READ THE DESCRIPTION BEFORE YOU COMMENT | Raised by Two Gay Men & I Think Children Deserve Mom & Dad

[@thembeforeus9515]

Adults don't DESERVE children via adoption. A child that has lost mother and father deserves to be adopted, and WHENEVER possible, adopted by a married mother and father (because men and women aren't pointless or interchangeable.) Samantha, like most children raised in part by same-sex parents statistically, originally had SOME contact with her mother and father. Often parents will split and one might repartner with a same-sex individual, this was more the norm before the advent of horrific reproductive technologies where now adults can essentially customize and purchase children (with egg and sperm "donors" or surrogates) without even passing a background check. It doesn't matter how you try to parse it out: It's bad to be taken from your mother or father, whether that's via sperm/egg donation where you might never know the person and have 20, 50, or 100s of half siblings, or losing your mom because someone rented her womb and you lose the only human you've known on earth after 9-months to be handed to strangers after they pay the bill. Look at all the comments...excuse after excuse. Gaslighting and condemnation that she dare offer anything other than the culturally approved narrative, "it's fine! Just be glad you had ____." Nope, at Them Before Us, the rights of children supersede adult feelings and ideologies.

[@adrianainespena5654]

And yet so man of them never get adopted. Unless they are babies, they can wait a loong time.

[@matmatymat]

so a straight woman deciding to sell her children is a problem because of gay people, not because that straight woman decided to sell her kid...

[@thembeforeus9515]

@@matmatymat Who sold their child? Egg and sperm donation is immoral and wrong. Surrogacy is wrong. A child losing mom and dad in any fashion is wrong.

[@Ruben_de_Haen]

Thank you for speaking out, Samantha!

[@reginaknoll4321]

That little fact what she is hidding: She was born male for 100%!

[@pemtinify]

I loved my mother in a way I couldn't love my father. I loved my father in way I couldn't love my mother. These separate loves were the rainbow of my little life.

[@celinabean7452]

That's so beautiful ❤

[@marilan3455]

Very sweetly expressed! Sums it all up!❤️🙏

[@kcdw3495]

And your mother loved you in a way you father could not and your father loved you in a way your mother could not... they can go against God's design for the family all they want, but they will never be able to change it.

[@Andre-zd8ke]

@@kcdw3495 And what does your God recommend if that mother & father team are abusive, mentally unable to care for the child, or died? Your make-believe "God's design" has no relationship to the realities of the real world.

[@DianaMcFerran]

​@@kcdw3495Amen 🙏

[@dianepereira1860]

No one should be diminishing how you feel. No one truly knows what it's like until they walk in the same shoes.

[@jennifernordlund2691]

@dianepereira1860 and by that reasoning she should not be ( and no one here should be) diminishing people who feel positively about their homosexual parents.

[@adrianainespena5654]

They have a right to their feelings. But also to a realistic assessment of what their circumstances are. If she was cared for and nurtured, that is something not every child gets. She should look not towards those children who have what she things is "more" but those who have less. A knowledge of what foster care is, or what goes on in orphanages would make her see how lucky she was.

[@adrianainespena5654]

Well, how about the feelings of children who never get adopted, and shuffle through the foster care system? Don't they deserve consideration too?

[@dianepereira1860]

@@adrianainespena5654 Like I said no one should diminish how someone feels. In this case it was the woman who posted the video.

[@BearingMySeoul]

Right. It's not that children need "two parents." They need a mom and a dad. That That said, it's MUCH easier for men to find women to fill that mother role for their children so it's a shame her parents didn't do that for her.

[@reginaharmon9825]

I was raised by my father. My mother was bi-polar and unstable. I visited my mother every other weekend, but she wasn't connected to me, or invested in my life, and eventually stopped visits during my preteen years. I too fantasized about what a real relationship with a mother would be and I remember staring at moms with children at the playground or store. The ache of not being wanted enough by my own mom made me struggle with my femininity. Thankfully we weren't in the crazy times in the 80's /90s so I made it to adulthood without confusing messages about gender. Being a good mom is the most important thing to me. Even though I have to work really hard to know what that looks like.

[@alexs7671]

💜💪

[@shutupdeck]

I think about this a lot with my stepson… I know he has me but it’s gotta be a wreck for him to deal with the concept of a mom who doesn’t want you unless you’re bringing in money 😢 breaks my heart every time we have to send him for a visit 💔

[@stevecarson4162]

People who assert that "she NEEDS a mother" need to know that plenty of people HAVE mothers who either didn't want them or couldn't take care of them for one reason or another. They should be careful what they wish for.

[@ArtfromtheHeart2]

God bless you. It's not your fault you had a bad mother. And yes you can brake the matrix by becoming a good mother to your kid.

[@lindaaih]

I relate, I had a mother but her poor mental health issues meant I didn't have any of what this lady craved. To this day I still look at friends with great mother daughter relationships and wonderl how nice that would have been. I'm definitely impacted but like you put my all into being there for my kids now.

[@thomasbeatty9496]

I was raised in an orphanage without benefit of a mother or father. I married a wonderful woman and we had sons and I had to really work to figure out how to be a good father considering the absence of a role model. Using a combination of common sense and intellect I succeeded and our sons turned out to be successful adults. Being a good parent is hard work regardless of the circumstances of your life.

[@sweetxjc]

100% true but knowing what we do we should never encourage a situation like yours or the one in the video. Sadly, most children like yourself do not have the story you do due to circumstance and we should decrease it as much as possible .

[@anastasiacomino9024]

Terribly sad situation for your dad and the impact on him n you n all the family. ​@Mydogpenny1970

[@lzcollins567]

I was raised by my Mom and Dad whom I rarely had any one -on-one conversations with. Very lonely. I made horrid mistakes as an adult, unable to connect properly - both with females as friends ( I'm female) and with men as partners. I tried too. I've divorced and have one daughter who's doing well and one who struggles. I blame myself for the struggling one.

[@ElsjeMassyn]

I think the fact that you had to "work out your own path" without copying your parents traditions and values is outstanding and actually more special than to be indoctrinated by parents. I am not saying its great to be an orphan and find your own path. I am saying your life is proof that there is no excuse for anyone not finding the right path without parents. If you could do it at will so should anyone be able to do it

[@fadedglory1045]

@@lzcollins567I relate. Had a mom and dad very traditional. Mom stayed home dad worked. Very disfunctional home. There were 7 of us , I was lost in all of it and never really felt connected to my mother. Not sure she even liked me. Supposedly I was dad's "favorite" but I sure didn't feel special or favored. Just one of the kids, which was fine by me. The older kids seemed to get mom's attention. Any way. I'm not for or against gays adopting I do know there is plenty of disfunction to go around in any scenario.

[@NoNameNumberTwo]

“Acquire” a child is a perfect way to put it. Children are not commodities, they are human beings with souls and rights and feelings.

[@captaindangler1675]

And yet the foster system is filled with kids that will never see a home so…

[@Andre-zd8ke]

@@captaindangler1675 Yep, that's it. We don't live in an ideal world and many times one must choose the next best option. That option may not tick all the boxes but is normally a lot better that what the child found itself in at his/her's original situation.

[@pandemicoftheunvaccinated5367]

​@captaindangler1675 Moral equivalent arguments are merely idealogical point scoring exercises. They fail to include vastly different aspects at play eg. Political, cultural, environmental,social and economic factors.

[@lyndabrown3402]

@@captaindangler1675 I worked in the foster care system and the vast majority have plenty of family it’s just that they have lots of problems that caused the children to be in foster care, and they have at least sporadic contact with their family.

[@colinmeehan791]

Exactly.

[@Dawn-uc3mn]

You're a very brave woman speaking up in this way.

[@godsewn1]

And I pray Gods protection over You in Jesus name!

[@joseluisrojascosme4018]

@@Dawn-uc3mn isn’t it a shame that we have to lift her up in this way when having a mother and a father should be the norm?

[@maryrichards6166]

Thank You for sharing this. I think it’s selfish for a gay couple to deny their child the other parent - mother or father (GOD intended a man and a woman to raise children)

[@paulinebell4873]

i am in complete agreement with everything said in this clip - but - being raised by the nice gay men is a privilege and a blessing compared with being raised by a loveless welfare institution

[@yeoldegrayCat]

Totally agree, yeah a man can't replace a mother and woman can't replace a father ever. But between ending up in a home where there are 2 people that will try their best to love and care for you even if it ends up being a gay couple is way luckier than ending up in no home or a place with an abusive couple, there's tons of horror stories about forster couples that abused/ended the life of the child in horrific ways. It should be encouraged if it's a gay couple that they try to introduce a person that can be a figure of the missing male or female into the child's life, even if it's just a teacher in an extracurricular activity.

[@lorithompson9166]

Many of us who were raised by a single parent know how hard it was growing up without a father or a mother. Children deserve both a father and a mother.

[@pyromaniac1986]

Deserve but not always get cause its not your pink ideal world it's life.... as i was i child i wanted a complete family too, but growing up i realized it was just a complex imposed by society

[@RyeReid]

If we start talking about what we deserve . . . well, how knows exactly where that road leads. w do not always get what we want. If a child has even one loving parent, whether it be a single dad, or a single mom, or an older brother or sister, gay or straight, or two strangers with no familial connections or obligations, then, like Samantha, they have nothing to complain of, especially when they have reached the age of accountability and autonomy. Samantha has nothing to complain about, and the fact that she is complaining has shown her have developed into an adult filled with self-pity, a most deplorable characteristic, and an ingrate, an even more deplorable characteristic. As she is now, there is very little to admire in this woman; and I feel sorry for her children, and the lessons she is not capable of teaching them. Maybe, despite Samantha's best efforts, they will somehow learn those lessons from their gay grandfathers.

[@kabodick]

That’s where having extended family (grandparents, aunts, uncles) close by is helpful.

[@kansasgoldilocks]

But then again, many who grew up with both did NOT get any benefit from it, as one (usually the father) was usually MIA, hands off on parenting, or just a crappy parent. There is no one size fits all approach. I was raised by a single mother and got the male parenting from my grandfather. My dad is NOT it. Nice guy. Bad dad.

[@miguelangelrodriguez9578]

What the heck u talking about? It s different not having 1 parent than have 2, but same-gendered.

[@gardenjoy5223]

I'm hurt by just seeing the intense hurt in your eyes. So sorry for all you missed. You are so right in advocating children's rights!

[@milanka882]

I know it's refreshing to see isn't it. I do the same thing when it comes to disability and children as well. I am blind myself and I was raised in the blind community by blind parents. I can tell you that the vast majority of disabled parenting leaves a lot to be desired. Yet the conversations around disability and parenting are the same as the conversations around gay people and parenting. They are all about the adults and never about the children. It pisses me off.

[@ekaterini001]

Well said!

[@melissachartres3219]

Children's rights? Their right to grow up with zero parents or live on the streets or be raised in an orphanage? What are you talking about? Could you elaborate a little please?

[@boopbooperson1654]

I mean, I feel like all of this should be obvious to the woke left just by looking at the negative effect children have when missing a parent via divorce, d3ath, etc. The child isn't just suffering because of their lack of 2nd parent, they're suffering because of lacking specifically the mother or father. Having 2 moms or 2 dads doesn't fix the issue, it makes it worse. If a child has 2 moms, that child still doesn't have a dad. A child being raised by a single parent and siblings + community is actually better off than a child being raised by a same gendered couple.

[@boopbooperson1654]

​@@melissachartres3219If I was forced to re-live my childhood but with the wisdom I have now, and I was given the choice to be raised in orphanage/streets while suffering the same traumas I've already suffered, or the choice to be raised by a same gendered couple with NO traumatic events ever happening.... I'd easily choose the orphanage/street + traumas. I mean that. I really do. I know for a fact that I'd turn out psychologically healthier.

[@whimsicalaubrey1413]

“It is not an adults right to have access to a child just because they want one” That hit me…

[@heatwave7595]

So therefore adults have to refrain from procreation as a way to have access to a child. Children should be made in a factory and then awarded to the most deserving.😂

[@stepaushi]

@@heatwave7595 That is such st*pid logic.

[@eirenmist12]

@@heatwave7595 I suppose you think that is a clever answer. LOL

[@TheHenok30]

@@whimsicalaubrey1413 - If the biological parents or child support adoption, then why not? Suppose the dad or mom goes to jail, dies of a disease or murder, etc. Maybe a gay uncle or other family member wants to adopt the relative to support the child. Someone has to.

[@tonypoli215]

It’s selfish

[@AD-gn6zc]

"It's not an adults right to have access to a child just because they want one" no more to be added. Thank you for your voice.

[@ShoppingEmail-dr1fs]

unfortunately it is.

[@mht5875]

@@pierrethegod22 Love is not enough, children want to be given limits, parental responsibility for their children must exist, within the social structure necessary for a productive society.

[@Potatowedge31]

​@@pierrethegod22 I thought it was like the darkest way to put something I've seen in awhile. Like holy moly lol

[@LarryStallings-dk4rr]

GAYS SHOULDNT BE ABLE TO ADOPT

[@lisayoung5136]

@@pierrethegod22It is her way of thinking because of her experience and the desire for a mother as a child. Your experience is that a lot of kids in foster care would just love to have parents no matter what the gender or race. My daughter is a very loving fun person and is awesome with children. She is gay and has a great partner who is much older than she is. She has thought about the idea of an older foster kid but I’m not sure how much her partner would want a kid. My daughter would be an amazing parent!

[@GreenTea-y4s]

As a woman who had an extremely emotionally and sometimes physically abusive mother. A Narcistic mother. I disagree. The things my mother did to me ...I don't wish on anyone. 😔It ruined me. I won't go into too much into detail cuz it's really dark, but I will say this, what a child needs is love and care. Whether man or woman. Sorry you went through what you went through, but having a mother DOES NOT guarantee she will love you or take care of you. Somedays I wish I would've been an ophran or not born at all. She use to say she I'm lucky she even kept me omg I wish she would've aborted me. Her cruelty was way worse. Till this day I struggle with what she did to me in my childhood. her favorite phrase was "I have to love you but i dont like you at all. " No little kid should have to hear that. Tbh i wish i never had a mother. 😔

[@RyeReid]

I am sorry for what you went through. You are correct. Life is not like a Burger King where one can go and order a family, and a life exactly the way one would like it. Samantha is seriously lacking as a person. Despite what she says about being very attached to her dads, of loving and appreciating what they have done for her, as if she were some teen on the street that they took in, bought her some clothes, and gave her a meal, some money, and wishing her well before sending her on her way, she is a seriously immature, ungrateful woman who will make for a horrible role model for her own kids. There are so many children who did not survive their a-father-and-a-mother homes, literally did not survive. You survived; and it may not seem like it, but you are doing a lot better than Samantha is an emotional cripple. You know what a parent ought to be. She does not seem to know that, so you would have so much more to offer a child. She judges her dads, the two people who truly loved her. The love she has for her children is likely as lacking as the love she has for her dads: very conditional, with unreasonable expectations, and many strings attached. I hope you will let your mother slip into the past, and forge a loving future for yourself and the people in your life.

[@NatalieHarrisonLim]

This! I grew up without either of my biological parents and was raised by my siblings and self. Some people just don’t see the bigger picture

[@milktea9838]

Your mother was not a mother. She was just someone who gave birth to you. Don’t ruin the name of what a mother is just because you had a bad experience with the person who gave birth to you. EVERYONE needs a mother.

[@miguelangelrodriguez9578]

​​​​@@milktea9838Arent you doing the same? What everyone needs... What Everyone needs is to have parents. Same-gendered or not.

[@milktea9838]

@@miguelangelrodriguez9578 No, I’m not doing the same. Read the comment again and use common sense.

[@glennleslie6127]

I'm gay, and I completely agree with her. So many (especially rich) gay men obtain a child as if it is a new Rolex, something to show off. Children need a mother and a father...

[@PaulRaymonds-b7w]

And some parents are closet bisexual , I'm gay my brother is bisexual his wife straight I've two nephews,

[@anastasiacomino9024]

Totally agree with you. You are brave to say it. I'm sure you get shut down. But say it you must.

[@anastasiacomino9024]

​Hope everything is going right for you now. Hoping you are well, fit n healthy and happy. Strength to you. Yes , life is complicated.

[@michellebarber8337]

​@1953childstar I think exactly the same as you. Although I have not been brought up in a same sex marriage, children are entitled to two loving, present parents. No one's life is perfect. Two wonderful gay parents are better than two dysfunctional biological parents imo. Not everyone can have ideal amazing biological parents.

[@grievousmink3889]

Probably the same for rich gay women 🙄

[@theirmom4723]

I am glad she is standing up and stating what she has dealt with

[@JLu20]

@@SMCwasTaken your being dismissive of her truth. Creep.

[@miguelangelrodriguez9578]

That she d rather be alone and had gone through the absence of any parent and tons of traumas?

[@AfraidMonsters]

having two dads/moms is beautiful and amazing and it's okay for her to voice her opinion, but her opinion is wrong. you don't need a mother and a father/father and a mother. Sounds like she didn't have enough of an empathic connection with her two dads. Doesn't mean that's the case for every father with their child.

[@slydog7131]

I would say this also goes for single parents. Being raised without a father or one who is not involved in their child's life is also a problem.

[@mikescollard6499]

Absolutely it is. The truth of this should be spoken in all instances. And most surrogacy all should be banned. Children are not products to be purchased.

[@VoVina111]

@@mikescollard6499 I used to support surrogacy but after I learned about the s3x traff1cking industry and how they influence it, I don't support it anymore

[@mypointofview1111]

But that's the choice of the father who may be distant for any number of reasons, including immaturity of the father. Men aren't honest when they enter relationships. Being a parent is sometimes more than they're willing to commit to when faced with the daily tasks needed to sustain that relationship

[@vikker8274]

@@mypointofview1111or the woman’s fault. But women have no agency, right? Just like this poor woman’s bio mom… the originator of a not-ideal childhood for her

[@lpl433]

No this is different because a lot of men LEAVE mothers it’s not a homosexual relationship where you’re purposefully deprived of a mother so stfu

[@SilviaSbraNutri]

There are hundred thousands of cases of people raised by biological parents that lacked affection and had an horrible childhood. All that a parent-child relationship requires is love and caring (and safe environment) and doesn’t matter the sexuality of the couple, nor if it is adopted or biological.

[@lanehartwell]

Why are you discounting their experience?

[@maryanngentile1142]

I agree with you. A child needs a mother and father. Today, no one is thinking about what the child needs. Glad you spoke up. I pray that the Lord will heal your pain and hurts.

[@HS-cf8lz]

Exactly we think of what the adult needs in order to mould a society, instead of giving a child what they need to be nurtured.

[@nickandrachelmajor8487]

that can always be possible people die or leave and leave single parent families

[@cstuartdc]

Meh. What's the old saying? "See ya in therapy"? Gay parents, alcoholic parents, swinger parents, Nutty Christian parents, Angry racist Trumper parents, the parents who had no TV, the homeschool parents, the working parents. . .ain't a family out there you couldn't lay criticism in "not getting what you need." I'm sorry she feels this way but I'm not willing to condemn any set of parents over another.

[@Goldenretriever-k8m]

And yet there are many many orphaned children out there, or children with unfit parents. A mother and a father is not always an option. Better to have a loving parent through adoption, whether two of the same gender or not, than none at all.

[@melissachartres3219]

A child might "need" a mother and a father, but that isn't always possible/feasible. Sometimes you just take what you get and try to be grateful. Better an imperfect home than no home at all.

[@mrsmum3-6]

As a mum myself and also being brought up as the 4th of 8 children by a great mum & dad (RIP), I wish i could give Samantha a big hug. God bless xx

[@RyeReid]

Samantha does not need a hug. She needs Cher to slap her in the face and say: "Snap out of it!" She needs to grow up.

[@EllaArmstrong25]

I read about a young girl in foster care who found out she was being adopted by two gay men. She was really upset because she had always wanted a mom. Broke my heart.

[@adrianainespena5654]

Well, at least it got her out of the foster care system.

[@adrianainespena5654]

Really, what she wanted was the ideal, and was not old enough to realize that too many people live in less than ideal situations, that ideal situations are not there for the asking, and that there are a lot worse options than being adopted by a gay couple - and let us not forget about how the Irish Catholics treated the orphans in their care (like why are there mass graves in Irish orphanages).

[@panacota2043]

@@adrianainespena5654it’s just a kid… kids are allowed to have dreams…

[@EllaArmstrong25]

@@panacota2043 That’s the way it used to be for kids in foster care, when they were adopted they got a mom. I don’t think it’s much to ask

[@adrianainespena5654]

@@panacota2043 I do not blame the kid, but the adult who should have known better.

[@coreykiss2653]

Being raised by good parent(s) is the more important. Growing up without a mother is better than having an abusive one.

[@Kaixo-Zemouz]

💯

[@myday2704]

Don't gaslight her. She wanted a mother, a normal one. Nothing wrong with wanting a mother!

[@ellasmith731]

​@@myday2704 yeah but her real mother abandon her and 2 gay men adopted her she should focus on someone who really loves her yk

[@lololnope34567]

@@myday2704reasonable comparisons aren’t gaslighting

[@myday2704]

@@lololnope34567 It's not unreasonable for her to want a mother.

[@BelaMadeira]

SSA man here and couldn’t agree more. A child needs a mother and a father, it’s called natural law.

[@hiddenhand6973]

That’s right. Catholicism taught me about natural law. It makes perfect sense.

[@timward3116]

So you believe that an abusive staight mother and straight father are better than a loving but gay couple because the natural law allows for the torture of children? I mean, there are lots of rotten straight parents out there who mess their kids up for life. And do you think that it is better that foster children be bounced around from one sexually abusive but straight home to another? Regarding natural law, obviously everything that exists in nature is part of natural law.

[@Tara-zq3il]

@@timward3116 don't be silly. It's about having a standard.

[@BelaMadeira]

@@timward3116 Please don’t resort to whataboutisms and straw man fallacies, it’s not a good look.

[@firstlast-u1g]

​​@@timward3116I'm female. My biological mother was in a same sex relationship the whole time I was growing up. Like it or not, it's weird and unnatural. I wish I grew up watching a heterosexual relationship in action. I need that as a female. I guess this woman is feeling exactly the same way. We mimmick the relationships we see growing up. The complete absence of a gender in a family dynamic is not natural. And yes single parent families suffer the same fate. Children need both genders

[@HankandLouie]

A very powerful statement.

[@roseherban]

A child needs both mom and dad.

[@HuxtableTV]

Yes. But her family was still decent & loving, although too dads. It is not ideal, but some kids grow up in much more disadvantaged, or harmful circumstances.

[@AnastasiaRomanov-w9x]

It’s called the nuclear family.

[@AnastasiaRomanov-w9x]

@@HuxtableTVand she had no idea of how to be a woman and a mother. Don’t be ridiculous.

[@CuriousCat128]

I agree xx

[@scottb4579]

@@keitht843 Well, I find your characterization of your parents a bit problematic. You say they were "devout" Christians. To be devout, one must have commitment to Jesus. Obviously, your parents did not have that commitment, and were what many Christians would call "false" Christians. One can not be a disciple of Jesus and treat their own children as your parents did. Your parents were merely "religious", but without the fruit of the Holy Spirit. I feel deep sadness over the horrible situation you had growing up. I don't believe it was God's will for these things to happen to you. I pray God gives you a healing like you have never experienced, and your soul is perfectly mended, and you have peace and contentment.

[@marino5652]

You say : I know from experience that when gay couple have a child that that child is deprived of love and nurturing of biological parents. Thing is..there is so many kids from gay marriage who say opposite of you, who do not lack of anything. You are hurting, and your experience is yours, but it is not necessity that other kids from gay marriage feel like you do. People often make this mistake. They thing that if they had certain feeling in some situation, that surely everyone else feels the same in such situation. Thing is, they do not. People are different.

[@coppersulphate002]

Unless you yourself had two gay parents, you aren't in any position to criticize her or anyone who has lived the experience! It is very dehumanizing to deny ir invalid her experience and feelings. And this is the problem I have with people who support children in unconventional familes: you deprive the right of children of humanity: only adults have a right to say something but children don't. They should accept whatever because they are children It's disrespectful to children You people do not care for children at all.

[@komkom6657]

Ofcourse you only hear that side because it goes with the current agenda. People's safety is at risk or their afraid of being ridiculed for when they voice their opinion. This also happened to a couple of Psychologists and psychiatrists who have voiced their unpopular medical opinion about some of the issues within the LGBTQ.

[@marino5652]

@@coppersulphate002 but arent you doing the same what you preach not to do. Isn't she doing the same what you preach not to do? She has an specific experience and then she generalise it over entire group of people who grew up with gay parents and were fine. So she uses her experience to override experience of other people in same situation. I on the other hand do not use my knowledge or experience to override her experience or call her experince invalid. I respect the fact that she feels what she feels growing up in gey household. I simply call for the fact that one should not use their experience to dismiss all other people'd experiences, and that is what happened in this video, and what you are doing. It's like you said, dehumanising to people who grew up in gay households and feel just fine with it.

[@Melvito2]

Yup, sadly, this woman is just a traumatized person being used as a pawn for homophobes. I hope she recovers from the trauma inflicted by her terrible adoptive parents, but judging an entire group of people by the experience of one is a dangerous slippery slope.

[@marino5652]

@@Melvito2 exactly

[@angelawalker9793]

I totally get it. My mother died when I was four and though my father remarried,I had no mother. Most of the time I felt like I had no parents at all because the friction between my dad and his wife was all consuming for them. Now in my 70s, and a mother myself, I see how essential a mother is. I’m not crying the blues, just responding to the expressed need for a mother.

[@cynthiamckenzie8451]

My dad died when I was 6 and I was raised by my mother. I still miss having my dad growing up and being there for special occasions😢

[@miguelangelrodriguez9578]

The fact that u couldnt replace your mom it s differs from having no mom since you were born or lack of one since ever.

[@lucimunro9621]

Thank you for being so brave enough to share this. I do so agree with this. I have nine children, and I know children need both a mother and a father. As you said, it's a child's right and should not be tampered with.

[@RyeReid]

It does not take bravery to be an ingrate.

[@josephmccall2476]

Children have a natural right to a mother and a father.

[@dulcilass]

A child deserves two loving parents. In my case, I could have done without my bio-dad. By the time I was an adult I couldn't stand being around him. He was a lousy excuse for a dad. It would be nice if all the kids in the foster care system could be adopted by a loving mother and father, but there are just too many children In the foster care system for that to happen. A child is lucky to be adopted by two carrying people whether they are a mom/dad, dad/dad/ or a mom/mom couple. As of July 31, 2024, there were 19,097 children in foster care in Illinois alone.

[@thepotatoofheaven]

if only the world was perfect

[@statsguy1446]

Better for them to stay orphans you say?

[@edouardbeaudry4837]

An echo chamber, how surprising

[@pedrapgwilym1341]

@@statsguy1446 From the sound of the video, Samantha wasn't an orphan, 2 gay guys artificially inseminated her bio mother. Their own self indulgence should have been overridden by the needs of the child.

[@juanitasullivan3372]

I would take two loving gay men raising me over what did raise me.

[@Bearwithme560]

Absolutely! My narcissistic mother ruined our lives by overtly hating us, and my father was the soul of kindness, whom we barely saw as he was working so hard to keep her in comfort, unaware of her subtle cruelty.

[@UNDERDOG18UNDERDOG18]

You don’t know what they would do to you or each other behind closed doors, but we all get your grass-is-greener attitude.

[@adrian8372]

That can happen with straight couples, too. Stop with the constant judgement​@@UNDERDOG18UNDERDOG18

[@komkom6657]

That's not an argument for making gay parenting normal

[@time3735]

My mom died when I was at the age of 10 and when my dad remarried nothing was ever the same, we didn't have a good relationship with our stepmom. People do not understand the fact that your desire to have both a mother and a father doesn't necessarily guarantee you a better household. What a child needs the most is the love and care of responsible parents which is in itself a huge privilege. If there are people who cannot even provide love to their own biological children properly, think about people who go out of their way to raise other people's children and yet do a better job than them at parenting.

[@angelspencer1668]

I grew up without a father because he didn't want to be. It hurt for a long time. If one person loves and cares for you then you are luckier than most.

[@jamieh.]

😢🫂

[@TheEstevenw]

I had two straight parents, neither one was available. Happens no matter who your parents are, you were better off than I was.

[@jamieh.]

😢🫂

[@RozatorulchelHahaha]

It's two different situations...you cannot really compare. My opinion..

[@Allhoney33]

Glad somebody had the guts to say it. Truth of the matter is, no matter what family you grow up in, there’s always gonna be some sort of issue because humans are imperfect.

[@PKcrash]

​@@RozatorulchelHahaha yes you are correct. One had straight parents who didnt give a shit and the other had two gay parents who gave a shit. I feel bad for her dads because her issue isnt with them. Its the fact that she never got over her abandonment issues.

[@kainguru1]

While I also feel a mom and dad is best, the traditional nuclear family is not even an option for a very great many kids, unfortunately. So, instead of leaving them to age out of foster care, let them be adopted. Give them a chance. The State isn't a good mom either.

[@JaneThomas-i8k]

Everyone needs a mom

[@emmalynne7851]

And every child needs a father too

[@mir-jan3496]

Yes, specially a mom, I had better relationship with my father than with my mother, but if I have to choose I will choose my mother. Nothing can replace mother.

[@gaeagemaher8193]

What happened to her mom was not caused by the two gay men. She should tell that to her mom.

[@contenteater]

And some have two 😂 👩‍❤️‍👩

[@kassie-annonandia67]

​😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂who gives birth too xou then​@@SMCwasTaken Its Biology proven that children die without a mother

[@Cy93]

This is so hard to watch. I've been adopted aswell, from the streets, and to me I don't think I would have mattered if my parents were gay or straight. There's straight couples out here killing their own child or adopting children and neglecting them and they're almost dead.. yet she's still here and she doesn't look harmed at all. Just be thankful that you got loving parents wether gay or straight.

[@thembeforeus9515]

We're sorry your mom and dad didn't do what it took to be healthy and love and care for you.

[@justjackie4394]

Sounds like you didn't actually watch and listen to the video. 🙄

[@ellasmith731]

​@@justjackie4394 what else there is to it? Shes just ungrateful that her parents didnt want her and that sad her adopted parents were gay

[@justjackie4394]

@@ellasmith731 Thanks for being the example for the point of her video. 🙄

[@mrsmum3-6]

A mum brings her own unique motherly ways into a childs life, a father brings his special fatherly ways. Sometimes you go to your mum fot things, sometimes you go to dad. A child needs a Mum & Dad. 🙏

[@jeannehunter5344]

I became a single parent when my kids were 5 and 6, and I had to be soft, loving mom and strong, protective dad at the same time. I wish that wasn't so to this day.

[@cynthiacrawford6147]

If you have good parents

[@mrsmum3-6]

@@cynthiacrawford6147 I agree, we should all aim to be good parents.

[@paulchapman201]

She did by giving her up in the first place

[@mrsmum3-6]

@@paulchapman201 I understand her mother was deemed "unfit". The child was taken away from her. However, as Samantha said, she craved a mothers love.

[@ChristineSharples]

I had a mother but I was never kissed by her or cuddled by her. A friend of mine who her said it was a shame I didn't know a mother's love. My other friends agree. Not all mothers are good . I know you don't want to hear this but be grateful for the love you have.

[@AmericaCirclingTheDrain]

I'm sure she appreciates your scolding her for the longings she had for a mother. SMH

[@cpSharkBlast]

Shes not saying all mothers are good. But that doesnt negate the truth about what she is saying

[@ginnamin]

My mother was a horrible mother. An extremely abusive nasty person. I would’ve given anything to have had two men who gave me love over what I got.

[@cpSharkBlast]

@@ginnamin the point is being missed here. The role of a mother in the proper sense is what is necessary for the healthy upbringing of a child. This doesnt negate the fact that there are bad mothers, bad mothers failed at their role. Either way, gay couple or abusive mother, neither fulfill the role of a loving mother. It wouldnt be better on either side. That motherhood role is still missing

[@cpSharkBlast]

@@tracyk3567 what does that even mean? So what, is there no such thing as truth then? Because if truth is subjective to each and every person than that means there is no such thing as truth at all

[@susanlane8803]

Spoken by someone who has experienced it, something that we all know every child should have!

[@Goldenretriever-k8m]

And yet there are many children who are raised by same-sex couples, who say the opposite as her

[@jhutch1681]

Her experience is definitely valid, but doesn't make her a spokes person for all children of gay parents. I suspect there are lots of others who might feel differently. I respect her opinion, but she is only one voice. Children loose parents to death, divorce, substance abuse, alcoholism and absence. Grieving that loss is real and painful, but doesn't necessarily mean that whoever raised them instead should not have been allowed to do so.

[@stevecarson4162]

Obviously, she HAD a mother, who either didn't want her or wouldn't take care of her. She's JUST LUCKY her two dads did what her mother wouldn't.

[@Ivxnrxjxs]

In my view, a child needs two loving parents, gay or straight. Role models of the same gender should also be available for the child-various role models and not just parents, because orphans exist.

[@thembeforeus9515]

How about we go with the common sense view: a man and woman make a child, they get married and raise the child. That child has best outcomes.

[@Ivxnrxjxs]

​@@thembeforeus9515 I respect your experience and concerns about gay marriage, but don't you think that view is a bit narrow? If I'm gay should I be striped away the right to potential happiness of raising my own family?

[@thembeforeus9515]

@@Ivxnrxjxs But your question can only follow the more important question: "Does your right to happiness mean a child should be stripped of his/her mother or father?" The answer is no. That applies to all adults, "straight" or "gay", married, single, wanting a divorce, and so on.

[@ScritchScratchASMR]

That is simply untrue. Plenty of children who have a mother and father have terrible outcomes. The best outcome for a child is to have loving parents, period. That's common sense. You're trying to push an agenda and will end up hurting the kids you claim to care about.

[@Србомбоница86]

​@@Ivxnrxjxsif you are gay you shouldn't have kids at all

[@roselynn816]

There's no one better to speak on it than someone who's been through it. Thank you for your bravery in coming forward

[@lulabelle4760]

My youngest sons father died when he was 2 months old. His entire childhood he longed for a father. He was always looking for the man who could be his dad-he even asked his karate teacher if he would marry me🤣 The point being: boys too need a dad and a mom.Its like its in our dna to have both. Now he is the best dad and every year he still visits his dads grave💖 PS: my grandads mom died when he was 2 months old and til the day he died, evey once in a while he would breakdown and cry. He would say,"I never knew a mothers love". 💔💔💔

[@ry2yb]

Very touching

[@BunnyRabit-yo3lx]

❤

[@wiiildfire]

That last sentence hurt. 😢💔

[@suzanneratte511]

I had an elderly patient saying me the same… he lost his mother at 8, and kept saying many times a day “it’s difficult to grow without a mother”

[@thembeforeus9515]

So true. Thank you for sharing!

[@StudentDad-mc3pu]

I'm afraid this is meaningless, and while I am sympathitic to people who feel that their upbringing was lacking, this can happen just as easily in mixed gender families as single gender.

[@thembeforeus9515]

No one's story is meaningless. And her story simply shows what we know to be true from ALL the accurate social science data.

[@StudentDad-mc3pu]

@@thembeforeus9515 The title of the video is what makes this story meaningless I'm afraid. It defines the meaning of her story to be evidence that same sex parents are bad for children. One story cannot do this, there are millions of children bought up by mixed gender parents who have far worse experiences. He story, in itself is not, every person's story has meanings, but on their own they don't define broader social truths.

[@thembeforeus9515]

@@StudentDad-mc3pu You have a lot of scientific data to overcome if your claim is that "a child doesn't care if they lose their mother or father." You realize that a child can only have "gay parents" with losing a bio parent?

[@StudentDad-mc3pu]

@@thembeforeus9515 That's a real straw man. Gay parents have children by many different means. Lots of children suffer "loosing" a parent in straight relationships, why are you obsessing about same sex relationships?

[@thembeforeus9515]

@@StudentDad-mc3pu Go read our site. We talk about ALL the ways kid lose when adults are selfish. There are very limited ways a same-sex couple can "have" children. A man/women has bio children with an individual of the opposite sex and then leaves that person to be with someone of the same sex. A man or woman buys sperm or egg to mix with their own to produce a child to be intentionally motherless or fatherless. Or they adopt. But in no instance does the child get a balance of mom + dad or BOTH their bio parents. So it is ALWAYS not ideal.

[@mutchheritage]

Sending my love and support. My mom died when i was very small and i was raised by my dad. I know that deep longing for the feminine in a home. I 100% agree with you. Sending gratitude for bravely speaking out.❤

[@Anna-te5qc]

Maybe someone who seen abuse at home, alcoholism, or anything which destroyes childhood, someone like this would rather have 2 dads or 2 moms if they have love for their child

[@lm9991]

Yep!

[@svenjal9696]

Thats what I am thinking.

[@Anna-te5qc]

And i know, my opinion is not popular, people will tell we can feel anything we want to, now its even more in game to be victim and to have sad story... Which this woman, when it come on family doesnt have. She has more than she realize. It would be better to let yourself to be happy and thankfull

[@Anna-te5qc]

@@inmyopinion6662 ofc nope. Its better to be crybaby

[@EeveelutionStorm]

You don't know if her parents weren't the kind who made being gay dads their personalities. It sounded like they tried to validate themselves through her. You think they probably haven't touted that? Or how hard it'd be growing up with parents who might weaponize being adopted as a should've been grateful? Not every LGBT person is nice. A lot of them like the rest of humanity suck because humans can suck. LGBT people abuse others just like other people are capable of. She's a traumatized woman with her own issues. Do I agree with everything she said? No. But to shame her for speaking up on her own experiences... You don't know her dad's. They could've been basically the gay Cleavers or they could've been the kind to make being political the epitome of growing up

[@stutzstudiowerks]

I had two straight parents. I love Mom and Dad, but they were lousy parents. I have terrible PTSD with depression. Having parents of each gender does not a happy childhood make. I'm sorry this woman missed growing up with a biological mother. I don't know why she imagines that her childhood would have been better. Being loved and cared for is a BIG DEAL. Life is not perfect. Please don't interfere in someone else's happiness. A lot of kids need to be adopted and good parents are hard to find.

[@allfluff3844]

She’s not saying that being a part of a hetero couple would have guaranteed her a better life, she’s saying she has never got to experience a mother’s love and she naturally yearns for that.

[@stutzstudiowerks]

@@allfluff3844 I understand that. But, by advocating AGAINST gay adoption she is blocking another child's opportunity for a happy home solely based on her feelings about her own childhood. Suppose I were to do the same thing. It would be ridiculous. Other people in her same situation may not have her same feelings or experiences. Having a biological female in the home, even if it is one's own mother, does not guarantee a feeling of being loved. Maternal love doesn't always come in a female package. I know. I lived with my biological mother. It was horrible. In my situation, 2 gay dads would have been preferable. Let kids get adopted. They need homes.

[@allfluff3844]

@@stutzstudiowerks I mean at that point why not ask all kids who they want to be adopted which specific people they want to be adopted by.

[@stutzstudiowerks]

@@allfluff3844 Yep. That's what I'm saying.

[@adrianainespena5654]

@@allfluff3844 Well, she did not get to experience a horrible parent who gave her PTSD. If a child is cared for and nurtured, they that child has hit the jackpot. That's a hard truth that is difficult to digest.

[@lawrencecrocker4870]

after growing up with a father who walked out on me and a mother who hated and resented me..i think the more important thing is to have parents that actually want and love their kids.

[@Renzy-LuLu]

Exactly

[@angie-dm3bo]

Same! My dad left and my mom struggled with mental illness making my life hell. I think if 2 parents are loving and provide all a child's needs, mentally, emotionally and financially then I see nothing wrong with that! This woman wanted a mother so badly but what about those of us with mother's that shouldn't have been a mother?!

[@verindictus3639]

@@angie-dm3bo What about you? How do your bad mothers negate her need for a mother?

[@ChollyVy]

@@angie-dm3boyours is an exceptional case, no matter how caring, a man can never totally be a mum neither can a woman completely fill up a father’s space

[@adrianainespena5654]

@@ChollyVy And because of that, children should linger for years in the foster care system waiting for a couple that fits your specifications.

[@nandinimukhopadhyay8905]

I was raised by my two biological parents, my father and my mother. I wish I had two fathers. My mother didn't like me from the very beginning. I was the second child that she didnt really have time for because she was a working parent to a boy already. She always told me about how guilty she felt about not being able to give time to her son because I came when he was just 2 years old. She made me feel guilty for being born and needing help staying alive as a newborn. By the time I was 6 months old, I was taken care of full time by my wonderful nanny because my mother wanted to spend time with her son after work. By the time I was 3 or 4 years old, I spent my evenings with my neighbours who were like grandparents to me. My mother hated when I wouldn't go out in the evening, because she wanted to give time to her son. We moved when I was 5, and the new house didn't have space for an extra person so my nanny left. She was the only one who ever gave me any maternal love. After that I started spending time with my aunt and my dad. My mother hated that my father gave me time and started physically and mentally abusing me, cursing me for taking her husband's time. My aunt died when I was 12, and my dad gave all his attention to my mother afterwards because she lost her sister. I have been alone since. I was bullied at school because my breasts had grown and I didn't know how to wear a bra, let alone own one. My other aunt bought me one and taught me about wearing it. Since it was already too late, my breasts had already sogged. My late aunt had taught me about periods and how to keep myself clean during that time. I was taught absolutely nothing about being a woman or maintaining personal hygiene by my own mother, and whatever I knew, it was through other women in my life and the internet. It was very half baked knowledge because no one loved me like they loved their own daughters, so they never took the time to properly teach me anything, although I appreciate whatever they did, because it wasn't their duty. My mother complained about my use of sanitary pads and claimed I was using too much, when I was using 2 a day. When she hit menopause, she stopped buying pads altogether and I had to buy my own with whatever money I acquired during festivals and birthdays. I never had anyone to stand up for me, and people could say anything they wanted to me and laugh at me whenever they wanted because I couldn't stand up for myself and nobody else bothered. I have been doing my own laundry since 11, which doesn't seem too bad, but I was the only one doing it by hand, while other people's laundry was done by the washing machine. I couldn't grow my hair till college because my mother said good girls don't spend time looking pretty, and if I tried to look good it would mean that I was a slut. I can go on and on but it was ends the same and makes the same point - having a mother doesn't always equal getting a mother's love. My father did give me some attention and love but for him his wife always came first and he told me so in so many words. Eventually he stopped even talking to me because my mother didn't like that he spoke to me. I think if my mother wasn't in the equation, he would've been a great father. I wish I had two loving parents, be it any gender. I agree with everything that's said in the video, but sometimes what we wish for isn't always as great as it seems in our imagination. A mother is a girl's first bully in some situations.

[@thembeforeus9515]

We're so sorry you didn't have a healthy and loving mother like you deserved. The answer would be her healing and putting you first, not her disappearing so random men could raise you.

[@nandinimukhopadhyay8905]

@@thembeforeus9515 I'm sorry but there is no answer in this situation. It is not a question, it is my lived experience. I can only wish random people raised me. The random woman who became my nanny is the only woman who loved me like a daughter. The random guy who saw me struggle with a bike because I had no one to teach me, and taught me how to ride it is the only brotherly figure I had. The random people who were our neighbours were the only people who gave me time and attention, like grandparents would. The random people who showed me kindness and helped me out when I was left alone by my parents in different places across the years were the guiding hands I needed. They became my family for the moment, and I wish it was permanent. Strangers and random people are capable of greater kindness than our own "blood" sometimes. I have never been hurt by a random person more than I've been hurt by my own biological parents and sibling. It would be an utopia where every person recognised their own flaws and healed themselves first before having children. But that isn't the case. Most people don't heal. Most people don't have children out of love, but for their own selfish reasons. I shouldn't have been born, but here I am. I would rather hope that all children get two loving parents more than anything. There is no amount of healing that can happen which will give me back my childhood. I wish my mother disappeared. I wish she had disappeared when I was a baby, so I could atleast dream that I had a loving mother. She has been the biggest bully in my life and has done irreparable damage to my soul. She has shown me that even though she gave birth to me, she didn't want me. You know what happens to a child when their biological parents tell them they're not wanted and that they wished they would go away? Quite often, they literally do go away, permanently. A child's mind is not capable of handling a situation where they aren't wanted by the only people they love. It's only by Grace that I'm still alive. I only wish that no child has to go through what I've been through. I wish no child is forced to live with people who don't want them, just because of their biology. I wish the children's mental health is put first and given greater importance than an ideology. I really don't care if you agree or disagree, I've learnt to disengage. But to try to prove a point to someone whose entire life has been a living example of the very opposite is laughable. Random people can become great friends, and sometimes great family. If two men loved and cared enough for me to raise me I would have been honoured. We always wish to be on the other side of the fence, because the grass seems greener there. But it's often just a mirage. Again, having a mother doesn't equal getting a mother's love. A woman becomes a mother by loving, nurturing and unconditionally caring for a child, not just be becoming pregnant. Being a mother is difficult, and people can only try their best, day in and day out. People who try, people who learn from their mistakes and try to better themselves, people who put their children above their own desires are the ones who deserve to be called mothers, not the ones that only become pregnant and give birth, but don't care to do the rest.

[@ScritchScratchASMR]

I am so sorry! I also wish I had two normal, loving parents instead of ones that are the right gender. Children have a right to care and nurturing not specific genders.

[@thembeforeus9515]

A man and woman aren't interchangable. They're different and offer different things to their children. Wishing for random adults is nonsensical. You deserved YOUR mother and father to get their lives together and raise you in love and safety.

[@ScritchScratchASMR]

​@@thembeforeus9515Not sure if you're replying to me or not but my notifications are saying you are. Of course we deserved our mother and father to love us and care for us. Who the he11 is saying we didn't? It's obvious by the way you attack everyone putting holes in your argument that you couldn't care less about truth or lies. You're using the poor woman in this video as a prop for your ridiculous agenda. The small biological differences between men and women are greatly exaggerated mostly by people who want to control society and oppress women. You wanna argue that? Go ahead. Just leave me out of it because I'm done with your insults and callous demeanor towards the people who are explaining what they've been through in this comment section to highlight the issues with the way you are portraying this woman in the video.

[@kimtouchet681]

U can tell it’s from the heart and the necessity for a mother and father is real, with gratitude and appreciation to the 2 male parents♥️

[@expukpuk]

Nature can not be silenced.

[@stevecarson4162]

Wrong! Plenty of two-gender couples are unable to have children, and a large number are terrible parents who abuse their helpless kids. Two loving fathers or two loving mothers are a lot better than one of each who should have remained childless.

[@der1222]

​@@stevecarson4162hurr durr let's look at these absolute outliers to negate the standard No, this isn't going to work as I don't care about your mythical scenario that doesn't reflect society as a whole

[@sandyallen8837]

Period!

[@der1222]

​@jonathanmcvay4499 except OP is referencing to HUMAN nature. Also, if you want to invoke the Animal Kingdom, you should also not avoid talking about the infanticide that happens in lions for example, or the "genocide" that rivalling chimpanzee groups inflict on each other. Nice try, though

[@evaweiss9557]

@@jonathanmcvay4499correct. But homosexuality doesn’t produce children.

[@Nonsensically]

I’m 62 and very glad my parents stayed together through thick & thin. Knowing adults who were products of divorce, they became very broken adults. Children first.

[@gailrodgers3079]

So right. Not only did my father abandoned us, he was fooling around with every woman he came across. We now know of 2 half-siblings and I am sure their were many more and they will find us if they do those DNA tests as that is how one found our half-brother.

[@jhutch1681]

Staying in a functional, happy relationship is great for the kids. Staying together in other circumstances can produce wounded adults, too.

[@nenep1872]

​@jhutch1681 the thing is you have to pray and work those issues out that is what marriage is about...

[@carmenvegatrashmagic]

@@nenep1872nope. sometimes it’s best for parents to get a divorce if it gets to the extreme (someone who came from divorced parents)

[@norbertsreignofterror9418]

​@@nenep1872 because praying is going to solve people hitting, abusing, manipulating and a whole range of other issues. Divorce should be mininized but that can only be so when people do their due dilligence when selecting a partner. When two dysfunctional adults "stay for the kids" thats hell on earth for children. There's no "working those issues out"

[@haffa777]

Children need love, care and respect. With mother and father, two fathers, two mothers, one or none. Who should decide this is the respective family circle. Your experience in life doesn’t dictated others experience. I Know people in your situation that have different views

[@janelle5127]

The circle was decided when GOD created the family. Mother, father and children

[@haffa777]

@@janelle5127 Your god is the creation of your imagination. It’s not real. Gay people are real.

[@petererskine4743]

The mother/child relationship is by far the most important one that exists. From the moment of birth the child's attachment to mother is incredibly strong and no male can be a substitute. The connection is biological, hormonal, wonderful.

[@AmyAndThePup]

It goes beyond that. Let's talk about while the child is in the womb. There are connections built--hearing the mother's voice, for one thing.

[@TanyaOsterman-hw9wv]

My dad didn't cry when his womb supplier died because she was a bigot.

[@5keeno]

Only in the first few years, after that it is by far the Father. Children need both Parents.

[@rignard]

@@AmyAndThePupYeah then the mother raises that child in a neglectful loveless drug and crime riddled environment, ahhh at least the child felt the mothers love in the womb

[@HuxtableTV]

You are describing the ideal. Some people will carry the burden of having had a 'superficial' mother throughout their lives. It never leaves.

[@natek3954]

Thank you so much for sharing your story!

[@maryomahony9027]

You are very brave to tell this story. It's important in today's world to speak the truth that children need a mother and a father, they bring different things to their children's lives. Thank you ❤

[@shatha.427]

I like that you conveyed such an important message in just under 3 minutes ❤

[@nothanks1239]

She has an ideal version of what a family should be, but it isn't like that for everyone even if the parent isn't homosexual. My father wanted nothing to do with me. She thinks that if she didn't have her two dads, she would have had the perfect family. It isn't the case for everyone. Some people have both parents and suffer abuse. I'd just be glad to have parents that loved me. We can all sit here and imagine having an ideal family. Just cherish the ones who matter. I don't sit around wishing my father was present. He wasn't a good man. My mother raised me by herself and I'm proud of her. I suffered being mocked as well, but I don't care. Kids mock you for anything.

[@heathernikki5734]

Your feelings don’t invalidate hers or her lived experience

[@nothanks1239]

@heathernikki5734 No, but I personally think she had a good life and she is seeking problems where there are none.

[@maury3733]

​@@nothanks1239 simply put, indeed. Objectively speaking her circuntances were better off than most kids with 1 or non parents present to succed on various aspects of life. She just doesnt see it or aprecciate it. In an ideal world, each kid should have a father and mother, both loving, present and stable, but ours is not that world.

[@fantasia243645]

​@@maury3733That's not true. Quite putting your limitations on her life. You didn't live it. Besides there are several adults in similar circumstances and they get hate all the time. I'm glad Samantha spoke her truth. She wanted her biological mother. Period. You don't get to diminish her perspective.

[@maury3733]

@@fantasia243645 Shes mixing things. Yes, Within an homoparental family, children need both gender roles through their whole upbringing. Yes, Some gay couples do fail to accomplish it No, that single thing doesnt disqualify the whole raising and nurturing done by them as she claims. Instead of denying more infant orfants of some sort of emotional and economic stability in their lifes, she should be the voice of that very need gays adoptes should enforce at home. Simple. Create solutions, no more problems. Such a pitty she didnt have a mom, that dont mean her parents did a bad job. If she doesnt want to accept her own good luck, why deny a child that opportunity?

[@behemothsbaby]

My cousin was brought up, nurtured and loved by my uncle when his mother left them when my cousin was a few months old. My cousin is well rounded, witty and warm because he was shown unconditional love by my uncle. My uncle found love again later in life and everyone is happy!

[@marietgagliardi]

Thats success out of tragedy. My issue is when it is planned that way

[@martinacaffrey4411]

Male cousin? Well of course he would.

[@behemothsbaby]

@@martinacaffrey4411 , sorry, I'm not following what you are saying…

[@battlehymnoftheempath3610]

​@marietgagliardi not all mothers are fit to be mothers. If the biological mother is neglectful, absent and doesn't want the child, it's not like we can genetically engineer a mother to take her place. Tragedy is when parents die in a care accident. It's time we remove this premium on motherho od because inevitably some children that are born to bad mothers will have to swallow the myth that their absent mothers are preferable to adoptive parents that actually love them.

[@alexsyed1530]

Why are you the judge of his life, I suppose your uncle is not gay either.

[@user-ii3vn8tn3q]

So leave the children in institutions, rather than let loving parents adopt. If you don't consider them the right parents. What a bitchy thing to do. Condemn a child to an institution because you didn't get the childhood you wanted. I was raised by mother and father and had a horrible child hood. It's not what you have as parents , it sWHO.

[@purple66666]

That's on YOU. I love my gay parents very much, AND I DON'T BLAME THEM because I am missing someone eho didn't give 2 shits about me!! 😡😡😡

[@thembeforeus9515]

We're sorry that your biological mom or dad you say doesn't care about you isn't healthy and loving. You deserved that.

[@ladyd8339]

There is truth in her story and she is entitled to this truth!

[@simplydanlrene4276]

@ladyd8339 Thank you for saying this. I can't believe the people making hateful comments about it.

[@maryrichards6166]

Just wish gay couples would listen to someone like her

[@HuxtableTV]

Yes. Her testimony is beautiful. But the heavy handed ideologists see a threat in the slightest differing opinion & come down heavily on it in an intolerant way. There are plenty of examples for this. The trans ideology is one. Generally, the more a certain trend receives some degree of acceptance, the more intolerant they themselves become towards everyone else.

[@colinmeehan791]

@@maryrichards6166 They wont because they both have issues.

[@UserHilux579]

Children are NOT puppies. Children are NOT accessories. ‘Nuff said.

[@yvonnerenoult1819]

My father died when I was 7. I fantasized about having a dad. I let being without a father define me for too many years. One day I decided to sit down and go through my life and look for the instances of being “fathered” in unexpected ways. I was surprised how much came to me of the fatherly guidance and support that was there being expressed by different people every step of the way. Being grateful for what I see as the Source of all Fathering and Mothering (call it what you may, I call it “God”), freed my thought and aching heart. I’ve learned to now look for the good and not miss it bcs I’m so busy regretting what I think I don’t have.

[@Skatejock21]

I appreciate this video. I read an article a few years ago from a then young woman. Who was raised by two women. She felt the same loss of the other gender. She explained that into her teen years, she would see her friends with their dads and always wondered what it was like to have a dad. She noticed protection they felt, there was a certain love that dads have that mothers cant. She also loved her mothers very much and said love wasn't what was lacking. She stated her basic needs were met but not having a father impacted her life. There truly needs to be a balance in the home of a mother and father. A child is entitled to have a mother and father and is repeatedly denied this today. Thank you for sharing your experience.

[@stephanievarela620]

So good to hear the truth...sad..but that' life Teresa a reason ony a man and a woman can biologically make babies. Gay people have to realise they cannot have children!! Have pets...

[@HuxtableTV]

Many things can impact lives, genes, for one. If you get a lemon, make a lemonade. Can you imagine the obstacles a P-tinian child has having lost all his family without knowing what happened. Then see 12 months old sitting in an makeshift emergency room, unable to stop shaking caused by the extreme trauma that obliterated his family. Yet, the child is wholly adorable, one you would immediately adopt & want to give a good life to. What options does this little child have.

[@leto8017]

I disagree. I don’t think children necessarily need both a mother and a father, as long as they have important female and male role models that are involved in their life. I.e grandparents, relatives, neighbors

[@kathleenocchiuto845]

I am sorry that this occurred to you! The love of a mother is so special. Thank you for your bravery in speaking up!

[@jkwjcw3ify]

So sorry for your loss. People are selfish and only think of their need. Speaking out for a childs rights is not hate against the adult(s) it's love and protection for the child. The world of humans, even natural parents are scary enough sometimes but people are always twisting it even more.

[@DoubleDogsBFF]

Said perfectly

[@soosoosooq]

How is the gender of your parents in any way harmful, how are couples who cannot have children naturally but desire to have one selfish-how are they any different than couples who want children and do have the ability to conceive

[@farmoboy83]

its not natural for sure but honestly, if a child is raised by 2 men or 2 women and they are both good parents, it is a lot better than being raised by a straight couple where one or both are absent or bad parent. There are also many straight couples that use their children as trophies or property.

[@DoubleDogsBFF]

This is her truth and her story.

[@Bearwithme560]

@@DoubleDogsBFF That's not a rebuttal.

[@nunterz]

@@DoubleDogsBFF it's her story but not her truth. The things she says aren't inconsequential, "her" truth is supposed to apply to others, so it cannot be considered just "hers".

[@Cheezegazelle]

It's not really about who loves who or who can give the most love here, but the overall need of a child to have 2 gender parents. Though not crushing out love since Love shouldn't be out of the equation, but there's something about the man, the woman can't give and same goes from the woman.

[@farmoboy83]

@@Cheezegazelle you know that many parents drom both genders can not give anything to a child. As a kid raised by traditional parents my father gave me nothing. It was my mother that took care of everything and father was physically present but nothing else. So, having two parents from both genders means very little and assures nothing at all

[@ShaunHensley]

1:07 interestingly enough, about half of all men miss out on having a daily connection with their father

[@coppersulphate002]

And it impacts them negatively....most men involved in delinquent behavior don't have a father. Whereas most well rounded succesful men have a father and a mother who are present and kind. At the end of the day every single child needs a mother, father who are present, kind and respectful to 'em. If any one of these are missing then this changes the dynamics in the order of things and thus we end up having a problems in the family We must not put into question the very fabric of our existence an humanity but rather analyze critically what could potentially perforate and destroy this fabric Abuse, trauma, health problems, politics, wars, crime, poverty, state of the economy are some examples of contributing factors of what can destroy families

[@limop20]

it is fundamentally evil and wrong to claim a child can do without a mother. It's cruel. It's beyond heartbreaking. Thank you for speaking up!

[@Andre-zd8ke]

Some mothers and fathers are fundamentally evil. Some mothers and fathers are mentally unable to raise a child. Some children's parents may have died. So what's the best solution for the child then? Yep, adoption by people who can proved love & stability. Gay or otherwise.

[@keithgiblin2636]

@@Andre-zd8ke Thank you! Finally, words of wisdom.

[@hereweare9096]

@@Andre-zd8keI think this is about children not having what they needed. In this case this lady needed a mother. She was denied that. She states she loved her parents /dads yet still very much missed having a mother in her life. Children need both a mother and a father.

[@rignard]

@@Andre-zd8ke Your comment is spot on

[@HuxtableTV]

It is the most misogynistic idea that has ever existed. Nonetheless, there are plenty of kids who grow up without a 'perfect' childhood environment. It is a matter of degrees of many 'moving' pieces. I would think, good mothers & fathers are of cardinal importance.

[@kats_journey_00]

I agree. I honour your courageousness for speaking up about this. I hear you. I see the pain in your eyes. I lost my mother at 12 and even though I was fortunate to have her for that long, it wasn't long enough and I longed for a mother. At 60, I still do. It shaped me, my choices, and my life in ways that would have been so different had she lived longer.

[@dawnknox4640]

I understand my father passed away when I was 14. I'm 60 now, and it was hard on my mother and us kids 6 in all. Having both parents a mother and a father is very important.

[@HuxtableTV]

Parents have to be emotionally present. Merely being there sort of in body will not quite do. Parenting & growing can be rated on a scale of 0% to 100%. Obviously, 85% is preferable to 15%.

[@Wandjina104]

I had a mother and father. Believe me this does not guarantee a safe environment for a child. Rather two gay men who would protect and raise me in a safe environment than the deal that I got.

[@JasmineSurrealVideos]

Same, I had an abusive mother and absent father.

[@mikescollard6499]

She is telling you the deal she got had implications as well.

[@ExpansivenessofLight]

​@@mikescollard6499 no she is implying that every child needs a mother and father....and has anger about her not having a mom. Everyone has their own life journey and none of us can speak for the whole.

[@chrispoe27]

As a gay man, I will give you your freedom of speech and you have every right to voice this and all concerns. I ask of you however that you hit all the marks and not come solely after gay men. If your concerns are true and genuine then you should also be against single parent households.

[@TheSwissChalet]

She is.

[@judykinsman3258]

My mother was a nightmare. A pathological liar & cared about no one but herself. My dad bowed to her to keep peace. It was a miserable childhood that scared me for life.

[@milanka882]

Your mother sounds like my mother. My mother was also blind and knew how to play the blindness card to boot. But at the same time, children need a mother and a father and that is just nature. I do understand though, that sometimes, due to circumstances, it may not always be the biological parents. But they still need both a male and a female in the home.

[@BunnyRabit-yo3lx]

❤Sorry to hear this 😢. Thanks for sharing. Hope you can heal.

[@cpSharkBlast]

Look up borderline personality disorder

[@angie-dm3bo]

​@cpSharkBlast my mom has this and it was a life of hell and poverty with an absent father to boot! I don't see nothing wrong with 2 gay parents that are emotionally stable and providing financially for the child in a healthy environment

[@suewomack5960]

same. that means we were raised WITHOUT a mother cuz my mom n yours were definitely not mothers. and yes, we NEEDED a mother n still do

[@donnawark386]

Speaking out about this is courageous in this confused world, were simple truth is distorted. I appreciate your honesty. I can feel your pain. I hope you know how amazing you are for taking such a brave step. Your words will make a difference and help others.

[@alisonberry4769]

Children need both a mother and father.as anybody who has raised children know that children relate differently to their mother and father.sadly we live in a fallen world and the best situation for children doesn’t always happen .children thrive when they are unconditionally loved and feel secure and protected and are being parented!

[@ruthmontes514]

​@@1953childstarThe alternative could have been being adopted by a man and woman also.

[@therealvlad505]

Meh. I would have preferred a loving, nurturing gay couple over my narcissistic abusive mother.

[@thembeforeus9515]

Why wouldn't you simply prefer your mom to be healthy and loving?

[@8bitky43]

Imagine putting in all the work to raise and love a child to the best of your ability, and they still turn out to be an ungrateful little shit because one of you didn't have a vagina.

[@orphansparrow2]

@@thembeforeus9515 Because love from any parent is preferable to no love from biological parents. We can wish and wish, but can't change reality.

[@thembeforeus9515]

@@orphansparrow2 Sure. But love of bio parents is preferable to love from other adults. Right?

[@ktostam35]

​@@thembeforeus9515 Here's the thing you're missing. The chances of these abusive, non loving parents loving their kids are much smaller then the chances of other people, who also went through abuse/pain/trauma because of something they do not control loving and caring about them. These people are aware of that, that's why they claim that they'd prefer growing up raised by two men or two women than by their own parents. They know the wish for their bio parents' love is nearly unrealistic. They know that random strangers who adopt you might treat you so much better.

[@alisoncanty1894]

Thank you so much for being brave enough to tell your story. Please keep telling it no matter what anyone says. ❤❤

[@alicerose6640]

You can never underestimate the love of a mother. This poor woman was robbed of a very powerful connection that only mothers can give. As a grandmother and mother myself, I am incredibly proud of this woman's honesty and willingness to stand firm on her beliefs. It's time to reaffirm the value of males and females, as parents and the importance of both, in a child's life.

[@simplydanlrene4276]

@@igortirkajla8042 The problem is we do not know how she ended up with her dad and his male friend and neither do you. We just know she was very hurt by it. Try a little compassion instead of attacking people. She definitely was robbed of her mother whether it be her mother leaving , she was pushed out, whatever. And the hurt is what is important.

[@Vingul]

@@simplydanlrene4276 We don't even know if either of her "dads" is her actual father.

[@chainsawbetty]

@@1953childstar How ironic you state the woman was mentally ill, yet the father was gay...this woman deserved better!! Abomination.

[@chainsawbetty]

@@igortirkajla8042 Yes she was robbed--they "purchased" a poor innocent child, which is even worse. Abomination!

[@Jay-Kay-Buwembo]

Her mother abandoned her though! That's not the fault of her father.

[@xtian384]

I was raised by a gay father, whom I just lost, and I miss him so much. We were inseparable and I am so grateful for all he has done for me and all the unconditional love I have received.

[@daw60-gx3fo]

The point the lady makes is entirely right as an overriding principle in my view, though this will not diminish the experience of the exceptions such as yourself that will occur.

[@HelloKitty-jz5gm]

Her point is that children need a mother and a father.

[@alsmith9853]

​@@richardlaiche8303who said she's doing that? She has a right to speak her opinion just as much as you

[@xtian384]

@@HelloKitty-jz5gm my point is that you don’t necessarily do. Every case is different. Just because you hear a voice that coincides with your own, it doesn’t make it a choir.

[@xtian384]

@@alsmith9853 everyone has the right to speak and share their experience. That doesn’t make it the rule.

[@Kaisforeignadventures]

I was raised by my mother and grandmother two women. My father didnt want to have anything to do with me. I turned out fine because i had more love than most people with a mother and a father. So your feelings although valid are your personal feelings and doesn't reflect everyone. I thrived just fine.

[@gwenshin]

I too never had a father, and never felt any lack thereof. It was only when people acted like I was somehow "defective" because I was raised by a single mom that I felt bad about it. The only bad thing is when you're a teen girl men see you as vulnerable prey when you don't have a father to protect you. But then again, I heard from girls who did have fathers that creepy men bothered them too, even though they had fathers. It was mostly socital stigma that bothered me. If inconsiderate rude people wouldn't have acted like it was "wrong" not to have a dad, then I would have never felt bad about it at all.

[@firecloud77]

You had a mother. She did not. So your feelings although valid are your personal feelings and doesn't reflect everyone.

[@Kaisforeignadventures]

@@firecloud77 And? I had no father and she did. She's also a woman and I'm a man. Did you actually understand my comment? Her personal feelings although valid also doesn't reflect everyone. There is no difference between her and me so again my comment still stands.

[@firecloud77]

@@Kaisforeignadventures You delineated the difference between her and you, and then declared that there is no difference between her and you. Odd. Furthermore, It seems that you think your exception invalidates the rule.

[@Kaisforeignadventures]

@@firecloud77 When I say there is no difference I'm talking about being raised by two same sex parents. You really have no good argument as all you have done is just regurgitate the same thing I said but in reverse. Unless you were raised by same sex parents you really don't have anything valuable to add to the discussion.

[@aliciahumpherys4916]

Scream it from the rooftops, beautiful soul. You speak the truth. Thank you. Children are entitled to be raised by a loving mother and father. Both roles are crucial, both are relevant, both are necessary.

[@cindymay4606]

Exactly, a father can never be a mother. Every child needs a mother. It's called natural Law and has been like that for thousands and thousands of years

[@ragieburger-kc4lo]

And it is God's will for us.

[@MikeBarat-u5n]

@@ragieburger-kc4lo What about divorce or an early death by one parent? It is better with one of each kind of parent, however that's not always going to be the case, that's called reality. Plus, there's a lack of people adapting children currently, without gay people the problem would become worse not better. It may not be idea, but gay people can raise find up standing children, there's also videos of people who had good childhoods being raised by gay people.

[@rignard]

@@MikeBarat-u5nI have friends who were raised by gay parents. Both situations the kids grew up heterosexual and are happy parents now.

[@HuxtableTV]

@@MikeBarat-u5n Nothing was said by her that you should be so riled up about.

[@exgaywatch]

@@ragieburger-kc4lo What then do you say to someone who is part of another faith entirely? Or perhaps has no belief system? Or is of yours but a different sect? Ours is a country based on a secular government and judicial system. Are you going to force your view of God onto others? If so, what happens when those from the other faith start forcing you to play by their rules? This is why we keep religion and government walled off, for the protection of both.

[@wilkinsmicawber9541]

Yet more proof willpower and ideology can't change the nature of human beings.

[@Abmafatima]

I feel you! Imagine that when I wrote on the forum that a child needs both a mother and a father, NO ONE wanted to understand me :( What's more, they shouted at me that the most important thing is that the child is loved and of course I agree with that, but I couldn't explain to them that the child won't last forever. happy because he will miss his mother or father! Where do we live that people can't understand this?

[@lenmcgeachie3212]

I agree that a loving mother and father is what’s best for a child. Was this lady adopted? If she was and the two men are loving parents isn’t that better than being in an orphanage or foster care?

[@EeveelutionStorm]

You assume they were loving. You also assume adopted kids are like dogs. Adopted kids have needs adults often overlook deliberately because it's not going to matter to them. There's a lot of black kids adopted by white parents who aren't taken care of because they don't see color supposedly but will refuse to take care of the kids hair. A child isn't a commodity. Just because they adopted her doesn't mean adoption is ideal for every child. And like it or not, a child can grow to resent their parents. Attachment issues and trauma happens with adoptees a lot. Sounds like her adoption was seriously traumatizing and we don't know if she didn't get deprived of things. People have decided randomly that instead of an open adoption they'll hide the child's bio mother from them out of jealousy. Like it or not she has the right to say hey not every kid growing up like this was happy or loved. A lot of adopted parents treat their kids adoption like getting a dog, telling those traumatic stories to anyone who will listen. Don't you think it's messed up how adoption is viewed the same for kids as it is for animals?

[@flameofthewest6196]

Children need both dads and moms. For example my father was alcoholic and my mom divorced when I was 7. My mom was wonderful, and I had great uncles who did thier best to "fill in", but I wanted a father more than anything, even though I knew my mom did absolutely the right thing by kicking him out.

[@nenep1872]

Your father needed help... I'm sorry for everything you went through

[@mariaalfonsi4746]

Thankyou for being brave Samantha & telling your story & being truthful!

[@sonjam1723]

Thank You very much for Your experience. Ppl really need to hear this, because almost all had forgotten how important the role model of a mother and father is in childs life.

[@hiddenhand6973]

You’re giving me great hope as a family friend was recently a surrogate for a baby who is being raised by two men. It breaks my heart so I just pray for her well-being. Thank you for sharing your story despite any blowback you might receive for it.

[@mikescollard6499]

Was she paid? They're always paid in some way.

[@garysmith394]

@@mikescollard6499 Who cares? It's not a question of money.

[@mikescollard6499]

@@1953childstar She was taken from her mommy at birth.

[@mikescollard6499]

@@garysmith394 The commercialization and trafficking of babies is about money. Dah.

[@garysmith394]

@@1953childstar She was still raised in an unnatural situation, which could also be considered abusive since she now has permanent emotional scars.

[@MiguelDLewis]

A child needs one mom and one dad.

[@TanyaOsterman-hw9wv]

You're right. And when one of them dies when the kid is little, the end.

[@10iggie]

​@@TanyaOsterman-hw9wvThe memory of your Mother lasts forever even If she didn't make it through labor and neither you nor anyone can change that !

[@TanyaOsterman-hw9wv]

@@10iggie No one remembers anything from before age three. Give me a break.

[@10iggie]

@@TanyaOsterman-hw9wv Don't be simple minded ! You'll know your whole life you were born of a mother , not a tree nor your father and You'll cherish her forever even if you never really got to meet her for she's real and she gave you life the most precious gift ever !

[@TanyaOsterman-hw9wv]

@@10iggie And she's the reason for all the bad, too, then.

[@clairerobin6207]

I had an alcoholic father and a mother with narcisissitic personality disorder. It was a living hell that's taken lifetime to heal from. I would rather be raised by two men who love each other OR two women who love each other than live through that hell again. It has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with the ability to love, which neither of my parents possessed.

[@Memory5992]

Thank you! Finally a well balanced response! 👍🙏

[@Andre-zd8ke]

Most of the anti-gay adoption comments on any social media platform are driven by the one thing that shouldn't be a determining factor, and that's religion. The situation at hand and the ability of providing stability & love of those who raise the child should be the only considerations.

[@Brosepha]

Or you could just have had normal non abusive father and mother.

[@clairerobin6207]

@@Brosepha My point is, being gay doesn't make a bad parent. Any parent can be a bad parent, gay has nothing to do with it.

[@rignard]

A friend of mine was raised by 2 moms. Shes completely happy and married . Another friend , a male, was raised by 4 moms lol. Hes doing great

[@TheSparky777]

At least they stepped up and provided for you after your biological parents for whatever reason couldn’t/wouldn’t take care of you. That’s more than what a lot of other people had.

[@TheSparky777]

@@mmf8064 For real. I feel bad for her parents.

[@thembeforeus9515]

"My father snuck me out of a diner in Albuquerque, NM while my mother was in the bathroom. My father moved me around quite a bit and stayed off the grid as much as possible to avoid detection from my mother. " thembeforeus.com/samantha/

[@TheSparky777]

@@thembeforeus9515So if her dad did the exact same thing but had a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend, it would be okay? It’s so bizarre that you’re taking an individual kidnapping situation and using it as a way to attack gay parents in general.

[@thembeforeus9515]

@@TheSparky777 Just trying to help folks making ignorant comments.

[@TheSparky777]

@@thembeforeus9515 You didn’t answer my question. Is the problem that her father kidnapped her or that he happened to have a boyfriend? Also, why is this very specific situation representative of same sex couples raising children or getting married?

[@GrammaSheila5]

Very respectful way to explain truth ... sorry you have been attacked for sharing the truth.

[@Vingul]

@@1953childstar and gave her two gay guys for "dads" instead. So much for "protection". At least she got lucky, all things considered.

[@wcwright44]

My mom died when I was 3 and my father died when I was 11. He was an alcoholic. You had parents who loved you.

[@KAZHE63]

Wow, so judgmental! Deal with your own issues.

[@KasieMusic]

KAZHE63 your comment is judgemental. How can you write something like this? Did you not understand, this person lost mom and dad as a child? "I'm very sorry for you" would have been more appropriate!

[@Redwarfa]

So did the loss of a mother and a father affect you

[@starlight4036]

@@wcwright44 she’s lucky to have parents period .

[@solarydays]

@@starlight4036 she doesn't have parents. she has people who bought her to be a prop in their life. do we really need to advocate for this stuff when there are already people like you and your parents around doing damage ?

[@jessmo23]

God bless you Samantha. ❤

[@sammymendis475]

Listen y'all. She wouldn't have had her fantasized version of a mother, if she grew up in the orphanage either. Nor a dad.

[@alexandervelez9507]

exactly which is why i’m confused at her argument. those gay men didn’t stop her mother from being her mother. she wouldn’t have had her either way but at least they tried their best to make it up. a child with two dads is much better off than a child in perpetual foster care.

[@PatWalters-g2q]

Thank you for bravely and sincerely telling the truth. Not just your truth. The truth. Be blessed.

[@keithgiblin2636]

The truth is that *many* families face difficulties. Her parents would not have made this decision lightly.

[@sheryl7837]

My heart breaks for your loss of a mom. You are correct that no man can take the place of a mom. Please keep spreading your message of truth about gay adoptions.

[@DoubleDogsBFF]

​@1953childstar she's talking about kids needing a fit mom and dad, not any other scenarios

[@jennifernordlund2691]

@sheryl7837 this is HER story. Not some universal truth about all homosexual parents. Your simplistic comment sounds foolish.

[@sheryl7837]

@@jennifernordlund2691 the truth IS simple. Too bad you missed the point.

[@jennifernordlund2691]

@@sheryl7837 I understand your point. I disagree with it. You don't get to decide what the "truth" is about all gay adoptions. Not everyone is a bigot.

[@sheryl7837]

@@jennifernordlund2691 you are welcome to disagree, that doesn’t change anything.

[@adrianmasters250]

I keep telling people this but nobody wants to listen, thank you for speaking out because it's only from the adults who used to be these children that anyone will listen to how bad this is for a kid to go through, whether the parents loved them or not it's like denying a child an essential nutrient and slowly starving them of something vital

[@thembeforeus9515]

You're one of US! www.thembeforeus.com < Get involved, we need your voice!

[@anxanh]

Ok it's your opinion. Just 2 days ago, I found a video of a man called Ben explained that he loves and admires his 2 gay parents so much, because thanks for their adoption, he has a family and future. Now he has his girl friend and happy life but still visit his parent often. And in my opinion, children must got good parenting, no matter the gender of them. And finally, here a toxic note: You actually have your own parent, let's find them, love them, ask why they left you, why they let you got parent love from other parent. You actually You are more greedy and ungrateful than you think. Many other children grow up at orphanage, and maybe they want to be loved like you was. Your parent should not adopted you, poor them

[@Brineytoes]

I heartily applaud your courage in speaking out. It is a common experience we all need to learn from. I hope your voice is heard in all quarters. I also hope you at least had a loving grandmother. Grandparents in this situation; please help those kids adopted byy gay couples.

[@dietriamichelle494]

That’s the big issue. Every child needs a mom and dad. Let these children have been parents it’s selfish not to.

[@adrianainespena5654]

Sometimes the "mom and dad" combo is not available. Too many children who are wards of the court can testify to that. And you want to take away one option for a family life, because it is not perfect in your view. Nice viewpoint "Since Mercedes is a better car than a Chevy, those who cannot afford a Mercedes should walk" Or as they say "the best is the enemy of the good"

[@ElectricSoul828]

I have been saying this for a long time, children need both a mother and a father.

[@jhutch1681]

Sure, in an ideal world. But single parents are a reality too, due to unintended pregnancy, divorce or death. Those kids need love just as they are.

[@bryantlane8646]

GOD THE FATHER THINKS SO TOO/HIS WAYS ARE SO PRECIOUS PURE AND BALANCED.DR.BRYANT LANE.EPHESIANS 6 VERSE ONE-THREE..APOSTLE PAUL.

[@stevecarson4162]

@@bryantlane8646 : Stop shouting. And quoting your ancient book of quaint fairytales proves NOTHING whatsoever.

[@Beatit19]

In an ideal world, dee la la, dont we all wish it were always so? When it isnt, you count your blessings of at least having one biological parent who cares, a grandparent, adoptive parent(s), or yes even two loving gay parents who care for you, and keep you from harm and away from the foster care system which we all know is a cesspit of abuse and neglect with not one person dedicated to you and your wellbeing. I just cannot even believe this video and these comments.

[@jtarantula3390]

But not every body deserves to be a parent