Radical Acceptance Revisited - Tara Brach

Radical Acceptance Revisited - Tara Brach (08/12/2015)
One of the truths we most regularly forget is that if we are at war with ourselves, we can’t feel love and connection with our world. This talk looks at the genesis of the “Trance of Unworthiness” and how the wings of mindfulness and heartfulness can dissolve the trance and reveal the loving awareness that is our essence Being.
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[@carolannerobinson8351]

Tara Brach is truly a gift to anyone who wants or needs that gift. She is so generous with her teaching and her healing presence. Thank you 🙏🏻 Tara

[@janhundling4647]

I just listened for the first time to this recording. I have cried 5 times. I dont think I have ever excperienced more truer words than those Tara just said. I want to take steps. My first is recognizing im hurt. Utterly hurt.

[@Changeworld408]

i understand yr pain, i found it terrible for me personally(who we wear a spacesuit for acceptance from parents, family, friends, colleagues...) but i can imagine she speaking about non white Americans how horribly they where treated as inferior people and still get treated differently by police and probably white people. I apologise for my white fellowman and woman.

[@DiliaMarques]

You touch so many lives with your words in a way that transcends all expectations of a human life's work. You make me think of a fairy spreading healing miracles to sleeping people. They wake up and, each at their own pace, they will understand the 2 wings of being present and access to the gold inside them. The miracle of togetherness starts with compassion for ourself. Your teachings of how to do it are a precious gift. Thank you, Tara, for your generosity and wisdom. Please let the gold inside you keep shining on every being on earth. Namaste

[@JudithMucci]

Tara, I listen to you every night before sleeping. Your voice is so clear, soothing and gentle. Your sharing of related humor when starting and throughout your talks are wonderful. You surly a woman of dignity and honor. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, teachings, beliefs of Spiritualality and Psychology.

[@dear.aprisa]

Heard her name for a decade, yet never actually read any of her work. This is the first time I listen to her. I thought I could listen at 1.25x while doing something else. Actually I need to sit down and pause a lot because I receive a lot. I guess I wasn't ready back then. Thank you Tara.

[@judecarlini7699]

❤ Tara, you are truly a gift to me. I listen to you 3-4 times a week. You radiate bliss, love, and compassion. I love your short snippets of wisdom that you share with your listeners of others on the path.

[@luigilammachi626]

Fear is now an integral part of managing people. It is pervasive throughout our society - people, places, things. We are encouraged to fear. Our associations with comfort are being stripped away.

[@gorkemgulan]

Reading this in 2020

[@RedwoodEden]

May everyone watching this video find peace.

[@Jem84]

Tara, you are an angel. You have helped me connect to who I really am, over and over again. Your videos are my anti depressive medication, my light in the darkness. Thank you thank you, thank you.

[@smroog]

So much WISDOM in your words, so much LOVE in your heart. Thank you for REALLY making a difference. Love T

[@randycathcart3896]

Thank you, Tara. I especially appreciate that you spoke directly to those who don't fit the dominant cultural standards. This acknowledgement is meaningful and helpful.

[@jjcoll4088]

I love that you mention minorities and how they have this sense of being less than. I feel normally that topic is overlooked. Thank you

[@brettharrington3835]

Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you Tara Brach.

[@warrenbeane6988]

I am a social worker and am also going through a relationship breakup. I am trained in CBT. Its so much more effective to me to heal by connecting with my body

[@JoeVanWyk]

I just heard about you in a recovery meeting at the Austin Zen Center. A beautiful young woman spoke about the impact you are having in her life. Bless you Tara. I just subscribed.

[@psycherevival2105]

I’ve listened to this talk several times, each time gleaning something new. Through that I came to recognize the value of attending weekly teachings, as is common in many religious practices. We always have something new to learn.

[@Hen-jm8zj]

Thank you, Tara. You're a gorgeous being! Blessings for your teachings!

[@lucywai7631]

The msg was 4 years ago and I see it today after watching the documentary 13th and feeling some sort of way. Not a coincidence! ❤️

[@gregowens9552]

Hi Tara , Greetings from Australia . Stumbled on you and your teachings by accident...or was it ! So glad to hear such clarity and wisdom ...and that joyful smile. Thank you ..

[@dawnmerc1]

Thank you for always bringing me back to my heart when I need it most 💜

[@RYUkyu1812]

Tara, Thanks so much for revisiting "Radical Acceptance" in this talk. I appreciated the focus on the two wings to help bring us inner peace: mindfulness and heartfulness (compassion). I loved the many examples you used throughout your talk, especially the example of the gold Buddha status encased in clay - great metaphor that reminds us of our true nature or essence! Thanks again! Namaste.

[@karynwest6355]

Those flowers are magnificent!

[@bugsea54]

Because of mindfulness practice for the past 2 years I have realized that nobody really showed me love me when I was growing up. This caused me a life full of abuse from others. Now I am stuck in anger and cannot get past it.

[@Changeworld408]

I feel sorry for yr suffering, maybe things will get better if you go through all the stuck emotions from the past and it will one day clear up like the sun that is coming through the clouds after a long period of rainfall. thinking of you

[@Shichman]

Thank you so much, Tara!

[@jimmccloskey4744]

Thank-you for this; it touched me deeply and clarified my own misgivings and fears about loving myself! May you be blessed to be a blessing! Jim

[@lauriesch]

Amazing! This was so much what I've needed for years.

[@spxbc1971]

I got the 3 cd series in 2008, and while it resonated with me, it wasn't until a couple years later that I sat down and listened again, discovering I wasn't open in 2008, almost wish to say 'I wasn't ready or willing.' Although, I thought I wasn't ready, I was actively working on my Self. Upon revisiting the audio series, I was marveled at the transformation, the wonderful shifts I had since experienced. I am currently doing the Master Cleanse, releasing stored emotions that has built up in the body over time is being released at 'let go'. I came back to this audio series to do further work to support and release. In gratitude, thank you for your teachings!

[@kimberlihansen9009]

I love your perspective, Tara! Thank you for sharing your insight! 💖

[@integralstanley]

Tara acknowledges the difficulty of living life as a human being; dukkha. She gives us a beneficial practice. Thanks.

[@Sinke68]

Your words are so true. Thank you. I am practicing, I mean 'pausing'. It's precious.

[@fromeveryting29]

Damn, I really felt something there. I'm a young man kind of stuck in my life. I have moved to a new place and have issues finding a community here. And then I judge myself and other (men especially) for being loners, unable to attract a woman, shy and insecure. I fear being that guy so much, but my inner critic says I am no more than that. It says I'm disgusting, unacceptable, awkward, weird, unattractive, defective. That inner critic is society, my parents. During this meditation I felt a sense of compassion for myself I haven't felt in a long time. Not like a victim-compassion, but more a forgiving "I have done so well given my situation, I can't blame myself, I have been doing everything I could, and I'm okay in that". Life can be difficult. I'm transsexual, and I have so much shame around it. I have hidden it for years now. Everything I ever wanted was to feel acceptable, like I belong, and experiencing safe, loving intimacy. I'll remember the "it's not until you free yourself that you are free to change"

[@Changeworld408]

Hello Julian, i understand what you go through and can relate(self judgement is the worst and it is so hard to critisize oneself) Now i understand why the pain can be so intollerable when you say to yrself "i am not enough". I don't give a damn what sexual identity or skin colour one has and I think most of the time we think people think things about us but in fact they don't. Do you judge others? most of us or preoccupied with trying to please others(spacesuit) for getting acceptance or love(because the self love is lacking)

[@fromeveryting29]

@@Changeworld408 thank you! This video kind of changed something in me actually. I looked into c-ptsd and stuff and did daily excercises to learn to feel and accept my feelings, and to my surprise it helped a lot. I also joined a therapy group for students. I told them about the things I'm ashamed of, and hope it will help. Shame makes us want to hide, so in order to combat it we must do the opposite of hiding, I guess. To answer your question, yes I do judge others. Especially those who have traits similar to the traits I reject in myself. I know I do it. I have suspected that getting to know those people and learning to accept them could help me accept myself. I mean. I live a pretty functional life now. I transitioned 4 years ago. My life is way better. It's just my shame, relationships and intimacy issues that are behind where I would want to be. Wish you the most wonderful life.

[@janmclain6301]

Thank you Tara Brach. Subscribed, shared, agree with all you said, and joined your website.

[@thesharks678]

Thanks a million! I really needed to hear this. Much love to all

[@jessicaroberds594]

You too 🥰

[@samar7151]

This really struck a chord with me. I loved the concept of the managing self and I totally do that. I hope I can really use this practice in my daily life to make changes

[@maxpbeaumont]

You’re the best, Tara. Thank you for your work.

[@skj068]

Tara, your gift and message penetrates and helps me to frame, understand and heal the wounds I couldn’t quite identify Thank you. ❤️🙏🏻

[@kellyhoh444]

I am so touched by this teaching

[@cliffordsingerman8041]

Thank you for the LOVE and gentle guidance.

[@charlenethomas9079]

Tara Brach is amazing!! Helped me get in touch. I owe her one.

[@lauralunaazul]

So beautiful. Thank you Tara for your kind wisdom 💞 and love 🙏 for all beings

[@KarinePhilipsen]

Thank you Tara.

[@davevillaflor3267]

Thank you Tara 🤗❤️

[@Julia-ir5ky]

Amazing. Thank you, Tara.

[@melodyjoy7532]

Beautiful thoughtful healing words.... thank you!

[@betterXdesign]

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Grateful for your insights! 🙏

[@OmerAslam2007]

Thank you, this is incredibly helpful.

[@ianedmonds9191]

Thank you. Luv and Peace.

[@goldensprite3373]

Amazing and beneficial as always!

[@gorkemgulan]

Every -single -sentence -worth GOLD.

[@Steve-vf7se]

So inspiring, love it

[@rinawhite6829]

The plaster story gave me the feels! This one will stay with me as food for thought for years to come, I can feel it

[@jessicaroberds594]

I really appreciate this. Thank you 😊

[@bejersey]

Sometimes it's difficult to get in touch with my feelings.

[@gordonely3591]

Tara Brach is a phenomenon : it's called " a bhodisattva " 🎉

[@lindahebb4832]

Thank you for posting I appreciate your teachings

[@divine1953]

thank you so much! you have so a gentle and kindly voice. this teachings are a possability for me to learn and improve my english. greetings from dresden, germany.

[@mariaz3789]

Glad to hear your son was at the Waldorf School. Here a W.School teacher . Love and Gratitude.

[@robertharrelson5024]

The pause: As we go through the day we pause when agitated or doubtful and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day "Thy will be done not mine," The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous pg. 87 and 88.

[@GlorifiedTruth]

Love from Masison, WI. (Middleton, actually.) ❤

[@GerardVos]

Tara's way of being slightly reminds me of Richard Feynman. Both are so inspiring!

[@goodnatureart]

Good to hear Tara sharing a joke I told her about the kid in the grocery store

[@tacubocu]

17:45 is the highlight of this lecture for me.

[@NYDaughter1972]

Wonderful

[@midoann]

Thank you 2020, Japan

[@natgreen5903]

Beautiful

[@drdevikakhanna4979]

Practices at 29 and 49 minutes 🌸🙏

[@dh031729]

Tara, I love your voice and your message. Thank you for being yourself. You are bringing out my real self :)

[@sabrechooth]

_/\_ thank you Tara!

[@eduardonajarrojr]

We're so busy managing our lives so as to cover this great mystery that we're involved in. - John O'Donohue

[@mydemon]

*so as to cover OVER this great mystery

[@marielamayor3296]

Me encanta Tara, pero me gustaría poder leer los Subtitulos en español ya que muy pocos videos lo tienen

[@aliencblake]

Good

[@ambernicole806]

Who’s here form mindful attraction??

[@kristijanog]

29:15 start of the brief meditation

[@consueloledesma5320]

Tara l listen to you every night, always so inspiring. can you tell me the author of Spiritual Fitness the book you mentioned on this talk, thanks.

[@TheIdontjudge]

Tara has a halo on her head. So cool

[@fingerprint5511]

❤❤❤

[@joanjettboy]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@marielamayor3296]

Como podría traducir el video en español?

[@AnonOMiss]

When you watch this, you realize this woman doesn't take the subway during rush hour in and out of New York City every day.

[@gordonely3591]

Very true , she is mostly sane 😂

[@EndemikBitki-xc6li]

Efsane bir video olmuş

[@bullfrog24260]

Life is a challenge .. and change is not always easy, which is why acceptance is essential. I try the 3R mantra .. responsible for self, respect for others & ‘no regrets’ ..

[@lizxxx5543]

Does this also work with long-lasting repeated emotions of anger or emotional pain? What i mean is that the emotions have been stuck for a very long time

[@karlyn8585]

@Nancy Pontius 🥰thanks a million 🥰

[@LuhJodie]

How the fuck does she know me so well

[@jessicacampos1151]

How can you even be at peace if you really dont belong in society? I mean by being different, not having same opinions as majority, being outcast, etc.?

[@schroonsjozef]

Needing to belong is ego stuff, not necessary. You already belong, no matter what you're opinions are :)

[@danielleaurora9828]

jessica campos Jessica - Radically accept that you are here - alive, and therefore you have a place in the Universe. Never mind society. And if you are so engrossed in the notion of social acceptance or society, then accept that you ARE societ. And because of this, you have the ability to accept yourself.

[@atomiclisa]

That's a wonderful response. Thank you.

[@rinawhite6829]

By being your true, unadulterated self, without forcing it upon others but accepting yourself exactly as you are, that is part of how you will find your tribe. When you don't have to hide yourself to fit in, you will catch the attention of other people who are like you or want to be more like you, and if you are open and pro-active, you can grow your circle of friends and create your own space where you feel you belong. You can start belonging to others like you, and you to them. For years, I made the mistake of thinking that my inner self, my hidden self, was unique and unrelateable. There is a place for you in this world, and it is right where you are. On the other side of the coin, we are in a world where most people are trying to fit in and be like each-other, so to them you could be perceived as a breath of fresh air. Being the unique one in my friend group actually makes me endearing, not annoying. I am still on this journey to feel comfortable in my own skin in a society I sometimes feel I can't relate to - but more and more, I'm finding that I can relate to them much more than I first thought, and that there are a lot more people like me out there than I first imagined. Accepting others exactly as they are without wishing they would change has helped me tremendously, and it encourages them to do the same with you on a subconscious level. I truly believe that if you ease into your own authentic self and accept yourself for who you are, that some others will too. And some is enough. I used to think that I had to win everyone over in order to be accepted and have a place in this world, but you know what...? I don't like hardcore rap. And a lot of people who do wouldn't go for my 10m long progressive rock songs. I realized I was trying to win everyone over when in reality, that was never going to happen. So being yourself might not jive with everyone, and that's the way it's supposed to be! I accept that now and I'm more confident in my own skin because of it. I truly hope you can find peace with it as I am beginning to. xoxo

[@borderlinebackfromhellsara961]

By realizing that's not what is important. What I have to do is realize what matters is if I find something I'm passionate about and engage in it. Also if I can just make people struggling smile it helps me.

[@havefunbesafe]

25:44

[@sudasijolley9092]

Beautiful 😇

[@mreudeco]

Buddha said life is suffering and therefore we see Buddhists suffering everywhere yet pretending to be very wise.

[@twoscoops4181]

12:02 I laughed hard 😂

[@gordonely3591]

around 30.00 oboy 🎉🎉🎉 🎉🎉🎉 🎉🎉🎉 🎉🎉🎉

[@gordonely3591]

You coo coo

[@MrSynth1200]

Hi Tara, thank you so much for the video!!!!! But how do you pause in the heat of the moment? If I would be able to pause when when agitated my life would be whole lot less painful.

[@mitjae3016]

it looks like tara hasnt answered you - so i will try - just notice and acknowledge -" i notice i am feeling agitated - ' that may be the pause u need

[@kp34325]

This is great but if you are having oscillation and need stability to crack through your personhood there is a self who has managed to use backwards teaching methods which works in the modern day.

[@oliveb2o]

She looks like Anne-Sophie Lapix

[@jimbeam4140]

The problem with people like Brach is that they put people off by being so touchy feely. Her words are important, but the style doesn't appeal to people like me who don't like all of the spiritual bullshit that surrounds it.

[@gayelounsbury5858]

Jim Beam Perhaps you should try another path...

[@jeromeberteloot1165]

Maybe take off your suit

[@Flintknappingtips]

Jim Beam if Sam Elliott or Clint Eastwood memorized this script and removed the trigger words like Dali lama and npr, delivered it as they could. Pretend that.

[@JoeVanWyk]

Jim Beam Jim, wherever you are right now. Whatever you are doing. I want you to know you are loved.

[@sunflowers2469]

let’s all spare a moment of compassion for Jim & hope he finds his way though these trying times.

[@meowmsmacadamia7026]

55 minutes of listening to saliva.

[@Joohee4]

I love your videos but I can stand the mouth noises you make (Sensory Processing Disorder) so I can listen to your videos 😕. I'm sorry I've tried many times.

[@lukasvilla2657]

Rachel Krueger turn on the captions and turn the volume off.

[@jccurran9327]

Târa Brach - Hi. Love your tapes! They go direct to the issue. I think earlier someone asked if you could dim the stage lights as the reflections (in the mirror) are distracting. I respectfully suggest that you might want to check this out. At first, I did not notice but I see sort of turbun, bun or "small black cloud" moving on the back of your head. I hope I have not offended but serve up this suggestion so that viewers get your A1 best. Your posting does make me smile as I sometimes wear a bun. Best wishes for Happy Holidays and a Great New Year to everyone. 🐱🐕🐇

[@grapiken7766]

The Dalai Lama is no angel unfortunately... I wish the West's worship of him would end, or at least be willing to scrutinise him objectively

[@brendaschwieterman1350]

Ok, I love this... but I don’t feel it’s totally fair to bring up that police mistreat blacks. Sending that very message is part of the problem.

[@gembridge5319]

They do though.

[@katydid-lz2yx]

Gem Bridge I learned a great deal from watching this documentary www.uncletom.com by Larry Elder factual ....not emotional

[@brendaschwieterman1350]

katydid1955 Uncle Tom is an amazing film. I watched it a few weeks ago. Every American should watch it. 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸

[@gordonely3591]

The truth has set me free

[@brettharrington3835]

Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you Tara Brach.

[@brettharrington3835]

Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you Tara Brach.