Dealing With Dysphoria

[@em0t33th7]

I’m ftm trans... my dysphoria got so bad I started starving myself and developed anorexia... dysphoria really sucks man

[@JG-on2wx]

I hope you're doing better now ❤️ I know how you feel, there will always be people to listen to your worries and thoughts and to help you becoming happy again!

[@em0t33th7]

J G I only just got diagnosed, I was already suicidal before I came out as trans due to family issues. But i have a therapist, psychologist, and another person with a title I can’t remember lmao. But thank you for caring, I appreciate that so much x

[@goblindude4242]

@Alexander Curtis I developed ed tendencies recently and it actually clashes with my dysphoria? Because of the difference between my chest size any body type, the smaller I get the more noticeable my chest gets (Which is already noticeable as all hell ugh) which is so goddamn frustrating. My main point of dysphoria is my chest and I fucking hate it.

[@presidentsofvice]

I' hope you are doing better. stay alive fren II-//

[@alexandradavis5354]

I have it to but I eat to much

[@PAPERM0NSTERZ]

I'm not trans but I really appreciate that you're trying to help trans people currently dealing with dysphoria

[@keldykes9244]

Thank you 😁😁😁 RESPECT THIS HUMAN!😆

[@apollo-du9gs]

Same here

[@karinhonaker4236]

Exactly

[@kaiyodei]

the ones with no dysphoria need more help because they are constantly told they are not valid

[@karinhonaker4236]

@@kaiyodeiyou cant be trans without dysphoria

[@katlynroseanne]

I don’t have dysphoria, but I’m making a trans character and this video really helped at fleshing him out.

[@feralpossum2089]

And if you have any questions, there are enough trans people here lol

[@unigirl159]

Wait... I'm doing the same thing XD Dude, that's awesome.

[@cjck1344]

Okay but like same

[@goobiestgoob]

Intense respect to you for doing your research instead of just making them transgender for the sake of making them transgender.

[@TheFiteShow]

@@devlin4795 no

[@arenlovesjinho5888]

I thought I was the only "weirdo" looking at themself naked at the mirror to get less dysphoria ;;;;;

[@Solaceon]

It helps weirdly much. I remind myself about things like, "your chest will one day be flat" and "we might be skinny fat, but we're hitting that gym daily and one day we're gonna be a god" and "cr1tikal is only 5'6". Height is how you carry yourself." It's really hard at first, but if you ever feel like a faker or like it's never going to be okay, just remember that you're making an active decision and dedicating a lot of your life to what most people take for granted: your gender. And that's just the most badass thing ever.

[@LambentLight00]

Oh I do that!!!!

[@chyluvr]

your not alone

[@thickdickdaddy_2776]

oof

[@unholierthanthou7748]

I've been doing this for a good while and it actually has helped me accept the extra bits of fat on my body. I am a little thicker than the average biological girl so not only does it help with my dysphoria but It helps an oddly large amount with an eating disorder of mine.

[@BridghamGray]

“Mom, girls are cute why wouldn’t i wanna dress up as them!” *evil laughter*

[@TinNguyen-rl2xr]

Because

[@yeiiiiii131]

“Boys are so handsome, i want to be one, mom”

[@rosebud6116]

“Mom! Mom! I wanna go as Luigi for Halloween!”

[@ennuyait9447]

"Bees are cool, why cant I be a bee?"

[@jester3272]

relatable

[@unholierthanthou7748]

I'm actually non-binary and oh my God dysphoria is so weird for non-binary people. This video actually helped me take my mind off of things for a while.

[@oatmealbeaver]

Just A Random Person i get what u mean my humans

[@StarboyJuno]

I just recently figured out I'm nb and It's so weird, I wear a dress and my dysphoria is like: You look like a cis girl. Or I wear a tie and my Dysphoria says: You look like a very masculine lesbian. I hate it so much T^T

[@-dumdino-6818]

I am non binary and trans (I think..? I'm still questioning.) Is it possible to feel like both genders and more of one gender? Cuz what tf am i?

[@unholierthanthou7748]

@@-dumdino-6818 yea! If you want to, you can look into labels that might fit. Gender is different for everyone

[@-dumdino-6818]

Wait I think I'm actually pansexual. :) that seems like it tbh.

[@CaptainCrunchOfficial]

If Harry Potter taught us anything, it’s no one deserves to live in the closet

[@Jessafur]

Ironic given JK's latest comments

[@skullotonin]

WHEN I SAY I WHEEZED

[@CaptainCrunchOfficial]

@@Jessafur yeah

[@kurapikakurta1997]

Especially under the stairs.

[@cobaltbomb3519]

Thanks shrek

[@aprilflowers9214]

Right as my friend is explaining his dysphoria.

[@plarcloudz3860]

I’m not trans but I support everyone in the trans community

[@karinhonaker4236]

Me 2

[@watchmenaenae-n5b]

Me 3 (edit, it seems like I am actually trans. Who knew? ;-;)

[@aquajasper]

Me 4

[@ravenvictoria412]

@@watchmenaenae-n5b Was that an oopsie? That was an oopsie. Well then, CONGRATULATIONS! I must commend your bravery, I know it can be very painful just to be yourself at times, but that only enhances the good times.

[@watchmenaenae-n5b]

@@ravenvictoria412 Thank you dear! Fortunately for me my dysphoria is not that bad, it's probably why it took me so long to figure it out lmao.

[@JalleLive]

My mom was highly against of cutting my hair but since I was in clothing making school I made it up that "I accidentally cut it of while I was leaning to the fabric I was cutting", and year after year I was able to get shorter cut as I made it clear with changing my clothing preference too. I finally have the haircut I love and I can just trim the sides and try to keep the manbun middle not too long so it looks alright. It shouldn't be the way that parents decides for their kids or don't let them be theirselves.. Lots of strenght for everyone!!

[@oatmealbeaver]

Jalle my mom says I can’t cut my hair shorter than my shoulders because it “gets poofy” or something like that but I think I’m getting her used to the idea lol

[@avvrgtpg]

that excuse though XDXD

[@daydariftwalker]

(Agender AFaB here) A bit late but my mum was also against cutting my hair short, probably because the word “short” brought up images of buzz cuts for her, but I showed her a chin-length wolf cut(which was what i was thinking about from the start) and she agreed and a couple months ago we got my hair cut to a length that i think suits me :D

[@olivernielsen3578]

I agree with the "going to conventions" part. When I started cosplaying as a guy at conventions, I recognized how right it felt and how amazing it was, when people called me a guy. Going to conventions helped me so much, with figuring out my gender identity. So. I can definitely recommend it, even if going might feel a little scary at first. Side note: you meet so many nice and accepting people at cons. It's wonderful!

[@RadPaxOfficial]

You can meet some amazing like minded people that way. And best part is if you ever get too shy just go to the game room and watch people play DDR for a few hours lol

[@buzzsawenthusiast1756]

I love your name! :O

[@olivernielsen3578]

@@RadPaxOfficial Yup! You definitely do. And yeah, going to the game room is the perfect solution, if you're too shy. I've sometimes had a few people asking me, if I wanted to join..whatever game they were playing. It's nice 👌🏻

[@olivernielsen3578]

@@buzzsawenthusiast1756 Thank you! I chose it myself, hehe :P

[@aidenoliver1681]

Ma dude I have the same hat

[@novemberraiinn]

Non binary me: exists My parents: nah you are too young to know

[@melaniegarcia3158]

I have a very hard time dealing with gender dysphoria because I’m Non Binary and a lot of people think that it’s made up, but I don’t care what other people believe, I am what I am and I feel what I feel and not even I can change that. I do have a few friends that accept me and call me a they/them. But my family doesn’t accept me and I’m their precious little daughter. No, I hate that. I’m Non Binary but I’d much rather be called a boy than a girl. Also I need to know: Am I the only one that literally *dies* inside whenever someone says ladies and gentlemen?

[@himynameismax7516]

Same. The worst part for me is when I go somewhere new, and I'm read more as male (I cut my hair and wear traditionally masculine clothing). I feel really good until my family calls me "she" or uses my birthname, and everyone around me immediately switches from calling me something like "buddy" or "kid" to "pumpkin" or "sweetie".

[@melaniegarcia3158]

HiMyNameIsMax I’m so sorry about that.

[@melaniegarcia3158]

Wolf_Nate_1625 Same. I always skip those questions if it allows me to. Like what does my gender have to do with it? Why does it matter?

[@oatmealbeaver]

we need a word for us genderqueer folks; formal enby or somewhere around those lines

[@randomseven76]

I feel u ,I’m not out yet but I feel u and also I hope ur family can except uo

[@nikisweird7705]

Today I got clothes from the men's section for the first time and it was great!! And I bought a binder and it won't arrive til Monday :/

[@karina_martinez420]

Despacito

[@oatmealbeaver]

i got male clothing today as well, I felt so confident I was so close to cutting my long hair, I actually had the sizzers (i give up on spelling) in my hand but then i calmed down... no more coffee for me xD

[@ravenvictoria412]

@@oatmealbeaver Scissors. I think Shears us also correct?

[@madiskorey]

I want a binder but I’m not out yet

[@ramuneingproductions]

@@madiskorey I got my friend to get me one (we exchanged a maid outfit for a binder) and I'm still waiting for my binder to come in but try to get a friend to order it for you! I'm not out and my family isn't supper accepting but I felt like I really needed this so my friend decided to help! If to you can't you may be able to find giveaways but they're random but it's worth a try

[@korey5664]

"Don't bind with ace bandages" Me sitting in my room am 12 am, binding with bandages: ._. oops...

[@RadPaxOfficial]

you can break your ribs

[@forestfreeman1600]

Please don’t, be careful

[@mxchi7499]

I usually bind with both of my averagely tight sports bras

[@ramuneingproductions]

They keep getting tighter and tighter which can break your ribs, ruin your spine, cause breathing issues, etc. And then you won't be able to get top surgery :(

[@racheldevito]

there's a site I just signed up for a free binder ill send u the link bro if you need it

[@edgy_circles]

My parents say they're "okay with my gender", but like, I can hear the parentheses.

[@dystrxphy]

Fucking same, best of luck in the future though

[@edgy_circles]

@@dystrxphy Same to you man.

[@racheldevito]

My mom: I GET ur noNbiNARY AnD alL BUT YoUlL gROw OUt of it I dID Me: im not growing out of it, will you use my proper pronouns please for once My mom: THE INTERNET TOLD YOU TO THINK IM NOT SUPPORTIVE

[@edgy_circles]

@@racheldevito BRUUUUUHHHHHH THATS LITERALLY ON POINT

[@Nottringo]

@@racheldevito PERIOD HOLY FUCK1!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@shinypaintf588]

I think i'm cisgender but i love these types of videos, they help me understand trans people better

[@torkoal_fire7640]

Honestly same here my friend, i have a few trans friends and my best friend feels dysphoria a lot. Its just nice to hear a bit more about it

[@Chey1214_]

Same here. I know a trans male, my mom's best friend, and don't really know much about him and other trans people, so...

[@unholierthanthou7748]

I always love seeing allies in these comment sections, it reassures me that not every person is unaccepting.

[@j.h170]

same, when I meet Someone different I want to know about how to treat them and be around them cuz I don't want to hurt them.

[@officiallytriggered5821]

Thank you so much for trying to understand, I wanted to thank you because people in my town are very trans and homophobic and tend to beat them including me. Thank you so much

[@RingingRoses]

Me a 5'8 ftm: exist Other FTM's that are shorter: how about I just be jelly but still super supportive

[@Nikolqi]

YES! I'm a trans guy and I was blessed with full 6'ft :)

[@racheldevito]

I THOUGHT I WAS TALL FOR 5'5 CANBT YOU SHARE A FEW CENTIMETERS WITH ME

[@Nikolqi]

@CIERRA TALBERT I can donate some🙋‍♂️🙋‍♂️🙋‍♂️ how moch do you want, i have 6'0ft

[@Level_of_violence]

Y'all are lucky but at the same time I wish you the best

[@Justatherianfromalotoffandoms]

Y'all are so lucky I'm 5'2 ✋😭

[@Agame-sf8pm]

“One of the biggest things for trans men is HEIGHT” Me: YES YES YESSS “Im a small dude I’m like 5’2” Me:5’8 Me”I’m so sorry “

[@RadPaxOfficial]

save my short soul

[@jude297]

@@RadPaxOfficial im shorter than you and nonbinary lol :((

[@dark_attribute]

i'm 5'6" and I WANNA BE 6 FEET TALL

[@madiskorey]

I believe I’m trans (ftm) and I’m 4’3 so -

[@StarboyJuno]

I'm nb and unnaturally tall for my age lol

[@loeandbehold4808]

Honestly, im a 14 year old trans guy, and i go to school with people who knew me before i was trans and had long ass hair. And now that i look more masc.. I want to wear hairclips in my hair.. I want to dress how i like but.. I'm happy with my gender and my appearance, so i think I'm ready. But a lot of people know I'm trans and it will make people think I'm a girl.. What should i do..

[@Hutch2Much]

you should always dress how you like, no matter what!! you do you

[@Solaceon]

From a 22 year old trans guy, do what you want. Wear what you want. It may affect whether or not you pass so keep that in mind, but if you carry yourself with confidence and correct others if/when they misgender you it helps out a lot. A lot of gender presentation is nonverbal, too. If you walk a certain way, carry yourself a certain way, and pay close attention to and mimic the body language and speech patterns of cis men (speaking slower and more directly, speaking less, using fewer filler words such as "like") , it does a surprising amount to help. Don't let that keep you from being yourself, of course, but that's stuff you can try if you'd like. Best of luck, dude. I'm proud of you.

[@randomtree7295]

Wear what you want outside of school, and try to keep your masculine appearance in school, it will save you a lot of discomfort.

[@ravenvictoria412]

@@Solaceon That non-verbal stuff is very true. When I was still in the closet I walked like a motherfucking goblin, exactly like Shinjiro Aragaki from Persona 3, which caused back problems and it's essentially the one thing people mistook me for a male for, bc if I was sitting on a desk that wouldn't reveal my stance I would get identified as a female (and then I'd be in high spirits for the rest of the day xd) . Now I walk like a top model because it comes naturally to me and I only needed to do that one thing for people to properly recognize my gender, so it's not just your appearance, it's also your behaviour and mannerisms. Of course, appearance also matters, but that comes later and more slowly.

[@aspenh.7054]

this is random but im happy im not alone in being a transguy who wears hairclips djkskjsd

[@zachwright200]

It’s ok, some people are short and amazing, Kevin Hart is 5,2 and look at how funny that dude is!! 😂

[@zachwright200]

Name tag Animations 😂😂😂still short

[@shayolinparker2934]

He's actually 5'4", but your point still stands

[@gremlinteddy]

Nice pfp

[@souleaterevans4589]

To my fellow fem folks: I'm an AFAB person who literally put up with her mother shaving her legs *for her* (yes, just legs; it was a compromise) and I stopped that shit the moment I realized it wasn't what _I_ wanted. I shave my armpits twice a week and that. is. it. There is nothing wrong with a hairy woman or a hairy feminine-presenting person, and don't do what I did and put up with other people enforcing stuff onto you. It's your body, your identity, your choices. Just be you and try to surround yourself with as many people as you can who can accept that. Sincerely, your friendly gender non-conformist

[@thewitheredsouls]

Yesterday my cousin looked at me disgusted realizing I had as much leg hair as him and kept on telling me I NEED to shave because I'm "a girl" (afab, questioning nonbinary spectrum) and I pointed out that girls can have it how they feel comfortable! Boys too and if they want to shave they shave , if not then not. He was like "Boys who do that are gay. Nothing against gays - but that's gay" and it pissed me off to be honestly.

[@souleaterevans4589]

@@thewitheredsouls I feel you. I've dealt with being referred to as "unhealthy" or "gross" for just body hair. I'm lucky that I have a friend in a similar identity situation to me who doesn't shave, as well as a friend who doesn't for religious reasons. People just don't understand it; it's so normal now to be hairless below the eyes for "females" that people make terrible assumptions about normal human body hair, but _only_ if it's on a person perceived as such. If it's a "male" that shaves then there's suddenly a problem with _not_ having body hair too.

[@triciaivers2572]

also everyone just looks a bit more cool with hair warriors don't shave (to my history knowledge) which makes people not shaving cool and if you do shave because you want to then thats also cool because theres less chance of your hair getting catch on something

[@souleaterevans4589]

@@triciaivers2572 Yeah, I hate that shaving is an expectation for women and femmes.

[@triciaivers2572]

@@souleaterevans4589 ye so do i its honestly quite stupid

[@goatherstudios7891]

“Hello there little boy have you lost your family?” “I will... cut you...” Pfft that’s me

[@that_other_marauders2183]

I wish my parents would get me a binder,but I do have a lot of problems with my breathing so I don't even know if I can bind. Your voice is so relaxing! Your advice is always helpful! I recently got my first genderfluid haircut (I told my parents my hair got in the way when I draw) and I'm super happy about it! Love your videos! 💜

[@sebastianweiner8003]

Derpycheese11 If you have breathing problems i would recommend a binder 2 or 3 size larger, it will be easier to breath and should still flatten it to an extent. If you don’t want to do that, get 2 sports bras and wear them together (would also recommend a larger size for both because you don’t want to mess up your lungs more) and wear baggy sweatshirts and shirts too hide your chest

[@starboy5am639]

Hey, i have a ton of brwtahi g and other issues, i also have a broken rib or two. It's really hard at first to try and wear a brinder for more the an hour or when i had to go out. I did a camping trip for three days where i was running around all day, no breaks trying to wear a binder the whole tjme. Take breaks, do some brwyhing exsersizes, sooner or later it will get easier!

[@sandaynur4832]

I have the same problem I have really bad asthma I usually only behind for five hours and only put my binder on minutes before I have to leave the house

[@Andrewchristefor42069]

try transtape

[@angelpom_]

your voice actually sounds much like a boy, maybe a gender neutral voice, so i think it works. Your voice is handsome

[@sebastianweiner8003]

Pibley Ya, his voice has changed a lot within the last few videos as well. It’s really great to see

[@theanimationlake3661]

I can clearly hear his voice as feminine

[@ravenvictoria412]

His voice was teetering on the edge, I feel. Not like I'm one to talk, my voice is too low for my liking, but if he ever manages to get hormones that'll really help him.

[@AtheBlueprint]

Pibley it doesn’t sound like a boys at all!! xD

[@ramuneingproductions]

@@AtheBlueprint Ack please don't say that it can cause the creator to get dysphoria and you're invaliding their compliment! :(

[@kingcrab2678]

You’ve just cleared up my doubts about being trans talking about being able to like lots of stuff stereotypically your born sex! EVERYONE IM A BOY!

[@paperkid73]

Hi a boy, I’m super happy for you and stand with the many others who support you! :)

[@Sprinkles-is-confused]

I’m so proud of you!!!!

[@Ace-oc6wx]

My mom: I don’t want you to do/ watch anything that has to do with gender Me practically mentality ill from no socialization from no one understanding:... My mom: what’s wrong???

[@racheldevito]

same. My mom will berate me for my gender constantly then literally say I have "a phone problem". Like yes mom how tf am I supposed to talk to people im homeschooled, in a pandemic, and you never talk to me without yelling.

[@avvrgtpg]

people: I am dysphoric about my height, shoulder private parts, etc. me: my pee sounds feminine

[@sunnyspookss]

Im not trans myself, but I am a part of the lgbtq+ community with a trans friend and I try to be as supportive as I can with this kind of thing. I loved this video even if I didn’t directly relate to it. Love you pax and I really appreciate everything you do to help people, it’s amazing

[@felixascends4514]

The shorter the king the taller the crown my brother.

[@finch3333]

I look in the mirror. Then I just say "that's not me, that is just a girl. Not me" and I just pretend that I am invisible and that is my imaginary friend that I can see. Weird, I know. But for me it works.

[@rosebud6116]

That gave me an idea! You can think that you’re a spirit who possessed a body trying to run away from the spirit police, and tried to run away so you took over a newborn baby, but you didn’t check if you liked the body or not, you just took it quickly

[@serefine927]

Im so glad that my dyphoria is usualy so weak and that clothes mostly dont make dysphoric as long my body shape isnt too obvious. I think I will go to pride rocking a flowercrown. I just need to train more and get my body used to wear a binder for 8 or atleast 7 h because I dont want to go without it this year. For the emergency I am gonna find out in beforehand where to find bathrooms and take a loose sportsbra with me in case I need to take it off

[@blakeelton6222]

Now ima sit here with my oreo cheesecake frm burger king and chill

[@theanimationlake3661]

Sounds like a vibe.

[@skydraw6921]

your videos about this topic always makes me feel better about myself and i'm so greatful to hear that i don't have to do all of the stereotypical gender things i'm 14 and i believe i have dysphoria and truly believe i'm a guy and being able to wear short hair and wear baggy clothes and still be able to draw cutsy stuff and not feel fully weird is the best feeling in the world thank you for teaching me to love myself

[@soup8203]

I'm trans to non-binary and I recently came out to all my friends and asked them to call me Kai instead of my dead name and then they kept saying my preferred name😊. And if it isn't going that way for someone reading my comment, I am so so sorry❤️

[@nyonnyen]

I’m only 12 and I can’t even look at myself in the mirror anymore, I’m super closeted and school is starting soon, so I’m only going to be misgendered more, I cannot stand being referred to as female, and I’m too scared to tell my parents I don’t know what to do

[@SassyDerg]

I'd try to do any masculine thing you can get away with. You could also try to find a gender neutral or masculine sounding nickname for people to call you. You could also say you'd like to use men's deodorant because it "works better." Try to wear jeans too.

[@aliyazahra9067]

This video really helped me ^^ I've been dealing with gender dysphoria for an amount of time and since I'm living in a country where the LGBTQ+ community isn't excepted it's very hard for me. Since most of my friends from my old school is very religious((hecc, even my best friend's for 10 years is very religious)) if I open up my problem with them they will disown me calling me a traitor towards my religion and stuffs…. But luckily I still have friends from my new school and some of my old friends supporting me to be who I am. Though since I'm going to cosplay as a guy today I'm very excited of how the things might turn out ((I'm cosplaying as Michael Mell btw)) ^^

[@joshdun69]

i deadass thought the title said "dealing with dyslexia" oh the irony

[@RadPaxOfficial]

HAH oh nooo

[@RadPaxOfficial]

discord.gg/vJWkYm Join my discord~! Its trans friendly! Link will last for one hour. If the timer runs out just DM me on twitter or Instagram for a link

[@quivedraws7859]

I joined :)

[@ashbarclay2746]

5 mins to late ~._.~

[@c.c.865]

I was too late! 😭

[@machfassett5749]

Just a little too late.

[@galazygamer4402]

And again..I am late..by the same amount as last time xD

[@alaina_6398]

I have a friend who came out of the trans closet to me after his girlfriend and i am ashamed to say i wasn't as accepting because our whole lives i called him "sister" and not "brother" and i have to say this. DON'T tell them you won't accept! Trust me, it hurts not just them but yourself as well because you will have to live with them suffering in front of you and you not seeming to care! After a few days, i messaged him and said "i love you, bro. I'm so sorry! Please forgive me!" He did and we are both happy. Even if you don't believe in it, at least learn to coexist with them and use the pronouns: they/them. I am mistreated because i am not "changing my trans and gay friends" and will fight to the death for them but i don't care!! I love you, for being you, and as long as you don't have sex with animals or are a criminal in any way, you are cool in my book. Stay safe, and stay hydrated. 😊🤜🤛👍👐👏💜🖤

[@emilybuening9555]

gadsvfsad I can't believe you uploaded on my birthday. I'm not trans myself but I really like listening to what you have to so about dysphoria and what your experience has been like. I really hope you are able to stop your eating disorder. Keep up the good work my dude ❤️

[@lucikhwaja5260]

This is on my birthday too lol

[@pidgeb9193]

Happy birthday

[@emilybuening9555]

@@pidgeb9193 I'm a little late, but thank you!

[@ciel2147]

This video helped me soooooooooooooooooo much thank you so much And to all trans mans and ladies out there i love and support you sooooooo much . I'm proud of you 💙💖💟💖💙

[@milkymoon2542]

the best feeling is to be called the pronouns you want aaack

[@mintyfresh2357]

I told my mom I want a binder for cosplay. She doesn’t approve of me doing male characters or of people changing their bodies. I’m just trying to find out myself some more. Definitely do not feel that feminine. Recently I’m thinking more gender fluid like.

[@Waspinmymind]

True I’m covered in hair. Woman can be hairy.

[@RadPaxOfficial]

we love a hairy queen

[@mooncrater1286]

*yes*

[@KaiLally9009]

Lol

[@aprilflowers9214]

No dislikes. LETS KEEP IT THAT WAY.

[@sch9695]

11 now 😢

[@skypaladin8127]

lmao nope

[@Googleyourowndeath]

And this is why you dont say these things because some troll will change that 😂

[@ink-kfc5895]

We don't see it now so win win 😎

[@maximellow5745]

I remember watching this video when it first came out and being like "trans people don't exist" Well. Turns out. I AM trans.

[@RadPaxOfficial]

oh how the turn tables

[@firewolfcaves]

One day I'll get short hair and donate my long hair to someone who needs it, then when I grow up I can be a boy. 💖💕

[@RadPaxOfficial]

Donating hair is a wonderful thing to do. I know having long hair sucks but just think how happy someone else will be with a beautiful wig from the hair you donated.

[@firewolfcaves]

RadPax. Agreed, if having long hair doesn't make me happy, it can make someone else happy. 💖☺️

[@BuiltAdifferentbreed]

U already are a boy💖💖

[@zoeyaldred20]

I LITERALLY AGREE WITH THIS WHOLE VIDEO, I'm a trans woman and the head hair is so important to me and body hair makes me very disforic and I'm really tall which is annoying. I connect with this video so much and I love the end message "Do what makes you happy" 😄

[@RadPaxOfficial]

tall girls are so beautiful. I know it sucks to be a tall girl but just know you're beautiful!

[@zoeyaldred20]

@@RadPaxOfficial thank you 😊

[@Puppyprintz]

7:56 Omg I’m like 4’11 and I’m constantly confused for a little kid.

[@facade2027]

JuiceBox can i trade heights with u cause holy fuck aaaaaa

[@Capybarabread]

@@facade2027 you can trade heights with me I’m 5’0

[@facade2027]

@@Capybarabread pls

[@JR-qf1sv]

pls can i trade w someone too im constantly mistaken for like a 10YO boy DDDD:

[@smudgebug7942]

This could NOT have come at a more convenient time. I just got hit with a huge wave of dysphoria earlier and this has calmed me down immensely.

[@erazor4880]

Oh my god.. i havnt even watched it and i already love it... my disphoria is awful and UGH

[@pidgoenking3434]

Oh what amazing timing I was googling dysphoria is killing me so ay

[@egg6809]

I have a hard time dealing with my dysphoria..so maybe this could help me

[@alivinghumanbutisachair9115]

Egg good luck

[@egg6809]

a living human but is a chair thanks

[@alivinghumanbutisachair9115]

Egg no problem, I hope ur doing ok

[@jude297]

Same, ive had a crap day with dysphoria and also accidentally outed myself so basically, AHHHH :((

[@sage1467]

"One of, I think, the biggest things that kinda sucks for being trans is HEIGHT" *Laughs in short gremlin enby*

[@sage1467]

@@plshelpme4475 OMG YES

[@Penguin_Animates]

Hey RadPax! This helped so much and I love watching your videos. I took your advice about the cold, and I'm feeling better and healthier. Thanks so much for this!

[@vanessabarraza5983]

I absolutely LOVE when youtubers speak out on topics like this. The steps we have taken to make it this far is AMAZING! 💙💙

[@theravens_keeper9146]

A quick aside for any ftm/nb/ just afabs in general, take breaks, drink water and keep pushing through within reason. I'd also suggest lower singing tutorials like the ones from Geoff castellucci or David Larsson. Like even of you aren't super good at singing it helps warm up your vioce muscles. STRETCH. Stay safe y'all. 😊

[@JustDarkSoul6]

I really like the atmosphere it’s just so calming!

[@owenh1418]

The trevor project has a free call hotline, text chats to tlak to a counselor, as well as a community you can join and talk to people online

[@Grass-seedling]

Catholic school really messed me up bad. I went there from pre-elementary school to middle school. I had a really shitty time there thanks to my teachers bullying me at a really young age (3 or something) for not acting like a typical boy and telling me that I'm going to hell. This experience scared me of being myself for years and I tried so hard to be "normal" but it never worked. Middle school was the worst thing I've ever gone through in my life. Not only was I getting yelled at and bullied by literally everyone but on top of that puberty started taking effect. I was just so sad all of the time and couldn't stand looking at myself. Puberty made really masc., to the point where I had a full blow mustache in 7th grade. It being a Catholic school I was never educated on trans people, gay people, etc. so I had no clue what was going on with me and never told anyone what I was feeling bc it wouldn't be "manly". I honestly believed what people were telling me and thought I was a terrible person. Thankfully for me Coronavirus shut down my school and that really gave me time to try and find out what is going on with me. Thankfully I did and glad I don't have to deal with that anymore.

[@StrawberryNova]

As someone who is really only JUST coming to terms with themselves, this video is honestly really helpful to me. Not just for the tips you give, but also just...being able to relate, I guess is a good way to put it? Feeling NOT alone in everything can be really comforting. My voice and hair (which used to be really long) have always been issues for me. Cutting my hair has honestly made me feel SO much better. For a long time I really wasn't able to cut it because, as supportive as my family USUALLY is, anytime I cut my hair from long to shoulder length I'd hear a lot of comments about long hair being "so much prettier" or something, even though when it WAS long, no one ever saw it down. That had enough of an impact on me that I didn't actually cut my hair SHORT until...like this past Christmas, even though I've been moved out for almost 5 years. I've been pitching my voice down more, but old habits die hard where I used to be in customer service and when I I talk to people when I go out, my high-pitched super feminine customer service voice comes out. It's really frustrating but I have trouble stopping it, so it's still an issue, but it's getting better. I DEFINITELY agree with the clothing tip. I've started investing more in clothes that work better for me and it's made me feel so much better.

[@auracoleman4]

I watched this not cause I have it, but because my friends have it Now I kinda understand, so thanks!!

[@alivinghumanbutisachair9115]

Aura Coleman that’s so nice tho

[@alivinghumanbutisachair9115]

Also I hope ur friends r ok

[@FatallyParasocial]

same

[@ameslame]

same! my bf is trans and he tells me about his dysphoria all the time. it’s rlly upsetting that he has to go through that so i’ve been doing a lot of searching about how to help and support him. i also understand more about this topic, so yea! ❤

[@togzig5925]

It's been 4 years when this video was created but I still want to say, thank you so much for letting me know how to make myself feel better in my body

[@neondotexe6037]

When you said ‘get some tea, coffee,’ I thought you meant T as in testosterone and was really confused

[@RadPaxOfficial]

just take a sip

[@remy_ratking]

Ah, if only I could get some T and coffee...

[@janedoe3122]

If you’re going out could you please grab me some E and coffee

[@clemente_01]

i think not enough people talk about how important its to look like you want to look, a friend of mine said once that looking cute was a huge motivation to exist and i couldnt agree more

[@elven_punk]

A lot of my favorite male band members are very short. Ranging from 5'5 to 5'7 ish, and it makes me feel more comfortable about myself for being a trans-dude at the height of 5'1

[@RadPaxOfficial]

Short boys stand together On boxes cause everything is hecking tall

[@sugarysaturn4892]

[ she/they ] *there’s super odd things that make me feel more masc??? um yeah lemme list them bc hopefully they will help u!* -short nails!!! -combat boots -dark undereyes (contour) -chains! -holding like, cans? *not so odd things now!* -cologne -binding (SAFELY) -lowering my voice -baggy clothes -hair up (but i also feel masc with it down??) *hopefully this helps*

[@jaiix9076]

A tip for FTM trans people who cant get a binder (closeted reasons) is asking a friend to buy it for you, or pay them and have it shipped to their house so your parents dont know about it, then they can give it to you..or just make one (AS LONG AS ITS SAFE-)

[@t.4822]

Whenever i get dysphoric i write a letter to one of my teachers who im out to. I've wrote so many letters and i've giving her one (i get her letter back tomorrow) and we just write letters to each other. Honestly it helps me so much and it's such a good way to get out your feelings. what's the best thing about it though is you get to sign your chosen name which is what makes me the happiest about it.

[@emilybuening9555]

Embasan that is so wholesome.

[@gawd-zila]

"Looking at yourself in the mirror naked" Me who can barely look at himself in the mirror clothed: ...

[@atreyu2288]

I've been dealing with a lot of dysphoria lately, and this video really helped me out and made me feel a bit happier. thank you so much for trying to help people with their feelings, you're an amazing human. also, amazing drawing! looks good :3

[@whoneedsalife_4371]

*poor sad gay boi*

[@miunce]

11:17 you could also say like you're in dance or you need it for p.e. so chesticles arent in the way when you're doing physical activities

[@sannoshook]

Ever since I have found your channel I have been so happy :) I don't see many trans you tubers/story time animators and I'm so glad I found you ^w^ you inspired me to come out to my family and they accepted me

[@inkubusXOXO]

Your voice is super super soothing. I was feeling real bad because of dysphoria today, but after watching this video I feel better and don't feel alone anymore. You're so sweet, keep up the amazing work.

[@vikingcow2284]

People can be trans/nonbinary/whatever.. As long as they're happy and like, being good people I guess

[@RadPaxOfficial]

a good mentality :)

[@zachwright200]

Thank you Pax 😭 this video was amazing

[@plastic_phish]

Your videos are improving so much! Love you dude!

[@oatmealbeaver]

im gonna cry- a year and a half ago i joined your discord server and met my best friends. no damn clue where id be without the sauce server

[@UziDoorman000]

mtf trans, dysphoria and trying to stay cis is impossible, it's a different type of uncomfortableness and it's really strong, I can't do activities without dysphoria this pretty much helped, thank you

[@blakeelton6222]

YES I FINALLY MADE INTO HIS DISCORD >.

[@siastheyoutuber6893]

Another tip for asking for a binder:don’t phrase it as a chest compression thing. When I wore my binder with a button-up shirt in front of my family for the first time, they thought it was an undershirt/bra combo thing. Just phrase it as some new fashion trend(obviously this works better if they’re older), saying it’s a type of undershirt rather than a binder.

[@alexleverenz2050]

Do you have to be trans to have dysphoria? I want to know because my friend told me that I might have dysphoria, but it's not that I wasn't to be a boy, but just non-binary

[@dietblood9996]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't non binary trans?

[@RadPaxOfficial]

It is

[@alivinghumanbutisachair9115]

Expired Coupon If I’m right there’s gender dysphoria and as well as body dysmorphia. I’d recommend looking into the definitions and all that and see if you fit into one or the other and kinda try to just help yourself. A lot of the advice in this vid can just apply to people with body issues even if they aren’t trans or anything. I’m not trans but I struggle with body image and not looking ideal or anything. Good luck m8

[@alexleverenz2050]

@@RadPaxOfficial Goodness, I'm sorry! I'm not very educaded on these things.

[@reggina6297]

No you have to have dysphoria to be trans

[@mrchunk07]

This is literally the video I needed, especially when you started saying that we should do what makes us happy. I really needed to hear this. Thanks. - From a closeted Trans Guy :)

[@dazbrown1243]

Im non binary and when I look at my chest I feel terrible. In my school changing room we are all separated by gender but I go into the toilets because my anxiety is through the roof. This helped......thank you

[@Rin-wg5yh]

I just found this chanel today and in one episode fell in love with it! I don't know what I am and hearing someone go over something like this when it's not a general conversation in my family is really calming. Anyway, I really love hearing about something that's basically new to me. Hopefully all of the beautiful people out there in the world can find a way to be themselves and not care about what others think. Long rant later, bye!

[@NekoYuki]

I'm trans. I mostly deal with my dysphoria by using humor as a tool. Sometimes, you gotta laugh to keep from crying.

[@emmaschinzinger8335]

thank you so much for this, I love u sm. This is making me feel better and I always feel so alone but this helps.

[@codycampos8220]

On bad days I always come listen to this video, it helps. Some days more than others. But it always reminds me I’m not alone and the healthy ways to cope. Thank you 💙💖 💖💙

[@steamis6469]

I was completely haveing a huge disphoria freak out and this helped me a lot! Thank you so much!!!!

[@mme.veronica735]

That's why I ran back here too. Dysphoria is normally not a problem but shit it just hits me so hard sometimes Edit: Today it came again. Shit. And I'm in bed tucking, once again on the verge of tears... yay

[@crimsonpriestess]

I’m going through the same thing. Thanks for the vid.

[@V01X3]

Happy I found this video because today was rough for me in general. The biggest thing that I want to remind myself from this video is to do what makes you happy, because you matter. At the end of the day, your happiness is what matters the most so you won't be miserable, and live a sad life. (Kinda extreme with the way I worded it but there it is LOL) I tend to kinda let life just go by, and I give in to addictions (Primarily video games) To forget about life so I can move on to the next day, but I always end up being more miserable the day after. So, today i'm declaring that I will stop doing that and keep trying to push forward and do things to make me feel better, instead of not, and when I'm having a rough day, its fine to be upset! Just do whatever works to make myself feel better. Thanks for making me feel better with this fantastic video! It reminds me i'm not alone, even though at times it does feel like I am haha

[@turtlebugs2859]

I'm non binary and have been feeling so much dysphoria today and have been feeling like garbage from it. This really helped keep my mind off of it for a bit, so thanks.

[@zsuzsaw]

Thank you so much for making this. Im feeling super dysphoric today. This video made me feel a lot better 💙

[@wendycortes1337]

I’m not trans but my love and support goes out to them. I have a transgender friend and I still love him he means the world to me!!! And I wouldn’t want him to live his life with hatred towards himself. So, if your Trans or Non-binary just know that they’re are people out here that LOVE and SUPPORT you and we’ll be there for YOU no matter what. ❤️❤️ Love yourself And be who you wanna be 😊

[@adrienneczerni6516]

This advice is good for general body hate issues too, thanks this helped me cheer up

[@miahnon5732]

I needed this video. Thank you for making this video. ❤

[@gloookos]

You have such a wholesome way of speaking (content & voice) ^^ thank you so much for this video, I love it :)

[@pouterpigeon]

i'm not trans but i feel non-binary. i'm in the middle of middle school and i don't feel that comfortable being labeled as a female, but i'm still happy with my body (i honestly don't mind being called she/her at all, but i feel more at home being called they/them.) i experimented by going on a website and telling people my pronouns were they/them and i felt so refreshed. i'm also agender due to past experiences that i'm not going to say but i told my friends and they accept me and that's all i need in life, to be honest. i'm not telling my parents anytime soon because i have heard my father make sexist and homophobic comments before and my biggest fear in life is not being accepted. my mother on the other hand is accepting, and she even asked me if i was a lesbian one time, she has a huge mouth. if i told her she would tell everyone she knew in seconds and find some excuse to cover it up. something like "i know you told me not to tell anyone, but [name] is so close to family that i just had to tell her." that happened when i got my first period and i told her not to tell anyone, and i even said [name's] name specifically because my mom tells her every little thing about me. i haven't even met her and she knows everything.