RE: coming out archive

[@Roamer2007]

thanks for your story, i am glad that you found the inner strength to tell your dad the truth about your orientation cause it is not an easy step. you know dads always have some sort of version of the future for their children and they get very frustrated when eventually it does not work out the way they dreamed or wished, so they need time to overcome this. some dads can accept the reality and some can't. I hope that everything is rock'n'roll now between you and your dad.

[@citizensnetskyfish]

Thanks for sharing, it means a lot. And your relationship with your dad will get lots better. And always remember that there are hundreds of us online to love and support you. Love!

[@TnDon]

I knew the overview of this story, but not the details. I love you for telling this, Michael. I hope you'll tell us the rest of the story in future videos....your Mom's reaction, your twin brother's reaction, etc. I look forward to hearing the rest. Hugz!

[@itsBabygun]

For what its worth, I think that its amazing that you are so comfortable with yourself that you can share something so personal. I really appreciated it. I am really glad that you are happy and that you can live your life honestly. I just wanted to jump through the screen and hug you. I am really happy that you are happy.

[@jenibo44]

aww, hugs. i'm glad you are who you are. i wish we knew each other. you're so brave and strong... telling such a big secret to your parents is terrifying, and you did it! it's really more amazing than it sounds. i can't even cry in front of my parents anymore, because it's like this big, dark secret that i sometimes get sad. hahah. i admire you, michael hartz.

[@PinkEightBall]

You are very courageous to have come out, and we're all proud of you here in the youtube community. I am extremely lucky having such an accepting family. We all love you Michael and we're so grateful that you are yourself. dont ever change! BESOS

[@EddusPoet]

thanks for filming this, it's great to get honest accounts of coming out. I hope everything is better by now with your dad.

[@JessieSaysSo]

I'm glad youre so comfortable with yourself that you can share this with us

[@blainebill39]

@HartzProductions I can't help but being so proud of you my friend! The world you will be "out" in is a far less hostile place than that which I came out in as a boy! When I was not yet 18, I met and fell in love with a boy named Bobby Griffith(Prayers for Bobby). His family at the time was dogmatically religious, and the pain of the closet was unbearable for him. He took his own life in 1983!

[@Jagamp]

All I want to say is that I admire you so much. Coming out to family is probably the hardest thing to do. They are always going to be part of your life and we all fear what their reaction is going to be.

[@giygas666]

I'm happy you were finally able to accept yourself. I was a bit of a late bloomer too; I was a few months shy of 21 and sometimes wonder what might've been if I'd come out sooner.

[@BobStockYT]

At the least, your Dad didn't lie to you, or verbally attack you. I will give that much to him. It's hard - he grew up in a different time. When "late bloomers" were often 40 to 50 years old, after one or more marriages. It took my Dad a few months, but I didn't suffer that rejection that you did. Thank you for telling your story! It's personal, and honest - one of the best things to find on KZbin. Hugs

[@nickbrown2k2]

Very personal and touching. Thank you for sharing.

[@musicalmist]

I hope things are getting better with your dad. You're right, just give him some time and he'll get used to it. At least you have your friends to support you. ^_^

[@qbambina06]

It went really really well. I was incredibly surprised, and I feel like I'm on top of the world right now :)

[@sfb001]

Michael was really open with this...I would have been balling my eyes out telling this story. You are his son...period. Even if you are sexing a tree...you are his son.

[@daviemx51234]

i know you posted this long time ago, but i just saw it. i am so proud of you. be proud of being who you are. it was so hard for me too. i love you

[@vanness5]

Polish people have to be welcoming and nice on Xmas eve, it's part of the culture, so I came out to my folks the day before xmas. They forced me actually by coming to visit on christmas, I was not going to celebrate the holiday without my boyfriend. hahaha. It was wierd but over time they came around. living 3000 miles apart helps too. Sorry It went like it did for you, I send you hugs brother, coming out stories that don't go super well make me a little sad.

[@brentbraniff]

I came out back when it still wasnt cool to come out ..It was even less cool considering where I live (North Dakota). it was tuff for a long time. Now, my Mom and I can talk about it but its best to not say much to my Dad. He still thinks that all I need is the right woman. Oh well, thats just his generation talking..at least thats what I keep telling myself. Thanks for telling your story. Its always good to hear others experiences with coming out.

[@user-jr2iu7ks3x]

Thank you for sharing. Very touching.

[@skatmatt]

Ugh, Michael. I love you even more now.

[@straub11]

i saw this link on your 5ag video and i was hanging on your every word. my cousin also came out a while ago and it took my aunt and uncle about 5 years, but they came around. just have patience. i subscribed as well :)

[@watchdog2007]

very personal... intimate really u make us proud

[@fetchmemyaxe]

I was lucky in the sense that i supported myself since i was 16 years old. I wasn't particularly attatched to my parents so coming out wasn't as difficult for me. If my parents had rejected me i would've just said fuck it. You've only got one life - live it for you. The only thing i hated about coming out was talking about my private life to my parents; im intensely guarded when it comes to family members. so saying hey mom i like cock was like being naked in public.

[@HiRoBiRo11]

*huuuuuuuuuuug* from one asian to another =DD i hope your realationship between you and your father gets better and better :] we love you so much michael!

[@qbambina06]

i'm coming out to my dad tonight

[@JeremyScottThompson]

i really want to tell my parents but many a times my parents have talked about grand kids etc...i just dont want to be a disappointment...me and my dad have never got on great but hes still my dad...my mum i love and dont want to hurt but ive told her im focusing on uni work but love is love and it doesnt bother me if its a guy or a girl...she looked at me and continued talking about he day at work :S

[@superlupp]

i never came out, ive always felt doing that would have been like asking for acceptance, my brother was drunk and asked me cause he said he needed to know :)

[@geezspot84]

thanks for that story, i am so sorry your dads reaction was not as smooth as it could have been. George Aspen, Colorado p.s you are very good looking. xx

[@cloudie88]

There has been twin studies suggesting that aprroximately 50% of the time, a gay guy's twin will also be gay (Although this number is still debatable due to the nature of the volunteers: ie. a guy is more likely to come in if the brother is also gay) What this means is that while genetics isn't the ONLY thing that determines whether you're gay, it still plays a roll. It also suggests being gay could be similar to the case of fingerprints (Identical twins dont have identical fingerprints)

[@X-AEA-12]

i respect you a lot more.

[@luckychinowow]

I tought 16 was late, I told my friends i was gay at 14-15. Then I told my sister who told my step-mom a few months later. Which then told my dad who picked me up the morning later and he's like "Can I ask you something?" Im Like "No" (lol) He said do you like girls? I said Not in the way you do. And then soo on he started asking questions. Haven't seen him much science then.

[@firewolf222]

iam so glad for you

[@Danb119]

i want to tell my mom and slowly my familly but......idk im worryed cuz' my familly isent known for its understanding...more like its toughness...

[@SalvadorDaniel]

0:58 we-ooo-we---o

[@julieswahn]

This was a great video to put back up again. Parents have certain hopes and expectations for us and when we don't meet those, the fear (or actual) rejection can just flatten us. (In my case I am a very overweight woman and my dad is super anti-fat). You have so much courage for coming out to your dad and then reaching over to hug him. Class act, fella. Could you talk to my dad about my fat, pls? (j/k)

[@sfcalvinaz]

Bravo Michael. I'm curious, you have an identical twin brother. Was it easier to tell him since you already had a special bond? I appreciate you sharing this very much. Hugz! ~Calvin~

[@hop208]

16?!?! I'm 23 (today actually) and still waiting to. 3 people down. 2 of which are no longer speaking to me. I'm thinking it wont go well with the rest.

[@pablezey]

sorry about you dad......I felt for you when you said you just started bawling at the steering wheel.....btw what about your twin brother??can you tell us about his reaction or did he already know sorta?

[@luckychinowow]

Told him when I was 16 and since not science lol

[@luckychinowow]

4 hours ago you responded at 3 am? lol oh well...its just I felt somone had to know. So i told my friends and sister so i can hang out with them and stay up late in there rooms without them being weird about it. But more people found out and it is a bit akwerd but I'll get use to it. Also 23 today? Happy birthday? lol

[@EverVigil]

@HartzProductions I'm so sorry...

[@PhaetonDurendal]

OMG i came out 4 years ago my mom still hates me...sigh

[@patrickryne]

[@blainebill39]

@HartzProductions Thankfully that was a long time ago and much has changed. Things are happening for LGBT people today, the likes of which Bobby and I could never conceive! We're not quite there yet, but full inclusion is within sight! It thrills me to know that you will be able to lead an authentic life as a gay man, and will even likely be able to marry the person whom you love, if you so choose! Yeah!!!! May G-D Bless You! Blaine

[@corranhornjedi]

How did you tell your twin brother? Did he already know?

[@coollikeyodais]

That is so sad

[@Fivefragments]

My coming out was wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy more intense lol message me if you want to kno ;)

[@SerdnaSagrav]

How'd it go?

[@Joshyrockd123]

you look like bobby trendy! lol , but you look great thou

[@hop208]

Why do you care when I responded and why would you tell people? It's called insomnia. Also I can't tell if you're being mean to me or not through your response. Sarcasm doesn't translate well through text. "But more people found out and it is a bit akwerd but I'll get use to it." Does that mean more people found out about you or more people found out I responded to something you wrote at 3 AM. It's the internet, it doesn't sleep. And yes it is my birthday today.

[@HartzProductions]

@ChickettaBanana1 no

[@slbishop333]

i wonder how your mom reacted...

[@EvWuzhere]

really? then your better than him, yuo dont deserve that kind of treatment.

[@luckychinowow]

Oh..sorry I didn't intend it to be rude in anyway. And i was just saying that you responded at 3 am as in a joke but i guess i worded it wrongly.

[@MaxBobcat]

hey mike, is your dad the asian one or is it your mom?

[@kaidiva]

i am very proud of you! welcome to the LGBTQ family! =]

[@pablezey]

lol

[@Morlaboborla]

what about your mom?