"He's selfish for getting a job where he can't babysit" "Some of you have implied I'm forcing him to babysit"
@hungrymusicwolf2 жыл бұрын
One of these two statements is correct, and I assure you it isn't the first one.
@chrstfer24522 жыл бұрын
The snark on this episode is wiiild
@Sailorguardianluna2 жыл бұрын
It's pretty much "Waaahhhh my free babysitter is getting a life outside of me 😭" (I'm assuming, she never said she pays him). Grow up, Karen.
@koalaslovelemons80982 жыл бұрын
“He said he needed the job and he wasn’t realistically going to stay and watch his sisters for days on end especially he doesn’t get paid for it.” Yep, looks like he doesn’t get paid a penny.
@dedalis2 жыл бұрын
I mean he's 18 and staying at home for free, the woman should just kick him if she doesn't like his decision to get a job
@IljaHordist2 жыл бұрын
Let's not sugarcoat anything: OP's husband in the last story shows many warning signs of an evolving stalker.
@SithBunny12 жыл бұрын
Am I the only one thinking about the movie Juno? I'm sure this dude wants to be with her.
@Nekulturny2 жыл бұрын
The lyrics to Goodbye Earl are running through my head.
@crustycurmudgeon21822 жыл бұрын
I haven't seen a comment concerning this: when OP says her husband "told everyone at the surrogate's house to leave" so he could present her with the $9K car he bought. To my thinking, that increased the creep factor by 10. Controlling much?
@leeannsampson60502 жыл бұрын
@@crustycurmudgeon2182 yup, 100%!
@leeannsampson60502 жыл бұрын
@@SithBunny1 that's exactly what it looks like.
@exvangelica42712 жыл бұрын
Rslash slowly morphing into the Karen voice as the story went on was gold 😂
@urbanexplorer67832 жыл бұрын
That's what I thought!
@dracko1582 жыл бұрын
When he does that, he already knew that OP is a butthole.
@Rainspector2 жыл бұрын
oh thank god I thought I was hearing things
@shod12 жыл бұрын
BRO I STARTED LAUGHING 😭
@mindyschocolate2 жыл бұрын
I noticed that too. It made it even funnier
@Olav_Hansen2 жыл бұрын
Third story: "we don't force him to babysit the girls" Also that story: "he can't get a job because he has to watch the girls"
@233kosta2 жыл бұрын
Ah the narcissism... No wonder the little girls are "dealing with issues" 😞
@Dondizle2 жыл бұрын
They don't force him, but the girls don't want anyone else babysitting them. Yeah, they're not really giving their son much of an option. It seems like OP doesn't want to pay for a babysitter, and uses the daughter's shyness as an excuse to not get a babysitter. Once they get to know someone they'll be fine. It's normal for children to be shy around new people. OP can't keep coddling her daughter's just because they're more comfortable with someone they've known all their lives. I mean, would they never allow their children to go to school because they're nervous on their first day?
@shaunalennon31442 жыл бұрын
@@233kosta If the girls don't like strangers, don't use a stranger. I'm sure the mother has friends with teenaged kids that could stick with them while they do homework, or if one of her friends is a "home body" ask them if they can go over to their house during the day. simple as that.
@233kosta2 жыл бұрын
@@shaunalennon3144 Indeed so. Mind you, not liking strangers is hardly something you'd file under "dealing with issues", especially issues otherwise worthy of therapy. Narcissist parents on the other hand...
@mask9382 жыл бұрын
@@shaunalennon3144 Nah, OP would have to pay those people to watch the girls and if OP won’t even pay her son for babysitting, then she definitely won’t pay other people to do it.
@MizTameRumors2 жыл бұрын
OP really needs to rethink her marriage. This ' product of her time' nonsense is BS. Age is NOT an excuse for racism, my nana is old and catholic! She has nothing but love our very mixed family.
@mariafox92262 жыл бұрын
Racism is something that’s taught. No child is born racist.
@BonnieHalfElven2 жыл бұрын
I love old, open-minded people!
@Olav_Hansen2 жыл бұрын
My religious grandma said something to the end of 'I don't care who you love, as long as you are happy' when my uncle told her he was gay like 40 years ago.
@mariafox92262 жыл бұрын
@@Olav_Hansen homophobia is also a learned behavior.
@DyslecticAttack2 жыл бұрын
@@mariafox9226 Racism is taught, but if you can't handle trying not making blatantly racist remarks after many requests from family, then that family is apparently less valuable than yourself or your family. A willingness to unlearn racism is the base requirement. If you can't even start to try to better yourself, then that's on them.
@littlemau13602 жыл бұрын
Something I think rslash missed in the first story: Ops MIL was also racist towards their children. Not only is Ops husband ignoring the racism towards his wife, his ignoring the racism towards his own children.
@boogiebear30952 жыл бұрын
Yup
@terrychant4365 Жыл бұрын
And the generational thing he said. Shes in her 50s and supposedly a little racism should be normal? She was born in the 70s and raised in the 80s, that lady is way past any benefit of the doubt for slipping out casual racism as a "generational norm".
@matthewhanf30332 жыл бұрын
"Boys being boys" is for catching kids rolling around in mud and sword fighting with sticks. Not harassing women.
@Ikajo2 жыл бұрын
I'd say that kids being kids. It has just become gendered because we punish girls for that sort of behaviour but not boys. Given the chance, girls will act the exact same way.
@survivedandthriving2 жыл бұрын
@@Ikajo Yes! THIS! So totally and completely this! Thank you for this :D!
@BonnieHalfElven2 жыл бұрын
@@Ikajo Some girls and guys have class and know better, because their parents taught/showed them what it is to be respectful and decent.
@Ikajo2 жыл бұрын
@@BonnieHalfElven I was referring to actual kids rather than adult men and women. Kids are rowdy, given the chance. No matter the gender. Girls tend to be punished for being rowdy in a way boys are not. And again, I'm talking about children. Not adults.
@Ikajo2 жыл бұрын
@@survivedandthriving Considering the comment below 😅 I am talking about children and in reference to the rolling around in mud stuff. Not adults who should know better.
@TheColorHopeIsBlue2 жыл бұрын
“The girls are too young for therapy”??? Hi let me introduce you to this concept called a child therapist, as in someone who is qualified to work with children of all ages. Honestly, the sooner you get your kids into therapy if they’re having “issues,” the more likely they will develop and hang on to effective coping skills.
@felixflax192 жыл бұрын
I’ve been in therapy since I was 4 years old
@TheColorHopeIsBlue2 жыл бұрын
@@felixflax19 I've been in therapy since I was 12 years old and it's been a lifesaver.
@madambutterfly19972 жыл бұрын
I would’ve filed for divorce the minute that the husband tried to justify his mother‘s racism with that line “she’s a product of her time” being a product of your time is no excuse to be a bigot. We live in a world where refusing to adapt and evolve means death.
@BonnieHalfElven2 жыл бұрын
And there were other moments that led up to this. Husband should have shut it down way before this.
@tashacooper17532 жыл бұрын
For real my grandparents got over being racist by really liking there grand kids
@MegaThatonegirl2 жыл бұрын
It's simple, if she can't get over being racist they don't need to interact with her. Some people won't change but you don't need to put up with it.
@madambutterfly19972 жыл бұрын
@@MegaThatonegirl amen
@dracko1582 жыл бұрын
There's no such thing as "justified racism", it's NEVER okay to be racist, ever. The husband definitely was taught by his mother, thinking being racist is OK, that is a massive red flag.
@coldandghostly2 жыл бұрын
love in that third story they acknowledge their daughters need therapy for a traumatic experience they had, but that they're refusing to get them the medical help they need because "they're too young!" double abuse!
@SoManyRandomRamblings2 жыл бұрын
Almost like they want to not allow them to grow up, keep them stunted (and possibly dependent)
@salemcorriea51572 жыл бұрын
That part grossed me out so much! My brother was in therapy when he was like six or seven because of his aggressive tendencies and he did fantastically until we moved in with a much more abusive part of the family who didn't believe in mental illness. It wasn't until he was fourteen that he went to therapy again and I didn't get to go to therapy for the first time until that same year when I was fifteen.
@threegsgaming69592 жыл бұрын
Third story: I started laughing as RSLASH slowly devolved his voice into the Karen voice.
@MusicalFreak8122 жыл бұрын
SAME LMAO Like when I just heard the title of the story I was like "yes, yes you absolutely are" And then the Karen voice happened and I started laughing my ass off while saying "I KNEW IT"
@alexa_3662 жыл бұрын
I thought i was the only person that noticed 😂 its so funny you can almost hear his thought process of “oh this persons a karen time to do the voice”
@nyxspiritsong55572 жыл бұрын
Omg I did too!
@GoinGreninja2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, that was the perfect voice for that woman.
@blair27432 жыл бұрын
The moment I noticed him starting to change to the Karen voice, I lost it 🤣
@sabrinaheizenrader56352 жыл бұрын
“He only babysits when he wants to. We don’t force him!” He doesn’t want to anymore lady. If you really aren’t forcing him, you would respect that he doesn’t want to anymore.
@nikonarshe92962 жыл бұрын
I was worried that the surrogate was in love with op's husband but omg this dude needs to take no as an answer. This poor surrogate has refused this guy's advances left and right and he cannot take a damn hint that not only is he making her uncomfortable, he's trying to cheat on his wife!
@alinasanchez2782 жыл бұрын
Op's husband is a creep. The surrogate is being so respectful on refusing his advice. A 9000 dollar car. Is he nutz. That money could have been use to pay for bill. He showing red flag here. I say divorce him and help your surrogate get restraining order against him. Who knows how far he might go just to get her in bed with him.
@akl2k72 жыл бұрын
I feel so sorry for the surrogate. I almost wouldn't blame her if she left the state and gave the kid up for adoption rather than deal with the crazy dad sexually harassing her.
@gmun22482 жыл бұрын
I actually would bet he's overcompensating because his wife said he has the fertility problem, & they're using her eggs. The implication then is that a supermarket donor would be required (although not always). From a more psychological side, if the baby isn't biologically his, & he feels 'less of a man' (it's a common response) because he has fertility problems, then he's acting irrationally because of that. I'm not excusing his behaviour, but instead of always assuming a guy's going to be unfaithful, sometimes I think some stories go deeper. I'd say the guy needs therapy - to see that he's being so inappropriate & then to figure out why & how to deal with it. (I'd lean towards it being a sperm donor because the wife's eggs are being used but she may not have wanted to carry another man's child inside her. Or maybe there are other reasons for her, but those were my thoughts.)
@GamerSisters2 жыл бұрын
@@gmun2248 yeah I think thats why rslash had 2 different ratings. Because if he's telling the truth that its just for his son, then he's still harassing the surrogate. But if he's trying to cheat then that's even worse!
@ResidentMilf2 жыл бұрын
"AITA for calling my mother-in-law a racist b-word?" That depends. Was she being a racist b-word? (Hears story) Yes she was. NTA
@clarky232 жыл бұрын
First story: I am engaged to a Filipino woman and after a rough video call with my remaining uncle and male cousins, I literally told them I didn't need them in my life and unless they apologized immediately to her I was done with the lot of them. they told me they'd never apologize to (won't even say the word here) and I actually owed THEM an apology for forcing them to speak to just a (again won't use the words here). I told them to literally go to HELL, blocked their numbers and on all social media. I will defend my love to my dying breath and don't need that hate in my life.
@danielbrant67402 жыл бұрын
Good on you for dumping those toxic a*******, dude! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏽👏🏾👏🏿
@wocko12 жыл бұрын
You are far better off without them. I am so sorry to hear the disgusting behaviour of your relatives. As far as I am concerned, we are all human and there is no place for racism. I am engaged to a beautiful Indonesian woman (who is my best friend, and soulmate), and my brother is married to a Chinese woman, who is like a little sister to me. Thankfully my family was accepting and gets along well with my fiancée and also my sister in law. Best of luck with your wedding, and I am sure it will be beautiful. I hope your fiancée's family are accepting of you, unlike your uncles and cousins.
@SwampyWizard2 жыл бұрын
Did they call her a flip?
@FarayukiDiro2 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry I need to know the word too so that I'm more aware of this racist slur/term
@hazeldeleon62432 жыл бұрын
@@FarayukiDiro maybe it was ch*nk? that's the usual asian slur I've heard of
@8lue4ce2 жыл бұрын
Third story: I was naive and thought there story was gonna go to a direction where "My son didn't tell me he had a job and I had no time to get a babysitter in time for my younger kids when our shifts overlapped so we had a fight about it" but the story escalated quickly. I approve rSlash using the Karen voice for her.
@nickdriscoll6131 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, at first I thought that was all it was, that she just wanted the time to find someone else or something… so at first the Karen voice seemed inappropriate to me. By the end, I realized it was quite justified!
@silverflight012 жыл бұрын
Story 3: I love that RSlash slowly transitioned into the Karen voice. Really shows how entitled OP is. But yeah, it sounds like OP is mad that son is finally becoming an adult and she can't make him a babysitter anymore.
@benjie1282 жыл бұрын
Flawless transition. Just damn. Wtg rslash!
@dracko1582 жыл бұрын
She's an overprotective and controlling parent, through and through.
@munchie39092 жыл бұрын
I love the massive contradiction the parents make when trying to defend themselves by saying the son babysit them because he loves them and he’s not being forced but they are trying to prevent him from getting a job to force him into babysitting.
@d.phantomfan12162 жыл бұрын
Son with a job story: So if you’re not forcing your son to babysit, then why are you so mad, after all he choosing to spend time with his sisters.
@mask9382 жыл бұрын
I don’t think he’s choosing to babysit his sisters because he wants to. I think he’s choosing to babysit his sisters because his entitled parents will throw a hissy fit if he refuses.
@melonman65222 жыл бұрын
The fact that when the car was rejected, the husband argued with the surrogate about it rather than go "Huh I guess my wife was right about the surrogate being uncomfortable." speaks volumes about what he is about
@kingtchalla58682 жыл бұрын
imagine crying after being racist. Then her husband doesn’t take her side. Their whole family is racist and I hope she gets a way out.
@nightrain47492 жыл бұрын
good old fashion white tears. when called out start crying so the victim looks guilty
@JohnDoe-hn5nl2 жыл бұрын
That was a fake story. Just like jesse smallett.
@kingtchalla58682 жыл бұрын
@@JohnDoe-hn5nl ?
@LLandS182 жыл бұрын
@@JohnDoe-hn5nl what proof do you have that it's a fake story? Because racism exist. I know it's a shock to your Fox News soaked brain but it does. Edit don't like your own comment it's real sad.
@kyiamack2 жыл бұрын
@@kingtchalla5868 I think I’ve seen this commenter before. He’s a troll.
@CommanderDarcy2 жыл бұрын
A passagem de voz na terceira história de "pessoa normal" pra "Karen" foi incrível!
@cuteghost53682 жыл бұрын
Nossa mano que perfeição memo SHUAHUSAHUSHUA ALIÁS, EAE COMO VAI, UMA DAS PRIMEIRAS VEZES Q EU VEJO ALGUÉM FALANDO PORTUGUÊS AQUI :DD
@quinhoprimeiro10492 жыл бұрын
BRAAAAASIIIIIIIILLLL
@fernandamello30232 жыл бұрын
UHUUUUUULLLL
@jussomeidiot58582 жыл бұрын
for a translation for those who dont speak Portuguese (according to google translate)The voiceover in the third story from "normal person" to "Karen" was incredible
@cuteghost53682 жыл бұрын
@@jussomeidiot5858 Yeah, it's correct :DD
@Richard_Nickerson2 жыл бұрын
Mom is insane for defending rude catcalling on the son's engagement night. 1. "Boys will be boys" is not a valid argument, and it's coming from a woman and being directed at a man. Cognitive dissonance much? 2. If his engagement night is so special that he deserves special treatment, then isn't it also so special that he shouldn't be hitting on other women? Even if he did it in a more appropriate manner, then it would still be unacceptable. Wtf.
@LaineMann2 жыл бұрын
3. I’d call the fiancée and tell her what happened. I’m sure she’d be VERY interested to know that her husband to be is trying to pick up other women.
@black19172 жыл бұрын
@@LaineMann We're going to be seeing a post from her soon enough about this loser cheating on her and mommy rushing to defend him and attack her.
@RD-ry8tk2 жыл бұрын
Well said!
@jasminetarver43422 жыл бұрын
First story: Op was definitely in the right. As someone that is also in an interracial relationship, I won’t tolerate that kind of blatant racism from anyone. Luckily my bf’s parents are great and I don’t have that problem, but if I did and he didn’t do anything about it we’d be done.
@juliaboskamp96662 жыл бұрын
MIL: *is racist* OP: *calls her out* MIL: why do you do that you hurt my feelings
@morgandouglas60142 жыл бұрын
And the fact that the husband is on the MIL‘s side is a major red flag. If I were OP I would say “You can whine and pout at your mom‘s place all you want but if you continue to insist that I apologize to HER, then I will change the locks, file for divorce, and apply for full custody of the kids.”
@dracko1582 жыл бұрын
I would've told the husband: "Look, defending your mother is an honorable decision, and I get that. But what I can't forgive, is that you are defending your mom for being so blatantly racist. If you continue to insist on defending her and wanting ME to apologize, and saying that her racism is justified, I'm going to file a divorce and kick your butt out here. Don't f*cking test me, I'll do it."
@auberginebear2 жыл бұрын
Story 2: NTA; that's a good dad, calling out his son for harassing women, and I fear (based on the wife's reaction) that she's not curbed this mindset he clearly learned from his friends, which is a double yikes.
@maieen26652 жыл бұрын
*First OP:* OP needs to leave her husband and take the kids. NTA. *Second OP:* Engagement party or not, Rowan was being a jerk to that woman and needed to face the consequences. OP is NTA. Someone should probably let Rowan's fiancee know about what happened. *Third OP:* LOL at rSlash's voice slowly morphing into the Karen voice. How _dare_ OP's 18-year-old son get a job preventing OP from parentifying him anymore? OP is TA. Side note: maybe OP _should_ take her daughters to therapy if they're going through something that makes them that uncomfortable around strangers. *Fourth OP:* 9K!? TF!? I also doubt OP's husband is only doing this for their son. Either way, neither OP nor the surrogate are TAs. *NINE THOUSAND DOLLARS!?*
@breezy33922 жыл бұрын
I hope she takes the kids. Do not let them internalize that bs
@t123tina2 жыл бұрын
The first story is not real her friend didn't say anything to help her that story was fake . If the mom said something racist at the party . All the the lady friends would been in her side don't believe every story My whole family is mixed people do make joke about the hair and the the eyes the baby was born with good hair The guy who tell the story don't know how he just used is wife as a 🏆 and that is see as racist just like the old lady said it happens sometimes people don't know how to say People said word that why u have to educate them alot of words mean. How it sound .
@NEPAAlchey2 жыл бұрын
She never should have married him to begin with let alone have 2 kids. She has ruined her and her kids lives by ignoring red flags
@trailblazercinder16712 жыл бұрын
It's over 9 thousand
@breezy33922 жыл бұрын
@@t123tina You think because your family is mixed that your experience is somehow universal to everyone else? That's both ignorant and arrogant of you. Your experience is not universal, and this kind of toxic racist bs does happen in other families.
@extreme8h2 жыл бұрын
"It's not boys being boys, it's douchebags being douchebags." Love that!
@threegsgaming69592 жыл бұрын
Final story: that husband is gaslighting his wife and using every trick he knows to get with the surrogate. He’s being disrespectful of both her and his wife’s boundaries, and he needs to be either kicked to the curb or publicly humiliated.
@Nico6th2 жыл бұрын
There is a major hole in his fantasy though: the surrogate will not keep and raise the baby. Even if she wanted to, which I don't think she does. The wife/Op will get the baby. With the husband acting like an idiot and harassing the surrogate OP might even get sole custody.
@dennispalavicini44472 жыл бұрын
Seems more like he's going through something mentally. Like spending $9,000 on someone out of nowhere it's not normal behavior
@threegsgaming69592 жыл бұрын
@@dennispalavicini4447 my guess is he’s trying to win her over and dump his wife.
@mariposa95062 жыл бұрын
Who would feel comfortable handing over the child they are carrying in circumstances like these? It's gonna put ideas in her head about trying to fight them in court.
@Nico6th2 жыл бұрын
@@mariposa9506 She most likely wouldn't stand a chance in court. If everything went the legal route, then there should be a contract that states that this is NOT her child and when she has to hand the child over. Most countries that allow surrogacy have a rule which makes the biological mother aka the person whose egg cell was used the mother, not the woman who carries the child. Most countries that make the "carrier" the mother don't allow surrogacy at all. She might not even be named as "mother" on the birth certificate or could be sued herself for keeping the child away from its parents. Also, if she tried to keep the child the father would go even more crazy instead of leaving her alone. She could, however, try to get something like CPS involved who would then take care of the child.
@kimhohlmayer70182 жыл бұрын
Dabny, the “son got a job” story was a riot the way you read it. Your voice started normal then ever so slowly became more whiney. I was laughing so hard by the time your voice moved from whiney to demon spawn. Well done!
@Iamaperson322 жыл бұрын
Third Story Op: “He doesn’t do much. Just stays home and plays video games” Me: Then why the fuck do you need him to babysit anyway?
@josephinenelan42042 жыл бұрын
Story 3: Your husband isn't a very good pilot if he can't afford babysitting lmao. Or is he one with multiple families? 🤣
@SoManyRandomRamblings2 жыл бұрын
Probably the 2nd option
@metademetra Жыл бұрын
Option 3: He can afford baby sitting and child therapy, he's just a greedy bastard.
@Louis_Ostrinsky2 жыл бұрын
I just loved how Dabney changed his voice while reading the story of the mom getting angry at her son because he found a job without telling her. I keep laughing. It's just so perfect.
@guitarbass222 жыл бұрын
It’s true though! She is a Karen through and through. Or at least an entitled parent.
@hunnykun1012 жыл бұрын
That is a talented voice actor there!
@GamerSapss2 жыл бұрын
Hard disagree, the voice is fine in small dosages, but longer than a minute and that voice get's grating fast
@GamerSapss2 жыл бұрын
@Paradoxical Paradox Enjoyer Doesn't quite work when it makes you want to click off the video though, does it?
@blaze_phoenix33272 жыл бұрын
@@GamerSapss But this has always been his thing, and unfortunately for you and the smaller crowd of people who don't like it, we do enjoy it. It adds to the stories imo so don't expect him to change that anytime soon
@tj18362 жыл бұрын
The wife should be glad the surrogate is a honest lady. She could've easily taken the husband for a ride and drain his bank account.
@francescaperron20032 жыл бұрын
I always expect these titles to be clickbait but they never are, so I'm worried about this one lol
@CATel_2 жыл бұрын
Clickbait*
@francescaperron20032 жыл бұрын
@@CATel_ Sorry I speak 4 languages so my brain gets fuzzy sometimes lol
@CATel_2 жыл бұрын
@@francescaperron2003 lol that's impressive In theory I should too, but it's not that easy for me lol
@francescaperron20032 жыл бұрын
@@CATel_ You should make spelling mistakes or speak 4 languages? Sorry for my confusion lol
@Serrassi2 жыл бұрын
This one was definately a clickbait
@caicat7222 жыл бұрын
Can we appreciate how RSlash is a good husband? He's awesome and shows what you should do as a spouse. If you're married, you stick together, defend each other and work out your differences
@PidgeKatie2 жыл бұрын
I find it really funny when rslash is reading a story and throughout the story notices, that op is an entitled person/Karen and slowly switches to his Karen voice. It's just so entertaining 😂
@voicesofjoi5452 жыл бұрын
I started laughing as Karen slowly entered his voice. It was hilarious!😂
@frootsnacc67902 жыл бұрын
As soon as I heard his voice getting higher I was like “Oh here we go”
@mrdante3612 жыл бұрын
😂
@dracko1582 жыл бұрын
Because rSlash already knew that OP is an a-hole Karen, so he might as well have some fun with it lol xD
@spydersoup84472 жыл бұрын
He did the same thing with another AITA story, but it wasn't a slowly, but surely building up thing, it was him stopping to breath, hoping that OP is not the AH and after one part she wrote, that's when he lost hope and started reading the rest of the story in his Karen voice.
@jimmysgirl10292 жыл бұрын
The first story triggered me. My in-laws constantly make racist comments, then justify themselves by saying i shouldn’t be offended because I don’t really “look Mexican” which only makes it worse because that just means they have a stereotype about Mexicans. Luckily my husband fully has my back and stands up to them. He’s fully embraced my culture and we are raising our kids to be proud of their heritage. He gets zero out of 5 buttholes. ❤️
@nekolalia33892 жыл бұрын
Surrogate story: I said this on another video and I’ll say it here. The surrogate needs to terminate the contract, the wife needs to GTFO of that marriage, and THEN the surrogate can adopt the baby out to ONLY OP. I would not trust that man with a child. And also it’s karma being a bit of an itch. Edit: @Lilly Lovegood raises a good point. Restraining order first, then sever contracts.
@lillylovegood23002 жыл бұрын
That is such a perfect plan. And maybe the surrogate could get a restraining order against him cause wtaffff
@averyquinn7972 жыл бұрын
How is she allowed to terminate the contract? Is that a thing?
@rhyleebruce40752 жыл бұрын
@@averyquinn797 I'd assume if one of the parties overstep a lawyer could get the surrogate out of the contract for her safety and the child's safety
@GeorgeVCohea-dw7ou2 жыл бұрын
@@averyquinn797 She will need to take legal action to have the court decide on the contract outcome, but with assistance from OP, this might go relatively smoothly. Harassment and theft can be grounds for having a contract invalidated, but this is not an inanimate object at stake; the contract can be terminated but an abortion may not be a viable option. The child will have to be legally disposed of in any case, but going no contact is more problematic without a court order. I believe that they will need to get a mediator involved to keep everyone separated and provide the go-between, until the child can be safely presented to the parents. This is not something that can be litigated through normal means and timeframe. Something needs to be negotiated and settled out of court. Perhaps, she should temporarily relocate to an undisclosed locale and then inform them which hospital to retrieve their spawn from after it is born, should it survive to that point. The contract terms can be hashed out after that. Money is evidently tight for the surrogate, so this may be the cheapest option.
@Maverick42672 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately if the contract were terminated the woman could possibly steal the other woman’s baby so that’s probably not a good idea for the actual mother of the child it would be best that the contract remain and The wife deal with the issues with her husband personally because you are basically still asking surrogate to do something to handle this rather than the wife and the whole point is to keep the surrogate out of this the contract already protects the surrogate and the wife so all you’re doing is losing protection for the wife in the surrogate to punish the husband it would be much easier for the way I have to get a restraining order against her own husband. The best she could do is get a restraining order against the husband which should still validate the contract with the wife
@Tantejay2 жыл бұрын
Rowans Dad: Adress your wife the same way your son adresses the woman. If she complains: "Men will be mehennn...."
@LaineMann2 жыл бұрын
Also tell his fiancée. She deserves to know.
@Tantejay2 жыл бұрын
@@LaineMann absolutely
@akl2k72 жыл бұрын
@@LaineMann Yeah, exactly. "If it's perfectly okay that he's hitting on another woman on the night of their engagement, I'm sure it's fine for the fiancee to know about."
@ΠαυλίναΓιωτοπούλου2 жыл бұрын
For the first story, NTA. The trash is taking itself out hun, dump him 💅💅 the husband is being a huge bish and racist for protecting and standing by his mother. That would be my 🚩 to get out of that marriage
@Mamorufumio2 жыл бұрын
thats not real easy, remeber op in that story said they had two kids. so thats making it tricky, plus if the op in that story lives anywhere in the south (which is likely) then the state might just take her kids from her and give them to her 'ex' husband
@ΠαυλίναΓιωτοπούλου2 жыл бұрын
@@Mamorufumio USA is trippy 🙃🙃 good riddance
@nicolelawrence77222 жыл бұрын
@@Mamorufumio I live in the south, that's not necessarily a thing to take the kids.
@Mamorufumio2 жыл бұрын
@@nicolelawrence7722 yeah but i only say that because some judges could be racist down there, though not really sure these days
@nicolelawrence77222 жыл бұрын
@@Mamorufumio I live in Georgia. I can point to a lot if racism in our judicial system. The Ahmaud Arbery case being our crowing glory of judicial racism (before the video came out), still taking the kids just because the mom is black, not really a thing. It's still very hand the kids over to mom 1st, ask questions later.
@Blu3Jay232 жыл бұрын
The third story was exactly what happened to me. I was supposed to work around babysitting my sibling. They refused to get a babysitter cause then they would have to pay but they wouldn’t let me hangout with friends. Most of time I was babysitting so they could hangout with friends. Sometimes my stepdad would leave in the morning without telling me and I would wake up to my sibling crying. It was awful. They ended up kicking me out cause I refused to one day after getting tired of not being able to live my life because of them(my parents). I gladly left and they called me and texted me constantly to come back so I could continue babysitting them for free. I didn’t and they got a babysitter. They told their friends and neighbors I left on my own accord 🙄 I still visit to hangout with my sibling BY MY CHOICE
@Hybrid3012 жыл бұрын
It’s sick how some parents want to turn their kids into indentured servants.
@dmon19962 жыл бұрын
there is that, but there is also teaching your children how to help out and be part of a family. You are right- some parents seem to think that children are slave labor... but is it slavery to expect your child to do chores to help out, while getting free room and board? Bear in mind that this is an 18 year old man, not a 6 year old child. Both sides of this family need to learn how to communicate and be considerate...
@mask9382 жыл бұрын
@@dmon1996 Considering OP was angry about her 18 year old son getting a job (something that will get him money that he can save up to eventually get his own place and move out), I don’t think this is a case of a parent trying to teach their kid to help their family. This sounds more akin to parentification, which is a form of abuse where a parent will start making the older children take care of the younger children. OP should be encouraging her son to get a job since it’ll help him learn independence and gain money. OP just wants to use her son as a babysitter that she won’t have to pay (even though she should).
@dmon19962 жыл бұрын
@@mask938 that is your opinion... I see it differently. I admit that OP does show a certain amount of entitlement, but the son left them high and dry with no warning...
@GeorgeVCohea-dw7ou2 жыл бұрын
@@dmon1996 She could easily charge him to cover expenses or serve him with eviction, if she feels wronged and conflicted. This is an 18 year old after all. She has no legal obligation to tolerate the injustice or provide anything else for him. It's most probably for the best, if he starts preparations to move out to somewhere new as soon as possible in any case. I would even suggest trying a different part of the country, since he is merely attending community college. The world is full of incredible opportunities and possibilities outside of the dim corner of your world.
@spider-on-the-interweb2 жыл бұрын
"Only stays with his sisters when he wants to, we don't force him" That is literally the whole problem, you're forcing him.
@silverflight012 жыл бұрын
Story 2: Him harassing not only other women, but his own fiancé, is a red flag. I have a feeling that the fiancé will dodge a missile if she breaks up.
@hungrymusicwolf2 жыл бұрын
She'll also likely avoid an entitled MIL considering how OP's wife was trying to protect him.
@mariafox92262 жыл бұрын
Hope the fiancée dumps his ass.
@mariposa95062 жыл бұрын
He didn't harrass his fiancee just the stranger.
@badmaev29982 жыл бұрын
@mari posa Lol bet you won’t fell insulted if your husband on the event try to flirt sexually with other women.
@SakoiyaChan2 жыл бұрын
7:48 That slow transition from normal voice to karen voice as the story progresses is just gold lol
@GarlicBreadJesus2 жыл бұрын
I love how you went from “concerned mother” to “massive Karen” in one sentence. 😂
@maryhildebrand98082 жыл бұрын
LMAO that is exactly what I was thinking!!!
@crystalcrusader88322 жыл бұрын
On the job one, I understand an issue of “well you need to tell us that you have a job during these times so we can get alternative child care set up.” Then she said something about paid child care being a no go and I realized that was NOT what this was about.
@GreatQuestionFran2 жыл бұрын
8:45 When Rslash starts to transition into the Karen voice for the OP mid-sentence, then they're definitely the asshole
@guitarbass222 жыл бұрын
💯
@danielbrant67402 жыл бұрын
_[Nods in agreement]_
@I.Barabasi2 жыл бұрын
I love how in the “my son got a job without telling”, the writers voice gets more and more Karen-y as the story progresses.
@Raaslen2 жыл бұрын
Story 1: NTA, saying that someone is a "product of their time" is the WORST excuse to anything, because as someone wonce sayd in a similar post, older people had more time then anyone else to learn
@lmaChroma2 жыл бұрын
Right!? If any of my relatives said anything like that about my little brothers or my sister in law they would be banned from any and all family events
@morgandouglas60142 жыл бұрын
Exactly. The fact that the husband is on his moms side when the mom was the one being racist is unacceptable. That just screams divorce to me. And I hope that when the husband went to stay with his mom, OP changed the locks.
@matthewhearn99102 жыл бұрын
It’s a false premise too. If there were white anti-racists during the Atlantic slave trade (and there were) then nobody born in the 20th century has any excuse.
@Raaslen2 жыл бұрын
@@matthewhearn9910 And tyhey don't, they were a bunch of racists plain and simple. The point is that being born in a diferent time don't change the fact that you are racist if you dislike other ethnicities
@dracko1582 жыл бұрын
Basically, the husband and the people who defended her is a damn racist. I would divorce that piece of crap in a heartbeat.
@IljaHordist2 жыл бұрын
"He doesn't do much for them, just stays home with them while he studies or plays video games" (OP in story 3) So, I cared for my father for years, who suffered from parkinson with progressing dementia. Most of the time, he was sitting or lying on the couch, while I did something for me. The point is: It's not only about what you're actively doing. It's also about always being available on demand. You always have to watch out, check if everything's right, and be prepared that you could be needed at any second. (And before someone asks: Yes, I did also spend time with him on my own will. But that's something different entirely.)
@MrsShocoTaco2 жыл бұрын
Stry1: obviously NtA. 2; if she didn't want others disciplining her son as an adult, she should've done it herself when he was young. NtA *I disagree on the mom's rating. She deserves at least 3/5 for raising her son to be thAt kind if man.
@theonlybananagod31152 жыл бұрын
Last Story: That right there is grounds for divorce. Like holy shit.
@Lestaticate2 жыл бұрын
Final Story: ... The way how things are escalating, I think this story would make one crazy psychological thriller.
@cdawg92182 жыл бұрын
Juno is pretty close to this story except the sruuogate was underage
@mrducky63222 жыл бұрын
7:00 Boys will be boys does not apply to harassing someone What boys will be boys does apply to is when you do some dumb shit with you’re friends,like punching each other repeatedly or climbing a lamp post to loosen the bulb That argument does work it just doesn’t work for this conversation
@blair27432 жыл бұрын
The "product of her time" comment in the first story is just ridiculous to me. That "argument" (I use the term argument very loosely) is always used to defend bigotry.
@QuayHollywood2 жыл бұрын
Both my grandparents and aunt are from that time and from some of the more bigoted places (of the time) in the US, most of their friends are white, my aunt was raised by a white family that loved and raised her unconditionally and they are not like this. Oh and were black.
@cat_with_a_rat2 жыл бұрын
my parents are in an interracial marriage as well and my grandpa’s from both side are really good friends! so it’s clearly not the time theyre from..
@zakuraRabbit2 жыл бұрын
It really is in the same vein as "Boys will be boys" in terms of excusing shitty behavior. Old people have no more right to be racist than boys have the right to be sexist.
@LLandS182 жыл бұрын
That argument is just as ridiculous as saying I can't be racist I have black friends. Just replace the word friends with daughter-in-law. I volunteer in a nursing home and they're all from the same time and I can tell you the majority of them are not racist or homophobic. Because they are human beings and they can learn and change throughout their life just like we all can. You're absolutely right it's just weak excuse for bigotry
@nekolalia33892 жыл бұрын
Is she alive? Does she have all of her faculties? Then her time is now.
@jkbscopes12332 жыл бұрын
4th story: marrying a man named Hunter was her first problem
@null95462 жыл бұрын
I loved hearing how he slowly transitioned into the entitled Karen voice for the third story lmao
@HaloJumper72 жыл бұрын
First story: That witch is basically the, "I'm not racist, but" meme.
@andrewi.crocker86752 жыл бұрын
Wow, that whole "she's a product of her time" argument is especially lame when you realize she was born in 1966
@CassetticonTune2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, and she's not a boomer. She's an older Gen X.
@Aetium2 жыл бұрын
the way rslash slowly and seemingly almost unconciously slipped into full karen voice was hilarious
@julianthompson98202 жыл бұрын
I would invite first OP’s mother-in-law to my black family cookout and introduce her as my white mother-in-law lol.
@danielbrant67402 жыл бұрын
*OP:* My son is a good boy! He _looooooooves_ to look after his younger half-sisters out of the goodness of his heart. *OP's Son:* I got a paying job now so I can help with the bills while still going to college. I can't look after my half-sisters anymore. *OP:* Why would you do something so selfish!? *OP's Son:* Because you aren't paying me to babysit. *OP:* _[Surprised Pikachu face]_
@shepherdbrooks76092 жыл бұрын
11:43 This man almost definitely has a fetish and he's taking the opportunity to express that with zero regard for wife's comfort. Sad and icky situation all around.
@savagebear43742 жыл бұрын
First Story: MIL had it coming for a long time. It was well deserved. Both her and her son (OP's husband) If was me I would have drew the line a long time. OP- 0/5 Husband & MIL- 4.5/5 Third Story: OP is selfish. Son is 18 and is being a responsible ADULT by working while going to COLLEGE. OP needs to find another babysitter and PAY for it herself. Son- 0/5 Side Note: Bravo to OP's son for being a responsible adult.
@Sonvone2 жыл бұрын
Not letting children go to therapy is probably considered child abuse in some places
@uwu112 жыл бұрын
8:27 I love the gradual change from a normal voice to a Karen voice as op kept talking. 😆
@zekeprower12 жыл бұрын
Damn Dabney, That switch from concerned lady to MEGAKAREN was perfect. So smooth like verbal jazz lol.
@alricaneshama2 жыл бұрын
I would tell the surrogate to report her husband for stalking and harassment. Then get a protection order.
@RickachuCXVI2 жыл бұрын
I love how rslash just shifts into the entitled voice in the third story as he realizes this is an entitled parent making a post
@chavacaplan5201 Жыл бұрын
i LOVE how the mom's voice in the third story gradually gets more entitled
@passmethepopcorn2 жыл бұрын
Ok, I just had to pause the video to say how hilarious it was how you eased your voice into Karen mode once you picked up on the vibe. It was perfect! I wish I could have seen your face dude! 😂
@omnipossum922 жыл бұрын
It's very possible the husband in the surrogate story is legit concerned about his son. There was a story where a husband did all sorts of crazy stuff because he was so paranoid about his unborn child, like waking his wife up, urging her to go to the hospital, because he "just knew" there was something wrong.
@Seppes942 жыл бұрын
I love how rSlash switches to his entitled parents voice midway into the 3rd story.
@0Adnin Жыл бұрын
I love how in 3rd story, Rslash started talking normally and as the story progressed his voice became more Karen like. Kudos Rslash on your voice acting.
@WhtAbtBob102 жыл бұрын
Racist B-word story: NTA The "product of her time" line is complete bullshit. There are plenty of people who were products of that time who either changed their views with the times or never had those views to begin with. Son Got A Job: NTA I was totally ready to say it depends if the son agreed to watch the daughters but then OP went full Karen.
@novacommander42972 жыл бұрын
OP #3: "He's selfish for not wanting to babysit!" Also OP #3: "I'm not forcing him to babysit if he doesn't want to!" MAKE UP YOUR FUCKING MIND.
@nicholassanabria64932 жыл бұрын
Ok I’m also technically in a inter racial relationship/someday marriage (I’m white my Gf/someday wife is Native American) so I honestly understand if anyone is racist to my girlfriend I’ll basically cut you off completely without any discussion about it
@lemonlimes48882 жыл бұрын
I love that every time Dabney reads a story were someone is obviously the AH, you can hear the gradual change in his voice while he’s reading and makes up his mind before the story ends
@bambalicious2 жыл бұрын
What impeccable timing R Slash! I was just looking for a reddit video to put on in the background whilst trying to desperately write an essay. Thank you!
@acopperheart2 жыл бұрын
The progression to the Karen voice was the most ICONIC moment in r/slash history 🤣🤣🤣
@jamesohehir57282 жыл бұрын
Third story as soon as your voice changed to the Karen voice. I was like “oh now I know what the verdict is going to be”
@ImperiousMax2 жыл бұрын
Story 4: The surrogate woman should get authorities involved to keep the husband at a distance because he's causing her MORE stress for her which could ACTUALLY HARM THE BABY MORE THAN HE'S TRYING TO HELP IT. Also something to consider, if this is how the husband is acting before the baby arrives... how the hell is he going to act when it DOES arrive??? I'm worried for the wife, the surrogate AND the baby cause this guy is doing far more harm than good.
@sabrielluv2 жыл бұрын
“Product of her generation” how about “product of your divorce” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@akl2k72 жыл бұрын
She Gen X so the "product of her generation" excuse absolutely does not work. My Boomer dad isn't even racist.
@milhy65672 жыл бұрын
"Some of you seem to imply I force my son to babysit" Yeah the complete meltdown and rant about how he owes you for it when he choses to do something else with his time kinda implied that slightly
@lizabee77912 жыл бұрын
Who else loved RSlash switching from regular voice to Karen voice halfway through the third story 😂
@1985toyotacamry2 жыл бұрын
I love that. I'm like already OP is an butthole.
@animewaifu83842 жыл бұрын
I hate when people say “they’re too young to therapy” my god, I went to occupational therapy since I was two for ten years then I had actual therapy to get over a traumatic event when I was sever for about three years. Not only that I went to a small court when I was twelve and still had bad anxiety issues at the time (still do) and yet I still went through all that and I’m doing better now. I’m not fixed, but I am better. Starting at a younger age helps a lot
@ConsultingDoctor3942 жыл бұрын
Second story: we can see how the son turned into what he is. The wife has enabled this behavior and doesn’t value other people and ESPECIALLY other women. Completely NTA
@shizanketsuga86962 жыл бұрын
That transition to Karen voice when it became clear how entitled OP was to expect free babysitting from her son was exceptionally smooth.
@MrSonicHedgehog2 жыл бұрын
I love how you went into Karen voice about halfway through the third story rSlash
@VibhoreKaushal2 жыл бұрын
that beautiful, smooth, marvelous transition into the keren voice was just.... amazing!
@LoveandBonestm2 жыл бұрын
That one post about babysitting slowly went into a Karen voice. It was (chefs kiss) perfect!!
@chair34392 жыл бұрын
I gotta say I love the way your voice changes so smoothly and naturally as stories progress. First the guy who ate his wife's food a couple videos ago, now karen. Bravo dude
@151alonso2 жыл бұрын
Hahahah slowly changing into a Karen voice. Karen : "We aren't forcing him to do anything" Also Karen: But he has to and does nothing to/for them and he is so selfish!!!! He HAS TO
@madDjakni2 жыл бұрын
story 1: If she's introducing you in person there is no need to mention the color of your skin (unless the person you're being introduced to is blind but even then i don't see how skin color matters)
@GremlinAbsolute2 жыл бұрын
That Karen transition deserves an Oscar for an amazing performance
@gijosh932 жыл бұрын
One more point of view for the last story: he might now realize that what he actually wants, is to be around his pregnancy as if she were his wife. As for myself, I would not be able to stand being away from my future son for 9 months with my non pregnant wife missing the joy of being a proud husband and father.
@moirawestern202 жыл бұрын
I seem to have Pavlov-ed my cats into associating rSlash's voice with mealtimes because I usually listen to him as I'm getting them breakfast. Story 1: I agree with the butthole score for MIL. She was being racist and needs to get her head out of her ass Story 2: good for OP for making his son walk back from his engagememt party after seeing him harass a woman. Catcallers need consequenses so they can learn not to be douchecanoes. OP's wife's internalized misogyny with her BoYs WiLl Be BoYs attitude is disturbing. Like. No. Boys will be held accountable for their actions. It's 2022. Story 3: Paid childcare is a no for you? What an entitled thing to say. Her kid is an adult. He has the right to have a job. Also, it's gross that she wasn't already paying him to watch his siblings Story 4: There are so many red flags that they would wrap around the world if they were sewn together
@sianf82532 жыл бұрын
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE how your voice slowly graduated into a Karen voice when you saw op was a Karen. This is the quality content I subscribe for. 👏🏼