Ram Dass - On Relationships

Ram Dass delves deep into the topic of relationships. He discusses the yoga of relationships, appreciation versus judging, soulmates and "falling into love". He touches on the topic of marriage // monasticism, the spiritual meanings of commitment, overcoming the limitations of deep expression, and much more. Recorded in the Summer of 1989 as apart of 'The Listening Heart' retreat series.
00:00 - Intro
00:15 - Maintaining integrity and identity in a relationship
15:10 - Belief in soulmates
32:01 - Avoiding manipulating others
36:47 - Student surrendering to teacher
50:31 - “Do I have a soulmate?”
54:11 - Difference between marriage and living together
59:54 - Conscious and Supportive Relationships on the Path to God
1:07:34 - “Is our inability to express internal impulses inherent or culturally informed?”
1:13:52 - The similar challenges men and women face today
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[@Matthew-mf6xg]

This man practically saved my life through his teachings. He'll never die.

[@Evolvingwithin777]

Him, Alan watts and Terrance McKenna are legends. They will always live on through the right people

[@Matthew-mf6xg]

@@Evolvingwithin777 yes can't forget Alan Watts, what an amazing philosopher. McKenna is good too if you're into psychedelics. They're all beautiful souls.

[@deo8886]

Ditto

[@josephuia]

This man absolutely saved my life with his teachings, I can relate my friend. And a friend of mine met with Ram Dass and told him this from me, and Ram Dass broke down into tears on hearing this... so you can feel heard by him too 😉

[@saskiakarels4184]

​@@josephuia, now I feel he would too by hearing my story and your words are healing right now... thank you ❤

[@mt.annalogue]

i love how this remains relevant and how the tapes are still published and people are waking up and opening up to love thorugh Ram Dass and Neem Karoli Baba

[@doritoz98]

❤

[@amyward888]

😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮

[@CaptainPhilosophical]

Me too Anna. Namaste.

[@michaelrhine8580]

T BBC z c

[@timmy1874]

timeless

[@tassopicasso6123]

Everyone of you are beautiful souls. I hope everyone reading this knows that you are loved. Have a kind day!

[@CaptainPhilosophical]

I love you too 😊 Namaste

[@shameer3044]

❤ Same to you

[@mattieboris1804]

❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@rosemarymacphee6646]

He is still here, his message, his spirit. I love him.

[@weegreeneyes3196]

I have connected with him through a soul I met and he is helping me on my journey

[@mezlandia]

@@weegreeneyes3196we are all helping each other on our journeys 🙏🏻

[@Infinityflowyoga]

We often say don’t be a dead living person, but rather be a living dead person. Ram Dass’ physical body has left us but his message and truth lives on ❤

[@ciaraskeleton]

I have found my people ❤ When you leave such teaching and enlightenment, you're never gone. Just in a different form now.

[@BuBu-uz9qi]

First they don't want anyone know about Ukraine, me and Vatican. If they win China , they will attack Russia after Russia is lost. Suddenly, they attack India by the tanks same as Russia attack Ukraine while Ukraine didn't repair on Feb 2022 and then they will attack Japan, Viet Nam, Korea, Taiwan , Middle East and Africa. Because We don't have the paper work about the win but the paperwork just say we corporate with them . If they are serious . They must tell Taiwan, Philippines, Korea and Japan stop fighting. The reason they don't say because it is a best chance to attack those countries due to low weapons. Anyway, I have a question to Taiwan. Do you have a contract with them that Taiwan will take over China or China is belong to them either half of the land??,,?,??? Because their tanks will enter into the India .Another word, their army is on our land. Lastly; after they United all nations. They will announce to the public about the Vatican But we already forgot the bad deed of Vatican by that time same as Zeleski will claim himself Jesus. The bad thing to us , we might become their slaves because we don't have any one help us. Do you remember the Black slaves in the History.??

[@donilexington4600]

He's still here with us. Where could he go? He just dropped his body, it's no big deal. 😁🙏❤️

[@shadabonea]

I realise in the purest form that I love Ram Dass, as I am overjoyed to see many other people do. In that, I believe we reestablish our singularity 💜🖤🧡

[@AJScraps]

You singlehandedly brought my Mother to tears (happy tears?) with how poignantly you described the way imposing an agenda or model on to another creates an unconscious paranoia in them. Thank you dearly🙏

[@agape_music]

Keep coming back to this, slowly it sinks in, slowly I hear what he says. I hope to live it out in my relationship before parting ways.

[@BabaRamDassChannel]

Admin here - Really feeling the sincerity of your comment - Thank you!

[@agape_music]

We found us - again... grace

[@agape_music]

Then we broke up after weeks of blissful new self knowledge. Then we met again and right now are more intimate, honest and authentic than ever. It just keeps getting deeper every time I listen to this.

[@cjdingojames3715]

' no matter where you go, there you are '

[@haraldbredholt9402]

How wonderful it is to feel that you are right there with these people back in 1989 in that room. I feel I am right there laughing together with them, laughing at the silly nature of my ego and the way that it keeps creating dramas and conflicts between myself and other people. Ram Dass words of wisdom makes me remember that there is only one of us, and that the nature of that one, is love. Have a wonderful day, and love to you all!

[@sowmyak5591]

🙏🙏🙏 In my inward journey, I found Ram Dass a few months ago . And I have had many Aha moments. I also feel differently from within. It all make sense to me. It’s as if he says things that I knew and could not articulate. Jai Hanuman 🙏🙏🙏

[@Evolvingwithin777]

You should listen Alan Watts and Terrance McKenna too

[@derekyoung4729]

As a 55 year old man with a string of relationships + conententedly single currently this has been a game changer.. loved the 'truthful relationship' concept.. of which I've had just 2 i think.. a beautiful soul who passed away + a close friend who is moving to the other side of the world soon.. thank you Baba Ram Dass

[@rickiefeatherstone]

I love Ram Dass. Despite his passing, his light still sheds a way for those of us seeking truth.

[@alexforrest4551]

I love this guys real and openness to say how it is for him . Real life stuff . RIP brother ❤

[@Maximus-gp7td]

Thank you God for Ram Dass...

[@princesshumbletor]

What a men he was and what a spirit he is !

[@Evolvingwithin777]

Legends never die

[@JiggaPoppin-sp5lp]

"man"

[@malyberation]

This is the most powerful talk I’ve ever listened to 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@icebox_Intruder]

Heard of Ram Dass before, but never followed or heard or knew anything of him other than his name. His name was mentioned recently and then I came across a live stream lofi video which continually played his talks and views, etc, and I ended up binging on him for days. I love his thoughts and articulation.

[@mindheartlens2350]

Come on in 🕉️

[@starofazure5597]

That’s how we all got here ❤ We’re all just walking each other home

[@madilopez7492]

Listening to Baba Ram Dass always heals my heart ❤

[@JennieStrahan]

❤love you Ram Dass

[@ahutch3835]

💕 you Jennie Strahan

[@csc677]

❤️

[@gg-xb5pu]

Ily

[@Jess-pp4xb]

Awesome I hope to apply this to myself and accept others and love without expectation but understand that my negative feelings come from my own problems within myself -

[@LoveEarthHereAndNow]

13:18 "No expectations, no upset".

[@JasonWilliams-ro8nm]

This whole room is awesome. Namaste friends

[@enyab.6939]

Namaste 🙏 We are all travelers on the journey, may we travel well together well. Definitely agreed with you, Ram Dass. Process. 🌺🙏 Transformation. 🌺🙏

[@sibongilemapikitla8905]

No expectations,No upset ❤

[@vistian]

Interesting to find this on today of all days. I'm not saying anything mystical, but just that it came at the right time.

[@buihemadu]

This whole thing...this lecture. The questions and answers addressed here confirm and affirm so much of what I've known in my heart of hearts about relationships and how they're supposed to work. So grateful that Ram Dass put in the hours and work to distill truth in a way that still keeps on giving. 🙏

[@RealTalk-mq2ug]

I think, for the very first time in my life, at 43 years old, I UNDERSTAND there's a difference between LOVE and DESIRE. Desire requires: 1. Strengths: flirty, confident, cute, funny, sexy, wholesome. 2. Fearlessness. I have confidence in my coping if you hurt me, and I have the power to hurt you too. So let’s not hurt each other. 3. Here’s what I love about my body. I’m going to focus on accentuating what I have. Love requires: 1) Connection. 2) Compatibility. 3) Chemistry.

[@weegreeneyes3196]

❤

[@vickireithel]

This human so beautifully speaking to and sharing the Love within the Dance 🙏🏾 still here still here - Love every One 🙏🏽

[@DivineWhispers-333]

I read “Be Here Now” when I was 16 and it changed my life forever. That was 23 years ago

[@DieAerzteFreak17175]

"All of us are just souls hanging out in these funny packages."

[@TheEmily0erdbeer]

Wow, the last part about the differences between men and woman is mindblowing

[@klaraivanovich]

Ram Dass and his message ❤. Timeless

[@MaidenMacabre]

Thank you Baba Ram Dass for teaching us to smile as you do

[@alissafields3166]

Wow, Ram Dass! Such beauty! I love you!

[@janelouisewar3633]

Truth burns the food… I am Truth. Also, the part about God coming down to God is soulmates…paraphrasing that beautiful quote. Thank you. This was the unburned food.

[@mindysmith2087]

Wonderful! Thank you for sharing ❤🙏❤

[@labreaspivey3074]

Been listening to this man for years only to fully comprehend now. Thank you so much!!

[@dandy2405]

Love this!!!

[@labreaspivey3074]

Thank you for sharing this!

[@indirajpal4244]

Love this one thank you 🙏🏼

[@marypalmer1062]

The best thing about leaving is going home

[@terirobertson3342]

You always hit my heart 💜

[@sarvotampai5273]

Wow!! So Thankful for this great insight that comes at the right time,this is the first time I heard this definitely not the last.Will love to keep reminding myself of these beautiful teachings as often.Thank you for making it possible.🙏

[@saskiakarels4184]

What a great way to start my day!

[@jagirkaur6216]

Love you my old friend Ram dass, love you all it's wonderful listening together being one.

[@BabaRamDassChannel]

We at the channel appreciate your listening!

[@djhoward8209]

Things I needed to know and hear thank you

[@TheOvenCoven108]

Really loved journaling while meditating and listening to this

[@greenio2011]

Thank you Ram Dass I love you❤

[@sydbarrat1676]

My guru is so funny ❤️

[@christinasati]

Bless you 🌈🌸❤️

[@Anita-hl5qj]

Thank you ❤

[@gregorallnight371]

Never forget the real goal of life is to become a truly enlightened being..no longer identified with or attached to the error prone ego-mind and body but thru deep meditation,proper teachings,prayer and the grace of God attaining oneness with the true Self,the immortal soul within,free forever from being trapped & enslaved in delusion,having to reincarnate over and over again into this crazy reform school zoo

[@asharajoriya8609]

Jai guru Dev ji 🙏🏼 Jai guru Dev ji 🙏🏼 Jai guru Dev ji 🙏🏼 Jai siya Ram 🙏 Jai babaji 🙏🏼 Jai siya Ram 🙏🙏🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💐💐🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 Jai siya Ram 🙏 Jai guru Dev ji 🙏🏼 Jai siya Ram 🙏🙏🙏🏼🙏🏼💐💐🙏🏼💐💐💐💐💐🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@brandikent9401]

Thank You ✨❤Ram Dass❤✨

[@navneetsinghgaur7358]

जय माँ महाराज जी

[@TheOhSoGorgeous]

Thank you

[@kyleerhard9284]

I love the Love over Wisdom 💕 heartfelt teachings of this man, it deepens my understanding of the Law of One material.

[@drewbeeSpirit]

I'm going to listen to this speech over and over again. So amazing of the things I appreciate you

[@BabaRamDassChannel]

We at the channel appreciate you listening

[@benzysmommy]

Love you Ram Dass

[@dirtywhitehorse]

I Love this. I was blessed to have that in my life partner

[@LeylaK777]

You are my guru❤

[@DonnaPatrick-hb9ut]

Yeah both ways, any relationship that is not of service & Kindness is not what I want. I choose real Enduring relationship, with argument only to get to easy & permanently in the bigger matters without degradation to my Spirit!❤

[@paulwangler4354]

In my own experience, "wanting a relationship" is just another stance the mind has taken. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with relationships, I just think they're unnecessary. I see them as ways the mind (out of habit) searches externally to help some part of us internally. Every time my mind produces a desire for a relationship, I view it as another thing the mind thinks it "needs" (like a bigger house, whiter teeth, more clothes, etc.), when in reality I know I don't need anything. Its simply another phenomenon that has spontaneously popped into my consciousness, and i let it go. And if my mind is really persistent, i give myself tons of love, because thats all it really wants anyway. I'm not saying it's the right way to go about things, it's just something I've observed. Kind of neat.

[@tamparks4]

Hello, keep doing what you're doing. It matters!

[@beastpoet4335]

What a timing

[@angelacadieux1972]

6 years 💔 I thought he was cheating on me. I turned out to be the other woman 💔. I loved him deeply. I haven't seen him for 6 months now and my heart still hurts. There's no contact now. This almost ruined me. I packed up my family and moved away from him. Not a day goes by that I don't think of him 💔

[@kathrynross6219]

Amazing

[@connergrant2298]

Live by example 🙏🏼

[@InstitutoWatts]

What a beautiful beautiful man, my goodness

[@bs5167]

Thank you 🙏❤️

[@BabaRamDassChannel]

We at the channel are grateful for your listening ears!

[@BabvBlues]

He’s taken me so far and the more I learn from him the farther I’ll go 🩵

[@dreamlessmusic3167]

my guru

[@kalpataru4781]

This channel is doing good job 👍

[@ElisPalmer]

Thx 🌟🕉🌟

[@cianoregan3037]

Ahhhh what a beautiful man !!!

[@thomquentinleigh]

Luv u Ram

[@Ankursharma-fm8ti]

Ram ram 🙏🌹🙏🌹🙏

[@Michael-ey4yu]

Namaste 😇

[@kathleenwharton2139]

The Soul is the Real Self. The Ego is the false self. Be Still within yourself and the Soul will surface!

[@baddreams3850]

I truly only use relationships as yoga for this reason. I have no desire for sex anymore after being in the one consciousness ❤

[@ghostintheshell21]

Thats a bit scary to be honest

[@SL-ws6gg]

One consciousness doesn’t mean getting rid of sexuality; it means appreciating all parts of being and living without being attached. But whatever works for you. 🙏

[@baddreams3850]

@@SL-ws6gg I understand that but it's truly something I can't help at this stage in my journey. Ram Dass said that it can happen to the more devotional focused practitioners. So far it hasn't changed, all women I see are the great mother and I just don't have the lust I used to. Clearly it's just different for different yogis. I'm not a "horny celibate" or anything to use a Ram Dass term. I simply enjoy the dance of all of it, and just because I have lost interest in sex doesn't mean I'm not burning through my desire trips, I just happened to get lucky enough for that trip to become uninteresting. Paraphrasing ram Dass again, once you have orgasm with the divine, no lover can come close.

[@rssrolo]

40:40 - pure brilliance

[@gabyguala]

❤❤❤❤❤love love love❤❤❤❤

[@forbiddenknowledgeseeker]

🙏

[@xuxiltamang7680]

Jai Baba Ram Dass

[@ibckishandubey4335]

Sita ram

[@paulwangler4354]

To anyone reading this, I became enlightened in 2 weeks by doing nothing other than holding onto the feeling of "I" for roughly 3-5 hrs a night. things will progressively become more and more beautiful, and your reality will turn into a mushroom trip, although you're completely sober. Ram dass's whole bit about giving maharashi acid, and it did nothing, well, same for me. I should mention that functioning in the world is extremely difficult in this plane, so be prepared. You will get used to it, but it's quite disorientating. I reincarnated as some guy from a very small town in North Dakota. Nothing special. If I can do it, so can you. Love you all ❤️

[@anid3v838]

I love this comment. I tried it the first time at 16. I was tripping hard and felt out of my mind. I didn’t drop again for two years and in that time i began my journey. I vividly remember how different i felt the second time. I felt so normal, and i credit that to taking time to be present within myself and within the world. It is beautiful.

[@paulwangler]

​@@anid3v838excellent! Enjoy your journey my friend

[@rorywilson3474]

this is a cheeky ram dass

[@marypalmer1062]

Yes! Break the chain. It's about breaking the chain. From 72 yr old white woman.

[@AlexanderThe6reat]

Straight gas

[@Yakuo]

🙏🌀🙏

[@motivationweightloss34]

❤

[@jayc326]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@tayrene8688]

1:02:00-1:05:00 That gentleman and I would be best of friends and lovers. Just my kinda partner 🤣 You can come to my retreats, honey 😌

[@solidaritytime3650]

It only is, and still i finds it sad that he didn't understand these things before leaving her.

[@solidaritytime3650]

Ah. So.

[@johnnoon9999]

at 43:00 somethin it cuts off suddenly and starts playin a different talk!

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🤘🤘🤘🤘

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🥰

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🙏❣️ ✌️

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🌼🌹❤️

[@JCResDoc94]

34:00 truth contracts in good faith. _JC