#RealTalk

[@MissCombs1511]

Do people talk about the peace of being single though? 😮‍💨 I bumped into an old high school friend and she tells me she works half day because it's enough money for HER, no school fees. She picked up a take away for supper and just standing next to her you feel her peace... not a single negative word about men, or life in general.

[@Ntombi_Lusenga]

What a peaceful space to be in.I'ts so sad to see how the society frowns against choosing to be single or without a child in your 30ies. Do I get lonely? Yes! Do I enjoy my peace? Yes

[@SNVee]

I have 2 children BUT absolutely know in my heart that I don't want to marry or "settle down." I always knew and it helped me choose myself in every relationship. I absolutely cherish that peace. So the childless and single women - keep protecting that peace 👏👏 I would never judge

[@KatlehoMallela]

So peaceful! It has its moments here and there, but most of the time, PEACE PEACE.

[@KatlehoMallela]

💯

[@Elizabeth-vu1tb]

I became comfortable with being single the day I chose to be celibate. I removed the sexual attraction, the affection ( cuddles, isfuba.)etc.. and started to shift my focus on character,personality and morals etc… Yhooo, the list of men I was talking to because it’s nice getting a good morning text etc drastically depreciated. I found no value even in keeping some as “ friends”. The heart is very deceitful shame. And ever since then; I don’t know what Loneliness is. Because I’m more focused on what I want.

[@KatlehoMallela]

That's a very big step to take. 🙏🏾

[@thewomenlatelyshow1816]

First of all, you’re very classy. Second of all, this was so wholesome. I’m in my early 40s, divorced with 2 kids. I’m in a committed relationship now, but the seven years I spent being single were some of the best! You have to be at peace with yourself before you ever invite someone in. Society talks, but they don’t really care. Do you

[@KatlehoMallela]

Thank you and so so true!

[@MissM529]

From a 38 years old single silent subscriber, thank you sister for this sisterly advice, great one👏

[@KatlehoMallela]

Thank you for commenting!!

[@MissM529]

​@@KatlehoMallelaYou are welcome 😊

[@vuvu-vena]

Recently single and gaining such perspective. I love this chat. I became a single mom as I entered my 30s, imma tell you it taught me so much, about myself and the world we live in including how women expect certain things of each other, it’s not always the other gender’s toxicity. Aaagh so many thoughts on this topic and thank you thank you for tackling it. My take away is you affirming that this small part of life doesn’t define a woman’s worth or value. This I want to impart on my kids as well.💕

[@KatlehoMallela]

Thank you so much for watching!

[@vuvu-vena]

@@KatlehoMallela Always ✨

[@mathapelomonnakgotla7395]

I am complete and there is NOTHING WRONG with me . I know what I want and I'm gonna get it!

[@nombuyiselomanala2519]

It does mostly boil down to luck,then you both have to be willing to work at it so that it lasts and is a happy, healthy situation. Kat in a realistic world, it's not all people that will find the real thing, be in a good enough, healthy relationship /marriage, people will get married, but a huge number of them are extremely unhappy& miserable

[@nombuyiselomanala2519]

Worse part is that society is aware of all of these facts, even the fact of kids, ba tseba that it's firstly not all people who want kids, not all people that will be afforded that ability even if they want but we are still so super wierd to people because of patriarchy and brain washing, kore we know but Ai, Culture is the weapon they use. I thought culture is something that changes with generations, especially when we learn and realize the errors in those past cultural norms, we refuse to transform and evolve

[@leratomaleke6701]

I think its very important for one to be more comfortable with themselves first , because I feel we find loneliness so unbearable because we are not comfortable with our own space we rather be miserable in a relationship or friendship that's toxic and not bring any value to ourlifes ,being alone can be horrible but atleast you have the peace that noone can take away from you ❤

[@KatlehoMallela]

Perfectly said Lerato!!!

[@hudihoodz]

I'm 45, been single for years since hubby passed on. I long for companionship!

[@KatlehoMallela]

Your time will come babes....

[@sylviamodise3887]

Please thank ntate Ade on our behalf. The chat was real.❤

[@KatlehoMallela]

I will do! Thank you!

[@nomceboDlamini-ip6nz]

Im 31 and enjoying my single girl era 😊😊

[@LetsNavigateWithJean]

Katleho please put me first on the list should you consider selling any of your furniture. Please tuu? Dankie thanks!!! Great content as always!!

[@victoriammatose7984]

Re benekent , re within mama 😍😍😍 Katli you forgot to ask us to grab our drinks 😂😂😂😂😂

[@KatlehoMallela]

LOL, this one is a more serious one, I didn't think about it waitsi.

[@mandisadlamini-jc9xy]

Real talk❤❤, I needed to hear this as a single 36 year old. My perspective has changed already

[@KatlehoMallela]

☺️☺️☺️

[@mamakaboynogirl]

what a beautiful and necessary conversation!

[@ORANGE.E]

The woman you are... Ma'am! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@KatlehoMallela]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@pinkhappynesslady5331]

Had to leave what I was watching for this wholesale conversation,thank you for sharing Kats.

[@KatlehoMallela]

You are VERY welcome!

[@happym3585]

Lovely conversation Kat 🌸💕🎀

[@nasphintshanga2066]

Real chat with, Kat❤❤❤

[@SibsM93]

Thank you Ntate Ade 😂, thank you Kat. This was a good talk. People should just stay out of people's families, money, relationships, health, stay out of people's business!!!

[@KatlehoMallela]

PERIODT!!!!

[@Kay_Segoto]

A chat i needed - nice one Katleho. Thank you

[@linkiemoekwa5060]

The day I realized that marriage was part of the journey and not the destination my focus changed and I just don't settle for the sake of it. I love love and I know I will find someone who is for me.

[@KatlehoMallela]

I love that!!! We all will

[@tefoolefile]

Woow. I loved this video. ❤❤ It changed my perspective on being single.

[@PalesaS17]

I wish people understood the peace that comes with being single and one’s solitude… 🙌🏾 I find that people judge you negatively when you are single and happy, and the conversations always try to put you in a negative light, and you are right about the “what’s wrong with you question” I agree with not settling, being older and understanding yourself and just doing you is heaven. Also, not entertaining the bare minimum = priceless ❤

[@KatlehoMallela]

🔥 💯

[@muiler6089]

Thank you sis… such an insightful conversation.

[@becomingdineom1187]

In the chat 🥰❤️❤️ a very much necessary talk. Thank you Katleho for the enlightenment ❤️

[@KatlehoMallela]

Most welcome!!!

[@DEBUNKBY_REA_ART_LEHA]

THIS IS WHY I LOVE YOU

[@namsb.5221]

This was so wholesome! Thank you katleho!!!

[@KatlehoMallela]

You're very welcome!

[@Leticia_Hk]

Big girls chat 🥰❤ thanks kat🤗

[@vuyimamaimane2297]

Tjoooo, I'm hear for this Kay, I choose you anytime 😅

[@KatlehoMallela]

Thank you so much!

[@NthabyAbby]

The REAL TALKS are hands down my favorite, always relatable and presented with such grace & clarity, love love love ❤!

[@KatlehoMallela]

Awwww Nthaby thank you so much

[@Mikateko_N]

As always, gems were dropped. Thank you so much. ❤

[@KatlehoMallela]

You’re welcome! ❤️ Thank you so much!

[@associationbotswana8463]

Conversations we need to have Sis, love this!

[@KatlehoMallela]

Thank you!! 🙏🏾

[@PaliMosilly]

I needed this. Thank you Katleho❤

[@leletunoda6381]

I hear you chat sis and thank you

[@KatlehoMallela]

You are welcome!

[@MbusoNkabinde-fb1zq]

responding to 8:40 men get asked when are you having a child? and these questions come from other men in a group of friends that have kids

[@KatlehoMallela]

Really? Thanks for saying. But do the same friends ask you why you are single??

[@MbusoNkabinde-fb1zq]

@@KatlehoMallela They do ask in a teasing way...like "why ungajoli une gwababa?" Or do you want us to hook you up?

[@Bookedoncharity]

I hear your chat. 🧡

[@KatlehoMallela]

I love it when you say that, because I know I say it to you on the phone SOOOOO many times, LOL

[@transcripttranscript3039]

Each to there own

[@Nompumelelo-qy1lb]

❤ Am 37yrs and I enjoy being single ❤

[@KatlehoMallela]

And that's all that should matter :)

[@portiashava3023]

You can also get very lonely in a marriage

[@leratomaleke6701]

Very lonely I tell you,😢

[@leratomaleke6701]

I really wish woman can really appreciate their own company because honestly relationship are toxic,the mental trauma in it , the loneliness is worse than being single expecting a lot from someone is so draining rather single than expecting a lot ho motho...

[@molebohengmaphepha80]

Ntate Ade ke mang hleng, I know I have missed a few episodes, I am guilty 🙈 nthuseng

[@OagengNd]

😂😂

[@KatlehoMallela]

LOL!!!! Ahhhh wena!!! Catch up babes!!!

[@mathongomakhiwane204]

Trust me , men get asked WHY would you choose to be single too. I personally think it's even worse for men, being single immidiately signify "you dont have game" or "there is something wrong with you". Ladies are the ones who vet and approve a relationship so being a single lady can be viewwed as you being choosy or "knowing your worth". For men it's purely "yintoni ingxaki kuwe"...."what's wrong with you?"

[@KatlehoMallela]

REALLY? Wow thanks for this one, I had no idea, but I hear your point. Thanks for commenting, I appreciate discourse from both sides. :)

[@mslettiemathibe71]

1st to comment ❤🎉🎉🎉

[@munchi8]

39 and Single for 4 years, since my last relationship I said helllll no am I allowing a man to stress me. I don’t date either because SA men are just not it!

[@MsLolaDube]

Danko 🥰

[@tonrobert3391]

I have self reflection question for all the women in the comments section what did you do to bring down your previous relationships that you cannot blame on a man?

[@sibongileradebenkomo3984]

For the love of JK❤❤❤❤

[@mathapelomonnakgotla7395]

Nna ke kopa ntate Ade atlo nyala hlena 😂😂😂😂😂😂😅😅😅😅😅

[@KatlehoMallela]

LOL, ke tla mo botsa!

[@hudihoodz]

❤

[@mpumi_regal]

My Boss has been asking me when I am getting married since I started working for him....

[@KatlehoMallela]

Imagine that, your boss. Yikes.

[@mpumi_regal]

@KatlehoMallela yup...he even threw in a comment about not wanting to hear 'funny' stories about myself and male counterparts within the workplace ..I was seriously triggered that day...between church rhetoric amd that comment.. I spent the rest of that day trying to get my emotions in check and not fall apart at the office

[@mathapelomonnakgotla7395]

Why are you single. When are you gonna have kids and get married. Joooooooo hlena! Lenna I won't settle for the bare minimum nkampane ka etsa ngwana sekena le 40 years le my husband. Hello to ntate Ade 😂😂😂😂😂

[@ntombimakgathulela2100]

i hope you one day do a meet and greet with your subscribers. your words of wisdom feel like a warm hug to the cold thoughts that linger in my mind. A heart felt hug from you would be the cherry on top of my cake. ❤❤❤

[@KatlehoMallela]

Awwww Ntombi this is so sweet, thank you! I hope to do it one day too!

[@mathapelomonnakgotla7395]

Watching your video I have decided not to entertain or even answer them nxaaaaa! Hae ke kgathetse

[@portiashava3023]

Ntate Ade ❤❤❤❤ maita basa

[@auskoki7473]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@DEBUNKBY_REA_ART_LEHA]

Ke Mang Ntate Ade??????😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@KatlehoMallela]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@DEBUNKBY_REA_ART_LEHA]

@KatlehoMallela I effortlessly love you mara. I would love to meet you one day 😍☺️

[@Batsithegreat]

I love you please

[@mathapelomonnakgotla7395]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@Thulare_Ramokgopa]

🤍🤍

[@runners4tme]

It doesn’t make to have this conversation without taking into account why is biologically wired into you as well. I think the question angers you because there is a little voice inside you telling you that you actually shouldn’t be single at this age. You don’t really look like someone who cares about people’s opinions. Most of these pressures also comes with within but it looks like you ain’t aware of that. And lastly dating is not really designed for 30+ people, That’s my 2 cent.

[@KatlehoMallela]

I wonder why you seem to think it doesn't make sense to have such a conversation without addressing women believing that this is "biologically" wired into us? 🥹 Biological? Women feeling this way is something largely driven by social construct and a society that favours men over women. So your comment is actually dripping in misogyny and patriarchy. One thing you have gotten right though, is Idont care what peoples opinions of me are, especially when it comes to my personal life, so it would be ironic to think that you think that question would anger me,lol. But thanks for your 2 cents.

[@matlalampho4304]

Re leboga ntate Ade

[@Makhotso_]

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[@zinhlentombela3163]

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[@kwakha6103]

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[@matlalampho4304]

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[@abongilebom6760]

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[@nonhlanhlaadvocate7385]

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[@angelthomo2990]

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