Refactoring emotions

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In this episode I talk about some challenges I've been facing when working with my own emotions and mental state, especially regarding suppression and avoidance of emotions using procrastination, caffeine, cigarettes or easier tasks than the ones I should be using.
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[@ppppp524]

Something my therapist told me was that people have very little control over how they feel, but they have much more control over how they feel about how they feel. Generally, and instinctually, how you feel and the way you feel about it are the same. For example, if you're angry, you're going to be angry that you're angry. If you're happy, you're naturally going to be happy that you're happy. But with practice you can change these secondary emotions and thoughts to be generally positive, even for emotions you view negatively. And in turn, they'll help turn all of your emotions into better experiences.

[@kaiserjon584]

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[@heathluca5236]

@Kaiser Jon definitely, been using flixzone} for years myself :D

[@sonnymagnus232]

@Kaiser Jon definitely, been using Flixzone} for since november myself =)

[@victorlclopes]

This is amazing! It's so nice to hear someone simply talking about this outside of a religious or philosophical perspective. I've been trying to deal with this for many years and trying to make others wake up and look at what they're feeling at the moment. Most people are "immersed" in their own emotions and when they, for instance, get angry because of some situation, they just feel it and they act and they think "it's this other person that is doing this to me" and so on. When you finally can see that you're feeling something (and when you're feeling something), and that same kind of situation comes, you stop and think "look! I'm angry... how interesting is that", or "look! How vain and full of pride I am, that this situation makes me feel like this", and then you can even make fun of yourself, and choose how you're going to act. You can see it... and that changes everything.

[@atila5974]

Super nice having these chats. I can totally relate to that friend of yours. For many years I lived in a place I hated and in a life I hated but I was paving the pathway to one day have the life I wanted, and I noticed after all that the previous life I had left marks on my character when I finally moved over. I had a strong depression that lasted for 3 months and during this process I confronted myself and all those feelings and decided to embrace it, each of the feelings and learn from them and use these lessons as part of my toolbox. And at this new life I chose I eventually found myself working really shitty jobs that were way below my qualifications and surrounded by people who were in that same place I had been for so long, with the difference that they were not working for a future, they were just living paycheque by paycheque and were also super bitter and my go-for-it and embracing of my poor situation at the moment triggered their worst behaviour towards me. I moved forward as I have always done, today I am starting in the coding pathway and find myself in so many challenges and have this constant feeling of drowning, of having a flat learning curve, of maybe being too old, but I deal with all these emotions and at this point I conquered a stability that allows me to go through rough goings without much worry other than achieving my objectives. I usually watch your videos related to foundations JS but this video of yours showed a real human side of yours. You rock dude, big inspiration.

[@funfunfunction]

Holy shit, this was an amazing comment, thank you so much, Átila!

[@bilbenhamou7320]

I thought he was about to talk about refactoring Emotionjs 🤷‍♂️

[@Maruf-zt7dz]

Me too :p

[@GerardoSabetta]

Thanks for talking about this. I was an ADHD kid and now many years later I’m struggling again with concentration, motivation, procrastination, etc.. I thought it would be the same diagnosis I had as a kid, but apparently is not adult ADHD, I started looking for answers with professionals about 4 months ago and I’ve recently switched to a CBT therapist, I can relate with so much of what you mention here and in previous videos on mental health. Since ADHD seems to be out of the equation, I’m learning to manage my cognitions, emotions and behaviors, and I feel like I’m slowly making progress for once in a long time, I feel less anxious and slightly more optimistic on life. Your mentions on CBT along with other things i’ve read convinced me to give that paradigm a shot, so thanks again for these kind of videos.

[@thelavishcoder2553]

KZbin Search Joe Dispenza. ADHD is just something that you have learned. It's not real. You can use the placebo effect to heal your mind.

[@armorsmith43]

Miguel Coder that is really not a well-informed statement 1) there are verifiable detectable brain patterns in ADHD. 2) apart from that, things which you’ve learned are also real.

[@GerardoSabetta]

Miguel Coder I’ll look it up, however although I agree many people get misdiagnosed with ADHD when their distraction problem is caused by other things (emotions, anxiety, lack of motivation) it’s not cool to say ADHD does not exist, there are people out there whose reward system is not working properly or they have problems processing dopamine and they might need treatment or medication to fix that, if we keep saying ADHD is not real, real ADHDers won’t feel like seeking help and will blame themselves even though they might be doing tremendous efforts to get through their tasks. I think it’s a real thing that got overly diagnosed and now everyone is skeptical about it.

[@armorsmith43]

@@GerardoSabetta Its also the case that its often both: Someone with ADHD will have resulting failures and those failures will impact their relationships. That relationship impact will cause emotions that they'll want to distract/escape from. So someone with ADHD will want to build discomfort tolerance and emotional resilience as well. (I don't know why I'm speaking in the abstract here. This is all true to my experience.)

[@thelavishcoder2553]

@@GerardoSabetta I had ADHD and I just started thinking differently and now it's gone. It's not a disease, it's a disorder. It just means that our thought patterns are slightly off. The same way a claustrophobic person can heal themselves, so can we. The Placebo effect is a real phenomenon and has been studied scientifically. The human brain is able to heal itself if you believe 100%.

[@anglerpocky]

Good job putting this video out there, I imagine the doubt that runs through your head, but I think that putting yourself in vulnerable positions is when you grow. I commend you for putting yourself out there and talking about emotions!

[@victornaut]

I might not shake hands with this man, but he's already helped me A LOT. Thanks again MPJ!

[@funfunfunction]

Thank you for this comment ❤️

[@keycapslapper7080]

Wow this really brought me back from some dark emotions I've been feeling the past couple of hours. Thanks :)

[@yumaikas94]

So, a couple of things that have helped me deal with a shorter attention span: Doodling on a sketchbook seems to help lengthen my attention span. Writing about things can help some. Dealing with unresolved emotions is _super_ important, however.

[@pronyCJ]

thanks mpj! your videos seem to resonate with whatever im currently experiencing. especially with escaping emotions with avoidance behavior (which i didnt recognize until now)

[@AnthonySherritt]

Wow this is beautiful. It's crazy what comes up when you stop indulging your coping mechanisms. No joke.

[@BigKaTrob]

Super low end frequencies from 3:40 - 4:00 made me think somebody was walking up my stairs. LOL

[@yashthatte6137]

looks like you have nice headphones with good bass

[@BigKaTrob]

@@yashthatte6137 Beyerdynamic DT 770 PRO. I love them! :) Perhaps the best headphones for the price.

[@RohithVarma36]

Hi mpj, I have experienced similar phase in my life. Once when I went for an interview, I was rejected simply because I was tense. It was then in my life I thought to give importance to engineer my inner well being. Inner Engineering programe by isha foundation helped me to recover. I have been doing these practices since 2 yrs.

[@nathancornwell1455]

“Boredom is the most sublime of all human emotions because it expresses the fact that, the human spirit, in a certain sense, is greater than the entire universe."

[@greatscott8680]

Love ya, MPJ! Thanks for sharing this. I have similar struggles. This helped me a lot.

[@Leon-Li]

It is human nature to avoid negative emotions. I feel u.

[@PrasadGayan]

I enjoyed this video than others. Great thanks dude :) .

[@percurious]

Thanks, MPJ, for sharing this. Might help some people embark on a new train of thought. May be even me, too ;-) Kind regards

[@normallydistributed5474]

Amazing video! I talk with my therapist about this as well.

[@yogeshchayal]

hey mate, I must say you have a superb video quality and setup. Do you mind sharing what sort of equipment you use and how you set up all things to record a video like this and then editing. I'm really inspired watching this. As a noob I want to learn about the process which goes behind it.

[@funfunfunction]

Thanks for your kind comments, might do a setup video soon!

[@yogeshchayal]

@@funfunfunction You're Awesome. Thanks

[@karlokidd]

I really thought my neighbor was pounding on a wall. It was just the desk moving in the video, my headphones picked it up and produced a very realistic deep sound.

[@sameed1992]

All the emotions we feel have survived through our evolutionary past for a reason. They exist to tell us something about how we should act in the world and it is useful to pay attention to them, even the negative ones, especially the negative ones. I have an addictive personality and have worked really hard over the last year to overcome caffeine and cigarette addiction. Procrastination and food addiction are the ones I'm currently struggling with, so thanks for sharing. I'm sure it took a lot of courage to make this video. One thing I will say is that because you are a creative individual and are obviously high in trait openness (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_Five_personality_traits) you might benefit more from psychoanalysis than cognitive behavioural therapy.

[@filll5571]

Go go personal growth and being a beginner. What type of dance do you do? I can safely say that swing dancing saved my life a few years ago.

[@funfunfunction]

Lindy hop!

[@filll5571]

@@funfunfunction Lindy Hop is the best. I wish you an amazing swing out journey.

[@anglikai9517]

1. Meditation, meditation, meditation... the brain is too active for smart people if you cannot terminate the long process in your brain, meditate is equivalent to process cleaner. 2. Loving every emotion = reduce friction in the mind, most of the performance clogging is due to internal war, if you love every emotion, there will be zero friction, thus improve the mind capability 3. Do not drink coffee, coffee is a temporary boost, as for any boost, there are longer payback/side effects, coffee promotes anxiety, if you overdose, you will find yourself anxiety every day.

[@Noopkat]

thank you for talking about this 💛

[@funfunfunction]

thank you suz 💜

[@ablgmv]

Amazing quality

[@VictorMovchan]

hey, cool video, thanks! What is the map in the background?

[@funfunfunction]

It's a map of the roman empire at it's peak!

[@AntonNosovitsky]

50fps? Looks kinda weird, but anything above 30 is appreciated :) Also, bass thumps around 3:55, neighbours?

[@rickyu1978]

miss u mpj!

[@craigdanielmaceacher]

Ordered that book, thanks for that!

[@Blacksoljah]

This was necessary

[@arunt8411]

How do you feel about talking about anything in a video and uploading it? In the context of your co-workers or anyone else you know watching it.

[@technicaldifficultysupport]

What if you stopped doing fun fun function and instead did video blogs to help people with mental and emotional struggles ;)

[@milanmestka416]

What if my procrastination is watching your vids ? :)

[@turmadaembrosia6864]

Are you cosplaying Tony Stark?

[@zainabs4630]

🌹

[@bmzaron713]

function funfunAffect (doingNow, feeling) { if (doingNow === 'watching funfunfunction' || 'not having a clue what you are talking about') { return feeling.map(function(madorsador____) { return 'laughter'; }); } } funfunAffect('watching funfunfunction', [ 'angry', 'sad', 'discouraged', 'mad' ]);

[@mitul509]

Good to know that I am not alone. Anyway, you sounded like robert downy jr from ironman, also felt like you think like him too.

[@TrishLadd]

Or go watch a KZbin video... lol

[@shikharshah2854]

What happened to your channel? From JavaScript tutorials, it's going more towards depression videos instead. Is everything fine? Take a pause, take a break, visit Japan, you'll get nice momos there

[@AnaBatel1]

He's talking about the struggles that come with this profession. I like his channel because he's open and genuine, not pretending that his life is perfect like other youtubers.

[@shikharshah2854]

@@AnaBatel1 fair, but I thought this channel is for JavaScript tutorials only which I don't see since months.. can always have an alt channel for personal stuff :) but nonetheless, with all due respect, I am no one to judge

[@TraversyMedia]

There are a ton of JS tutorials out there. This stuff is real and rare. I appreciate these videos. You have to understand that we (content creators) go through phases just like you guys. For me, if I am feeling burntout or depressed, it is very hard to make coding videos. I am guessing Matias is in that kind of state right now

[@shikharshah2854]

Traversy Media big fan of yours and mpj and yes I understand, after all, you guys are humans too. I also understand the sense of exhaustion/burnout as I experience it often at workplace but I don’t think having this feeling itself at first place is good, sometimes it’s good to take a pause, do something random and things will go well. The more negative we think, the more depressed we feel. Have a great day ahead everyone.. Saturday is a long way to go 😛

[@funfunfunction]

Thank you for saying this, Brad, it means a lot. ❤️