Do YOU Really WANT A Long-Term RELATIONSHIP?

[@waggytail289]

The older I become the more I realise that conventional life (including relationships, work, living situation, media, general consciousness) becomes harder to sustain. Finding meaning and purpose starts to feel more elusive as I become increasingly aware just how ridiculous life can be. I am currently seeking enjoyment, excitement and peace through solo cycle travel, regular running and a minimalist lifestyle in general. It is how I am able to feel alive, healthy, free and responsible for my own experiences and destiny. Its also the most likely situation in which I will encounter like-minded souls and possibly someone special. Joe (never married and childless by choice 51 year old) UK

[@rawmail102171]

Don't confuse, "lonely" with "alone". Lonely is an almost pathological condition of depression. One can have a house full of people and still be lonely. Being alone is merely being by oneself by choice. I'd much rather be alone than deal with a modern woman. I'll enjoy my $$, peace, quiet and freedom.

[@IvaViper94]

HELL YEAH BOI !!! 😎

[@prschuster]

For me, a perfect relationship is having a woman living next door to me, so we can get together when we want and go our separate ways when we want. Cohabiting is a nightmare.

[@DavidTramacchi]

One of your best Troy, I wrestle with this question everyday

[@solinvictus39]

Always wanted a LTR/marriage in my youth. I had several LTRs in my 20s and 30s, but nothing ever came out of it. For me, it was all about having a family. Now I'm in my 50s, what's the point? A woman can only bring me aggravation at this age and too many demands... I want to enjoy my life from here on out.

[@skibum914]

Great video that resonates for me. I am 59 now and single, never married. Have been in several serious relationships throughout my life, but it never stuck, and after all this experience and my reflection it is pretty clear that I am as you describe in this video. Society definitely expects all to do the "normal" thing and get married, have kids. It is a bit torturous at times to go against this social grain. I feel like an oddball at times in a world of couples and singles trying to get into coupledom. Things are changing though given the extreme feminist dogma that seems to bleed into everyone's perspective, in media, etc...Good to view your perspective and see that I am one of many in the world. I know that I am happiest and being true to myself when single.

[@jamies6534]

As you hit 50, that question of am I really built for Ltrs just becomes more salient by the month. My father went his own way at about this age, and I now understand why more than ever.

[@XLMIsaac]

No thank you. I’m gonna enjoy growing old alone.

[@skyb469]

A relationship seems like a waste if you don’t want kids or to get married. I actually enjoy my freedom to not have to court and entertain a GF. I have a house and debt free so I can enjoy living a entertaining life when I’m not working. I have a few plates that I can call when I want to get my jolly’s on my terms

[@anon2034]

I agree completely!

[@csllover]

However you try and justify it, being a parent is the best thing in the world. We're genetically programmed to pass our genes on. You're missing out.

[@childfreesingleandatheist8899]

Relationships are great for some companionship and some sex. That doesn’t mean one has to get married or have children. Speaking from experience.

[@Paul-yk7ds]

For me, I like having the sweet loving connection of a girlfriend, much more than just a casual hookup or friend with benefits. So, there is definitely a benefit to relationships there, for me. But they are not ideal for the level of freedom I'd like to keep in my life. So for me, I'm still trying to figure out the best middle ground, the best way to get that affection and intimacy without sacrificing much freedom.

[@ysbeezy4106]

Honestly hadn’t sat down & thought it out. But I do know whenever I’d date & than try to be exclusive even if I like the girl I’m not truly happy being tied to one. I’m not meant for it yet or ever

[@jithunair4526]

Many people are opting out of marriage and relationships since it has lost meaning

[@skyb469]

Make Money, Lift weights and Spin platzzz!

[@elcapitan6126]

@@jenniferhartranft3394 far less exhausting than managing a monogamous relationship

[@rattlehead999]

@@jenniferhartranft3394 it's called life.

[@murraysaucedo897]

Absolutely not, if anything I've reached the point were I've truly learned that being alone while it sucks is not a terrible thing. Whenever I want to get laid, I pay an escort and I'm done. I don't have any friends and that does suck but I can't seem to run into people I get along with I am too much of an individualist I guess.

[@olanosergio]

I can empathise with your sentiment. Something similar here myself.

[@DoubtingThomas333]

Look into type A personality, schizoid traits etc. Perhaps even full blown SPD Just FYI

[@r3llik1981]

A person that says "it's me, my fault".... wow. That person must be a guy 💪. Good for you mate. I gotta say on the matter of "I'm not built for this" I'm right up there with you.

[@LegalAutomation]

Troy, you put out some seriously powerful content. I resonate with this immensely.

[@ht781]

Troy has really found his pocket lately in these type of vids for older dudes - smart work

[@neilcharlton]

If you don't give a woman marriage and or kids unless she's old it's unlikely she'll stick around very long anyway. For those of us who don't want marriage/ kids it's a difficult path to follow 🙄 with any type of long term relationship almost impossible..

[@RealTroyFrancis]

Indeed

[@flyingpowder1119]

A very interesting video, quite honestly the opposite problem for me. I am too built for LTRs and need to take a big step back and not keep metaphorically sticking my finger in a socket. I've come to realize that most of the world is not really built for long term commitment, and I need to be at peace with not getting what I am looking for in order to have even a small chance of getting it.

[@RealTroyFrancis]

Well, i’m probably a disillusioned romantic really. who wouldn’t want the fairytale?

[@flyingpowder1119]

@@RealTroyFrancis exactly right, it's not about suddenly realizing I don't really want a LTR, it's about passing my desires first through the filter of reality and accepting the results.

[@JoBlakeLisbon]

Dude just move to the third world. All those chicks want marriage, kids and to cook for their man.

[@matthewforte3570]

sometimes there's not much choice other than to make peace, the tricky part is not feeling alone, but ironically i often remember i always felt that way around people who made me feel alone, and also realized i'm not built for relationships either

[@danielsantiago6680]

My friend this one of your top best on so far!! I am one of this people it resonate with me!!! I admired your observations and very eye opening to this close minded society, keep your work is most needed in today environment 👍

[@RadishAcceptable]

Haven't been in a long term relationship since I was in my 20s. Am almost 40 now. Been straight forward with people and I tend to make something happen about once or twice a year. I'm also very tired of hurting people. It sucks... I come at things with all my cards on the table and people still get hurt. It's like some gals think you'll fundamentally change as a person because magic... Considering going monk for.the foreseeable future.

[@asheikh7775]

In the same boat brother. I commented my thoughts on this also. Its a weird area, we aren't supposed to be in that gray area of dating, it's a temporary phase till people find the person they can pair bond with. But if relationships don't seem worth it (for various reasons) we'r left with being monk mode as to not hurt peoples feelings or dating casually which causes heart break. We create the society we live in, and if we create heartbreaks that only increases the suffering of the world and general paranoia. Karma can come into it also. On one side red pill shows us how bad body counts etc is for womens mental health but then we still go ahead and spin plates.. If I didn't know about those body count stats then it would have been easier to spin plates in fact. Funny how that works.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

First 3 months are the best it will be.

[@StariYTube1]

Yh I'm tired of being a great guy but getting a bad attitude from the B's,, like then I snap and tell them straighten up or I walk bc I'm not treated like I deserve ,,, after I tried it's more heartbreak on me then them ,, I'm about to go monk

[@jamesbyrne9312]

Stop hurting people then, pretty simple mate

[@GUITARTIME2024]

@@StariYTube1 don't snap at them, just walk. If they don't contact you with apologies, they did you a favor.

[@observerstation]

Im new to this channel but the themes you are talking about are resonating with me a lot. Its good to hear someone articulating how i have, in reality, always felt, that i am much more comfortable single. The pressure is sometimes immense, and you are made to feel guilty that you are alone, that you are selfish. But its good to find like-minded men experiencing the same thoughts and feelings. Great content.

[@dansparrow1506]

Keep up the good work! You are helping thousands of men make sense of their lives and moving forward with a purpose. Many of us both young and old are rejecting the societal / cultural expectations of men and forging a new path that can provide a purpose and fulfilment. Stay the course!

[@chriskwasniewski2727]

I'm in my forties and have been in many relationships. I am alone now and truly appreciate how great it is. You can really find yourself and retain 100% of your freedom.

[@asheikh7775]

Three lifestyles are the celibate, the bachelor dating casually, and the ltr. In the end they can all offer lessons and growth in their own ways. LTR's offer depth of connection, casual starts shallow and ends up becoming serious before one ends it, but teaches one to not be attached, and in celibacy theres no relating at all and you learn to be happy on your own. Paying for sex leaves you empty due to lack of genuine desire (purely physical need being met, nothing deeper) the bachelor lifestyle can be draining and emotionally causes collateral damage and heart break for many girls if not yourself, and then guilt sets in about that also. LTR's usually want to be lead into marriage kids etc or the disney white picket fence dream and come with their own issues.Thats if you even find someone worth partnering up with. If a man doesn't want kids or marriage due to the risk/reward , putting ltr's off the table. But the bachelor lifestyle is exhausting, morally questionable, emotionally taxing, its sort of a limbo state between celibacy and being in a relationship but a weird gray area you always in habit. What does a man do? The most happiness would be found in a deep emotional relationship. But they come with costs that the legal, cultural system doesn't make it worth pursuing. I guess the ideal would be to just partner with someone who understands the unfairness of the system, and wishes to also be together through love than law, and who doesn't want kids etc. As we get older and our hormones settle we will want something of more depth and companionship, we settle when our hormones settle. On top of all this, the casual route requires you to use protection, possible drink more, be up late more etc as they tend to go hand in hand usually and all that takes its toll on your health, plus protection doesn't even feel good so the juice isn't worth the squeeze in my opinion. Crazy, what lengths we go to for mediocre sex, along with that coming with feelings of guilt etc for know we don't want anything serious. Good sex comes from connection, connection comes with attachment. Only way people engage in sex without attachment is if they numb themselves through substances, have psychological issues, and all that dis embodies them to the point your not even connecting with them, they aren't even connected to themselves and their own emotions. The motion is there but no emotion, its as good as a escort and we all know that isn't fulfilling. Only a spiritually actualised person would be able to connect without attachment, but how many enlightened people are out there.

[@RealTroyFrancis]

Some interesting points. The big problem with LTRs is not just legal. but also that both men and women get bored after a few years. Hard to get round that.

[@ray4247]

@@RealTroyFrancis there are some couples that still adore each other after many years. Albeit rare but they stay looking good for each other

[@badass1g]

Awesome post and basically you read my mind verbatim. Well thought out! 👍

[@the_bogeyman.]

@@RealTroyFrancis true, especially if one had better ”relationships” in the past. Alpha widows kind of thing, for exemple.

[@Soffex]

A lot of good points made in this video. I don't think this gets talked about enough in the red pill space. Spinning plates is great, but you're destined for loneliness. That's just something guys will have to accept when focusing on their own mental point of origin. The plates that turn into long term relationships are particularly hard because eventually you will have to end it. However, it beats being slaughtered in divorce court. Red pill does come with its downsides at times.

[@ViceCoin]

I'am a retired, nihilistic giggolo. Never married, and not interested in the drama and work of family life.

[@rsviews2167]

In short, you're inhabitable.

[@JoeMercersWay]

No. I lived the last decade by myself and I don't think I could be constrained by a relationship anymore, it would be suffocating. I just don't rate other people's companionship, it's overly romanticised and ultimately solipsistic in nature.

[@paulthurson]

Troy it's like i am looking and listening to myself at the EXACT same 'crossroads' you are describing here .. i deeply appreciate your transparency .. honesty and candidness .. the only difference is our ages in that i am 57 .. everything that you have outlined i have been struggling with .. in particular these last few years .. it really helps to know one is not alone in this

[@HRamTeR]

Great video Troy, I'm in that same situation now at 46...

[@RealTroyFrancis]

we’re a similar age - this stuff becomes more of a consideration now

[@freedomcontrolled6190]

Thank god I found the actual bachelor part of online dating not the fake that keeps telling you to get trapped 😅

[@Decline-America_Is_In_Trouble]

Was in 1 in my entire life. That was almost 20 years ago. Don’t miss it whatsoever

[@cxa011500]

I don't think I'm built for long-term relationships 😕

[@ra803g6]

Divorce laws are a hell of a force

[@northsouth8884]

I love the way the kids follow him. That’s cool.

[@gk_knight]

Have always felt not built for committed relationship, and a divorce few years back solidified it. But discovered there is something called ROCD relationship anxiety - it’s a real thing. Been working with a good coach on this and have now been in a warm loving monogamous relationship for two years. It can be done, but you need to work on the ROCD as it’s not always obvious that it’s running the show behind the scenes. I don’t even miss my player / daygame days anymore. Happy to drop the name of the coach if anyone is interested. It’s all about learning to open your heart up to authentic deep emotions rather than always playing out the stoic playboy archetype routine. Not the same as being beta-ized either. I still have frame and my girl adores me. I probably won’t marry or have kids but we’re happy.

[@bedadays1763]

I may suffer from this triggered by retro jealousy.I swear its changed part of my personality

[@bedadays1763]

I may suffer from this triggered by retro jealousy.I swear its changed part of my personality

[@hoodoooperator.5197]

Man, everything you've said in this video resonates with me. This thought popped into my head regularly when I was living with my ex. I really don't enjoy coupley stuff, I get my sense of fulfilment from physical training and bjj + yoga. When I met my ex I wasn't sure that I even had time for in my life for her. A few years later I just wanted out because she wanted more and more of my time, basically to do nothing together... To sit and watch TV together, all day...!! I don't think you're being melodramatic to describe these considerations as torturous, at all. I get you completely. I'm 33, so I feel that sense of mental self-torture. I don't agree that wanting children is a different conversation however, because I think a nuclear family is the right environment to raise a child. It's a tough one and it's made significantly worse by the state of the dating scene right now. I'm English in England and have really gone off drinking in the last few years, so I'm even more of an outlier than I was before I met the ex. I specifically resonated with the comment about not wanting to hurt people. Every relationship I've got into, I knew from day dot that it wasn't going the distance. Perhaps I hold women to standards that I can't even maintain myself. But I really loathe the feeling of being "tied down". I know I feel a sense of resentment for my partner if I am prohibited from jumping on the bike to go blast it with my mates at the drop of the hat, because I've committed to doing something coupley that weekend. I could go on. I may actually book a call with you Troy, I like your approach and way of thinking.

[@RealTroyFrancis]

Cheers man, and feel free to reach out ( [e-mail])

[@StefaanDik]

I really like this kind of topic. I think it resonates with a lot of guys over the age of 35.

[@Lemonysnicket201]

I think reasons why some people are not cut out for relationships, also could be because they are neurodivergent, have a mental illnes, or untreated childhood trauma, all of wich can make intimate relationships very difficult.

[@Anglophile2012]

Great video! Elegant sartorial and philosophical presentation Minimalism and international travel can be life changing

[@rsviews2167]

The world changes, people change. In real life, most people don't come across true soulmates ( a term too complex to define here ). Attraction, whether physical or psychological, never lasts. At some point, the only mark left, if lucky, is respect, and even that is not bullet proof. We are all alone, for the most part. Being there on duty is not genuinely being there, in the moment. Of course, no one ever heard those truths in school, on the radio or on television, the truth is too ugly and harsh to sell. Reading the comments, I'm happy to see a lot of men have come to their senses. Either we accept reality, or we waste our energies. Think for yourself, live your life and stay in the moment, for like you, it also will vanish in the ether from which it came from.

[@KrazyArrows]

I’ve checked out from long term relationship

[@NickinthePhilippines]

You are really good man! You are a sort of "wake up" voice for many of us! Keep going the good work!

[@RealTroyFrancis]

thanks

[@ianarn]

No 30 minutes to an hour once a week or every two weeks is fine! Then lots of travel and hobbies on top!

[@elikorn7418]

From what I've read and heard from psychotherapists people that come from divorced homes have more trouble in relationships later on in life. It's not that you're not built for a long lasting meaningful relationship; we all are. As for the "freedom life" and getting ones "needs met" well, that's an empty cold life and if any Red Pill person tries to tell you otherwise, don't listen. It's all jealousy from someone that does not want to see you or those like you happy.

[@RealTroyFrancis]

hmmm. How comes there’s so much divorce and infidelity if we’re ’all built for long lasting meaningful relationships’? 🤔

[@paolosusanni1069]

It all depends on how much you want to share EVERYTHİNG in your life.

[@promansplainor5245]

I haven't been able to accept disrespect on much any level like my mother dished out to my father. His solution was returning to out of town industrial construction and building power plants around the world. Approaching retirement, my mom's dysfunction ate her up as ovarian cancer. My dad's last 10 widower years were relaxed and blissful from my perspective. He never dated or engaged with wahmen other than waitresses and such where he was genuinely smooth. He died content and at peace with me assuring him that I would tie up any of his loose ends, which there were few. My only sibling brother is a bully similar to our mom. Nah. Good gents, move on.

[@thevalleyofdisappointment]

Get yourself a rotation of four pretty young and feminine 304s seeing a different one every two weeks. You'll never have enough of either to get sick of them. Then go live your life knowing you don't need to worry any longer about lying or hurting people to get your needs met.

[@shirleycrosner634]

I feel it's a process - that takes some time and experiences... no need to rush into anything / but enjoy the company and intimacy 😁 .

[@TT-xl2td]

Love the new content

[@RealTroyFrancis]

thanks man

[@Kindgirls123]

Already have kids so that’s out. Don’t want a chick who wants more kids. Also don’t want an old lady. Weird spot.

[@canarc1]

No, shit eh. Same deal too. I date lots, but they always want a relationship leading to cohabitation. That’s simply no fly zone.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Phillipines

[@shirleycrosner634]

No harm in renting from time to time

[@JuicinVibes]

Good ponderings.... been a player for ages now.... wondering where the rabbit hole leads

[@JoeMercersWay]

It's not a problem, unless you're not honest from the outset. You don't know the framework you could build if you're not honest from the start. Sounds like you've tried to fit yourself into the hole but you know you don't fit. If the girls you're with, don't like it, that's their problem. They can move on if they don't like it, that's their responsibility. So if you're a square peg, live as a square peg rather than feeling guilty for trying to continually squeeze into a round hole.

[@mikthe2004]

If you want to have kids you probably need to be in a LTR or marriage. I was married for 18 yrs, had 2 kids, and separated about a year ago and divorced about a month ago, and at first it was devastating to have a failed marriage. However, over time I realized it's actually OK, and even pretty good. Freedom is great. I now have a girlfriend, but I've told her were never getting married or cohabiting. I just don't want that anymore. I like my space. I like to have time for myself where I don't have to interact with anyone!!

[@RealTroyFrancis]

Glad you’re in a good place now

[@dream431ca]

I’m so on the fence on this one. On one hand I would like genuine desire from a woman (whether or not that’s from a kind of selfishness I still gotta figure out), but on the other hand I love my freedom. That might be what it means if a girl your seeing is a compliment to your life or not. I might be over complicating this which I guess most guys tend to do.

[@RealTroyFrancis]

yeah we all overcomplicate it. but we all also tend to want our cake and to eat it

[@apparently_sonam]

The desire we create wrapped with the fake package, ladies capture our attention with, is a veil, which we buy into, despite knowing from historical experience, that has never been the reality of it!! Let go of the illusion.

[@BanditmitKredit]

Good Videos!

[@ITR1329]

Your videos lately are 🎯

[@momma_goose]

What I love about these vids is the LGBTQI+ community can do what they want, but a single heterosexual male can’t figure out how to have acceptance, that they want freedom - and that’s it 😂 - just do you bro. Keep exploring this stuff - great content ✊

[@rogerward3390]

Work in a group of people..50 staff 5 men...all men have kids, married etc...I'm divorced, no kids, 3 year relationship just ended there...feel out of place

[@gabakusa]

People don't want relationships just sex

[@KingCol]

Amazing video Troy.. thank you for this 🔥❤️

[@willclouded]

Interesting video, I also have never had long term relationships just short term , casual dates. I do agree some people are just not build to be in a long term relationship.

[@RealTroyFrancis]

there is value in long term relationships for sure - but perhaps they’re not for everyone?

[@BillLaBrie]

Most of just want to quietly disappear into our selves.

[@ewaetnak]

You totally speak my language.

[@cheeseburns11]

Great video, Troy.

[@RealTroyFrancis]

cheers man

[@alphatrion100]

A good one: YES. A bad one: NO.

[@jans724]

This dude speaks my language! Nice park, where's this?

[@RealTroyFrancis]

Green Park London by Buckingham Palace.

[@jans724]

@@RealTroyFrancis Aah!! I've been there several times but it's been a while, didn't recognise. Thanks!

[@mak529]

great topic/video

[@thinkognito344]

the idea of a long term girl is nice but after a few months with a girl in reality, im done... need my space... not worth the headache... the older i get the less patience i have for these floosies... i find it's the pressure of society that forces most people to get married and all that mess they cant handle the gossip and hate of being that loner guy... personally i dont give a fuck...

[@ifeelhalfnaked484]

get married monogamously in order to pay taxes, feed the systems and transfer the money to those ignorant stupid people

[@briant5135]

I feel like societal pressure makes most of us get married and have kids because "omg people will call me a loser if I dont." F em. I'm not shaming anyone, why cant they mind their own business?

[@crimsonbg]

You said "settle down". But I realize it is actually changing a set of problems and advantages for another one. As of now I try to find ways to have my cake and eat it too 🙂

[@aineomalley6431]

I wonder if the last 10 years of KZbin may also have done a disservice to relationships? Many people now are more interested in filming themselves, that has become the priority. Before KZbin people still worked hard, partied hard but still enjoyed being in a relationship. Now I think filming and editing takes so much time and effort, there just isn't time or space for another person. Look at the couples and families without a camera in their hands, they are enjoying their time together.

[@RealTroyFrancis]

Only a minority of people regularly upload vlogs to KZbin

[@robertvarner9519]

No. I'm 67 so I'll be dead soon.

[@RealTroyFrancis]

Fair enough!

[@rogerward3390]

I'm 42 now...if you take companionship out of a relationship, then for me 80% is gone..rest is made up of s3x, and food! Sad really, but the company is the only reason I'd enter the smp again

[@JohnDoe-dl1vx]

WAY AHEAD OF OUR TIMES.THE NORM OR MEDIUM DOESN'T IF HAVE THOUGHTS WHÀT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT. IT TOOK YEARS TO UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT I AM IN MY SIXTIES. YOU ARE BEST TROY.... HIGHLY SO KNOWLEDGEABLE ABOUT WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT . I TIP MY HAT TO YOU SIR!

[@eugrules]

No. I have had many chances and I always picked staying single.

[@colincowie2547]

You have to get married sometime... you can't stay happy forever..

[@davidsanegor4375]

Also got me thinking Troy. At 45 I've been thinking about all this quite a bit lately as well. I think we are labelling ourselves this way to avoid doing what everyone else does. From a practical point of view, do we really have the energy to raise a family when we are this old anyway

[@RealTroyFrancis]

probably not lol

[@jamesdixon3972]

Not every man wants to be a meal ticket

[@chasing_dragons]

Commitment and romance are very overrated.

[@chrisbunka]

Cabin in the woods. Henry David Thoreau. Walden Pond.

[@jolly7728]

People who are out there playing the dating game are lost souls. The game is so overrated and low-class in my opinion. Just find a simple girl you click with that you meet in the ordinary course of events and go from there. This is important because being in the same setting on a regular basis should mean you have some things in common, making it easier and very natural to strike up a conversation. Be sure not to do anything immoral or unethical, and don't tolerate the same from anyone. Walk away if your gut tells you something isn't quite right (you'll find someone else). On the other hand, if you are bored with life, bitter, or cynical then consider joining the dating scene to get your fix of dopamine. Consider it but don't do it. It only worsens those conditions. If worse comes to worse, continue working on yourself -- creating a rich and interesting life. It's fine being alone but not lonely. In the end such a lifestyle will attract girls to you without ever asking a gal for her phone number or buying her a drink.

[@BrunoPadilhaOficial]

Great insights! Unrelated question: what selfie stick are you using? Does it have a stabilizer? Whenever I try to shoot these videos it's just too shaky but yours look super smooth.

[@RealTroyFrancis]

using a DJI camera which has a gimbal stabiliser

[@BrunoPadilhaOficial]

@@RealTroyFrancis ahh nice! Alright thanks and keep up the good work 🤜🏻🤛🏻

[@burnoutrelief1850]

I tend to feel really anxious when I get in a relationship or when I date. It can be for different reasons but I used to make myself do anyway but now I just let myself be single and I don't try to date. Sometimes I become friends with someone and then it turns into more but then it seems to blow up at some point. I don't know if I want to be single or if its just that I have psychological and attachment issues that keep me single, It seems like everyone wants to be loved and have a special relationship and in theory I do, I just don't actually seem to find it in the real world. I never have.

[@burnoutrelief1850]

I like what you said, I feel like I have hurt people too. I think that is one of the reasons I am so not dating. I always think what if I can't give this person what they want and I try to be friends with people and also make it clear I want to be platonic friends until I know them well enough I would consider going on a date. I think when you are single a lot of people want to move at warp speed at least at first. maybe this is a male mating strategy.

[@edwardgenet164]

You can't have your cake and eat it too.

[@zenanon7169]

Might be me.

[@johnpdd]

3:30 What's that weird man doing?

[@johnpdd]

14:00 There he is again!

[@s3any1977]

I'm liking you Troy. You've moved away from being a RP grifter

[@griffmccoy5607]

Why not just have FWB that stay friends after you both move on? Collect old flames.

[@RealTroyFrancis]

That can happen sometimes - a coffee every few weeks doesn’t really fill the existential void though

[@griffmccoy5607]

Good point. Thanks for the honest perspective. It seems harder to come by over time.

[@mjaybee]

Welcome, Neo…..to the real world

[@RealTroyFrancis]

Ok boomer

[@northsouth8884]

Troy you have has dark limbal rings. Makes eyes stand out.

[@ma3stro681]

Bachelor life is be$t and Thailand has re-oped for bu$ine$$, fellow single, free, han$um men ...

[@ak_naral]

4:46 *Dude, stop embarrassing your wife and kid.*

[@milekrizman]

Just a minor observation. V neck shirt and a sport coat?

[@RealTroyFrancis]

Yep. And ‘sport coat’ is not a term I would ever use, personally

[@parabelllum8733]

Are you built for the pain of neverending Break ups every time your short term flings end . Breaking up is always messy and painful . We are designed to be monogamous and in lifelong relationships where a man and woman become one despite the crap all relationships experience. Married for 29 years until the death of my wife . for better or worse , For Richer or poorer , in sickness and health Until death do us part .The Author of the Wedding vows knew the key to happiness , (after thousands of years of wisdom ) The modern values are wrong . biologically and emotionally , nothing beats a successful marriage for life . Nothing is more rewarding than a successful Family .

[@RealTroyFrancis]

Heavy on assertion, low on facts. We’re designed to be monogamous and in lifelong relationships? The evidence suggests otherwise….Anyway, as I’ve said, you are only 50% of the equation. You also have to be damn certain your S.O. is going to keep her half of the bargain. And about 70% of divorces are initiated by women.

[@parabelllum8733]

@@RealTroyFrancis What Evidence Troy ...... ?? The evidence of 6000 years of recorded history shows which civilisations survived with high moral standards and which ones crashed - eg .... the Fall of Rome , Greece and Babylon . Plenty of material there . Gibbons Rise and Fall of the Roman Empire speaks heavily about Roman debauchary and the collapse of the society that resulted . Take the Blinkers off - The truth is modern people cave in as soon as it doest "feel good " ... No spine or character or willingness to stick it out through difficulties . As a result the wander aimlessly from relationship to relationship until their lives end in despair .

[@Dinabergsweden]

Interesting! The only issue is that a high value woman would not accept and not like being another notch on your bed post. So yeah recommend going after really young care free girls that is in a ”playful” mindset not thinking about kids and relationships so 20-25 then. So you will be that 20+year older guy. I just think it is sad..

[@RealTroyFrancis]

Right, but marriage and long-term relationships can also be sad for many people.

[@Dinabergsweden]

@@RealTroyFrancis Yes if they are in the wrong ones!

[@LucasHMaia]

I am in the other pole... I feel engaged to every girl I start getting involved... Do you have any tip?

[@RealTroyFrancis]

You are probably too needy, which suggests a lack of abundance, or perceived abundance. Have you tried being social and meeting more women?

[@LucasHMaia]

@@RealTroyFrancis I am working on it...

[@frankverisco4722]

mgtow is the best way to go. stay single fellas!

[@Bboyredmoon]

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[@bigollie006]

I think the idea of "built for this or that" is just an excuse. It's a really long way to say you have deficiencies. I get the idea, but at the end of the day, not being monogamous is always a choice. Trying to justify WHY is weakness. Instead, the video should be labeled "Do You Want To" Pickles aren't for me. I'm just not built for it right? I could really eat pickles if I wanted to. It's a perspective thing

[@RealTroyFrancis]

Use of shaming language - Deficiencies’. ‘Weak’. - says more about you than about me.

[@ChanceBerryman]

Lol NO