game is on point

[@quadchairman4895]

Those bot channels are so obnoxious. Literally copy/paste text to speech and boom free money. Why anyone supports them is beyond me.

[@TheDragolf]

I like the bots because where as r/ post once a day, some of the bots post upwards of three times a day. I like r/ but the content is slow, and sometimes nonexistent since I don’t like the Choosing Beggars stories.

[@quadchairman4895]

@@TheDragolf yeah… they post 3 times a day cuz they’re literally copy and pasting posts. They probably do it while they’re watching tv too

[@samurailevi49]

I kind of have to give OP’s in-laws a butthole score. They didn’t even let him properly explain himself.

[@LylaDagger]

They also didn't try calling anyone else. Like. The wife had to have the other friends numbers. Even if BIL didn't answer, he was with his friend. She knew that.

[@FourzeGenome]

@@LylaDagger How in god's name do you call someone while giving birth?

[@SoupMansSoup13]

@@FourzeGenome Have the other people around call them bro 😃

[@FourzeGenome]

@@SoupMansSoup13 Ah, right. I'm stupid.

[@mindyschocolate]

Wife kept her husband out, so she gets 1/5 for being petty. Friend gets 4/5 for taking his phone and not letting him know about the messages.

[@nicolevolcy3511]

I agree! It’s not like he was abusive and mean to her. It was a one time thing! Also the family yelling at him on that day is terrible!

[@mariposa9506]

Though his wife was petty I can't give a woman in labour any score. Pain, hormones and drugs all combined make women act in ways they never would and later regret. In the moment, she's not herself.

[@Sorchia56]

Have you ever been in labour? It’s horrendous even with meds. It’s scary, painful and did I mention SCARY? I was in labour for 30 hrs (Failure To Deliver) and we crashed. Emergency c-section, didn’t hold my daughter until hours later…I was so happy to have my husband by my side, granted not always but for the most part. He wouldn’t allow anyone to hold her until I did either. He stayed at her side through everything and then held her the entire time.

[@wannabehistorian371]

@@Sorchia56 Maybe that was understandable. What isn’t understandable was that she was all “Come on, let the baby meet Uncle Austin uwu.” which is just super mind-boggling.

[@Sorchia56]

@@wannabehistorian371 I’ll have to rewatch. I thought she forgave her husband but not brother. That’s wrong on every level. You don’t get a delivery do over!

[@quadchairman4895]

The adoption story is sick. Her “real parents” abandoned her. And now that they got to skip all the troubles of raising a child they get to “reconnect” now that she’s a functional adult. I’ve seen this too many times. Luckily I’ve seen plenty more who either don’t even want to know or keep in touch with their bio parents but still know who the real parents are. As for as Tiffany shame on her for ruining adoption for a child that could’ve used it and she sounds like a disgusting person. I know it would hurt but I’d cut her off. She made her choice.

[@Gymtoshi]

Whenever I see a post on AITA that everyone clearly knows OP isn’t the butthole, I always just assume they are seeking validation to show the other buttholes in their life how wrong their actions are. Like the cancer story, I think he’s planning to show the responses to his parents and his brother

[@mothmitchell7774]

or possibly even reassurance so they don’t feel as bad about it

[@rogue9230]

Aita is either, aita for shooting my brother or aita for for not busting my criminal father out of jail

[@helioizer3366]

@@rogue9230 no its either "aita for commiting mass genocide, strangling a baby, and eating a kitkat without breaking it" OR "aita for not giving my credit card, house, basic human rights, and everything else up because a karen wanted them"

[@IHNIFAN]

I also assume that they might've been overthinking the situation too much that they can't tell.. I know that all too well myself

[@Irene-qk6qm]

I think the OP is lashing on his brother out of anger and spite, and he would have reacted similarly if the brother had made the announcement a couple of days later. He's angered that someone close is having a child while his is probably going not live for long. I hope he won't resent his future nephew or niece for being conceived at such at inappropriate time for him.

[@TitanusGojiraEditz]

"IT'S JUST A PRANK BRO!" *"IT'S JUST AN M134 MINIGUN BRO!"*

[@qoeiennl6762]

IT’S JUST AN LOCKHEED AC-130 BRO!!

[@TitanusGojiraEditz]

@Gamma Just a Nova Bomb? *IT'S JUST A NUCLEAR WARHEAD BRO!"*

[@tatyanazhestkova822]

Y/n : “Hey dude want to go to the train tracks?” A : “Sure!” “Is there supposed to be a train?!?” Y/n : lit’s just a Soviet train!”

[@dracko158]

*IT'S JUST A TSAR BOMBA BRO!*

[@poison_raine5219]

*"ITS JUST FIRST DEGREE MURDER, BRO"*

[@threegsgaming6959]

I actually gasped when Tiffany called OP a bad person for not adopting. Like, *what* ??? Says the woman who was given money to attend her adopted parent’s birthday and neither showed up nor gave back that money. Also, I’m curious: when OP said Tiffany’s parents were mad, was she referring to the aunt and uncle or the bio parents?

[@CooperGal24]

I say it's the Bio Family who made her that way. We don't know much about them, why they gave Tiffany up for adoption or even why they want her back now. But I think I know. I've heard too much stories on here, where the adults that were given up for adoption or pretty much abandoned as kids are approached by the biological parents years later, only to try and demand them for their money, their organs or wants them as their free live in baby sitter to their other kids. To me, this story pretty much sounds like Tiffany's parents didn't want ANYTHING with the "Parental Responsibilities", so they had the uncle and aunt raise her. Then when she's an adult, the parents swooped in and took Tiff under their wings, filling her head with toxic lies and giving her lavish gifts and such. Why? My guess is that they probably want money from her, or to use her as a kind of trophy to parade around with, brag about and whatnot. Overall, Tiff's attitude is highly disgusting.

[@chromesthesia]

@@CooperGal24 it's probably way more complex than that

[@mezzokitty247]

@@CooperGal24 yeah, I wouldn’t be surprised if Tiffany also believes that her adoptive parents stole her from what she calls her “real” family. It’s sad that the bio parents are feeding her lies, but she is an adult and (unless there is a chance of more going on that wasn’t included in the story) she is actively making the choice to believe them and be ungrateful towards her adoptive parents.

[@CooperGal24]

@@chromesthesia The Bio Parents probably wanted to use her as their "Personal Accessory", to get bragging rights or something.

[@CooperGal24]

@@mezzokitty247 True. My question is, WHY did the Bio Parents decide to come into Tiff's life now? Why not when she was a teen, or a kid? Like, the moment you decided to give your child up and NOT bother to try and either get them back or bond with them, you pretty much lost that right and respect as a parent.

[@VillainousMagus]

That last story broke my heart. The cousin turned her back on the family that loved her. Family isn't by blood. Look at the bio parents she had. For whatever reason they didn't keep her. And the cousin practically ditched her adopted parents as soon as she got in touch with bio ones. It's sad

[@MarkLLawrence]

The reason I watch/listen to your reddit reading channel instead of others is mainly because you are one of the few out there that speaks clearly. Daily content with no weird pacing, you keep it clean, and you add in the occasional personal story related to what you've just read. Thanks from all of us and our love to you and your growing family! And many, many, belly rubs and treats to Yugo.

[@MoA-Reload...]

Megan, I'm wishing you all the positive thoughts and best wishes for you and your family for your fight ahead. I really hope you kick cancers butt 🤗 And wow, excited or not, NOT the time to announce that my dude. It really could have waited a few days at least. It is fantastic news and I'm sure your family are happy for you but they just had an utter body slam of news to deal with. From your perspective your going to be a father! From your sisters perspective you just practically announced "don't worry guys, replacements on the way" You owe a massive apology I'm afraid and I really hope you figure that out fast. Your unborn child's cousin really needs her uncle right now

[@BlueSkyBS]

OP: Misses son's birth because of BIL's prank BIL: "Don't be upset, it's just a prank, bro." OP: Breaks BIL's face. BIL grizzles like a sook. OP: "Don't be upset, it's just a prank, bro."

[@nickm4406]

Grizzles like a sook? What is that? Is that like "cries like a bitch?"

[@thatanimewaffle8580]

@@nickm4406 No, im pretty sure it means to grizzle like a sook.

[@nickm4406]

@@thatanimewaffle8580 ur very helpful

[@thatanimewaffle8580]

@@nickm4406 No, I’m Waffle.

[@Star_Joker]

1st story = 1/5 is too much for OP Rslash. I get that you are a father now, but it could be a little bit of a callous score, given that the miracle of childbirth is such a special thing that many people often can't make, and it's painful as hell. That was a bad take.

[@ReigoVassal]

Especially since he literally missed the fact that he's not going far away.

[@Starman062]

And even for the “just use your friends phone” point he was probably really stressed about losing his phone

[@craftxeni]

@@Starman062 Yeah I agree

[@ItsDan123]

@@Starman062 and Austin could have just turned it off or flipped it to silent so calling it doesn’t mean squat

[@ninjabluefyre3815]

Being a father has given Rslash an explicit bias for some stories.

[@stefantsarev4442]

Austin should be grateful that you didn't break his jaw that evening, it's what I would do.

[@smobasi3367]

Well if you are the person in your pfp im absolutely sure you would break every single bone in his body

[@rjlangaman4741]

I was thinking the same thing

[@stefantsarev4442]

@@smobasi3367 I used to be. The thing is that I usually stand against violence and never attack first unless threatened. That being said, if a moron makes me miss my child's birth because I missed his, I will make sure that moron has as many teeth as the child by the time it is born.

[@AlastorsNight]

If somebody did that to me during a super important moment like that, the person in question would be finding out first hand what a defibrillator feels like because screw just braking a few bones.

[@AJ_pony]

For the first story I think the wife should have understood and realized how much the husband helped her

[@calvinotto6336]

Im with rslash, my gf moved in when she became pregnant, I purchased my house outright and I told her to fix up our house her way so that she felt more at home, we love each other very much and I like our house more since she did it up, its great!

[@Everhardt94]

I can't even with that adoption story. How you can just turn your back on the family that raised you in favor of people you hadn't met until you were an adult is beyond me.

[@yemmiecapricornus3586]

Ehhh... what if your family is toxic and you've made friends along the way that showed you that your life doesn't have to be entrapment/abuse/gaslit? Isn't that the same? I wonder if we know the whole story, here.

[@yemmiecapricornus3586]

don't get me wrong, i agree with that cousin bein an asshole given what we know... but i can easily think of reasons to turn my back on my family, having a toxic, manipulative one.

[@morgandouglas6014]

I think OP needs to cut ties with Austin and his family needs to apologize to him for making him the bad guy. It’s not OP‘s fault he missed the birth of his son. Austin got OP in trouble with his family and tore his family apart for no reason to retaliate against him.

[@hydra0229]

About the second story: NTA OP, you just said your daughter has cancer and can DIE. So his first reaction was literally to say “it’s okay guys, because if she loses her daughter at least me and wife will bring another baby into the family!”. It’s okay to be excited, and it’s okay to have planned on telling the news on the reunion before knowing what it was all about. But as adults he and his wife should have realized that it was not the right moment. They could have waited a week, or at least a day! Wtf

[@justarandomveryintelligent8934]

I agree but i dont think it makes the brother a bad person or an insensitive prick. I think OP was too harsh on the brother by accusing him of not caring about the daughter and OP made the situation more than it needed to be because they lost their temper. That doesn't mean i'm letting the brother off the hook just that i think OP could have handled the situation way better than they did and that the brother's dumb decision isnt worth ruining their relationship over. OP owes the brother an apology for making such a hurtful accusation and the brother owes an apology for being dumb. So they should apologize and move on.

[@thatbasementcat]

@@justarandomveryintelligent8934 OP doesn't owe their brother crap. "Oh, a little girl in the family is dying? Don't worry! We're brewing a replacement so everyone will forget all about her because NEEEEEEW BAYBEEEE!!!1!!1"

[@Fenronin]

@@thatbasementcat he never said that that's overreacting, sure it was a bad choice but come on

[@bellsroselps9548]

Your relationship with your wife seems really wholesome man it's nice you tell stories about you and your wife

[@23timesin2minutes]

Dude, your personal stories are a big reason why I keep coming back. Thank you

[@defect213]

Giving the OP in the first story an point on the score is so dumb. You said it himself, he was given into PEER PRESSURE. He had put his trust into his "friend", who then took that trust and throw it 5 miles south. Because of that one douche's actions, it caused unnecessary tension in the family and robbed OP of seeing his child being born. He is a victim in this story

[@Bendigo1]

I would actually give everyone in that story 2.5 buttholes. Op for going out when his wife was so close to labor, his wife for not letting him in the room, Austin for hiding the phone, his other friend for not telling, and the in-laws just for being in-laws.

[@Starman062]

@@Bendigo1 ??????? Did you miss the whole peer pressure part of this conversation?? Or the in laws not having any clue of the phone being stolen???? Or the fact that he didn’t flaunt taking OP’s phone until afterwards??????

[@Some_guy_passing_by]

There is a thing called 'boundary' . Sometimes we need to be firm . Childbirth is one of those times. If one can't enfornce a boundary around the time of his own childbirth , well ...not great .

[@QuietChaos1996]

@@Bendigo1 Dude, listen to the story better. 1) OP *wanted* to stay home with his wife. 2) OP's friends peer pressured him into hanging out with them [including Austin]. 3) OP's phone being stolen by Austin as a "prank" for missing his birthday party. 4) Taking a wild guess, the wife and SIL knew where OP was and SIL tried calling Austin to inform OP about his child being born. Austin silenced his phone on purpose after that. 5) The wife is being a butthole after the whole ordeal because OP wasn't at fault and it was Austin all along because she wants their child to have a relationship with the sh*tty uncle who STOLE OP'S CHANCE OF SEEING HIS FIRST CHILD BEING BORN. Might not have kids, but I get mad at that.

[@Bendigo1]

@@Starman062 peer pressure is a cop out. He is a grown man, his friends need to repect his decision. Honestly, from everything he says he probably just wanted a break from his wife. It was pretty irresponsible of him to just leave his phone somewhere if he was actually worried about his wife. He obviously left it long enough for it to be taken. His wife and her family seem to have some issues. I will remove 2 buttholes from Chris' score because i was thinking he told him while they were at the farm. He still gets .5 for being a Chris.

[@A-Microwave]

first story, chris wasn't the one who hid the phone cause of the missed birthday, austin was

[@Pandaikon0980]

Rslash just misspoke. That happens occasionally.

[@TetraSky]

Fourth story : NTA. You weren't trained for it. They are the ones who messed up. You did good leaving. That sounds like the kind of place that praises you all year and when it's time for the end of the year bonus or raise, suddenly your evaluation is "needs improvement" and you miss out on everything. Toxic workplace deserve nothing but have their employees walk out.

[@Christina-cf9ot]

That house story. I recently bought a house on my own. When I walked in the first time it was so moving to know if managed to do such a thing. It was also the most lonely I've ever felt because I desperately wanted to share it with someone. I ended up calling my parents, but I would have loved to have someone beside me at that moment. Perhaps it's because I always wanted to get married, but even as a huge introvert I want to share my successes with someone close to me.

[@jaymccray1763]

Yeah, as someone who is a manager, communication is key in evaluations. Explaining why a score is low and actively trying to help improve it (which in this case just means training, like you said) is a very big part of a good work environment and moral. Evaluations should NEVER be used to guilt or manipulate. I’m glad OP left. I’m even glad OP left on the spot. Even though I know the frustration of being short staffed, they sounded like they had it coming.

[@xKCAZxLEADER]

r/Slash should let his wife read a story for a video, I think that would be a good idea

[@AestheticWaif]

I wholeheartedly second this idea! Wholesome revenge would be a great topic for her!

[@copper4925]

I third this

[@Josh_the_jester]

While that might sound fun, I don't know if she'll like the idea, but we'll see

[@ReigoVassal]

I really wonder what her opinion on matter like that.

[@lunedune4548]

Yess! (If she wants to)

[@augustaseptemberova5664]

The story about the couple moving into the house the guy bought .. personally(!), I wouldn't mind that request. Yea, I'd find it odd, but I wouldn't mind. I may ask "why?" out of curiosity, but I'd roll with it. Having said that, if I was the type of person who'd want to be there, I'd definitely get upset at the husband, if I had said "I'd like to go together into _our_ new home" and he'd try to dissuade me. Then I'd deffy suspect some selfish motive or power play or something.

[@BDM276]

I don't know. If he paid for it himself it might be his house, but it should be their home. Not including your wife is something that would upset most people. I'm with Rslash on this. Their marriage doesn't sound like a partnership. Maybe you personally can understand this but I sure wouldn't.

[@augustaseptemberova5664]

@@BDM276 Read my whole comment ;)

[@I_THE_ME]

@@BDM276 Well, had the wife been OK with OP's minimal request, that would've helped OP understand that she supports his achievements and that would've also helped to build the relationship. That is universally a better choice than what happened in the story, since now neither of them can enjoy their home and that is putting strain on the relationship. Thinking about choices in a vacuum, without their consequences leads to stupid problems such as these. OP even *asked* her about if it was OK, and she got upset about that. If you can't even talk about a subject with your fiancée without them getting upset about it, there's a major asshole right there.

[@cheri1687]

I'm with you on that. I would have been find letting my partner go in alone for a few minutes just so they could take it all it. Wouldn't habe bugged me at all, but if it was for a power play, yea I would have been annoyed an we would have had a talk about it later.

[@punksandpoodles]

I can really see both sides. I think its really just dependent on the relationship. Maybe I missed it but if the wife said that OP could go in by himself, then OP wouldn't really be the AH bc she gave him permission rather than saying "hey, I'd actually like to experience this together." And communicating. I think the wife deserves an AH rating because she's not talking to her partner about whats bothering her, or trying to resolve the problems

[@hamz5791]

The story about rslash an his wife was beyond wholesome :,)

[@connerolson3320]

So true and I'm pretty sure rslash was starting to tear up because of that happy memory.

[@ChillyGillyBean]

I love your channel since you’re so animated when you speak, makes the stories more fun and I always come back for more

[@casekocsk]

Dump that friend... And if there's any friend defending him, dump them too...

[@MattyC349]

Funny story about the step into house alone story when rslash said instead of explaining it then it cuts to an ad and it said we need to help the environment lol

[@trustyrat8632]

Op in the first story definitely needs new friends. Also Chris was the friend that told him and Austin hid the phone

[@whofandb]

The brother who announced that he was going to be a father after OP told of his daughter's illness deserves 5/5buttholes. HE should be the one to apologize not OP.

[@xJadeWolfxx]

I didn't realize I was coming for marriage feels today. The whole talk about life partners and marriage really hit home for me. My husband-to-be and I have been together almost 9 years and between finance issues and then basically 2 years of Covid we've had to keep delaying the wedding. We finally got a real tangible date to make it official. We've shared everything together for the last 9 years, every struggle and triumph. I can't imagine that OP's wife's mindset. It's like you don't matter, that you're not in that together. That he doesn't care enough to share such a big moment with her. My stb-Husband and I are looking to buy a house soon, and you bet we're going to walk through that front door together when it's finally ours.

[@wreckelite]

Last story: The birth family of my adopted daughter has never been a secret. The only thing we didn't know (until last week) was the name of the bio father. She's 15 now and sees several of her siblings on a regular basis. She even babysits the youngest a few times a month.

[@quadchairman4895]

I would have personally made sure Austin was unable to have kids of his own if you catch my drift.

[@lapapa9010]

Aight, wanna have the crowbar or the baseball bat?

[@quadchairman4895]

Oh… ummm sure yeah that’ll do. Idk why I was carrying these hedge clippers anyways lmao right?

[@daldos9665]

yeh make him gay UWU

[@coreythecasualoddity2734]

GET THE SLEDGEHAMMER!!!

[@HollyAnneThePaganChaosWitch]

@@daldos9665 that wouldn't mean he couldn't have kids. Sperm donation and surrogacy are things. I would go with the meat cleaver for this one.

[@callmeriggy]

I can't believe Rslash gave dude a butthole score for going to see friends while his wife was safely with family. What the fuck.

[@AmyoftheFlowerField]

I was confused about that too. I read the original post and people were giving him YTA ratings because he left his wife to go hang out with his friends. But imo, he did everything right, except leaving his phone on the counter. But even then, you should be able to leave your phone on the counter and not have your friend take it.

[@vloggerbonakid6178]

@@AmyoftheFlowerField Not only that, but he was *pressured* and *given into* Austin. He has no idea when her labor will be so what is he going to do, stress so much it may murder him? That's why he has his phone!

[@smashrosa8111]

@@gladbr7629 He had a child recently so I believed that threads about kids make him biased.

[@Pandaikon0980]

But OP WAS a butthole. He knew how close his wife was, but instead of telling his buddies to grow up and stop pestering him about hanging out, he finally caved. Then to top it off, he didn't keep his phone on him. And when he "lost" it, why didn't he have one of his buddies ring his phone in an attempt to find it faster? OP is no where NEAR the butthole that Austin is (I personally would have gone with 5/5) but he's still a little one.

[@ProxiProtogen]

@@Pandaikon0980 who to say that they didn't call the phone, his friend hide it plus how unreasonable it is for someone to put down there phone at a party with friends? I say .5/5 points for OP

[@insideAdirtyMind]

Story 1: Knowing many men are not interested in the whole birthing process, like, what? They can die during birth? No that is what woman are made for, blabla.....I would be so happy if the father of my child finaly arrived at birth. What is wrong with the family to ask him about some texts at the phone? There can always be a problem with the phone, make sure he gets the message, call his work, call his friends, call the neighbor....wtf is wrong with this family.

[@smashrosa8111]

I don't think that the family knew who else to call and it's understandable that they are pissed at op even tho it is not his fault.

[@sebastianschoefl]

@UCjScI4jwXrG3Z00Y_l7TK7A OP was literally at his brother in laws place. Whom is the brother to OPs wife. OPs wife knew BIL was badgering OP and that OP went to meet up with him and a few friends. The family should have known

[@LylaDagger]

@@smashrosa8111 Your telling me the wife didn't have one of the friends' numbers in case of emergency? Dumb. That is dumb and dangerous.

[@smashrosa8111]

@@LylaDagger I was talking about the family not the wife. Also the wife was most likely too busy to care about that.

[@bethany3549]

The story about the guy buying the house hurt me as a wife. If my husband did that my heart would break.

[@vanessawhitney5796]

Wow. What a great wife you have 🥺 that is so sweet and supportive of her! She is gonna make an incredible mommy! Love that for you!

[@gerrard1144]

OP: hey guys so, Megan has cancer... OP's brother: hey guys! My wife is finally pregnant!

[@jonmendelson1104]

"No big deal if she dies, we're brewing up her replacement right now...if she dies quickly enough we can even call the replacement Megan too!"

[@bossatron456]

Honestly i dont believe the guy from the beginning deserves a butthole score, its easy to put the blame on somebody after the fact, but hindsight is 20/20, at the time he trusted his friends advice and thought he was in the clear so he prob thought he had time to look for his phone

[@aceofspades4782]

Me after seeing the thumbnail: "Realistic Derp isn't real, he can't hurt you..."

[@airsoftisthebest100]

I do not always agree with you, but when you talk about relationships, I almost cried. You were so right!

[@sillygabbyx]

My mom was adopted and we are lucky enough to have reunited with my mom's bio family. How we all looked at it was adding more members to our family, not finding our "real" family. Eff Tiffany.

[@officer-alex-hits3209]

the second story reminds me of a previous AITA story that Rslash covered. A women lost her spouse and kid and another announced that she was expecting, AT THE FUNEAL! and when OP warned her to keep it on the down low and She didn't even try to hide it.

[@johnrose411]

Why would his wife be like “you lost your phone for an hour? I won’t let you by my side during one of the greatest moments in life!” What the actual fuck? People loose their phones? It happens? They…. Don’t understand that? What am I missing here? Why would someone be so fucking pissed off at someone else for something so BASIC.

[@velvetdarksoul8741]

So seeing his wife pushing out a baby is the greatest moment in his life? Something amy woman with a functioning uterus can do? Man if that's how breeder mentality is im glad I'm child free the greatest moment of my life won't be reproduction

[@jimbobjones9330]

@@velvetdarksoul8741 Get therapy. You need it.

[@johnrose411]

Jimbob Jones I hope he does for his sake.

[@jimbobjones9330]

@@johnrose411 Ikr? That's a whole lot of anger over people having children. It's not for you? Great. But holy crap to have that type of hostility toward something that doesn't affect you can't be healthy.

[@louisisson7946]

@@velvetdarksoul8741 um it’s literally what our DNA is designed for so yeah there is a ton of natural feels and emotions that basically explodes when a person sees their first child, not to mention the hormones that you body produces to make people naturally attached to their children. You could call one the main reasons you body functions it to reproduce (not throwing any shade though on any body who can’t) so while you can live your life without kids is fine ,it’s hardly fair to berate or scorn some who is continuing the human race. Anyway hope you have a nice life and a nice day.

[@MarimuDesu]

i swear i feel like tiffany deserves the 75/5 AH for this one.

[@CrackerDak]

About the adoption story that one hits close to home. I was adopted at birth. Refused on multiple occasions to see my biological mother, finally relented on her death bed so long as my mother came with me. Still refuse to meet bio dad. No interest

[@ianmacfarlane1241]

First story - I'd keep Austin out of my life for good. He's bad news - who knows what he's capable of? OP doesn't need this guy in his life.

[@Sugarylamb]

The brother in the cancer daughters story’s is so obvious, like yes they’ve been struggling to have kids but after hearing that a grown child with thoughts and emotions could be dying. You felt it was right to introduce this practically lifeless blob in your wife’s stomach. 😐

[@ShiroDustbunny]

Rslash, get your wife to read a story one day. Would be awesome!

[@jacklamborn8810]

"Its JUst A PraNK brO" "Its just a Glock 19 bro"

[@freddymintarja2186]

"sorry about the cancer kid, but we got a replacement for you in the family brewing" that got me cracking up!

[@lr6790]

I hate people who say it’s your fault for being peer pressured into doing something, it’s peer pressure! It’s not some easy to say no to thing!

[@diogee3532]

I disagree with the story about op buying the house because you can still have your own “me” moments where you can just acknowledge yourself and your accomplishments without others. His wife just has to accept that. Not every milestone is something that someone wants to share

[@tylerclark1979]

He always sides with the woman in every aspect. Its a very common theme

[@somedude685]

@@tylerclark1979 yeah I noticed that to

[@ellemurano6276]

I totally get what you mean but I can see why it's so hurtful to her. They're married so you would think buying a house together (I assume, OP left out the monetary details) should be a joint milestone? She's his wife who's going to live in that house with him. Presumably have kids, see them grow up and grow old. Wouldn't you be hurt by knowing that in this first step toward this future you want to share together with your husband, he wants to be alone? I don't understand why he didn't go check it out before hand if he wanted to be alone. From the way he phrased it he seems to have gotten the keys early. Why did he wait till coming with his wife to ask that?

[@mariposa9506]

You can have me moments. But a married man buying a home isn't one of those me moments, it's an us moment. Its where you make your shared life together.Unless his wife is gonna live someplace else.

[@brendanh864]

In the first story, if anyone would understand, I would expect it to be Austin because he said he had been in the same situation twice before, so hearing him be so childish about OP missing his birthday when he said he should have clearly understood why he did is a little crazy to me. Also I loved that heartwarming story about your 1 mil milestone Rslash, congrats

[@m.j.2578]

Hearing how hard you work for this channel makes me love you (in a not creepy way) even more! I am a daily watcher who waits for that magical upload every morning with my coffee, you are a big part of my life and routine. I dont pretend to know you, but I know I am happy to have you in my life. Thank you R/ for just being a decent human

[@shannonp1656]

My ex almost missed the birth of our child and it was 100% on him. There were indications it would be that day. He was a delivery driver. His boss had been keeping all his deliveries local. My ex requested an out of town delivery when he got in to work that day. The guy in this story stayed close and had his phone nearby. It's no different than being at work, store, or any other friend's house.

[@martinprovo2389]

That guy with the new house, sounds like he's a hardcore prescriber to that high-value man salespitch