Rabbi Cosgrove: Intermarriage Rising (November 19, 2022)

[@MarkHastings-jc3bw]

I’m a Christian believer, not Jewish, but have great respect for Rabbi Cosgrove and learn a lot from his sermons.

[@michaelestrinone2111]

The role and responsibility of ANY rabbi is to create an environment where young jews can meet and be introduced to each other. For the last 4 years, since my son went to college, I am searching for such a place/meetup etc, being online or offline. No luck. But I have to say that habad organizations on campuses are doing exemplary work on bringing college jews together for shabbat and other activities. Where are you in this, Park Avenue Synagogue? Any online/offline activities going on, any scheduled event? (for anyone reading this: if you are aware of such a platform/event/etc, please let me know in the comments or direct message. I don't want or support "interfaith" marriage complacency, promoted by jewish US establishment. Thanks!)

[@user-ln5il4un3x]

Let me know too.

[@JB-wc9hn]

A lot of young Jewish professional organizations are run through local Chabads. They put on social events where it’s just about meeting other Jewish young adults regardless of observance level. My fiancé and I go to these events all the time and we’ve made a lot of friends doing so and some of our friends have found relationships through them. I’ve belonged to conservative Shuls my whole life and i wish they did stuff like this but they seem to all be mostly focused on early childhood and families which is needed but obviously the gap with Jewish adults 20s-30s isn’t great

[@insaanietihad-MSB]

I suggest rather than asking shuls ask HaShem, Shabbat is a great time to ask HaShem for your son's soulmate and offcourse it will be nice if you can ask your son to observe Shabbat and join shul. I strongly feel finding one's shiddich is totally up to and in hands of HaShem. Shuls and organizations can provides opportunities to meet but still the shidduchim can happen on the will of HaShem. So pray for your son and bless him often he will find a suitable Jewish match soon Beezret HaShem 🙂

[@michaelestrinone2111]

@@insaanietihad-MSB : My son does observe shabbat and he is very active in his college habad shul. But let's not forget that the subject of Rabbi Cosgrove speech is: Intermarriage is Rising. So in addition to the ezra of haShem our efforts are needed to slow or reverse this Rising. How are synagogues address this problem? They don't and they should!

[@michaelestrinone2111]

@@JB-wc9hn Perhaps you can post a link to such an event?

[@markgordon5387]

Intermarriage was an issue in the 1920s in Chicago. That was 100 years ago.

[@user-ln5il4un3x]

Wow, the percentages were the same.

[@shirleyannelindberg1692]

Jewish Halacha is very much against Assimilation, and rightly so 👏🏼

[@sallyhindman485]

My husband Dan, who was raised Reform, and I, a long-time Quaker, wished to have a rabbi co-officiate at our wedding in 2000. We found NO rabbi's either Reform or Conservative willing to be there. This was deeply hurtful to both of us. It modeled for both of us a sense of theological rejection. It felt like the saddest imaginable abandonment by God at an incredibly important time in our lives as we celebrated our love in community. As a couple committed to creating a Jewish family and home, as soon as we were married we found the Jewish community fully enthusiastic to welcome us into their congregations as members, and to be fully inclusive as we raised our children religiously. We created an incredibly rich and joy-filled Jewish home, despite the painful experience we had with local rabbis. We've been super active in our local Reform synagogue, where our child attended Hebrew school for her entire childhood, attended years of Jewish summer camp, and was bat mitzvahed. Dan and I "synagogue shopped" after getting married and our experience was that the lack of openness to non-Jews who were unwilling to convert was palpable in the Conservative congregations we visited. Honestly, I didn't feel welcome as a non-Jew in the Conservative tradition. There's a lot more I could say about our experiences and the lack of a welcoming environment. Whereas, if a local Conservative synagogue had been open and welcoming to me, and to us as a couple, I believe we would have given serious consideration to joining a Conservative congregation for multiple, amazing reasons. I think Conservative Judaism has a long way to go on the issue of being welcoming to interfaith couples, and that the rigidity of its approach is truly hurting Conservative Judaism. You have so much to gain from being open and welcoming, and as far as I'm concerned, with all respect for religious law, very little to lose. The world has changed and approaches to theology have changed, yet people still thirst for God. We thirst to undergird our marriages religiously, and to raise our children deeply rooted in religious traditions that will bring rich meaning and wisdom to our lives. A re-envisioning is needed of how Conservative Judaism is going to respond to this changing world.

[@gabrielleangelica1977]

Racist.

[@HaleyMary]

My grandparents were from different religions and both identified as agnostic atheists when they got married. My grandfather was the Jewish one. I read Torah a few times a week and celebrate the Jewish holidays, eat a lot of the Jewish foods, listen to Hebrew music and even incorporate Judaism into my comedy routines and it hurts that aside from the Reform movement, I'm not accepted because of Halakha law. Especially in the age of rising antisemitism. I feel too Jewish for the greater society and not Jewish enough for synagogue.

[@janem3378]

Thank you. Take agency for the choices we make. We all need to be told.

[@user-ln5il4un3x]

Beautiful words from Rabbi Cosgrove. He is so eloquent when he speaks. Since I am just reconnecting with my Jewish faith, I hope to marry someone who is already Jewish because I think if I marry a convert, I'll be thrust into the position of head of the household. It's just not easy to find a Jewish man because when I was younger they already had someone in mind, and now that I'm older, they're mostly all taken.

[@AdaraBalabusta]

Overall, 50% of Jewish adults are single at any given time. HTH. ❤️

[@user-ln5il4un3x]

@@AdaraBalabusta Thanks. Some Jewish guys at a local college have events this time of year. I know they're a bit younger than me, but maybe I'll meet someone there.🤞🏽

[@insaanietihad-MSB]

@@user-ln5il4un3x Beezret HaShem and Good luck with that 🙂

[@moshkhal2637]

Great choice!

[@gabrielleangelica1977]

Converts know MORE about Judaism than many secular Jews!

[@adamyoung2143]

Thank you, Rabbi. I’d love to hear a sermon that tackles the issue of interfaith children and particularly those who are raised patrilineally Jewish and struggle with the identity crisis of having been raised Jewish with a Jewish identity but are not accepted because of the halahkic tradition. In the same way that we must be conscious that batting away interfaith spouses is antithetical to creating Jewish homes, so is this attitude of exclusion.

[@arimoff]

So what is the suggestion? To marry a jewish spouse or change judaism for a progressives privilege?

[@gabrielleangelica1977]

They're going to marry anyway!

[@olgapatriciaviverossantama6799]

B''H. Muchas Gracias por el Semon del Día de Shabbat y nos complace escucharlo en este día de Thanksgiving 💎💝💎💐💎💝💐💞💞💞📜 Muchas Gracias Rabbi Cosgrove por sus palabras tan llenas de Sabiduría y Vaday. Shalom v Shalom, desde Pasto Colombia 🌎🌻🌼🌸🌹🔯🌹🔯🌹🌞

[@saurabhdang7307]

Brilliant

[@pia2024]

I heard that it could be possible that a quarter of european people could have jewish roots.. I think this is to meditate in the light of history.

[@gabrielleangelica1977]

Who is a real Jew?

[@pia2024]

Who loves Israel

[@joel4535]

Thanks Good stand!

[@TyrekeCorrea]

It's not possible to discuss intermarriage soundly without critically analyzing the history of why it's done, how it's changed over time, something which I'm sure you didn't do here.

[@hunold4515]

Great!

[@Medi-oriente]

Jazak ubaruj

[@AdaraBalabusta]

As a convert, I knew that when I converted, I would likely be consigning myself to a lifetime of singlehood. I have no wealth to support a full-time Torah student, and I can never achieve low weight requirement of Jewish men. Lest you think that I am overweight, I am 5’8” and weigh 130 lbs. ❤️

[@rachelgrabowiecki770]

If you did not convert Orthodox, do not worrry, you can marry any one you like !!

[@insaanietihad-MSB]

You know as an aspiring convert myself, I feel we are very lucky to be married to HaShem atleast and became a partner with HaShem in this marital covenant. Have no idea though that Jewish men have weight or height requirements to be fulfilled. Also is it compulsory to fund a Student for Torah study, I have no idea. 🤨🤔 Well Personally I don't mind staying single all my life as long as I am accepted into the covenant and accepted by HaShem. If the blessing of marriage, children and family comes along too Baruch HaShem if not even then Baruch HaShem Beezret HaShem in next life will have that. 🙂

[@moshkhal2637]

Jews are special and Hashem wants segregation, is not up to the rabbi.

[@sirrykr1679]

I am neither Jewish nor particularly religious, but I would never convert. I would feel like a fraud, pretending to be somone I am not. Plus I walue my own traditions and customs. So no convertion for me.

[@gabrielleangelica1977]

I decided not to because I didn't want to be a "second 🥈 class citizen"!

[@davidgrossman7965]

Truth be told we don't know what he was thinking? It says explicitly what he was thinking, you mechalel Shabbos ignoramus

[@susanbloom7551]

if I knew 46 years ago when I (Irish Catholic) married a Jewish man - I never would have done it!!! Maybe like should marry like. 😢

[@anthonysanders7469]

GOD'S CHURCH Are we in the Church Triumphant? I Peter 2:9-10 KJV The church was built by Jesus, it was built on Jesus, it was built for Jesus, it is named after Jesus it is located in Jesus, it gets its power from Jesus, it does the work through Jesus, has the vision looking right at Jesus, it don't celebrate nobody but Jesus, it's a worshiper of Jesus, does the power and work through Jesus and ultimately, will be married to Jesus, and for eternity will reign with Jesus. Matthew 16:18; Acts 2:37-38; 4:10-11; I Peter 2:9-10; Eph. 4:5; Col. 3:17 KJV “When I say unto the wicked, Thou shalt surely die; and thou givest him not warning, nor speakest to warn the wicked from his wicked way, to save his life; the same wicked man shall die in his iniquity; but his blood, will I require at thine hand.” Ezekiel 3:18 KJV

[@kathygrosvenor4464]

Rabbi, I love you and hear you. I’m here every Saturday enjoying the congregation. However, to exclude other cultures and worships of God is not exactly spiritual guidance. Catholics should marry only Catholics? Muslims marry only Muslims? Can we not celebrate in unison regardless of our manner and name? The World is divided enough. For Jewish worshippers to continue to promote this division, our lives will never be at peace.

[@michaelestrinone2111]

Not to jump into your praising the rabbi, but are you familiar with judaism at all? Jews ideally marry jewish, it is that simple and it has nothing to do with "division", as you put it. Perhaps if you in this synagogue every Saturday you can explore this subject with the Rabbi.

[@kathygrosvenor4464]

@@michaelestrinone2111 That’s a helpful suggestion albeit obvious. Yes, I know Judaism. All respect due you, perhaps you’re an adolescent. There is nothing wrong in questioning. In many ways, questioning opens dialogs leading to better understanding in areas of religious practice. To blindly parade along with only the laws and suggestions put before me, does little to deepen my understanding of exactly what I’ve followed thus far. Open eyes and hearts are what my God expects. I wish you peace, sir.

[@michaelestrinone2111]

​@@kathygrosvenor4464 " perhaps you’re an adolescent". I wish... "There is nothing wrong in questioning.."- Actually, for the jews there is everything wrong with questioning halacha. Personally I never wanted or needed to have any dialog discussing or understanding religious practices. I lived all my life not knowing anything about muslem practices, catholic practices, hindu practices etc. Jews can't even enter the churches. The important thing for me is to be respectful and polite and not question anybody's religious practices. But you are correct, comments section in this video is not suitable for such conversation.

[@arimoff]

Progressive American jews wouldn't recognize a jewish value even if it slaps them in the face. If progressivism is in conflict with Judaism, a real normal Jew will chose Judaism. The lost Democrat Jews will chose progressivism and assimilate to disappear in history. Jews in Germany wanted to be the best Germans possible, it didn't turn out well. A warning to the progressive Jews in America

[@Iwillsurvive95]

"As for me and my house we shall worship the L-d alone" Joshua 24:15. Idolatry isn't something a Jew can tolerate and being in an idolaters house or a place of worship for an idol , like say people who worship one specific famous dead Jew (catholics, christians) or a singular entity our ancestors do not know (Allah is not the name revealed to us of our God). If YOU'RE A jew And idolatry happens under your roof, at best you'd be an ethnic Jew, clearly with no regard to halacha or the commandements