Realising You’re In A Toxic Relationship | I Am...

Hairdresser Nicola (Vicky McClure) is searching for her romantic ideal, but she's stuck in a coercive relationship with her partner Adam (Perry Fitzpatrick)
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[@samchandra8258]

The acting felt real and honest, well done.

[@laurenwilliams3737]

All 4 of them portrayed their roles incredibly!🙌

[@queencupcakke]

It’s hard when you feel like you’re walking on egg shells with individuals like this. People who have a problem with everything and don’t deal with their own shit. I can imagine how hard it is to date someone who has such an adversarial relationship to everyone and everything.

[@LauraBidingCitizen]

Vicky McClure is an amazing actress. Really well done with an incredibly important message. Spoke very close to home too. x

[@McFraneth]

Suppressed rage leaking all over the place. Identify that rage, you snip the fuse. It moves from the amygdala to the prefrontal cortex. Root of the buried rage? Being made to feel unwanted/a pain etc etc by parents decades ago. That hurt FESTERS. Name it, admit it, stop feeling ashamed. I feel grief for Adam. Core wound. He's walled-off from others.

[@lavoixdevelours]

This episode is so triggering for anyone whose been in a relationship with someone bi polar, BPD, or a narcissist. They all pull this toxic bs with abandonment issues.

[@elsiemarina2572]

Men like Adam would have a problem in a room on his own. The neighbour should not have come out at the end after telling him to go as that just added fuel to the fire.

[@ipoulter9765]

he did though didn't he

[@lucindaarmour4685]

The four of them are fantastic - its a scene shared. Great writing too.

[@pigeonstrangler]

Both of these men are just alike. They rub each other the wrong way. Even the initial comment of “you don’t have outdoor space, do you?” could be interpreted as a dig at his social economic status. It certainly seems to have been perceived that way by someone who is insecure, and reacts in a violent manner when threatened. This is a very interesting dynamic. It’s difficult to know who is right, or wrong, if anyone even is.

[@jaylamont2870]

The “I don’t need the prop” too was unnecessary. Barry was poking him intentionally

[@donegal7]

I agree. I think it was unnecessary to refer to his 'outdoor space' etc. whether it was a sly dig or not it was a stupid thing to say.

[@pigeonstrangler]

@@donegal7 I’ve lived in a flat before and of course you would like some outdoor space. You miss that especially when there’s good weather. Visiting someone who has that outdoor space is enjoyable, and it reminds you how good it is to have that luxury. To make the comment is very passive aggressive IMO. Although, I did discuss this with my girlfriend and she thought the guy overreacted to the comment. As I said in my initial comment a year ago, it’s difficult to know who is in the right or wrong here.

[@zan7466]

Can't stand people who constantly judge and criticise others

[@danrust2152]

The guy on the bbq was a bit of a prick aswell let’s be honest

[@ProfessorKenneth]

Brilliant show and actors..they were brilliant ij this is England as well 👍🏻

[@dgallagher7029]

This acting is amazing.

[@julietbrave1182]

How do I find the full episode?

[@jacquelinewhitfield5795]

Can you watch the full episode in Australia?

[@donegal7]

Don't get me wrong, Adam had some srs control issues in this episode, and also played his part in angering the host. But the male host was way too judgemental and being a prick as soon as adam mentioned the 'be kind, share' sign. Asks for no negativity in the house, but is the one who causes the negative energy and makes it awkward.

[@BBalllegend1000]

Exactly! Yes Adam is clearly a loose cannon and most likely a nutter, however the BBQ host instigated the entire confrontation and was purposefully gaslighting Adam and pushing his buttons in a discreet way. Even came to the car to laugh at him. Nah he's looking for a fight, he helped cause that negative energy

[@donegal7]

@@BBalllegend1000 very true. its been a while since i saw this clip and left that comment but i just rewatched it and it annoyed me again lmao. ppl like that who act all high and righteous 'i dont want trouble' are always the biggest instigators in those sly little ways.

[@BBalllegend1000]

@@donegal7 haha agreed! Alot of the other comments didn't really call out the host, so I was glad to see you did with your comment lol.

[@odnarlo]

literally have had this night so many times at "family dinners" with my abusive narc brother and my mom is the enabling girlfriend sitting there quietly trying to protect him from people who are saying the truth of his abusive and just toxic ass behavior that never stops. smfh tbh, his tantrums would be for much less and directed at anyone, his own sons included. i'm so happy i got this in my rec right as mom texted me some bs from him after going no contact for ages now since the court stuff after his girlfriend and mother of two of the three left. so proud of her. good riddance. hurt people, hurt people.

[@user-vu1bw6tw2w]

What series is this

[@danmavin_sos]

Great that vicky mclure and perry was in this is england together

[@ipoulter9765]

its flip ain't it ?

[@rxch03]

and Line Of Duty

[@juliefewster4735]

Wish we could watch in Oz!

[@drewcampbell8555]

Didn't get the full context of the relationships but the two actresses were so alike they'd be really convincing as sisters. Interesting excerpt.

[@marcoq16]

the host makes an offensive remark at the beginning by pointing out that his guest does not have as much outdoor space as him. sets a sour tone.

[@LauraBidingCitizen]

How is that an offensive remark?! He asked him a question. Listen again. The fact you’re excusing this persons behaviour speaks volumes on your own character.

[@M.Shepardbee]

@@LauraBidingCitizen it seems like an outdoor space might be seen as a luxury where they are at. We also appear to be coming into the story part way so there was probably a certain amount of pomp. I did watch it again , as I had to check myself. They are all displaying toxicity. Charcoal bbq guy- is Pompous and being a white knight Blonde lady:, proper to beer guy; aggressive towards brunette; as in "control your man" Bruneette: secretly says things at him Beer guy: deflects onto his wife. A circle of toxic behaviors.

[@recklesslntent]

@@M.Shepardbee nothing excuses the behaviour the guy exudes. Get your big boy pants and respect the autonomy of your girlfriend or go back and live with your mum it really is that simple Nothing excuses him being so fragile and needy. It’s toxic and the character of Nicky and thousands of other people in her situation deserve so much better

[@M.Shepardbee]

@@recklesslntent i don't think your grasping the point that they are all toxic. Thats why its comedy.

[@recklesslntent]

@@M.Shepardbee nah I only see two people that’s are toxic One is whom I’m speaking to who condones coercive control and sympathises with men who think this behaviour is acceptable or warrants an excuse And the character who is nickys boyfriend

[@CWb2006gl]

Hi Adam Neil at Haven Holidays and his wife. I remember this scene. Our university friends. I remember David being obnoxious. Neil was always kind towards me. All the best wishes with Abby

[@Tony-vf9zu]

2:21 he started it

[@Bigred-ie1nk]

This guy did such a good job I reckon I'd hate him in real life

[@eshasinghh]

I would want the ground to swallow me whole if I was there, god it’s awkward

[@matthew9739]

What’s this called

[@mikeyowen8108]

I am nicola

[@macycollin-doyle7537]

Lol n flip

[@daleworthington4198]

Which one was the bad one......that toss at the BBQ was just as bad..his the toxic one

[@BlueBird14095]

Sounds like you're the "Adam" in your story. Deary me.

[@fourninemarketing]

It doesn’t have to be that black and white, Nathan.

[@danielpenn2878]

What’s this called??

[@adamwhitbread6385]

I am nicola

[@dreamwildrecords303]

Get OUT.

[@LoudaroundLincoln]

"Don't bring negativity" Wtf is that? Nowt wrong with a bit of negativity sometimes. Or anger. Or sadness. It happens.

[@LaRockstar77]

I thought it was pretentious shaky camera crap.

[@paulharding1972]

Nothing pretentious about it. It’s simply not for you.

[@CWb2006gl]

It's OK Luke Simon. I know I am too shy for you. Bye love ❤️

[@stealthwolf6369]

Leanne Best is underated. Superb sketch

[@Nymbusangel]

Not a sketch it's a domestic violence drama