Reddit Reacts: Wife Considers Divorce After Husband Stands By While Toddler Saves Newborn

[@sharhenley]

Please let me know your thoughts!

[@bonnielovely]

the updates on this story are wild !!

[@Franzifii]

​​@@bonnielovelyDo you mean the updates in the video or are there new ones?

[@sinovuyobudaza7167]

Hi. I normally agree with everything you say but I think with this story you were a bit harsh. People make mistakes and the speculation made in this video seems to disregard that fact. Whatever happened to giving people grace and understanding. As someone who has a friend with ADHD for 13 years I have witness her easily get distracted and abandon tasks. While I understand how bad this situation was, I don't think we learned enough about the man assume he's a narcissist and hates his kids. Guys, let's not forget that we are all human beings and we all make mistakes.

[@bonnielovely]

@@Franzifii shar had most of the updates and the story but there are a couple new updates on an archived thread

[@bonnielovely]

@@sinovuyobudaza7167 the updates showed that he was indeed a narc, and not only that, he was addicted to m3th and cut up the kid's beds. there is video evidence of him leaving the stroller in the street and then not running after it when he SEES it starts rolling towards the main road, and he lets the toddler, and neighbors run and scream after the stroller but he doesn't move there were lots of other details in the story updates that are too graphic for youtube, but the post does have enough information on him that we can infer he is way worse than the video describes

[@BigBiteDoughnut]

People are more worried about her hurting his feelings bc he has adhd then her ripping her stomach open... the ghate for women is real

[@nodrvgs]

ikrr

[@nikicarrie4071]

Yep. I'm over it. No grace for them anymore

[@iThiink]

Fuck his ADHD, everyone acts like it's the hardest thing to deal with

[@winning3329]

Also a male would never have married a woman who has adhd or autism. Ladies please stop the the grace giving.

[@nonya8193]

Fr poor lady. They're even more concerned about the grown ass man than the children like wtf. Tell me we live in a patriarchal society without telling me we live in a patriarchal society. 🙄

[@monikapp3981]

The toddler is more responsible than him. LITERALLY.

[@BNicoleJackson]

The toddler actually loves her baby brother

[@nikicarrie4071]

Just disgusting

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

These males don't deserve to have a woman or kids.

[@anikasmith8361]

ADHD is not an excuse. On another Reddit the MOTHER had ADHD and was still more responsible than the husband in that scenerio. Women are never given as much outs as men.

[@nikicarrie4071]

Never!!

[@VLuava5v5]

because women are desperate and bunch of thots so they will give men any reason for their behavior, so they can have a chance with a whole random person on the internet but you know just in case i guess..

[@nonya8193]

Facts 💯 smdh

[@xysarenottheprize]

They’ve never had to face accountability before.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

I think mothers have higher standards unfairly. But other women definitely have more excuses for stuff then men. But maybe it depends where you live and who you're surrounded with.

[@DatsWatsUp]

My girl popped her c-section stitches to save her baby, this Man-child thought it was too much effort to push the stroller up the driveway to keep his newborn in close proximity. Like, why would you “park” the stroller on the sidewalk like it’s a bike to chit chat? you can chit chat with your baby at arm’s length. Why does this have to be explained? And for ppl to criticize the mom saying that the husband has ADHD she should’ve known better. WTAF!!! Having ADHD isn’t an excuse to having this slow/ no reaction to nearly losing your newborn. Trust permanently broken. Might as well divorce.

[@MyDuckSaysFucc]

If ADHD made him that incompetent he shouldn’t have become a father!

[@NeverYours-c5g]

They will make endless excuses for why men are allowed to be utter sht… leave these pickmes to run after these losers. Fck that!

[@Sanakudou]

Also, ADHD is known for being the most successfully treatable neurodevelopmental disorder due to how effective ADHD meds are, which are made even more effective when used in tandem with specific lifestyle adaptations, which is just externalising executive function tasks through the use of reminder/to-do lists, setting timers and intentional monotasking. There’s no excuse for an adult who has a diagnosis to not be taking medication to fix their symptoms. People need to stop infantilising adult men who have ADHD, they are not toddlers. We don’t give anyone with a psychiatric disorder like schizophrenia any leeway for not taking essential medications, so why give so much leeway to men with ADHD who aren’t adequately medicated? It’s actually inexcusably irresponsible for a parent who has ADHD to drive a car with their kids inside if they’re not on ADHD meds whilst driving, as the number one cause of death in people with unmedicated ADHD is a car crash. Additionally, people with ADHD aren’t stupid, they merely have faulty dopamine receptors, which means they have the same cognitive capacity as anyone else to figure out the most troublesome symptoms they have and brainstorm adaptive solutions for them. It’s weaponised incompetence if they’re not doing this. For instance, if you can’t complete a task properly unless you monotask, then you create a self imposed rule to tell anyone who interrupts you mid-task that they have to wait, which is what this father could’ve done by telling the neighbours to wait one moment for him to get the kids securely inside, then he could come back to talk. Wouldn’t take more than 10-30 seconds before he could start chatting.

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

I'm sick of XYs using clinical diagnosis as one more way to excuse their bad behaviors.

[@Enriquez2222]

Literally I have ADHD and I have an order of priorities to keep myself organized. The kid would be the top priority in that moment

[@ashassassin]

Adhd and autism are not excuses for shit behavior. I have both and, while I do forget to close cabinets, I could never forget my own child!

[@nodrvgs]

exactly!!

[@tylert271]

No excuses for that whatsoever!

[@iThiink]

I'm autistic and don't use it for an excuse

[@Chillikilli]

Same. Like it's not an excuse at all.

[@iamshesheisme8954]

Exactly, people with ADHD are super tuned into sounds and activities around us, this is why we have trouble concentrating on one particular thing. ADHD should've been a strength in this situation not a weakness.

[@tyckeri]

This reminds me of the dad that forgot the baby in a hot car. Later they found that he had googled it before it happened!!

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

OMG...he planned it? Diabolical.

[@redgoddess]

😢

[@EmpressAcended]

I was thinking the same thing! 🤔💭 7:20 🚩

[@MsMookalate]

I remember him. He let two children die. One from his ex and the new wife. Remind you he's a father of multiple so the older kids survive because they was clearly with mom most of the time.

[@nikicarrie4071]

Wtf

[@Princess-us5so]

I have ADHD, and I dont want to be put in the same box with this moron husband! This aint ADHD. In fact I think a person with ADHD would be HYPER AWARE!

[@nd7289]

Your ADHD will not be sam as someone else's ADHD. However, if he knows this is a problem for him, he should have been looking for solutions to manage this particular issue

[@Franzifii]

Same! I don't think it was the ADHD, if he even has it.

[@karmareal4548]

Facts!!!! That part! Everyone deserves I have children if they choose to but don't come on here and mention your husband has always had issues focusing. That is knowingly putting your future children at risk in my opinion.

[@iamshesheisme8954]

​@@nd7289 coming from someone with ADHD, this was not an ADHD ISSUE. it's not about being the same as someone else with ADHD This is like YOU saying someone with ADHD doesn't have a problem paying attention, the diagnoses comes from the inability to pay attention. This also why someone with ADHD would've have not reacted this way. Adhd does not cripple someone's fear response, only if we were super medicated and in that case its on the medication not the adhd. I don't care who you are, the fundamentals of ADHD are the same.

[@nonya8193]

​@@karmareal4548Another one that wants to blame the wife rather than the irresponsible man she married. 🙄

[@jezeannwilliams1145]

At least she could use the video footage to secure full custody

[@danakchampion]

Let's hope she gets a judge that agrees.

[@l0111]

Unfortunately most judges wouldn’t agree. He’d easily get 50/50 custody.

[@bonnielovely]

@@l0111 no, he won’t. there other updates to this story. he’s been addicted to m3th & was on a “run” when he left the baby stroller in the street. he’s cooked

[@Rose_Bride]

​@@bonnielovelyWHAT!?! This situation just keeps getting worse and worse.... HOLY COWWWW. 😮‍💨 Thank you for the update!

[@GwendolynPorter-w6c]

DEFINITELY THAT PART!!!

[@IbhadeArabome]

Did the father want to kill the baby because she was paying attention to the baby over him? You know how these men get jealous of their own children. Hmm 🧐

[@lekeciagarland6148]

That’s what I’m thinking

[@lekeciagarland6148]

That’s what I’m thinking

[@mindingmybusiness6309]

🤔

[@venusa4871]

Subconsciously

[@AZ-sh2zx]

No the jealously is very conscious

[@TimelessErsy]

Divorce babe, divorce 😢

[@empresssk]

The math is simple: man left baby in driveway. When her panic lessens and she sees his neglect for what it is, she will leave.

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

This "neglect" toes the line of intentional child endangerment, though.

[@bonnielovely]

he didn’t leave the baby in the driveway, according to the updates where she sees neighbors’ security camera video, he left the stroller IN THE LITERAL STREET

[@makesnodifference]

@@continuousself-improvement1879 Criminal negligence, IMO. I'd toss that charge on top of the pile if I were the DA. It would be the bread slice of an entire sandwich of charges I'd be bringing

[@jellybeans9283]

I'd hope so. But I know how passive women are, they forgive forget and then have another baby with the useless man and burden their daughters

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

@@makesnodifference thank God she has that video for evidence. This man will probably Chris Watts his kids.

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

She is a married single mom. She will soon realize that her life would be happier and easier when she makes herself an actual single mom. That man is not safe to leave alone with the kids either. When she dumps him, any visitation of him and the kids should be supervised.

[@brendamoon2660]

My life way way easier once I got a divorce. Being a single mom is nonwhere near as hard as raising a man baby.

[@vidhead85]

He shouldn't even get supervision

[@sarivah_musicdiary]

I see men behaving like this on a daily basis, totally oblivious. The way they walk with toddlers on the streets... Meters ahead and not even checking what happens behind their back. Sometimes the toddler needs to run to stay with his father who is walking at his normal adult speed with a toddler whose legs are 10% of his 🙄

[@DianaPrinceitiswhatitis]

Same here, specifically in San Francisco, CA when I’m driving I see men always meting their toddlers walk six feet or more ahead of them with a curb and intersection immediately ahead. They don’t hold their hands. Smh

[@makesnodifference]

Men are NOT protectors or providers, period. What they ARE are liars and abusers.

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

My idiot BD would do this stupid shit. One of the many reasons I left him completely.

[@Cookie-tz7hd]

I see this all the time, It's horrifying! No common sense what so ever...

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

These aren't normal functioning adults. These are devils

[@sweetdreams3119]

He got caught trying to have an accidently on purpose tragedy. Stay the hell away from this demon. She needs to detail this incident to the courts re: visitation and request supervision.

[@nonya8193]

Very likely smh. It's so sad mother's have to protect their children from their own fathers.

[@KatherineTheGreat501]

My boyfriend had a sister but she drowned under dad's watch. Dad blames mom of course even though she wasn't there.

[@oanaion4899]

That's diabolical.

[@ComaLies225]

Dad sounds like a real prize 🙄

[@jdbailey442]

🤬😡 WTF?!

[@Kelema86]

How could he possible blame them mom?! That’s insane.

[@cindychristian1700]

​@Kelema86 Because in his mind watching a baby is women's work! He shouldn't have had that responsibility because, as their mother, she should never leave the children with him, a man! 😢It makes no sense, but I bet that's how he was able to insanely rationalize losing their daughter from his neglect, it was somehow her fault!

[@AVibeCalledYes]

She needs to leave him. I would get the forever ick if my husband did this. This is why many men do not deserve women or kids. You shouldn't have to be told to pay attention to your children smh

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

Facts. Ick is too gracious.

[@AuntieThree]

The baby saving toddler deserves all the toys and chicken nuggies, poor baby almost ate asphalt trying to save their baby sister. A true hero.

[@moreni2nd405]

Weaponized incompetence is deadly!!!!

[@lynns4426]

This one sent a chill down my spine. Her daughter will probably be traumatized from this, too. I think she should leave ASAP. They are all in danger.

[@missalphaomegagod-2u]

Exactly I’d never go back!

[@dariasdouble212]

I have the freeze response. I don't have children but I have ferrets (who are strangely very similar to toddlers) and if I hear something-something falling, angry ferrets sounds, vomiting, etc.- I RUN to find them. I've woken up to vomiting ferrets and I am out of that bed like the Flash. There is zero excuse for his actions. He is a safety hazard. He is a liability.

[@catcoffee7958]

The thing is men built to protect ,,not as much as mums though

[@nbucwa6621]

@@catcoffee7958 huh? what does that even mean?

[@fantym-1]

@catcoffee Yeah. Built to protect their own self-interest. Oh, & they only provide for that same self-interest, too

[@SuperMel81-j5l]

​@@nbucwa6621I think she means that men are supposed to protect but moms are more of a protector.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

​​​@@fantym-1We aren't all like that. Some of us were taught to be soldiers that our lives are nothing compares to women's. Women are the most important whether they have kids are not. Kids are second because not as good as women unless they are women. I keep a vigilant eye for any women in trouble and know it's my duty to provide my life. I try to be a bulletproof vest for women. I know my life isn't enough but it's all I can give. That and as much support and advocacy as I can.

[@lifesfun101]

Those children are in danger. She needs to never leave them alone with him ever again.

[@LilySaintSin]

Why tf are people making excuses for him???

[@Chillikilli]

Because he's a male

[@nonya8193]

Because we live in a patriarchal society. 🙄

[@kiriki4558]

Because they are the same as him

[@liannadunten7326]

Because they have a lot invested in believing their own neuroatypicality should shield them from accountability.

[@makesnodifference]

Because pickme-ism/centering men

[@TheOriginalScorpioBelle]

1:21 One of the reasons I’m divorced. Our fire detector went off and the ex husband didn’t budge. I knew then that it was over.

[@Hwgt888]

Maybe he didn’t budge because you are co scantly setting it off?

[@chelseahuddle557]

@@Hwgt888 Ah yes, of course, silly me, starting all these fires that I then immediately extinguish AND forget about.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

Bro WHAT

[@endTHEhegemony_Today]

The blame is be placed on the woman's shoulders by pathetic unaccountable men. 🖤💜💙💚💙💜🖤 Much Love to those Women with unnecessary weight on their shoulders placed there by weak men

[@bobbyray7558]

...but was there a fire?

[@changes649]

This is giving psycho and lack of empathy.

[@lifeonabudget8513]

Divorce time! ADHD? More like sociopath 😂

[@BeneGesseritWitch]

I don't believe family annihilators see their family as human. She needs to leave he clearly doesn't care about the kids.

[@donnamcintosh2109]

OMG, this is disturbing!! As they say, there are married single mothers; this woman needs to file for a divorce.

[@catcoffee7958]

She was groomed

[@carlahaiduk1878]

I have ADHD and people with ADHD are very good at dealing with emergencies. That guy didn't freeze. He did it on purpose.

[@butterbeer4582]

Not true for everyone, especially primarily inattentive type that overlap with cognitive disengagement (sluggish cognitive tempo). However it's not an excuse, I will never work in healthcare or similar because of this and I'd definitely think twice before having kids.

[@tiryaclearsong421]

​@@butterbeer4582 SCT is not ADHD and is in the process of being distinguished in the DSM. The same treatments don't work and the brain scans and mechanism are different.

[@butterbeer4582]

@@tiryaclearsong421 thanks! I didn't know it was currently being classified, thought it was still in the earlier stages. Guess this would mean a good amount of people diagnosed with inattentive type ADHD may be rediagnosed with SCT in coming years

[@ravennalovecraft421]

The fayher may have adhd, but the reflexes of most dads is usually spot-on. We've all seen the videos. Dads catching their kids from a near-miss kind of fall, or a dive. Its remarkable, regardless of how distracted the father was. For any father who is truly concerned for their kid's well-being, they go out of their way to stop what they're doing

[@Thursdayschildfar2go]

Agreed. My dad was pretty uninvolved, but I have a clear memory of him throwing himself bodily between myself and danger.

[@Golden.Delight]

She should leave him. My two month old daughter passed away under my now exhusband‘s care while I was at work. And I believe that I had I never gone back to work. My daughter would still be alive. There are always warning signs. This is one of those caution do not cross warning signs. The amount of documentation that I currently have from my child returning from his father‘s with injuries is as long as a scroll. I ignored the warning signs. I hope she doesn’t.

[@Golden.Delight]

My baby was sick when I went to work that day. Fussy crying. Well I was at work. He had text me 100. I’m sorry I punched the wall.“ she just won’t stop crying.” I get home and they’re both asleep in the bed. I always say no co-sleeping! but did he listen to me now of course not because “ It’s just easier for me. I know what I’m doing. I’m safe.” For the record, he never put hands on me until the day he moved out. And COD was ruled pneumonia… But there’s a part of me that feels extremely guilty for not requesting more of an autopsy to see if my daughter was smothered. I’m ashamed of how I grabbed his hand that had cut marks from him punching the wall that morning from the cops. I was just focused on keeping my family together. I already lost my mom and I lost my daughter was terrified and losing my husband. In the now I wish I would’ve thrown him to the wolves. But I find comfort in knowing that he has to be tortured with the truth every day.

[@SuperMel81-j5l]

​@@Golden.DelightShe could have been smothered. That happened to my grandson. He was sleeping with his babysitter and she smothered him. We were led to believe he just stopped breathing, until the autopsy came back.

[@weirdloverwilde]

I am so so sorry for your loss

[@Ilikefrogs..]

I’m so sorry.

[@rosethorne9155]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[@tashibalampkin8555]

She tore her stitches! If she would have developed an infection, best believe that husband would "accidentally" killed one of the kids. The husband is trash.

[@Tai_B]

LEAVE. That man is dangerous

[@abrandnewday3581]

Divorce. Leave this guy because it’s clear that he doesn’t want to be a father and husband. He is at the minimum, a reckless person and a danger to his family.

[@peacefreedom4930]

This is definitely a sign from the universe to leave her husband. He’s a danger to her children. Either he did this on purpose or he’s incapable of protecting his own children. At least she received a warning. Hopefully she heeds it.

[@bobbyray7558]

It seems she knew of these weaknesses already, so the dumb one is *her* . She's not mother of the year for leaving the small baby with someone she claims to know was incompetent.

[@peacefreedom4930]

@ Why are you attempting to blame the mother for a man’s incompetence? Let me guess. She should have pick a better husband.

[@zainabzolita8436]

​@bobbyray7558 if she should have picked better, better wouldnt be you! 😂

[@bobbyray7558]

@zainabzolita8436 I wouldn't want it to be me, sweetheart. That's the problem, you'd rather deflect, instead of assuming the small bits of accountability and corrective measures that you can.

[@zainabzolita8436]

@bobbyray7558 accountability?! Mf she's not the k1ll3r

[@nodrvgs]

the thing that gets me is, why are people finding a way to blame the wife?? they’re accusing her of being inconsiderate of his adhd, why didn’t she take him to get tested, why couldn’t SHE take the child for a walk etc etc. society - and I really mean MEN - can never ever hold a man responsible. They will always find a way to place a man’s accountability on a woman’s shoulders.

[@SuperMel81-j5l]

Everything is our fault. Doesnt matter what a man does....its our fault.

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

Damn the fact he's 5 years older than her..

[@nonya8193]

​@@sixteen.candles.4644Fr I was thinking this too smh. He's the oldest one in the family but the most irresponsible make it make sense.

[@nonya8193]

Oh don't forget the pick me women who also blame her and other women for the faults of the man. Let those trader women marry these loser men and they can all be mentorable together.😂

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

As a man it's his fault. This story was unusual. Most people didn't think it was weaponized incompetence but agreed he was a danger and she needed to leave him. Maybe I'm remembering wrong. But I didn't. I see now that it was. Anyone blaming the wife needs to realize wives aren't omniscient. Ngl I did for a sec, still quickly overshadowed mostly by the horrific actions of the husband.

[@WarriorJournals]

Just a couple of years ago, my neighbor's toddler died from this type of neglect. The father was too distracted by his computer and didn't pay attention. The toddler made it outside without him noticing. This type of thing upsets me on another level! I hope this guy in the story realizes the seriousness of what he's done and gets help.

[@katherines144]

That's so incredibly sad and infuriating. I picked up a toddler running in the road next to a highway a few years back. His mother was really angry and yelling that her husband left the gate open..😢

[@nonya8193]

Sadly I don't think he cares. She needs to protect her children from him. This wasn't an accident.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

I'm looking for advice in case I'm ever responsible for a person. Do you have to keep an eye on them at all times or just lock all the doors? Or just keep them in the same room as you? I'm guessing the latter.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

That's incredibly traumatizing I can't imagine how you felt. How the wife felt.

[@WarriorJournals]

@@katherines144 Wow, that is scary! It is a miracle that you were there to help! I'd be stressed about that for weeks after.

[@kimpossible2725]

This one incident will build resentment and contempt, leading to divorce now or later.

[@Mylife-g2z1g]

There are so many people who have never dealt with a person who intends evil, but hides it incredibly well. If you are kind and loving, you can’t believe that these types of people exist until you are confronted with it. But unfortunately, by then for too many, it’s too late. This woman has been given a gift it would be in her children’s best interest for her to take this warning and act / not by the words that are coming out of her husband’s mouth / focus on his actions.

[@SiddityPrincess]

This! It’s the disconnect many women face in not realizing the sinister nature of men. Men hide it really well and it’s the women “my man would never or not my husband” types who can’t see it ugh glad I faced this truth before tying myself to men. It’s a frightening but very real evil that exists within many of these men. Great comment!

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

​@@SiddityPrincess maybe it's more common in married men but it certainly isn't exclusive to just men. You're right though yeah

[@catwalkster]

There is a reddit story where a crazy pitbull runs into a garden and the man RUNS AWAY AND CLOSES THE GARDEN FENCE BEHIND HIM while he leaves his wife and HIS 2 nieces behind in the garden with the attacking pitbull. She manages to kill the pitbull with a shovel and saves the children. After half an hour her husband comes back. Look it up. It is way worse than this story.

[@aleksandrac9335]

I remember that. One of the child was an infant

[@catwalkster]

@@aleksandrac9335 Yes a one year old and a 3 year old i believe.

[@catwalkster]

You tube doesn't let me put links but the story is called: I ( 30F ) had to protect his niece from a pitbull and my husband ( 31M ) ran off.

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

So...where is the protecting this "protector" was supposed to give? 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@catwalkster]

@@continuousself-improvement1879 exactly. No man has ever protected me from anyone or anything. I dont know a woman who was ever protected by a man. I have protected many women , strangers on the street, women who were attacked by men. Last year i saved a woman from a guy who was strangling her outside on the street. When people ( men ) are causing trouble , its always me and other women speaking up, interfering and saving people. Never a man. Never ever a man.

[@ThoughtsonThoughtsandFeelings]

I have autism and adhd: the it’s not about his inability to focus, it’s his inability to take his responsibilities seriously. You need to be able to know if you are able to watch a kid before you commit to watching a kid. And if she divorces him and prevents him from killing his own kid/s thats not a punishment that’s a damn gift. People get brain tumors, shit happens, but he isn’t safe to trust.

[@faye_bulous]

People asking the mother where she was are disgusting. Clearly the children were under their father’s care during the incident.That’s why child free movement is growing, society is dumping all responsibilities on mothers.

[@VixxKong2]

Why are they asking? She said she was folding clothes while the husband and children were outside

[@33-vertebrae]

It's so telling. They assume the mother should be omniscient and somehow responsible for the kids at all times even when the father is in charge, but then cry that women always get custody. I wonder why?

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

​@@33-vertebrae bc they're incompetent as shit.

[@nonya8193]

​@@VixxKong2That's not good enough for most people. Women are supposed to be superwoman! She was supposed to fold the laundry and manage her toddler and infant at the same time.While her husband just gets to do whatever he chooses.That's what society expects of women and mothers and it's unfair, unrealistic, and highly problematic.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

Sometimes it's hard for people to rationalize why an evil person would do what they do. They have to blame the good person in order for it to make sense to them. Because the good part is something they can control. People need to break this mindset. These villains aren't unstoppable forces, they can be easily stopped if they're called out. Whether it's the husband who is evil or dahvie vanity

[@bulelwashezi4540]

This relationship starting at 18 and 23 told me most of what i needed to know.

[@naima8703]

Wow he took weaponized incompetence to a lethal level 😡

[@ffsno9078]

I have ADHD. Not once have I done anything remotely negligent with a child. Not even a pet. This is not a symptom of ADHD. This feels malicious, but I can't tell if it's directed at the baby or his wife or both.

[@Urnotwelcomed-x8v]

Be careful with your wombs ladies, you and the children will suffer

[@sidology1.0]

The signs had to have been there. Im sure his bad parenting was shown with the other kid

[@yobafox1jason556]

@@sidology1.0right! Moms sometimes hope another baby will help bring back lost closeness but she likely knew dad is shit at parenting before age ever chose to have the baby. It’s absolutely on dad that he didn’t watch the kid but moms have got to take the wheel unfortunately and remove all opportunity for men to act like lazy dads

[@Peaches6140]

Women need to start accepting situations with the evud3nce they have and stop being ruled by their emotions. She probably believed he'd snap out of it and start being a better father and husband.

[@Peaches6140]

I had a woman ask me to watch her child. While talking to her, I heard her husband's voice in the background and realized he wasn't leaving with her. I asked why the child couldn't stay with the father, and she responded that he stays on his phone and doesn't interact with the child.

[@Blackprancer]

Weaponized incompetence The baby girl literally has more sense than her own father! Sheesh!!

[@laurenj432]

God thank fox that toddler was alert and mature enough to save that baby’s life. A lot of toddlers don’t fully understand that streets are dangerous yet and will still run into them without thinking, but that’s title girl knew it was dire

[@RickRorose]

It’s wild, if he’s outside just walking the toddler and not keeping eyes on her like a hawk, toddlers RUN so it’s crazy they’re both still alive under his “care”. How hard is it to push a stroller and keep your hands on it?

[@silvergenx]

I have ADHD. I've never forgotten children in the car or completely forgotten to ensure they're safety while I got distracted.

[@changes649]

Bingo! He tuned out the kids. After all that, he still did not notice. Why didn't he put the brakes on the stroller?

[@Libertydream7]

Even a dead beat dad who's a narcissist who would do that. If done on purpose, that's a psycho, which is worst.

[@Kelema86]

The amount of people defending the husband AND neighbors and trying to blame the mom somehow is sickening but unfortunately not very surprising. People will bend themselves into pretzels giving fathers their benefit of the doubt while being super harsh on mothers and criticizing mothers for pretty much anything.

[@kittenkat5244]

🎯🎯🎯 women need to just gives fathers full custody of kids cause mothers literally get blamed for EVERYTHING. Child support is cheaper and it's better to be the fun weekend mom. Let the males take on all the financial responsibility and stress of child raising. Let the police and courts deal with the fathers. 💅🏿

[@nonya8193]

Right , the fact that she's being blamed for HIS negligence is a whole new type of crazy. 🤭

[@nonya8193]

​@@kittenkat5244Sounds good but most mother's care about their kids too much to do that. This guy is a perfect example of why. I for one could NEVER leave my kids alone with a guy who did something like this let alone give him full custody. I say most women have to be prepared to be a single mother if you want to have children if you don't want to have children, then just don't have them. But leaving the children to the man is not the best idea unless they're old enough to take care of themselves.

[@RahYisrael99]

I've never seen a man raise a child. Never. Im sure it happens, but I've never seen it. They will drop that kid with their mom, sister, or whatever pick of the week that is willing to play step mom.​@kittenkat5244

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

​@@kittenkat5244can't say I blame you in the slightest

[@smylz1995]

She was 19 when they got together...In what world should a young lady settle down straight out of high school, and already have two kids by 25??? Poor thing.

[@cheriremily9360]

Because it's been ingrained in her that the brass ring in her life is a wedding ring. This is her 'fairy tale'.

[@theNuMrsKL]

This is 100% real! I saw the video! How could he be on a heavy traffic road and NOT have his children in hand or at least view?!

[@xletragedyx]

Is it on the reddit post?

[@MoonBunny69]

7:03 GIIIIIRRRRRLLL DIVORCE! The trust in the care of the kids is unrepairable. I could never feel like my kids were safe ever again.

[@boop27407]

They've been together since 2018.... when she was 18-19. And he was her age. He's been like this the whole time.

[@krissyhenderson4089]

Ya I was 20 in 2018 and married a 40 yr old can’t say he don’t know any better 😂

[@SteganDaMallion]

This goes a beyond Narcissism and ADHD. In fact it’s giving Sociopath. From the way it sounds this man lacks empathy for his children’s wellbeing. if I were his wife, I would never leave him alone with the children again he’s already proven that he cannot protect them when they’re in harms way. You know it’s a bad situation when the neighbors are concerned for his lack of response and protecting his children there’s something wrong with that man’s brain.

[@Underthesycamoretree]

My husband lost our autistic son while swimming with him in Jamaica because he decided to chit chat with a friend. For about 3 minutes I thought my son was dead. My 8 year old son was smart enough to remove himself from a dangerous situation and was on the beach looking for me. I’ve never ever trusted him again alone with my kids.

[@yourbestam]

But you trust him and still with him so what's the point. How are you never leaving him alone with "your" kids but you stay with him. It's 'our' kids since you want him so bad

[@Underthesycamoretree]

@ lots to unpack and clarify here but I said what I said above.

[@crc5430]

My 13 year old nephew has ADHD and even when he was 8, he wouldn't have done that to his little sisters. This man has no excuse.

[@Vanessa-ii7cc]

As someone with ADHD, ADHD IS NOT a excuse for everything. Dump his ass.

[@ACAB.forcutie]

I once told a dad he was being a bad dad (the situation was very similar) and he genuinely said "he knows not to go in there" (into a dangerous room). As in, he's fully admitting the toddler is more mature than him.

[@MayTheOddsBeInYourFavor]

There was a husband on here who killed his youngest leaving her in the car in 104 degree heat for hours. He’s in jail now tho

[@FancyAnneX]

So he didn’t even drive is wife baby and injured toddler to the hospital …smh

[@bobbyray7558]

Hospital? For a scabbed knee?

[@colorfulsin]

Ladies, you hold the power. When you are in your 20 and early 30 - older men/ men around ur age are attracted to you for your beauty. When you hit late 30 and beyond you unlock another door. - younger men want you (older men no longer want you and say you hit the wall. But younger men be attracted to you for your accomplishment and maturity). Don’t let your husbands or any of man trick you!! You will always have access to men and be desirable it’s just different men (younger men look better anyways lol)

[@goverlord]

I am fat and over 50, and can still get men if I wanted them. The wall is not real, and men who say it is are actually just walking red flags.

[@nonya8193]

This is so true lol. When I hit my mid thirties (early 40s now) I was surprised by how many guys in their twenties were checking for me (and still are). 😂 Edit: Go get your groove back Stella! 💅🏽💃🏽😂

[@damien678]

Also a lot of men won't admit what kinds of women they're into around their mates in fear of rejection... But a lot of men are into traits that are considered conventionally 'ugly'.

[@KangwithoutaKangdom]

Yup. Women need to stop being slow and believing their lies

[@Anieareyouok]

The fact that she heard her daughter yell “dad help” from inside the house but he didn’t hear anything I’m very confused I wouldn’t feel like I could trust him anymore🤷🏾‍♀️ and unfortunately men do have the tendency to get jealous of their children. My daughter’s father was jealous of her and he turned out to be a whole narcissist. I left him when she was 18 months. She’s five now and I still don’t trust him to this day he rarely sees her because I moved far away from him.

[@GwendolynPorter-w6c]

Keep it that way! He will attempt to alienate your child from you! Narcissists are only about themselves! I'm divorcing one, my mom is the other!!!

[@Anieareyouok]

@@GwendolynPorter-w6c Wow I sure will. Luckily I moved away from him before realizing he was a narcissist, and we were still on semi good terms. I later found out he was a narcissist, after I moved away. I didn’t understand his awful behavior. My therapist explained it to me and diagnosed him. I wish you well on your journey, they are just awful beings💔 my mother is a narcissist as well and I no longer talk to her.

[@DaintyDoe84]

He could focus & pay attention, he just chose the conversation over his kids.

[@ToddGreenwich]

I recognize my father in him. He also stood by motionless when I was hurting as a child. Also a covert narcissist. I say run.

[@AprilSunshine]

I'd never be able to trust that "man" again. Most men protect their children on instinct. They even stand on the side of the road when walking with their wife. What this guy did was hardly even human.

[@traetrae11]

I hope she gets rid of him. Not only did he almost kill an infant he wasn't paying attention to the small toddler running around free near a known busy street as well. He was neglecting both of them and luckily the little girl has sense because he sure as heck does not. I hope the mom makes a quick recovery.

[@Thursdayschildfar2go]

This guy really put the weapon in weaponized incompetence. He meant this. PS--I was raised by a textbook narc. Passive murder is their thing. It often fails, because of the passive, so it just becomes a haha funny story about that time mom left you in the car and didnt engage the brake.

[@Dannniellleee]

The excuses society makes for terrible men MUST be acknowledged and never forgotten. Ears and eyes open ladies!! Most men and far too many women will not support you protecting yourself and innocent children from abuse.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

Amen this isn't normal. He's a neglectful monster.

[@almamater9346]

I have ADHD and I'm so tired of people using that and other mental illnesses to excuse bad personalities and behaviors. There's no excuse for the dad leaving the kids. And I completely agree that he had formed a habit of ignoring the kids if the wife could hear the daughter screaming for help inside the house, yet he couldn't while he was standing _outside with them._ Even worse that the kids were so far away from him that the mother coming from inside the house was only able to catch the baby mere seconds from going into the road. I will say it again, the collective of males and pick me women are a _problem._ Even worse, they're a threat to the rest of us trying to just live and be decent humans...

[@VLuava5v5]

ooh you're right about that

[@bobbyray7558]

You are lucky to have a mild form of it. Everyone does not exhibit the same symptoms.

[@thosewhocare2427]

​​@@bobbyray7558 pitiful excuse. My partner, my child and i have very severe adhd. NEVER have our two children been at risk of death due to negligence of either parent. Our child who has the same has never caused an incident in which someone else's safety is at risk and yet our child is also visually impaired and autistic. No excuses, this IS NOT BECAUSE OF ADHD.

[@NOYB28]

I’m confused on why she’s doing all the work after having a c-section, I had a major surgery and we had a toddler, a 11, 9, 2 7 year olds and a 5 year old. My spouse worked, did everything plus took care of me. That’s a 🚩 right there. No, this is suspicious. She should absolutely leave and I’m worried, think she should have no contact. ADHD is no excuse, I’m a mom with special needs kids and more than 4 kids, autistic and adhd. Stop using that, he is just a man that is irresponsible, because mom apparently does it all.

[@amydecker6207]

She would have less work to do if she divorces him and lives on her own with the kids. I know from experience, as do a lot of women.

[@amypope7933]

The saddest part is, if she leaves hes probably going to get 50/50 anyway because its the presumption now. Unless he doesnt want it, he will get it. So now she'll get to worry 50% of the time if her children are being kept alive and noone will care until they arent

[@Himmiefan]

Why wasn't she watching the kids??? Because he's a parent too and should be responsible enough to watch his kids. Unfortunately, he's not responsible, and the children are not safe with him.

[@Mystic_Paths]

This could understandably lead the wife to consider divorce due to a perceived lack of support or protective instincts from her partner.

[@Heykay34]

Going through pregnancy and birthing his kids still won’t make him care enough to save their life. I can’t imagine how she feels. I hope she left him. That someone that really doesn’t care. The neighbor saw the danger and sent it so she can see it with her two eyes. 😢

[@dtastmakr]

Reminds me of the father who left his daughter in the car in 100 degree AZ heat for 4 hours! The court revealed texts between him and his wife so leaving the kids in the car was something he did regularly. Unfortunately the baby passed away.

[@dtastmakr]

For more context: when the police arrived this man lied about how long he left his daughter in the car. He told the police 30mins when forensics showed 4 hours. He only showed emotion AFTER the police said they were going to arrest him. Not that he unalived his daughter.

[@VerminaeSupremacy]

Father of the year, an addict and alcoholic, too

[@1237tnb]

When I was a kid, my brother and I asked my father if we could play on the treadmill. He said yes and then left with no plans to return. Fast forward 30 minutes, I almost died (literally) and I have the life long scar to prove it. Now, my parents remained married and have been married 40 years, but that's besides the point. IMO, a woman should make a decisions as though her children had died not that they could have died. That wasn't even the only time my father put us in danger. Despite my mother telling him not to, he would always leave us in the car at the grocery story. One time, my mother saw us in the car at the grocery store and thought about taking the car as punishment. When these situations happen it is only because of luck that the children made it out alive. Know that in these situations that your male partner made little to no effort to know that your children were safe. And the thing about kids, is that kids will ALWAYS find life threatening trouble. That's why it's the parents responsibility to anticipate and protect. Honestly, forget what I said about male partner. If your female partner is careless, get rid of her too.

[@Softwords-sb4lo]

He would never hear the end of this…IF I STAYED!!!

[@Sunmoonandstars123]

I can speak from experience as a mom. I have put myself in danger for my kids. I didn't even think twice about it, it was just instinctual. On a hike, I had accidentally stepped on a buried wasp nest as I was coming down a sandy riverbank. The wasps swarmed me and I got about 10 stings. My 5 year old daughter was at the top of the hill with my husband, who immediately bolted into the woods away from the wasps and left her there frozen and screaming. I immediately pivoted and began to run back up the hill to help her. My friend had to grab me and hold me back from running over the nest again! I would have done it in a heartbeat and suffered as many stings as it took to help her. I just didn't care about getting hurt. Luckily, my husband realized what he had done and ran back for our daughter but it was a LESSON in which parent is actually protective over the family. No wonder so many women and children are killed in war.

[@AIBot929]

So the neighbors tried to help while dude was deer in headlights and mom was super woman. Just pack it up sis that let you know if more danger came your way you'd be a$$ed out. Hope she saves the video and uses it as proof as to why he gets supervised visitation

[@shanellem6310]

Kudos for the toddler for saving the baby. Amazing!

[@lordfreerealestate8302]

CONSIDER?!?!? She should've reported him to CPS and sued for full custody immediately!!!!

[@Trysaratop]

My man was exactly like this and still is he never reacts to dangerous situations which has made me felt isolated and never want to go outside with him everywhere. Some people just really lack awareness and are well oblivious to danger and that can be super frustrating but he plays with his kids and is a good dad and tries his best to show us love.

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

The bar is low...

[@kendrag956]

He couldn’t even drive them to the hospital…

[@jenniferlacey6974]

ADHD doesn’t make you neglectful. Despite whatever issues I may have with the woman who birthed and raised me I’m genuinely grateful and impressed. We both have ADHD. I was really hard to keep alive as a toddler. I also kept escaping various means to contain me. She had to save me from myself constantly. She did it mostly by herself.

[@3minutestill]

He could have been in shock but HE DIDN'T FEEL ANYTHING TILL SHE YELLED AT HIM! Makes me wonder how he acts around the kids really. She should get a divorce and he needs therapy. Keep cameras around her house so just in case he comes over. See how he really treats his kids when he is around them. Might help her case if she notices anything else.

[@bellel.6666]

Criminal negligence 😮.

[@Thursdayschildfar2go]

Jesus. I have ADHD, never had kids, and let me tell you, when a kid is in danger I notice and I book it.

[@Daug555]

Like she said, she is not his damn mother. If he has problems, he can make appointments to see a therapist and a doctor. Yeah husband was talking to his other degenerate man child bff.

[@tashibalampkin8555]

I was a scatterbrained kid but when I watching my sibling, I kept them on my hip. Let something happened and now I gotta explain to my mother where's her child.

[@SRobinson-hr6me]

He doesn’t view his children as human or important, but only a burden. He probably views them on the level of a pet, to the point that he’s comfortable ignoring his kids.

[@pabloescobarschanclas]

i bet he focuses on his sports and social media just fine.

[@nicholebryant7359]

The police would have been pulling me off of him.

[@danielleh7680]

How does the 3 year old have more common sense then a grown man

[@digimonalvatrax2738]

You'd be surprised

[@ririp5865]

Some of this sounds too intentional. Like he wanted his son to die.

[@xletragedyx]

Maybe the daughter, too. Who leaves a 3 year old unattended near a busy street for 5 seconds, let alone 5 minutes?

[@ayamempress1579]

1:24 nope. Nope. This is unforgiveable. EVERY time there is a case like this, if she goes back to the man, there is ALWAYS a tragedy. Hopefully she can get away safely... but there is no alternative to leaving. If he doesn't even turn to see his children every once in a while and can't hear when his own child says "Dad, help!" What else doesn't he hear when they are in his care? It's neglectful at best. And neglect is abuse. In case that isn't clear to anyone.

[@MysticOceanDollies]

I have ADHD yet can still react to danger, especially around children. ADHD is not an excuse for this dude’s negligence.