Coming Out [StoryTime]

[@parkerxd9422]

Me: *trans man* My mom: shes a confused lesbian

[@ellietheunicorn7706]

Stay strong! some people just don't understand

[@parkerxd9422]

@@ellietheunicorn7706 i will i dont need my mom to understand i just need her to respect me and who i am

[@ellietheunicorn7706]

@@parkerxd9422 I get that I'm asexual and it took my friends a long time to get that I wasn't gay or aromantic and that I was different. What I'm saying is stay strong and don't let the haters get to you!

[@parkerxd9422]

@@ellietheunicorn7706 thank you i won't dont let anyone put you down either

[@elijahelkwood5459]

Me: a trans guy primarily attracted to guys Everyone: a confused lesbian!!

[@moon_thyme]

The saying you were talking about is "blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" meaning that the relationship with those you meet into friendship is stronger then the forced relationship with family

[@Vanlaltluanga-hu4ez]

*womb

[@moon_thyme]

Thanks man

[@eymerze8200]

he put in womb tho

[@r4ts_inh4ts]

I'm gonna go cry in 'scared to come out as pan to my brother being I'm scared he will make fun of me'

[@r4ts_inh4ts]

@@eymerze8200 They(not sure of pronouns) edited it

[@Gradus_Schrute]

One day we were having dinner and my parents mentioned me someday getting a boyfriend and i just said “or a girlfriend” and they just went with it lmao

[@RadPaxOfficial]

and that's how you handle it!!

[@peepeepoopoo4119]

My moms usually the one to add “or girlfriend” I think I accidentally came out to her as bi (even tho I’m a lesbian 😳 ) while I was rambling about something lmao

[@JGHFunRun]

PEEPEE Poopoo ok, that’s just funny.

[@maripaws]

dude epic

[@BeepBoy]

AYEE

[@StarSlayyer]

My mom won't let me come out to the rest of my family until *SHE* is comfortable. I'm turning 18 this year and I'm planning to try to move out and atleast get to another more accepting family members house.

[@boopboops22]

Good luck and just remember as long as you could love you deserve to be loved and seek out people who love you congratulations on being so close good luck and try to stay safe :)

[@StarSlayyer]

@@boopboops22 I'm on the verge of crying. I really needed this, thank you so much!!!💖

[@boopboops22]

@@StarSlayyer it is absolutely no problem as a human being you deserve love and you also deserve to give love try to hang on and not give up because there's so much possibility with your life and a lot of people you could affect positively if you continue giving love and receiving love. Good luck on your new Journey :)

[@StarSlayyer]

@@boopboops22 thank you!!💖💖💖 It's my supportive friends that truly keep me going! I hope you are doing absolute amazing and are able to express yourself💖 Stay safe yourself

[@StarSlayyer]

@Katelyn Lewis I've been trying to talk to her about it but she won't really let me talk much about it. She says the only reason she needs to be comfortable first is to 'back me up' When really she's the one putting me down. I'm comfortable in my sexuality and in my gender identity she just doesn't seem to think I can handle myself or want me to come out.

[@ittybittykibibyte]

"I cope things with laughterrr" Relatable

[@urgae9125]

Everyone when you start laughing in a bad situation: *death glare*

[@friedice420]

@@urgae9125 udk how many times that happened to me...srsly....I always laugh without intending to in a serious situation

[@reinnisun510]

same

[@masicbemester]

i mean, isn't that part of what Bo Burnham's Sad (what), Intro (Make Happy), and Comedy (Inside) are about

[@ittybittykibibyte]

@@masicbemester i have no idea what any of that means

[@ellietheunicorn7706]

My class is annoying and keep calling people "gay" as an insult and me being an Asexual girl wanted to stick up for my fellow LGBTQ+ Members when we did a a speech unit in ELA decided to make mine about asexuality and The LGBT community and why insults are bad 16 kids apologized to me for the insults It was like unbelievable I didn't expect those results....

[@boopboops22]

Good job, be safe :)

[@lemonadebi]

r/thathappened but also uh. asexuality isnt... its not lgbt...

[@nefstrider2179]

It is.

[@lemonadebi]

@@nefstrider2179 nope!

[@ellietheunicorn7706]

@@lemonadebi the extended lgbtqia is it shares the a with agender I did a lot of research look it up

[@prageruwu69]

you're awesome and valid, my guy keep being epic bro

[@therealmrmago9077]

@Person ya dude

[@cockyrudeselfishloudgirlyg2852]

Hell yea man

[@jadeuwu9860]

"Ew don't look at me" -some girl *"I'm a lesbian doesn't mean that I don't have any standards"*

[@akouio]

Yes! I have short hair, and so people assume that I am a lesbian, and girls at my school ask me if I am a lesbian, and then I tell them "no", and I can tell that they still think I am one and they judge me for it :,D

[@iwashere6599]

My sister came out as a member of the LGBTQ+ community and my mom kicked her out of the house. She is currently living in a friends house. I was born a girl but I truly believe I'm a boy so now I'm kinda scared that my mom will find me out and try to kick me out of her house. I'm waiting till I turn eighteen and have enough money for a small place to live but I'm still really scared. Just a couple more years and I'll be free.

[@ReesesBees]

you got this. i wish you good luck!

[@SnowLily06]

Goodluck I wish the best for you

[@charlesstaggs6751]

We accept you no matter what love and nice Drawing

[@abovetheclouds8619]

periodt 💅🏽

[@ArtsySpinch]

I just want to make sure, what are your pronouns? I'm terrible with remembering things like that. I've just come out as a trans boy, and I'd want other people to make sure they know my pronouns.

[@RadPaxOfficial]

he/him please :D

[@ArtsySpinch]

@@RadPaxOfficial Thanks, just wanted to get it right😊

[@boopboops22]

Congratulations on coming out

[@ArtsySpinch]

@@boopboops22 Thanks! That means a lot

[@XwX1001]

God I wish I had the courage to ask this question to others... No joke, dead serious.

[@royalproductions8704]

"Blood is thicker than water" that was first said in 1903 I think by Kasier Wilhem II of Germany, the reason for this quote was becouse his mother was british and his father was german and becouse he was german and had a deficient left arm, Wilhelm felt and did felt that wasn't accepted in the family (the Saxe-Coubough Gota family wich btw Queen Elizabeth II is descendent). Every time he tried to approach his british and russian cousins just to meet up or to make a treaty, he was always misunderstood (but don't think Wilhem was like the best, he didn't like jews and was a bit of absolute ruler).

[@thewitheredsouls]

Ah, one thing I could find about a switched meaning was that it comes from "blood is thicker than milk" - milk referring to a mothers milk and blood to a string bond between people (not necessarily romantic ) . That apparently cane from the Arabic language. Maybe it's both phrases kinda melting into a new one?

[@ComfortZoneArtZ]

Me:I'm a tomboy Me: I'm lesbian Me:I'm bi Me:I'm pan Me: I'm pan and non binary Me:I'm pan and trans Also me : I'm an it

[@dice6719]

This, this right here, is so LOUD. I'm so confused....haaaalp

[@starycat7086]

Im pan and trans

[@yeeeoonnjuuuuuu]

fyi non-binary is considered trans too !!

[@jassie5126]

i’m pansexual and non-binary-

[@discringydude7698]

I’m bi and trying to figure out if I’m asexual.

[@julianbabz1654]

I've told my family that I'm bisexual and trans-male and OH BOY did I get my feelings hurt but I don't bring it up anymore, thankfully my friends except me úwù

[@boopboops22]

As long as you treat others kindly make sure that you are getting the love that you deserve back even if you're just surrounding yourself with people that love you as who you want to be :)

[@emmu4095]

friendship

[@bingus6249]

That's good. Surround yourself with people who are accepting

[@XwX1001]

Cheesy phrase, but as they say, "Friends are the family you can choose." Take care of yourself.

[@otakuattackcosplays1778]

Julian Babz1 I'm a trans, pan guy. My friends got me through the entire thing.

[@creampuffs1176]

Came at the speed of gay

[@DussyBestroyer69]

Be careful man. The roads are icey. You might just half to lower your walking speed of a hetero/cis person

[@boopboops22]

I have arrived to this comment at the speed of pan

[@rainfeather4313]

🎶 they call me mr Never late, traveling at the speed of gay I wanna makeasupersonic manouta you! So don’t stop me nooow 🎶

[@boopboops22]

@@rainfeather4313 🎶I'm haveing a gay🎶

[@rainfeather4313]

🎶 yah I’m having a biii 🎶

[@morpology]

im a trans man i neever thought i was a lesbian i thought WORSE *i thought i was a tom boy* 🤮

[@RadPaxOfficial]

the trans man journey "oh she's just a tom boy haha" meanwhile "i am.. boy....."

[@izzybzzydorkp568]

Is that really the worse one *mumbles in tomboy* As I should probably not say that as I'm not trans (got nearly mistaked by my mom once but yeah no). But just felt I needed to type it bye. *scuries off akwardly*

[@redsound9333]

Obama Mama Text Support when I was younger I thought I was a tomboy too, turns out I’m just a boy lol

[@presqueviolettepotter5531]

Oh, there's the tomboy squad

[@kojishere1826]

@@RadPaxOfficial I used to never like skirts and i now know why- bEcAuSe iM nOn bInaRy- hAhA

[@Br44n5m]

I find it highly amusing that, believing you to be a lesbian, classmates never bugged you in the locker room with the “ew don’t look at me” Yet They poked me about it constantly before I even knew I was bi. Word works in funny ways!

[@RadPaxOfficial]

I was very rarely picked on. It probably helped we only changed vs showered together. I'm sure if that was the case it'd cause a lot of weirdness. but generally I stuck to my corner and was left alone and just hung out with friends.

[@ratboy2]

I kinda wonder if people in the lockers generally know. I'm open about it if something is brought up (bisexual), but I didn't tell all of my PE class or anything lol

[@planetmars8627]

I was just kinda in the closet, then called gay, even though I’m a transbian, and like, my cousin can give advice, because she’s a cis lesbian.

[@planetmars8627]

I was outed repeatedly

[@planetmars8627]

I was called labels I don’t like

[@Sinclaire-]

I relate to part of your story alot. I'm pretty sure I'm FTM (definitely not Cis tho). And I've always loved masculine and feminine things. I also look pretty androgynous but, my hips and chest take that away. I thought I was just weird for the longest time but with internet and all that I learned about all this. And I realized " I'm... Not cis." I already knew I wasn't straight,but gender was uncertain. And it still is, but I'm not trying to force a label on myself. Only for it to not fit me later. I have changed my pronouns and name though which feels more... Right is the only way to say it. Sorry for just rambling alot. I just relate to this alot and I couldn't help but comment

[@boopboops22]

You don't ever have to think about what labels are needed for yourself currently or in the future love yourself or you you are now and how you can treat people and if you come across yourself along the way take the time to appreciate yourself :)

[@XwX1001]

Don't worry, fam! You good! Take care of yourself, okay? UvU

[@emmu4095]

I'm ace, i technically haven't "come out" as ace as i have no need, that fact about me was brought up infront on my mum and she literally didn't care, and i have more lgbt friends than non lgbt (they all know) and my non lgbt friends also don't care so guess i'm just lucky no one cares about my sexuality, i'm just glad they acknowledge it is one lmao

[@boopboops22]

As long as you learn to be happy with yourself and love others you also deserve to be loved and seek out those who love you and are comfortable with your sexuality :)

[@emmu4095]

@@boopboops22 very true, I'm glad I am in a good place with people who love me and I'm glad I'm able to be comfortable with myself

[@emmu4095]

@nice try167 name checks out

[@emmu4095]

@nice try167 hm? I have a blacklist now? Sorry I was too busy laughing over how you feel you need to comment that bullshit to notice

[@emmu4095]

@nice try167 oh btw have a nice day, as much fun it is to get into arguments let's just be chill and go on with our day

[@achluoph7263]

The ending made me cry... Thanks Pax.. i really appreciate it..

[@Chris_Tootoo]

I’m not sure if it’s just me but I hear in your voice more ’confidence’ if that makes any sense, like your more comfortable with speaking about your issues and helping other with theirs. And if that’s the case I’m really proud in what you’ve been doing.

[@StaileyGoodworth]

Me: *trans* Also me: *pan* Also also me: *asexual* Also also also me: I hate children My mother: *thinks I am a lesbian* My dad: well um idk but want to go hunting Me: ..... My gay cousin: want to play Pokemon Go with me. Me: * thinking * (I am so confused)

[@starbitstorm3951]

Y E S

[@Sparklzzcos]

Why the fuck are we the same??? I’m gender-fluid, pan, and ace 0:< Edit: not meant in a mean way lol, I just saw that it might come off like that

[@thatoneanimefan2740]

It’s confusing 😪

[@percival7532]

ooh, nice. percival is also transmasculine and a panace space fan with no panache! he's also not exactly on the whole binary gender thing, but it'd be easier for him to present as masc, probably.

[@emmu4095]

so you panromantic?

[@idkwhattoputhere5578]

My mom: family should always be a priority! Me: is trans Mom: screeches She wants me to live with her a little in my adult life so we can get a nice house, lmao I love her and I’ll help her with stuff but I’m out asap, if she disowns me she disowns me. I gotta live my life either way. Edit: I edited out a part that I don’t agree with anymore

[@Ocelot_Growl]

Why would you have to pay your parents for raising you?!

[@idkwhattoputhere5578]

@@Ocelot_Growl when I made this comment I felt I owed my parents for being a burden by existing. I’ll edit the comment :)

[@Ocelot_Growl]

@@idkwhattoputhere5578 yeah tbh paying your parents for raising you kinda sounds wrong in some way

[@DraggingBallZ]

W o o f that mention of being androgynous and childhood trauma hit hard for me. Although now I mostly want to look more like 'cute twink' but I feel the need to look more masc since I don't want people to see me as a femm woman. Ahh one day

[@markushansen7944]

I feel so bad for those how get bullied. I’m trans FTM and I was very lucky like my family support me and friends and the people at my school really don’t care 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🍀

[@notadifferentname]

Yes I'm bi and I love this so...yeah

[@bingus6249]

15:39 I got extremely emotional over this part. Pax,thank you. I've been on this channel for a while now and you've actually helped me find out my gender(non-binary). Sometimes it feels like the internet is more supportive than our families.

[@lordmegatrondoesntdodarken5852]

*gently intakes oxygen * I came out as pansexual to my mother five years ago. I was constantly bullied and threatened at school, and when my mom said I'd have a husband, I broke down. I told her I was pan. She said I was bi, because obviously she knows more than me even though she's straight.... The next year, I tried to tell her I'm trans. I tried to come to her because I wanted to end myself and in my moment of weakness, my mother rejected me... She yelled at me and took away my tablet and internet. She yelled at my sister too, because she actually stood up for me. My sister is ace-aero and I support her. My mother still doesn't accept her and never will. She has an easy route of escape though. She is a senior in highschool, and she plans on getting crazy during college and I'm supporting her through it! Your story really speaks to me, because we have a similar situation. My dad is trying but, it still hurts because he's using she/her pronouns and I've asked him to change... He refuses to until I'm around 28. He won't accept me because apparently, it's a phase..... The only reason he listened is because he was losing me for God -knows how long. I was in the hospital because I wanted to unalive myself. I came out to my dad and my grandparents. So far, my grandparents and siblings are the only ones who accept me. They know my actual name and call me it as frequently as possible. They realized that I was being true. Hearing someone like you say that you accept me, it makes me feel a little better. I still feel like I belong somewhere besides my gay friend's arms. If you've gotten this far, thanks. 🌈❤

[@mindymoonalle9930]

I love it when people share their own stories about this kind of topic, and it's very insightful to those who may not know a lot about it.

[@batkruff1083]

yo bro i went like this me grade 5: i think im bi me again: im gay me again: asexual (or aromantic dont remember?) me again: nah im gay me again: haha im pansexual me again: AHAH WHATS HAPPENING. ME AFTER ALL THAT BS: im trans. me AGAIN: im bi and trans me FINALLY: mm im pansexual and trans.

[@justmaniacal1650]

Honestly my family arent against anyone thats lgbtq+ (hope i said that right, sorry) But im so afraid of talking to them, i was born a girl, but i dont like being a girl. But i dont want to be a boy either, and i think im pan. But idk anything, i have long hair, but i want it short, i wanna get a job and study art, and maybe change my body to what i want it to be. But im too young, too afraid, and so confused... Idk what to do... I wanna be non-binary, I dont wanna have boobies >:0 I dont wanna be called a girl, or a boy, I dont want people to think Im straight, cause Im not I swear. I do wanna have answers to myself, but, how?

[@klaradelia]

I can rEALLy relate My family isn't downright homophobic, and they're chill with the lgbt community but I don't know how they'd feel if I wanted to identify as non-binary, and I don't know how to come out and talk about it to them. I'm still growing and discovering who I am but aaaaa it's all really confusing :")

[@confused_lost_introvert1725]

Hey your not alone, pretty much on the same boat here... Nice to see we’re not alone♡

[@kojishere1826]

non binary squadd-

[@withering_rose_thorne]

Pax: *talking about moving out if you feel unsafe when coming out to your family* Me: Well I'm only 12 years old. I can't move in with my friends. I've came out to my mom because I thought maybe she would accept me and let me get a binder and a haircut. She claimed she accepted me yet she wont use my name nor my pronouns and called me crazy for asking for a binder. I'm scared to come out to my grandparents because they're extremely toxic and emotionally/verbally abuse me, and i live with them. I'm gonna wait until i get a job and I'm going to buy myself a binder but for now, I go by ash and i wear my uncles clothes or my grandfather's. I came out to my biological father and he was really accepting, but my mother doesnt approve of us talking due to what he's done in the past. I'm willing to give him a second chance though. He's given me someone to talk to. I love him. But he's like 5 hours away and I'm not gonna be able to meet him until I get my license and a car. I'm hoping to move in with him one day or at least be able to see him and my half brothers. I might text him tonight. My aunt's bf is another person i really trust that i can talk to. I'm planning on getting a job at a Dairy Queen when I turn 14. A little more than a year to go. Edit: It's currently October 25th 2020. My birthday is February 6th. It won't take long.

[@Milo-hp9fw]

I'm 13 as of replying. Almost exact same situation. I hope you are in a good place now :) -Myles, he/him

[@Vampiric_Goblin]

Never came out to my dad because he's not the person to come out to.......he doesn't speak to me (not sure why not sure why it even hurts he doesn't) I'm even with the most beautiful trans woman alive and I know if I'm ever near him we're both wandering Narnia being shoved back in the closet so hard T^T my mom is........ slightly better but only because she tries to my face *sigh*

[@NOAHSTIRED]

Idk why but when you brought up big ol' tibbies I remembered when I was like 9-10 I had big tibbies...

[@RadPaxOfficial]

dang tig ol bitties

[@jellowie9537]

Rad: If ur trans, you know it has different stages, its not just "Oh I was trans the entire time!" Me, a trans they/them: (figured it out in the span of like an hour) *m h m i n t e r e s t i n g.*

[@shakeymistakey3881]

I love how soft and gentle Pax’s voice is

[@yumciez]

I dont mean to be that straight forward but.. 𝗜 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂. I love your being and energy 🥺

[@psalmsart]

Your videos are so soothing 💞 Although I'm not a part of the LGBT+ community, I think that it is so important to support those that are in the community and to love and accept them because we could all give a little more kindness 💗

[@ellietheunicorn7706]

Good for you my friend make sure to keep that good mindset in the future

[@XwX1001]

WOO! YEAH MY GUY! Same here! Have a lovely day! :D

[@confused_lost_introvert1725]

Thanks buddy 💕💞❤️

[@chewy1921]

RadPax throws shade at his family the movie

[@smurfius2001]

You: “Subscribbles!” Me: *DIES*

[@Ar_gyle]

I came out to my parents recently as a bi-ace, but they told me its a phase and that "I'm too young" to like people of the same gender (Keep in mind I'm 13). They also said I'm "going against nature". I'm really starting to question whether my sexuality is a phase or not? Are my parents being homophobic in a way?? My parent's accept people from the lgbtq+ community, but for some reason they don't accept me, their own friggin child... (My friendos are supportive though and don't invalidate my feelings, so thats good). Its like I'm coming out of the closet and being shoved back in ;w; Any advice?

[@finch8703]

Maybe try and tell them that other animals (not people) can also like the same gender so it isn't going against nature. Also, it's completely fine if it does happen to be a phase! I went from being lesbian, to panromantic, to biromantic, to lesbian, to homoromantic, etc. Experimenting with labels is completely fine. And you don't even have to label yourself if you don't want.

[@Ar_gyle]

@@finch8703 Tysmm uWu

[@olgarodriguez4622]

Omg listen I'm not trans but seeing all these comments makes me so happy.

[@QueenClaireVT]

The first person I came out to as trans was my mom, I was terrified and prepared for the worst. It didn't even phase her, she held me and told me "You'll always be my child and I'll always love you." I was a mess at that point, I've only come out to a few people and I figured she'd be the hardest one to talk to. It was a pleasant surprise

[@thegoodwitchluzura]

Same reaction as my mom. I also was a wreck because I thought that since the country I live in (the Philippines) was super homophobic and transphobic, that she would be too.

[@nvth4n]

Omg my mother had almost the same exact reaction except she didn’t mention men hurting her

[@dewdrop101]

Hey, I just wanted to share my story as I listen to this calming video. I hope you don’t mind. I’m not part of the lgbtq+ community, but I’ve had trouble with accepting myself because a lot of people I grew up with were very stereotypical and close-minded. When I started to be less shy, become so much more comfortable in my own skin by being a tomboy, and be a total introvert with a passion for writing, I was always being stared at like a freak. I still am sometimes. But I know now that I can wear that title like a king’s crown. At least I’m not a homophobic idiot who thinks that everyone needs to follow these things called gender roles just because society said so. I went through a period in my life where all I could think was: *who the heck am I? what am I? why do I hate what I see in the mirror?! WHY!?* Now, I know who I am. *I am a child of God. I am a writer. I am a friend. I am me.* Now, I know what I am. *I am a human being, just like everyone else here, and I deserve to be treated like one.* Now, I know where I stand. *I stand with you.. with all of you. All of you have stories and hopes and dreams and passions and talents... and I’m here, existing alongside all of you.* This is who I am, and I couldn’t be prouder.

[@blueberrymuffin_144]

aw :')

[@chomeo6797]

DewdropKitten heck yeah! Go get your goals

[@arrowhead8856]

Is Zack a good name for a trans dude? I'm trying to find a name for myself.

[@orangefiftyfive7965]

Zack sounds cool 😎

[@boopboops22]

Zack sounds nice a little tip if you go to a Starbucks or a place similar try using the name and see how you feel when they call your name :)

[@mme.veronica735]

Well Zack, do you like the name? Because it only matters what you think Zack

[@Mrblueskyyy33]

I think it’s a great name! It was actually the first name I chose for myself haha. If you feel comfortable using the name, then any name is great, Zack!

[@XwX1001]

Yeah, my dude! That's actually the name of a friend of mine, so maybe I'm a LITTLE biased towards another awesome person having that awesome name, but I dunno. Go for it! C:

[@squidfanatic2831]

Me: I'm not a trans woman! I'm just gay! Also me: _attracted to boys and girls_ Also also me: Ok, I'm just Bi. *_feel happy when called by female pronouns_*

[@eriberrybean]

Ngl cried watchin this (been tryin to figure out gender for 4 years, needed to hear a lot of this). Thank u for sharin this with us dude

[@charliechan446]

Thanks for this video. it helped me a lot, and thanks to it, i started writing my come out letter to my family... Thank you so much for everything you do

[@kimberlysnowyowl7871]

A friend of mine is coming out right now... He just told it to his sister who just accepted him as her brother and I am so proud of him. He is planning to tell his parents soon and I am totally rooting for him.

[@niccalove23]

You are so cute, I love your videos and you, you are a very special person and I am so happy that you're making videos again and I just came to terms that I a 37 year old like both males and females but I rather be with a male (mind you telling my friends or family was hard for me) one of my friends that passed away last year would flirt and just made me feel wierd lol she liked me I guess (not guess she did like me) I loved her so much but so scared to let her know how i truly felt, so before she died I somewhat told her but I still can't believe she liked me like that, my family say they know and joke while I am dying inside and my friends that know loves me to death and tries to keep my spirits up and i love them to death. Thank you for this Pax

[@boopboops22]

Going through a friends death can be very hard but you should know that you truly deserve love and that it's okay to continue loving that person and it's okay to take your time with grief continue to love others allow yourself to be loved and hopefully you can work up to expressing how you feel about people and I'm sure that if you surround yourself with the right people they will be more than happy to hear your opinion and take better care of you just make sure you take care of them :)

[@dysphoric_god7737]

ur videos r so calming n honestly bring me down from anxiety attacks better than anything else (esp the ones caused by dysphoria)

[@avvrgtpg]

me: comes out as a trans guy friends: that was expected teachers: I am not surprised people who barely know me: you finally made it make sense my family: *sUrpERizzzEd pIkAChU fAccccCe*

[@ghostrosie175]

Pax I just really need to thank you for this. Thank you for telling me that it’s ok to not know right now. I needed that, more than I thought. I admire you so much for being who you are and for doing what you love, even after everything you’ve been through. Thank you. :)

[@Midnight_Boulevard]

im a demiboy

[@sambuschur7570]

I came out to family 3 years ago, im almost 16 now. the first person i came out too, was my dad, hes didnt understand it, he didnt want to.. but i kept giving information, giving and giving and giving. He finally understood it a little, he got me a binder after he did his own research and asked doctors if it was safe. then my grandma found out i was trans (she's religious, which, mind you, i have NO ISSUE WITH RELIGIOUS PEOPLE unless they use it to justify being a piece of shit) and she told my dad that he would "be a horrible parent if you let HER do anything to HER body. thats unnatural." And i told her off and im now going to be starting T soon

[@wintershock]

So, I’m a trans guy who’s still in the closet. My dad once said to me “I’ll support you no matter what you decide to do with your life” so I probably will come out to him. My mom on the other hand may or may not be transphobic so uh.

[@violettejoyeux2709]

i love your vids this one made me feel so safe and so happy thank you so much

[@RadPaxOfficial]

Glad I could help!

[@FloofDog]

(Trigger warning???) I’m not doing well mentally due to my dysphoria but my dad is homophobic, transphobic, racist, sexist and all..he hates and wants to blow everyone who isn’t perfect to him up! He scares me at times and he hates that his “daughter” crossdresses.. I try my best to get men’s clothes and stuff. I have some trousers and quite a few shirts and some shoes but.. I still have to wear a bra and girls underwear and socks.. and have to have longer hair.. it really sucks and I cry and my irl friends a a bit worried about me due to it.. I’ve started cutting again too.. I really don’t know what to do since it’s way too unsafe for me.. I’m scared to come out to mum in case she does tell dad too.. I really really really hate myself atm.. I wish I was born in the right body.. not the wrong one.. Thanks for reading.. - JJ

[@boopboops22]

You seem like the type of person to give love to others as long as you do that you deserve to seek out those who love you dysphoria can be hard and things can really hurt and listening to those around you can seriously change you but please remember that you are a complete life you are a human can you have much potential you have to learn to surround yourself even if it can be hard and someday I hope full heartedly that you can work up 2 a point where possibly you can feel comfortable just knowing that your identity is feeling comfortable with yourself. Doing self-harm is something that is very hard to get out of but please don't give up on life because you have much potential to give to others if you just give it some time and trying to be better with yourself it may take years it may take months just please don't give up do it for the people who love you or the people you love. It's okay to be scared just try your best it may not be okay and that's not all right if you are in danger just hang on and find all the energy you can to work up to making yourself better

[@Mrblueskyyy33]

Oh I’m really sorry to hear you’re going through that! I know it may be hard right now, but I hope that one day soon you can have short hair and all that. Just remember that you are still male, even if others say you’re not.

[@tafferine388]

Look at “long” short haircuts and see if any could maybe fit with your style ): that’s disgusting that’s happening to you. You’ll get out of it though. (Short bobbed mullets are getting fairly popular rn) .

[@Deeegenerate]

Unrelated, but the music in the backround suprised the heck out of me cause I love Life is Strange so much and I just didn't expect to hear it here

[@Endyunderscore]

Your words are so suportive and i love liscening to your stories

[@stormyasher]

Me: i'm bisexual Also me: i'm lesbian Also also me: yep, I’m pansexual Me now: i'm a trans and pans guy I felt this video so much, it’s hard to come out, yes. My mom is supportive about it and she calls me "he/him", my sister doesn’t care about my gender and keep calling me "she/her" but i mean, i only care about my mom's support. I’ve been watching your videos a lot, you really helped me out, when i was feeling down because i of my family, personal o my dysphoria issues you helped me out of that. Thank you a lot.💖💙✨

[@boopboops22]

As long as you love others continue 2 love yourself so one day you can continue and can possibly be an inspiration for someone else like they are to You :)

[@t.u._1818]

(Looks at the flags in thumbnail) I’m all of that in a bag of chips

[@quertelz_pastelz1277]

Happy Pride Month RadPax!!! I hope you have a good day/night!!!

[@leefs2.onotdisclosed987]

This might just be my favorite chanel, your videos help me, they calm me, I love the soft music. Youre also a great artist. Have a nice day.

[@ashleyt1723]

Thank you for making this video,you really are a big inspiration for me to come out

[@RadPaxOfficial]

You can do it!

[@ashleyt1723]

@@RadPaxOfficial it's just I don't think I'm ready,my whole family is homophobic and I don't have my friends to comfort me.

[@glitchedrose5427]

(hi this is me out of character ignore my user-) The other week I came out to my friend as Bi, which was difficult, since I didn't want them thinking I had a crush on them or anything, but they ended up coming out to me as non-binary, so that was awesome. I totally didn't cry- They even gave me a great idea for coming out to my parents, since we joke around in my household a lot. One day when I get the chance, i'm going to hide little Bisexual pride flags all over the place (and pray my parents know what they mean-) All I have to do is save up some money and have my *supportive* grandma take me to the mall- I would just say "grandma" but one of them is just- no- so uh heheh- So theres my little life story, thanks for not getting bored :D

[@maialenparker5404]

This video felt like a warm hug :,)

[@user-ih3hw8bj5e]

I think the quote you meant is *Blood doesn't identity/define family* Something like that

[@trixxartarchive7705]

Yeah my friends are amazing and they never judge me for who I am wich I really respect them for that.

[@ObscuriaDragunAed]

When I was younger I used to joke about being a lesbian trapped in a man's body... Just about to hit midlife crisis and I realize that wasn't actually a joke. Completely understand how confusing that stuff is because I've got this society programmed side that says "If you like women, then why change?"... Thankfully I've an answer that my wife helped me with "Because you are you and I've always loved the woman in you. You should too. "... Love you Lillia.

[@Kotifilosofi]

I'm kinda frustrated by my situation. I'm not out to anyone irl (aroace & questioning nb), and I feel like my parents would be supportive, but I'm just such an coward. Also, I've moved out so I can live independently and there's not enough pressure to come out. I'm also not very good at making friends with people, I feel like I don't trust anyone much enough to tell about such a personal thing. It distresses me to be completely closeted about everything, but it's even more distressing to think about coming out. I also feel overwhelmed by trying to find a good therapist I can trust. It's like whatever choice I made, I can't win. And I feel like this situation has been going on for way too long for me and it really have started to isolate me socially. Apologizes for the rant ^^' I wish you have a better day :D

[@masicbemester]

I'm a pan (or likely poly or omni) demiboy in a straight relationship, so I look like a cis straight dude on the surface. I came out last year and my family is pretty progressive and supportive. They didn't care that much about me coming out because my two older brothers are gay and pan respectively. We don't disrespect others on gender or orientation. Basically my privilege makes me look more like an ally than a member of the community. I'm grateful for the people around me since the only thing I've been ever bullied for was being autistic and even then, I was lucky to have my older sister defend me in elementary. My girlfriend wasn't so lucky because her school was a nightmare. We started our relationship almost two years ago, a month before the pandemic was declared.

[@System_Spark]

I can’t pin point when I came out. But I can pin point when it hit me. Granted, it wasn’t a sudden wave of acceptance, but I remember being 16, watching a tv show (yes, I know, cliche) with a trans character and they addressed dysphoria and how to cope over a few episodes. After about five episodes focusing on that character, it smacked me in the face. And then the spiral of denial and self hatred began. And it was INTENSE. I had nightmares with certain parts of me in searing pain, fell into an episode of psychosis (I already had a history with it in childhood), and before I even had the chance to accept myself, I heard my step dad say some pretty horrific things about a trans woman on some drama reality callout style show (like Springer or something). I locked it in a box until I was 18 and went through some traumatic events. It turned into overcorrection and being super masculine, which just isn’t me, I’m more of an androgynous kind of guy. One friend was up to date every second of the way, despite neither of us knowing what the hell was going on. Slowly, I came out to my boyfriend, then a cousin, and eventually my mom. I actually don’t know who all knows anymore, but have gotten to the point that I’m Jayden now and if I find out that someone in my family wasn’t aware, I’d just let them know. My family has never been super kind to me, my mom is trying to accept it and my siblings were accepting when I came out to them, but everyone else...sorry, but you already made the choice to abandon me when I was a child, I really don’t need your approval as an adult, so accept it or leave :)

[@cole.q7938]

"I thought my mom would accept me more" *I felt that.*

[@sonnysama16]

Coming out as trans is terrifying. Coming from experience, I'm actually not trans but genderfluid, but have two trans kids and a kid who is genderfluid. Coming out as trans is terrifying and can lead to parents treating you like shit for being the opposite gender. Well, me being genderfluid and coming out to my parents and saying I'm not only pansexual/polygamous but also genderfluid, that lead to even worse treatment than I had before. Granted, I tried telling a friend I had who is a trans woman, but she ended up just saying I wasn't actually genderfluid because I had a preferred pronoun, even going as far as to say "You're either a man or a woman, no exceptions", which to this day still pisses me off. For those who don't know, genderfluid doesn't mean you're nonbinary. It means your gender fluctuates based on how you feel, hence the word "genderfluid". Being genderfluid can also be confusing considering I look like a boy but at times sound like a woman (my voice is very low pitched for a woman) and the only thing separating me from a man is giant titties, which I don't like having (more because I find them inconvenient). At times I'll want to identify as a man and at times I want to identify as they/them, but for convenience's sake, I identify as a woman. In short of my ramblings, I know how it feels to be rejected the way a trans person would, even though I'm not trans.

[@althepal234]

This makes me feel very grateful for my family mostly accepting me.

[@altheasiebert9389]

Thank you for making this video❤️

[@abeltrame0000]

Every other trans person: waiting to come out to their families/friends Me: waiting to come out to myself

[@shiboumurasako8421]

FELT

[@abeltrame0000]

@@shiboumurasako8421 Update, I finally did! :D I also came out to my two closest friends and have started seeing a therapist. Take your time, it'll be worth it in the end 💪🏻

[@vincentconklin6580]

Honestly, I have came out to a few people, 2 friends and my girlfriend. Its something I'm not going to tell my family. I'm trans and proud. But my family aren't going to understand... I'm planning on making the full change but health risks haunt me. So basically of my weak heart screws me over. I'm never telling my mother, she refuses to support me of anything. My dad I'll tell him after I find out if I can safely undergo the treatment. Thank you for being a inspiration for me. You make me feel less alone. Thank you so much for being here, thank you for sharing. You have helped me through a lot. Stay you, stay gold

[@boopboops22]

Take care of yourself and take care of your friends and the people who love you choose your family and feel free To Love Yourself don't let your dysphoria be the end because one day you might be able to become an inspiration like them even if it's one person that's an entire person and even if it's yourself that's an ENTIRE LIFE :)

[@vincentconklin6580]

@@boopboops22 I'm a believer in a old saying, it goes like this. One word can change someone's day, one sentence can change someone's life. Iv met some truly amazing people. Iv lost good people. But there is always a flip side to everything, good or bad. The people that know support me and love me for me. My girlfriend, hehe, she is too supportive. She always makes sure I'm smiling. Shes amazing and I'm grateful I have her. It's a journey in itself to just exist. Finding yourself, well that's a quest. Even if my health condition stops me from doing the treatment, I'm still going to smile, joke around, and be me. I just hafto make changes at that point. But I know the people that truly care about me will still support me. I'm lucky, no way around it. For once I have good luck.

[@boopboops22]

@@vincentconklin6580 thank you for the story take good care of the people around you and learn to take care of yourself because you deserve the love as long as you give love

[@vincentconklin6580]

@@boopboops22 it doesn't always feel that way.

[@boopboops22]

@@vincentconklin6580 just try to hang on and hopefully one day you might find a place for yourself and think about yourself and positive manner for now see your worth from the people who are close to you :) Sorry if I'm being rude :

[@llamasandpenguinsforever7325]

The thing about friends being more important than family because you need people who are excepting of you is nice but my family would be completely fine if I told them that I was gay or trans or something else that’s part of the LGBTQ+ community and honestly some of my friends might not!

[@ItsAceXD]

me: *fighting with mother about being nonbinary for a full year* mom: "YOU LIKED GUYS IN *PRIMARY* SCHOOL" me: "I- fiRST oF aLL, that was FIRST GRADE siuehrueshiurhesr sECOND, sExuaLIty dOESnt dETermiNE geNDEr iDEnTiTy????//" still here lmao

[@friedice420]

U didn't have a good family or a good childhood? Omgg tha like the saddest thing 🥺🥺, if I were in ur shoes I wouldve mostly been severely depressed...u r really strong and u deserve a heck lot of support...stay safe u r amazing❤️❤️

[@-rorozen-1812]

When I saw The cover of this I just started drawing in my sketch book. I love this Story I would listen to this to go to bed

[@-rorozen-1812]

I can relate to this a lot

[@1wolftank]

I'm gonna die confused and alone and scared

[@N3k0Y0m1]

I remember watching half of your trans video.. And seeing this makes me glad you're happy, I'm glad you figured out who you are, glad your still doing the things you love (like.. Art). And you kinda inspire me to draw a little.. Your art is pretty good. I love your art and I love you being yourself. :0>

[@user-ot7ml6fz6k]

My weirdest life experience has been middle school to mid high school, because I went from being a lesbian to a trans gay man lol, and while it was a really emotional confusing time, I wouldn’t be me without it, to all the the baby trans and gays: Realize you don’t owe anyone anything, it takes time to figure everything out, there will Always be people that don’t get it and hate, while yes that’s hard to deal with, just keep existing because you are a beautiful human and the only you in existence, people out there do love you, so keep existing for yourself 🖤

[@cole.q7938]

broo i relate to the parents reaction so much-

[@dannirobinson3782]

Ive been told I have a ridiculously long title, here it is: Demihomoromantic asexual I dont think its that ridiculous

[@otakuattackcosplays1778]

Swiss Cheese I think that title is cool.

[@petrfedor1851]

I am a bit confused about meaning tbh.

[@boopboops22]

It's nice:)

[@gemworm]

Petr Fedor I’m PRETTY sure (OP clarify if I’m wrong) that demihomoromantic means they like people of the same gender to them but only once they have a friendship in place first, and don’t feel sexual attraction

[@petrfedor1851]

@@gemworm Thanks, IT was helpfull :)

[@leroachartistok3593]

U CAN BE WHO U WANT KISS WHOEVER U WANT U MATTER🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋

[@human_person6318]

Unless they don't want you to kiss them..

[@aiai_uiui]

Omg, so this is where "that's just Pax" came from, I was looking for this and had no idea I would find it now

[@ShibeDogetic]

i came out to my best friend while listening to this video i don't know if it just made me want to come out, or if what you said mattered any, but i did after a couple years of this i finally just did it

[@ashers.hangout]

I tried really hard to get my mum to understand I'm not her daughter, I'm her son but she just refuses. She says she accepts me and will call me what I like but she doesn't, she gossips to the church she is in thinking they will agree with her, I don't know if they do. She gets really mad at the facts that I'm lgbt and I don't follow the religion she does but I can only put up with it because I'm under 18. I'm really happy I found your channel though! Your art is amazing!

[@somethingelse5545]

My eyes started to water🥺😣❤❤❤

[@marshallbrereton9825]

I totally understand when you said that your mom accepts your trans friend but not you because I have a trans cousin and my mom is fully accepting of him but not me? It's soo confusing

[@niccalove23]

She accepts him because he isn't her child and she can't see understand or want to understand why you are who you are so she's going to accept someone else she loves you but she's not ready to accept her reality, sorry sometimes I type or speak without thinking

[@b1acksol]

I’m a non-binary and my parents suspect that I’m fully feminine but really I’m just trying to make them happy so if I come out they’ll think I’m just going through a phase when I’m really not Help

[@goblinqueen2813]

One thing my father told me when i came out as bisexual was 'I just want you to be strong and happy! So nobody can step on you. Of course I still love you.' He's also the one that reminds me to take care of myself like 'brush your teeth or no one will talk to you or kiss you'.

[@irmatrubura4620]

I came out to my mom as Demisexual (since that's the only part of my identity I'm sure of) in a normal conversation. I think coming out in normal conversations is a family thing. To my dad I came out with a drawing of a psyduck holding the demisexual pride flag.

[@PurpleLover101]

First video I've seen from ya and now I'm definitely subscribing!

[@oyaoyasimpoyaoyaoya5254]

for real when you said that "if you are journey right now an you`re like mabye i´m trans mabye i`m not and thats fine" littarly hit so close to home soi started to cry becuse i have been questioning my gender for about a half year. so thank you so much for saying that it was fine!