Rebuilding Trust in Your Marriage After Infidelity (Part 1) - Mark & Jill Savage

[@pipergunderson-swaney4539]

The struggle as the one cheated on emotionally or physically is regaining trust. I was so trusting- with this man- it eats at my soul because I just cannot seem to get the trust back. I love him- just struggling with trusting again. I want my brain back-

[@Newmusicnme]

Same here! 😢

[@momteacherlessons7296]

I always had an ounce of trust. It just fwwls impossible

[@lissettealdrete0801]

Exactly with my situation right now. I trusted my husband with everything. Found out he was having an emotional affair. Been struggling also mentally, spiritually and emotionally.

[@TheSaintberzerker]

I am in the same boat with my wife. I don't know how to do this.

[@jannettegnz]

Same. Caught him talking to one woman. Took him back. Then I found out there were others he talked to. Don't know if there was anything physical because he refuses to be honest and transparent. Love him so much and trusted him blindy and it hurts that he could betray me with such ease.

[@bsayon]

It happens from the small things.. and then we just destroyed our marriages for “no real reason”. It’s temporary and not really worth it. Prayers for our marriages.

[@digitalliquid5159]

amen

[@prasannanalli1728]

I request you to kindly uphold me in your prayers for my marriage restoration.

[@JoelSmith-b4s]

Please know that many many woman were and are in Mark's shoes. Thank you Jill and Mark for sharing what so many are experiencing.

[@NicholeRollo]

I am going through this now snd asking for prayers. I am a believer and want to fight for my marriage and restore it

[@memphis3640]

I am so thankful to see the Church starting to step up in this area of marriage.

[@akhonatshiseka]

This podcast is healing me.

[@JAyala-se4st]

The difference is if the cheater is remorseful and can take responsibility of themselves

[@AverageAufa]

i still feel like throwing up and am physically ill occasionally

[@kenyaoneal9098]

Love is Powerful!!!! Thank You Jesus for Your Love!!! Bless the Savages in Your Name!!!

[@camuyana]

When there is no repentance and change, there is no way to salvage the marriage. I gave him 43 years and he kept being unfaithful. I decided it was time to end this mess and file for The voice this year. The papers are in the court and the end is just around the corner. He is deeply regretting what happened but there is no love or trust anymore. Make sure that when you do the ultimate betrayal you are ready to really really leave because otherwise the most deepest pain is what you're going to experience and the only thing comparable probably is the death of a child. Don't make the mistake of going into an illicit relationship and later regretting.

[@hollymaxwellboydell]

This is a powerful testimony. Thank you for this. I have been so grateful to have found the work of The Marriage Foundation and Paul Friedman, who are helping men and women to truly love one another in marriage. We are not taught how to do this incredibly important relationship, which impacts everyone around the marriage, couple and the family, and ultimately society. Thank you so much for this vulnerable and valuable sharing from the heart. 🙏🏼♥️

[@prasannanalli1728]

This is a very powerful testimony 🙌 praise Jesus

[@VictorianMetalGirl]

Why would a man make sacred vows to you if he is just going to break them? Too often, women are told to just deal with infidelity especially if "he only did it once" and to submit to abuse yet if a woman did anything wrong she would be in big trouble. I'm sorry but we as a society and as a church need to teach that adultery is wrong, not "Oh, it's OK. She'll stay with you, where's she gonna go. It was just a mistake."

[@1Corinthians6Verses9thru11]

Well technically... (whether it's the husband or wife) that is cheated on, the offended party has biblical permission for divorce in this scenerio (and only in this scenario); but I'm not saying that the offended party SHOULD take this route, but that it's allowed in this one case. But whether it was the man or woman in the marriage, Christians should be consistent with this either way; adultery is equally sinful whether it's a husband or wife that commits it.

[@Lambdamale.]

I've seen it work the other way. Its wrong on a number of levels and should be called out equally. Its a form of theft and no-one will convince me otherwise.

[@Lambdamale.]

@@1Corinthians6Verses9thru11 i would add that I think even under conditions of adultery the offended party had better think long and hard about divorce if they have children....especially small ones.

[@suegreengranite2002]

@@1Corinthians6Verses9thru11 Me personally I have been married 30yrs & have been through deep hurt from my husband that destroyed me as a woman I sought counseling he came to most of them but things didn't change I tried many times more than I can count & I told him there will come a day I don't cry anymore I always prayed for him to change in a area that caused major emotional damage that led to us finally separating & we've been separated for a few years he's never tried to get me back even though I've not heard of a ‘other woman ‘ I wrapped my life & love up in my grandchildren to find love & they love me so much but my life to move on & divorce him has never happened I don't know why I can't make that step.. I don't know why it's not because being in love with him.., I just don't have a answer..,💔

[@suegreengranite2002]

Thank the Lord my 2 sons are married with babys🙏

[@mikerelyea2988]

My wife recently cheated on me and I'm trying to figure out how to rebuild and if I can actually do so any advice woukd help and places to go for classes or what not thanks

[@hopecreed5502]

JIM DAILY BROADCAST THATS SO GREAT

[@kevarist]

This is nice. Can we have similar stories where men are also victims? We need to hear the other side as well.

[@focusonthefamily]

Thanks for your question, Evarist. We agree that it's important to have both men's and women's perspectives represented when discussing difficult topics such as infidelity. That being said, we would encourage you to check out our broadcast with Bob and Audrey Meisner - bit.ly/3Npt149. In this conversation, Bob and Audrey describe how God's grace led them along the hard road to reconciliation and restored their marriage after Audrey's infidelity. We hope this helps. May God bless you!

[@MikeSmith-kt5mj]

​@focusonthefamil When men are the victims, Focus on the Family blames the husband for the wives infidelity.. and Focus on the Family makes the cheating wife a hero

[@cal3751]

Also check out: Josh & Katie Walters, David & Terri Sumlin, Rusty & Heather Bryant, Rick & Tiffany Bulman, Harrison Scott Key and Lauren.

[@Youtubefavorites1]

Agreed!

[@hopecreed5502]

THANKS FOR YOUR POST AND I LOVED IT

[@bplumbj]

Thank you so much for this

[@linak7155]

I'm glad this couple has reconciled and perhaps this is helpful to others who are going through this pain *BUT* rehashing it over and over again cannot be healthy...😔🥀

[@deejay7759]

Getting it out there in the open is important in the healing process. And, once you recover from it and can help others it shrinks the issue somewhat and makes it easier to let it go. You won’t heal from something unless you acknowledge it and work through the pain of it. I’ve been there so I understand them taking about it and trying to help others.

[@linak7155]

@@deejay7759 yes! I hear you! Although acknowledging and getting it out there are two different things; We all hv our way of seeking healing and coping mechanisms. I hope this couple and many others in their situation are able to forgive and restore trust again.

[@madeyoufeel4216]

Telling the story can be empowering if you have grieved and grown, what you described an anecdotal case.

[@tarashoemaker154]

What about those couples who have a spouse who year after year has emotional affairs on social media and keeps using the excuse they are a work in progress but keep betraying their spouse by doing this over and over 😮

[@ruthmuma8693]

That's what am going through. Still not sure of what I should do 😢

[@digitalliquid5159]

we gotta give the sheep the room they are desiring distance from the shepard.

[@timwhistine9997]

It is still a spirit and condition of unfaithfulness. Marriage needs rules and boundaries that protect what we value. Be consistent with the rules and boundaries! ♥️🙏🏻

[@lucyharris6118]

I feel her pain. I found out while my husband was sleeping and instead of phoning a friend I reacted in a very ungodly way.

[@deejay7759]

Hard to be godly when you discover this. I’ve been there too.

[@susanklinefelter6487]

I feel the pain tooooo

[@patriciarowland8230]

Me too.

[@michelegautier157]

Very natural reaction to feel this way. I’m sorry he hurt you 😢

[@jeanniemcbride4619]

Lord please give me the strength to strengthen my marriage

[@jessicaaguilar9405]

I'm in there life right now how can I get help

[@linak7155]

Many years ago Mr Dobson's cohost committed adultery and left his wife and children for another woman. I remember being in shock and profoundly saddened. I hope they hv since rebuilt their marriage or at the very least he has repented and re established a relationship with his children. I'd love to hear about them... 💔 ❣️

[@deejay7759]

I remember that too. I don’t think they did. I believe they went their separate ways.

[@suegreengranite2002]

I don't remember that??

[@pleadfive658]

Yup, I wondered what had happened.

[@taiwokwakye60]

Why are you creating such negative posts?

[@janvannewkirk4446]

It was Mike Trout. I hope they reconciled.

[@sarahsearle1142]

It's great that they've been able to reconcile & works things through. However, I found this hard to watch. Whenever Mark (husband) would try to explain & talk through how he was feeling, Jill (wife) would constantly talk over him & shut him down. It makes me wonder if her lack of manners & willingness to not hear what her husband truly had to say was part of his "list". Perhaps what made him frustrated & to seek another relationship??

[@mariaedgar5066]

Thank you for sharing your story 😢 It has helped me greatly…🙏🙏

[@hopecreed5502]

THANKS FOR YOUR POST AND I LOVE IT

[@mangao4334]

My kids dad always says we are from different worlds and he should not be married while he has other relationships outside the marriage

[@gb-yn2re]

I am suspicious my husband has cheated on me twice and the 2nd time is recent and or he still may be cheating on me. I feel as if I have a great deal of evidence but he is not willing to admit to it.

[@albertguillen9353]

It's one word Sin.... know excuses

[@saraz9017]

How long has it been with them again? I like to think this is a miracle but after listening, I hope Jill doesn’t get cheated on again.

[@patriciarowland8230]

Didn't know my husband's love language I'm acts of service found out years later after divorce realized his is words of affirmation. Which I never had this growing up.i didn't know how to do b this.

[@SaystheTruth3]

Lol love language is ridiculous....

[@IniaVidovi-cz5fq]

I faced this issue in my family last week and I davasted broken,

[@omoyemenarinze]

Oh Lord I need your love to be able to love unconditionally. Its so hard

[@digitalliquid5159]

very hard amen

[@hopecreed5502]

THATS SO AWESOME AWESOME THAT 80 PERCENT OF THE MARRIAGE WAS STILL GOING

[@jeanferlynsleon3152]

May the Lord have mercy on me! 😭😭😭

[@itsafantakis]

We were married 30 years and now divorced for 10 years…. I’m standing in the gap…. I trusted telling him the truth and he lied to me and divorced me afterwards. I gave him the just reason to divorce:

[@kathryngracey7993]

No type of counseling works to restore the marriage if one of the couple is a narcissist.

[@norabongiorno6197]

You just d described my life

[@Aunty254]

So right

[@OilOfJoy12]

But your forgetting one very important aspect Jesus Christ can do anything ❤

[@vernaharris4700]

Satan is truly the author of confusion.

[@angloaust1575]

Its in the movies also An affair to remember From here to eternity And many more!

[@luciyoung777]

HUGS

[@luciyoung777]

I STILL WITH MY EX. MARK. NOT A JOKE. HUS NAME IS,,,, MARK. BUT HE IS NOT CHANGING. I AM STILL HERE 43 OVER YEARS. I AM WIFE NUMBER( TWO AND . EX WIFE FOUR). ONE IS GONE AND THREE IS LIVING ACROSS THE STREET FROM US. I HAVE SERVED MARK'S FAMILY OVER FOURTY THREE YEARS. .43.... THERE US WAY MORE TO THIS. BYE

[@suegreengranite2002]

@@luciyoung777 my prayers are with you🙏♥️

[@JeffreySchieding]

It should come as no surprise that a spouse who has been cheated on can't trust their spouse anymore. If you are a believer you have the biblical right to divorce your adulterous spouse and should.

[@MeYou-f7u]

No, there should never be going back from that.

[@jilly8372]

Love must be Tough is a much better book option. It promotes a person preserving their dignity and letting people choose for themselves. I am glad they found healing, but this is cringey and unhelpful.

[@Lambdamale.]

I think they try to clean it up for the broadcast.

[@awomansstory.2019]

My husband cheated on me with his married coworker. I foundnout 3.5 yrs ago.

[@John_811KJV]

*Biblical Marriage: 1 man + 1 woman = One Flesh til Death do you Part* Mark 10:2-12; 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, 1 Corinthians 7:39; Romans 7:2-3

[@Bstnrose4444]

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[@deejay7759]

Her voice is still shaky. She is still affected.

[@hopecreed5502]

Does sound like it

[@hopecreed5502]

It takes time t heal

[@jeanhoffman5676]

It takes a lifetime to get over betrayal.

[@steroble127]

When she talks about it she is reliving it in the moment. It is hard, but you know they are in a better place

[@sheilalopez7498]

If they didn't care then, they don't care now! 😢

[@NB-nh2sf]

Men really are ....whew. I dont get it just stay single.

[@leontezwilliamson-bey3738]

I will never agree with that...its not stronger then if both dudnt cheat

[@marywarner4816]

P

[@rteegar78]

Sorry, once a cheater-always a cheater. It’s a tick they have. I’ve taught my kids that since they were young. I’m glad for those that seem to get through it, but coming from a home that infidelity was a thing, I will never change my mind on this.

[@brandonmorrison3041]

If you don’t believe people can change then you don’t believe the Gospel message.

[@rteegar78]

@@brandonmorrison3041 you must’ve cheated lol

[@dan-Michigan]

The marriage can, but seldom is stronger as a result of an affair occurring in a marriage. Don’t deceive yourself. The continual reminders of your wife being with another man for many years is a daily struggle and just can’t lead to a trustful relationship. The person who is betrayed lacks trust, withdraws from friendships - total healing? No, we will get that in heaven if we get there.

[@sheilalopez7498]

Once a cheat, always a cheat!!

[@saraz9017]

I like this but there shouldn’t be blame on the victim. It’s very sad that you would encourage women to “look at themselves” when they’ve been cheated on. There’s no woman in the world that doesn’t have flaws and makes mistakes in a relationship. Cheating is something people decide to do completely on their own. Marital issues have nothing to do with cheating. Cheating and unfaithfulness is usually something people decide to do even before they get married. It’s how and who’ve they’ve chosen to be.

[@Uriah-r9m]

You can’t rebuild trust after infidelity. Move on.

[@Noah-Samson-Latsch]

Not helpful

[@nugeman7779]

A man cannot get certain images out of his mind from being betrayed by a cheater wife. How in the world can a man even kiss his wife again on the lips after where they and her tongue were? A wife's adultery is more wicked and disgusting than a mans. And how could he have relations with her wondering how he "measures up" with her stud lover? Adultery is a marriage destroyer. Im not saying miracles cant happen but it literally takes a miracle.

[@billyeaton5328]

May I ask... ¿?WHY¿? You have this thought? Like, Seriously you think it's oooo so different for women?? Why are women always the one thats"Supposed to be STRONGER,N HANDLE IT" IT GOES BOTH WAYS PERIOD!! NO DIFFERENT FOR WOMEN THEN IT IS A MALE!! INFIDELITY IS INFIDELITY ITS NOT MAN VS WOMAN OR VICE VERSE!! Either way Cheating on your spouse is JUST AS HURTFUL being a male or female it has no gender! Betrayal is Betrayal , Lieing is Lieing, Cheating is Cheating! There is no different definition based upon your Gender... There is also no different instructions for healing based upon gender!

[@vincentgan81able]

Why do guys who look so fugly get all the action?

[@prasannanalli1728]

Hi I'm from india watching your program. I want to get in touch with you and discuss a biblical solution about my restoration. However I'm unable to get in touch with you through the number that scrolls on your screen. Kindly help provide a different number to reach.out to you to seek a goodly counseling. Thank you

[@danharms4237]

Lucy, quit making excuses for cheaters..a cheating wife is the lowest form of life, quit making excuses for them. No such thing as a trustworthy woman any more

[@hopecreed5502]

JIM DAILY BROADCAST THATS SO GREAT